90 Day The Last Resort S02E11 - Last Blow
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00:00Gino, did you find a moment that you remember hurting Jasmine?
00:06Yeah.
00:07Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:10Are you open to sharing it with us?
00:12I'd rather not.
00:15The first thought that comes to my mind is like, did you cheat on me?
00:24What's up, boys?
00:26How was your sleep?
00:28Rough.
00:29Yeah? Do you guys like have trouble sleeping together usually?
00:33Yeah, I mean, yeah, I do. We do.
00:36I did not deserve to be treated this way. And it's offending me as a woman.
00:41I need somebody that's kind of just still.
00:45Good morning.
00:46Good morning.
00:47I was really looking forward to a fun camping trip with my wife.
00:50But Julia blindsided me.
00:52She's admitted to the one thing I can't like handle, hearing.
00:56You know, she's cheated.
00:58Do you mind if we take a moment with Julia off to the side?
01:07A lot of things have been happening with Rob.
01:09I basically saw on his phone that he's been texting women the whole time during this resort.
01:16And then, look, also I found this.
01:20Swipe.
01:22He's not trying to do me.
01:24You're down to be adventurous. Let's explore.
01:30Asshole.
01:55Oh, my God.
01:59Oh, my God.
02:18So what we're going to do is we're going to just sit.
02:21Okay.
02:22And talk.
02:25Yesterday I found out Julia cheated on me with her ex.
02:30And it wasn't good sleeping alone, you know.
02:34It made what I was already feeling worse.
02:37I think after something like this, I don't know if we can come back from it.
02:42But if I run away now, I think it could be the end of us, yeah.
02:48So, obviously, some things came up yesterday.
02:53And I really want to clear the air.
02:57I think that Julia, this was probably weighing heavy on her.
03:03And it's something she felt she needed to get off her chest, which I can understand.
03:08But at the same time, is that selfish or is it selfish for me to just not want to know?
03:14Because she could have taken that to her grave and I could just—ignorance be bliss.
03:20So, Julia, what was going on inside of you when you decided to share that?
03:25Was it to share the truth? Was it something different? What was it?
03:28That sounds like it was just to hurt me because, what, I didn't share something—
03:32I'm not trying to hurt you. I'm trying to relieve what I feel.
03:35I'm trying to relieve what is hurting me.
03:39I share everything what is bothering me, what is inside me, and I want he start sharing same.
03:44I want he start—show he's real.
03:47I can't go forward with all bulls*** inside me.
03:51I need to leave this bulls*** right here in this therapy, now and forever.
03:56Me putting myself out there and being vulnerable, especially with all these people around,
04:01I mean, I have difficulty with people in general.
04:05And so for me to just be completely open and put everything out there, it's hard already.
04:16You're the only safe space I have here and the only thing I know.
04:20And for trying to want to feel like I want to push you away, it makes all this harder.
04:29So, yeah.
04:43Brandon and Julia, there's obviously hurt between them.
04:47But my experience seeing Brandon so far being very closed off and especially the night before,
04:55totally going into shutdown, when he starts to cry, there's a part of me that feels a relief
05:00because I know he's getting somewhere now.
05:02He's finally breaking through.
05:03He's finally opening up and he's able to feel safe enough to expose himself in a way and feel things.
05:09And so this is huge.
05:10This is a great moment for Brandon to be here, able to do that.
05:17Let's first acknowledge that it makes sense that he would feel that way.
05:20Let's first acknowledge that it makes sense that he would feel that way.
05:22And it makes sense that you would feel the way that you feel.
05:24And really to start this exchange of validating the other person's experience.
05:29That's called empathy, guys.
05:30Without it, we can't have a relationship.
05:33No matter how much love we have, we can't have a relationship if we can't see
05:37and take the time to put yourself in the other person's experience.
05:41Is it possible to move forward with this new circumstance for you, Brandon?
05:47I think I can.
05:53But I'm just sore at the moment because it's so fresh.
05:56Sure.
05:57It's a fresh wound now.
05:59And I just feel like it's going to take time for these feelings to go.
06:03Yeah.
06:10So that is a real circumstance that we need to address right now.
06:15Forgiveness is possible.
06:18But part of the forgiveness means that it's not used as leverage in the future.
06:39Great question.
06:40Great question.
06:41And that's the healing work that you're here to do.
06:45Can we leave all of this?
06:47Can we say everything what we feel and leave everything here?
06:53I'm going to try.
06:54That's all I can do, right?
07:09Sophie, you deserve much better.
07:11You should go and face him and let everybody know who Rob really is
07:17and what you're going through.
07:19I believe that all this is hurting you even more because you are keeping it to yourself.
07:27And there is so much power on telling the truth.
07:32Me and Rob and all the other couples had, you know, spent the night in the tent.
07:35But yesterday, I had seen Rob messaging some girls on his phone.
07:39And I feel like he saw me looking because he looked over and, like,
07:42completely just closed his phone off when I was looking.
07:44So he knows he's not supposed to be doing that.
07:47And then this morning, my friend Kay sent me a screenshot of Rob having an active dating profile.
07:54It's just very disrespectful and hurtful to me when we're here to both try and be together
07:58and he's still just trying to be with any other girl online
08:01and doing the same behavior that affected us in the first place.
08:04And it's, you know, it's just hurtful.
08:07Rob, you're doing a great job cooking this bacon and eggs.
08:10You're doing a good job.
08:16Morning.
08:17Morning.
08:23Um, I basically just want to say that it's been very difficult for me with my marriage with Rob.
08:32And I've been trying very hard.
08:34I found out he's at this retreat and he's still messaging other women trying to have sex with them.
08:39And he's on dating apps.
08:41And he doesn't really give a **** to be here for me.
08:43I think he's treating this like a vacation.
08:45Show me.
08:46And also...
08:47Show me.
08:48I'm just...
08:49Please show me.
08:50Because I don't know what you're talking about.
08:55I didn't say anything because I don't want people to hate him.
08:58Because I do care about him.
09:01And you've done so much **** to me.
09:04And I've kept it to myself because I do care about you.
09:06But the things I hear that you're telling everyone about me and how I moved out and not trying.
09:10And that you're sad.
09:11Oh, I love her.
09:12I'm trying.
09:13You're not trying.
09:14You're not trying.
09:15You're not trying at all.
09:16And you haven't tried for over a year.
09:17So...
09:18Yes, I am.
09:19I've been trying.
09:20And I found out.
09:21And now you're annoyed because I'm calling you out.
09:22And you didn't think I would.
09:23Because you know how much I care about you.
09:25What dating app?
09:26Oh, yeah, sure.
09:27I can show you.
09:28Sure.
09:29And it better be current, too.
09:30It better be current, too.
09:31Rob, you're not doing that, are you?
09:32I'm literally not on a dating app.
09:33This is exactly what I'm going through.
09:37Can I see it?
09:38Is that...
09:39I haven't even been able to get on that app in, like, two years.
09:43Okay, so that's not...
09:44And the only reason I even tried...
09:46The only reason I even tried...
09:48You just called yourself...
09:49The only reason I tried...
09:50You haven't been able to get on it in two years?
09:51Because you...
09:52We ****** went two years ago.
09:53You told me to...
09:54You just said you haven't been able to get...
09:55You told yourself...
09:56Let me...
09:57Let me ****** say it then.
09:58I haven't been able to get on the app in two years.
09:59Let me say it then.
10:00We got married two years ago.
10:01Two years, Sophie has been moved out and doing her own thing,
10:03and she told me to talk to other women.
10:04But why did she move out?
10:05I'm telling you...
10:06Why did she move out?
10:07I'm telling you, she told me to talk to other women.
10:08And for ****** five minutes, I tried,
10:10and then I honestly felt like it just didn't feel right
10:12because I still wanted to work out.
10:13Five minutes.
10:14That's why I found it on your phone there.
10:15I haven't done anything.
10:16Find it on my phone.
10:17When I saw that you was cheating on me...
10:18Let's be very ****** clear.
10:20Let's be very ****** clear.
10:24I was only on a dating app
10:25after Sophie told me to go talk to other women
10:2810 ****** times.
10:31Yeah, I tried.
10:32And I still ****** deleted that ******
10:34because I care.
10:36That's why I'm here.
10:38You want to use that ******?
10:40You want to put me in the ****** corner,
10:41make me the dog, make me the ******,
10:43put me in a dog house,
10:44and tell me to ****** off?
10:46Go talk to other women
10:47because I ain't got nothing for you.
10:49You've told me 20 times
10:50you don't have anything.
10:51You know you don't invest in this relationship.
10:54Guys, I want you ****** to know here.
10:56What are you saying?
10:57I didn't say anything.
10:58I said I don't like to be touched.
10:59Don't ****** open your mouth about my body.
11:03Okay, and I didn't say that.
11:05You say this is not true.
11:07How can you do this to me?
11:24Sorry, Sophie.
11:25Why did you tell Rob
11:26to go date other women?
11:27I never said that.
11:29Wow!
11:30Bro, I'm done.
11:31I'm done.
11:32****** done.
11:33This is ******.
11:34Are you serious?
11:35Hold on.
11:36Actually, actually, hold on.
11:38I think I texted in my phone still.
11:40Where's this ****** at?
11:42He's looking through his whole phone now,
11:44and I'm like,
11:45I could probably believe you're leaving.
11:47Oh, yeah.
11:48Oh, yeah.
11:49Oh, yeah.
11:50Oh, yeah.
11:51Oh, yeah.
11:52Oh, yeah.
11:56I'm sorry.
11:57Our hair.
11:58We all need to go to the salon.
11:59I know.
12:00I make it worse.
12:01I'm so sorry.
12:03Nah, bro.
12:04Where is this ****** at?
12:05Yeah, I want to leave.
12:06I don't even care for this.
12:07Like, we're all going to wait around
12:08for Rob to find something.
12:09We're waiting.
12:10We're waiting.
12:11We're just waiting,
12:12and it's like, come on.
12:13Oh, man.
12:14No, it matters
12:15because I'm going to call her out
12:16at least on one lie
12:17because she just said
12:18that she never said that.
12:19Look, you look worried
12:20because you know you said that to me.
12:21No, why did you just
12:22close my phone?
12:23Bro, it matters to me,
12:24so don't touch my phone.
12:26I'm going to find this ******
12:27because Sophie ain't going
12:28to walk away from here
12:29looking like Miss ******
12:30playing me.
12:39So, I feel like we can look at this
12:42as a means for deepening trust,
12:44and I know that sounds crazy.
12:46You want to use that ******?
12:47You want to put me
12:48in the ****** corner?
12:50Something big's going on over there.
12:55Um, I'm going to go check
12:57on what's happening over there.
12:59Take a moment to yourselves
13:00and just join us
13:01when you're ready, okay?
13:11You're not going to bring
13:12anything else that I don't know about,
13:13are you?
13:19I'm not going to bring it.
13:30Josh, come here.
13:34You keep saying to people
13:35that you cannot sleep next to me.
13:36What does that mean?
13:37Natalie, Natalie.
13:38Will you stop?
13:39But you insult me.
13:40How can you do it to me?
13:41Natalie, you need to stop.
13:43Stop ****** insulting me.
13:44Oh my God, Natalie.
13:45Okay, be by yourself.
13:46Be by yourself.
13:50So this morning, like,
13:52I had mentioned, you know,
13:54that I didn't really sleep well.
13:55I said, personally,
13:57I like to not be bothered
13:59or touched when I sleep.
14:00And she kind of took that
14:02and is now making this
14:04a much bigger issue than it is.
14:06And I don't know
14:08where it's going to go.
14:15It's disgusting.
14:16And he does that.
14:18Lucky I have people around.
14:19What's going on over here?
14:20But imagine when I'm by myself.
14:21We heard a lot of yelling.
14:24Yeah, there's a big fight going on.
14:25Yeah.
14:26Okay.
14:27I wouldn't say it's a fight.
14:28I would say it's
14:29Sophie telling the truth
14:30and somebody getting upset about it.
14:32And someone getting mad about
14:33the truth coming out.
14:35Well, I think we need to find out
14:36what the facts are.
14:37I gotta find it.
14:39Let's find it, but let's take a moment.
14:40She's ****** looking at me crazy
14:42all morning with that?
14:44That's ****** nuts.
14:47Your name was on it.
14:48I haven't been able to get on the app
14:49since, like, 2019.
14:51Because I had a picture of me
14:52sitting there with my hands
14:53over my nuts,
14:54and I think that the app
14:55kicked me thinking it was my nuts.
14:57Uh-huh.
14:58So I haven't been able to even
14:59use that app in years.
15:04This is turning into, like,
15:05guy versus girl dynamic.
15:08You know, the girls are
15:09rallying around Sophie
15:10and the guys are rallying around Rob.
15:13And it's turning into, like,
15:14this competition of, like,
15:16the battle of who's right
15:17and who's wrong.
15:19I don't know.
15:20But the true story is there.
15:21Do you believe him?
15:23Probably Sophie needs
15:24to show more proof.
15:25I don't know.
15:29All right, man, I found it.
15:30You found it.
15:31You'll find it.
15:32She said right here,
15:33Hi, as of March 4th, 2023,
15:35me and you are on a break
15:36and I give you permission
15:37to act single and will not
15:38hold this against you.
15:39Send me the screenshot.
15:40I'm gonna go on ******.
15:41That's what she said.
15:42Good job, man.
15:43Send me the screenshot.
15:44I'll tell him.
15:45I'll tell him.
15:46Huh?
15:47I'll tell him. Come on.
15:48Yeah.
15:50Hola, ladies.
15:51Hey.
15:52Hello.
15:53I just want to let it be known
15:55that Rob does have the screenshot
15:58that says you have permission
16:01to be single.
16:02When was that?
16:03I don't know.
16:04It was in March.
16:05March 4th.
16:06To when?
16:07Because we broke up
16:08for a few months
16:09and that dating app
16:10was not from that time.
16:11OK, pause.
16:12I need you to pause.
16:13I need you to pause.
16:14It doesn't add up, so.
16:15So here's what I'd like to do.
16:17First, I would like to invite Rob
16:21to say what he needs to say
16:24to present what he needs to present.
16:25He's just gonna shout at me.
16:26I'm only going to allow this to happen
16:28if the temperature stays down,
16:30if the volume stays down
16:31in a communicative way.
16:35Are you ready for that?
16:37Yes.
16:38If he can talk to me respectfully, yes.
16:40OK.
16:41I would ask that just everybody,
16:43men and women,
16:44can just take a step back
16:46and let this be between Rob and Sophie.
16:49Girls and boys,
16:50if you want to talk on the phone,
16:51we can talk over there.
16:52Do you want us to stay, Sophie,
16:53or do you feel more comfortable?
16:54No, I'm good.
16:55I'll remove myself if he gets mad.
16:56OK.
16:59Rob, do you want to come over?
17:01Not really.
17:02I don't want to go sit by somebody
17:03who wants to make me out to be an enemy.
17:06Not really.
17:07I came here to be with my wife,
17:09hope for the best,
17:10and now she just flipped the whole,
17:12everything on me.
17:15She can't prove.
17:16I have evidence that she said,
17:19you're single.
17:20I won't hold it against you.
17:21And now somehow
17:22there was a timeline on that.
17:24Yeah, the timeline was
17:25she wanted a break for a month,
17:27and then five and a half months later,
17:29she still hadn't came home.
17:30So then I broke up with her.
17:31So at what point did...
17:32No, we was broken up for a few months,
17:34and then we started getting back together.
17:35Did we not?
17:36No, we didn't.
17:37We had sex one time,
17:38and then you went right back
17:39to living your best life.
17:40That's not true.
17:41You acted like you cared
17:42for five seconds.
17:43The first time I moved out
17:44when I didn't want to be with you,
17:45that's when you said,
17:46well, if you f*** the girls,
17:47can you send me...
17:48That's why I wrote the text, remember?
17:49No, you said,
17:50you said,
17:51go f*** other women.
17:52I said, I don't want to go on a break.
17:54We should either separate
17:55or we should work on our relationship.
17:57That's what I said to you.
18:04Well, first of all,
18:05I just want to say
18:08when you're married,
18:09you can't break up.
18:11That's why I wanted to say
18:12we're separated.
18:13That's not a thing.
18:14If I didn't want a break,
18:15that s*** sounds like
18:16f***ing kid s***.
18:19There's so many ways
18:20we could communicate
18:21without having to be
18:22like him shouting at me,
18:23especially when he's in the wrong.
18:25He's getting angry
18:26because it's because he looks bad.
18:28He doesn't think anything
18:29he does is wrong.
18:33This isn't what I came here for.
18:35I know.
18:36I don't think it's what
18:37either of you came here for.
18:38I came here to f***
18:39a last ditch effort.
18:41And I'll be honest with you.
18:43I didn't have much hope
18:44because she won't do anything
18:47towards this relationship.
18:48All she'll do is look at me
18:50and say, Rob, you need to fix it.
18:52He's not taking this seriously.
18:53What are you talking about?
18:54Wait, wait, wait.
18:55Oh my God.
18:56Yeah, listen to her f***ing bulls***.
19:02So,
19:04I think this is a good place
19:05where we need to take
19:06some personal space
19:07before anything else nasty
19:11is said
19:13that maybe we don't mean.
19:16And we're gonna reconvene
19:17by the tents.
19:18I have something planned for us
19:20to at least move through
19:22some of this energy.
19:23This is not a couple's thing, okay?
19:24You don't have to talk anymore.
19:26But we gotta get some of this out.
19:36You know, you had a f***ing real one.
19:49F***ing bulls***.
20:06F***.
20:14I just wanna go home.
20:15I don't wanna leave.
20:23Take deep breaths.
20:35No.
20:36No.
20:38No.
20:39No.
20:40No.
20:41No.
20:42No.
20:43No.
20:44No.
20:45No.
20:46No.
20:47No.
20:48No.
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20:52No.
20:53No.
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20:57No.
20:58No.
20:59No.
21:00No.
21:01No.
21:02No.
21:03No.
21:04No.
21:05No.
21:06No.
21:07No.
21:08No.
21:09No.
21:13I'm not taking this s***.
21:15Great.
21:19I'm not returning to the group.
21:22I just seemed like out of the blue,
21:24Natalie's like screaming
21:26and yelling at Josh, you know?
21:28It's like maybe one of those episodes
21:30where she kind of just
21:32Talking some crazy, you know, I don't know what is going on between these two people. All I know is that they are
21:40exhausting
21:43What do you feel like Josh is saying he got lost me constantly, but he cannot like my body and would you shame me
21:53Boy
21:56In the morning like it was conversation about me Josh said he wouldn't sleep with me
22:01So he would use certain words. It made me kind of feel shame. I need my man to touch me to feel lost
22:09By Josh saying he doesn't want to sleep with me
22:11It makes me feel like something's wrong with me or something like that and it felt like an insult
22:17So I felt like I should just not accept it
22:22What's going on over here so much yelling
22:25I'm sorry. I'm like can't handle
22:33This Mia
22:35Guys, I want you here. What are you saying? I didn't say anything. I said, I don't like to be touched
22:40No, it's not true. I said it to everybody
22:44You make me feel what you shamed. I'm not I'm not body shaming you. You're beautiful and you have a beautiful body
22:51I'm sorry, if you
23:02Said I'm sorry for you
23:07Okay
23:10Okay, and I didn't say that
23:16Okay
23:22So everybody knows this is why I cannot bring her anywhere I
23:27Can't I don't know what to expect
23:30With Natalie like I feel like I really have to be careful with some of the things I say because
23:36Sometimes she'll just take the first two words two or three words of where the story is going and then it's just like oh
23:42I'm gonna make up my own
23:43Conclusion here, you know, it suffocates me a little bit, you know, and it's like makes me lose my voice in a sense
23:49like I mean
23:51You know
23:51like why am I even saying anything because it's just like every single little thing is just like taken and
23:58Twisted and just made to be like against me. So I'm hot. I'm really having a hard time
24:04expressing my feelings
24:19Story is still like I don't want to sleep with my guys
24:24Let me talk sometimes, okay, you still like I have problem example, no, I don't like to sleep close to people
24:31I don't like people to touch me. He's problem. It's new problem. No flip it that problem in you, you know
24:38They can understand Natalie it's not easy for her
24:42You only truth like other people's another Lee want to say to her like, oh, you're crazy
24:47You have problems and you try like to blame in her and like I feel sad for her
24:51You know, like sometimes people make mistake now and like I want to see her happy basically no more no more fighting
24:57I'm gonna tell you calm down. Okay?
24:59Yeah, she said that your body shame her. I said nothing about her body
25:04Nothing, but what is a language barrier like she understands. I don't I don't know just because you say I don't want to be
25:12Here interpretation of that action from you is like your body shape. Yeah
25:18One more conversation boom done. Okay. She's coming. She's coming. Oh my gosh. Um, okay
25:28Therapist Florian over there. Listen to me. I'm the lawyer I can see you. Okay? Okay, you're going to hear I go to talk. Okay
25:36I
25:39Didn't sleep with her in the bed. I just doesn't hear him. Yes. I want to hear
25:43Yeah, because I don't like to be touched fly one sec. Yeah, you don't like this little. Okay, I
25:49Don't I'd like to be still I like to sleep. I like to sleep untouched has nothing to do with you or your body
25:59You are beautiful and I apologize if you took that the wrong way
26:03Any type of body shaming is not what I meant
26:06That is my thing my thing only that I don't like to be touched has nothing to do with you
26:10Okay, you hear it. That's all that it is. See I can apologize. I want to apologize. I apologize
26:17For the way that came across say thank you. She said police ten times. You won't thank you
26:22Go give her a hug or something. I don't think she wants one from let's hug together hug the angel hug the angel
26:34Do that no, no don't
26:38Be sweet, it's not going to find no more
26:41Jesus Christ
26:44I'm at a loss here because I'm
26:47apologizing to her so that she feels better for something that I didn't say or didn't do and she
26:53Takes that and kicks me in the nuts. I
26:56Mean, I feel like I I'm trying to do what I can to be a better partner to be a better listener to be
27:03You know a punching bag at this point or whatever it is that she needs to be but I'm trying I am trying
27:09You know, could I try more? Could I do more? I mean, I
27:15Don't know
27:19While Natalie calms down
27:21We are all going to meet back by the tents
27:24I have something planned for us to to break this up and and release some of this energy
27:30Meet me back there very soon. Okay?
27:34Go back guys
27:36That's what it's like being married, huh? Just apologizing for nothing much. Yeah
27:41Let's come soft and sweet and normal. Let's come to focus. I yell sometimes just not nice. Okay?
27:47Okay, like just like let's take it in a sweet way, you know, I think he's doing the right thing
27:52Just tell you you still you apologize. He's tell you I'm sorry. He's tell you everything
28:00You love him I know
28:04Yeah, I
28:08Think you need to accept his story. I apologize. He's telling for his heart, you know, you need to forgive to him
28:15For him taking my side and coming me down
28:18I think like for him knows that I'm good for him knows that I'm okay totally and he sees how people treat me
28:25So he's taking my side, which is all Josh didn't and he's been nice to me and I trust him
28:30So I'm kind of feel good better
28:35And let's go to enjoy the group sweetheart
28:38Thank you. You're great
28:42Let's see what is having with that
28:54He's making nasty comments in front of everyone
29:01I
29:14Came to this therapy to actually try the last time our marriage right I actually tried to do and in the therapy sessions mom
29:21I'm like being vulnerable. I'm really trying and I and you know, I ain't talking about my feelings, but I'm doing it and I'm pushing do
29:28He's here making friends with guys he's not putting on marriage for us
29:31He's not even trying with our marriage mom and there's no love there on his side
29:36None as soon at the minute that his image was blown
29:39It's like I was like his enemy like he does he doesn't give a he's happy. He doesn't he just doesn't care
29:47She's the one telling me we're not together
29:50I
30:20Care about you
30:24Is it your mom? Yeah, can I say hi? Hey mom Jasmine wants to say hi
30:31I'm good. Listen, she's in good hands. Okay, I
30:37Know baby, but
30:39She's okay. I know that you love her. We all love Sophie, but we have seen that we are wrong and
30:48We all got Sophie's back
30:51I'm gonna she hasn't had breakfast. She hasn't eaten anything and it really concerns me
30:57So I'm gonna borrow her for you a little bit and I'm gonna try to make her like eat a little bit. Okay, I
31:06Love you. Take care my love
31:11And doing some water we're in the desert you have to stay hydrated, okay, let's go
31:18We
31:21Come to this resort to work on our marriage and we agreed that we're focusing on each other and that
31:26You know, we wanted to build trust wanted to actually give this a go
31:29So for him to still just be talking to all these other girls and then get a dating app
31:33it's like it just feels like
31:34How are we ever supposed to work on our marriage if you just are never gonna be accountable for anything?
31:41Please okay, everything is gonna be okay. Let's go
31:48All right, is everything okay
31:50It's been a hell but like being here and like everyone just rewards like the bad behavior of the narcissism. Like it's it's difficult
31:58You guys all especially Julia. You called Rob out on him and but nobody wants to call Benny out
32:06Here enough enough enough enough
32:17I
32:30Okay, guys if we can gather please we'll meet right here in front of the tents
32:37It's like a showdown
32:47If I could have the girls lined up in front men and back somewhat by your partner still
32:55The campground this morning got out of control very quickly
32:59Sophie's crying I see Natalie and complete hysterics. This is complete chaos
33:05Thankfully, I have the perfect tool for these people to
33:09Disperse this energy and have them get through it
33:17What's
33:20Happening a lot of the time is that your nervous systems are trapped and they're stuck in these cycles
33:25And you go into the stress response. So what we want to do is we want to shake it up
33:30We want to let it go. We want to break the nervous system pattern and we want to release the stress
33:36we are
33:38obviously dealing with a lot of tension a
33:41Lot of emotions right now have come up and
33:44I think what's best at this point is to allow you some space to release some of that
33:52So we're gonna do a primal energetic release for you
33:59This is our opportunity to yell if you want to yell scream if you want to scream
34:06Not at each other
34:08But just in order to move the energy through
34:11So that we can leave this camping trip
34:14With at least getting something productive out of it and letting something go
34:20No, I don't want to scream I've just been listening to people scream all day
34:26My anxiety is already at an all-time high
34:29The last exercise we need to be doing right now as a group is to be screaming into the void
34:38I invite you guys to kind of tap into yourselves here. So let's take sunglasses off
34:43Let's maybe even take bags off because you're gonna move. I don't want anything to get jostled around
34:47This is kind of a style of breath work that kind of starts from the floor up
34:51So we're gonna get the body involved. Okay, you're gonna go into this low
34:56Squat stance. So what I want you to do is you're gonna go one
35:01two
35:02three
35:03four
35:05That's your stance
35:09Your goal is to feel as though you're pushing a large ball of energy all the way across the world
35:16All the way across the world. Okay, I want you to take this from your center and push it out. So it's
35:25Make sense look like
35:32I'm just so much curious to try new things to be honest
35:38I
35:40Don't get it your vibe not your thing, huh? No like kung fu kung fu
35:54We're gonna go one two
35:57Hands in the center like you're holding a ball of energy who
36:02That way and then we're gonna go
36:08Oh, do you know do you know be careful too much power
36:38Oh
36:46Now here's the key I want you to really tap into your power here and think about what you want to be releasing here
36:54It's been a lot coming up. You've already been through a lot
36:59You deserve this
37:01To let this go to have a release to at least feel something
37:08So when we do that, right
37:23What happened
37:38I
37:51Think I'm surrounded by people that just stress me out
37:57My anxiety is already at an all-time high and I just don't want to be like
38:03Letting it all hang out
38:04Even though it's supposed to be calming like that. We're doing breathing exercises
38:08Sometimes for me the breathing has the opposite effect
38:10It can bring awareness to stress that I'm already feeling and right now. None of this is working for me
38:19Okay, let's take a break
38:21All right, what you want not enough attention. Yeah
38:31Come back in
38:34Ari she's run away. Maybe I don't know because of me. She's absence like something. I don't know the reason but
38:42my experience
38:44With like Ari, this is better
38:46Just leave it in just an hour alone
38:48Anyway, if you should better when she's come down and then we can talk to her
38:52That's that's what I have to do that like something. I
38:56Mean I have to just try to block out all these morons
39:04Oh
39:08There she comes
39:14I'm good
39:21Okay
39:23Okay, let's do the therapy Ari is everything okay? No, it's not. Okay. I
39:30I
39:31Mean today was very traumatic for me because everything Sophie's going through I went through all of that
39:37And I like I don't need other people to know about what I've been through but it's been hell
39:42But like being here and like everyone just rewards like the bad behavior or the narcissism like it's it's difficult
39:50You guys all especially Julia constantly
39:53He he's
39:55For his like a reward this behavior. You need a constant male attention, and I'm sure you see that that she does need that constantly
40:04And like you know what you you called Rob out on him and but nobody wants to call Benny out
40:11Earlier today you were there. I'm not there. I'm not there. I thought it was Brandon right there
40:16I'm not even there. I don't I don't okay. Okay enough enough enough enough enough
40:22Okay, we came here to release
40:26All we're doing is attacking each other, I mean, what is this I'm not trying to attack. I'm trying to make a point I
40:34Have no clue what she's talking about
40:38No clue who I need attention
40:42Gina
40:43No
40:44Florian no
40:46Josh no, thank you. I
40:49Mean like what she's talking about I think if she are just
40:54Disappointed with what happened with her and Benny and she take all of this anger on me
41:02You know I think maybe I should just take a break because I just the negative energy that I'm getting like
41:07From like the whole day. It's just affecting me. Hey, I understand that I definitely understand that
41:13I don't like conflict, and I've been in with someone constant conflict for five years
41:17I just need a break from conflict. I don't want to hear anyone yell. I don't want to fight with anybody
41:22I need a break from it
41:25Listen if you need to take a break by all means
41:30I'm just I can't do calm. You want to take space. Yeah, I have to do this. I want to do it. Okay. All right
41:43Nobody
41:45For so long
41:48Just can't do it anymore
41:54I'm very upset because
41:56Are you she's talking like in the past five years?
41:59You know just to have so many anger we can't talk about us like the situation
42:04Can be I want I wanted to practice the therapy because I don't want miss this opportunity. I want to love
42:12Okay, so we're ready
42:15Let's get into this
42:17feet apart
42:19Sit low
42:22Get the energy here y'all let's go
42:25close your eyes, please and
42:28Think about why you're here
42:30And think about what you want to let go of we're gonna go whoo
42:41The louder you can be the better to feel
42:44Oh
43:14Yeah
43:22This is exactly what I need right now to scream
43:27all this
43:28Frustration after all this mess with all these people fighting and yelling the whole freaking morning. This screaming is so
43:37Releasing when you scream for a purpose just to release the negative
43:43You know emotions it really works. It really works
43:48Okay, you guys this concludes and wraps up our camping trip experience here, I know a lot has happened out here
43:57We're leaving some of it behind
44:00And let's take something new back to our lives whatever that is for you. Go ahead and hold it into your heart
44:06But let's pack up. Let's go back to the resort and I'll see you guys all there
44:13Oh
44:17Here give me the back this no take this please what the poem
44:25Please take the glasses
44:32Yeah, let's do this, thank you girl power power I
44:37Feel like mystery
44:38Girls walk at the end of the day
44:44Yeah, you want to help grab that side
44:50No, no, no just fold it this way
45:08I
45:32Still tired from that camping and the donkeys having sex at night
45:39What I'd like to donkeys I don't kiss but they are white and I think that they were doing bad things at night
45:46There was a lot of craziness
45:49Definitely was a lot of craziness. I mean woke up and you know, all this stuff going down with Robin Sophie's and that was shocking
45:57People were losing their and I never had the chance
46:01To speak to you with a high no therapies
46:04You know, like I could clearly see by your body language that
46:09You were about to cry. I saw some tears and
46:14You were very sorry about
46:17Something you either said or did to me
46:21Then when Sarah asked you to participate and you
46:26Opened yourself
46:28Honestly, I don't think that that's what you were
46:32Apologizing for and you just make it up and even Florian second me on that. I
46:41want us
46:43to be honest
46:49What was it
46:58All right, I'll tell you I'll tell you
47:02I
47:18Next time on 90 day the last resort I
47:22Want to have an open marriage and I found a person
47:27Can we call him?
47:29Okay, I'm so nervous
47:31Are you doing I'm good take off your shirt
47:39You you can die for Jasmine I would you die for her
47:44Will you not die for her to sleep with her? Because I've yeah
47:48You think you'd like you so special
47:54Stays everything goes. Okay. Um
47:57Darcy's here. What?
48:01Because we need deep therapy between the three of us a lot of the issues that floor and I are having like Darcy is the
48:07key
48:08Factor here. I look the same. Yeah
48:12How you doing yeah, well we're here to work on our issues so
48:16Darcy asked this for him before who is more important Darcy or Stacy. I mean he should obviously
48:23Choose his wife, you know, but I couldn't pick up one. There's a little bit down there sometimes
48:30You know what? You know, I just I'm gonna go home