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Lucio Buffalmano is a sociologist and a world expert on power dynamics, strategies, and men's self-development.
In 2016, Lucio founded ThePowerMoves.com to help good men empower themselves, achieve their goals, and win at life.
Today, it’s the world's most popular website on power and strategies.
https://thepowermoves.com/
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00:00Don't do this or you will piss off your mentor and never learn anything
00:04The dude sent emails. I don't get shit, you know, like, you know, it's like I'm not gonna sell you one
00:07I don't care do what the fuck you want
00:08Hi guys
00:09We are going to review an interesting interaction between Alex Ormosi who was teaching people and one of his student who pissed him off
00:17It's gonna be very funny and also hopefully very instructive. Let's start
00:22Which is what I was gonna say. It's funny he didn't mention about what like you guys get out of those interviews
00:27So notice it says like I mentioned from a power dynamics point of view
00:32Like I mentioned puts him at the same level as Alex Ormosi like the two of them are having a one-to-one conversation
00:39however
00:39If you are there to learn if you want to keep somebody as a mentor or if you want to keep a good relationship
00:45With your boss
00:46You should respect the fact that they are higher status than you have and they have more knowledge than you have in case of mentors
00:54They are higher status because they have higher knowledge. It is good for you to treat them as higher status
01:00So that they keep teaching you they win
01:03They feel better you win because you learn and you grow a little small detail
01:08but small details add up and make the difference also because they stem from a different mindset and a different way of
01:14Seeing the world with the correct power dynamics lenses. Let's keep going
01:21Obviously for you guys it's like very limited now
01:23But for me, like what I do, like I love companies and I trust them. I've got like 15 messages, 10 emails from companies asking me to help them
01:30This is another mistake that we will see a lot from him. Look, it's a room full of people
01:35however
01:35He monopolizes the conversation if you notice older people are getting bored and that is not good for you as the student
01:43because you are losing rapport with the other students
01:47But even worse is not good for the teacher because the teacher doesn't want to have a single person to monopolize the conversation
01:54So watch out when you start talking a little bit too much in your mind. You should be start thinking cut it out
02:01This is another common mistake. He is giving too many details. One lady said who cares. These are successful people, successful entrepreneurs
02:08Yes, sometimes you want to tell one story if it's very relevant
02:12However, usually you want to avoid because you don't want to overload with too many details
02:18It was a very good question. I think it's a very good question. I think it's a very good question
02:23I think it's a very good question. I think it's a very good question. I think it's a very good question
02:27Avoid because you don't want to overload with too many details
02:30Yeah, it is funny and pretty cool if you're shooting the shit with your friends in this room in this environment cut it out
02:41It's funny because I've got a lot of trust issues from that one thing. It's like the first bit of line I've ever even got in terms of that
02:47Trust issues, a little bit too emotional talk, feels a little bit too feminine
02:53These are the things that nobody says but in a room full of alpha males, high achieving, driven men
02:59Don't talk too much about makes me feel how I feel blah blah blah
03:03I can see the impact that it does have
03:08I mean, I'm in favor, just to be clear, I'm in favor of everybody making content because one, it brings you customers
03:13But in the beginning, the most important thing it does is it converts other customers
03:16So if you're doing outbound, your outbound will be more effective if you have just even
03:21So now Alex or Mosey is explaining, making good points as he usually does
03:25What you usually do in these cases is to not say, yeah, that makes sense, take your notes
03:30And then ask questions that are relevant to you so that you can learn from it
03:35They'll look you up, they'll watch it, they'll be like, oh, this guy's
03:37What you don't want to do is to keep talking as if you were at the same level as he is or even worse, to contradict him
03:44Content keeps making you money just like SEO keeps making you money
03:47Like as long as the content is still there and you have the following, it will continue to compound in time, it just takes longer
03:51Don't get me wrong, what does that suggest? It suggests you got me wrong
03:58Again, it's not the type of talk you want to have with somebody that you want to treat as higher status than you are
04:04And again, he's taking too much time from the whole group
04:08I say that to people that I work with, for them to always have good socials and good employees and all that stuff
04:12But my other companies have you socially at a very basic level, just basically having you there for what you said when they look you up
04:19My other company is like, bro, you are there for your main company, don't divert too much
04:27This business, I didn't have anything that would lead to scale as fast as possible to get my seat here
04:31So we just churned emails
04:34He's contradicting Alex because he's saying we didn't do content like you suggested, we did this other thing
04:40You want to be careful with that because for the teacher, it's always important that he keeps a high status with everybody in the room
04:49Otherwise he loses his ability to influence, he loses his ability to command control of the room
04:54And don't forget, this is recorded, it's crucial for him to show that people respect his authority and expertise
05:01He cannot have this random guy walk in and talk to him one-on-one and contradict him
05:11And by the way, maximum respect for that guy, he seems like a very good guy
05:15The reason I'm saying this is because I want other good guys not to make these mistakes, right?
05:32To accomplish the conversion objective, very little content has to go out
05:35You just have to have stuff that's on there that shows that you're active, you're a real person and that you have game
05:40See, the question he asked again was too long
05:43His question was, why should I need the trust?
05:47Four, five words, how many did I say? That's all he had to ask
05:51Why is it so important for me to have trust? Is it really important? Done with your question
05:56He didn't need all the long detour
06:00So just put your best stuff out there, rather than thinking like, what's my cadence and all that stuff
06:03It's like, make sure you get one or two posts a week up on whatever your one or two major platforms are
06:07Like not a huge lift
06:12Oh man, again, now he's starting in one of his too long runs
06:22He thinks he's funny because in his mind, this is more like a one-to-one conversation
06:27But this is not the time and place to have the kind of, we're sitting in a bar just chatting and having a good time
06:36And now you can see that Alex Ormosi is getting annoyed by this
06:46Exactly, he was resisting his influence
06:49It's like, oh no, but why should I do that? Do I really need to do that? I was doing this other thing
06:54And now Alex Ormosi is forced to push back a little bit stronger
07:03This is a counter-attack now
07:05He was annoyed that he was being put on the spot, treated not like the teacher who he is
07:10And so now he asks, why aren't you sending to?
07:13This is also a power move, but it was a called-for power move
07:23And again, he goes in too long with an explanation
07:33Now this has been going on for several minutes
07:35Look how many people are around the room that are not paying too much attention because they don't care
07:41He's losing social status and goodwill in that room by talking for so long and saying so little
07:48And antagonizing, slightly antagonizing the teacher, but it's still meaningful
07:54New countries, new...
07:57Yeah, so right now, I have a few league endorsers that will go and pay for these
08:02And then...
08:03One guy is leaving
08:04That wasn't even out before, we now have board maintenance
08:07Now we just do the board maintenance for 49k
08:09Too many details again
08:11I have contacts in two other countries that kind of run out
08:16Now he's cutting him off
08:17Why did he say you sound like you're good?
08:19Because he's getting tired of this long conversation, so now he wants to cut it off
08:31No, you don't want to do that, don't do that
08:36See, this is how an alpha male thinks and behaves
08:40Don't dilly-dally, I could do this, I could do that
08:43I didn't do it, I did this other thing
08:45Keep it short and simple
08:49You're opposing whatever I say either way
08:51Exactly
08:52You know what I'm saying?
08:55And now he makes another mistake, he goes again on another long rant
09:11Man, this was for him the most important lesson in that meeting
09:15If he was able to learn the lesson
09:17You're just to sit with high-level entrepreneurs
09:20You don't just need good entrepreneurship skill
09:23You need good social and power skills
09:34Now that he's saying awesome, that's his way of saying the conversation is closed
09:38He doesn't want to hand it on a negative, so to do it in a positive he says good, awesome, rock on
09:44If you're a leader, that's a fantastic way to end a conversation quickly
09:48High power without antagonizing
09:51High power, high warmth
09:52You say good, awesome, rock on, mate
09:55And then you keep going
09:56Awesome, love it
10:00Alright, I hope you learned something from these guys
10:03And I'll see you the next time
10:04Ciao, ciao, cheers