Marriage, Careers & Dealing With Societal Pressure _ Q&A with Nouman Ali Khan
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00:00But when you start thinking my life is ruined if I don't get married or if you know
00:04And then you start to keep becoming desperate then you're going to make a desperate decision and that decision will create even bigger problems
00:11Any questions anybody? MashaAllah. Thank you for coming everyone. Yes, of course
00:41Because you know life has been like difficult. So like the jobs and the parents and everything is life and the pressure to get married for the sake of you know to make a sense. And how to deal with that because life is such you know
00:59You know Allah says
01:03We created the human being in difficulty. So your difficulties were designed for you. My difficulties were designed for me. Right? And Allah would not give us those if we couldn't handle it.
01:19So the question isn't how to deal with it. It's how do you do the right thing even when you're under pressure?
01:27And like for example you said the pressure to get married. Okay well that pressure actually if you look at it in the grand scheme of things is meaningless.
01:38It's meaningless. Why? Because when the right person you have to get married to will come along then you'll get married. If not it's okay.
01:49Alhamdulillah. But when you start thinking my life is ruined if I don't get married or if you know and then you start becoming desperate then you're going to make a desperate decision.
01:58And that decision will create even bigger problems. Right? So you just have to trust in the rizq of Allah and not live, not get anxiety over one thing that is not happening or another thing that is not happening.
02:14وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُمْ أَخْرَجًا Just do the right thing. Allah will make open doors. Allah will open doors.
02:20But you know sometimes people say oh you're getting old so you have to get married. This proposal came. But he doesn't have one eye. Why should I get married?
02:27No but it's better than nothing. But that's not your choice. You shouldn't make a choice because of desperation.
02:36You know?
02:50We'll talk about that. That's coming. That one's coming. Yeah I'll talk about that inshallah.
03:06Everything is a test in this life. No. You know like Yusuf is in jail. I'm sorry. Yusuf is in jail. Is that a punishment? No. Ibrahim is kicked out of his house.
03:21Allah never punishes.
03:22He does but for special things. Like Allah for example mentions people who humiliate others or spread rumors about others that they get cursed in this life and the next life for example.
03:35So there are some things Allah mentions that they might get punished in this life for. But generally speaking things we go through are not punishments. They're just trials.