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Friday Night Live 28 June 2024

In this episode, I cover a range of topics from relationships to societal issues. I share a comical story about missing ducks and discuss privacy during political incidents. Reflecting on a political debate, I explore cognitive decline and media influence.

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Transcript
00:00:00Good evening. Oh, the shame! Didn't I just have... didn't I just have a whole speech
00:00:06about being excellent and not making mistakes? And here it is, 7.14! I am 14 minutes late.
00:00:15Now, you know I don't like in particular being late, but I feel if you are late, at least,
00:00:21at least, at least, you can deliver a decent story. Thank you for the $4.
00:00:28Don't you like the story of my lateness? And it is a story of great, deep, abiding,
00:00:35nay, existential terror. This is going to be a horror story for the ages. Hit me with
00:00:44a Y if you're here. If you want a story that will chill the very marrow off your soul's
00:00:51bones. All right. So, tell me, what is... come on, what is your greatest fear? Mine
00:01:01is irrelevance. What is your greatest fear? What is your greatest fear? Because I'm going
00:01:08to top it. I'm absolutely going to top it. And you may think you have a great fear. You've
00:01:13got nothing compared to why I'm late. Dying. Your fear is dying. Okay. Windows update.
00:01:21Well, yeah, I was also a little late because Windows was just like, hey, you know what,
00:01:25your privacy settings, I'm just going to turn your camera off. And I'm also going to turn
00:01:28your microphone off. But I'm not going to tell you that I'm doing it. Getting fired
00:01:32from work, a network loop, getting kidnapped and tortured, losing my mind, being sucked
00:01:36out of an airplane toilet. Yes, however, being sucked in an airplane toilet apparently is
00:01:41quite a lot of fun. Being misunderstood. Oh, Lord, please don't let me be misunderstood.
00:01:48Okay, realizing I've been doing the exact opposite of what I intended to do, being inert.
00:01:53These are all reasonable fears, but nothing like tonight. To die prematurely before having
00:02:01children. Or if you are entirely premature, it's kind of tough to have children. Commitment.
00:02:08Commitment. Oh, greatest fear is commitments. Right. Royd, Sally Royd. All right. To beget
00:02:16them all. Yeah. Why James is typing his greatest fear. You can use this in the performance
00:02:26review. His greatest fear. Oh, apparently it's quite a long one. His greatest fear is
00:02:35that it's not a long one. Going broke. Yes, not fun. Going broke, especially if you have
00:02:40dysfunctional family, because then, then you go broke and you have to live with your family.
00:02:48Family. All right. I think we are. What have we got here? All right. Okay. So you have
00:03:01your fears. I understand the fears. It's not like I'm super competitive. Not being
00:03:07alive in the post Bitcoin world, getting sick and lingering, unable to do anything. Yes.
00:03:14Being in a prison cell with a bunch of buff gay dudes. I like how you throw buff in there.
00:03:18Like that's worse. All right. All right. Now you may have these fears and I understand
00:03:24these fears and I don't mean to be overly competitive at all, but these fears pale to
00:03:30nothing, nothing compared to why I'm late. So for reasons that are kind of outside the scope,
00:03:42this is like Gandalf's journey in the Hobbit. For reasons that are really outside the scope
00:03:49of this tale. I am alone in the house. The family is away. Now you may have experienced
00:04:10great terrors in your life. You may have been a child dangled by Michael Jackson over a balcony.
00:04:16You may have been an offspring of Eric Clapton. You may have had Lizzo falling
00:04:23towards you on an amusement park ride. There could be many, absolutely terrible,
00:04:30terrible things. But you have not experienced real fear until you cannot find your child's pets.
00:04:46That is the core. That is the essence. That is the Aristotelian pure distilled form of
00:04:52absolute West Cop and a terror known to man, beast, God or devil. So I did two long call-ins
00:05:04today. And for the last couple of days, old Steph-bot has been in charge of the ducks.
00:05:12Now I like the ducks, don't get me wrong. They're really cute. They're kind of fluffy.
00:05:16They're growing like tumors. But I don't do a lot of pet stuff. I mean,
00:05:24I had some hamsters and mice and stuff when I was a kid. I came this close to buying a dog
00:05:33in my late 20s. But I don't really do the pets thing. Now the ducks are not super complicated
00:05:40to take care of. I'll be frank with you. In the morning, you go out, you say hi to them,
00:05:47you refill their food bowl, you change their water bowl and you play with them a little bit.
00:05:53And then if I'm going to be outside, I'll let them out of the coop and we'll hang out outside. If I'm
00:05:59not going to be outside, I generally put them back in the coop just because, you know, I don't know,
00:06:05hawks. I don't exactly know, but bad things can happen. So the call-ins, I did three yesterday,
00:06:20two today. Each of these are two to two and a half and sometimes three hours.
00:06:25And they have been ferocious. I won't go into details because they're private calls,
00:06:29but they have been ferocious. So anyway, after I finished the call-in, I decide to
00:06:40rest my eyes. You know how you lie to yourself? I mean, I'm really trying to commit myself to
00:06:46the truth, but you know when, you know, there's a nice, soft, warm, sunlit patch on the couch
00:06:52and you're like, ah, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to eat a fairly big meal of
00:07:00meat and potatoes and then I'm going to rest my eyes. So I wake up. No, not wake up. No,
00:07:15let's be fair. I return to a state of true alertness from a state of
00:07:25semi-alertness wherein I was riding the back of a giant eagle. But
00:07:29could have happened. Might not have been a dream. Could have absolutely happened.
00:07:36Just a quick 10-minute nap. That's right. That's right.
00:07:41I, uh, and you know, there's, I won't go into details. If you really want to relax,
00:07:48I'm not one of them, but there are some people you can go to. Sandman is one of them. You can,
00:07:56I don't want you to be repairing issues and cleaning my computer. Thank you very much.
00:07:59Anyway, so Sandman is one of them. There's a couple other people. You go and you just know,
00:08:03as Scott Adams is not much of a shouter, you go and you're like, hmm, you know,
00:08:08you're not going to get startled. Like,
00:08:12like, like when the godfather Samuel has some shrieky woman on that's not going to work out
00:08:20well. Right. So, I had a, I took a, I took a dream, a vision journey, not a dream journey.
00:08:29I took a vision journey, woke up at 6 52. I'm like, oh, well, no problem. I've been
00:08:35sitting by the open door. So yeah, I'll, I'll, I'll just go grab the ducks and I'll put the
00:08:41ducks away. No problem. It's going to be a little tight. I think I can make it. I think I can do it.
00:08:47And I'm not at all concerned because, you know, if the ducks were in any kind of trouble,
00:08:50they would have made a bunch of sound. So I get up and I look out the back.
00:09:00Poop I see. You always see the poop. Ducks, not so much. Now, they're not all going to be gone,
00:09:09right? They can't, they're not going to take up. They're not going to glitch. They're not
00:09:12going to go to the back rooms. There's going to be ducks around. So, I look over here,
00:09:16look over there. No ducks. I do the useless whistle, you know, because that's just going to
00:09:24summon them from another dimension. If they have to, they can come in from fairy for all I know.
00:09:30So, I'm like, well, um, I mean, in the evening, they're old enough now that they put themselves
00:09:40to bed. And so I go up to their coop and I'm like, oh, I'm sure they'll be up in their little
00:09:51bedroom where they can go up. They can go up this ramp into the bedroom. I'm like, okay,
00:09:55I go in there and the coop is as empty as my heart is full of terror. Oh, no.
00:10:06And then you go through all these plans. Oh, no. What if the ducks are gone? What should I tell
00:10:10her? Oh, gosh. So, I, um, as the phrase goes, I haul ass and I run around and run here and I run
00:10:22there. I won't get into details, but, oh, does that work with cats? Yeah. So, I'm racing around,
00:10:31racing around the house. I mean, you know, when you get to this frantic place where you're just
00:10:35looking in places you've already looked before, you know, you can't find your keys. And so you
00:10:41lift up the same cushion you've already lifted up twice before. Maybe they're back. Maybe the space
00:10:44aliens that took them have returned them. Can't find them. Can't find them. Not ideal.
00:10:56And then, like most people who are in deep doo-doo, I start trying to figure out what lies
00:11:03I'm going to start telling. You ever go through this process? I'm not saying I'm proud of it.
00:11:07I'm not saying I didn't fight it. I'm not saying I would have lost, but the weasel brain in me just
00:11:14starts on its hamster wheel of excuse generation. I must have been drunk with a blow dart. Uh,
00:11:23they were right here. And then, space aliens. You know, you just come up with, I don't know them.
00:11:29Right? So, you come up with, the weasel brain just starts coughing up excuses and lies and,
00:11:35well, you left them alone. You left me with them, but you're right. It's stupid stuff, right?
00:11:40But of course, I never would have done any of that. I would have manfully confessed to
00:11:43having gone on a slight vision quest on the couch.
00:11:50So, I'm looking and I'm looking. Now, I have a complicated set of eyewear,
00:11:55because I will not get bifocals. I will not get trifocals. I'm not denying aging.
00:12:00I have basically three sets of glasses. I have these, which are my very old reading glasses,
00:12:07but which are fine for distance now. I have a medium pair and I have a close-up pair.
00:12:12So, I'm, because I'm just, I just grabbed my, uh, it turned out I grabbed my reading glasses,
00:12:18which I don't, I don't do on the show, because I'm going to get fish tank eyes. So, I'm racing
00:12:24around and I'm like trying to find, you know, you got to look and see the ducks, right? And they're
00:12:29not exactly the brightest colored things. So, I'm looking around, looking around. And finally,
00:12:33I look back up to where I already checked their coop. I look back up there and I'm like,
00:12:37are those, I can't really see, right? It looks like a duck, but I'm like, it could just be a
00:12:43bowl or something like that, right? So, I, no, they're not quite at flight level yet. They're,
00:12:49they're pretty new. So, I, what I do is I grab my glasses and I put my glasses on and instead of
00:12:56having, instead of having, like, I can't see because they're too far away. Now, I can't see
00:13:05because I have my reading glasses on, which turns everything else into, like, an n-dimensional
00:13:10puddle of gooey nothing. So, I'm sprinting up. Now, here's the thing, too. I'm sprinting up to
00:13:17get the ducks, but I don't want to sprint so fast that I'm going to startle them away,
00:13:21if it is in fact the ducks that are by the coop that I already checked.
00:13:25Just, it's crazy, doesn't it? Drive you nuts when you're looking for something and you're
00:13:28sure you've checked someplace and you look back and it's right there. Now, the problem is as well,
00:13:34this is the big problem as well. Because my wife is away, I don't have someone to blame. That's the
00:13:43big, big advantage of marriage, is whatever goes wrong, you have a scapegoat. That's really
00:13:47important. Really, really important. So, I'm trying, I was trying to think of who could have
00:13:53come by the house. The Mormons! They came by the house and they scared the ducks, or maybe they
00:13:58stole the duck. Anyway, I think we all have the weasel brain. Maybe it's just me. But anyway, so,
00:14:04I'm sprinting up to the duck coop, but not too fast to startle them away. And they're there,
00:14:11which is completely bizarre. They're literally there on the side that I walked up to look for
00:14:15them. I do not know where they went. I assumed space, like I used to have this theory about
00:14:20once a kid space aliens beam stuff up, they study it and then they put it back down. Colonel
00:14:24Sanders, yeah. So, that's right, KFC came by. I saw a representative of an East Asian restaurant.
00:14:39So, the ducks are there. And you go through the quick head count.
00:14:42Good, the ducks are all here. Now I just have to get them into the coop.
00:14:46China. So, anyway, I go and get the big, we got a sort of big plastic half-square container.
00:14:54We put the ducks in. So, I'm in a hurry. Now, when you're trying to corral animals and you're in a
00:15:01hurry, that, yeah, show them just duckling. It was very, very strange. And I, of course, pinch myself
00:15:09to see if I am awake or not. You know that dream where you just can't find the ducks?
00:15:15I don't know. I don't give a duck. Anyway, so,
00:15:17I'm trying to, you know, when you have that slightly strained voice, here, ducky, ducky,
00:15:24ducky, I got to get my lice, here, ducky. And so, I finally get a duck. And because I'm in a hurry,
00:15:31they're nervous, right? So, I put the duck in the big plastic thing. But I have not realized
00:15:37that, of course, by the time I get the other two ducks and go back, the first one is out
00:15:41because apparently they've just learned how to levitate. They have wings the size of
00:15:45my pinky. And yet, they can hummingbird their way up or just leap out or something like that.
00:15:53So, it is a mess. So, I finally get the ducks inside. And then I'm filling up their water.
00:16:04And I'm putting their food in for the night. One of them gets out and then freaks out is on the
00:16:09other side because, you know, they're not the brightest animals in the world. Can't figure
00:16:12out how to get back in. So, then I go and, you know, lock the gate, go get the duck. Can't get
00:16:22the gate open because I'm holding a duck. So, anyway, finally, long story short, it's too late
00:16:27for that. I get the ducks in. And all is well. All is well. And then, of course, I have these
00:16:36little memory cards. One for the audio, one for the video. And I need one that's at least 32 gigs.
00:16:42Can I find them? Nope. Don't know where they are. Spawned out. Now, again,
00:16:48if you have a wife at home, what you can say, which is perfectly reasonable and everybody
00:16:52understands this, who's a husband, what you can say to your wife is, I put them down right here.
00:16:57What did you do with them? Or my favorite is, did you check the pants of my pockets
00:17:02before you did the laundry? I don't do any of that. But again, it's in my mind. It's in my
00:17:08mind. Did you keep the story to yourself or share it with your daughter?
00:17:13I already answered that question. Duck ate the memory card. Yeah. Yeah. So, then I've got to
00:17:19race around through, you know, upstairs. Oh, God. And then I get here and Windows is turned off for
00:17:25some reason. I'm trying to, I'm in Rumble Studio and I'm trying to start the live stream and I
00:17:28can't click on the, turn on the microphone and the camera. I tried two different browsers. I'm like,
00:17:33restart the browser. I'm like, clear the cache. And it's like, nope.
00:17:37Because it turns out, turns out, turns out that Windows has turned off my access to my camera
00:17:45and my microphone. And of course, it's not something that Windows tells you. It doesn't
00:17:49say, oh, sorry, did you, did you want this microphone? You turned it off, which I didn't
00:17:53turn it off. But anyway, there it is. Oh, my gosh. My gosh. So, anyway, here we are. Thank
00:18:03you for your patience. And there we go. There are duck calls maybe worth investing in. Yeah,
00:18:08yeah, maybe. Imagine the world's greatest philosophy show starting late because the
00:18:12philosopher was chasing ducks. Well, I may be chasing ducks, but I always catch the excuses.
00:18:21Steph, I would find immense value and would donate more if you shared insights and recounts
00:18:26of private calls, obviously keeping anonymity. This is particularly because I believe that
00:18:30people's behaviors, manners, and issues might be more relevant to the general masses. Would
00:18:34this be something you'd be open to? I would not. The private calls are the private calls.
00:18:38And I will not, I would not share the contents of the private calls. They do remain private,
00:18:44but I certainly appreciate your thought. And I had one of the ones I had today. The person,
00:18:53the person did, in fact, I guess, give a little thing.
00:19:02Give a little thing. What did he say?
00:19:10He said, Stephen helped me work through my dissociation that I had with my relationships
00:19:13in the past. The privacy helps for speeding through your thoughts and being more candid
00:19:18with your situation. One thing Stephen is good at is identifying where you are getting
00:19:22lied to and when you are lying to him or yourself to help clean it up and move on. Yes,
00:19:28yes. It's really good. I really do like the private calls. I really do. Names and places
00:19:34don't care. Details doesn't matter. And because they're ephemeral, right? They come and go.
00:19:40So freedom.com.
00:19:44Slash call freedom.com slash call if you would like to do it. Yeah, they're very,
00:19:49and I can be very, because I don't have to worry about translating things to the general population.
00:19:54And usually it's people who've had a long, who are long-term listeners. We can hit really hit the,
00:19:58we can really hit the metal quick and fast and hard.
00:20:01So last night I did, oh, I don't know. Speaking of danger, speaking of danger.
00:20:15Last night I had a call in at 9 PM and I finished at 1130.
00:20:24And I had a little something in the back of my brain, a splinter in the mind's eye,
00:20:27I had a little something in the back of my brain and I was like,
00:20:33wait, was there a, some political thing? Some political thing. What the hell was it?
00:20:45And you know, like some, so I pop open social media and what did I see from last night?
00:20:58Is there a standard price for the private calls? No, it's an hourly price and you just,
00:21:04you pay at the end, depending on how long we got. Political debacle. Yes, yes, yes.
00:21:11There is going to be quite a lot of cognitive dissonance going on.
00:21:19There's going to be quite a lot of cognitive dissonance. So anyway, I found a, this was late,
00:21:25right? And so I found a stream and I started watching the debate. Oh my God. Oh my gosh.
00:21:41Well, yeah, I mean, I doubt I would have watched the debate live anyway, but you know,
00:21:46I was having a late night snack as I am wont to do because apparently I learned nothing about
00:21:52good eating habits, but I was having a late night snack, a little bowl of yogurt and fruit.
00:21:57And I start watching the debate.
00:22:04Lights are on, nobody home. Do you think politics will end in our lifetime? Well, no,
00:22:11no, not mine. So boy, that's, that was rough, man.
00:22:16You know, there's this movie cliche where someone has a big speech and they just totally
00:22:22freeze up and everyone's like, and they're like, you know, and then they go off script and they
00:22:26just say something really passionate. And, you know, Elvis Costello doing some song on
00:22:31late night with David Letterman that he wasn't supposed to do. You know,
00:22:34this kind of, it's a very standard sort of thing, right?
00:22:36Oh my gosh. Isn't that wild?
00:22:45You can link to the private call testimonials page. Yeah.
00:22:48Thank you, Steph, for putting out your response to my question from Wednesday's live stream. My
00:22:51husband and I really appreciate your insight. Thank you, Kayla. And I'm sorry. I was like,
00:22:56I couldn't, I can't believe I didn't fit, didn't do that one.
00:22:59So I apologize for that. And thank you for, I'm glad it was helpful.
00:23:07Yeah. First time people saw Biden with no teleprompter in a while.
00:23:16Yeah. I mean, the political content was not particularly interesting,
00:23:20but there do seem to be a lot of theories floating around, which I don't particularly,
00:23:25I don't particularly agree with, right? So people are like, oh, he's, you know,
00:23:28why did they do the debate so early? It's the earliest debate in American political history.
00:23:33Well, they did the debate early for, I mean, for one simple reason that he's getting worse.
00:23:37So they have to do it early because he's getting worse.
00:23:41And, you know, a really interesting hole has sort of opened up in people's brains,
00:23:47right? Because, uh, what's it? Joe Scarborough and other people are like,
00:23:50I've never seen Biden sharper. His grasp on everything is immense. And, you know,
00:23:54he had like a week at Camp David to prepare, and I assume a fairly deep hole of swimming pool
00:23:58cocktails to get him to some place of semi lucidness. And the amount that the media has
00:24:05been covering up this significant and extremely dangerous cognitive decline, I think it might
00:24:13give people, I mean, I don't know how much hope I have exactly, but it might give people some sense
00:24:21of just how much they're being lied to. And that, that is the beginning of wisdom. I just did a
00:24:28whole show yesterday about the truth of the truth about history and the truth of history.
00:24:35And no, it's not that the emperor has no clothes. The emperor has no clothes
00:24:39is a story of everyone, right? It's not about the emperor. It's about everyone, right? And so
00:24:45there are people who've said, you know, well, the media is not telling the truth. The media
00:24:49is not telling the truth. And the media has been covering this up for three years.
00:24:54I mean, you can see scraps of it here and there, but it is,
00:25:04honestly, the kind of guy you wouldn't put in charge of a golf cart is running
00:25:10the most powerful name. Well, he's not, right? I mean, whoever's running it, I don't know, but
00:25:16so I think that there's quite a lot of cognitive dissonance
00:25:19going on in America and in the world as a whole, because this is what the foreign leaders have seen.
00:25:28This is what the handlers have seen. This is what the people close to him have seen. And this is
00:25:31what they're also desperate to cover up. So, yeah, I think that there could be some quite
00:25:40healthy cognitive dissonance that comes out of, like, it's really, and again, I'm a little
00:25:47political content's not particularly interesting. What is fascinating to me is I think
00:25:58people occasionally get a glimpse of how far from reality they actually are.
00:26:09I think people get a glimpse from time to time. They get a glimpse from time to time
00:26:14of just how far from reality they really are. And that is very, very, it's terrifying to people.
00:26:27Terrifying to people.
00:26:32Because they realize there's a whole apparatus of lying.
00:26:38And they realize it's not so much that the TV lies to you. I mean, the TV lies to you, right?
00:26:45Unless I'm on the TV, in which case I'm practicing lying to my wife. So, the TV
00:26:52lies to you, but that's not the big issue. That's not what makes people,
00:26:57you know, the excuses, he has a cold. Yes, I've done shows with a cold. It's not so much that
00:27:04the media lies to you. What terrifies people is everyone else around them who is not connected
00:27:10with reality, right? That's the really alarming thing for people as a whole.
00:27:17That's the really alarming thing. And didn't Trump refer to him as Brandon at one point
00:27:22at night? I mean, it's a funny guy. But yeah, so that I think is really
00:27:29going to be upsetting to people in a sort of very deep and primal way, right?
00:27:33That when illusion collides with reality, people generally really freak out. I mean,
00:27:42have you ever tried to bring reality to someone who is just very deluded? Kevin Samuels does it.
00:27:51You know, where there are these women who are like, yeah, I'm a 41-year-old woman with two
00:27:55kids by two different dads, and I'm a dress size 18, and I want a top 1% man. And so,
00:28:01he tries to bring them back to reality. Okay, we know that song.
00:28:13And of course, part of what I do is wrangle with myself and with others to make sure
00:28:17we stay on track with reality. But I think there's a little wormhole that's kind of opened up, right?
00:28:31And that Biden is rambling about all the young women being raped by their in-laws and sisters.
00:28:40I don't know that he should be making those. Well, maybe they're not mistakes. I don't know.
00:28:44Yeah, so I just think it's interesting. And I don't know if you have people in your life
00:28:48who are like, you should ask them that question, but people really freeze up.
00:28:51People are going to really freeze up and really freak out. But there is a chance,
00:29:01you know, whenever there's a glitch in the matrix in this way, and this is a huge glitch in the
00:29:05matrix, huge glitch in the matrix. And the only thing comparable is when you wake up from a dream.
00:29:12Well, I get that, but usually when you wake up from a dream, unless it's a particularly fun and
00:29:16beautiful dream, usually when you wake up from a dream, you know, it's either been innocuous or a
00:29:20nightmare and you're returning to a state of stability. But for these people, it's like being
00:29:25drugged and going into a psychosis. For them, emerging from unreality is like somebody trying
00:29:32to drug you and make you psychotic, right? So it's true, you wake up from a dream, but for them,
00:29:37the dream is reality and reality is a nightmare, right? And of course, there's no apologies for
00:29:53covering any of this stuff. There's just like, how do we keep power? Anyway, all right, enough
00:29:58of that. But yeah, I did find it quite interesting. And it was, I mean, I don't,
00:30:06I mean, I think Biden is a creep show and a half, but still, it's just like,
00:30:11you know, don't do that. It's just not right. It's just not right.
00:30:17So, all right. Anyway, questions, comments, tips, challenges,
00:30:21issues? I have been doing some call-in shows for the public as well.
00:30:29So, those will be coming out as well. And I've just been doing some really, really great,
00:30:35really been doing some great work. All right.
00:30:44All right, so what have we got here? Hey, Steph, in the last stream,
00:30:47you did you ask why women micromanage and nitpick their children. Is this the mother
00:30:52venting her frustration with her inability to advocate for her needs with her husband?
00:30:56I don't see that connection. Mother venting her frustration
00:31:01with her inability to advocate for her needs with her husband.
00:31:06No, because I assume she manages her husband as well.
00:31:11Managing people is obviously managing your own emotions. If you can't control your own emotions,
00:31:15then you end up having to manage other people. And when you manage other people,
00:31:19you get temporary relief from anxiety, but then you get a permanent sense of isolation,
00:31:23frustration and loneliness. It's been like, literally, it's being locked in a prison of
00:31:26your own mind. Because when you're managing people, you're not connected with them,
00:31:30you're not interacting with them, you're not human with them. You're distant, you're a puppet master,
00:31:35you're a manipulator, you're not a direct person who is connected with someone. It's a brutal price
00:31:41to pay. A brutal price to pay. All right, so let me get to your comments. If you have questions,
00:31:47issues, challenges. Did you hear about Tractor Supply caving on its DEI stuff due to customer
00:31:56boycotts? Yeah, I mean, in the long run, anything other than a meritocracy is unsustainable.
00:32:09Tim says, I think the four-year anniversary of UD Platform is coming up. Maybe it just passed. I
00:32:14know you're cool with it, but it occurred to me it might still be a hard thing to think about
00:32:17occasionally. I suppose I wish that we lived in a world where you could tell the truth
00:32:31and this sort of social credit score erasure. It's interesting, Scott Adams wrote the other day
00:32:40that China's social credit score is in some ways better than the de-platforming stuff,
00:32:45because at least there have to be some kind of facts behind it, and you can earn your way back
00:32:49in. And so you generally can't just be de-platformed for a lie, or a series of lies,
00:32:55and there's a way to earn your way back in, but this is sort of permanent, right?
00:32:58Special de-platforming anniversary show? I don't know. I don't know. Recent call-in shows have
00:33:06been great. I get at least one thing from everyone that sticks with me for life. Oh,
00:33:09I'm glad to hear that. Thank you. Do you think there's a likelihood of a draftable? Yeah, yeah.
00:33:30Let's see here.
00:33:30At what age is it appropriate to tell your kids that their father had a previous family and
00:33:39divorced? I would leave that as late as humanly possible.
00:33:51Yeah, I mean, I would leave that as late as humanly possible.
00:33:57Who won, Trump or Biden?
00:34:01I mean, I don't even know that that question would need to be asked. Sorry.
00:34:18All right. Well, we have people here, but not too many questions, which is fine.
00:34:24Let me just check over here. Nothing in particular over on Rumble.
00:34:35And, of course, you don't have to have questions.
00:34:43But yeah, I mean, political debates are just, who's going to give me free stuff, right?
00:34:54All right. Hey, Steph, I'm dating a woman at the moment, and I'm concerned about her age. She's
00:34:5835, and I'm worried about her fertility because I'd like to have children. What are your thoughts?
00:35:10Why are you dating a woman if you want kids? Why are you dating a 35-year-old woman?
00:35:14I'm not sure I quite follow. I'm not sure I quite follow.
00:35:20How long have you been dating her for? Why would you date a woman if you want kids and you say
00:35:27children, not a child, you want children? So, she's 35 and you're dating. So, let's say it
00:35:33takes a year to get married. She's 36. You start trying, you're into 37. How are you going to have?
00:35:42I mean, it's possible, but in general, the women who have kids older are also women who've had
00:35:47kids younger. So, I'm not quite sure. Steph, I assure you, no $1 donation flubs from me tonight.
00:35:56Hey, welcome back. I also did my absolute best today taking your advice and sending out an
00:35:59important email and quadruple checking the information, even trimming it down and improving
00:36:02the grammar and readability. Your words are echoing around in my head. Yes, be excellent,
00:36:07and be 14 minutes late to your own show. Ah, well, it happens.
00:36:11Yeah, Trump is hip to Bitcoin. Yeah, for sure, for sure. Sometimes I just miss the way he said
00:36:17China. All right, my fiancee and I want to call in. We both have trauma from our childhoods.
00:36:22What are your thoughts on a joint call or call in individually first? I would do it all together.
00:36:28Getting married in September and kids soon after. Okay. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely.
00:36:35Absolutely, absolutely. Do you have any thoughts on gentrification? I live in an area where it's
00:36:43a hot topic. So, gentrification is where more wealthy people move into a neighborhood that
00:36:50was formerly poor. I mean, as long as nobody's using force, I don't particularly care what
00:36:58happens. Any updates on a non-cancellable location for meetup in the USA? Yes, yes. A
00:37:06possibility. A possibility. I'll keep you posted. I can't find many women who are younger and are
00:37:12unvaccinated. Only a couple of months. Oh, you've been dating for a couple of months?
00:37:16Okay, do you want to marry her? Do you want to marry her?
00:37:29Do you want to marry the woman you've been dating for months?
00:37:40Because you should know by now.
00:37:41Hey, Steph, hope you're doing well. What are your thoughts on legislation that legalizes
00:37:48paying your taxes in Bitcoin? I mean, I'd rather Bitcoin not flow into government coffers,
00:37:53but you know, I guess it takes it one step closer to legal tender. So,
00:38:00free domain conference. Yeah, Mar-a-Lago. I don't think so. I don't think so.
00:38:11I'm sorry, I'm just waiting for, I mean, I guess it's some kind of delay, right? How can you know
00:38:21in just a couple of months? What do you mean, how can you know in just a couple of months?
00:38:28All right, so for the guy who's dating a 35-year-old,
00:38:34how old are you? How old are you? You're dating a 35-year-old. How old are you?
00:38:41How old are you?
00:38:57See, here's the thing. If you are older,
00:39:03you're 34. Okay, so the good thing about being 34
00:39:08is that you've been an adult for 16 years. So, you've had 16 years to figure out what you want.
00:39:16You've had 16 years to figure out what you like. You've had 16 years to figure out your
00:39:20self-knowledge, deal with your trauma, and get yourself ready for marriage, right?
00:39:28And of course, you've been doing that, right? Dealing with your trauma, figuring out what you
00:39:32like, getting some experience maybe, and developing your values and your virtues.
00:39:39So then, when you meet a woman, you can vet her very quickly, right? Because you know what you
00:39:47like. You know what the signs are of a productive or unproductive person, a functional or dysfunctional
00:39:53person, a healthy or unwell person. You know what morals are. You know what virtue is. You know what
00:39:58honesty is. You know what directness is. You've read real-time relationships. You've done all the
00:40:02good stuff. If you needed to go to therapy, I'm sure you've taken my advice and gone to therapy.
00:40:12So, you're ready.
00:40:16You've had 16 years to figure out what you want. So then, when you find what you want,
00:40:22you should decide quickly. I mean, when I met my wife, I think it was less than four months
00:40:27I proposed and we were married in 11 months after our first date.
00:40:37Right? Because if I didn't know what I want, as a guy who'd studied philosophy for,
00:40:42at that point, some years, well, some decades. Thank you, Tony.
00:40:48If I didn't know what I want, then what the hell had I been doing?
00:40:52Right? So, I can understand that you're younger and you don't know really what you want. Maybe
00:41:01you had bad template from your parents, so it's going to take you in a flail around for a little
00:41:04while. But by the time you've been an adult, for as long as it takes someone to be born
00:41:09and drive legally, you've been 16 years an adult, you should know what the hell you want.
00:41:16Then you should be good at vetting.
00:41:18Can you imagine somebody's been in the workforce for 16 years? I don't know what kind of job I want.
00:41:25You know, I just keep taking these jobs and I just keep seeing if I like them and, you know,
00:41:29maybe it works out for a little while and then I just get frustrated and then I leave and then
00:41:33I go to some other job and I... Like, come on, man. By the time you've been in the workforce
00:41:37for 16 years, you should know what the hell you're good at, what you're bad at and what you want.
00:41:47So, you're older, which means that you need much less. You need much less of a runway in order to
00:42:03figure out who you want to marry, right? If you've been in the workforce for 16 years, let's say
00:42:08you graduate at, I don't know, 22, you take a gap year, 23. So, somebody who's almost 40
00:42:15should know what he's good at in the workplace and he should have a career,
00:42:18he should have a focus, he should have a field, he should have a resume, he should have progress.
00:42:27So, by the time you're in your mid-30s, you should know what you want and you should vet quickly.
00:42:33Don't waste people's time. Don't waste your own time.
00:42:39Why wouldn't you know what you want? Because you've been lazy and you've just been
00:42:45living aimlessly, just bouncing off experiences and learning nothing.
00:42:50In which case, you're probably a little toasted, right?
00:43:04So, I'm suddenly having flashbacks of 35 and won't settle, call it Joe, yeah.
00:43:11So, if you're 34, you should know what you want and you should know how to vet, right?
00:43:21I mean, if you were a manager, let's say you've been a manager for 16 years and most people start
00:43:25dating, 34, you probably started dating in your mid-teens, so let's just even it up to 20 years.
00:43:30You've been a manager for 20 years because what is dating but hiring? You're trying to hire someone
00:43:35for the position of wife, you're trying to hire someone for the position of husband.
00:43:38There's an old Seinfeld thing, what is a date but a job interview that lasts all night?
00:43:43So, if you were a manager, a hiring manager, you've been a hiring manager for 20 years,
00:43:5020 years experience as a hiring manager, do you just hire people who just randomly walk
00:43:55into the office or you meet at the coffee shop, you don't even ask for resumes, you just hang
00:43:59around and see if they're any good at their job, you don't check their references, you don't check
00:44:03their experience, you don't check their education, you just hire random people and see what works out?
00:44:10That would be stupid, right? That would be ridiculous.
00:44:18When you're a hiring manager and you have 20 years experience, you should be able to tell
00:44:23within probably 30 seconds of someone coming into your office if they'll work out in your company,
00:44:30right? You should know by now. Love you, Stefan, thank you in advance for your wisdom, you're
00:44:40welcome. Love you, true gift to us, thank you for the tip, I appreciate that. Hey, total life tips,
00:44:4769, you know what that means, rip off shirt, all right.
00:44:59I mean,
00:45:05if you're not planning to die, you can't execute anything in life.
00:45:10Thanks, Stef, I do know what I want, it sounds so simple when compared to a job.
00:45:14Yeah, you're vetting, right? You're vetting.
00:45:23So you should know what you want.
00:45:24And it's much more important who you hire to be your spouse than who you hire to be
00:45:28an employee, because when you fire an employee, they don't take half the house, or the whole house.
00:45:36All right. Sorry, I had another question, did I copy and paste this? I had one from last time.
00:45:43You could claim being a faithful Christian is only something I do because it makes me happy
00:45:47versus not doing it. Is that selfless or selfish? I know of no other reason to be good, but because
00:45:55we want to be good, how one should, sorry, I know of no other reason to be good, but because we want
00:46:01to be good. I know of no other reason to be good, but because we want to be good. I know of no other
00:46:09sorry, I know of no other reason to be good, but because we want to be good.
00:46:14How should one define, how one should define that sounds like a subject for an essay by
00:46:19psychologists and moral philosophers. I don't know if it is practical to talk about.
00:46:24It's an interesting question or an interesting point.
00:46:33I had jobs where we all knew I could do the job by lunchtime the first day. Yeah.
00:46:38I mean, I was, I'm a hiring manager with now 30 years of experience.
00:46:47I know pretty quickly. I know pretty quickly if somebody wants a,
00:46:56if somebody's going to be a good worker or not, so.
00:46:58All right. Why be good? Why be good? Why be good? It's a good, it's a good question.
00:47:14It's a good question. Why be good?
00:47:19Two reasons to be good. One, basic human fucking pride.
00:47:24Two, because if you're bad, you have to lie about it.
00:47:31You have to falsify. You have to prevaricate. You have to be a sophist. You have to lie.
00:47:40I'm not after power. I'm after that which benefits the people the most,
00:47:45right? I don't want control over people's healthcare. I just want to provide healthcare
00:47:49to the sick and needy who through no fault of their own can't. You just have to lie, lie, lie.
00:47:55Constantly. It's repulsive. You're a slave.
00:48:04The masters are the slaves to the delusions of the people.
00:48:07The delusions they have to feed and foster like sowing shit on a field to grow
00:48:15the crops of fire, right? So, it's repulsive.
00:48:21To be evil, you have to lie about everything. If to lie, you have to hide. You have to scurry.
00:48:26You have to master. You can't tell the truth. You're guarded. You're distant. It costs you
00:48:30everything, love, connection, self-respect, integrity. You have to lie. And those who
00:48:39want power over others always have to start, live, breathe, sleep, wake, and die by the lie.
00:48:49The big fucking lie. The empty god at the top of the altar of prevarication that everybody
00:48:56kneels before while pretending they're in control. To control the people, you have to appeal to the
00:49:03vanity of the people and the greed of the people while never, ever, ever talking about
00:49:08their vanity and greed. Well, you just want what's best for others and I'm here to help
00:49:13execute on that. It's like, no, you don't. No, you don't. I mean, COVID taught us all that
00:49:19to anybody with half an eyeball, right? So, why be good? Because it's humiliating to lie.
00:49:26You can't have any self-respect and you can't be loved if you're a liar.
00:49:38You can't be loved if you're a liar and you can't
00:49:41do evil without lying. And it's humiliating. It is the actions of a beaten dog, not a free soul.
00:50:00You don't lie.
00:50:01Thou shalt not bear false witness is thou shalt not degrade thyself to a level of soul-destroying
00:50:08falsification because of your thirst for the unearned. No, thank you very much.
00:50:18Three reasons to be good. Number one, self-respect and the capacity for love.
00:50:22Number two, safety from the machinations of stink-ass evildoers.
00:50:39Fockwads of squid-fingered manipulators will steer clear of you
00:50:44because, I mean, I've been decently good for quite some time
00:50:49and I can sniff out the baddies from the other side of a fucking football field and they can
00:50:54smell me as well and we give each other, if at all possible, the widest conceivable birth.
00:51:03Safety. I don't have manipulators in my life because they try and I laugh. I laugh and just
00:51:11point it out. Yeah, nice try. Nice try. Good shot. Well done.
00:51:19And they back away because they don't want to have their powerlessness revealed to them,
00:51:23their parasitical nature of manipulation revealed to them, so I laugh at them and they leave.
00:51:33Or, if they have a lot of power, I don't laugh at them and I leave,
00:51:37as you may have seen in my Hong Kong documentary. So, love, self-respect, protection,
00:51:45and self-righteous superiority with a side dish of the ability to complain.
00:51:56See, if you have integrity, you can complain about assholes. If you are an asshole,
00:52:01little tougher to complain. But I like the ability to complain about people and I can't complain
00:52:06about people if I'm immoral or corrupt. So, I like to complain, which means, by golly,
00:52:11I have to be good. I'm not going to tell you it's all elevated heroic David White
00:52:17alabaster shit. It's sometimes it's just I like to complain about people, about the world,
00:52:24but I can't complain if people can just point out that I'm hypocritical. So, I have to be good
00:52:29so I can complain. Yeah, maybe it's petty, but it's really, really worth it.
00:52:36It's really, really worth it. How could I complain about parents without being a good parent? That'd
00:52:43be kind of tough, right? I'm not saying it's a massive part of the motivation,
00:52:48but I'm not saying it's totally inconsequential either.
00:52:56Hey, Steph, next Tuesday, I'm going to be doing an introduction to Bitcoin presentation to a small
00:53:08group of guys, about 10. At best, most of them have at least heard of it from either friends
00:53:12slash family or media. Thanks to the amazing bull whale Bitcoin AI, my presentation is coming along
00:53:17excellently. Oh, that's my Bitcoin AI, yeah. I'm curious what sort of points you would recommend
00:53:22hitting the hardest. I've already planned on using your previous advice on public speaking,
00:53:26making it about the content over me. I've also donated on the free domain website. Thank you!
00:53:32Hey, didn't you get monetized? Good job. So, yes, everybody thinks I'm so elevated,
00:53:42and I am to some degree, but...
00:53:50You know, what sort of points would I recommend hitting the hardest?
00:54:00I mean, fiat currency is a paper cut held at the jugular of your children.
00:54:05Do you care about your kids? Then you should not support a system that enslaves them in a
00:54:10million dollars plus in debt before they draw their first agonized breath. Bitcoin is a test
00:54:17of your love of the future and of the children in your society. So that's the one that I would
00:54:23hit the hardest, especially if they're parents. Where can we get peaceful parenting in paperback?
00:54:31Oh, God, spare me from having the same questions over and over and over and over again.
00:54:36Okay, so here's a hint. Here's a hint. If you've not seen it in paperback, it's not available in
00:54:43paperback. It's just a hint, right? So I assume you're a donor because you're donating. So this
00:54:49is just a matter of don't ask a question in a public live stream that takes about five or ten
00:54:55Don't ask a question in a public live stream that takes about five or ten seconds to figure out how
00:55:01to answer, right? I gotta tell you, it's kind of annoying. Just kind of annoying, right? You know
00:55:15about the peaceful parenting book. I'm sure you've done a search. Let me let me check. Let me make
00:55:19sure. Let me make sure about this, right? So let's see here. I go to freedemand.locals.com,
00:55:27let's say, right? Freedemand.locals.com, right? And like a lot of websites, sometimes you have
00:55:34to load it twice. Well, that's all right. Okay, so I'm just going to go with peaceful, right? I'll
00:55:40do a search for peaceful there, right? You know, because you can do this. You can do this stuff,
00:55:43right? There we go. Peaceful parenting.
00:55:53Yeah, peaceful parenting book. Peaceful parenting, the e-book. There's an e-book.
00:56:00There's a peaceful parenting, all of this stuff. Get the book. Yeah, you can get all the peaceful
00:56:06parenting stuff. So yeah, there's no mention of any kind of paperback. So you can spend,
00:56:24I don't know, 10 seconds, 20 seconds,
00:56:29and you can have a look and see if there is a peaceful parenting paperback.
00:56:37It's not hard. You can just look for it, right? Let me try parenting.
00:56:51So there's the AI. Yes, yes, yes. There's my interview. And I think in the interview,
00:56:57yeah, here we go. Click on the interview. It's the first thing that comes up.
00:57:04Yeah, yep, yep, yep, yep. Interactive parenting, AI, audio book, and all of that.
00:57:13So you can just go and look this up. I don't know. I mean, it's a funny thing.
00:57:18I don't know exactly why people do this. And you know, maybe you all can,
00:57:22maybe you can help me out. But why do people ask questions instead of looking things up
00:57:28themselves? You know, there's a whole website called, let me Google that for you. I don't know,
00:57:32why is it? Is there something stopping people from printing out their own personal hard copy?
00:57:37No, it's fine. You can totally print it out. I mean, in fact, there's a PDF available.
00:57:42There's a PDF. Yeah, so peaceful parenting, audio book, EPUB, Mobi, the AI. Yep.
00:57:57That's what we got. Peaceful parenting, audio book, EPUB, Mobi, and AI. I don't know why.
00:58:01People can just print it out. Yeah, they can print it. No, I don't care. Print away.
00:58:06So I just find it. I just find it annoying. Now, maybe you're not asking me, but this is just a
00:58:15general thing in life. And I don't mean to pick on you and all of that. So I apologize for that.
00:58:20But it's just a general thing in life, which is don't be rubber bones and just ask people stuff.
00:58:25Look it up yourself. Look it up yourself. If you can't find the answer, I give myself five
00:58:32minutes at least, right? If I can't find the answer in five minutes, I will go and
00:58:38ask someone. But I'll always give myself five minutes to try and find out the answer, right?
00:58:47And particularly if it's a live stream and so on, it impacts other people's life as well.
00:58:57Is the paperback version going to be a thing because I would buy it? I don't know.
00:59:03I don't know.
00:59:09Where can we get peaceful parenting in paperback? No, that's saying where is it? Yeah. He didn't
00:59:14ask if the paperback is... Oh boy, everybody. Oh gosh, there's middle siblings. I have a minor
00:59:21problem with someone. Oh, but maybe $5 is all he has. And technically he didn't ask this. It's like,
00:59:26bro, handle your own anxiety about conflict. Oh, to rush in and maybe this, oh, don't get mad,
00:59:34Steph. I can get mad. I can be annoyed. He can be annoyed back. What are you doing?
00:59:39To rush in and put out the fires and people are upset and I've got, maybe it's only $5.
00:59:43It's all he had. To be technically, he didn't ask. It's okay. Just let me, I mean,
00:59:49I'm going to be annoyed either way. I'm just like, what are you stepping in for?
00:59:57Oh, I don't know, man. How do you feel when, if I'm annoyed, right? I'm annoyed. So what? Who
01:00:08cares? Who cares? I can be annoyed. He can be annoyed back. That's fine. But why? To be fair,
01:00:16he didn't ask if the paperback is available now. What do you care if I'm annoyed? Right?
01:00:22I mean, you understand it is a question I've answered about 3000 times before. And again,
01:00:27I know it's new to this person, but in general, try to look something up before you ask people,
01:00:33just in general. All right, Steph, I tried to advocate for peaceful parenting as a solution
01:00:38that contribute to ending war. It is very, it was very challenging to get him who?
01:00:45What? Okay. Sorry. Are you starting in the middle of a story here?
01:00:49Please don't be someone who didn't even proofread.
01:00:56Okay. This is, oh my gosh, this is the same guy who said he's going to be excellent and not make
01:01:03mistakes. Oh no, he didn't. This is the guy who just said I'm going to be excellent and not make
01:01:09mistakes. So the guy who, the peaceful parenting book, sorry about that. I guess I was just
01:01:18wondering if it would be available in the future in paperback. I own a coffee shop and I, and just
01:01:22like to leave your books on the shelves for random people to find. But that doesn't explain why you
01:01:28didn't look it up yourself. Oh my gosh, you didn't. Come on, brother. Steph, I tried to advocate for
01:01:39peaceful parenting as a solution that contribute to ending war. It was very challenging to get him
01:01:43to understand English as a second language. He gave me, oh, come on, man. I think you're
01:01:51trolling, aren't you? You must be trolling. I'm sure you're trolling because I don't know who
01:01:55you're talking about and what the context of the story is. All right. I will abandon that one,
01:02:01I'm afraid. That's funny. Don't be in a rush. Haste makes waste. If you don't have time to get
01:02:11it right now, like you understand that when you are careless, you're just taking from others,
01:02:17right? You're stealing time from others in a way, right? Like you just stole a bunch of time from
01:02:22the show and other people and a little bit of donations because, you know, I didn't get onto
01:02:26another topic. So when you're careless, other people have to pick up your shit. Other people,
01:02:31you're just taking time from other people. Now again, it happens from time to time and
01:02:34whatever, right? But when you're careless, like if you... I remember many years ago,
01:02:42a friend of mine's mom wanted to know, I was like in my mid-teens, she wanted to know
01:02:47what I should get, what she should get my friend for Christmas. And
01:02:55I said he wants a printer. So she said, where can I buy a printer? And so I got in the car,
01:02:59she drove me and it was Steeles, back up in Steeles in Toronto, that's where all the computer
01:03:04stuff used to be. And I thought it was Steeles West, but it was in fact Steeles East. So we
01:03:10went all the way to Steeles West and it was a couple thousand, quite a ways. So I had to turn
01:03:13around. So because I was careless and didn't write down correctly, whether it was East or West,
01:03:19or maybe I didn't write it down, just guessed, I stole gas and I stole an hour of her time
01:03:26and wear and tear on her car. So
01:03:33yeah, don't do it, man. And again, there's a certain amount of errors just inevitable in
01:03:37life, but if you're careless, you are rude because you're taking things from people and
01:03:42you're forcing other people in a sense to pick up your slack, right? Like I'm eager to answer
01:03:47your question and then I don't know what the hell you're talking about and that's not fun for me.
01:03:52All right. Do you feel that you've garnered a lot of envy as a young man on your quest in
01:03:59philosophy and devotion to moral courage? Did that annoy you a lot? Envy? Envy? No,
01:04:07I got envy for my athletic abilities. I got envy for my good looks. I got envy for my physique,
01:04:17especially, you know, I was on swim team, water polo team. I was on cross country running. I
01:04:21played tennis. I mean, I was lean and abd and all of that. So I got envy for the sort of shallow,
01:04:29stupid stuff, but envy for philosophy? God, no. People hate that stuff. To be a philosopher is
01:04:37to be prey. Should have said hate. What? What the hell is going on tonight?
01:04:48Do you feel you garnered a lot of envy as a young man? Should have said hate. Well,
01:04:56what's the point of typing it wrong? I'm not answering that question. All right.
01:05:04Should have said hate. Steph, I really want you to answer this question.
01:05:08Well, it is in fact the opposite after I've already started answering it. You're off the
01:05:12list of things to answer tonight. Sorry. Like if you can't be bothered to even check what you're
01:05:16writing and it's the exact opposite of what you're asking, I'm not going to bother answering
01:05:20it. All right. Off topic and disregard because it's political. How do these people not see
01:05:24Joe Biden as senile? Coworkers say he did great. How? What am I not seeing? Well, you're not seeing
01:05:32how unreality beckons people and swallows them whole, right? That's what you're not seeing.
01:05:39Unreality beckons people and swallows them whole.
01:05:43So, what they're doing is, they just want free stuff, right? They just want free stuff. Right.
01:05:52So, I will tell you, this is not about politics because this is a universal phenomenon, right?
01:05:59So, everyone has organized their lives around free stuff.
01:06:03Borrowed, printed, taxed, redistributed. Everyone has built their lives around free stuff, right?
01:06:14So, women have not gotten married because of free stuff,
01:06:19right? Again, Kevin Samuels has got a great thing where he says to women,
01:06:25how much you need to retire, right? And they all make these guesses. And I think he says like 1.4
01:06:31or 1.5 or 1.6 or maybe a little more million dollars, right? And nobody has anything close
01:06:35to that, right? So, what are they expecting to live on? They're expecting to live on free stuff,
01:06:39right? They're expecting to live on government pensions. They're expecting to live on government
01:06:42health care. They're expecting to live on subsidized housing. They're expecting to
01:06:45live on free stuff. And people have organized their entire lives around free stuff.
01:06:53When I was a teenager, like I was talking to someone the other day,
01:06:58saying like his family was chaos. And I'm like, well, how do they live? How do they live? What
01:07:04do they live on? Because I never thought of welfare as like a thing that I could get.
01:07:09Because welfare to me was a girl thing. Welfare was a female thing, right? Why?
01:07:14Because I grew up in the matriarchal manners where it was just single moms everywhere.
01:07:18And the single moms had been, they'd chosen the wrong guys. They'd been petty and mean,
01:07:24right? What is it that restrains sometimes pettiness and meanness? Well,
01:07:29why do you not say to your boss, take this job and shove it when you're annoyed at your boss?
01:07:33Why are you more polite and more reasonable? Because you don't want to get fired. And, you
01:07:36know, we like to eat. We are sort of addicted to food as a whole. So, you're kind of polite
01:07:42to your boss because there are negative consequences to you not getting a paycheck.
01:07:46And it's the same thing with women, and men sometimes too, but we're just talking about
01:07:50the female side of the equation, that they can be complete bitches to their men because they have
01:07:55the government to fall back on. That's why, what was it? Have you ever thought about just being
01:08:03quiet and cooking a mistake? Or have you ever thought about bringing him a nice sandwich in
01:08:07a sundress? I think the woman is in the sundress, not the sandwich, but I'm guessing at that.
01:08:13So, people have organized their entire lives around free stuff. People have gotten into
01:08:19massive amounts of student debt on the belief that either the student debt is going to be
01:08:23forgiven or put on hold, or they're going to get a nice big juicy government job that they're
01:08:28going to use to pay off that student debt. Their occupations, where they live, who they've dated,
01:08:33who they've broken up with, whether they got married, whether they got divorced, all of these
01:08:38decisions are founded on the futile physics of free shit.
01:08:43The unsustainable, Satan, sweaty-palmed handing out a blood-stained gold that cannot last.
01:08:56People have treated their children badly because they don't need their children because they're
01:09:02going to get free shit when they get old. No, don't worry, the government's going to make sure
01:09:07No, don't worry, the government's going to make sure the price of housing stays up and you're
01:09:14going to get a pension and free health care and subsidized whatever. So, you don't need your kids.
01:09:21If your kids are annoying you, you can tell them to get lost. You can bully them, you can
01:09:25dominate them, you don't need them. I mean, imagine some guy wins the lottery and he hates his job and
01:09:32he hates his boss. There's an old song, take this job and shove it. I ain't working here no more,
01:09:37my woman left and took all the reasons I've been working for.
01:09:44Right? Or you know that if I make it super big in crypto, there will be signs and it's
01:09:51somebody who actually bought Winrar. So, people have adapted their entire fundamental life choices
01:10:03to free stuff. So, they don't care if Biden drools on himself, they care that the free stuff
01:10:13does keep flowing. That's what they care about. Because when the free stuff runs out,
01:10:20it's not a matter of money, it's a matter of going from a successful life to a catastrophic failure.
01:10:29So, it's a matter of pride. If you're some boomer parent and you dumped your kids in daycare and you
01:10:35went and chased the almighty dollar and you had your hobbies and your travel and you didn't spend
01:10:43much time with your kids, they're alienated from you, they don't care about you, you don't care
01:10:47about them. And then, oh gosh, what if the government starts to run out of money? Oh no,
01:10:55no. What are you gonna do now, huh, boomer? What are you gonna do now?
01:11:02Shit. My house value is going down. I mean, this is why people, the older generation is keen on
01:11:11immigration because it prompts up the price of housing. But what if, you know, there are the
01:11:15deportations that Trump is talking about? Oh, whatever's happening, right? The house housing
01:11:19prices go down and the stock market goes down and they didn't listen to their kids about Bitcoin,
01:11:25maybe their grandkids, and they're out of money, they're running out of money.
01:11:33The pensions are inflated away and now what? Now they need a place to live.
01:11:39Now they might have to beg, they might have to get on their knees and apologize and grovel and
01:11:52beg and ask for forgiveness and ask for a place to stay from the children they abandoned and scorned.
01:12:03See? That's what it's really about.
01:12:10The woman who's like, I don't need no man, I'm gonna raise these kids by myself, I got all this free stuff.
01:12:22Okay, well, let's say the free stuff is going away. What's she gonna do? Well, she's gonna have
01:12:30to find the father of her children and she's gonna have to grovel and ask him to come back and help
01:12:36her or she's gonna have to find some other guy and she's gonna have to bring him a sandwich in a
01:12:43sundress. She's gonna have to serve a man just as a man because she's gonna ask a man to serve her,
01:12:49so she's gonna have to serve a man. That's gonna be tough on her vanity. Healthy for her as a human
01:12:54being, of course, in the long run and there's nothing like collapsing real estate values and
01:12:59inflated pensions to bring the generations closer together because when you get all this free shit,
01:13:05we don't need each other. Free stuff dissolves the bonds between human beings and allows us to be
01:13:13atomistic, individualistic, selfish, narcissistic, materialistic, volatile, intransigent,
01:13:23petty, resentful, hold grudges, storm out because you got free stuff.
01:13:29The guy who just won the lottery probably isn't quite as nice when he goes into work the next day
01:13:36because he's got free stuff. So, you understand that this is not about Biden or whoever, right?
01:13:47It's about people have since really the 1930s but in particular since the 1960s,
01:13:56they have founded their entire life decisions on the continuance of that which cannot continue,
01:14:03which is free stuff. They have founded their entire lives on an unreality
01:14:11and it's really, really, really, really tough. It's really tough to turn that around. It is a real
01:14:19blow to the pride. You know, there was an old cartoon from the 50s about a guy, he tells his
01:14:30wife what's what and he storms out and then he's really upset because he left his pipe on the
01:14:34mantelpiece and he really wants to smoke. I can't go back in now, right? So, yeah, if you're a boomer
01:14:43and you haven't taken good care of your kids because you don't need them down the road and
01:14:49then, oh dear, turns out you need them down the road. Okay, you need them down the road,
01:14:57what are you going to do? You're kind of screwed, right? Because you are then going to try and
01:15:07re-establish a relationship or establish a relationship out of selfish need rather than
01:15:16what's good for your children. Oh dear, I don't have a roof over my head anymore and I'm out of
01:15:22money. So, suddenly I'm going to try and be super close to my children and ask them to put me up
01:15:28and your children are going to say nothing's changed. When you had free stuff, you didn't
01:15:35care about us. Now, you're out of free stuff, you still don't care about us, we just have utility
01:15:40to you, you're just as selfish as you ever were. They are often past the tipping point,
01:15:53right? So, you think of the welfare state, money runs out, what happens?
01:15:58Women need providers. Now, most men, most men,
01:16:14they don't want to raise another man's children, which is why they have to go back to the father
01:16:19of the children and try and get him to come back and they're going to have to apologize and grovel
01:16:25and all the stuff that we have to do when we're really in the wrong. Except, except, of course,
01:16:32it's still coming from a place of selfish need, therefore it has no credibility
01:16:37and people don't want to do it. It's too vulnerable.
01:16:40So,
01:16:59it is. You know what it is? Here's the perfect analogy, right?
01:17:05Some guy buys a lottery ticket at lunch, at work, and he thinks he's just won a million dollars
01:17:19and his boss comes in and starts berating him and he says,
01:17:23screw you, Joey, you tiny decked woodpecker of a nothing burger.
01:17:27Your nose was on time, but you were five minutes late. Your hair is thinning, your waist is not,
01:17:36your pants are too baggy, and your suspenders are too short, and I don't like the fact that
01:17:40I can see your nipples every time it drops below 70 degrees in here. You latch on the women,
01:17:45you lean on the men, you've got no life, you work weekends because your wife hates you,
01:17:49I don't know why you didn't have children, probably because you can't trust yourself
01:17:52around them, fuck you, I'm out. And he storms out. A great sense of joy and liberation.
01:18:06And then he goes to the convenience store and they say, no, that's not a winning ticket.
01:18:12And you're like, wait, I won a million dollars. They're like, no, this is the number,
01:18:25I guess you misread the three as an eight, but you didn't win. Oh, no.
01:18:33What do you do? You just made a major life decision and insulted the living hell out of your boss,
01:18:40which means you've either got to get your job back or what? You're not going to get a reference
01:18:48because you just insulted the hell out of the guy and now you've got to go back and grovel.
01:18:52Oh, man, that's tough. Shit. You're from elation to being truly screwed in about five seconds.
01:19:05So that's where people are. They think they've won the lottery,
01:19:08that the money's going to go on forever, the free stuff's going to go on forever,
01:19:12but it won't. And it's not going to, and it's not that far off.
01:19:21And they don't want to go back and grovel because they have been independent and they haven't needed
01:19:26anybody. And it turns out they desperately need people now. And it's probably too late.
01:19:31The woman who doesn't get welfare calls up the father of her children. Hopefully it's only one.
01:19:37She's like, I've been thinking about you. And he's like, you haven't been thinking about me.
01:19:40You're just out of money. You don't care about me. You just want my money. What's she going to say?
01:20:00What's she going to say? Is she going to argue? Yeah, winter is coming. This is why Game of
01:20:12Thrones struck a chord with people other than its rampant sociopathic evil, because the idea
01:20:17that there's seven years of summer followed by seven years of winter is our entire economic cycle.
01:20:24That's happening to my mother right now. I tried to stop it, but she wanted to fail too badly.
01:20:30Are there any plans to come back to Australia? But Lauren, no. This is a great speech. I must
01:20:43find out the show number. Thank you. I hear the company that ran the daycare you put me in is now
01:20:50running a nursing home. Yeah, absolutely. Well, I don't have enough money to pay for nursing homes.
01:20:59No, you do. Come on. Of course you do, Dad. Mom, of course you do. Because you put me
01:21:07in daycare from when you were, what, six, seven weeks after I was born. Mom, you put me in daycare
01:21:14so you'd go back to work. Obviously, you made a lot of money. You wouldn't have put me in daycare
01:21:19for no profit. Obviously, you made a lot of money in order to put me into daycare. Absolutely,
01:21:24you have the money for your retirement home.
01:21:31You didn't put me in daycare for nothing. That would be completely sociopathic. You didn't put
01:21:36me in the daycare for nothing. So absolutely, completely, and totally, you have more than
01:21:40enough money. So yeah, just take all that money you made by going back to work. Well, that's all
01:21:48gone. It's like, well, I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what to tell you.
01:22:00Well, if they won't grovel and they still want the stuff, what's the chances of them
01:22:03resorting to violence? Oh yeah, they'll kick and scream for sure.
01:22:07But, I mean, they're already resorting to violence. That's the state, right?
01:22:11But I wouldn't worry too much about the single moms.
01:22:14And I wouldn't worry too much about the boomers.
01:22:30All right. Any other last questions, comments, issues, challenges? I'm getting a bunch of
01:22:35questions, comments, issues, challenges. I'm getting a bunch of typos in the questions,
01:22:41and it's a low-tip day. So this may not be my most motivated show. Thank you for the tip.
01:22:54No, this is, I mean, go watch Gandalf and King Lear, right? It is about somebody realizing
01:23:05that vanity is not a sustainable food.
01:23:13It's about a king who gives up his kingship and finds out that without his kingship,
01:23:17nobody really likes him.
01:23:22Thou shouldst not have been old before thou wert wise.
01:23:27And, of course, the infinite narcissism of the toddler boomers is almost an inevitable
01:23:33result of free stuff. How do you manage the general sense of being overwhelmed?
01:23:38I've made good progress in owning my situation and taking responsibility for the problems I face,
01:23:41but the challenges moving forward are substantial. Finances, being a single dad,
01:23:45running a striking business, etc. Apologies if this question is too vague.
01:23:51So there's a great way to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
01:23:54So there's a great way to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
01:23:57Lower your expectations. You feel overwhelmed because there's more that you need to do
01:24:05than you can do. So lower your expectations. Drop a hobby, drop a friend, drop something,
01:24:12cut back on X, Y, and Z, right? You just have to lower what you're doing.
01:24:18I mean, I do remember when Mike was here, I don't know, five or six years ago,
01:24:25and for years, man, I was working a little too hard. I mean, sometimes we'd interview two or
01:24:31three people a week, which meant nine or ten books to read a week, and I'd do that after
01:24:34my daughter went to bed, but that cut into time with my wife. I was traveling to do speeches,
01:24:39I was writing, and I wasn't writing books back then, but we were doing these big presentations,
01:24:43and the show was flying like a jetpack, and yeah, so I was like, no, this is too much.
01:24:51I don't want this to be a chaos of productivity that results in a paucity of personal relations.
01:24:56So you're overwhelmed. It's your system telling you how you're doing too much.
01:25:06You're doing too much.
01:25:07You're trying to do call-in shows and take care of ducks, so fry up the ducks, right? So yeah,
01:25:13you just have to lower your expectations of what you're capable of and what you can do,
01:25:18and that's healthy, right? And a lot of times, that has to do with not being able to say no,
01:25:23right? If you can't say no, then you're going to get overwhelmed. This happens all the time
01:25:28at the work. You know, if you're competent, right? Was it a meme? Somebody said,
01:25:33if you're competent, right? Was it a meme? Somebody said, what is the most important
01:25:38lesson you've learned from the workplace? It's like, the more competent you are,
01:25:41the more you're punished with more work. And it's true. There's an old saying in business,
01:25:45if you want something done, give it to the busy guy.
01:25:51Hathaway through 1984, some of the book is chillingly accurate. No, it's not at all accurate
01:25:56because it doesn't talk at all about demographics. All right. You should never set yourself on fire
01:26:00just to keep others warm. How do you balance this, being available to help others, but not
01:26:04depleting yourself in the process? No, but it's called reciprocity, right? Reciprocity, which is,
01:26:13yes, you care about helping others and they should really care about you not being burned out,
01:26:19right? So, if you are there to help others and they're exploiting you, that's a bad relationship,
01:26:25right? So, people should say, I'm not going to exploit you. I don't want you to do any more for
01:26:31me. Like, there's too much, please don't, right? Oh, I can bring three meals to the potluck. It's
01:26:38like, no, no, no, you brought four meals last week. For heaven's sakes, don't bring anything
01:26:42this week. Just relax. Like, people should help you not overwork as opposed to, yeah, four sounds
01:26:48great. Next week should be five, right? It's greedy. They'll consume you. Consume you. Does
01:26:55it make sense? So, people should be watching out for you, especially if you have a tendency
01:27:09towards over generosity, people should be watching out for you. What is your take on
01:27:16Jay Dyer's transcendental arguments to prove God? I did debate with Jay Dyer many years ago,
01:27:22many moons ago. I miss the debates. I miss the debates.
01:27:29Going once, going twice, my friends. freedomain.com slash donate to help out
01:27:32Le Show. Would very much appreciate it if you'd be so very kind. What do we got here?
01:27:39Not much, but that's all right. That's all right. It's a bell curve. Sometimes we're on the left
01:27:48side, sometimes we're on the right side. This would be one of the left ones. Everyone's mad
01:27:52because I was late. freedomain.com slash donate and peacefulparenting.com. Just go to peaceful
01:27:57parenting.com. There's a paperback version. No, I'm just kidding. Now, paperbacks are tough, man.
01:28:03You've got to do, first of all, I still can't figure out the cover. I still cannot figure out
01:28:07the cover. It'll come to me. Thank you, Vince. When you started your business, did you use your
01:28:15own money or how did you get funding? I did use some of my own money, but we raised 80 grand
01:28:26from everybody's got a dentist or an accountant or a doctor or at least know someone like that.
01:28:31We just went around the small business people that we knew and asked them to invest. They got
01:28:35a massive return on that investment, let me tell you. I mean, not quite Nvidia, but really good.
01:28:42Your thoughts on Tucker? I mean, a smart guy and a nice guy and an obviously very intelligent guy,
01:28:48but the soul thing is distorting his thinking.
01:28:54Please take me shopping. How to thank you by abusing you. No, so with a paperback,
01:29:00it's tough. And listen, I mean, I had a bunch of hard copy books. I've been down this road
01:29:08before for many, many years and you can still get Art of the Argument at artoftheargument.com,
01:29:12but I had hard copy books for many, many years. They just didn't sell that much. Like in terms
01:29:17of the time and effort, you got to get the right spine, you got to get it printed, you got to proof
01:29:21read it, make sure nothing went weird and wonky. It's just, it's a lot of time and it just doesn't
01:29:26sell enough to make it worthwhile. Right? So, I mean, just so you know, right? So just, just so
01:29:34you know, 109, why does that seem familiar? Anyway, so just, just so you know, because I'm
01:29:41doing private calls now, all activities are competing with the price of private calls,
01:29:49right? So if I say it's going to take me 20 or 30 hours, and it probably would be about 20 or 30
01:29:57hours and cost me money because you got to pay for the books to proof and all of that, right?
01:30:02So if it's going to take me 20 or 30 hours to do a hard copy, I have to compare that to 20 or 30
01:30:07hours of private calls. Because I have to be responsible. We've got employees, we've got
01:30:13expenses, we've got a business to sustain. Could you elaborate, please, on the soul thing about
01:30:19Tucker? I'm not sure. I mean, he, he's very Christian and very much believes in the soul,
01:30:30which means that he's not comfortable with the intelligence bell curve very much. So,
01:30:35so yeah, I mean, just, just everybody understands, right? I mean,
01:30:38it's so funny, you know, and this is just, it's a life thing. I guess I can finish with this sort
01:30:43of life. It's a life skill thing as a whole. So people are like, this is what I hear. It's like
01:30:50a bunch of people calling and saying, I want a paperback, I want a hardcover, I want a physical
01:30:54copy, I want this, I want that. That's not how you get things in life. Oh my gosh, it's not how you
01:31:00get things in life. Let's say that you want a hard copy of peaceful parenting, right?
01:31:14You want a hard copy of peaceful parenting. And let's say there isn't one. How do you get it?
01:31:22How do you get it?
01:31:23How do you get a hard copy of peaceful parenting if it's not available?
01:31:43This is a life skill.
01:31:47Print it and make it. Nope.
01:31:49Because that's not right. Make it yourself. Nope.
01:31:57No, you don't make it yourself. You don't print it. No, I don't care if you print the book,
01:32:01that's fine. Help out with the work and pay for it up front. That's certainly one way,
01:32:08but what you need to do, this is how do you get people to do what you want in life? You make it
01:32:13worth their while, right? You make it worth their while. But this is not about me and the
01:32:21peaceful parenting book, this is about life as a whole. So there's lots of different ways you
01:32:25could do it. What you could do is you could certainly say, what do you need and I'll do it,
01:32:31right? And maybe I'd pay you for it or whatever, right? But so you could say, if it's too much
01:32:36work, I'll do it. That's how you could get the book. And it would be a very kind thing to do
01:32:41if you feel that the books are important, right? That's one thing you could do. Another thing you
01:32:45could do is you could put a pile out of various, in the various places there are free domain
01:32:49listeners, you could put a pile out and say, would you buy a peaceful parenting book for say, I don't
01:32:54know, 15 bucks or whatever, right? Would you buy it? And then you would gather all of that
01:32:58information. You'd say, Steph, there are 450 people who would buy the book. Here's, I assume
01:33:04this is your profit and 20 or 30 hours, here's how you're going to make your money back, right?
01:33:12So you, you have to find a way to make it worth my while.
01:33:20Intelligence is but one of a variety of gifts.
01:33:29Oh my gosh. Oh, did you make a typo? Make the case of hard, of hard copies. Make the case of
01:33:36hard copies would sell X copied based on Y data. That is like, what are you, Biden? Make the case
01:33:43of hard copies would sell X copied based on Y data. I think you mean that's not a typo. That's
01:33:50just a whole type sentence. That's not a typo. You also made a mistake in thinking it's one typo.
01:34:00There's three there. Whatever you're doing, make it worth someone's while. You go to a restaurant
01:34:09and just complain that you're not eating. No, you give them money. You make it worth their while.
01:34:13And I'm not saying you got to pay me to do it, but at least make a business case for me.
01:34:18And not just like, well, I think people would buy it.
01:34:21Ah. This is a life skill. Make it worthwhile to other people. If you want something from someone,
01:34:38make it worth their while. Don't just complain or whine or ask and do nothing,
01:34:43oh, I guess there's no book. Like, make things happen in your life. If you want a peaceful
01:34:47parenting hard copy, there's ways to make it happen that don't cost you a penny.
01:34:55But don't just be passive while I ask and he doesn't really want to do it. It's like, oh my god,
01:35:00guys, guys, guys, that economy is dead. AI is coming. You've got to be a self-starter. You've
01:35:08got to be someone who gets something done, gets a lot of things done, which means you don't just
01:35:13sit there like a sad sack in the rain saying, I want a peaceful parenting book. Make things
01:35:18happening. And show you have some skin in the game, right? So if somebody says to me, well,
01:35:26Steph, I've done a business case and you're going to make X amount of money, I'd be like, okay,
01:35:31great. Great. So if I make more than that, we'll split the profits. And if I make less than that,
01:35:36you'll pay me half the losses. Because otherwise, you have no skin in the game. I don't listen to
01:35:41people with no skin in the game in general, right? Lots of projects that don't get made until the
01:35:47money is raised or refund the money. Yeah, that's impossible. That's a possibility for sure. Have
01:35:52you ever read Dynasty of Death by Taylor Caldwell? No, I have not. Tay-tay called.
01:36:03Donate X amount and receive a free limited edition paperback. Yeah, that certainly is a
01:36:07possibility. That certainly is a possibility. Voxay runs a library and printing press. Maybe
01:36:12worth someone contacting him. Yeah, I understand all of that. I've done books before. I've done
01:36:17books before. And this is not about the peaceful parenting book. This is just about
01:36:23if you think a hard copy of the peaceful parenting book is really important,
01:36:29there's ways to make it happen. Don't be passive. Or, you know, because if it's not important enough
01:36:34for you to even think about it or make a case for me, then I know it's not that important to you.
01:36:40Like, how do I know something's important to you? You'll actually put some time and effort and energy
01:36:43in to make it a case. Everyone knows what you should do while they don't know what they should
01:36:50be doing for themselves. Just saying. Yeah, yeah. Just say. Do you mean, everybody's got typos
01:36:56tonight. Do you mean just saying? So yeah, this is just a life skill as a whole. If you've got
01:37:02something that you want to do at work, you've got to make that case, right? Got to make that case.
01:37:09Make it beneficial for the other person. Make it beneficial for the other person.
01:37:17Right? I mean, everyone works hard. Like, I understand the benefit for you for a peaceful
01:37:21parenting hard copy, but what's the benefit for me for, right? And you understand too that
01:37:28there's a risk to me as well. Yes, I know. You just made a typo too, didn't you? So there's a risk
01:37:34for me too, which is that if I put a lot of time, effort and energy into making a peaceful parenting
01:37:39book and nobody buys it, like nobody buys the hard copy, I'm going to be kind of bitter. Honestly,
01:37:45if everyone says to me, oh, I'd love to buy it because I've been down this road before, right?
01:37:48Been down this road many, many, many years ago. I created a whole bunch of free domain radio
01:37:52merchandise because everyone said they wanted it and nobody fucking bought it. Nobody. And I was
01:37:57embittered. It was annoying because I felt that the listenership, and this is not the current
01:38:05listenership, but the listenership had led me astray, right? That they had kind of lied to me.
01:38:11Oh, I'd love to buy it until we put a lot of time, effort and energy and nobody bought it.
01:38:18So you understand there's a risk. Yeah, shirts, caps, cups, stickers,
01:38:22all of it. Remember James? All of this stuff. Nobody bought it. And I did do the research
01:38:28before. And so I just realized, okay, so in this community where everybody is dedicated to the
01:38:35truth, people are just lying. So there's a risk for me as well, which is I want to create, I want
01:38:41to maintain good relations. I'll tell you this last thing I'll end on. Like I want to retain good
01:38:45relations with you. I want to retain good relations with the audience. I really, really do.
01:38:53I want to love you guys. I want you to be happy with what I do, which means I don't want to go
01:38:58down a road where I'm going to end up annoyed and embittered, right? Which is another reason why I
01:39:02keep nagging everyone about these typos and I don't like the $1 donations. And so I'll say it.
01:39:08And this is to protect our relationship. I'm not doing it to be mean. I'm doing it so that we
01:39:12continue to have a good relationship, right? You understand, right?
01:39:24I want to maintain, this is why I fight hard sometimes in my relationships to make sure that
01:39:30there's quality, right? Like if I hire someone and they're doing a shoddy job, I'll nag and fight
01:39:35really hard with them so that we can continue to work together, right? You look really healthy,
01:39:40Steph. It makes me happy to see. Well, I appreciate that. That's because I didn't
01:39:45have to go and live in the woods and abandon my property because I lost my daughter's ducks.
01:39:57I don't know if we still have, I don't have any merch in the house, but print on demand.
01:40:03Line up people who pay for it. Find a printer. Line up the order. Manage the first printing.
01:40:07Make sure everything is done right. Then let the author have final say and you write up a
01:40:09mutually agreeable contract. Then shine the check with the publisher. It's not at all how it works.
01:40:15Yeah, it's not at all how it works. You did buy an FDR hoodie. Nice.
01:40:22Nice. Well, good. I'm glad. Yeah, health is great. Thank you. Health is great.
01:40:28Health is great. But yeah, just in life as a whole, right?
01:40:49Helping people compare the way they're acting to a higher standard is giving them a choice.
01:40:52That's true. Steph, maybe do a pre-order. If enough orders come in,
01:40:56then you do it. If they don't, no big deal. Return the funds of the one that came in.
01:41:03Okay. Why do people have such a tough time listening?
01:41:08Oh, once. Oh my God. Okay. Oh my God.
01:41:14So you can't even, you want me to take what you say seriously, but you can't even check
01:41:21whether your sentence makes sense. So, but that doesn't solve the problem, right? So,
01:41:26and it's easy for you to say no big deal, right? It's always no big deal when somebody else is
01:41:31doing the work. Hey, no big deal. It's always no big deal. Hey, if it's no big deal, you do it.
01:41:39If it's no big deal, you do it. Oh, I don't have time. Okay. So then don't tell me it's
01:41:44no big deal. Everybody's always like, oh, it's no big deal. It's like, but that's not true.
01:41:49Otherwise, and if you want to do it, do it, but you say no big deal. Okay. Well,
01:41:55I've got to find a place. I got to set up the account. I got to tie it in. I got to ask people,
01:41:58I got to check the progress. I've got to see if it's enough money. And what if it's just enough,
01:42:02but not that much. And then maybe I have to refund. And then everybody knows that the book
01:42:06wasn't popular. Like I'm negative. It's a little bit embittering, right? So what do you mean? It's
01:42:10no big deal. God. Think about other people's experiences. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Too wild.
01:42:25All right. Well, that's all right. Look, not the most satisfying show. I'm just going to
01:42:28beg people to please have a little empathy, understand where I'm coming from. I try to
01:42:33understand where you all are coming from. And my skin is on fire. I've been called out twice
01:42:40in the last five minutes. Well, no, you've just made mistakes after telling me you weren't going
01:42:45to make mistakes, which is not good, right? When you say, I'm not going to make mistakes,
01:42:49and then you make a bunch of mistakes, your credibility goes, right? So yeah, I mean,
01:42:53all of these people, it's no big deal. Just do this. You know, everything's simple if you don't
01:42:57have to do it. And that's the Dunning-Kruger thing, right? Like have some respect for the
01:43:00fact that I have, I've literally produced probably 10 books, physical books, physical books over the
01:43:07course of my life. What has been the biggest monetary investment in your show? Well, I mean,
01:43:14the biggest costs are hardware, various contracts, bandwidth, and salaries. So
01:43:27if Steph knows something's going to work, he's going to do that. Why waste time gambling? Well,
01:43:31I mean, so you're telling some, you've had no experience producing books. I've produced
01:43:3510 books. I've produced 10 physical print copy books. And y'all are just lecturing me about how
01:43:41to do it without asking me any questions. Like that's wild. You guys got to stop doing this
01:43:46sort of crap. Really. It's really annoying for people who know what they're doing. And I'm not
01:43:49talking about everyone here, right? But all the people are like, well, just do this. It's no big
01:43:53deal. Okay. Do you have experience? Have you done it before? Or maybe you should ask some questions.
01:44:00Tell me a little bit more about why you don't want to do it. Tell me a little bit more about
01:44:03the annoyance. Because I have done, I did like at least five to 10 merch items. I've done 10
01:44:10physical books over the last 18 years. So I have a lot of experience in this.
01:44:20Why do you think donations are down? I know I donated a lot more last year,
01:44:25but I had a higher income in 2023. Well, donations are down to some degree because
01:44:30inflation is up and housing prices are up and people are having a tough time making ends meet.
01:44:39Don't be glib as a whole. And look, I can be this way. So I am sensitive to this as well, right?
01:44:53I can be glib, but I have to remind myself, just don't be glib.
01:44:57I feel the same way about my business. When people give me advice, I completely understand.
01:45:05When you're talking to somebody who has, I now have well north of 30 years entrepreneurial
01:45:12experience. I have built two very successful organizations.
01:45:18And I have produced 10 books. So if I say I'm hesitant and don't particularly want to produce
01:45:26a physical copy, then you as somebody who doesn't have experience, when you're talking to someone
01:45:32who does have a lot of experience, maybe you should ask some questions rather than just come
01:45:38in and glibly tell me, well, just do this. It's no big deal. And just do that and have a this
01:45:42tell me, well, just do this. It's no big deal. And just do that and have a this and have a that.
01:45:46It's like, you won't get people to listen to you if you don't listen to them first.
01:45:52There's a fundamental life principle here. First, once something done, find a way to make it
01:45:56worthwhile to other people. But you cannot get people to listen to you without listening to them
01:46:01first. You can't do it. You cannot do it. You cannot do it. So if I say I don't want to do
01:46:10something, then you can, and I have a lot of experience in it, and you don't, you can ask
01:46:18some questions, right? That's a reasonable thing to do. That's a reasonable thing to do.
01:46:29I don't lecture experienced people on things I have no knowledge of. I just don't. And even in
01:46:36the call-in shows, like I'm pretty good at call-in shows, and I've done a lot of them,
01:46:40I can still sometimes spend an hour to an hour and a half just gathering information,
01:46:45asking questions, because I'm not going to give advice until I know the situation.
01:46:54James says, I'm no stranger to glib suggestions as an engineer. Yeah, yeah.
01:47:01Off work for the summer, recovering from surgery, but glad to donate when I can. Oh,
01:47:05sorry to hear that. What happened? I want you to just design it like this. It's no big deal.
01:47:11Yeah, yeah. I remember a salesman. They have a Java library. I mean,
01:47:16you work on Windows. It's a Java library. Just integrate it. It's no big deal.
01:47:23Everything's easy if you don't have to do it. It's like the fat dudes yelling at the sportsball
01:47:28players. Yeah, just do this. Just do that. It's always easy when you're not the one doing it.
01:47:33For people who are genuinely skilled, being lectured by people who don't know what they're
01:47:38doing is not a good look. It is not going to have quality people around you in your life.
01:47:45Because you understand, it is an insult. When people say, just do this. It's no big deal.
01:47:51It's kind of insulting. In fact, it just is insulting. You understand why, right? We don't
01:47:57need to. Yeah, just add that form. No big deal. Yeah, just do this. It's no big deal, right?
01:48:05Right. Right. Because you're basically saying, well, it's not that I'm smart,
01:48:15it's just that you're dumb, because it's no big deal.
01:48:17Oh, dear. Oh, dear. I just resigned my membership. Oh, re-signed.
01:48:29Everybody's typing like, what are you, all typing with your foreheads and asses today?
01:48:35How to deal with big deal, guys. Just ignore them. Just ignore them, because they're very
01:48:42immature. All right, guys, thank you so much. Freedomain.com. If you'd like to help out the
01:48:47show later on, I really would appreciate it. My apologies again for being late,
01:48:51but I had good reason, because I had interdimensional ducks. Yeah, because everybody
01:48:56knew that was coming, right? So, freedomain.com. If you'd like to help out, of course, don't forget
01:49:02peacefulparenting.com. How do you attract people who value what you do? Is it mostly confidence?
01:49:12You just have to be honest about your values, right? No big deal, staff. LOL. Oh, that's funny.
01:49:19Thank you. I appreciate that. Thank you, iWatch, and thank you, Ford 40. And it's my last night
01:49:26before everyone comes back, so. The story was good restitution. I think so. I think so. All right.
01:49:32Lots of love, everyone. Thank you so much for the greatest conversation the world will ever see.
01:49:36I really, really do appreciate it, and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.