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00:00If you suddenly want to get married to a French woman, you have to think again.
00:04There's a law in France.
00:07If a woman gets married, after she gives birth, she can't cook.
00:12She can't take care of the baby. She has to have a maid.
00:16Don't expect that.
00:17There's another law.
00:18A woman can slap her husband.
00:21That's funny.
00:22Her husband.
00:23Because her husband doesn't want to take care of the baby.
00:25He doesn't want to cook.
00:26He doesn't want to do the laundry. He can slap him.
00:31Hi, welcome to Pompuan, a podcast for women only.
00:37I'm Alia, the host of Pompuan.
00:39For this second episode, I forgot to brief you first.
00:45Pompuan is a podcast where we'll talk about issues in our lives.
00:52But, I want to know from a woman's perspective.
00:57So, can I...
00:58Not yet.
00:59Not yet?
01:00Not yet.
01:01Today, we have a hot singer.
01:05A singer who represents Malaysia in the Performing Arts Championship.
01:10She Pandora.
01:12Hi, guys.
01:13Peace be upon you.
01:14Thank you, Alia, for inviting me.
01:16How are you?
01:17Alhamdulillah.
01:18I'm good.
01:19Do you have any plans for the future?
01:24Right now, I'm working on a full album.
01:29After Raya, she'll release a single.
01:32I'm about to break through my previous single.
01:37I'll bring a new concept.
01:42She Pandora's solo.
01:44As you know, I'm from the band.
01:47Right now, I'm a solo.
01:49She Pandora will release a general rock alternative.
01:54Yes.
01:56If Allah wills it, pray for me.
01:58Can I ask you to sing a little?
02:02This song is about us as human beings.
02:07When we are in a situation...
02:12...and we're with someone...
02:14...or anything else, I'll make it general.
02:16But, when we're with all of that, we don't appreciate it.
02:20But, when it's gone, we can't move on.
02:24We regret what we did in the past.
02:28We don't appreciate what was sold.
02:30Now, it's gone.
02:31The title of the song is Egoist.
02:54I never want to hear...
02:59...what's in your heart...
03:03...until you want to go away...
03:10...and leave me.
03:17Oh, I admit...
03:21...we broke up...
03:24...because I never...
03:28...tried to make you come back.
03:32I'm too egoistic.
03:36Now, you're happy...
03:40...with him.
03:43I'm the only one who's suffering.
03:50Alright.
03:52This is my first time singing this song.
03:54Congratulations, guys.
03:56Thank you.
03:57Is this your first time listening to this song?
03:59Yes.
04:00Is this your first time listening to this song?
04:01This is a premiere.
04:03I'm the sponsor.
04:04Yes.
04:05Before we start with today's topic,...
04:09...you know Curious Cat on Ads, right?
04:11Curious Cat on Ads.
04:12It's like a message from anonymous ads.
04:16I understand.
04:17It's like when we ask a question,...
04:20...people will send their problems to us.
04:24But, what's the name?
04:25Anonymous.
04:26Okay.
04:27So, today's topic is about 50-50 marriage.
04:3250-50 marriage.
04:33It's like...
04:34...is this marriage...
04:36...only for men or for both?
04:39Alright.
04:40Okay?
04:41Let's continue with the first Curious Cat.
04:44I'm the only child.
04:46I have a house and a car.
04:48It's all from my parents.
04:49Alright.
04:50My parents give me everything I want and need.
04:53Okay.
04:54My boyfriend and I just discussed about getting married.
04:57Okay.
04:58But, my boyfriend decided to stay at my house after we got married.
05:01I think it's a turn-off...
05:02...because he's supposed to provide a house for both of us.
05:05Okay.
05:06Why do I want to stay at my house?
05:08Now that we've had a fight,...
05:10...should I just let him stay at my house...
05:13...or force him to provide for me?
05:16Okay.
05:17Wait.
05:18I'm not married yet.
05:21So, I don't know...
05:22...the point of view of someone who's already married.
05:25Okay.
05:26So, I have my own opinion.
05:28Maybe my opinion is that I'm immature.
05:31If I think about it,...
05:33...since I'm not married yet,...
05:35...I think a man should provide for me.
05:38But, I don't know about the perspective of someone who's already married.
05:41What do you think?
05:42If I were to share my opinion.
05:43Okay.
05:44If I were to share my point of view.
05:47What do you think?
05:48Can I share my point of view?
05:50Sure.
05:51Sure? Okay.
05:52Alright.
05:53In Islam,...
05:55...it's written in the Quran...
05:57...that a man,...
06:00...I mean like a husband,...
06:01...when you get married,...
06:02...a husband should provide a home.
06:05A home.
06:06Not really a house.
06:07There should be a house.
06:08It doesn't matter if it's bought or rented.
06:10One.
06:11One.
06:15You know?
06:17One.
06:22One.
06:24Okay.
06:25One.
06:27It's a common thing.
06:29Everyone knows about it.
06:30Women know about it.
06:31And a man who's ready to get married...
06:36...should be aware of it.
06:38He should be aware of it.
06:40That's my point of view.
06:41I don't want to set a man against a woman.
06:44That's right.
06:45Because I'm a woman.
06:46A man should support us.
06:48No, no, no.
06:49Because it's been like this since we were kids.
06:52Our parents taught us the same thing.
06:54And in Islam, it's the same thing.
06:56So, we shouldn't go against nature.
06:59That's my point of view.
07:00Don't go against nature.
07:01That's right.
07:02Because when a woman gets married,...
07:04...like just now,...
07:06...her husband might have a day job.
07:11He might get married or whatever.
07:14And this man must have a job, right?
07:16That's right.
07:17So, if she doesn't marry this man,...
07:19...she might marry another man, right?
07:21And when a man wants to get married,...
07:23...he should understand that it's a commitment.
07:26He wants to commit.
07:27So, he should be committed.
07:29Because, after all,...
07:32...when a man gets married to a woman's child,...
07:36...he has taken the woman's child from his father.
07:40So, if he didn't marry that woman,...
07:42...his father can still take care of her.
07:44That's right.
07:45Because a woman's child is still her father's responsibility...
07:49...as long as she's not married.
07:51But when she's married to her father,...
07:53...she becomes her husband's responsibility.
07:57Everything.
07:58Her father's role.
08:00Her husband has to take care of her.
08:02He has to take care of her.
08:03That's right.
08:04That's why we have a wedding, right?
08:07So, that's the situation.
08:09If it's her boyfriend,...
08:12...maybe he can slow talk her.
08:14Maybe she's still young.
08:17So, she can't do it yet.
08:19It's okay.
08:21Let's start somewhere.
08:22Maybe she can learn first.
08:24I want to learn from the point of view of...
08:26...a married couple.
08:28Gain some knowledge.
08:30Gain some knowledge before getting married.
08:32Because marriage is a big deal.
08:34That's my point of view.
08:37But men nowadays talk a lot about the economy.
08:41They can't support themselves.
08:43That's right.
08:44Because they use that as an excuse.
08:45That's right.
08:46This is for me.
08:47Sorry.
08:48This is for me.
08:50There are married couples who...
08:53...before getting married,...
08:57...they have their own jobs.
09:01They have their own salaries.
09:04That's right.
09:05When we want to get married,...
09:08...we have to be transparent, right?
09:11She knows that her husband works like this.
09:14Her wife works like this.
09:16So, we have to discuss it.
09:20When we get married,...
09:22...you have to pay for your husband's house.
09:25I have to pay for the car.
09:26We have to understand each other.
09:28We can discuss it.
09:29There's no problem.
09:31But we have to agree on that.
09:35Because, of course, as a woman,...
09:38...before I get married,...
09:39...I have to understand my husband.
09:41Let's say my husband says that I have a higher salary.
09:43My husband says that I have a lower salary.
09:45But I don't mind.
09:46I want to marry him.
09:48I don't care.
09:49Because I work.
09:50I can find my own money.
09:51I don't care.
09:52But when it comes to my husband's house,...
09:55...I have to...
09:57...prepare it.
09:58I have to pay for the house.
10:00But we can discuss it.
10:02You can pay for the bills.
10:04Yes.
10:05We can do that.
10:06There has to be a discussion.
10:08You have to discuss about this.
10:10Make sure, like me,...
10:12...I have my tips.
10:14My advice.
10:15Before you go through...
10:17...the actual marriage,...
10:19...you have to discuss it.
10:21Discuss it.
10:22Be transparent.
10:23Agree on it.
10:25If you have to make an agreement,...
10:27...you have to go to the Commissioner of Oath.
10:28You have to sign it.
10:29That's right.
10:30Before you get married,...
10:32...at least you have to agree on it.
10:35Agree on this.
10:36Be professional.
10:37When it comes to husband and wife,...
10:38...you have to listen to me.
10:41Because he's the husband.
10:42He has his door.
10:43No.
10:44When it comes to economy,...
10:46...usually it's the husband.
10:47Right?
10:48It's the husband.
10:49But when it comes to marriage,...
10:52...we have to see...
10:54...how they want their marriage to be.
10:58But...
10:59...what do they say?
11:01Husband's money.
11:02Wife's money.
11:03Wife's money.
11:04When we talk about it,...
11:05...we don't just scroll on Instagram.
11:07Yes.
11:08A lot.
11:09No.
11:10I think it's true.
11:12It's written in the Quran.
11:14Yes.
11:15That's why.
11:16To get married, we have to study first.
11:18We have to study the religion first.
11:20You have to care.
11:21So, it's not about...
11:23...whether I want to give more to the woman or not.
11:26I care about...
11:28...both genders.
11:30The man and the woman matter.
11:31Then, there will be a marriage.
11:33Right?
11:34So, as a wife,...
11:37...you have to...
11:39...study it.
11:41You have to know your husband's rights.
11:43You have to know your wife's rights.
11:46Then, everything will be fine.
11:48That's right.
11:49But, what if...
11:51...there's a case...
11:52...before marriage...
11:53...but their finances...
11:55...don't match.
11:57They don't match.
11:58Okay.
11:59Do you think they should get married?
12:01But they want to.
12:02Okay.
12:03As I mentioned before,...
12:07...the man and the woman have to discuss.
12:11They have to discuss.
12:12They have to discuss.
12:14I want to marry you.
12:15I really love you.
12:16I want to be with you.
12:17I see you as my husband.
12:19But, I know that...
12:21...the woman has to understand that...
12:24...she wants to marry this guy.
12:26This guy pays her a little.
12:28You have to accept it.
12:29You have to accept it because...
12:30...you paid her a lot of money before.
12:32That's right.
12:33But, our lives will change.
12:36Don't look at it now.
12:37Our lives will change.
12:38As time goes by,...
12:40...we might get promoted.
12:44That's right.
12:45We don't have our own livelihood.
12:47So, we have to be hopeful.
12:50That's all.
12:51That's how it is.
12:52Okay.
12:53Next.
12:54You're the cat.
12:55Let's go.
12:56I work in a company with a high position.
12:59This is like our story.
13:00Yes.
13:01Did I rap just now?
13:02Yes.
13:03It's okay.
13:04I'm a freelance photographer.
13:07Obviously, my salary is higher.
13:09As soon as he found out that...
13:11...I have a higher salary than him,...
13:12...he asked me to borrow money...
13:14...to go to work.
13:17It used to be once in a while.
13:18Now, it happens every month.
13:20It's like I'm the one who gives him money.
13:22When I confronted him,...
13:23...he said that he doesn't have money...
13:24...and I don't understand him.
13:25It hurts me to see him...
13:27...buying random things.
13:29It's so spicy.
13:32Spicy.
13:34I heard that it's hot.
13:36I'm scared.
13:37It's hot.
13:38He knows how much I earn.
13:41But, it's a different situation.
13:44It's a different situation.
13:46He knows how much I earn...
13:49...and he uses it.
13:52There's a saying.
13:53No offense, Mr. Husband.
13:55You're taking advantage.
13:57You're taking advantage...
13:59...of your good wife.
14:03For me, in this case,...
14:07...it's the same.
14:08You have to talk to him.
14:10You have to talk to him...
14:11...about how long...
14:13...this will go on.
14:15You can't divorce...
14:17...just because of one error.
14:19You have to think about your children.
14:21We're not just married.
14:23We have a family.
14:24We have in-laws.
14:26Talk about this.
14:28I'll ask you.
14:30For how long...
14:31...do you want this?
14:33Okay, I understand.
14:34I'll give you six months...
14:37...or three months.
14:38I'll help you.
14:39I'll help you.
14:40But, you have to give me a timeline...
14:42...of when you won't borrow again...
14:45...and you'll pay me back.
14:48After all, I'm your wife.
14:50You have to provide for me.
14:51Am I right?
14:52You can seek for advice...
14:55...from that husband.
14:57Maybe when he's married for a long time...
14:59...he'll get lost.
15:00He'll get lost for a while...
15:02...because he works outside...
15:04...and hangs out with his friends.
15:06Maybe his friends are young...
15:08...or just starting out.
15:10Maybe he can seek for advice.
15:11For advice, what I mean is...
15:13...you can go to Sharia...
15:15...or look for someone...
15:17...whether it's Ustaz or Sazah.
15:19Let them both understand.
15:20Maybe you can ask your husband...
15:22...if you want to hang out...
15:25...or learn about religion.
15:27You can tell him...
15:29...that Ustaz is a good person...
15:31...and he'll tell you this and that.
15:33Maybe there's something...
15:35...you don't understand.
15:36You can ask Ustaz.
15:37Maybe you can become...
15:38...a well-educated husband.
15:40We can do that.
15:42We can discuss that.
15:44But, in this situation...
15:46...he's already confronted you.
15:48He's already confronted you.
15:49But, that man is angry with him...
15:50...because he said...
15:51...you don't understand me?
15:53You can't understand me?
15:54What should I do?
15:55Okay.
15:56It's like a guess.
15:58A guess.
15:59A guess means...
16:02...actually, when he...
16:05...of course, men have egos.
16:06True.
16:07Even though he borrowed money from us.
16:08But, all of a sudden...
16:09...he's like an old man.
16:10You know what I mean?
16:11That's normal.
16:12It's normal, right?
16:13Not only men, but also women.
16:14Okay, I'm sorry.
16:15But, like me...
16:17...when he's like that...
16:19...you've confronted him.
16:22He's like that.
16:23We humans have...
16:25...a time when we don't listen.
16:28Once you've said it, it doesn't work.
16:30The second time you said it, it doesn't work.
16:32The third time you said it, it doesn't work.
16:35I know what you're thinking.
16:37You can feel what you should do.
16:39That's all.
16:40Why?
16:41I'm not in your phone.
16:43Yes.
16:44Maybe if you want to go to court...
16:47...it's not for divorce.
16:49It's not for divorce, right?
16:50Yes.
16:51It's not just for divorce.
16:52In court, there's free consultancy.
16:55You can go to the consultant...
16:57...and bring your husband.
16:59That's what I said earlier.
17:00Maybe you can bring your husband to meet the ustaz...
17:02...or the judge...
17:04...to seek advice.
17:06Like this.
17:07Maybe there's an awareness.
17:09We don't know, right?
17:10Maybe he's talking to you...
17:12...and he's looking at you like he doesn't want to listen.
17:14But, if he's meeting someone who's more experienced...
17:17...maybe he'll be more awake.
17:20We don't know.
17:21Let's try that first.
17:22But still, if you go there...
17:24...and he still doesn't listen...
17:27...I don't know.
17:28Maybe you can go to his family...
17:30...or his parents...
17:32...and ask for advice.
17:33At least, let's try.
17:34Let's try until you feel like...
17:37...he's beating you up.
17:39If you think you're okay with this...
17:42...he won't give you mental torture...
17:45...because right now, mental health is very important...
17:48...among women.
17:49Because women have a lot of roles in their lives.
17:52So, whatever it is...
17:53...you have to think about your mental health first.
17:55Your mental health is important.
17:57Then, you can give to others.
17:59Give to your other commitments.
18:01You have to take care of your mental health.
18:03If you think you can't...
18:04...take some time.
18:05Take some time.
18:06Give yourself a space to think.
18:08Or whatever.
18:10You know, you do you.
18:11You try to seek advice or whatever.
18:14It's normal for people to borrow money.
18:17When they borrow money for the first time...
18:19...they feel like it's their second time.
18:21They'll get used to it.
18:23Maybe it's become a habit.
18:26So, when it becomes a habit...
18:28...you have to play a role.
18:33For example...
18:35...let's say your salary is higher...
18:38...and he always borrows money from you.
18:40Let's say he's your husband.
18:42You're his wife now.
18:44You're the head of the house.
18:46You're the head of the family.
18:48So, you have to make a decision.
18:50You have to take him to meet the Ustaz.
18:52You have to do it.
18:53You have to do it.
18:54Because he's the one who gives you money.
18:56Of course, you have to pay for everything.
19:00So, you have to do it.
19:01At least, you have to tell him...
19:03...that you're still in love with him.
19:08I still love you.
19:09I still love our marriage.
19:10So, can you listen to me this time?
19:12Let's go to Indonesia for advice.
19:14Can we meet someone...
19:16...and try to save our marriage?
19:18So that you and I will be okay.
19:20So that we won't have this problem.
19:22Because I've started it.
19:23But it has triggered me.
19:25I feel uncomfortable.
19:27But it's okay.
19:29Try it.
19:30Seek more help.
19:32Try it.
19:33Communication is the key.
19:35Communication is the key.
19:36Always.
19:38I'm not married yet.
19:40So, I don't know.
19:41How much income should a husband give to his wife?
19:43Okay.
19:44Usually, people say...
19:47...the income...
19:49I'm not sure.
19:51I don't know how many percent of salary.
19:54I've never heard of it.
19:56Based on salary.
19:57Based on salary.
19:58Based on his salary.
19:59It should be enough.
20:01People say...
20:03In the list, there are items.
20:05Let's call it items.
20:06Checklist.
20:07Okay.
20:08Make a checklist.
20:09House.
20:11It should be him.
20:12House.
20:13It doesn't matter what house it is.
20:15Okay.
20:16Check.
20:17It's not about groceries.
20:19No.
20:20Wife only.
20:21It's a big thing.
20:22It's for wife only.
20:23Wife only.
20:24My dear.
20:25Wife.
20:26It's a wife.
20:27It's in the grammar.
20:29It's in the grammar.
20:30It's in the grammar.
20:31It's in the grammar.
20:32Rarely...
20:33Husbands follow it now.
20:35Rarely.
20:36It's crazy.
20:37But you have to understand.
20:38It's between.
20:39It's on both sides.
20:40Okay.
20:41Like I said.
20:42The major is house.
20:43House for sure.
20:44Sometimes, husband has a car.
20:45Wife has a car.
20:46Okay.
20:47I'll pay.
20:48You pay.
20:49Okay.
20:50For example.
20:51Wife's needs.
20:52Don't just focus on her.
20:54You have to take care of Zahir.
20:55You want to see Zahir beautiful.
20:57You want to see him change his clothes.
20:59You have to give him shopping.
21:01You know.
21:02Right.
21:03For his skincare.
21:04You know.
21:05Vitamins.
21:06You have to give.
21:07If you look at the Quran.
21:09If you look at the Ustazah.
21:11They always give instructions.
21:13Look at what they say.
21:14Look.
21:15Medicines.
21:16Vitamins for him.
21:17For his health.
21:19For his well-being.
21:20For example.
21:21For his beauty.
21:22You have to provide.
21:23I'm so sorry.
21:24Husband.
21:25Husband.
21:26You actually have to provide.
21:28Right.
21:29But it depends.
21:30If your salary is not high.
21:31It's okay.
21:32Skincare that is as good as possible.
21:33Advance.
21:34Not.
21:35Just discuss it.
21:36Just buy it at the drugstore.
21:37Buy it at the drugstore.
21:38Okay.
21:39My dear.
21:40I bought this.
21:41Later if I have a big salary.
21:42I.
21:43You wear.
21:44You wear a brand that is cheap.
21:45Yes.
21:46Tell him that.
21:47He might be okay.
21:48At least you have the initiative.
21:49Want to give it to him.
21:50Right.
21:51You know.
21:52And then.
21:53That's just that.
21:54Skincare.
21:55As far as I know.
21:56Skincare.
21:57His health.
21:58Vitamins.
21:59Everything.
22:00His clothes.
22:01His clothes.
22:02You have to provide.
22:03Women know.
22:04Not wearing clothes.
22:05Just outside.
22:06Inside.
22:07All of that has to be provided.
22:08Actually.
22:09I'm so sorry.
22:10Actually.
22:11This thing.
22:12A lot of people have missed it.
22:13Right.
22:14Not missed.
22:15They don't want to follow that thing.
22:16They choose not to follow.
22:17Yes.
22:18That's it.
22:19That is why.
22:20That is why.
22:21Why do you know?
22:22That is why.
22:23Why do you feel like.
22:24Why is my wife.
22:25Back then.
22:26When you cook.
22:27Like a bear.
22:28Now.
22:29I have my face.
22:30All of a sudden.
22:31All of a sudden.
22:32There is a surprise bouquet.
22:33A surprise chocolate.
22:34All of a sudden.
22:35You get paid.
22:36You want to spend it like that.
22:37After she gets married.
22:38She has given you children.
22:39She has raised your children.
22:40She takes care of your house.
22:41Everything.
22:42She took care of it.
22:43Not only her house.
22:44Sometimes they use BBN.
22:45Stairs.
22:46She has taken care of it.
22:47She has devoted her life.
22:48For you.
22:49Do you understand?
22:50Oh my God.
22:51You are correct.
22:52You don't want to do that.
22:53I'm so sad.
22:54To.
22:55To say this.
22:56Because.
22:57This is the reality right now.
22:58It's a sad thing
23:00Even though
23:02Wives don't want
23:04Expensive things
23:06They look at your salary
23:08It's not like your salary is $2000 per month
23:10Then your wife asks
23:12Can I name a brand?
23:14She wants to take you to Sephora once a month
23:16Of course Koya
23:18Or go to PAV
23:20Or buy a handbag
23:22That's not right
23:24Then you ask
23:26Do you have more vitamins?
23:30From what I've heard
23:32There's an ustad who said
23:34Once a year
23:36You have to change your wife's clothes
23:38Once a year
23:40Yes
23:42It's true
23:44But it depends on how much you want to buy
23:46One more thing
23:48Her skincare
23:50You have to buy it
23:52Makeup
23:54It's her need as a wife
23:56That's right
23:58Because she's busy taking care of her
24:00Heart
24:02I'm confused
24:04Heart
24:06Heart
24:08If you're busy
24:10Taking care of your wife's heart
24:12Your wife's heart
24:14Is here
24:16A happy marriage
24:18Have you heard of it?
24:20A happy wife, a happy marriage
24:22A lot of men
24:24Don't throw it away
24:26That's why I made an ego song
24:28Why did I make an ego song?
24:32Because
24:34A lot of my friends
24:36Used to
24:38Divorce
24:40How sad it is
24:42They used to be happy
24:44In front of our eyes
24:46Now they're divorced
24:48They're divorced
24:50The wife
24:52Has a wonderful life
24:54A wonderful marriage
24:56But God knows what's going on
24:58What's happening
25:00The husband is not very nice
25:02Not very understanding
25:04He's being tortured
25:06Until
25:08Suddenly
25:10She had a panic attack
25:12It happened
25:14Since she married her husband
25:16She had an anxiety disorder
25:18Then she had a depression
25:22She couldn't be depressed
25:24She had pimples
25:26She couldn't lose weight
25:28She was getting bigger
25:30You said you didn't care about their emotions
25:32That's right
25:34Then you looked for someone else
25:36But you couldn't take care of her
25:38It was unfair
25:40You couldn't do that
25:42You married her at this age
25:44Then she got bigger
25:46You couldn't take care of her
25:48She couldn't lose weight
25:50She was depressed
25:52She had a hormonal imbalance
25:54Emotions are important
25:56You have to take care of her
25:58That's all
26:00I don't like when men say
26:02My wife is
26:04Ugly
26:06Like
26:08She's not pretty
26:10She's not pretty
26:12But it's her fault
26:14She didn't do her makeup
26:16Skincare
26:18I watched a movie
26:20It's a Thai movie
26:22I just want to share it with you
26:24You guys
26:26It's about women
26:28It's about men
26:30You can share it
26:32With your friends
26:34It's about
26:36Her husband and wife
26:38Her husband
26:40Treats her wife badly
26:42It's not good
26:44He always comes home late
26:46Her wife
26:48I'll get to the point
26:50She's been married for a long time
26:52She has kids
26:54She takes care of everything
26:56She works
26:58She does online business
27:00Her husband
27:02He's a little bit late
27:04He's an OT
27:06Of course
27:08He's an OT
27:10He doesn't pay
27:12So
27:14Her wife
27:16She tried everything
27:18She doesn't
27:20Inspire her
27:22She doesn't
27:24Check her husband's phone
27:26But someone told her
27:28Someone told her
27:30She saw
27:32Proof that her husband
27:34So
27:36She wants to
27:38Get rid of her husband
27:40She's been simple
27:42But she
27:44Looks bad
27:46So her husband
27:48Divorces her
27:50I don't know
27:52But this woman
27:54Gets everything
27:56Her husband
27:58Her kids
28:00She just wants her husband
28:02If possible
28:04She wants to divorce him
28:06Her husband looks bad
28:08Her face looks sad
28:10She's crazy
28:12She's the one who makes her life dramatic
28:14Then
28:16The moment she divorces
28:18She looks for another man
28:20Suddenly
28:22One day
28:24Her ex-husband sees her
28:26He's shocked
28:28Before they got married
28:30But suddenly
28:32After the divorce
28:34Intentionally
28:36She looks bad
28:38Suddenly
28:40After the divorce
28:42She comes back
28:44She looks good
28:46Like she knew him
28:48It's a sniff
28:50Intentionally
28:52But
28:54You're cheating
28:56Let her divorce
28:58I have a lot to share
29:00Because it's happening
29:02In our lives
29:04Divorce is not easy
29:06Think about getting married
29:08Divorce
29:10Divorce
29:12It's not easy
29:14It's not easy
29:16There are a lot of processes
29:18You know
29:20Before you divorce
29:22Repair the marriage
29:24Are you willing to divorce?
29:26It's a law
29:28I'm just sharing
29:30So that
29:32Husband and wife
29:34Who are watching this podcast
29:36They will try to
29:38Change the situation
29:40To be better
29:42Divorce is not easy
29:44Divorce for Islam
29:46For Muslims
29:48It's all up to the woman
29:50It's up to the woman
29:52Especially if you have a lot of children
29:54It's hard
29:56There's a law
29:58I'm just sharing
30:00If you want to do something
30:02You have to think
30:04If the wife finds out
30:06When she brings it to the court
30:08She will say
30:10Her husband is cheating
30:12Everything is in there
30:14There's a law
30:16Which is
30:18This wife
30:20Must not cheat
30:22Don't be an angel
30:24Don't cheat
30:26So
30:28In Sharia law
30:30There's a law
30:32Which is
30:34There's a payment
30:36It's like a salary
30:38For example
30:40Your marriage with your wife
30:4210 years
30:44365 days a year
30:46Every day is a salary for your wife
30:48Do you want to pay?
30:50Do the math
30:5210 years 365 days a year
30:54Do you want to pay?
30:56Are you able to?
30:58Do you want to divorce your wife to pay?
31:00You have to pay
31:02So it's not just a simple divorce
31:04No
31:06She has to make sure
31:08Her husband is cheating
31:10Everything is in there
31:12Divorce is not easy
31:14You're married
31:16Divorce is not easy
31:18But you have to make sure
31:20Your wife has to be loyal
31:22She has to be honest
31:24So you have to be very careful
31:26Be careful
31:28Don't play around
31:30You want to get married
31:32You don't want to get married
31:34Divorce, divorce, divorce
31:36No, no, no
31:38As long as she lives in Malaysia
31:40I think
31:42The law is still the same
31:44Go somewhere else
31:46If I want to share
31:48I have a friend from France
31:50He said
31:52The women there
31:54It's worse
31:56If you want to marry a French woman
31:58You have to think again
32:00Because the women there
32:02They are crazy
32:04If you marry her
32:06There's a law
32:08In France
32:10If a woman gets married
32:12After giving birth
32:14She has to take care of the baby
32:16She has to have a maid
32:18Don't expect all men
32:20There's a law
32:22My French friend
32:24He's French
32:26He said that
32:28So my friend is a man
32:30So she divorced
32:32She was ready to
32:34Expose her feelings
32:36There's another law
32:38The women there
32:40If the man comes home late
32:42Wow
32:44Malaysia
32:46Report to the police
32:48Report to the police
32:50And then leave the house
32:52Like a fool
32:54What's going on?
32:56Arrest your husband
32:58Because your wife reported
33:00You came home late
33:02You should have come home at 10
33:04There's a law like that
33:06One more thing
33:08When they divorce
33:10They have to prepare
33:12The house
33:14They have to give it
33:16There's a car
33:18There's money
33:20They have to give it to the woman
33:22Even though they've been married for 2-3 years
33:24They have to give it
33:26The man there
33:28Went broke
33:30Because of the French women
33:32There's no chance to cheat
33:34If you want to cheat
33:36Divorce right away
33:38My friend
33:40She told me
33:42It's better like this
33:44I don't want to get married
33:46She said
33:48There's another law
33:50Women can cheat
33:52Her husband
33:54Because her husband
33:56Doesn't want to take care of her
33:58Doesn't want to cook
34:00It's not against the law
34:02Sometimes I ask her
34:04Is it true?
34:06I'll show you the law
34:08Her husband will tell her
34:10We can't kick her out?
34:12No
34:14Because she's married
34:16She won't say
34:18I'm doing this for my marriage
34:20My husband doesn't want to take care of me
34:22He doesn't want to work with me
34:24So she said
34:26Life in France is interesting
34:28Powerful
34:30You must have heard it for the first time
34:32Correct me if I'm wrong
34:34My friend
34:36She's my game
34:38She's my prank
34:40But this is what happened
34:42She's single now
34:44She divorced a year ago
34:46She said
34:48Marriage makes me broke
34:52I hate marriage
34:54I told her
34:56If I think
34:58You can try with Asian women
35:00You can
35:02I told her
35:04Asian women
35:06If you come here
35:08You have to see
35:10I don't want her to think
35:12She's married
35:16That's what happened
35:18I learned a lot today
35:20Share with us
35:22About women
35:24Cool facts
35:26I was excited
35:28I enjoyed it
35:30I didn't expect
35:32There are countries that practice
35:34That kind of law
35:36Not only for women
35:38If a woman can throw
35:40It's the opposite
35:42Malaysians can also throw
35:44Remember
35:46We have the law
35:50We've reached the end
35:54Thank you so much
35:56I didn't know
35:58I learned a lot today
36:00I didn't expect
36:02There are things like this
36:06There's a lot more
36:08Next time
36:10We can share
36:12Off record
36:16Thank you
36:18Thank you
36:20Thank you
36:26Thank you