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Friday Night Live 20 September 2024

In this episode, I tackle the prevalent issue of stress, beginning with a personal reflection during my birthday week. I encourage listeners to assess their stress levels and discuss its various sources, particularly financial pressures affecting many. Highlighting that 66% of American adults cite money as a significant stressor, I explore its impact across demographics and emphasize coping strategies, including the benefits of nature and pets.

We also address how modern politics heighten stress and the importance of self-ownership in our responses. I advocate for philosophy as a tool for mental well-being and invite listeners to continue this crucial conversation as we navigate our shared experiences with stress.

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Transcript
00:00:00Good evening, everybody. Welcome to your pinch-punch 20th of September, 2024. It is four days until
00:00:11my birthday. Birthday! I'm happy to take tips, happy to take donations at freedomain.com
00:00:19slash donate, and I have finished, ooh, I don't know, probably close to six hours of
00:00:24interviews this week. Let me tell you, six hours of interviews on just about every topic
00:00:30known to man, god, beast, and devil. So, working away in Philosopher. Takes 15 seconds after
00:00:39you syepht for us to see it. Also, you need 15 seconds after stopping for any stream not
00:00:44to get cut off. All right? Appreciate it. So, yeah, a lot of interviews this week. They're
00:00:52going to go out one by one, and then we'll put them out together as a big blob. But it
00:00:56is good, shareable, interesting, detailed stuff. Some great questions from Keith Knight
00:01:02of the Libertarian Institute. Good, challenging stuff. We covered censorship, morals, humility,
00:01:12taboo topics, all kinds of juicy good stuff. So, check that out. It will be going out over
00:01:18the weekend to donors, for sure. All right. So, here's a question that I wanted to ask
00:01:28you, and listen, I'm happy to take your topics, obviously. I'm happy, thrilled, beyond words,
00:01:33measures, and beliefs to take your topics, but is singing philosophical telegrams a viable
00:01:42business option? I would say not. Yeah, the stream isn't that important. I mean, because
00:01:51the recording here is local, and that's the one that goes out, so we're not losing anything
00:01:55in the actual show. Just so you know, we're not losing anything in the actual show. All
00:02:02right. So, I sense a great disturbance in the fourth. What I mean by that is, I'm always
00:02:13trying to read the community as best I can. I read both audio, visual, a fair amount of
00:02:20tactile sensation, which is probably why you felt my pink spider fingers on your inseam,
00:02:26but I'm always trying to read the community and see where things are, and I want to get
00:02:34your feedback on this, just because I think this is happening. Obviously, I'm not saying
00:02:39it is happening, but let me tell you what I think is happening, or let me ask you how
00:02:44you're doing relative to one metric at the moment. On a 1 to 10 scale, how is
00:02:56your stress? Give me a 1 to 10. 1, totally chill, idy man, island time, falling asleep
00:03:07in the hammock. But, 10 being like, can't sleep, wired beyond words, can't eat. How
00:03:19is your stress? We got an 8.5, we got a 4, we got a 3, 7, 6. Earth below us. All right.
00:03:42So medium to high, it looks like. 8, 7.5, 7, 11, sorry about that. Some people low,
00:03:53some people high. Now, I appreciate that answer, and I will of course go and check over on
00:04:00Rumble as well. But I want to know, how is 2? Okay. So, what are you stressed about?
00:04:18And I don't mean this like, what are you stressed about? I mean, genuinely, what are you stressed
00:04:23about? What is causing you worry and concern these days? Let us unpack our hearts and
00:04:32speak openly to each other. What is it that is grinding your gears? What is it that has
00:04:42you wake up at night and have a tough time getting back to sleep? Finances, cost of living,
00:04:54stolen elections and mob mentality. I feel my dollar doesn't go far enough. Rights, right.
00:05:03The governments like these kids in their, the teenagers with their parents' liquor cabinet,
00:05:07they take out the liquor and just add a bunch of water. Back in, so they don't look like budding
00:05:12alcoholics. Time running out. Yeah, what is it that's got you wired? Being in my late 30s with
00:05:25no wife and children and my business, social isolation, the cover-ups of communist murderers,
00:05:30unfulfilling job. Somebody said, oh, Pulsar, yeah, nice to see you again. I went to the local
00:05:41bar last Sunday night and it was empty, like there was a snowstorm. Bartender said it was
00:05:45the economy. Genetic medical condition, I'm sorry to hear about that. Somebody says,
00:05:51I've got three things, moving out for the first time, major chest pains and lastly worrying I may,
00:05:56I may not will a fantastic life for myself. Mind you, I'm working on all of these. Uncertainty
00:06:02about my own abilities. Oh, the bar, it was Sunday night during a football season. There
00:06:07was no one there. Yeah, I do see, um, I see a lot of people walking through the mall. Hi,
00:06:14Viper. I see a lot of people walking through the mall. I'm not entirely sure I see a lot of people
00:06:19buying things at the mall. Okay, let me ask you this then. Of the people that you know,
00:06:33rate the, give me now the general stress levels if you could. Give me the general stress levels
00:06:41of people that you know. Do you think, I mean, is it higher for them? Is it lower? Is it about
00:06:49the same? Give me the stress levels, you know, family, friends, wives, whoever. Chris says,
00:06:58I'm regretting bad choices I made when I knew better. Particularly not asking out a really
00:07:02high quality girl when she was interested in me. Now she's dating someone else. All right.
00:07:11Somebody says, will I, should I think of marrying? If my high standards and low social
00:07:18skills are unrealistic or unfair, drop such a woman of a younger, better man and pay enough
00:07:23to live better. Probably two or three co-workers are worried of layoffs. There was a riff on
00:07:32Thursday. I don't know what riff means there. About the same. People are higher. Apathy and
00:07:38incompetence in every corner. Most people I know seem low stress, but it's probably all a facade.
00:07:42Seven. Dad lost his job about the same age. Six to seven, right? Five.
00:07:49So.
00:08:02Do you know what their data is about stress? It's wild. It's wild.
00:08:13According to the American Psychological Association, stress in America, this is a
00:08:212022 survey. Money is a major source of stress for 66% of adults. Now you think,
00:08:28of course, there's a wealthy, you think, of course, there's those who are students who
00:08:34don't particularly care about money. You think about people who have retired and so on.
00:08:37Money is a major source of stress for 66% of adults, with 57% stating current expenses,
00:08:45such as food and rent, as their main source of money-related stress. The remaining 43% of this
00:08:51group state saving for the future as their main source of money-related stress. I mean,
00:09:02y'all know people? Do y'all know people who have no savings for retirement? Have you heard of such
00:09:17people? Isn't that wild? They literally have no savings for retirement. And they're in their 50s,
00:09:23they're in their 60s, and they got nothing. I may have been a little bit anal when I was younger,
00:09:31because I was saving for my retirement in my 20s, even when I was a student, but holy crap.
00:09:40What do they think is going to happen? What do they think is going to happen?
00:09:54Stress kills? I don't think it's great.
00:09:56Stress takes years off diabetes, childhood abuse, all minuses, non-smoker, non-drinker.
00:10:06Approximately 75% of US adults feel that violence and crime are significant sources of stress in
00:10:13their lives. Around 34% of adults report feeling that stress is completely overwhelming for them
00:10:20most days. Around 34% of adults report feeling that stress is completely overwhelming for them
00:10:28on most days. People are freaked out. This is why there's road rage. This is why there's all
00:10:36this volatility. This is why there's drinking and drugs. People are just managing panic on a daily
00:10:43basis. We're talking about the great slowdown, where everything gets worse.
00:10:5521% of US adults report experiencing forgetfulness, 20% report an inability to
00:11:01concentrate, and 17% report difficulty making decisions in the last month as a result of stress.
00:11:07Now, 2021, data from adults in 122 countries, 41% of adults worldwide report experiencing a lot of
00:11:16stress. 2022 data, which country has the highest reported stress level? Which country in the world
00:11:31level? Which country in the world do you think has the highest reported
00:11:35stress level? I thought it might be South Korea before exam time, but no.
00:11:43People say, somebody says, a few of my friends at work have no savings for retirement. I believe
00:11:47they're just banking on the value of their homes in the future. Yeah, my mom is that way. I'm gonna
00:11:52find a rich husband. You're probably not. They think social security will take care of their
00:12:05retirement. My friend's father died 81 years old and still making payments on the house and leaving
00:12:09nothing for his wife. The son returned the car to the bank and dropped off the keys. The car was
00:12:13financed. Wow. I was trying to invest for a retirement, could never get a career started to
00:12:26keep the condo and truck. I should have taken a vow of poverty. I like to joke that would be
00:12:32easier. Israel, Japan, Japan. I've just tried and failed at dating men twice my age for security,
00:12:38very stressed for future. No, the country with the biggest rate of stress, the highest rate of
00:12:46stress is Afghanistan as of 2022. Stress level of 68%, but the US is not too far behind at 53%.
00:12:592022 survey data from Pew Research Center, 29% of US parents reported that being a parent is
00:13:05stressful all or most of the time. All or most of the time.
00:13:14The 2018 study of stress levels in the UK throughout that year found that 74% of people
00:13:19reported feeling so stressed they were overwhelmed or unable to cope. 74%, this is
00:13:29pre-pandemic. I don't think we can ascribe this entirely to my lovely tour of Australia.
00:13:37Stress levels in the UK, 74, three quarters of people
00:13:40reported feeling so stressed they were overwhelmed or unable to cope.
00:13:45Do you know how easy it is for governments to bull stress people,
00:13:48to bully stress people? It's one of the reasons why COVID went the way it did.
00:13:5937% of US adults report being unable to do anything when they are stressed.
00:14:0556% of employed US adults report job stability as a source of stress.
00:14:11Around 27% of US adults report feeling so stressed they can't function on most days.
00:14:17And of course, that is circular, right? That's a vicious circle.
00:14:25Because when you can't function, people snap at you, right? Like if you are, you can't function,
00:14:32you just sit there at the light so stressed you don't know if you get the, right? If you're a
00:14:35barista or something, you're making coffees, you're too stressed, you can't function,
00:14:38people snap at you, so it just gets worse and worse and worse.
00:14:47Younger US women are more likely to report feeling overwhelmed by stress than older women,
00:14:52with 62% of women ages 18 to 34 reporting feeling completely overwhelmed by stress most days.
00:15:0262% of women ages 18 to 34 report feeling completely overwhelmed by stress most days
00:15:10compared to 48% of women age 35 to 44, 27% of women 45 to 64, and 9% of women 65 years and older.
00:15:24So you put two, you put three young women in a room, two of them almost are so overwhelmed
00:15:34by stress, completely overwhelmed by stress most days. I mean, do you know this?
00:15:39Do you know this when you're moving through the world?
00:15:47Are you aware just how on freaking edge most people are?
00:15:59It's important to know this. It's really, really important to know this stuff.
00:16:08Younger US men are more likely to report feeling overwhelmed by stress than older men,
00:16:1351% of men aged 18 to 34 are completely overwhelmed by stress most days.
00:16:27APA's 2023 Work in America survey, 77% of workers
00:16:33reported experiencing work-related stress in the past month.
00:16:3857% of those citing negative impacts as a result, emotional exhaustion,
00:16:42lack of motivation to do their best.
00:16:48If you feel that you don't have meaningful work, 71%
00:16:54stressed, 45% of those who report having meaningful work also stressed.
00:17:002021 Italian study compared the stress levels of males and females who reported medium to high
00:17:04stress levels upon returning to work after being unemployed and found that females,
00:17:0822.7% were more likely to report high stress levels than males, 11%.
00:17:19We really annoy women when we're not stressed, men as a whole.
00:17:25How can you not worry? I do mine, not in my life, but as a whole.
00:17:45According to a 2019 study that explored the effects of nature experiences on stress,
00:17:50nature experiences that lasted 21 minutes to 30 minutes had the greatest reduction in stress
00:17:54levels with an 18.5% per hour drop in cortisol levels for the duration of the nature experience.
00:17:59Go back to nature, be in the woods.
00:18:0795% of dog and cat owners rely on their pet for stress relief.
00:18:13Sounds vaguely Middle Eastern.
00:18:15Stress can impact multiple bodily systems. This is from Forbes Health. Contribute to a range of
00:18:20health concerns including headaches, muscle tension, upset stomach, trouble sleeping,
00:18:25changes in appetite, shortness of breath, or rapid breathing. Long-term effects of stress
00:18:30can include anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue, obesity, hypertension, heart attack, and stroke.
00:18:37Chronic fatigue, obesity, hypertension, heart attack, and stroke.
00:18:47And this, is this the world we created? Yeah, this is the world we've made. This is the world
00:18:56that people have voted into existence. This is the world that people have chosen to make,
00:19:01where we are dying from stress.
00:19:07Dying from stress.
00:19:1235% of workers say their boss is a cause of their workplace stress.
00:19:1680% of U.S. workers experience work stress because of ineffective company communications.
00:19:22Usually that means that you have a boss who gives you contradictory instructions and then you can't
00:19:27win. 49% of 18 to 24 year olds who report high levels of stress felt comparing themselves to
00:19:36others as a stressor. 71% of U.S. adults with private health insurance say the cost of health
00:19:42care causes them stress, while 53% with public insurance stay the same. 54% of Americans want
00:19:49to stay informed about the news but following the news causes them stress. 42% of U.S. adults
00:19:57cite personal debt as a source of significant stress. Mass shootings are a significant source
00:20:03of stress across all races. 84% of Hispanics report this the highest among the races.
00:20:1130% of U.S. adults eat comfort food more than the usual when faced with a challenging or
00:20:16stressful event. 51% of U.S. adults engage in prayer when faced with this.
00:20:26Coping mechanisms of Gen Z and Millennials experiencing stress in the U.S. 44%
00:20:30of Gen Z and 40% of Millennials sleep in while exercising counts for 14% and 20% respectively.
00:20:37That's rough, man.
00:20:57So, in America, psychologists have noted that many people have generally positive perceptions
00:21:06of their physical health even when they also reported being diagnosed with a chronic condition.
00:21:12For example, despite high ratings of physical health, 81% rated their physical health as good
00:21:17or better, two-thirds of adults said they had been told by a health care provider that they
00:21:24have a chronic illness, including high blood pressure, 28%, high cholesterol, 24%, or arthritis,
00:21:3217%. 81% of adults reported their mental health as good or better, while more than one-third,
00:21:3937%, said they have a diagnosed mental health condition,
00:21:43a 5% increase from pre-pandemic levels, most cited anxiety disorder, 24%, or depression.
00:21:56Many are struggling to cope with stress bearing the burden alone.
00:22:00Around 3 in 5 adults, or 62%, said they don't talk about their stress overall because they
00:22:05don't want to burden others. Although finances are a top stressor, talking about them is off
00:22:12the table. In fact, only 52% of adults said they are comfortable talking with others about money
00:22:16or finances, and more than 2 in 5 adults, 45%, said they feel embarrassed talking about money
00:22:21or their financial situation with others. Around 3 in 5 adults, 61%, said people around them just
00:22:28expect them to get over their stress. Nearly half, 47%, said they wish they had someone to
00:22:34help them manage their stress. Rough man. More than 2 in 5 adults, 44%, said they don't feel
00:22:44anyone understands what they're going through, and more than half, 52%, said they wish they had
00:22:48someone to turn to for advice and or support. 28% of adults said they've struggled with or had
00:22:56difficulty planning for their future in the past month because of stress.
00:23:06Almost 60% said it stresses them out that politicians aren't talking about the things
00:23:09that are most important to them. Few reported confidence about the direction our country is
00:23:18going, 34%, or said that they feel the government representatives have their best interests in mind,
00:23:2231%. Stress levels from 2019, right before the pandemic, to 2023. Young people,
00:23:41this is percent of adults who rate their average stress between 8 and 10.
00:23:4518 to 34 year olds, 2019 it was only 26%, 2023, 34%. And it has gone up, except for the old,
00:23:56where it's gone down. Parents have gone from 24% rating their stress between 8 and 10 to 33%
00:24:06from 2019 to 2023.
00:24:18Younger adults report the effects of stress the most,
00:24:23and I'm just wondering if they have male and female.
00:24:29Money, the economy, age 35 to 44, it's money, the economy as a whole.
00:24:35Yeah, it's been, the pandemic has been brutal on kids and parents.
00:24:53It's not, you know, consumed by worries regarding money, 44% of men, 50% of women.
00:25:01Family responsibilities cause them stress, 52% of men, 58% of women.
00:25:07Relationships cause them stress, 44% of men, 49% of women.
00:25:15So that's interesting. I would have expected that to be more of a gap between men and women,
00:25:21but of course, as testosterone plummets around the West, I think that the
00:25:28I think that the disparities between males and females begin to close up.
00:25:41Hearing this much stress makes me stressed, yeah.
00:25:44I knew it was high, I didn't think it was that high. Well, that's why I started looking into
00:25:48this. Somebody says, I do need time to be alone. Being alone with the Holy Ghost, of course,
00:25:53in a park, especially in autumn night is so recharging.
00:25:58If I'm really stressed, I find it difficult to make decisions.
00:26:04Economic collapse, no new jobs for native citizens in favor of immigrants, documented
00:26:08or otherwise getting all the work, wages drop, prices rise. Why wouldn't that stress anyone?
00:26:14People are paying now for the quote, free COVID money. Yeah, that's true.
00:26:18He says, somebody says, I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
00:26:23I attend temple monthly on average and intend now that I can go more.
00:26:27This really does bring peace of mind slash heart, works for me, for what it's worth.
00:26:31Haven't been on a vacation since 2017.
00:26:47Is stress worse in big cities? I would imagine so.
00:26:54Mark Twain says, worrying is paying interest on a debt you might not even owe.
00:27:02Yeah, so to me, stress inflicted by the elites on the population is a form of weaponized,
00:27:12it's like a bioweapon, right? It is something that they put you in impossible situations,
00:27:18they crank up your taxes, they lower your job opportunities, they
00:27:22propagandize your children. And to me, this is kind of like,
00:27:29you know, these sort of fabled heart attack guns and so on. I think that to me,
00:27:32creating situations where populations as a whole are stressed, and this not being sort
00:27:38of the number one consideration, is weaponizing people's nervous system against themselves.
00:27:44It's a form of sadism or torture or cruelty or... I think it's really, it's absolutely terrible.
00:27:59So I was just wondering how you all were doing with this stuff and how you felt.
00:28:05Somebody says, I don't stress as much on finances because of Bitcoin. Yeah.
00:28:14Yeah, what are we at? Yeah, it's doing all right. What's it gone over five days? It's gone from
00:28:1978.6 to 85.7. Not bad. Not bad. I remember when it first broke 100. Wow.
00:28:34Ah, thank you, Rivello. Happy early birthday. Thanks so much for all the great work you do.
00:28:38My life would be immeasurably worse without you and likely more stressful. Well, thank you. I
00:28:42really, really appreciate that. That's very kind. I appreciate that. Thank you. Is anyone else seeing
00:28:48double? Only when I poke myself in the eye. But if you do want to see double, you can also match
00:28:54Rivello's tip. That's a beautiful way to see double. Again, thank you. That's very kind.
00:29:00free-demand.com slash donate if you'd like to help out there as well now or later. So.
00:29:07Is there anything that people want to talk about with regards to stress? I'm happy to take on any
00:29:11other topics that y'all have in mind that y'all have in mind. I don't I don't really do vacations
00:29:23myself. Every day is a vacation.
00:29:38All right. I'm just going to wait for your comments and questions.
00:29:42Two times a stiff. That sounds pretty nice. That is right.
00:29:46All right. Well, while I'm waiting for the comments, how about you,
00:29:54Steph? Are you stressed? You don't appear very stressed. Who are you to tell me how stressed
00:29:58I am? No, I'm I'm good. I'm good. You know, I mean, I had some wiry moments back in the heyday,
00:30:05but I would say life is pretty good. Life is pretty good. Life is pretty good. So now I don't
00:30:14want to. Once you once you let go of caring about the world as a whole,
00:30:23the rain is on the roof. How do you is butterflies? It's a moody blues for you. It's a great song,
00:30:32but. Yeah, once you once you let go, I will let go, I will no longer try to wrangle the crazies.
00:30:41I will no longer try to make sane the insane. I will no longer speak calm words of reason to
00:30:49the feral, chittering mob. I will no longer try to turn monkeys into angels. It is a beautiful thing.
00:31:02How are the ducks? They are well. We actually found a farm for them for a variety of reasons.
00:31:08My daughter working and all of that. It's a little tough to spend time with them. So we found a
00:31:11lovely farm for them to go for the time being. So are you feeling sympathy for the stressed people
00:31:17or do they deserve it? Well. Life is pretty tough if you refuse to think. If you avoid thinking,
00:31:33if you rebel against thought, reason, evidence, life is pretty tough when you
00:31:42refuse to think. I mean, 75% of Americans are worried about violent crime
00:31:52and they keep voting in people who let the criminals out.
00:32:00What can I tell you? People are worried about finances, but they keep wanting the government
00:32:08to pay for everything and then they wonder why there aren't jobs and inflation is high.
00:32:21People want to open the borders to everyone under sun and moon and then wonder why
00:32:27the price of living keeps going up and the wages stay low.
00:32:32These aren't hard things to figure out. They're really not hard things to figure out.
00:32:37But if people refuse to think, I cannot rationally care what happens to them.
00:32:50You see, given that I oppose insanity, I try my very best not to manifest it.
00:32:57You got a favorite uncle who smokes like a chimney? Smoke him if you got him.
00:33:05Hello, my name's Smoke Too Much. Well, you'd better cut down a little then. What?
00:33:09Oh, all right. I never really noticed that before. So if you've got an uncle who smokes
00:33:14like a chimney and you're on your knees, your bended knees, begging him to stop,
00:33:17you love the guy, you don't want him to die young and he's like, nope, I'm going to keep smoking.
00:33:23All right. Then at some point to preserve your own sanity,
00:33:31you have to cut yourself loose from caring about what happens to him.
00:33:37If you know someone who keeps dating crazy women and getting into crazy trouble,
00:33:42you have to tell them you got to stop dating crazy women. There's a serious problem.
00:33:46Crazy women and getting into crazy trouble. You have to tell them you got to stop dating crazy
00:33:51women. There's this guy on the Internet gives you free calls, which might be able to help with that
00:33:54free domain dot com slash call. And if he keeps dating crazy women, you got to Velcro yourself
00:34:02off, people Velcro the fuck away. Mayday, mayday. The pilot won't leave the cockpit. The plane is
00:34:10going down. Get on the chute and get windy, baby. Get out. Run like the wind. Mike Batt style.
00:34:27You got some nihilists around. I guess you can try and give them some values if they won't take
00:34:32them. Vamos. Three tries. Three tries. Give them three tries is my advice.
00:34:47I had a friend who was terminally cynical when I was younger.
00:34:52And married an even more cynical woman after I advised him not to.
00:35:02They got into significant marital trouble. Wanted my help. And I'm like,
00:35:08well, if you didn't listen to me then, I'm not talking to you now.
00:35:15There's no point screaming at me for a parachute after you've already jumped out of the plane.
00:35:22In this case, it would be three days after you hit the ground.
00:35:25I don't want people to do badly and to suffer. But I cannot control whether they think or not.
00:35:38What I can do, what I have done, is I work my very hardest to provide information in a positive,
00:35:45friendly, engaging and enjoyable fashion. Couple of jokes, some good analogies, some data, some
00:35:51facts and graphs, some charts, you name it. I'll sing to you in Japanese. I'm only here to entertain
00:35:57you. I'll do my very best. I honestly don't think I could have done more. I mean, I scour back
00:36:06in the past like everyone does from time to time and said, what should I have done differently?
00:36:09What could I have done differently? Nothing yet. Nothing yet, in particular.
00:36:15So, I think through what I did, you know, I've had like a billion views and downloads.
00:36:22It's quite a lot. My books were being read 100,000 times a month. That's a lot. The bestseller in
00:36:27Canada is 5,000 sold. It's a lot. And I can't control whether people who are into what I do
00:36:39talk about it with others, share some books. I can't control that. All I can do is try and make
00:36:45it as engaging, positive, entertaining, stimulating and enjoyable as possible to get nestled into the
00:36:52deep, bristly, boar's head boob of philosophy. Boy, that one kind of went askew. Oh, it happens.
00:37:01That's all. All I can do is try and be as engaging, interesting, enjoyable
00:37:06and peppy with regards to philosophy and useful and practical, actionable. It's all I can do.
00:37:13You put your flag out there, you blow the trumpets and you see who salutes.
00:37:22So, with regards to the world, and I'm certainly happy to hear if I have gone astray in this way,
00:37:29in this way, with regards to the world, I've done my part.
00:37:37Maybe you've done your part. I hope you have,
00:37:40because it's pretty important to have a good conscience. I've done my part.
00:37:44The rest is up to you, all of you out there. Philosophy is one click away.
00:37:57Philosophy is one click away. You don't have to go to university, you don't have to learn
00:38:06ancient Greek or Aramaic, you don't have to decipher hieroglyphics without the Rosetta Stone.
00:38:17It's one click away. Real easy, real interesting, real engaging, real practical.
00:38:25I'm not sure that the world has had many better popularizers and teachers of philosophy,
00:38:31and certainly the medium is the major reason for that.
00:38:38So, I've done my part. The information is out there.
00:38:47What a relief, and I won't take responsibility for what other people do with philosophy,
00:38:53because that would be anti-philosophical. Self-ownership, free will.
00:39:01Once you have proven that smoking kills, you get all the information out there,
00:39:07you go on your speaking tour, you make it as popular and engaging and enjoyable,
00:39:13so to speak, to get this information, then you hope people quit smoking,
00:39:22but you've done all you can. You've done all you can.
00:39:25I feel, and I'm not done, I'm not done in the world as a whole, but I feel like I've done
00:39:30as much as could be done without, I don't know, self-immolation. Right to the edge. Back.
00:39:39Right? It's like there's this old Seinfeld bit about maximum strength Tylenol, maximum strength,
00:39:45and he's like, what is that? Okay, here's how much Tylenol will kill me. Back it off just a tiny bit.
00:39:55Just a tiny bit. Right to the edge of death. Back. And for me, that was my career. Back it
00:40:01off a little bit. You know, for maximum philosophy. So, if people are stressed,
00:40:13just search up philosophy, search up facts, search up reason, search up evidence.
00:40:19It's easier to get a hold of philosophy now than at any other time in human history.
00:40:25And take it to the limit. So, wasn't it the guy from the Eagles quit because he just got sick
00:40:35and tired of having to do the high notes at the end of that after being out drinking all night?
00:40:46So, I feel, and again, I'm happy to take corrections on this if there's
00:40:54things I've missed or things I could have done better. I'm
00:40:59very happy to take feedback on that.
00:41:06But, you know, I was surrounded by this flaming torch and scimitar mob saying,
00:41:10put down the philosophy! And I'm like, okay, right before you rush. Right before.
00:41:16Right before. I'll drop it. At least the political side, right? Okay.
00:41:25I wish to reside in the realm of reason, so I don't do force.
00:41:37So, as far as people being stressed and upset and tense and blah, blah, blah, blah, it's like
00:41:42it's six degrees of separation. Everyone on the planet is six people away from philosophy.
00:41:50Probably a lot less if you sort of English speaking Western countries or whatever, right?
00:41:55Because I've had so many listeners over close to 20 years, I've had so many listeners,
00:42:01so many downloads, so many views that everyone is probably three steps away from me and what we do
00:42:11here in the West. So, there's me, there's someone, who knows someone, who knows someone, and that's
00:42:20about it. So, probably three degrees of separation. If it's six degrees for the whole world, it's three
00:42:24degrees for the English speaking Western world. So, I give out the goods for free. I am a mad
00:42:34philosophy stripper whore. I give out the goods for free. No barrier to entry. I don't use a lot
00:42:41of technical terms, not a lot of logic trees you need to analyze and understand. I'm not using
00:42:50Latin. It's about as accessible and as engaging as I can make philosophy be,
00:42:57and that's about as engaging as philosophy can be. At least, I don't know anyone who's
00:43:04popularized it in a more practical way, because if I did, I'd go work for them.
00:43:10Thank you. I appreciate the birthday wishes. Freedomain.com slash donate
00:43:14if you would like to put your birthday wishes into mad action. Freedomain.com slash donate.
00:43:19So, I hand out the nipple gods of reason and evidence for free,
00:43:31and everyone can get it. It's just up to three people.
00:43:36Hey, you should check this guy out. Hey, you should listen to this. Hey, you should read
00:43:39this. Hey, and if you don't want to reference me because I'm too controversial, you can
00:43:43just repeat the ideas. So, everyone is three people away or two people away from getting
00:43:52philosophy, so it's up to those couple of people to spread philosophy. It's not up to me. I can't
00:43:59go door to door. I'm not Santa. I mean, I kind of am, but only in terms of gifts, but that's not
00:44:07up to me. I put the word out there. I put the work in. I take all the risks. I take all the
00:44:14blowback. I take all the lies and defamation. I'll take all of that. I'll take all of that.
00:44:21All you have to do is talk about philosophy with people. I'll be the martyr, but you got to be
00:44:28the yapper. So, if people choose not to spread philosophy, even though it's pretty simple and
00:44:34pretty engaging to get involved in these kinds of conversations, I can't do that. I can't do that.
00:44:46I've done it to the limit of my conscience. In fact, I think if I would have gone further,
00:44:53I would have regretted that. So, I've gone to the limit of the sweet spot of my conscience.
00:44:58I've tried to hit that Aristotelian bit, you know, sweet spot of my conscience.
00:45:02You know, when you're tuning in a radio station, this is back in the day, right?
00:45:07Welcome to Chum FM, right? And so, you're tuning in a radio station, and you get there,
00:45:11and you get a sweet spot, and you're like, oh, it's not bad. It's not quite sorry though. Let
00:45:15me go. Oh, I'm losing it. Okay, I go back, right? So, you get that sweet spot, which is where you
00:45:19get the best signal. It's all over the place in life, right? It's like in your salary. You want
00:45:25to get enough so that you don't feel like you're selling yourself for nothing, and you give yourself
00:45:34away, but not so much that you're going to get fired because you can't possibly produce that
00:45:39much value. You get a sweet spot. Mm, beautiful, right? Sweet spot. You want a woman attractive
00:45:46enough that you want to kiss, grope, and sleep with her, but not so attractive that she was a
00:45:52magnet for pedophiles, has eating disorders, and anorexia. Right in the sweet spot, right?
00:46:00Everybody wants a beautiful mid they can call their own.
00:46:07So, I think I hit the sweet spot. I don't know how perfectly. I only have one life to live,
00:46:13and there's no copy-paste comparisons here. So, I did the maximum I feel that I could do.
00:46:21After that, it's out of my hands, and I cannot possibly stress or worry about. Thank you very
00:46:26much. I appreciate the donation. Person with name, I... Oh, okay. That's not... That's like squint,
00:46:32squint. I appreciate that support. Thank you. So, I've done the maximum that I can do, and if you
00:46:39have done the maximum that you can do, then I think that you should feel comfortable and happy
00:46:45at what you have done. That is the best we can do, and we can't say, well, is it enough? Because
00:46:52it's not up to us. It's not up to us. Is it enough? Can't really say. Can't really say.
00:47:01Don't... Randy Meissner. Was that his name? Take it to the limit. All right. Let's see here.
00:47:21Let me get to... How are the powers that be causing all these stressful psyops? I get it's
00:47:34the communists, but who exactly? I don't know what you mean by who exactly. Do you want middle names?
00:47:40Do you think rational philosophy is a natural de-stressor? Yeah, I think so, because you
00:47:44advocate for virtue and then hand the choice to others and let them choose what they want.
00:47:52Jesus himself warned of casting pearls before swine, wasting time and energy giving truth to
00:47:58those who don't want to hear it. Others who would receive the pearls miss out. Yeah, and here's the
00:48:03thing, too. You've got to maintain your optimism, and the more you go battling with crazy people who
00:48:07just hurl insults and mass flag your accounts, you have to fiercely guard your enthusiasm for
00:48:15whatever you love. You have to fiercely guard it.
00:48:24Cynical people, especially when I was a kid, rubbed me the wrong way.
00:48:27Yeah, they know the price of everything and the value of nothing.
00:48:36Thank you again for the birthday wishes.
00:48:38I bought most of your books in physical copy so I can pass them down. Well, thank you.
00:48:42I lost many contacts and made a few off of promoting philosophy. Met a nice store manager
00:48:46who homeschooled her children, and we had a lot in common, it seemed. They're a sane
00:48:49people hiding in plain sight. You have done opulent work. I just get attacks and threats
00:48:56whenever I try to spread parental responsibility or philosophy.
00:49:00Your wife deserves her husband in life is he needs and deserves a father. Yes. Yeah,
00:49:04I... martyrdom has been tried by many thinkers, philosophers, reasoners, and moralists,
00:49:10and I have yet to see it take in any. Now, watch the ripples change.
00:49:17I'm an optimist. I'm a rationalist. I'm a moralist. I'm a rationalist. I'm a moralist.
00:49:23I'm an optimist. I'm a rationalist. I'm a moralist. I'm a rationalist. I'm a moralist.
00:49:25I'm an optimist. I'm a moralist. I'm a rationalist. I'm a moralist.
00:49:27I'm an optimist. I'm a moralist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist.
00:49:29I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist.
00:49:31I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist.
00:49:33I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist.
00:49:35I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist. I'm an optimist.
00:49:37Hi Steph, I'm going on a date tomorrow for the first time in forever with a girl who I met on a dating app.
00:49:39We had a great convo through text so far, I will say.
00:49:41I didn't find her super my type in terms of physical appearance,
00:49:43but I don't want to overlook potentially great qualities because of this.
00:49:45Do you have any thoughts on this?
00:49:47I heard you say when you and your wife met, you weren't initially each other's types,
00:49:49but the virtue trumped all of that.
00:49:51Oh, great conversation.
00:49:53So, I mean, my wife has a great figure,
00:49:55but she is not my type.
00:49:57So, I mean, my wife has a great figure,
00:49:59but she is not my type.
00:50:01So, I mean, my wife has a great figure,
00:50:03but she is not my type.
00:50:05So, I mean, my wife has a great figure,
00:50:07but she dresses, for sports,
00:50:09she dresses, she calls it the tent, right?
00:50:11Just like big baggy stuff because she was,
00:50:13she didn't want guys to just be interested
00:50:15in her looks and her figure.
00:50:17So, I obviously,
00:50:19you know,
00:50:21you've seen these TikTok things.
00:50:23It's like, show them your baggy fit
00:50:25and what lies beneath, right?
00:50:27And so, I didn't know that really.
00:50:29And so, I wasn't like this big,
00:50:31like that wolf with the tongue
00:50:33unrolling on the table in some cartoon.
00:50:35So, yeah, don't worry
00:50:37about the physical appearance stuff.
00:50:39I mean, again, assuming that
00:50:41she's not obese. Obesity is a
00:50:43deal-breaker for me, right?
00:50:45For me. Obesity is a deal-breaker
00:50:47for me. Because
00:50:49that is something
00:50:51you can control, right?
00:50:53That is something you can
00:50:55control.
00:50:57So, but
00:50:59you can't control your height, you can't control your
00:51:01face bones, right? You can't
00:51:03control any of that.
00:51:05Your boob size or anything like that, right?
00:51:07So, assuming that or
00:51:09knowing that,
00:51:13then look for
00:51:15her virtue.
00:51:17I mean, there's nothing sexier
00:51:19than a good woman
00:51:21smoking.
00:51:23There's nothing sexier than a good woman.
00:51:31So, yeah, I wouldn't worry about that.
00:51:33Just focus on
00:51:37just
00:51:39really
00:51:41working on getting to know her
00:51:43as a person.
00:51:45You know, it is a...
00:51:47She does look 20 pounds
00:51:49overweight, but she's working on herself, going to the
00:51:51gym, getting tennis lessons. Well, I mean,
00:51:53I've been 30, 40,
00:51:5535 pounds heavier than I am
00:51:57now. So, you know,
00:51:59weight's going to have some fluctuation, but...
00:52:01So, I wouldn't worry about
00:52:03that too much.
00:52:05Jaws are a size.
00:52:07I don't know what that means.
00:52:11I just found out the gal I'm dating has about
00:52:13$80,000 of school debt for a degree
00:52:15she doesn't even really like or care to get a job in.
00:52:21Well, do you want to take on
00:52:23$80,000 worth of debt? That seems like
00:52:25very expensive
00:52:27dating.
00:52:29Let's see here.
00:52:31Yeah, what is that? 400
00:52:33visits at $200 a head.
00:52:35Anyway, so,
00:52:37how long have you been dating
00:52:39her?
00:52:43Man, that's rough.
00:52:45Does having high IQ
00:52:47make it easier to gain wisdom?
00:52:51I don't know.
00:52:53I...
00:52:55I can think about it both ways.
00:52:57So, I can think
00:52:59about it in that having high
00:53:01IQ helps you figure out patterns
00:53:03and so on, but
00:53:05high IQ people have a fantastic ability,
00:53:07particularly if they're creative, to lie the pants
00:53:09off themselves. So, they're
00:53:11quite easy to propagandize in a way.
00:53:13Nanko says, happy birthday
00:53:15minus the 23rd we were literally born within
00:53:1724 hours of each other, or less.
00:53:19I was 6 p.m. on Saturday
00:53:21the 24th of September, 1966.
00:53:236 p.m.
00:53:27Just over a month?
00:53:31I really need to donate for
00:53:33all the great advisors coming soon. I promise you that.
00:53:35Thanks, Steph. I appreciate that.
00:53:43Okay, well, let me
00:53:45ask you this. Let me ask you this.
00:53:47I think I found a great girl
00:53:49may need to do a call-in, as she is
00:53:51a very successful woman at age 26,
00:53:53yet I don't find her hot enough. I hate
00:53:55to be this shallow. Well, don't hate her.
00:53:57Just accept it. Just accept it.
00:54:01You know, physical attractiveness
00:54:03is a proxy for health,
00:54:05genetic fitness,
00:54:07and IQ.
00:54:09Right?
00:54:11Like, if you want to know
00:54:13someone's IQ
00:54:15and you had the choice between figuring
00:54:17out how attractive they are and
00:54:19also figuring out their level of
00:54:21educational attainment, both would be about
00:54:23equal in figuring out how smart they are.
00:54:25So don't be ashamed to be shallow. It's not
00:54:27just, oh, looks don't mean anything.
00:54:29There's a reason why we're attracted to looks.
00:54:31There's a reason why we're attracted to good looks.
00:54:35Two months. You've been dating her for two months?
00:54:37Okay.
00:54:39Lloyd?
00:54:41Lloyd?
00:54:51How long did it take
00:54:53for her to tell you that you were $80,000
00:54:55in debt? I assume that's
00:54:57American dollars, so that's a lot.
00:55:03How long did
00:55:05it take you to find that out?
00:55:11Sometimes a simple
00:55:13mind has more wisdom because they don't overthink things.
00:55:17Yeah, I mean, I've said this before. I broke up with a
00:55:19girl
00:55:21when I was in my 20s, and
00:55:23none of my friends really talked to me about it much, but
00:55:25I remember there was this one Guatemalan
00:55:29dishwasher at a restaurant I worked
00:55:31in who was like, my friend, how is your heart?
00:55:33How is your heart?
00:55:35She still hasn't told me. Our mutual friend told me.
00:55:37Okay, let me ask you this.
00:55:39When you're listening to this
00:55:41on the various platforms,
00:55:43is it a deal-breaker
00:55:45if the girl hid $80,000 in debt
00:55:47from you?
00:55:49Is it a deal-breaker
00:55:51if a girl
00:55:53hides $80,000
00:55:55in debt from you when you're dating?
00:56:01Would you break up based on that?
00:56:03Yes or no?
00:56:05That is
00:56:07my question for you.
00:56:09For you.
00:56:11For me.
00:56:13For you.
00:56:17Alright, the answers are coming in.
00:56:23Yes.
00:56:25Yes.
00:56:27Yes.
00:56:31Even far less
00:56:33would be a deal-breaker.
00:56:37She's going to run up your credit cards,
00:56:39get on a horse, and skedaddle,
00:56:41is what I think.
00:56:43Yeah.
00:56:45Alright.
00:56:47I would break up unless she did something
00:56:49unimaginable to work
00:56:51to make it up.
00:56:53Are you having sex?
00:56:55Uh, not right now.
00:56:57Both hands in camera.
00:56:59Oh, sorry, you were asking him.
00:57:01My mistake. My bad.
00:57:03I'll just make a note to end it.
00:57:05My bad.
00:57:07I'll just make a note to edit that out.
00:57:09I'm not going to edit that out. I'm just kidding.
00:57:11It was all a joke.
00:57:13Ah, let's see here.
00:57:15Speaking of IQ,
00:57:17my stepsister graduated cum laude
00:57:19with an MBA
00:57:21and was a fairly successful model.
00:57:23She'd have been perfect for somebody
00:57:25if she didn't have the rage issues.
00:57:27Well, that's because she's so attractive and smart
00:57:29that she can't find a man to contain her.
00:57:31No, I edit my shows.
00:57:33No, I edit my shows. Thank you very much.
00:57:35Oh, you like that joke?
00:57:41Oh my, I have carpal tunnel syndrome again.
00:57:43It's a mystery.
00:57:45I must be holding my tennis racket wrong.
00:57:49Alright.
00:57:51Not a deal breaker.
00:57:53Oh, so you'd continue to date her?
00:57:55$80,000 in debt?
00:57:59Alright, my friends.
00:58:01Have you been paying the girl for two months?
00:58:03No, my wife had college debt.
00:58:05Didn't tell me about it at first,
00:58:07but she paid it off on her own.
00:58:09No, she didn't.
00:58:11No, she didn't.
00:58:13Certainly not when you were dating or married.
00:58:15She didn't pay it off on her own.
00:58:17Because her paying off the college debt
00:58:19means there's less money available to you
00:58:21in the relationship.
00:58:23She didn't pay it off on her own.
00:58:25Now, if she paid it off before you went out,
00:58:27that's different.
00:58:29Let's say you get married and she pays off $40,000 in debt.
00:58:31That's not paying it off on her own.
00:58:41Alright.
00:58:45So, this is synonymous.
00:58:47Just give me a rough...
00:58:49How much do you make a year?
00:58:51A guy who's dating the woman for two...
00:58:55Two months, who's got $80,000 in debt
00:58:57and you're hiding from him.
00:58:59How much...
00:59:07How much do you make a year?
00:59:09Just roughly, you can say $30,000 to $50,000,
00:59:11$60,000 to $80,000, whatever it is, right?
00:59:13Just give me a rough guesstimate.
00:59:17Hiding that much debt is concerning.
00:59:19That's a lot of debt.
00:59:21But the deal breaker would be the hiding.
00:59:23Oh, you make...
00:59:25You make $135,000.
00:59:27So, the woman who's heavily in debt
00:59:29is very happy to date the guy who makes really good money.
00:59:31Okay.
00:59:33So, you know, after taxes and expenses,
00:59:35because you've got to pay all that stuff
00:59:37after taxes and expenses, what is that?
00:59:39Like two years of your disposable income?
00:59:41Her ADK?
00:59:45What is she bringing to the table?
00:59:47She's 50-ish now.
00:59:49I don't blame the man for leaving at all.
00:59:51She's divorcing a mom with two kids.
00:59:53Okay.
00:59:55Oh, is that your sister?
00:59:57The debt is a deal breaker.
00:59:59Hiding it, even worse.
01:00:03Yep.
01:00:05Yep.
01:00:19So...
01:00:21Oh, I wasn't asking for everyone's salary.
01:00:23Sorry, just for the guy who was doing the dating.
01:00:25Although, that's very interesting to see.
01:00:27So...
01:00:29That way I know how much you're not donating.
01:00:31I'm just kidding.
01:00:33No, I'm not. I am really. Maybe a little.
01:00:35Somewhat.
01:00:37I'm just going to wait for that bouncing ball to stop in my head,
01:00:39which is not going to happen. It's never going to happen.
01:00:41It'll be...
01:00:43I'll be philosophizing
01:00:45probably at least up to 30 minutes after death.
01:00:47You know how your hair and fingernails grow.
01:00:49I'll just still be rambling and yapping.
01:00:53So...
01:00:57What?
01:00:59I mean, you don't know anything about her debt or payment plan
01:01:01or anything like that, right?
01:01:03Because she hasn't even told you that she's that heavily in debt.
01:01:07I don't think that is your actual salary.
01:01:09$69,420.69.
01:01:15My only debt is college $40k.
01:01:17Okay.
01:01:19So that is a lot of...
01:01:23That is a lot of debt.
01:01:27Yeah, what is that?
01:01:29That's U.S., right?
01:01:31U.S. dollar. C.A.D.
01:01:33What is that? $80,000?
01:01:35$80,000.
01:01:37So that's $108,544
01:01:39of after-tax income.
01:01:41In Canada,
01:01:43various taxes add up to about 50%.
01:01:45So that is
01:01:47$217,000
01:01:49and change.
01:01:51$217,000 of
01:01:53pre-tax income.
01:01:57$217,000.
01:02:01Oof.
01:02:05Oof.
01:02:09So...
01:02:15Thank you for the
01:02:17tip. I appreciate that.
01:02:25That is not wise to have acquired so much
01:02:27debt for a field she doesn't even want to pursue.
01:02:29Boy, am I lucky
01:02:31I ended up using my history degree, eh?
01:02:33Oof. Oof.
01:02:37Rough, man. Rough.
01:02:39Rough.
01:02:41Yeah, I wouldn't date someone
01:02:43like that, but...
01:02:45True, but to be fair, she makes
01:02:47a lot more money than me now.
01:02:49Yeah, that's fair.
01:02:51Does that mean you don't have kids? Is that right?
01:02:53Because it's kind of tough to make money
01:02:55while you're breastfeeding.
01:02:57Unless... Well, let's not even go there.
01:03:01And...
01:03:03What...
01:03:05What degree... What is her degree in?
01:03:13Oh, you don't...
01:03:15And you may not know what degree
01:03:17she's in. What degree, right? You may not know.
01:03:23Yeah, sorry.
01:03:25I know this. I find finances
01:03:27and all that stuff very interesting.
01:03:29Oh, she got a degree in accounting and she
01:03:31doesn't want to be an accountant?
01:03:33Boy, that's ironic.
01:03:35Because accountancy is all about making prudent and
01:03:37intelligent financial decisions.
01:03:39And she got an accounting
01:03:41degree and doesn't want to be an accountant.
01:03:43It's probably for the best.
01:03:45Oh, this stuff
01:03:47drives me crazy!
01:03:49Oh, it drives me crazy!
01:03:57Drives me crazy.
01:03:59These people who
01:04:01get these degrees
01:04:03and
01:04:05don't even want to work in the field.
01:04:07Because you just totally
01:04:09block someone else from getting
01:04:11in the field, just driving up the price for everyone
01:04:13else. It's like the women who are like,
01:04:15well, I started to be a good doctor and all, and then I
01:04:17quit to become a stay-at-home mom. It's like, great job!
01:04:19And people wonder why healthcare is so expensive.
01:04:27Yeah, what is...
01:04:29What is...
01:04:31What makes it
01:04:33worth it for you?
01:04:35What makes
01:04:37it worth it for you to take on a woman
01:04:39with this kind of debt?
01:04:41Sorry, I know. I wish this was less of a delay, but
01:04:43it is that way.
01:04:47It do be like that.
01:04:49It do be, do be, do.
01:04:51Do be like that.
01:04:53It do be like that.
01:04:55...
01:04:57...
01:04:59...
01:05:01...
01:05:03All right, let's see here.
01:05:09Yeah, I assume
01:05:11that she's very pretty.
01:05:15That is what I have been considering.
01:05:17Okay, sorry, I lost the thread.
01:05:19All right, well, obviously it's up to you.
01:05:21I personally would not want to be with somebody who hit that
01:05:23level of debt for me.
01:05:25All right, so let's do a couple more tangs.
01:05:27A couple more
01:05:29tangs.
01:05:31Narcissist's Gaslighting Checklist.
01:05:33This is from NarcissistBox
01:05:35on X.
01:05:37Narcissist's
01:05:39Gaslighting Checklist.
01:05:41Are you ready?
01:05:43I was just joking. I didn't do that.
01:05:45You're imagining things.
01:05:47You were there with us.
01:05:49You make stuff up in your head.
01:05:51Don't be so sensitive.
01:05:53You have issues.
01:05:55You're upset over nothing.
01:05:57Stop imagining things.
01:05:59You need help.
01:06:01It's always something with you.
01:06:03Here we go again.
01:06:05No one likes you.
01:06:07I never said that.
01:06:09They're lying.
01:06:11I don't have time for this.
01:06:13There's always drama with you.
01:06:15What else would you add to that?
01:06:17I mean, that's not a bad start.
01:06:19Narcissist's Gaslighting Checklist.
01:06:25I told you.
01:06:27You just forgot.
01:06:29That's another one.
01:06:31I'm sorry if you feel that way.
01:06:33I think that's another one.
01:06:49People.
01:06:51Thank you, Chris. I appreciate it.
01:06:53More than words.
01:06:55Alright.
01:07:13Alright.
01:07:15Let's see here.
01:07:17Oh, we already dealt with that problem,
01:07:19didn't we?
01:07:21X says you're right
01:07:23and that I'm in the right.
01:07:25Yes, that's right. Very good.
01:07:27Well, if you're going to overreact,
01:07:29calm down.
01:07:31It's not what you're saying.
01:07:33It's how you're saying it.
01:07:35It's your tone.
01:07:37That's a selective edit.
01:07:39Yeah, for sure.
01:07:41Anything that doesn't engage with the content
01:07:43or when you ask a question,
01:07:45to me this is real gaslighting,
01:07:47when you ask a question
01:07:49and the person you're asking
01:07:51the question of
01:07:53says, what's this all about?
01:07:55Why do you even care?
01:07:57Why do you want to know about this?
01:07:59Why do you want to talk about this?
01:08:03Gaslighting isn't real.
01:08:05You're just crazy.
01:08:07It's not all about you.
01:08:09It's time to move on.
01:08:11We've got to move on.
01:08:13You're obsessed with that topic.
01:08:15Yeah, that's good gaslighting.
01:08:17There you go again, almost thinking about yourself.
01:08:19Right. That's also very good.
01:08:21Very good. A lot of scar tissue
01:08:23coming up here.
01:08:25I think we've all been there.
01:08:27I'm just
01:08:29trying to help you
01:08:31without listening. Oh yeah, that was so long ago.
01:08:33Unverifiable stuff. Well, I did the best
01:08:35I could with the knowledge I had.
01:08:37Completely unverifiable stuff
01:08:39also works really well that way.
01:08:41Oh, here we go again
01:08:43with this. Yeah, that one was said.
01:08:45Steph, sounds like
01:08:47you're revealing secret debate strategies.
01:08:49They're anti-debate strategies,
01:08:51but I know what you mean.
01:08:53When did I ever do that?
01:08:55Right, right.
01:08:57Or
01:08:59the ploy for
01:09:01sympathy is good gaslighting too,
01:09:03right? Mom, I didn't like
01:09:05the way you raised me as a kid, sometimes.
01:09:07You should have seen my childhood.
01:09:09I had to make it about them, right?
01:09:11I'm not your therapist.
01:09:13You're overthinking this.
01:09:15You're thinking too hard about this.
01:09:17So you ask someone to
01:09:19talk about your feelings with them and they're like,
01:09:21I'm not your therapist.
01:09:23I'm burdened by what it's been.
01:09:25Yeah, that's a straight-up commie phrase.
01:09:33She does want to be a stay-at-home mom.
01:09:35She is fairly attractive.
01:09:37She even got $80,000 in debt
01:09:39for an advanced degree because she wants to be
01:09:41a stay-at-home mom. Really?
01:09:43Really?
01:09:45I
01:09:47have immense and intense
01:09:49doubt.
01:09:51Steph is right.
01:09:53I have one kid, might have another, but college-educated
01:09:55women don't have big families, usually.
01:09:57Woo her into having a big family.
01:09:59Convince her.
01:10:01I don't know. Why is it
01:10:03that everyone's so passive? I'm sorry to say everyone.
01:10:05A lot of people are passive in their relationships.
01:10:07Well, she's hesitant about having another kid.
01:10:09Convince her.
01:10:13Another gaslighting thing.
01:10:15You have it way better than X person, right?
01:10:19Hey, when I went to college,
01:10:21half the girls were there just to get married.
01:10:25Go get their MRS degree, right?
01:10:27Go get it.
01:10:33Here's a horrible statement
01:10:35from a woman.
01:10:37Good guys are
01:10:39boring for us when we're still fresh.
01:10:41They're not entertaining
01:10:43and mentally challenging.
01:10:45They can't be themselves, always trying to impress us.
01:10:47Well, we want real men.
01:10:49Good guys are only good to be stepfathers
01:10:51after the hoe phase.
01:10:53After tiredness of running with guys
01:10:55that make us wet.
01:10:57Good guys offer stability
01:10:59after the prime of a woman.
01:11:01That's why we can manipulate them saying
01:11:03good men raise another man's kids.
01:11:05Even inhabiting that persona
01:11:07for 15 seconds is
01:11:09absolutely appalling.
01:11:15Right.
01:11:17Narcissist's prayer.
01:11:19That didn't happen.
01:11:21And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
01:11:23And if it was, that's not a big deal.
01:11:25And if it is, that's not my fault.
01:11:27And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did,
01:11:29you deserved it.
01:11:31That's chillingly brilliant.
01:11:33Wow.
01:11:35James says, I don't know if this is common gaslighting,
01:11:37but I got this from my father.
01:11:39I expect the same
01:11:41of both of you, referring to my brother.
01:11:43I'm not sure I understand that one.
01:11:47Yeah, I mean, this is like the Haitian pets thing.
01:11:49There's no way they're eating pets.
01:11:53Well, they might be eating pets,
01:11:55but it's very rare. It's not a big deal.
01:11:57Okay, maybe it's a little bit more than a big deal,
01:11:59but how
01:12:01does this impact your life directly?
01:12:03Okay, well, if it does impact your life
01:12:05directly, you're just racist.
01:12:07We know all of this, right?
01:12:13Sure, I did that
01:12:15messed up thing, but you're lucky I didn't do something
01:12:17way worse. Yes, that's right.
01:12:19I kneecapped you, but only once.
01:12:23Okay.
01:12:29Her goals don't align with mine, and I am not
01:12:31happy now, but I don't want to
01:12:33chase her off, lest I lose the chance to be miserable
01:12:35later.
01:12:37Yes, yes, yes,
01:12:39yes. Well, I might regret this
01:12:41choice later. It's pure paralysis
01:12:43forever and ever. Amen.
01:12:47Somebody says, when I
01:12:49confronted my mother about verbal abuse, she said,
01:12:51what, so I should have just hit you like I was hit?
01:12:53You know,
01:12:55it's absolutely chilling.
01:12:57Absolutely chilling.
01:12:59Thank you, Lloyd. It's absolutely chilling, the number
01:13:01of people who simply cannot
01:13:03focus
01:13:05on anyone else. I mean, I guess it's narcissism.
01:13:07Wouldn't that be narcissism?
01:13:09Just the number of people, they simply
01:13:11cannot
01:13:13focus on someone else.
01:13:15It's like trying to push two powerful
01:13:17opposing magnets together.
01:13:19They just, they can't do it.
01:13:21It's wild to me.
01:13:23It seems to be functionally
01:13:25and practically absolutely impossible.
01:13:29Somebody says, it's so chillingly
01:13:31obvious why you're banned. You have such clear
01:13:33language and intellect. I'm grateful to hear you speak.
01:13:35Thank you, and happy birthday also. Well, thank you.
01:13:37I appreciate that. That's very kind.
01:13:39Thank you, thank you, thank you.
01:13:41Most
01:13:43gratefully accepted.
01:13:49All right. What else do I
01:13:51have to chat, to yappy yappy yap
01:13:53about?
01:13:55TikTok
01:13:57is banning accounts of women encouraging
01:13:59other women not to be obese. Now,
01:14:01this woman was very skinny,
01:14:03but, yeah, there was a woman
01:14:05who was banned on TikTok
01:14:07because she said how hard
01:14:09she works to stay thin.
01:14:15Then this woman,
01:14:17I want my person.
01:14:19Why is it so hard to find a good man
01:14:21at the age of 53?
01:14:23Oh, my God.
01:14:25Oh, my gosh.
01:14:27In the
01:14:29UK, 1 in 10
01:14:31adults of working age are now claiming sickness
01:14:33benefits. It's gone up
01:14:35150%, particularly for mental health
01:14:37issues among young people.
01:14:39Rapid surge
01:14:41in the number of young people claiming mental health benefits
01:14:43over the last five years.
01:14:45Maybe it's immigrants, maybe not, but
01:14:47yep.
01:15:01What's horrifying to me is the quantity of people
01:15:03who are narcs, narcissists,
01:15:05or dysfunctional is the fact that they all say the exact
01:15:07same stuff, as if they took classes or
01:15:09read a narcissist's bible.
01:15:11Yeah, that's right.
01:15:15Ah, where did it go? All right.
01:15:17Red flag, behaviorist traits and
01:15:19personalities. These are things
01:15:21that are dangerous.
01:15:23One, accusers.
01:15:25People who try to shut down arguments
01:15:27by implying you're bad, evil, problematic,
01:15:29and idiot if you don't agree with them.
01:15:31Two,
01:15:33dehumanizers, or the
01:15:35dehumanization. Anyone who
01:15:37dehumanizes entire groups of people
01:15:39that crows callously at death,
01:15:41pain, or the misfortune of others who can
01:15:43rationalize believing some lies are more equal
01:15:45than others, right? This is the whole deplorable
01:15:47stuff, right? Three,
01:15:49self-appointed
01:15:51hall monitors who run around
01:15:53tediously policing thought and language
01:15:55and instigating witch trials,
01:15:57relishing the opportunity to mete out cruel
01:15:59and unusual punishment or extract a pound of flesh
01:16:01with zero awareness that they are
01:16:03the perpetrators they claim to fight.
01:16:05Four,
01:16:07this is from
01:16:09Sirut K. Chola,
01:16:11people who forget
01:16:13you are in the relationship too. It's always about
01:16:15them. Their venting, their problems,
01:16:17their woes, their feelings,
01:16:19and predictably, immediately
01:16:21lose interest if you dare to express yours.
01:16:27Pseudo-therapists, people who make
01:16:29every conversation a pseudo-therapy session
01:16:31replete with pop psychology, jargon, and meaningless
01:16:33saccharine word salads.
01:16:35It's not indicative of emotional maturity,
01:16:37it's indicative of emotional incontinence.
01:16:41Six, victim
01:16:43slash perpetrators. They've assigned themselves
01:16:45the role of permanent victim so they feel
01:16:47entitled to behave like perpetrators,
01:16:49often accompanied by a mind-blowing level of
01:16:51entitlement, demand for validation, agreement,
01:16:53and your time,
01:16:55and probably the moon on a stick.
01:16:57Seven, the flippantly callous.
01:16:59They don't believe in personal
01:17:01responsibility, they believe in blame.
01:17:03So certain of their superiority,
01:17:05their first response to human suffering is
01:17:07contempt, judgment, and an extra side of
01:17:09taking a man while he's down.
01:17:11Eight,
01:17:13atomic level reactivity.
01:17:15People whose reactivity goes atomic on a hair
01:17:17trigger. You have to walk on eggshells,
01:17:19censor yourself, or be subjected to
01:17:21the explosion.
01:17:23Life is too short to manage the feelings of people
01:17:25who can't manage their own.
01:17:29So that was pretty good.
01:17:31And
01:17:33covert provocateurs,
01:17:35this is sort of comments below,
01:17:37those who believe they have a moral
01:17:39immunity because of their,
01:17:41insert reason here, weaponized stupidity,
01:17:43deliberate misinterpretation,
01:17:45spineless sadists, encourage dogpiles
01:17:47on strangers, mind
01:17:49readers, yeah that's
01:17:51true, the people who
01:17:53say that, oh I know
01:17:55your intentions,
01:17:57I know your intentions.
01:18:03Yes, happy birthday Steph,
01:18:05I hope it's a great one,
01:18:07I remember talking during a live stream
01:18:09a few years back on your birthday and
01:18:11asking your greatest birthday memory, cheers, thank you,
01:18:13appreciate it.
01:18:15Donated 50 at FDR,
01:18:17happy birthday, thank you so much Kairos, I appreciate that.
01:18:21Yeah, so basically if we call me ever,
01:18:23well, the fascists are pretty
01:18:25bad too.
01:18:27Alright.
01:18:29Alright, thank you,
01:18:31a beautiful, beautiful evening of conversation,
01:18:33and if you have any other
01:18:35thoughts or questions or comments, I'm
01:18:37happy to take them, I really really of course very
01:18:39much appreciate your very kind support,
01:18:41it is,
01:18:43you know, September's tough, everyone's back at school,
01:18:45and it's going to be a little lean
01:18:47through the election,
01:18:49and for that I of course,
01:18:51I sympathize as well.
01:18:53Yeah,
01:18:55you know, maybe don't be
01:18:57massively in downtown
01:18:59areas when the election is going on.
01:19:03Thank you
01:19:05for tonight's show.
01:19:07You're welcome.
01:19:11Ah, interesting,
01:19:13okay, thank you,
01:19:15that's a very interesting diagram,
01:19:17I will save the image,
01:19:19I appreciate that.
01:19:21What would we call this, moral
01:19:23levels, thank you.
01:19:25Very kind.
01:19:29Yes, that is very interesting, I appreciate that.
01:19:33Yeah, it's worth
01:19:35mentioning here. So this is levels
01:19:37of morality, so pre-conventional morality,
01:19:39stage one,
01:19:41punishments and obedience orientation, it's
01:19:43okay to do it if you don't get caught.
01:19:45Stage two, instrumental relativist
01:19:47orientation, if it feels good, do it.
01:19:51Stage three, good boy,
01:19:53nice girl, do it for me, he should do it because
01:19:55he loves his wife.
01:19:57Stage four, law and order orientation,
01:19:59do your duty. Saving a human life
01:20:01is more important than protecting property,
01:20:03that's such a false dichotomy, we can't survive without
01:20:05property. Stage five,
01:20:07social contract orientation,
01:20:09it's the consensus of thoughtful men.
01:20:11Society has a right to ensure its own
01:20:13survival, I couldn't hold my head up in public
01:20:15if I let her die. Stage six,
01:20:17universal ethical principles, what if everyone
01:20:19did that? Human life has supreme
01:20:21inherent value, I couldn't live for myself if I let her
01:20:23die.
01:20:25That's good.
01:20:27It's the
01:20:29parenting book going to be physically available around
01:20:31when the hat comes out.
01:20:33I don't know what that means, any plans for that?
01:20:37Yeah, I mean,
01:20:39I don't really want to. I don't want to be
01:20:41a pirate. I don't really want to do the physical version
01:20:43of peaceful parenting.
01:20:45It's time consuming, it's incredibly boring,
01:20:47it takes like five tries to get it right,
01:20:49and very few people end up
01:20:51buying it. So, sorry.
01:20:53I don't see it happening anytime
01:20:55imminently, but if you're desperate for a printed
01:20:57copy, just print
01:20:59it out. Honestly, just print it out.
01:21:07Yeah, maybe I can do my own. Those don't
01:21:09quite satisfy me, and the examples aren't great, but
01:21:11I'll check out the wiki.
01:21:13Lawrence Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development.
01:21:15Alright, but yeah, maybe I
01:21:17should do my own Stages of Moral Development.
01:21:19That might be interesting to diagram,
01:21:21to sketch it out.
01:21:23Alright, well thanks everyone
01:21:25for a beautiful, beautiful night of
01:21:27conversation. We're back on
01:21:29for Sunday at
01:21:3111am, and for donors,
01:21:33look for
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01:21:37starting over the weekend. It's a series
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01:21:43a wide variety of topics,
01:21:45and I promise you, mostly
01:21:47new stuff. Mostly,
01:21:49mostly new stuff.
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01:21:53thank you. I appreciate you guys
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