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00:00I'm ready to start dating.
00:10I feel like I got to test drive some cars.
00:13You look good right now.
00:16You look good.
00:17My husband and I had a very old school kind of relationship in that he managed the finances.
00:24There was a lot of things I didn't know about.
00:27You did miss when stuff was going down with Pops.
00:29You weren't there.
00:30Yeah.
00:31Like, Angela and Dora, like, really lived it with me.
00:34Gordon, can we have a conversation about telling the kids?
00:39I've already said several times I'm not doing it.
00:43There's so much going on with Gordon right now.
00:46He's in mania.
00:47Are you still married to Gordon?
00:49Mm-hmm.
00:50That's a lot for him to take.
00:51All of this is too soon, and it's confusing.
00:53If I'm confused, the children are very confused.
00:57Your girls were sneaking in boys in the house in D.R., and then on social media, you post
01:01like everything is perfect.
01:07When the girls are away, it's time for Giselle to play.
01:12I quit grading, but I'm still passing judgments.
01:17Marriage may be temporary, but ink is permanent.
01:21From kiddie pools to the dating pool, I'm ready to dive in.
01:26I know how to host a show and steal one, too.
01:31I own a business.
01:32I mind my business, and I stand on business.
01:36Darling, I am the fence and the gatekeeper.
01:52Grace.
01:53Hi.
01:54Angel.
01:56Adore.
01:57Hi, guys.
01:58How was work today?
02:03Just absolutely tragic.
02:04Horrible.
02:05It was tragic?
02:06So bad.
02:07I could have called off the rest of the week.
02:08Really?
02:09No, you don't even know that.
02:10Oh, no, we need to go in.
02:11Yeah, so I was like, I need money, so I'll stay.
02:14Okay.
02:15Are you excited, you two, to go to school?
02:16Yeah.
02:17I'm ready.
02:18Take me today.
02:19Really?
02:20Yeah.
02:21You ready to leave me?
02:22Yeah.
02:23Not like you specifically, but just like leave.
02:24Okay.
02:25Angel graduated 4.2.
02:26Adore graduated 3.9.
02:27And now they're about to leave and go off to college.
02:28My kids are the fourth generation on Jamal's side of going to an HBCU.
02:29So y'all can talk about whatever y'all want to say about my kids.
02:30Your girls were sneaking boys in the house in DR.
02:31Oh, I caught a boy on a green cam.
02:32They're doing the things, y'all.
02:33They're doing the things.
02:34So the real reason why I, like, want to, like, you know, catch up with you guys is Pops as
02:35well.
02:36You know what I mean?
02:37You know what I mean?
02:38You know what I mean?
02:39You know what I mean?
02:40You know what I mean?
02:41You know what I mean?
02:42You know what I mean?
02:43You know what I mean?
02:44The last week that he was alive, after his brain surgery, somehow, supposedly, he signed
03:07a will.
03:08He didn't sign it.
03:09He didn't have the capacity to hold a pen.
03:11I'm in court to try to get that will thrown out.
03:14And if it's thrown out, then that means that he died without a will.
03:18And that means that in the state of Georgia, his children get two-thirds of his estate.
03:23But in the will that's fraudulent, we get nothing.
03:27And it's as if you guys don't exist either.
03:31It's all very painful because I don't want to have to go through this.
03:35I know that he didn't want me to have to go through this.
03:38For whatever reason, two days after his brain surgery, someone around him had a will signed,
03:45supposedly by him.
03:47And I was with him, actually.
03:48He was not able to sign anything, read anything, none of that.
03:53My dad stood on making sure that generational wealth is passed.
03:58Nothing was left to me and nothing was left to my children, my father's grandchildren,
04:02which were probably more important to him than me.
04:06It's made me think a lot.
04:07And if I were to get married to somebody, and God forbid the same thing happened for
04:11these reasons, like, I don't ever legally want to be attached to anybody.
04:17Can you put in, like, legal papers, like, if I do, like, whatever, so that things can't
04:21be, like...
04:22Taken from you guys?
04:23Yeah.
04:24So, yeah, your dad's getting ready to get married again, and that's why I had a conversation
04:28with him.
04:29So, unbeknownst to me, and he was like, I've already put everything in a trust for the
04:32girls.
04:33Yeah.
04:34Like, a trust cannot be broken.
04:35Okay.
04:36Yeah.
04:38And if I will, it supersedes a prenup.
04:40Yeah.
04:41Y'all know that family's number one with me, period.
04:44And family also includes my children's father.
04:47So if he's doing things differently in his life, if he's taking on wives, we gonna have
04:52conversations which protect the children.
04:55So I don't ever want anyone to have the ability to take anything from you guys.
05:01But, Mom, like, I understand what you're saying, but I feel like if you found someone you wanted
05:05to get married to them, couldn't you just do the same thing Dad does and, like, make
05:08a trust?
05:09What are trusts?
05:10I don't be trusting these people out here.
05:13Okay.
05:14Goodbye.
05:15Princess?
05:16Yeah, babe?
05:17I'm going to make lunch because I don't want to go to the store.
05:32I'm gonna make you a pizza.
05:34We're gonna go to Italy, and I got my little chef's hat.
05:37I'm gonna put it on because they don't have no chef's hat at the store.
05:41So come on.
05:42Come on, baby.
05:43Here we go.
05:44We got to have the chef's hat.
05:45I'm gonna have you sit down.
05:46Oh, my gosh.
05:47And I'm gonna make pizza.
05:48You are very beautiful.
05:49Have a seat.
05:50Please.
05:51I don't have an apron.
05:52Hey!
05:53This is so sweet.
05:55There you go.
05:56Hey!
05:57Wait.
05:58I think we say prego.
05:59No?
06:00I think it means...
06:01I know, but it's my restaurant.
06:02Okay.
06:03Are you gonna wear that chef's hat for the entire lunch?
06:04Should I take the chef's hat off?
06:05He's so crazy.
06:06I don't even wear a satin bonnet.
06:07But that's why I love him.
06:08He just makes me laugh.
06:09I mean, who does that?
06:10Look at that color.
06:11I remember these.
06:12Taste it.
06:13Wow.
06:14That's so sweet.
06:15Hey!
06:16It's good.
06:17So...
06:18It's good.
06:19It's good.
06:20It's good.
06:21It's good.
06:22It's good.
06:23It's good.
06:24It's good.
06:25It's good.
06:26It's good.
06:27It's good.
06:28It's good.
06:29It's good.
06:30It's good.
06:31It's good.
06:32It's good.
06:33It's good.
06:34It's good.
06:35It's good.
06:36It's good.
06:37It's good.
06:38So, I know you've been stressed.
06:39As much fun as Wendy's party was,
06:40I also felt like it was stressful,
06:41not just for you,
06:42but for me.
06:43Like...
06:44Stressful for you?
06:45Yeah.
06:46Why?
06:47Because...
06:48I was like Uber date,
06:49where we got into the party,
06:50you were holding my hand,
06:51and then you were off.
06:53But you never checked back in with me.
06:55I don't necessarily think that's fair.
06:57I'm gonna let you do what you do,
06:58and be over here.
06:59Okay.
07:00Okay.
07:01I didn't see you.
07:02I'm sorry.
07:03Get it together, man.
07:04No, you're not.
07:05Get it together.
07:06I'm warning you.
07:07Where were you?
07:08Who were you even talking to all night?
07:10Everybody that was not you, apparently.
07:15I'm sorry,
07:16but it just seemed like
07:17there was one thing after another.
07:19But for four hours?
07:20I said I'm sorry.
07:21I know.
07:22And it will never happen again.
07:23I apologize.
07:24Okay.
07:25Because TJ and I
07:27are just starting to go out in public,
07:29we are going to have some road bumps.
07:31All of the other boyfriends and husbands were there.
07:34I had a personal computer in 1975.
07:37Oh, my gosh.
07:38You know what I'm saying?
07:39I honestly thought TJ would be fine
07:41hanging with the boys.
07:42Can I help you?
07:43You wanna put it here?
07:44I put it faster than a chef.
07:45I know.
07:46Come on.
07:47Come on, my guy.
07:48Hey!
07:49Okay.
07:50Large slice.
07:51Bring that over.
07:52All right.
07:54My wine come with a school cap.
07:57Thank you, thank you, thank you.
07:59I'm gonna have some of this now.
08:01Okay, I'm gonna put a little salt.
08:03So, mediation,
08:05have you given any thought
08:06to, like, maybe hiring, like, a forensic accountant
08:09or anything like that?
08:10Mm, no.
08:13No?
08:14I haven't.
08:15Mm-mm.
08:16So, how long do you go,
08:18yep, well, I'll take this bottle
08:20and you can have that.
08:21And I'd like this salt.
08:22I think it'll be three appointments.
08:24Three?
08:25Yeah.
08:26But nothing is set in stone.
08:29I shared a little bit about the meeting with him,
08:33but not too much,
08:34because I'm very much aware
08:37that my divorce is between my husband and me,
08:41and TJ doesn't have anything to do with it.
08:43He's never been married,
08:44and so there's only so much that he really understands.
08:49So, the ladies,
08:52said to me
08:53that they don't necessarily think
08:56it's a good thing for us to move forward romantically.
09:01What?
09:02That's what the ladies said.
09:04It would be a mistake to enter
09:07into another serious relationship
09:10having been married for 16 years.
09:12You've been married 16 years.
09:14Yes.
09:15And then you're diving right into this relationship with TJ.
09:17I think you need a little...
09:18Just hump everything.
09:20I get that, but here's...
09:22Listen, I'm not offended by what they said at all.
09:26Here's my take on it.
09:27Divorce is traumatic because it's a loss.
09:30I don't necessarily think that
09:32sex with people that you don't care about fixes that.
09:38Would you continue this journey
09:42if I did see other people?
09:46I did see other people?
09:57Would you continue this journey
10:01if I did see other people?
10:07I would still care about you,
10:09but I wouldn't close myself off to other options myself.
10:16You don't even want to sleep with me.
10:18Sex was never casual for me.
10:20I never did that.
10:21I'm not sleeping with you
10:22unless I have a committed relationship.
10:25I want to help you
10:26because I care about the situation you've been in.
10:28I know it wasn't great or easy,
10:30but if I'm only doing it so I can get you,
10:32then I'm just as fake as everybody else.
10:34There's a part of me that wants to hear you say, like,
10:38no, I want to, you know, be with you.
10:42I would vomit or, you know, melt into a puddle
10:45of tears if I saw you with someone else.
10:47Well, why do you think that I'd be like,
10:49oh, okay, I didn't say that it wouldn't bother me.
10:53Sweetie, if I really love and care about you,
10:56then I want you to be good for you,
10:58and then you see me for who I am.
11:01So you want me to choose you?
11:03I would like you to, but you don't have to.
11:06Okay.
11:08♪
11:22All right, let's do a shot.
11:24You want to take a shot? Let's do it.
11:26Hi, how are you?
11:28Good, how are you?
11:30Before we sit, can we get two shots?
11:32Absolutely, what can I get you?
11:34Tequila.
11:35But don't make it too, too strong,
11:37it's a shot.
11:39Oh, my God, I can't believe I'm doing this.
11:44That was a lot.
11:46How you doing, how's work?
11:48Work is good, how's work with you?
11:50What work?
11:52So is that how I should talk to Mom?
11:54What conversation are you, like, what are you having?
11:57I haven't told her that I resigned.
12:01I only did it on my own terms,
12:03and I didn't tell my mom.
12:05Well, you brought the tequila.
12:07Oh, you ain't told her that?
12:09And you brought me here?
12:13Hello.
12:15Hey, ladies.
12:17How you doing?
12:19Nigerian children,
12:21you really have three options, okay?
12:23A doctor,
12:25a lawyer,
12:27and if you're feeling really, really adventurous,
12:29you can be an engineer.
12:31I know some of the things I've decided to do
12:33have been unconventional.
12:35However, we are exploring our passions
12:37because we can.
12:39Let's go grab some seats.
12:41Yeah.
12:43I want to sit across from you, Mom.
12:45Why?
12:47Why, you don't want to sit next to me
12:49so I don't go elbow you?
12:51Oh, no.
12:53Hi, ladies, how are we doing today?
12:55I want to taste the paradise.
12:57Taste the paradise?
12:59Mm-hmm, that looks real good.
13:01Oh, she'll like that.
13:03Extra, um, alcohol for her.
13:05Please, thank you.
13:07Oh, Lord, bless this food in Jesus' name.
13:09Amen.
13:11Bless everything we're gonna eat.
13:13She's talking, and I'm praying.
13:15Did you also want to share that?
13:17Yeah, let's share that.
13:19I'm sorry, Mom, go ahead.
13:21I apologize, Mom.
13:23Go ahead.
13:25Amen.
13:27Thank you, Mom.
13:29I'm sorry.
13:31The last time I saw you guys
13:33was at my 40th birthday party.
13:35Did y'all have a good time?
13:37We did. It was fabulous.
13:39I'm just glad that the party
13:41was able to bring us together in that way.
13:43Absolutely, absolutely.
13:45That's major.
13:47Thank you so much.
13:49This is the suya.
13:51Oh, suya and plantain, yes.
13:53Oh, that's mine.
13:55Are these palm leaves?
13:57Pineapple.
13:59So, Mom, I have something I want to tell you.
14:01What?
14:03You're pregnant?
14:05I need to exit this chat.
14:07Can I exit the chat?
14:09No.
14:11So,
14:13I know we have talked for a while,
14:15and I've often told you about how,
14:17you know, I'm looking at
14:19the possibility or the opportunity
14:21to try new things
14:23and not do things
14:25because I feel like I have to.
14:27So, with that being said,
14:29I want you to know
14:31that I, um...
14:33Hold her hand.
14:35Okay.
14:37I just want to let you know
14:39that I recently
14:41resigned
14:43from my position
14:45at my university.
14:49Are you crazy?
14:51Oh, boy.
14:53Oh, I lost my appetite.
14:55Where is that waiter?
14:57You're resigning from your university
14:59to go where?
15:01It's not about to go where.
15:03Tell her your plans.
15:05I want to focus
15:07on spending time
15:09with my kids
15:11and my talk show.
15:13Mom, me resigning
15:15from my position doesn't mean
15:17I'm no longer a doctor.
15:19That's right.
15:22I still have my four degrees.
15:24Maybe, Mom, I'll find
15:26a part-time position
15:28at another university.
15:30I've always bragged about my kids
15:32and I stand by it,
15:34but right now, I am so lost.
15:36I felt like I was being tolerated
15:38and not appreciated.
15:44I don't want you guys
15:46to be chained
15:48and be stuck in one place
15:50if you're not satisfied,
15:52move on.
15:54You have all the credentials.
15:56I bless you,
15:58and all doors will be opened
16:00for you in Jesus' name.
16:02I know some of the things
16:04I've decided to do
16:06have been unconventional,
16:08like selling the devil's lettuce
16:10and the Dr. Wendy show.
16:12You can be who you want to be,
16:14not who your parents want you to be,
16:16and I love that.
16:20Coming up...
16:22Are you okay with Mommy and Daddy
16:24not spending forever together?
16:26No!
16:28You can't marry Mr. Ink.
16:30♪♪
16:32♪♪
16:34♪♪
16:36♪♪
16:38♪♪
16:40♪♪
16:42♪♪
16:44Hi!
16:46Hi!
16:48Look at them both at home!
16:50I know, I love it!
16:52I love it, too, and we both have a little flair.
16:54Okay, so are we nervous?
16:56I am so nervous.
16:58We both like the same guy.
17:00What are we gonna do?
17:02If I like a guy, I want to be able to let you know,
17:04like, don't even try it.
17:06You know what I mean?
17:08You want to pee on him?
17:10Yeah, I want to pee on him.
17:12Hi!
17:14Working for a ring out here.
17:16How are you?
17:18Good.
17:20Are y'all ready to walk into some dating with some men
17:22and possibly your future?
17:24It's been really hard for me to take the leap of faith
17:26in a partner for me.
17:28Someone who's family-oriented,
17:30understands the idea of responsibility and commitment.
17:32Someone who's very attractive, well-endowed.
17:34And I'm honing in on those qualities now.
17:36All right, let's go in.
17:38All right, here we go.
17:40Hi, everyone.
17:42All right, so welcome to speed dating.
17:44We're gonna have a lot of fun tonight.
17:46You have three minutes each.
17:48When the next guy walks up to your table, your date is over.
17:50So time to move on.
17:52All right, well, let's go ahead and get started.
17:54These are all their names, so look at their name tags.
17:56Never done speed dating.
17:58How did I get roped into this?
18:00Was this supposed to be for Ashley?
18:02Put a yes on who you're interested in.
18:04I just don't want any of these guys to act weird.
18:06Hi.
18:08What's your name?
18:10So I know it was your birthday recently.
18:12Oh, my goodness.
18:14Okay, I'm sorry, I got excited.
18:16You got excited?
18:18I'm sorry, that would have been nice.
18:20I'm sorry, I didn't bring any flowers.
18:22Flowers are my favorite thing, like, in the whole world.
18:24And I heard you like tiger lilies, too, so I...
18:26Who told you that?
18:28I did a little bit of research, a little...
18:30What?
18:32What are your favorite flowers?
18:34Pink tulips.
18:36I was just looking for somebody nice, fun,
18:38go to a museum,
18:40walks in the park, all those things.
18:42So you want a TJ?
18:44What do you guys like to do together?
18:46Well, how about this?
18:48We went to the zoo yesterday.
18:50That's enough.
18:56I think you tied it up. Okay.
18:58Do you have any?
19:00No, I don't.
19:02Right here on my neck.
19:04So what do you do?
19:06I'm a software engineer, but that's not important.
19:08No, I love computers.
19:10They don't love me, but I love them.
19:12Wait, what's your love life like?
19:14Oh, God.
19:16What do you like to do for fun?
19:18I didn't ride horses, but I grew up on a farm.
19:20So where's the farm?
19:22I'm from Pittsburgh. You like the black and gold?
19:24I'm not really into the black and gold.
19:26I'm very competitive.
19:28Okay, well, so am I.
19:30You do? But can you back it up?
19:32Absolutely.
19:34Okay.
19:36Even if I'm not feeling chemistry with each of these guys,
19:38I really do love flirting.
19:40I mean, it's a favorite pastime of mine.
19:42Are we drinking wine?
19:44The excitement, I just see the excitement got to me.
19:46How you doing? Good.
19:48I'm Namson. Namson.
19:50Nams Up. Nams Up.
19:52Why you say it like that?
19:54I had to get it right.
19:56You definitely had to get it wrong.
19:58It's nice to meet you.
20:00Very nice to meet you.
20:02It's a pleasure.
20:04So it's Giselle, right?
20:06It is.
20:08So from D.C., lived in Florida for a while,
20:10moved back here a few years ago.
20:12Went to Florida for school and worked in Florida for a while.
20:14Oh, you had fun?
20:16Just a little bit. Actually, just a lot.
20:18I got all the partying out of my system.
20:20Oh, it's gone.
20:22Actually, I mean, not really.
20:24But I got a lot of it out of my system.
20:26I like to kind of turn up every now and then.
20:28Honestly, I like a little turn up.
20:30You like to turn up a little bit?
20:32Yes.
20:34Where you from?
20:36I'm originally from here.
20:38So you know what time it is.
20:40So I can take you to a go-go or something like that.
20:42Can you say that Giselle has a type?
20:44Probably.
20:46However, you know, Jason was a little bit
20:48of a deviation from the type.
20:50That body was,
20:52whew, that body was everything.
20:54The end.
20:56How are you?
20:58Hello.
21:00Josh. Nice to meet you, Josh.
21:02I'm not going to lie to you, can't compete with that.
21:04But that's a second date, right?
21:06How are you today?
21:08Very good. How are you?
21:10I have two children, so I'm with my kids this weekend.
21:12So that's pretty much it. What about you?
21:14So I work a lot on the weekends.
21:16So I work in sports.
21:18What do you do in sports?
21:20Director of operations for professional sports venues.
21:22You're a big sports fan then?
21:24I am. I grew up playing sports.
21:26So baseball, soccer, wrestling.
21:28Oh, you were a wrestler?
21:30I wasn't a wrestler.
21:32You don't have the cauliflower earring.
21:34No, right here, look.
21:36You got to look close.
21:38My mom's very horny.
21:40I actually grew up on a farm, which is crazy.
21:42You know how much I love farms?
21:44Wait, really?
21:46I used to ride horses as a kid.
21:48Really?
21:50I was a barrel racer.
21:52So we didn't have horses.
21:54When I say farm, I guess mini farm, right?
21:56Like chickens, cows.
21:58I'm going to have a chicken coop one day, by the way.
22:00It's my goal.
22:02As you should.
22:04Fresh eggs all the time, right?
22:06Thank you, yes.
22:10All right, everyone.
22:12Dating is up.
22:14Okay.
22:16Okay, did you write down all of that?
22:18Yeah, I did.
22:20Oh, my God.
22:24I did put a yes.
22:26Yeah, I like you for you.
22:28Okay.
22:30Oh, my God.
22:32Okay.
22:34All right, make the announcement.
22:36How about I just say
22:38the following names, please stay behind.
22:44The rest of you, we thank you for your service.
22:48Coming up.
22:50I realized since the accident,
22:52I was so angry with you.
22:54I didn't know if our marriage
22:56was going to make it.
23:00Ray Ray.
23:02Yeah.
23:04What you doing?
23:06I'm watching your new pool cleaner here.
23:08Oh, your new toy?
23:10Yeah, it's interesting.
23:12I come bearing lemonade.
23:14Oh, thank you, baby.
23:16You're welcome.
23:18This has the four wheels.
23:20You see how it goes up the side there
23:22pretty easily?
23:24Yes, darling, mama see.
23:26Let's go sit down.
23:28Okay.
23:30This is beautiful out here today.
23:32She had rained a little bit yesterday,
23:34so you got to be careful.
23:36Sitting up, you know, I've been waking up
23:38every morning since
23:40the accident
23:42because I find that I have that
23:44quiet time to reflect on everything
23:46that I'm going through.
23:48I realized that
23:50I was an emotional wreck
23:52that night.
23:54It made me reflect because I was
23:56so angry with you.
23:58After the accident and the anger
24:00I experienced, I didn't know
24:02if our marriage was going to make it.
24:04I felt
24:06a lack of support from Ray
24:08prior to the accident, and
24:10it just bubbled over.
24:12Are you in love with Karen?
24:14I think I am.
24:16I feel today he's listening, ready for the day I am.
24:18I'm here to support you.
24:20Support me? Thank you, babe.
24:22Ray is going above and beyond
24:24to reciprocate what I did for him in the past.
24:26She had no idea
24:28this $5 million tax situation was
24:30happening. So you are going to stay
24:32with Ray throughout this whole process?
24:34Why would I not? And that is what makes
24:36a great institution.
24:38You know, I feel like I've been
24:40trying to be extra supportive
24:42of you in this situation,
24:44and actually, you know, I've sort of been
24:46your taxi cab a little bit too here,
24:48driving you around a little bit.
24:50Yeah.
24:52Mm-mm-mm. I can stand out here in the cold.
24:54Oh, my gosh.
24:56Yes. I appreciate that.
24:58So that you don't have to get behind the wheel,
25:00you know, at this point.
25:02Again, I can't say how grateful I am.
25:04But, you know, I don't think we can ever take our
25:06marriage for granted again.
25:08Yeah, and it's the simple things.
25:10We've taken some hits. Yeah, well, it's been a long time.
25:12It's 28 years in September.
25:14And I ain't aged a day.
25:16I don't know what happened to me, but...
25:18You look good.
25:20It's not perfect, but we work on it.
25:22And when it's, you know,
25:24losing a few bricks and mortar,
25:26you know, we repair it.
25:28We just fight for it.
25:30And our friendship and our love for one another
25:32brings us through. And we're in a good place now.
25:34I love you, babe. Give me a kiss.
25:36Three months.
25:50I think it's important for us to talk
25:52through things. It's really refreshing
25:54and I just hope that it can stay that way.
25:56Look, I'm not going to go backwards.
25:58It's only going to get better.
26:00Hi! How are you?
26:02I know. So sorry. Give me one second.
26:04Oh, you look so cute!
26:06Oh, my God. Where are you coming from?
26:08Are you coming from camp?
26:10Okay, Gordon.
26:12Gordon,
26:14Kay just arrived, so I'm going to go ahead and go.
26:16But I can give you a call later on set.
26:18I appreciate you as well, Gordon.
26:22All right. Talk soon.
26:24Oh, my God.
26:26It's the light.
26:28Give me whatever she said.
26:30With sugar.
26:32Thank you so much. Okay, you look cute.
26:34You look cute. Okay, so first tell me
26:36where you're coming from. I'm straight from out the office.
26:38Here for you today. I appreciate it.
26:40So tell me, what is going on? The challenge that I have
26:42is I have to move around Gordon's move.
26:44I know what I'm dealing with, you know,
26:46because this is not something that's new
26:48to, like, our household.
26:50Gordon is currently going through a really bad episode,
26:52and I'm just trying to help and support him.
26:54With Kay, I know that she's in the fields.
26:56She also shows compassion,
26:58and she shows understanding.
27:00Mia was really trying to be the glue that holds us together,
27:02make it work for the kids, make it work for Mia.
27:04Drop the gems, Kay.
27:06Drop the gems.
27:08I know that you're probably used to dealing with Gordon
27:10under these circumstances. It's probably
27:12because you've dealt with it in your marriage,
27:14and you're like, I can handle it. It's no big deal.
27:16Yeah. But it is a big deal.
27:18Despite the fact that Mia and me
27:20have had our differences, and when it comes
27:22to mental health, I'm always going to be an open ear
27:24for that. I don't have a professional
27:26take on this. It's just the fact that
27:28I have been working with Greg.
27:30He's very much so a social worker. You can tell.
27:32I've had experiences
27:34with other people who are very close to me when it comes
27:36to mental health problems, and I get it.
27:38So do you think that
27:40his behavior is being triggered,
27:42like, from you guys? Because I've seen, like,
27:44a couple days ago, you guys were hanging out,
27:46and it seems that he was like, all was well.
27:50And when I say he went to the bathroom
27:52and came back, and it was like,
27:54it's confusing to him. And so
27:56I think it would trigger anybody. It would trigger me.
27:58He's probably feeling a bit
28:00emasculated. In his mind,
28:02he still thinks that there is a chance.
28:04Yeah.
28:06You're right. It is a problem. It's a problem.
28:08Because this morning, he goes,
28:10I think we should, like, get back together
28:12and just not be intimate.
28:14Do you think Ink will be okay with that?
28:16Mia, no! No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
28:18The only thing
28:20that is real to him is the part that
28:22he wants to believe, and that's that Mia and him
28:24could be something, and it still could be happening.
28:26You know what I mean? No, I agree with you.
28:28And then this is the thing, too, just to clear this up.
28:30Ink is not the daddy.
28:32Because I don't want to be speaking on that
28:34or hearing that, and I'm like,
28:36who is the daddy?
28:38We're gonna get a test.
28:40Okay. I personally
28:42don't think that Jeremiah
28:44is Ink's birth father.
28:46Okay. Is he stepping in
28:48and fathering this little boy?
28:50Absolutely. Okay. It's crazy
28:52because they are a lot alike.
28:56They are so much alike, girl.
28:58I'm willing to take the paternity test
29:00for Ink. Gordon, on the other hand,
29:02is not in support of a paternity
29:04test right now.
29:06I'm also gonna say I think you should kind of
29:08break it up a bit. I don't think unit
29:10is appropriate. I really don't. Not right now.
29:12So I think as much as you
29:14like that to be a normal reality,
29:16it's inappropriate. And considering
29:18what you're dealing with.
29:20So I'm gonna have Greg
29:22send you some tools
29:24so you can have a mania stick checklist for yourself
29:26to make sure that you're gonna try some of those
29:28techniques, and then you can just let me know how it's working.
29:30Okay. Good job.
29:32It's gonna be good, though. It's gonna be good stuff.
29:34Coming up...
29:36So what do you look for, like, when you're dating someone
29:38and a partner? It's just about finding the right
29:40person that I can laugh with and hang out
29:42with. What about you? Physically,
29:44you know, you just have to be hot. Don't describe me.
29:58Hello. Thank you.
30:00Hi.
30:02How are you? You look nice.
30:04Thank you. So do you. Good to see you again.
30:06Good to see you, too. How have you been?
30:08Very good. Um, you wanna get a drink first?
30:10Sure. Hi.
30:12Hi, Nan, please.
30:14Um, I'd like a beer, please.
30:16I had to go with Josh.
30:18I had some great conversation.
30:20They actually grew up on a farm, which is crazy.
30:22Get out. You know how much I love farms?
30:24I'm gonna have a chicken coop one day, by the way. It's my goal.
30:26We could build a chicken coop at Tuco,
30:28collect some eggs together,
30:30ride off into the hills on a tractor
30:32into the sunset.
30:34Where do we go first? All right. So beer pong?
30:36Yeah, that might be fun. Okay. Let's do it.
30:38Yeah. Take you back to the college days?
30:40Yeah, actually. I used to have a really nice
30:42flick of the wrist. Oh.
30:44So we'll see if it's still there. Okay. Yeah.
30:46Wait, how old are you again?
30:4830. You're 30? 30.
30:50Like, did you just turn 30? April.
30:52April 22nd. I'm an Earth Day baby.
30:54Earth Day. Yeah.
30:56All right, I'll let you shoot first. Okay.
31:00These cups are flimsy.
31:02They are flimsy.
31:04Get outta here!
31:06Do I get to go again? Yes.
31:08Is that how it works? I hope you're ready.
31:10What kind of massacre is this about to be?
31:12I don't know. Jeez.
31:14When was your last girlfriend?
31:16Um, about two years ago.
31:18Okay. Um, I took some time off.
31:20I had a couple things come up.
31:22Like what?
31:24So, last November, I got diagnosed
31:26with thyroid cancer.
31:28You had thyroid cancer?
31:30Thyroid cancer. How old were you
31:32when you got diagnosed? 28.
31:34You were 28 years old? 28, yeah.
31:36Kinda crazy. Josh!
31:38Are you serious? Yeah.
31:40Dropping a big bomb on you, right?
31:42Date one, right? Wow.
31:46So how long did it take for you to be in remission?
31:48I had my surgeries in March
31:5023, and then
31:52I was in remission shortly after.
31:54Oh my gosh.
31:56You've like stared death in the face.
31:58I was okay.
32:00How do you think it's affected your outlook on life?
32:02I mean, you have to live life one day at a time
32:04and have fun doing it.
32:08Balls back.
32:12I'm not a sore loser. Okay, fair.
32:14You know, I'm trying to teach my children.
32:16I have two sons.
32:18I don't know if I told you that at Speed Dating.
32:20What are their names?
32:22My older son, Dean, is about to be five,
32:24and my younger son, Dylan, is three.
32:26They're at that age where they're learning
32:28how to deal with sharing and losing.
32:30That's tough. Yeah.
32:32So I need to be a good example.
32:34Okay, understood.
32:36He's 30, a little bit of a young buck for me,
32:38but knowing that Josh
32:40survived thyroid cancer at such a young age,
32:42it really sheds more light
32:44on his personality.
32:46Josh seems to be mature beyond his years.
32:48So what do you look for, like,
32:50when you're dating someone, a partner?
32:52Someone that's definitely family-oriented.
32:54Mm-hmm.
32:56It's just about finding the right person
32:58that I can laugh with and hang out with
33:00and tell jokes to.
33:02What about you?
33:04All the things you mentioned.
33:06I am very family-oriented.
33:08Sure.
33:10Are you okay with the fact that I have kids?
33:12Yeah.
33:14Josh is a pretty great guy,
33:16and whenever we talk,
33:18it feels like everyone else in the room disappears.
33:20I forgot y'all were there.
33:22What cameras? That's what I said.
33:24Oh, wait, we're gonna do a new game.
33:26The winner
33:28gets a little
33:30smooch-a-roo. Oh.
33:36I'll give you the win.
33:38I know. Come here.
33:40Oh, my God.
33:58Boy, get that off my ceiling.
34:00I feel like you're gonna have
34:02a whole bunch of marks and stuff.
34:04Can we just get it cleaned?
34:06You are so silly. Get it down.
34:08Get these together,
34:10and then we can do some cookies.
34:12Do you guys want to take them to school tomorrow?
34:14Yeah.
34:16For your teachers?
34:18Daddy said that you had a whole...
34:20You had a whole lot of snacks at his house
34:22after school.
34:24Wait, why do you guys live in two different places?
34:26Well, remember I told you
34:28we were getting a divorce?
34:30Wait, what? I don't think you explained that to me.
34:32I didn't?
34:34No. Okay.
34:36Why are you guys getting divorced?
34:38Well, you know, Mommy and Daddy,
34:40um...
34:42can't really get along
34:44all the time.
34:46Does it make you sad?
34:48Yeah. It's kind of like a mixed
34:50feeling. A mixed feeling?
34:52Daddy!
34:58Guess who's here.
35:00Daddy! Hey, Juju.
35:02Hi!
35:04Hey, hey, Mia. Hey!
35:06Hey, Charline.
35:08How you guys doing?
35:12How are you? Good. How you doing?
35:14I'm good. Good morning.
35:16Nice outfit. Thanks.
35:18You know, just kicking around the house.
35:20What y'all doing? The kids want to do cookies.
35:22There's a shock.
35:24So they thought it would be
35:26kind of cool if you came to help.
35:28Oh, okay.
35:31So, Gordon,
35:33right when you were walking in,
35:35the kids and I were
35:37trying to have a conversation
35:39about our relationship and things like that,
35:41so I'm actually glad that you're here now,
35:43because maybe you can help navigate it.
35:45Okay.
35:47Okay.
35:49So I was explaining
35:51to Jeremiah that just because
35:53Mommy and Daddy are getting a divorce
35:55does not mean that we
35:57don't love them any less.
36:00We're always going to be a family, right?
36:02So does this still make you sad?
36:04Yeah.
36:06Why? So explain to me
36:08why you're sad, baby.
36:10Because I want you two to be together.
36:12You want us to be together? Yeah.
36:14I mean, well, we are practically.
36:16Daddy just lives right upstairs.
36:18But isn't it okay for him to be sad?
36:20I would be upset if he wasn't sad.
36:22Yeah. That's true.
36:24Even though you and I may want this.
36:26Oh, so you do want a divorce?
36:28I've resigned myself
36:30to the fact that it's coming.
36:32You've kind of shown that that's what you wanted.
36:34I've resigned myself
36:36to life after Nia.
36:38Sounds like a novel.
36:40Well, I mean, it's a complicated situation, so...
36:42It is, but I think ultimately
36:44I think what you and I both agree on
36:46is that we put the kids first.
36:48Right?
36:50I think we have done a magnificent job.
36:52It's important to have open dialogue,
36:54but it is very uncomfortable for me,
36:56because they are still children,
36:58and I like to preserve their innocence.
37:00Um, Jew, go wash your hands, ma'am.
37:02Soap and water.
37:04But I feel like this conversation
37:06will help us navigate the future.
37:08So, guys, come here. Question.
37:10Okay, so do you guys know
37:12what marriage is? Yes.
37:14Okay, what is it? I don't know.
37:16Okay, so marriage is what
37:18Mommy and Daddy are in.
37:20It's when you find someone that you love
37:22very, very much, and you decide
37:24that you want to spend your life with them.
37:26So you guys get married,
37:28and then you have babies.
37:30I have a question.
37:32Where did you guys find each other?
37:34In Charlotte.
37:36But what place
37:38did you see her?
37:40Southeast Charlotte.
37:42But where were you?
37:44We met at a club.
37:46Where did you meet your spouse?
37:48Yeah!
37:50Are you gonna sing the song?
37:52So it goes like this.
37:54Mommy and Daddy sitting in a tree.
37:56K-I-S-S-I-N-G.
37:58I can't climb trees.
38:00First comes love.
38:02Then comes marriage.
38:04Then comes the baby in the baby carriage.
38:06Okay, so listen.
38:08I love that.
38:10What's that?
38:12Nothing.
38:14Sometimes
38:16in marriage, people grow apart.
38:18Are you okay with
38:20Mommy and Daddy not spending forever together?
38:22No!
38:24You can't marry Mr. Ink.
38:36Sometimes in marriage,
38:38people grow apart.
38:40Are you okay with Mommy and Daddy not
38:42spending forever together?
38:44No!
38:46You can't marry Mr. Ink.
38:48You hear that? You get what you get
38:50and you don't get upset.
38:52Okay.
38:54Alright.
39:00We're gonna let them cool down, okay?
39:02Coming from a 7-year-old, it's a pretty
39:04strong, powerful statement.
39:06I think that she's right.
39:08But I also gave this man 15 years of my life.
39:10I do hope one day that she will learn
39:12to understand that, but that's gonna come
39:14as she grows older.
39:16Yay, they're not burnt!
39:18So we're gonna let them cool and then we'll
39:20decorate them, but guys, come over here. I have
39:22something for us to do.
39:24Then, once the cookies cool off,
39:26I'm gonna have you guys come out and do some decorating, okay?
39:28Okay.
39:30Holy cow. They can mess up a room
39:32in two seconds.
39:34Oh, they're little tornadoes.
39:36You gave them something to do?
39:38Arts and crafts always works.
39:40Well, my opinion is I think we need to have another conversation
39:42with them. That one's a little disjointed.
39:44I know, but
39:46you know, I also feel like
39:48I've also worked so hard to protect them
39:50that, you know,
39:52their innocence is actually a beautiful thing.
39:54But Mia, what if they get to the age
39:56when it's time for them to get married? How are they
39:58gonna view life at that point in time?
40:00How are they gonna view relationships?
40:02And if we don't help them understand
40:04what's going on and why,
40:06then maybe they'll end up repeating
40:08the same cycles I've repeated.
40:10Or you've repeated. You've been married twice
40:12and moving on to
40:14beyond and number two to who knows what.
40:16That's not a life I want for them.
40:18I also want them to know
40:20their worth and their
40:22value and when it's
40:24time to leave.
40:26You took my
40:28phone and locked me in a room.
40:30I've known you've been having an affair for ten years
40:32or longer. It just has a lot to do
40:34with this constant, like,
40:36caw at me. And I'm like, dude,
40:38like, you know, emptying my bank account
40:40is a form of abuse. Like, I wake up
40:42and all of my money is at zero.
40:44It's controlling. I did
40:46meet up with Kay the other day.
40:48She and her
40:50fiance,
40:52boyfriend, something. He's in
40:54the mental health industry.
40:56And so
40:58she did come and meet with me for coffee.
41:00She said that
41:02we need to build some boundaries.
41:04Okay.
41:08She thinks that you living in the building is
41:10ludicrous.
41:12It is unusual, but
41:14I know it's working for me, I
41:16think. I think it may be
41:18working for you, so. So it works for me
41:20for the most part.
41:22Speaking of boundaries, right?
41:24Ink thinks that I need to set
41:26more boundaries with you.
41:28And
41:30I'm not emotionally available for
41:32him because I'm always
41:34so concerned about
41:36you.
41:38And what you got going on.
41:40I don't have
41:42anything else in me right now
41:44to give.
41:46I need to get this
41:48divorce and stop worrying
41:50about taking care of Gordon so I can
41:52move on and heal. And that's
41:54how I intend to live the rest of my life.
41:56So they're working with their science project.
41:58Hi!
42:00Come on!
42:02Yes, come help us.
42:04Decorate some cookies!
42:06Ooh!
42:08Ooh!
42:12Next time on The Real
42:14Housewives of Potomac.
42:16Oh my God, my mermaid!
42:18How you doing?
42:20Why is it called the Love Lagoon?
42:22Yeah, I want to know what to expect.
42:24I love my love parties. Love themed parties
42:26are meant to talk about love.
42:28Karen was more dominant
42:30than I was. She used to pair
42:32me up.
42:34Do you have a dog?
42:36No.
42:38No ma'am, no.