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00:00Are you guys feeling hungover today?
00:03Can you die from a hangover?
00:04I don't feel very good, honestly.
00:07Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:09Florian, that freaking Florian,
00:11I don't want to see that dude today.
00:13He's a dick.
00:14So do we think that they're talking
00:16about us and the other man?
00:18Yeah, definitely.
00:19Really not easy to just forgive and forget so quickly.
00:26Today's activity, we're going to be talking about control
00:29and the power dynamic.
00:31Within your couple, you either are going
00:33to be a rower or a thrower.
00:37I'm going to throw.
00:38Natalie's going to row.
00:39You have to stay in your role.
00:41You cannot switch roles.
00:43I'm hoping this kayak challenge will really
00:45show the teamwork and ultimately some great communication
00:48skills between the couples.
00:50The competition has begun.
00:52Woo!
00:53Woo!
00:54Come on!
00:55Woo!
00:56Woo!
00:56Woo!
00:57Woo!
00:58You're cheating.
01:00Definitely cheating, because they changed
01:01who was rowing and who was shooting.
01:04Before even game started, they cheated.
01:08Also, this is like a therapy process.
01:10I feel like for them to cheat during this
01:12shows their character, honestly.
01:14Disqualified!
01:15Disqualified!
01:16Disqualified!
01:17Disqualified!
01:17Disqualified!
01:18Disqualified!
01:19Disqualified!
01:20Disqualified!
01:21You are cheating, and it's not fair, and we won.
01:24Even though you guys came in the fastest.
01:27We sure did.
01:28Julia and Brandon, you guys actually
01:30won a night in the honeymoon suite of the resort.
01:34Oh!
01:34Oh!
01:35Woo!
01:38Do we comprehend the reality of I'm behind her rowing,
01:41but she feels like she's doing everything?
01:43She's lazy.
01:44She's lazy.
01:46No.
01:50So can you stop laughing?
01:51Like, everyone's trying to be vulnerable here.
01:53Can you have some respect, please?
01:56It's not about you right now!
02:15It's not about you right now!
02:17It's not about you right now!
02:18It's not about you right now!
02:20It's not about you right now!
02:21It's not about you right now!
02:23It's not about you right now!
02:24It's not about you right now!
02:26It's not about you right now!
02:27It's not about you right now!
02:28It's not about you right now!
02:30It's not about you right now!
02:31It's not about you right now!
02:33It's not about you right now!
02:34It's not about you right now!
02:35It's not about you right now!
02:37It's not about you right now!
02:38It's not about you right now!
02:40It's not about you right now!
02:41It's not about you right now!
02:42It's not about you right now!
02:44It's not about you right now!
02:48It's not about you right now!
02:51Done! I mean, too much!
02:54Now it's about us, dear.
02:55Yes, it's about everybody here!
02:57Everybody. And you think that it's everybody about you.
03:00You think it's everybody here about you.
03:02It's about all of us, not only you!
03:14Can I speak?
03:19Go for it.
03:19Let's hear it.
03:20So, like, when we were disqualified,
03:22everybody attacked our couple.
03:24And it felt, like, really wrong.
03:26And I have nothing against people.
03:27You have no respect for therapy, bro.
03:30Like, they all talk.
03:31Did I interrupt?
03:31Yes, you laughed while I spoke.
03:33Every time, like, you're like, ha, ha, ha, like a child.
03:35It's disrespectful.
03:36OK.
03:38It's OK.
03:38I take it.
03:40Josh, what's going through your mind right now?
03:42What's happening?
03:45I think we made really good progress today.
03:48And, you know, I think that Natalie
03:50felt attacked by everybody.
03:52And so, you know, I'm, you know, getting her back.
03:58I think you guys, yeah, you're really
04:00demonstrating something strong between the two of you.
04:02I appreciate you guys doing that.
04:10I can definitely see that Natalie's got it out for Sophie.
04:13Even before Josh's side of it, I think
04:15that Natalie has a personal problem with girls like Sophie.
04:19Trying to assess it, I think Natalie's just mad that Sophie
04:23is the young, pretty girl.
04:25Natalie definitely has mean girl energy.
04:27I feel like I've dealt with girls like her in school.
04:30I won't let someone like her try and put me down,
04:32because I don't with mean girls.
04:35I really don't like them.
04:36And I feel like if you're, you know,
04:38trying to put another woman down, I just don't like you.
04:43OK.
04:44And next, Brandon and Julia, how was it for you guys?
04:48Well, teamwork.
04:50That's something I think we showed today.
04:54You know, how do you think I did at first?
05:03Then what happened?
05:05You started doing this without my help.
05:07Mm-hmm.
05:08And then when I ran out of steam,
05:11you did everything you could to help me.
05:13And I saw something really good today.
05:14I think that we could apply this to us having kids.
05:23So you said you think I'm not going to help you with them,
05:25but I think you and I are going to work as a team,
05:29and I think we're going to do amazing.
05:34I feel this anxiety now so bad, and I feel my heart just like,
05:41like...
05:42Just take some deep breaths.
05:45Can you talk on about what that means?
05:49This is such a painful.
05:52It's...
05:53I don't know how to explain, but...
05:54So when I say, like, I don't want kids,
05:59and when I say I don't want because I'm so
06:03scared to be in reality, so I can't have kids.
06:12Oh!
06:13What?
06:24Oh, my God.
06:35So we don't know that 100...
06:54Yeah, absolutely.
07:25I'm not sure I won't go into here, but again...
07:27People get different opinions from doctors all the time.
07:30I just worry that this could be our broke-up relationship.
07:34I think I've kind of expressed before,
07:36but this is something I want, I have to have.
07:43This is one of those things where we hit a rock,
07:46but we can work together, and we can get around this.
07:48But if we go to doctor, if doctor say no...
07:51That could be the possibility.
07:54No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, and absolutely not.
08:05You know...
08:08I'm never going to go anywhere, Julia.
08:15I know, but we're going to...
08:16That's just, again, it's the same thing.
08:18It's another rock, and we might hit it,
08:19but we're going to get around that, too.
08:23There's other methods out there.
08:25What if? What if?
08:27We're going to stop with the what if.
08:29Because we don't have answers to those yet.
08:31Yeah.
08:32All I hear is Brandon saying,
08:34I got you, physically and emotionally,
08:36I'll be here for you.
08:38I appreciate you sharing with the group.
08:42Julia, listen, I really admire you,
08:44and what you did, like opening your heart to us,
08:47is like one big step for you to feel relief.
08:51And one thing is for certain, mark my words,
08:54one way or the other, you're going to be an amazing mom.
09:01When many couples get married,
09:03the idea for many of them would be to have children.
09:07To find out that you're not able to,
09:09or there's a medical condition there,
09:11you know, that can really affect the relationship.
09:13But watching Julia was such a powerful moment.
09:17I think it was a breakthrough for them as a couple,
09:20and a lot of emotions for her to sit with.
09:23Ari and Binny, I know we've talked,
09:26we've had conversations about control.
09:28I think this was a good exercise
09:30for the two of you to start with today.
09:32One of the things that we did discuss
09:34was passwords for social media.
09:37Where are we at with that today, Ari?
09:40Well, Binny was saying that
09:42until I gave you your social media password
09:44that you wouldn't participate in any therapy
09:46or even speak to me.
09:47But anyways, since this is so important to you
09:50to have these passwords,
09:54I want to give you this,
09:56and I wrote it down for you, and here it is.
09:58Okay.
09:59So I hope that you'll now participate in the therapy.
10:04Okay, thanks so much.
10:09I think handing over his passwords for the first time,
10:12that's a big step, I think, to the right direction.
10:15I don't know.
10:16I can, at this point,
10:18tell that their marriage is very broken.
10:22I don't see how they can make things work.
10:25But it's not impossible.
10:27Maybe they can pull off a miracle
10:31and work out their relationship.
10:33Who knows what can happen?
10:38Binny, you did say to Ari
10:40that if you did get these back
10:42that you would be willing to have that hard conversation.
10:45And I think now is the time,
10:47after the group setting,
10:49to get some of these things out.
10:51Yeah.
10:54Finally, she gave it to me.
10:56I'm happy.
10:57Yeah, of course I'm happy.
10:59Now I feel like she respects me.
11:01I feel like she's moved on,
11:03and then I feel like she will be maybe excited
11:07for fixing the situation.
11:10Thank you, everyone, for participating.
11:12We appreciate all of you.
11:14You're sharing, you're being vulnerable,
11:16you're trusting in the process.
11:18We're hoping that we can really push through
11:20and do some more work
11:21so we can all make it to the recommitment ceremony.
11:27Yes!
11:28You get your passport.
11:30Don't worry about it.
11:33Okay, let's go.
11:39Open Sesame!
11:40Open Sesame!
11:45Remember that?
11:46Yeah.
11:50Natalie, she's just a bully, honestly.
11:52I don't like her at all.
11:53She laughed all the time when you guys were talking.
11:56She's just judging everyone and laughing at everyone.
11:59And, like, it's just...
12:01It's just unnecessary, and it's annoying me
12:03because it feels like...
12:04She laughed at your problem, right?
12:06Yeah, and it makes it hard for me to open up
12:08when someone's laughing at me.
12:09And I don't really think that, like, that's fair
12:11because now I don't feel comfortable
12:13to say my real emotions
12:15when someone's laughing at everything I'm saying.
12:22I was thinking,
12:23maybe we go to a restaurant,
12:25get some food and some drinks.
12:27Ooh, that is a good idea.
12:29I could text the other car.
12:31Text Jasmine.
12:33Stacy texted me.
12:35Are you okay with stopping to have some drinks
12:38and eat something?
12:39Yes, let's do some eating.
12:41Did you reply to her, like, yes?
12:46So how do you feel after your session, Ari and Benny?
12:49Aw, she's laying on him.
12:51Cozy, cozy.
12:52This is the first time I've really seen you guys
12:54snuggle and cuddle.
12:56You know, you guys hit some major milestones today.
12:59The freedom that you gave Benny.
13:02You guys both kind of, you know, progressed together.
13:09I did what you asked,
13:10so at least you can be nice, okay?
13:33Please try not to embarrass me in the bar.
13:41Pitching Coast Saloon.
13:44Wow, I feel like I'm in a Western movie.
14:02That's what I'm talking about.
14:03Like, just tonight, just spend some time with me.
14:06Can you do that for me?
14:10Okay.
14:16You're just going to explore your partner's body
14:18for things that feel good.
14:20And then we mark an X with one of these flavored syrups.
14:24Josh, now you are the person that we are going to explore,
14:26and we have limited...
14:27Can you take off your shirt?
14:28No.
14:29I do not like PDA.
14:31I don't like it at all.
14:33The guy who feels so sure about sex life,
14:37he's like, no, I don't want to do it.
14:40I'm sorry.
14:41You can't change my mind if I don't like it.
14:42I don't like it.
14:43Stop insulting me!
15:02Let's go, let's go.
15:03All right, let's go.
15:04Let's go!
15:10Yeah.
15:11Oh, camel.
15:12You see camels here.
15:14They are in this desert.
15:16How about the...
15:19Nice place.
15:21Oh, wow.
15:22That's badass.
15:25That's a real baby bear.
15:30So after a fun day on the water kayaking
15:34and an awkward therapy session,
15:37now we're going to go out.
15:39Our track record so far has not been too good
15:42when it comes to being at bars,
15:45so I'm hoping nothing's going to go crazy,
15:47people are going to be all right,
15:49people can drink and not come for each other.
15:53We'll see, we'll see.
15:55Can I get a Jack and Coke?
15:57Can I get two double tequila pineapple juices?
16:01Sure.
16:03Do you do old-fashioned here?
16:05I don't have all this stuff.
16:07No?
16:08Can you do a mojito?
16:09Mojito?
16:10No.
16:11Manhattan?
16:12No.
16:14Y'all are some typical-ass city slicks
16:18walking in here with some of these fancy-ass drinks.
16:23That's so f***ing silly.
16:24Feel free to grab a seat wherever you'd like.
16:32You want a rib-eye?
16:34You want a rib-eye?
16:35You know.
16:38Yo.
16:39How are you?
16:40Why are you sitting here?
16:41Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
16:44No, no, no.
16:47You stay here.
16:48What?
16:49Listen to your wife.
16:53I'm really exhausted after today's therapy session,
16:57and honestly, I don't feel like dealing
16:59with Gino and Florian's drunken antics tonight.
17:03I'm starting to think that Gino is looking at this retreat
17:07as a vacation with the boys,
17:10and he's not taking care of the real issues for us.
17:13I'm like, hello?
17:16What about your wife?
17:17Do you have any plans for us?
17:20Apparently not.
17:23Can we go talk for a minute?
17:25You want to talk over there?
17:34Have fun!
17:38Where are they going?
17:40Trying to figure things out.
17:42So is that a good thing, or is that...
17:43That's a good thing.
17:44He got his passwords back.
17:45Seems like there's something happening now.
17:48Hello.
17:49Does he have someone?
17:52He's got a chair.
17:53I think so.
17:56Now that I've given Vinny his passwords back,
17:58I'm hoping that he can stop using as a roadblock.
18:01I want to give him a real chance to come clean
18:04about this infidelity just with me,
18:09and not in a group therapy setting,
18:11not with the therapist, just one-on-one.
18:13And Vinny was receptive to talking before.
18:18Maybe this is the moment,
18:19and if it is the moment, I don't want to pass it up.
18:32I gave you the passwords, like you asked me,
18:34and you said you would tell the truth.
18:36Yes, I'm happy you want to talk to me
18:39about, for me, a new situation.
18:42I'd love to work on it.
18:44No, it just breaks my heart that, like,
18:47we've been together for five years,
18:50and I sacrificed a lot to be with you.
18:53I know, I understand.
18:55And even though I shouldn't have done it,
18:58and I, even though I shouldn't have done it,
19:00I opened my whole heart to you.
19:03And the thing is that,
19:04in exchange for everything I've done for you,
19:07you've betrayed me again and again.
19:09I'm not betraying you.
19:12You know that you've hurt me so bad over the years.
19:15And I just want you to admit that what you've done
19:18has really hurt me and destroyed me.
19:22If you could just say the truth, just once.
19:24I'm saying the truth.
19:25I swear to God, I'm saying the truth.
19:30Are you gonna really say that you didn't cheat on me
19:33in the beginning of our relationship with that girl,
19:35that you did not have sex with her,
19:36that you did not move her into my home
19:38when I was in the U.S.?
19:41No, I didn't.
19:48Obviously, I'm really upset about
19:51the present infidelity,
19:53but I feel like it might be easier for Vinny
19:55to talk about something that happened in the past
19:58rather than something that's happened recently.
20:00And so I want to talk about the past.
20:02I believe that he cheated when I was pregnant with Avi.
20:05It's not really about the timeline or who it was with.
20:09It's more just about,
20:10if he doesn't acknowledge the past mistakes,
20:12then we can't move on until we fix it.
20:15But of course, the second that I bring it up,
20:17the denials and the excuses start all over again.
20:20If you want to fix this relationship,
20:22we can fix it just like that.
20:24I will answer for you, okay?
20:26Let me answer. Don't interrupt. I didn't interrupt you.
20:29If you interrupt me, I will move.
20:31It's true, yes, before me and you, we start dating.
20:35It's me and that girl, we have a relationship.
20:38And then, oh, you're pregnant.
20:40And then I feel bad for this girl.
20:43I meet her. She's so depressed.
20:46I'm trying to just talk to her,
20:49like, feel better.
20:54But I have a video of her laying in my bed, in my house.
20:58Let me finish. Let me finish.
20:59And you are there.
21:00Let me finish now.
21:01I told you, if you interrupt me, I will move.
21:04You can talk later.
21:05But you have a made-up story.
21:07So now it's my turn to talk.
21:10No, no, no, I didn't finish.
21:11Let me explain for you.
21:12I have one more thing to say.
21:14You lied to me, and you had a relationship with her.
21:18I'm telling the truth for the first time.
21:21I can't keep it inside anymore.
21:26I came to tell the truth.
21:28I thought we would come and you would tell the truth.
21:31I don't swear on my son's life, not like you.
21:48Benny! Benny!
21:52Hello!
21:53Where is your wife?
21:54No, she's outside.
21:55Outside?
21:56Yeah.
21:57Okay, I'm going to check on her.
21:58Stacy, let's go!
22:03Aria!
22:05Oh, there she is.
22:08Hey!
22:09How are you, girl?
22:10What happened?
22:11I'm fine.
22:12How are you?
22:13I'm fine.
22:14Hey!
22:15How are you, girl?
22:16What happened?
22:17I just confronted Benny about one of the times he cheated on me.
22:21And so what he did was he just went,
22:23"[Bleep], you."
22:24And then he just walked out.
22:27Wow.
22:28And I came to therapy so that the therapist could hold him accountable,
22:31but I realize now nobody can hold him accountable
22:33because he won't tell the truth.
22:35So what does that mean?
22:36Is he done?
22:37Are you guys going to finish the therapy?
22:39What am I supposed to do?
22:41How can we move forward if he won't tell the truth?
22:45How's it going, man?
22:58He's going back to the past.
23:09Why not?
23:10In order for this to work, you have to move forward from right now.
23:13You have to, like, we have to acknowledge the past.
23:17If you have a problem, let's move on.
23:19Oh, she don't want to move on.
23:20She don't want to move on.
23:21She did not come in here for fixing the relationship.
23:25That's what I believe.
23:26You don't think so?
23:27But when she came here, she want look me bad.
23:30That's what I understand.
23:32Everything just point, point, point.
23:34You did this one, you did this one.
23:35I have proof, like, something.
23:36She doesn't know that you're here under the pretenses of trying to understand.
23:40Like, maybe work out things.
23:41You know I came here, and this is true.
23:43I came here.
23:44We have the best son.
23:48We have the best son.
23:49And my love, he love his father so much.
23:53He love his mother.
24:00In the past, I screw up.
24:02But I want to move on.
24:04Because I want to fix it for my family.
24:06I want to fix especially for Avi.
24:08But Ari, I feel like she punish me for past what I did.
24:12She need decided what is important thing for her life.
24:16Forget the past and then focus on her future.
24:19If you're here, and you're trying, that's all you can do.
24:23Yeah, I know.
24:25I tell her, look, me and you, even if you're working, if you're not working, I'm not your enemy.
24:29I'm your, remember every time, I'm your father's son.
24:32You're working if you're not working.
24:34That's what I'm saying.
24:35Let's go move on.
24:36I know, just look.
24:38She's the best.
24:39Hopefully you work it out.
24:40I was, I was working on this.
24:41Just be happy, man.
24:42I want you to be happy.
24:43I want to be happy.
24:48Jasmine, go show him.
24:49Show him some moves.
24:52You're a teacher, right?
24:56No, no, no.
24:57Like one, two, three.
24:59Wait.
25:00One, two, three.
25:01Huh?
25:02One, two, three.
25:03Huh?
25:04Am I doing it right?
25:06Oh.
25:09Strong again.
25:11Oh.
25:12No.
25:13No.
25:15One more drink.
25:17Out, baby.
25:18Stop.
25:19Get out of here.
25:37I feel like a lot of the couples are probably not going to make it.
25:43Ari and Vinny, it's like, he said, she said.
25:48He was crying.
25:49He was emotional.
25:52Yeah.
25:53Are you ready to open up?
25:54Because we're going to have to open up a lot today.
25:57A hell of a lot.
26:06Julia.
26:34Julia.
26:36Hi.
26:37Hello.
27:07About I went to doctor in Russia.
27:09And what did your mom say?
27:10What did your mom say?
27:36They're trying to work through this stuff.
27:38Yeah.
27:41Mm-hmm.
27:59It's true.
28:00It's what I want.
28:01But I would not leave Julia over this.
28:04I realize that this is upsetting for Julia.
28:08But she needs to understand that, you know, no matter what, I love her.
28:12I will support her.
28:14And I'm not going anywhere.
28:18I think we both agree we want to try and make this work.
28:22Okay.
28:23Let's try.
28:38It must be our sex therapist.
28:40Are you ready?
28:41I'm ready.
28:43Hi.
28:44Hi.
28:45Oh, you look lovely.
28:46How are you?
28:47How are you?
28:48Oh, you're great.
28:49Hey.
28:50How's it going?
28:51Hey.
28:52Hey, Josh.
28:53How are you?
28:54Hey.
28:55We are going to have our first therapy together.
28:58And it's going to be sex therapy.
29:00Oh, I'm excited.
29:04Like a child before Christmas.
29:07Wow.
29:08Now we get to see.
29:12I want my sex therapy.
29:16What did you bring?
29:17Oh, I brought lots of things for us to try and play around with today.
29:23Let's see.
29:24I've got some brushes.
29:25Are we going to paint?
29:27Oh, yeah.
29:28I love painting.
29:30I actually know about art a lot.
29:32I like impressionism.
29:34Do you know impressionism?
29:36Wow, food.
29:37Chocolate?
29:38That looks like a lot of sugar.
29:42So one of the activities that I did with the group when we had our session was called couples pleasure mapping.
29:48And we used these paint brushes.
29:50And you're just going to explore your partner's body for things that feel good, right?
29:55So once you get to a point on your partner's body that feels good, they're going to say green light.
30:00And then we mark an X with one of these flavored syrups on your partner's body that feels good, right?
30:06Okay.
30:07So who wants to go first?
30:09Hmm.
30:10Well, I don't really want to put that on my body.
30:13Josh.
30:14I don't know.
30:15We're going to lick it off.
30:16I just don't like messy, like to be like syrups on my body and stuff.
30:20It's just not natural.
30:22Like I'm good natural.
30:24Like we have natural affection, natural intimacy and all of it.
30:28Like that's never been our problem.
30:30So what I hear you saying is it's not the sex.
30:33It's not the pleasure that is the issue.
30:36But I still want to know like how comfortable are you guys being vulnerable with each other?
30:41Because sex is more than just about pleasure.
30:43It's very much about intimacy and being vulnerable and feeling naked in front of each other.
30:48Please.
30:49It's a nice game.
30:50Please.
30:51Please.
30:52Please, Josh.
30:53I want to do it.
30:54Yes.
30:55Okay.
30:56Please, man.
30:57Okay.
30:58Let's start from you.
31:05Okay.
31:06I'm ready though.
31:07All right.
31:08Here we go.
31:15Right there.
31:16Okay.
31:17We're going to mark an X right there.
31:18That was a green light.
31:19Green light.
31:20Yeah.
31:21With that stuff.
31:22Yeah.
31:23With the syrup.
31:24Okay.
31:25I mean my idea of sexy has nowhere in there painting chocolate on people's bodies.
31:31It just doesn't.
31:32I know where Natalie's pleasure spots are.
31:36Like I know what I'm doing.
31:37But she wants to do the exercise.
31:40So I'm going to do it.
31:41As much as I don't like it, I'm going to try for her.
31:46Yeah.
31:47We found one.
31:48That's a big one.
31:51Now, Josh, it's time to remove them.
31:53Okay.
31:54No.
31:55Lick it.
31:56You have to.
31:57What?
31:58I'm going to remove it.
31:59Watch.
32:00Close your eyes.
32:10Why?
32:11But you don't kiss me.
32:12Isn't this...
32:13I want you to kiss me.
32:14Sure.
32:15Why you don't want to remove the X with your lips?
32:19I just don't want to lick the syrup.
32:21Okay.
32:22Okay.
32:23Next time, for people like him, sugar-free, please.
32:26Okay.
32:27Yes.
32:28Yes, I will keep that in mind.
32:29Sugar-free next time.
32:30Josh, now you are the person that we are going to explore and we have limited...
32:33Can you take off your shirt?
32:34No.
32:40I do not like PDA.
32:41Okay.
32:42I don't like it at all.
32:43What's PDA for you?
32:44Like, I don't like...
32:45What is PDA?
32:46Folding or...
32:47Public displays of affection.
32:49I like to have my moments with her, like, in...
32:52In private.
32:53In private.
32:54Yeah.
32:55I just don't like to, you know, I'm just not...
32:56I just don't like it.
32:57Yeah, I get it.
32:58When we did this with the group, there were a couple of other partners.
33:00I don't like it.
33:01You don't got to be...
33:02I'm sorry.
33:03You can't change my mind if I don't like it.
33:04I don't like it.
33:05Yeah.
33:06Right?
33:07I don't think I'm going to be, like, taking, like, my clothes off.
33:08You don't have to take your clothes off.
33:09I'm not asking you to do that.
33:10Okay?
33:11It's hard.
33:12It is.
33:13It is.
33:14I like to meet people where they are.
33:16With Natalie and Josh, I see a disconnect between them emotionally that I wouldn't be surprised
33:23if it's bleeding into their physical intimacy.
33:26I didn't know you would be so...
33:28Like, what?
33:29It just...
33:30Look, we do not have problems.
33:32Well, it's not about that.
33:33It feels like...
33:34Listen.
33:35I know, but I just don't want to put this shit all over my body.
33:38Well, it's not...
33:39It's...
33:40Oh, God.
33:41This guy who thinks that he's so confident and who feels so sure about sex life, he reacts
33:48like a kid.
33:49He's like, no, I don't want to do it.
33:51I don't like sticky stuff.
33:52I don't like this.
33:53I don't like that.
33:54And I'm like, wow.
33:55I never expected this reaction from Josh.
33:58What if I like this kind of games?
34:01Well...
34:02What if it makes me feel good?
34:05Sure.
34:06I don't...
34:07Yeah, but...
34:08What you don't?
34:09What you don't?
34:10You're a f***ing fruit.
34:12Stop insulting me.
34:19Gina.
34:20Gina.
34:21No.
34:22Kiss me.
34:24No, I don't want you right now at this moment.
34:26Later.
34:27Stick it.
34:30I love him, but I crave for sex, you know?
34:34You know?
34:35I'm convinced now that the only possible solution
34:38to save our marriage is to open it up to someone else.
34:59Let's pretend I'm not in the room.
35:00If I wasn't here,
35:01where would you want Natalie to lick the syrup off of you?
35:06Um...
35:08I mean...
35:10Because I love it.
35:11If you weren't here...
35:12I've never seen him so confused ever in my life.
35:14Right. I would be a little bit more free to explore with just her.
35:18Okay.
35:19Well, I'll tell you what.
35:20I'm going to leave.
35:21I'm going to give you guys a few minutes just to explore.
35:24And I want to know, like, how comfortable are you guys being vulnerable with each other?
35:28I don't think we have any issues there.
35:30And I... I'm just... I'm just being honest.
35:34Okay. Can we do the exercise?
35:36Please?
35:37Please, man.
35:38I'll be back.
35:39Okay.
35:40Alright. Bye.
35:41Okay.
35:43I was good at painting.
35:45Were you?
36:00I'm going to go do it, boo.
36:03You look like Martin.
36:07Alright. Nice.
36:09You like it?
36:10Hawaiian style.
36:20You're tickling me.
36:22I'm tickling you.
36:23I'm tickling you.
36:24I'm tickling you.
36:25I'm tickling you.
36:26I'm tickling you.
36:27I'm tickling you.
36:28I'm tickling you.
36:29You're tickling me.
36:31I'm tickling you.
36:32Don't tickle me.
36:38You're tickling me.
36:45That's it. You're going to the ball.
36:59Kiss me.
37:03Kiss me.
37:05No, I don't want you right now.
37:07Just to kiss me, boo.
37:09No.
37:10I hugged you and that's it.
37:15Ow, ow, ow. Your head.
37:19Gino.
37:21Gino.
37:22No.
37:23Kiss me.
37:24No, I don't want you right now at this moment.
37:26Kiss me.
37:27Not at this moment.
37:28Later.
37:43Just leave me alone when I ask you to.
37:45It's pretty simple.
37:47I'm not looking to have a make-out session or anything.
37:51I'm not looking to do that right now.
37:53To be affectionate like that.
37:55Gino, but I'm not even talking about sex.
37:57That is the problem.
37:58I'm not even talking about sex either.
37:59That is the problem, Gino.
38:00That will give you an idea where I am at right now.
38:03Like, yes, where are you at?
38:04I need to understand.
38:05Where are you at?
38:06I just want to try to build our friendship up.
38:08So you want us to be friends?
38:11No. No.
38:12I want us to build a foundation.
38:13That's why we're married.
38:14We don't.
38:15We do not have a foundation.
38:16So why are we married then?
38:17Why did you marry me?
38:18Because at one time we did.
38:21But not anymore.
38:22Okay, I'm going to show you the rug.
38:24Do I have to talk over you?
38:25I will.
38:26What is this?
38:29Go ahead and show me.
38:30How do you think it is fair, Gino, that you put...
38:32Jasmine, put me away.
38:34Let me see the rug.
38:35Jasmine, put me away.
38:36Show me the rug.
38:37This should be you.
38:38Yeah, yeah, yeah.
38:39This should be you, Gino.
38:40Yeah, I'm sleeping in the same bed.
38:41I didn't say kissing, hugging, and...
38:42That's it.
38:43Gino, can you hear yourself?
38:44Why don't you ask yourself why I left home for three days?
38:50I am, like, a very hurt person because of our last several months.
38:55Gino, how do you think I feel right now?
38:57I need to feel from the bottom and have a friendship and a good connection.
39:01That's what I need first.
39:03What about what I need?
39:05And I am going to go at my pace.
39:07I don't care about anything.
39:09I didn't ask you.
39:10I'm going to go at my pace because it's me that matters.
39:11I'll make the decision.
39:12I didn't ask you for sex.
39:13I just asked you for a kiss.
39:16But you keep asking and asking and asking.
39:18You keep wanting to go more and more.
39:20How do you feel?
39:21It hurts me.
39:22You don't even want to kiss me.
39:24You don't even want to hug me.
39:28And you are losing me, too.
39:30You're losing me.
39:31You already lost me.
39:38Every day, I have to hear the same speech.
39:41Stop touching me.
39:43Stop kissing me.
39:44Stop hugging me.
39:45And that really hurts.
39:47I love him, but I crave for sex, you know?
39:53I'm convinced now that the only possible solution to save our marriage
39:57is to open it up to someone else.
40:00Oh, my gosh.
40:01It really makes me emotional.
40:05I really came here because I want things to work.
40:08Because you are not going to ever blame me
40:13and say that I didn't make my best to make things work, you know?
40:23Open the door.
40:42I really don't want the syrup on me.
40:44Let me try it.
40:45Wait.
40:47Wait, I'll let you do it.
40:48Okay.
40:49Josh!
40:50Please!
40:51That's not going to work. That's not going to work.
40:52Sit. Sit. I want to do it.
40:54First impressions of Natalie are that she's super free
40:58and really excited to explore
41:01what their physical connection looks like.
41:04All right, let's do... Fine, let's just do the...
41:08Chocolate, I guess.
41:11Uh, Josh, on the other hand,
41:13he seems a bit disconnected.
41:16I believe them when they say they have a great sex life,
41:18but I don't believe them when they say it doesn't need any fixes.
41:21I'm enjoying it so bad. God, for me, it's a good time.
41:24I feel like you're doing more than a check mark.
41:26Well... That's a huge thought.
41:28I told you, whatever work I do, I'm 100% into it.
41:34Come on.
41:36Sounds like it's going pretty well.
41:53Nice job.
41:55Done!
41:59We did it! Yeah!
42:02We completed the exercise.
42:03God, this is good.
42:04You see, we can move to the next level.
42:08He's coming.
42:09Where's Josh?
42:10Yeah, he went to the bathroom.
42:12Oh, okay.
42:13Yeah. I didn't know that Josh could be so sensitive
42:17when it comes to this moment,
42:18because our, like, sexual life, usually, he's not that shy.
42:22Well, talking about sex can be really, really vulnerable for people,
42:26and it can make them put up walls where there weren't any before.
42:32Oh, hey. Hello there.
42:34Sorry about that.
42:35No worries.
42:38Did you enjoy it?
42:39Did you find any new erogenous zones?
42:42I heard some giggling.
42:43Yeah, I think we had fun with it,
42:44but I'm gonna be honest, I didn't like it.
42:46Okay.
42:48Yeah, I don't like, like, the stuff on my body,
42:50but I did it for her.
42:53I do have a question.
42:54Yeah, sure.
42:55One of our things that we do struggle with
43:00is when we are intimate,
43:04the next day is usually not the best.
43:07Okay.
43:11So, I feel like it's maybe, like,
43:14more things are expected of me.
43:16Awkward.
43:20Like, you know, she wants a lot more of, like, me and my time,
43:24stay here, like, let's go have breakfast, let's do this.
43:27But, like, my time is, like, methodically thought out.
43:30You know, I have a call at 10, 15 meetings.
43:33And so, I do not like that disturbed.
43:36Why?
43:38Because that is, like, my livelihood.
43:41I also have a seven-year-old daughter and my son.
43:44He was in a tragic accident.
43:46Why can't I be a part of it? Why can't I help you? Why?
43:50I don't understand what is the problem of being together
43:53and doing things together.
43:55Because I don't want to be forever, like, a girlfriend.
44:00How can we build relationship and family if you don't have time?
44:04How it's gonna be? How my life gonna be?
44:07I want family.
44:08And you knew it.
44:10What do you mean, you not agree? You said we're gonna work on it.
44:13Uh, I've never agreed to have a family with you.
44:16-♪♪♪♪
44:20When he came back to me, he said,
44:22let's work on our relationship.
44:24I was thinking, like, I'm ready to forget all.
44:29I'm ready to start fresh.
44:31But I need to understand that I'm valuable.
44:35I'm breaking up with him three times.
44:37He would come back, and he would say,
44:39we work on our relationship.
44:40You lie to me. Why you do this to me?
44:42Okay, I think we're getting a little out of hand here.
44:45No, you cannot do this to me.
44:47Okay, Natalie, if, if, if...
44:49I deserve time. I do.
44:51Even Donald Trump has time for his wife. Come on.
44:54And he's a million times busier than you.
45:00We work on our relationship, that you have to find time.
45:03Yeah, that's not, that's not the answer.
45:05What is that, then? Name it.
45:07Give it a name. What is that?
45:10Name. What are we?
45:12What do you want to hear?
45:13What we are. What you and I. What we are.
45:16I think that's why we're here, trying to figure it out.
45:18What's up, damn it? I'm your girlfriend, who I am.
45:21Natalie, Natalie, I think we're going to take a breather.
45:23I think we need to take a step back.
45:25Asshole.
45:27Josh. Yes.
45:29What brings you here? Why are you here?
45:31Yeah, why are you here?
45:32I'm here to see if we can have a normal relationship.
45:38Okay.
45:39But I'm hoping that, like, being here is, like,
45:42going to calm some of this lashing out at everybody.
45:45Like, I need that to be fixed.
45:47If that is not fixed, there's no relationship.
45:51A hundred percent.
45:52Because I can't bring that around my family.
45:54I can't bring that into my home. I can't.
45:59Okay, Josh.
46:00It seems like we've kind of come to the root of a problem
46:04that is kind of impacting your intimacy.
46:06Because he doesn't want to be committed to me.
46:09It's not that I don't want to, Natalie.
46:11I cannot give you, like, that extra time.
46:14Kill me. That's it. I will die.
46:16A normal man would not make me feel insecure.
46:19He just wants to insult me, say that I'm not good enough.
46:22It's not true.
46:23And every time when he insults me, it goes like this.
46:26All the time. I can't anymore.
46:28I did not insult you.
46:29I'm just leaving now.
46:31Stop.
46:32Don't even speak.
46:34Natalie.
46:36When someone expresses how they feel,
46:39and you feel a feeling about it,
46:43it doesn't necessarily mean that their intent was to insult you.
46:47You have to allow your partner to have feelings in the same way you do.
46:54How many hours are you supposed to work with us?
46:57Maybe it's time?
46:58It's too much for me for today. I'm sorry. I can't anymore.
47:01Can we stop?
47:02Natalie, I hear you struggling right now.
47:05And that is...
47:07I feel that I have to defend myself.
47:09I don't want to defend myself.
47:11We need another therapist, too.
47:12Because you are sexual therapist, so we do sexual therapy.
47:16Other, we discuss.
47:20Okay. Thank you. We're done.
47:24I feel like we missed an opportunity today.
47:26I feel like we could have made a lot of progress
47:30towards finding and building upon their physical and emotional connection.
47:36But Natalie's a ball of emotions.
47:38And it seems like she's kind of put up a wall
47:42that she's not really willing to get beyond at this point.
47:46Thank you for your time. It was nice meeting you.
47:49You forgot your toys.
47:52Oh, you guys can have those.
47:53I don't think so. He doesn't like it.
47:55Okay. All right. I'll take them.
47:57Bye.
47:58I'm not really sure what's in store for them,
48:01given the complete breakdown in communication that I witnessed today.
48:06In order for Natalie to really commit to this process,
48:11she's gonna have to regulate her emotions
48:14and really sit with herself so that she can move forward.
48:19You forgot your plate.
48:21Have a nice evening.
48:28Okay. Bye.
48:34You ready?
48:35Let's do it.
48:36Next time on 90 Day The Last Resort.
48:39Oh, my God!
48:42Tonight, we are gonna stay in the honeymoon suite.
48:46I can just have a little, you know...
48:50You are a horny little creature.
48:52I mean, I was hoping tonight would be a little bit more romantic.
48:57Tonight, we're gonna get some intimate time.
48:59I'm so glad you invited me.
49:01That is our bed.
49:03But, uh, looks like we're gonna have a party instead.
49:07Mwah!
49:08Oh, come on!
49:10Guys, guys, we did it!
49:15Today, we're going to be using a tool called Sand Tray Therapy.
49:19With the pieces that you have next to you,
49:22you're gonna build a picture.
49:23So, my story's saying, I don't know...
49:26I never play pretend to be honest with you.
49:28I never imagination myself.
49:29Like, I never play with myself.
49:32This is family.
49:34My sister, I have a twin.
49:37Darcy is her name.
49:38There's a lot of conflict.
49:39She recently said something to Florian,
49:42like, you're better off single, basically.
49:45What sister does that?
49:47That's cold.
49:50We had a conversation this morning,
49:52and Josh said, in his life, he needs stability.
49:55And you're a little all over the place.
49:58What does it mean?
49:59Like, you're crazy.
50:01I don't know what to believe anymore.
50:03And now, he's not answering the phone.
50:06I don't even know if he's at the resort anymore.
50:09What if he's gone?
50:13For me, in my life, my father teach me to respect people.
50:16Respect people?
50:18You're the most disrespectful people I know.
50:20I just hope that I say this,
50:23let your ass eat.
50:25Do you want a treat? Do you want a treat?
50:27I'm Jasmine, and I'm crazy, dude.