How to help your family practice Islam? - Q&A With Nouman Ali Khan
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00:24So I actually have two questions, I hope that's okay.
00:28One is how to make your spouse and family practice Islam?
00:31For example, now they are doing drugs, not praying, not fasting.
00:35So what can you do except of praying for them?
00:38Like how to advise them?
00:45So you can't control people and you can't change people.
00:51It's not up to us to change people.
00:54But sometimes, in my opinion, the problem isn't spiritual, the problem is something
01:01else.
01:02Like what led a person to drugs?
01:05What made them go there?
01:08People go towards these dark things because something difficult has happened to them,
01:12right?
01:13And maybe helping them process that would be the first step before we start talking
01:17to them about you should pray or you should, you know, you see what I'm saying?
01:21And sometimes if you, especially their family, you try to talk to them about Islam, they
01:25will start saying, well, you're preaching again.
01:27Yes.
01:28Right?
01:29You'll make the problem worse.
01:30So maybe humanizing the situation first would be a really important first step.
01:35Okay.
01:37You're welcome.
01:38And question two is about the letter of law and spirit of law.
01:40Yeah.
01:41I understand what happens when you focus only on the letter of law.
01:44Like for example, you pray on time, but you are distracted, but what if we only focus
01:48on the spirit of law?
01:50Like what happens then?
01:51You have no practice of the law left.
01:53You say you don't even need the letter.
01:55You have the spirit anyway.
01:56So some people can say, I don't need to pray five times because I'm spiritually connected
01:59to God anyway.
02:00If the point of prayer is to remember God, I do that anyway.
02:04So why do I need the five prayers?
02:05And I sometimes I got the question from non-Muslims, what's the problem in that?
02:10Like what's the problem?
02:13The problem in that is that we think that we have the full definition of what it means
02:19to be good.
02:21Okay.
02:22So the atheist or the non-religious person will say, I don't lie.
02:25I don't cheat.
02:26I don't steal.
02:27That's what good is.
02:29And the thing is, there are in some, in some things, Allah has equipped all human beings
02:33to distinguish between good and evil.
02:36All human beings.
02:37So we all know lying is bad.
02:38We all know stealing is bad, right?
02:39It doesn't matter what culture you come from or you have a religion or no religion, it's
02:43the same.
02:44But there are certain areas of fairness and unfairness and good and evil that human beings
02:51can never figure out.
02:53What is the right balance between men and women, for example?
02:56Is there a balance between my body and my soul, for example?
02:59Do I even know what that is?
03:02That's not something we could figure out ourselves.
03:05So Allah will give us the letter where the spirit alone isn't enough.
03:12You understand?
03:13Okay.
03:14Thank you very much.
03:15You're welcome.
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