STOP BEING LAZY!

Stefan Molyneux
Stefan Molyneux
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Sunday Morning Live 21 July 2024

In this episode, we explore a range of topics from literacy rates and education to societal challenges and personal responsibility. The host dives into the importance of critical thinking and self-reflection, addressing issues of laziness and entitlement in society. Advocating for empathy and proactive decision-making, the conversation emphasizes the value of understanding others' perspectives and fostering supportive relationships.

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Transcript
00:00Good morning everybody, Stefan Molyneux, 23rd, no, yes, 21st July 2024, and I hope you are
00:09doing well.
00:10I hope you're having a beautiful Sunday.
00:11We are going to do a little something different today.
00:14Maybe this will be the case going forward.
00:15First hour open questions, second hour pure spice, just for donors.
00:19So if you could remember to go to fdrurl.com slash meetup, fdrurl.com slash meetup and
00:29let us know if you're interested, and we can have a really great fun family weekend
00:34of philosophy, games, karaoke, and great balls of fire and fun.
00:41So I hope that you will.
00:44Way down upon the Swanee River, yes, indeed.
00:51It just keeps on rolling along.
00:53All right.
00:54So I am, yeah, family-friendly free domain meetup.
00:58It will be mostly without chaps, mostly, I can't guarantee everything, but mostly.
01:05All right, so let's get your questions and comments and issues and challenges and get
01:13your comments on.
01:17Get your comments on.
01:18Donations, of course, more than welcome.
01:20I don't have to flip over to Rumble and be disappointed by the near infinite cheapness
01:24of Rumble watchers, but you know, you follow the money.
01:27Oh, little Bitcoin bump.
01:29Oh, lovely.
01:31$92,756.17 Canadian dollars for a itty-bitty-ditty coin.
01:41Do you want to know if we can't make it?
01:43No, that's fine.
01:44If you can't make it, that's fine.
01:47That's fine.
01:48Yeah, because just, I don't know if you've ever run stuff before.
01:52I've done a whole, I did some in the corporate world, client meetups.
01:57It's a challenge, right?
01:58It's a juggle because you need to know the venue.
02:00You need to know what to charge and what you are going to charge.
02:03I don't want to make a lot of money off this.
02:05I'm happy to break even.
02:06I just think it would be fun to meet everyone.
02:08But what you have to do is you have to figure out how many people are coming so that you
02:12figure out how much to charge.
02:13I don't want to overcharge and I don't want to undercharge.
02:16So figuring out how many people are coming six months away is a challenge.
02:19Figuring out the price and all of that.
02:21That probably will be an early bird special and then it will just have to go up afterwards
02:24because it's more complicated later if that happens.
02:28Thank you, Monsieur David.
02:31It's so funny.
02:32I just said to people, I don't need to know if you're not going to be there.
02:35And Tom decides to say, I won't be there.
02:39Tom, sometimes the listening skills can be very, very interesting.
02:45I think I'm going to wait until the non-family friendly meetup.
02:47Really?
02:48Interesting.
02:49I'm not sure why, but I guess everybody can make their own decisions that are generally
02:54incomprehensible to me.
02:55Some people choose to become accountants.
02:59And I guess I need accountants, so I'm happy that they do.
03:07Robert Barnes has the right idea.
03:09For $5 a month US dollars, you control the stream.
03:13That's right.
03:14That's right.
03:15That's right.
03:17That's right.
03:19North Florida is all farmland, no swamps, just the good old Suwannee River.
03:24Is it Suwannee River?
03:26Greetings from the sauna of Manitoba.
03:28Yes, Manitoba, land of winter and mosquitoes.
03:30I did some work up there as a gold-padded prospector in the very northern part of that.
03:34And it's not exactly the armpit of the north, but it is exactly the vagina of Regina.
03:39All right.
03:40As a manager of accountants, I feel personally attacked.
03:43Well, you know, here's the thing, though.
03:46Accountants look at me and say, well, some people go to shred their reputation by telling
03:49useless truths to an indifferent public.
03:51So I guess I look as crazy to them as you.
03:56It's just the way things roll.
03:58All right.
04:00So percent of US adults who are illiterate.
04:03What do you think?
04:07Percentage of US adults who are illiterate.
04:13What do you think?
04:21What have we got?
04:24All right.
04:25I got the children, life full of suffering, blah, blah, blah.
04:36All right.
04:37What have we got?
04:40Yeah, it's about a little over 20%.
04:45More than half of Americans read at a sixth grade level or below.
04:53So that's just important, right?
04:54So you understand that 20% of Americans are illiterate.
05:00And it's not all immigrants.
05:01Only 36% of new immigrants are functionally illiterate in English.
05:07So 20% of people can't read functionally.
05:12They can't read at a sixth grade level or below, which means Harry Potter is too complicated for them.
05:16And I know this from back in my corporate days when you would write instructions and so on.
05:22There would be always somebody who says, well, you've got to write them at a sixth grade instruction or below because blah, blah, blah.
05:26People, right?
05:30So more than half of people and very few people read and very few people think.
05:36So can you imagine?
05:38This is the funniest thing in the world, really.
05:41People are like, oh, you should take these things more seriously.
05:43It's like, bro, I had 40 years of seriousness.
05:45I'm just laughing at shit now.
05:47I've had 40 years of wrestling with people and shredding my reputation and sometimes my peace of mind to bring the truth, reason, and reality to people.
05:55They have wisely chosen to follow all the sophists in the known universe.
05:59So now I just laugh at them.
06:01But can you imagine if private schools were running things and 20% of people were illiterate after 12 years in private schools?
06:16Everybody would say, gee, we really need government schools because without the government, people just aren't getting educated.
06:22They don't even know how to read.
06:25Because it's government schools, people don't sit there and say, damn, that's some ass-crab-tastic, crab-tastic numbers.
06:33We really have to try something different.
06:35Nope.
06:37Nope.
06:39Was that customer-facing instructions?
06:41Yeah, yeah, but my customers were all sophisticated, intelligent people, right?
06:43They're all managers and CEOs and CFOs and all of that because it was all environmental stuff, right?
06:48So it's fairly high level.
06:51This is the part of the population that doesn't have an internal dialogue.
06:55Yeah.
06:57You know, there is...
06:59It's kind of chilling just how many people...
07:03I mean, this is the NPC meme, right?
07:05Nothing's going on upstairs.
07:07Nothing's going on.
07:13Nothing's going on.
07:16Nothing's going on up there.
07:20And that's sort of important to know.
07:22This is why having a smaller audience is in many ways better.
07:32Hey, Steph, remember when you were going to run into the burning building to save society and they couldn't go one website over?
07:37Yes, very liberating.
07:39Very liberating.
07:41Very liberating.
07:43Very liberating.
07:45Very liberating.
07:47If you're going to risk your life trying to save a drowning guy and he just repeatedly spits at you and punches you in the head
07:53and risks your life, it's like, well, sorry, good luck with all of that, right?
08:01Well, yeah, so everybody... What do they got?
08:03Misinformation, which is things they believe to be false.
08:06Malinformation is a great term.
08:08Malinformation are things that are true but we don't like.
08:11Things that are true but could be harmful.
08:15And, of course, misinformation is a massive problem in the world, say the leftists.
08:21Misinformation is just the worst thing ever.
08:23It's like, okay, so let's say that you're right, that people can't determine truth from falsehood and they're easily manipulated by lies.
08:30Huh, I wonder who gets to educate people for 12 years and try to figure out, try to tell them how to differentiate truth from falsehood.
08:41No internal monologue.
08:42No, no internal monologue.
08:45And no voices in their head, there's no internal dialogue.
08:53I saw a graph that shows the vocabulary of modern US president speeches and the vocabulary used by grade level.
08:58Now it's an all-time rated on a grade 4.6 with Trump.
09:01Yeah, you can't use any reasonably sized words.
09:06I mean, that's a great meme.
09:07When you're arguing with a leftist or you're arguing with a boomer, you're just arguing with the television that doesn't care,
09:13that can't hear you and doesn't care about what you say.
09:19Is the reason for a lack of internal dialogue massive trauma from childhood or is it intelligence?
09:24I don't know.
09:25I don't know.
09:26I don't know.
09:27I don't think it's just a matter of intelligence.
09:29There are some very smart people who say they don't have any internal dialogue.
09:33I think it's a European thing, the internal dialogue, because we've had,
09:38debating has been core to our culture in the West since the days of Socrates.
09:44Greetings from Germany.
09:45Well, welcome.
09:46Welcome, welcome, welcome.
09:56So yeah, it's pretty tragic.
10:00I think they have an internal monologue, but depending on how dismissed their consciousness is,
10:04but it's like they're sitting on a banging trap door.
10:08I don't know what that means.
10:10How do you never have internal dialogue?
10:11Amazing.
10:12Yeah, well, you know, that's diversity, man.
10:17Us and the people who don't have internal monologue.
10:26Yeah, I mean, the dumbing down is wild and inevitable.
10:29All right.
10:31Permission to swear on this fine Sunday morning.
10:34I don't know if you want to start off with super spice.
10:38Yeah, so here's the numbers.
10:4221% of the U.S. adults read below a fifth grade level.
10:46I don't think that's great.
10:4819% of high school graduates in the U.S. can't read.
10:5242 million U.S. adults can't read past the fifth grade level.
10:5950% of adults in the U.S. can't read a book written at an eighth grade level.
11:08All right.
11:13I have an internal cacophony.
11:15Yeah, yeah.
11:16I love the internal debates.
11:18I'll never be alone until I'm dead.
11:20Right?
11:21Then it'll just be me and the worms.
11:22All right.
11:23What is the counter argument for the people who say
11:25they don't want to have children because life is full of suffering?
11:29The intolerable and inherent suffering of existence argument.
11:33Oh, life is so miserable.
11:36Life is full of such existential deep and appalling Nietzschean suffering
11:41that I just can't bring children into the world because I'm just suffering so much.
11:47Don't you know?
11:50Yeah.
11:52Oh, I'm back to the literacy thing.
11:54By the way, have you ever tried to read Moby Dick?
11:58That was incredibly popular.
12:00That book was incredibly popular.
12:03It was a bestseller.
12:04And it's very complex.
12:09Was it main or was it said 98% literacy under non-government schools,
12:16under sort of private schools?
12:19Like, you know, in America,
12:24there was...
12:28What were the fractions now?
12:31Yeah, there was a third pound burger.
12:35It was something like this.
12:36There was a quarter pound burger and somebody wanted to compete
12:39by introducing a third pound burger, but their sales tanked.
12:44Quarter pound burger.
12:45Hey, for the same price, you can get a third pound burger
12:48and people wouldn't buy it.
12:49Why?
12:50Because the number three is less than four,
12:52so they thought they were getting less burger.
12:55Bernays said the public school should be just...
12:58The public should be just literate enough to be propagandized,
13:00no more, no less.
13:01Yeah, probably.
13:10So...
13:14Can you imagine...
13:19Can you imagine...
13:20Can you imagine...
13:26Can you imagine...
13:30somebody in a movie, sitting next to you in a movie,
13:33and you're enjoying the movie,
13:36and they just keep leaning over, tugging at your ear and saying,
13:39I hate this movie.
13:40My ears are hurting.
13:41I've got a headache.
13:42I can't stand the dialogue.
13:43I can't understand what's going on.
13:45I think everyone's ugly.
13:48It's offensive to every single one of my sensibilities.
13:52The last hour I've been in this movie
13:54has been the worst hour of my life.
13:56I can't stand this movie.
13:57This is the most horrifying, appalling revolt.
14:00I've thrown up three times.
14:02I'm allergic to this movie.
14:03I've broken out in hives.
14:05I just can't stand it.
14:06My nipples have fallen off.
14:07This is the most excruciating, appalling experience
14:11known to man, right?
14:15So you watched a movie with my mother.
14:18I think your mother was in it.
14:19So why are you still here?
14:29You can get up and leave any time.
14:31Why are you still here?
14:37So people have a lot of synonyms for I'm fucking lazy.
14:46Right?
14:49When I hear people's justifications
14:52nine times out of ten,
14:56nine times out of ten,
15:03it's just a synonym for lazy.
15:09It's just a synonym for lazy.
15:11Sunk cost fallacy, no.
15:13If you walk out in the first 30 minutes,
15:14you can get a refund, right?
15:20Yes, life is suffering.
15:22You don't want to have kids.
15:23You're just lazy.
15:24Kids are work.
15:25I understand that.
15:26You're just lazy.
15:28You're just lazy.
15:31No, I'm not lazy.
15:32I just understand the existential suffering of here.
15:36No, you don't.
15:37You're lazy.
15:38You're lazy.
15:39Shut up.
15:40You're lazy.
15:42I get it.
15:43You're lazy.
15:44You don't want to go to the poor section of town
15:46and talk to people.
15:47You know, they're icky in your view, right?
15:49I get it.
15:50You're just lazy.
15:51You're just lazy.
15:52I must have abortion.
15:54I get it.
15:55You find birth control beyond your capabilities.
16:01I want to keep dating rather than settle down
16:04and have children.
16:05I get it.
16:06Dating is fun.
16:07Raising kids is work.
16:08I get it.
16:09You're lazy.
16:12I get it.
16:15I get it.
16:16Just say you're lazy.
16:18But people create all of this polysyllabic bullshit
16:21infrastructure to just cover up the fact
16:23that they're just lazy.
16:25I got a bunch of questions I was answering this morning.
16:29Steph, I haven't really delved into your work,
16:32but could you answer this incredibly complicated question?
16:36Like, OK, I get it.
16:37You're lazy.
16:39I have a question about UPP.
16:40Have you read UPP?
16:42Only takes a couple hours.
16:43You can listen to it.
16:44In fact, there's a shortened version
16:45in Essential Philosophy you can get through
16:47in about an hour.
16:52Well, I haven't read Peaceful Parenting,
16:55and the short version is out now.
16:56PeacefulParenting.com.
16:57You should check out the condensed version.
16:59I haven't read Peaceful Parenting,
17:01but could you answer me these three questions
17:03on parenting?
17:04The only thing I want for lazy people
17:14is for their organs to be as lazy as they are.
17:19That's all I want.
17:20I'm just kidding, of course.
17:22I'm just joking.
17:23But wouldn't it be funny?
17:26I mean, can you imagine,
17:27life is shit and it's all suffering
17:30and their heart is like,
17:32oh, okay, well, I guess I'll stop pumping then.
17:35Oh my God, get me to the ER.
17:37I'm having a heart attack.
17:38The Widowmaker has blown.
17:44Or,
17:47I don't want to work
17:48because it's all capitalist exploitation.
17:50Okay, how about your stomach and lungs stop working?
17:53No, no, they must work.
17:55I don't want that much suffering.
17:57I would like it if people's laziness
18:01was listened to and acted upon by their organs.
18:06Life is, I don't want to work.
18:08I don't want to have children.
18:09It's too much work.
18:10Life is suffering.
18:11It's like, oh, so if life is suffering,
18:12I guess your muscles should.
18:15And everybody just falls down
18:16and they can't use their muscles.
18:18Well, at least we wouldn't have to hear them whining
18:19about how life is suffering
18:21because muscles suffer when they work.
18:24You get this lactic acid
18:25and it's like half scar tissue muscle mass.
18:29So muscles, they don't want to work.
18:31Your heart doesn't want to pump.
18:32Your lungs don't want to breathe.
18:33Your stomach doesn't want to digest.
18:34It's like an acidic furnace down there.
18:37Your bowels don't want to massage
18:38massive kanji-shaped lumps of shit
18:42through the intestines and out the rectum.
18:45The rectum damn near killed them.
18:48So your muscles don't want to work.
18:50Okay, maybe your penis.
18:53Your muscles don't want to work.
18:54Your belly doesn't want to work.
18:55And what if they were as lazy as you are?
18:58Wouldn't that be exciting?
18:59Somebody says, life is just suffering
19:02and they have a heart attack
19:03because their heart doesn't want to have them continue
19:05with their suffering.
19:07Oh, is life suffering?
19:11I'll pull the plug, man,
19:12because if it's just suffering,
19:15if it's just suffering, we'll pull the plug.
19:16I mean, if somebody's in bed,
19:19they're brain dead,
19:21their cortisol and adrenaline levels are off the charts,
19:24which means they're probably experiencing a lot of pain.
19:26They have no chance of recovery.
19:27You pull the plug, right?
19:29So for people whose life is suffering,
19:31they just pull the plug.
19:32Isn't that what happens in the medical sphere?
19:34I mean, I've actually been there with a friend
19:36when he had to make that decision.
19:37His mother had a terrible stroke.
19:38She was brain dead.
19:39She was suffering.
19:40He had to make the decision to pull the plug.
19:42It's a horrible thing,
19:43but that's what people do, isn't it?
19:45If life is suffering, you pull the plug.
19:46So to me, it's just funny that,
19:48you know for an absolute fact
19:50that all the people who complain that life is suffering,
19:52if they have a heart attack,
19:53they're immediately calling 911.
19:55Oh, thank you, my heart, my cure,
19:57for relieving me of all this suffering.
19:59It's like, nope.
20:02They'll go straight,
20:03oh my God, save my life, doctor.
20:05Save my suffering.
20:10Yeah, I get it.
20:13I get it.
20:14You don't want the pride that comes from hard work.
20:15You don't.
20:16I understand that.
20:17And you understand that propaganda bots,
20:19the NPCs, are just lazy.
20:22They're just lazy.
20:23They don't want to think for themselves.
20:24They don't want to reason to themselves.
20:25They don't want to access new information.
20:28They don't want the discomfort of thinking they might be wrong.
20:30They're just lazy.
20:33Just lazy.
20:36And we have a society that breeds laziness.
20:40It breeds laziness.
20:43Breeds laziness.
20:46So we have a lot of lazy people around,
20:48and they don't understand that
20:51work is fun.
20:52And, of course, lazy people are parasites on the hardworking, right?
20:56If a lazy person's internet goes down,
20:58they're outraged.
21:01They're outraged.
21:03Can't get my Prawn,
21:04can't get my online gaming,
21:07can't get my Netflix,
21:09can't get my YouTube-y.
21:12I'm outraged.
21:15Well, what if everyone was as lazy as you?
21:17How long would society last?
21:19How long would society last?
21:21They turn on their tap and they don't get water.
21:23They're outraged.
21:24Can't get cell service.
21:26They're outraged.
21:27Oh, so the problem is that other people might be 1% as lazy,
21:321% less hardworking than you?
21:45Is the penis a muscle?
21:46I can only speak personally.
21:48It's more of a peninsula.
21:52What's the best way to send you questions?
21:54I've started UPB and I have a ton.
21:58Is there a limit?
22:00You're trolling me, right?
22:02You're trolling me.
22:03You're trolling me.
22:04Yeah, you have to be trolling me.
22:08I was just talking about how lazy people
22:10don't even bother finishing UPB
22:12and send me all these questions on UPB,
22:14and I assume you're just trolling me.
22:16What's the best way to send you questions?
22:17I've started UPB and I have a ton.
22:19Is there a limit?
22:21So the reason I write more than one page of UPB
22:24is there's more.
22:29Oh my gosh.
22:31Yeah, how about the guys at the power plant
22:33and the internet infrastructure get lazy?
22:34Yeah.
22:37I just saw a woman watching Das Boot.
22:40Yeah.
22:46That's crazy.
22:51Yeah, contractions hurt like hell.
22:52Why, though?
22:53It's still worth it, though.
22:54Yeah.
22:59When I was 22, I was totally anti-cop
23:01and I went to a party where we were
23:02attacked by the neighbours because
23:03they felt my friend had assaulted their assistant.
23:05Guess who I called?
23:07Oh yeah, of course.
23:08All the people who are like,
23:09we don't need guns,
23:10they all have private security
23:11and who have guns.
23:15Not trolling, touche, though.
23:19Do you know how efficient life is
23:20if you just listen?
23:24If you just listen,
23:25life gets so much simpler.
23:27Just listen to people,
23:28listen to the red flags,
23:29listen to what they say.
23:30Everyone tells you who they are
23:31in the first few seconds, really.
23:33It's the blink phenomenon,
23:34which is quite real.
23:36I think it was, was it Friday?
23:38No, when was it?
23:39Yeah, it might have been Thursday or Friday.
23:42I did a Flash Telegram livestream
23:44and a guy came in
23:46who was completely aggressive
23:48and hostile and weird
23:49from the very beginning.
23:50I mean, I knew it was going to be
23:51a shit show, but
23:53sometimes it's fun to have those,
23:54so I just did it, right?
23:56So yeah, if you just listen to people,
23:58honestly, just listen to people,
23:59your life gets so much simpler.
24:02Just listen to people.
24:04Is being lazy a personality trait?
24:06No.
24:07No, no.
24:08Being lazy is not a personality trait.
24:12Being lazy is being an aristocratic asshole.
24:17When I want society to function,
24:18I just don't want to contribute.
24:19When I want things to work well,
24:21I just don't want to work hard.
24:22I want excellence to be achieved
24:24in everything I consume,
24:25but I'm not going to produce
24:26fuck all.
24:28It's aristocratic.
24:31And this is what I was talking about
24:32the other day with shyness.
24:33Shyness is a form of laziness.
24:35Because shyness is off-put.
24:37I mean, if you go and socialize,
24:38if you just stay home, who cares?
24:39But shyness is when you go to social events
24:41and make everyone else feel awkward
24:42and everybody has to work like crazy
24:44just to fill in the holes
24:45that you're digging through your awkwardness.
24:48Lazy is not a personality trait.
24:49Lazy is high status.
24:56Lazy is high status.
24:58I've always had a fascination.
25:01Always had a fascination.
25:02You've heard me this in call and shows.
25:03I've always had a fascination.
25:07How do people pay for shit?
25:09I was on the razor's edge of being broke
25:12throughout most of my childhood and youth.
25:14I didn't stop making any real coin
25:16until, I don't know,
25:19late 20s, mid-late 20s.
25:24I was broke.
25:27I remember joining a swim team one summer.
25:29It was $4 to join the swim team
25:31and I didn't have $4.
25:33I could not get together $4.
25:38So I had to keep going and saying,
25:39I forgot the money.
25:40And eventually, the woman in charge of it
25:42kind of understood that I was broke.
25:43Also, based upon, you know,
25:45when you have really old bathing suits.
25:47Back in the day, it was Speedos.
25:48They'd get those little fluff balls on them
25:50hanging by threads.
25:51They'd turn into little,
25:52you got an ass like a COVID virus.
25:56And I was absolutely broke ass,
26:01absolutely broke.
26:02I had a bike that I had assembled
26:04from things I had found from the garbage.
26:06I couldn't afford the bus sometimes.
26:09And I just had to bike.
26:11I had a job.
26:12I had to bike for an hour and a half
26:13to get there and get back
26:14because I just couldn't afford the bus.
26:16Because, yeah, I was paying my own rent
26:17since I was, rent and utilities and food
26:20since I was 15, right?
26:21And I had no money.
26:24I had two roommates,
26:25three roommates, in fact, at one point.
26:27And so I was just broke.
26:29So when people are like,
26:30I went to go traveling.
26:31And I'm like, how?
26:34Where do people get their money from?
26:36It's incomprehensible to me, foundationally.
26:39I mean, I know where women who travel
26:41get their money from.
26:43But I don't know.
26:45Where do men get their money from?
26:47Where do you get your money from?
26:48I guess, what,
26:49daddy gave you a credit card or something.
26:51Yeah, people are just,
26:55they just,
26:56I had to work.
26:58I had to work.
27:01I would have loved to have gone on a trip to Russia.
27:03I think it was in grade nine or whatever.
27:05I went on a trip to Russia.
27:06It was like 1,500 bucks.
27:08Obviously, I couldn't afford four bucks at times.
27:10Couldn't get it, right?
27:12Couldn't get it.
27:16Oh, the call on Thursday was amazing.
27:18I don't know how you kept your cool.
27:20How do you fight that laziness?
27:24How do you fight that laziness?
27:28The opposite,
27:29do you know what the opposite of laziness is?
27:32What's the opposite?
27:33It's not hard work.
27:34That's the effect.
27:36What is the opposite
27:39of laziness?
27:45What is the opposite of laziness?
27:47How do you fight laziness?
27:51Action.
27:52No, that's the effect.
27:54How do you fight it internally?
28:03Drive.
28:05No.
28:07No.
28:09At the root of laziness is selfishness.
28:11And so, how do you fight selfishness?
28:13With empathy.
28:15You start giving a shit
28:17about your fellow men and women,
28:18your fellow citizens,
28:19your fellow human beings.
28:21You stop being a Pac-Man consumption
28:24of other people's hard work.
28:26You stop being aristocratic.
28:27You stop being narcissistic.
28:28You stop being so fucking selfish
28:32that you expect the world to work
28:33though you contribute nothing.
28:37You start giving a shit about other people.
28:40Stop being lazy.
28:41Because when you're lazy,
28:43you put all the work on other people.
28:46It's unbelievably selfish.
28:50You start giving a shit about other people.
28:56And you start to recognize
28:58how you look on the outside
28:59rather than just how you feel on the inside.
29:01Start giving a shit about other people.
29:08And you think,
29:09how would I like it
29:10if the farmers were lazy?
29:12I'd be enraged.
29:13I'd be panicked.
29:14I'd be frightened.
29:15I'd be hungry.
29:16I'd be desperate.
29:19How would I feel
29:21if those around me were lazy?
29:24If the people who provided electricity were lazy,
29:26I'd be upset, angry, cold, bored.
29:32Well, that's how people look at you
29:34when you're lazy.
29:35It's annoying as fuck
29:37to be around lazy people.
29:38Oh, they're so bored.
29:40Oh, they're so tired.
29:41Oh, they're so unmotivated.
29:43Oh, they're just so,
29:45I don't know, man.
29:46Like, you know.
29:47And then they invent all of these bizarre...
29:52They invent all of these bizarre ideologies
29:54to justify their laziness.
29:56It's like, man,
29:57if you put half as much work
29:58into fixing your life
29:59as you do justifying your laziness,
30:01you'd be a force of nature.
30:18You know, people on welfare get mad
30:20that they can't get doctors.
30:22Oh, I'm sorry, people on welfare.
30:24Are you complaining that the doctors
30:25aren't working hard enough?
30:32No, it's just selfish.
30:34I mean, people who are lazy,
30:36it's just parasitical.
30:38It's absolutely...
30:39I mean, okay,
30:40so let's say you've inherited a bunch of money
30:42and you're lazy.
30:43Okay, well, you only have all of that money
30:45because somebody else worked really fucking hard.
30:48Take, take, take, take, take.
30:50Take, take, take, take, take.
30:51Quack, quack, quack.
30:52Swallow, swallow, swallow.
30:53Take, take, take.
30:54Absorb, absorb, absorb.
30:56No.
30:57You're a remora.
30:59You're a vampire.
31:02Start giving a shit about other people.
31:03Stop just consuming.
31:06And having this crook-fingered,
31:07bored, couch potato aristocracy of,
31:10well, everybody else should work hard,
31:12but I just can't seem to find the motivation now,
31:14can I?
31:16Oh, it turns my stomach.
31:18It makes my skin crawl,
31:19this lazy shit.
31:24Think about others!
31:29Now, why is it important to think about others?
31:32Well, of course, you want them to think about you,
31:34so you stop being a rank fucking hypocrite
31:36when you start to think about other people
31:37because they...
31:38Right?
31:39You ever been in a restaurant with a lazy person?
31:42Or an incompetent person?
31:43Somebody just doesn't get their shit together?
31:46They've been in a restaurant,
31:47they order something,
31:48and the waiter forgets the order?
31:49Do you know how...
31:52Do you know how outraged and upset
31:54lazy, incompetent people get
31:56when a waiter forgets their order?
31:59You see what I mean?
32:00It's...
32:01It's pathetic.
32:02It's embarrassing.
32:05It's hilarious.
32:09Or people who don't work,
32:10how mad they get
32:11when their government checks are slightly delayed.
32:14How dare they not send my government checks on time!
32:18When have you ever had to be on time for anything?
32:23It's funny.
32:24So the reason that you practice empathy with other people...
32:28The reason you practice empathy with other people
32:30is so you have empathy for your future self.
32:37The reason you have empathy for others
32:40is so the bonus you get
32:42is empathy for your future self.
32:44Right?
32:46It's just a matter of choose your suffering.
32:48Well, I don't want to suffer now through hard work.
32:50Okay, so you just suffer later by being broke.
32:54Right?
33:01You just suffer later by being broke.
33:02I don't want to go to the gym,
33:03that's uncomfortable, that's suffering.
33:05It's like, okay, well, you just suffer later
33:07with ailments and creakiness
33:09and soft bones and flaccid muscles
33:12and joint problems and, you know, obesity.
33:16Right?
33:17Okay, so it's just choose your suffering now
33:19or choose your suffering later.
33:21And lazy people,
33:22first of all, they're hypocritical
33:23because they want everyone else to be competent
33:26and hardworking.
33:27And secondly, lazy people will always complain
33:31later on about their aches and pains.
33:35I don't care.
33:36When people my age, right,
33:37so at my age, right,
33:38I'm 57, I'm gonna be 58 in a couple of months, right?
33:40So at my age,
33:43the work you've done
33:44or the work you haven't done,
33:47the bill is due.
33:48The bill is due to everyone I know
33:50who's my age.
33:51Right?
33:52Now, I'm not a super fit guy,
33:55but I exercise pretty regularly,
33:58my blood work is great,
33:59my blood pressure is great,
34:00I can do 40 minutes of cardio,
34:02I did an hour of hard racquet sports
34:04with my wife yesterday,
34:06and I walk briskly while doing the call-in shows usually,
34:11so I, you know,
34:12I work fairly hard.
34:14I'm not some big gym guy,
34:16but I work fairly hard at being fit.
34:18And, you know,
34:20this is almost 58, right?
34:22I have no particular wrinkles,
34:23I'm in the sun,
34:24little squinty stuff,
34:25but, you know,
34:26I don't look,
34:27I look at my videos from 10, 15 years ago,
34:30from time to time,
34:31I look better now
34:32because I was heavier back then.
34:33I've lost weight,
34:34I lost 20 pounds about 15, 20 years ago,
34:36or 15 years ago,
34:37kept it off,
34:38and I'm still continuing to drop,
34:40you know,
34:41sort of 5 pounds a year,
34:42and all of that.
34:43So, I am working fairly hard,
34:45and I've put in,
34:46I can't even tell you how many tens of thousands of hours
34:49into exercise.
34:50Over the years,
34:51I've watched what I've eaten,
34:52I really make sure I get to bed on time,
34:54get good sleep,
34:55all that.
34:56So, I,
34:57and it's paying off.
34:58Now, the people who haven't done that,
35:02well,
35:03it's bad.
35:05Back problems,
35:06knee problems,
35:08hip problems,
35:09obesity problems,
35:10blood pressure problems,
35:11stress problems,
35:13or they just look like shit,
35:14right?
35:15I mean,
35:16this is 57.
35:17I've still got a jawline,
35:18you know,
35:19not too wrinkled,
35:20I honestly didn't think I'd look this decent at 57.
35:24And I see other people
35:25who are in their late 50s,
35:27and it's like,
35:28bro, you look terrible.
35:29Like, you know,
35:30I stay hydrated,
35:31you know,
35:32it's good stuff, right?
35:33Again,
35:34I'm not a super fitness guy,
35:35by any stretch,
35:36I could not run an Instagram
35:37on look like me
35:38kind of thing, right?
35:39But, you know,
35:40not bad.
35:43So,
35:44now,
35:45the people who are older,
35:47whose bodies are falling apart,
35:49and they're in chronic pain,
35:51it's like,
35:52I don't care.
35:54I don't care.
35:55Sorry.
35:56Like,
35:57if you didn't care about you
35:58when you got older,
35:59why would I?
36:01Because empathy for your future self
36:03is why you do
36:04the work.
36:05Why you,
36:06you know,
36:07this year,
36:08as you know,
36:09I got off processed sugar.
36:14So,
36:15that's been good.
36:18And I like sugar,
36:19a lot,
36:20right?
36:21But I'm off processed sugar,
36:22that's a good thing.
36:24It's not easy at times,
36:25I get that yearning,
36:26it's mostly gone now,
36:27but for,
36:28you know,
36:29it was that yearning,
36:30burning,
36:31kinda wanna have,
36:32gotta,
36:33gotta,
36:34gotta,
36:35right?
36:36And,
36:37you know,
36:38I'd have some dates
36:39because it's natural sugar
36:40or whatever,
36:41and that's fine,
36:42I can live with that,
36:43right?
36:44But just the processed
36:45added sugar,
36:46I'm off,
36:47right?
36:48So,
36:49the people who have,
36:50oh my God,
36:51I got teeth problems,
36:52I got this,
36:53I got that,
36:54it's like,
36:55well,
36:56you know,
36:57I floss every day,
36:58I work at my teeth.
37:01So people with teeth problems,
37:02it's like,
37:03well,
37:04did you floss?
37:05No,
37:06right?
37:07Did you visit the dentist regularly?
37:08Well,
37:09not as often as I should have,
37:10and it's like,
37:11so,
37:12if you didn't care about your future self,
37:13why would I care about your present self?
37:16But they still complain,
37:17and they still feel hard done by,
37:19I don't understand it.
37:23I genuinely,
37:24I know this sounds like,
37:25oh,
37:26I just do,
37:28I mean,
37:29if you eat so much you get fat,
37:31you're going to have health problems.
37:34Complaining about them
37:35is incomprehensible to me.
37:38There was a Michael J. Fox movie,
37:39I can't remember the title of it,
37:41but,
37:43he's trying to get a job,
37:44and he says,
37:45but I got a humanities degree,
37:46I got a degree in history,
37:47or whatever he got,
37:48right?
37:50And the guy's like,
37:51well,
37:52we don't care about that.
37:53And he's like,
37:54well,
37:55what did I go to school for?
37:56You had fun,
37:57didn't you?
37:58It's like,
37:59okay,
38:00well,
38:01you had fun,
38:02right?
38:03So the times when I was denying myself,
38:04the times when I was sweating at the gym,
38:05even with a headache,
38:06and I didn't want to do it,
38:07and the times I don't like going to the dentist,
38:08who does,
38:09but when I go and get my teeth scraped,
38:10and checked,
38:11and the x-rays,
38:12and all of that sort of stuff,
38:13right?
38:14When I'm doing all of that stuff,
38:15and you're not,
38:17you're choosing
38:20your future.
38:23You're choosing your future.
38:24And when that future shows up,
38:26inevitably,
38:28if it's bad,
38:29it's because
38:30you lacked empathy
38:31for your future self.
38:34So if you lacked empathy
38:35for your future self,
38:37why would I have empathy
38:39for your present self
38:40when the future has arrived?
38:41You didn't care
38:43enough about yourself
38:44to take care of yourself.
38:47So why would I care?
38:52I mean,
38:53you can transfer resources,
38:55you can't transfer time,
38:57right?
38:58So I spent all that time
38:59in the gym,
39:01and I spent all that time
39:02not eating what I wanted to eat,
39:04and I spent all that time
39:06studying and learning about health,
39:08and all of that.
39:09I spent all of that time doing that.
39:11Tens of thousands of hours
39:13subtracted from my life.
39:15So I'm not going to waste more hours
39:17commiserating with you
39:18about the entirely predictable effect
39:19of your own decisions,
39:20like 70 to 80 percent
39:21of healthcare issues,
39:23of medical issues,
39:24are the direct result
39:25of choices.
39:26Bad choices.
39:28So if you didn't care
39:29about your future self,
39:32why would I?
39:33People say,
39:34well, your mother,
39:35you should care about your mother.
39:36It's like,
39:37my mother
39:38did terrible things,
39:40didn't get help,
39:41wouldn't get feedback,
39:43wouldn't listen to anyone,
39:45didn't take advice,
39:46wouldn't read up on anything,
39:48so her life is terrible.
39:54I can't change that.
39:55I don't respect that.
39:57And I'm not going to,
39:58if she didn't care enough,
40:00you can't care about
40:01people more than they do,
40:02themselves, right?
40:03This is how to deal with addicts.
40:04You can't care about,
40:05I mean, you can try,
40:06you can pretend to,
40:07but you can't care about people
40:08more than they care about themselves.
40:09And if people
40:10are lazy,
40:11and,
40:12oh, I spent my 20s
40:13playing video games,
40:14and so on,
40:15and it's like,
40:17so you didn't care enough
40:18to build a future,
40:19why would I care about your present?
40:20Now the future is here.
40:21You didn't care about yourself,
40:22why would I care about you?
40:25This is what I mean.
40:26You just have to listen to people.
40:28So people who waste their time,
40:31and people who don't plan,
40:33and people who don't save their money,
40:34it's like all the people
40:35who don't save their money,
40:36and it's like,
40:37I'm finding it hard to survive
40:38on social security,
40:39it's like, well, yeah.
40:40I mean, it's an insult to Ponzi schemes
40:41to call it a Ponzi scheme,
40:42but of course,
40:43then the money's not,
40:44I mean,
40:45people my age might get some of it,
40:46but you younger folks,
40:47I don't imagine
40:48there's going to be anything
40:49for social security
40:50or old age pensions
40:51when you get older.
40:52So all the people
40:53who are like,
40:54I had fun spending my money.
40:55Great.
40:57Great.
40:59So take what you want
41:00and pay for it.
41:01You didn't care enough
41:02about your future
41:03to save your money
41:04or to invest.
41:05You didn't care enough
41:06about your future.
41:07So why would I care?
41:11So empathy for the future self,
41:13empathy for others,
41:14is the opposite of laziness.
41:17Laziness is saying,
41:18fuck my future self.
41:21Okay?
41:24So then when you grow
41:25into your future self
41:26and you complain
41:27about being fucked,
41:28it's like,
41:29sorry,
41:30this is what you wanted.
41:31Everything that people do
41:32as adults
41:33is what they want.
41:34There's no exceptions.
41:38And I refuse
41:39to give people sympathy
41:41for what they wanted.
41:47If somebody saves up
41:48and saves up
41:49and saves up
41:50and buys their dream BMW car,
41:52am I gonna,
41:53oh,
41:54I'm so sorry
41:55you got the car of your dreams.
41:56Oh, I'm so sorry.
41:57Oh, that's so,
41:58oh,
41:59he wanted the car.
42:00He wanted the car.
42:01He saved for years.
42:02He bought the car.
42:03Hey, man, congrats.
42:05You got what you wanted.
42:06You got what you planned for.
42:07You got what you wanted.
42:08Why would I commiserate
42:09with people
42:11who are getting
42:12exactly what they want?
42:15You eat badly.
42:16You don't exercise.
42:17You waste time.
42:18You're flaccid.
42:19You're lethargic.
42:20You're lazy.
42:21You end up with a bad middle age.
42:23It's what you want.
42:25It's what you wanted.
42:27It's what you chose.
42:29I'm not going to give people sympathy
42:31for what they so obviously choose.
42:39I talked to a guy the other day
42:43complaining about
42:45this girl.
42:46He was dating in his 20s
42:47and she had obvious red flags
42:48from the very beginning.
42:51Hey, I sympathize with
42:52the childhood stuff for sure.
42:54But he's like, yeah,
42:55I had a really tough relationship.
42:56It's like, yeah.
42:57Well, I mean,
42:58you chose that, right?
43:00But the sex was great.
43:01Okay, so you chose the sex
43:03over a quality relationship.
43:05Or, I mean, with a really
43:06quality relationship
43:07you get great sex,
43:08but you chose...
43:09Right?
43:10This is the constant thing
43:11with men, right?
43:12Yeah, she was crazy
43:13and bad, man.
43:14It's like, yeah,
43:15so she's crazy.
43:16So you take what you want
43:18and then you pay for it.
43:21I mean,
43:22it's like somebody who goes
43:24to a restaurant,
43:25orders a meal,
43:26and then demands sympathy
43:27when the bill comes due.
43:28Are you crazy?
43:31It's funny.
43:33It's funny.
43:35Like all the liberal women
43:36who were like,
43:37well, we've got to let
43:38all the violent criminals
43:39out of prison.
43:40I can't walk the streets at night.
43:41But you chose that.
43:42I'm not going to sympathize
43:43with what people
43:44voluntarily choose
43:45of their own free will.
43:51I don't know.
43:52Bizarre.
43:53I had sex with a woman
43:54who promised me
43:55she couldn't get pregnant.
43:56She got pregnant.
43:57I was like, well,
44:00that's your chance.
44:03Back in my late teens,
44:04early twenties,
44:05my parents set up a rule.
44:06Either I'm in school
44:07or I'm working
44:08and saving my money.
44:09I chose work,
44:10paid for a few cheap cars,
44:11sold up and used savings
44:12to buy a good used car,
44:13saved for a down payment
44:14on a home,
44:15traded my savings to my father
44:16for liquid assets
44:17to pay for the mortgage
44:18and fees.
44:19Good for you, man.
44:20Good for you.
44:21I think the government
44:22did worse with people's empathy,
44:23made people think
44:24coercion is empathy.
44:26Right.
44:27So people want the unearned.
44:30Oh, and to the person
44:31who was saying,
44:32I'm totally wrong.
44:33Steph, you're totally wrong.
44:35You're totally wrong.
44:36First burp on show.
44:38You're totally wrong, Steph.
44:40There are lots of hard-working
44:41home invaders.
44:42It's like, no,
44:43home invaders are lazy.
44:46First of all,
44:47they like the thrill
44:48and excitement
44:49of invading people's homes,
44:50so that's a plus for them.
44:51So they're not doing hard work.
44:52And secondly,
44:53they take stuff and sell it.
44:54That's lazy.
44:55Oh, they're lazy.
45:01Free stuff makes people
45:02selfish and lazy, right?
45:08So,
45:10like women,
45:11women who
45:13sleep around like crazy
45:14when they're young
45:15and they put out
45:16quasi-sexual content
45:17on the internet
45:18and they send nudes
45:19and selfies
45:20and topless selfies
45:21to guys
45:22and all of that
45:23and they just make,
45:24you know,
45:25really, really
45:26bad decisions.
45:27And then
45:28they get
45:29into their late 20s
45:30or their early 30s
45:31and they start to get
45:32that crawling
45:33egg death panic
45:35and they are like,
45:36well, now I want a rich guy.
45:43You know,
45:44guys become wealthy
45:45because they're accurate
45:46judges of quality.
45:49Guys become wealthy
45:50because they successfully
45:51defer gratification.
45:54So,
45:55wealthy guys
45:56want people
45:57who know what quality is
45:58and are able to
45:59defer gratification.
46:07And if you want to marry
46:08into a wealthy family,
46:10you know,
46:11wealthy families will
46:12literally hire
46:13private investigators
46:14to check out the backgrounds
46:15of people,
46:16women who are interested
46:17in their sons
46:18or
46:19men who are interested
46:20in their daughters.
46:22You will get
46:23a deep background check.
46:24They will find everything
46:25and anything.
46:26So women make these
46:27absolutely retarded decisions
46:28to be hyper-sexual,
46:29hyper-lazy.
46:31Oh,
46:32you know,
46:33like,
46:34when the woman says,
46:35I traveled around the world
46:36in my early 30s,
46:40I traveled around the world
46:41in my early 20s.
46:43All men see
46:44when they're traveling
46:45around the world
46:46on a pogo stick
46:47made of dicks,
46:48a pogo dick.
46:49Boing, boing, boing.
46:50That's all it is.
46:51That's all it is.
46:52Okay, we get it.
46:53You traded sex for travel.
46:54Okay.
46:55And you destroyed
46:56your pair bonding
46:57to get selfies in Thailand.
46:58Okay.
46:59And again,
47:00you know,
47:01whatever.
47:02Do what you want.
47:03I'm not going to nag you,
47:04but I'm not going to
47:05give you sympathy
47:06when you can't find
47:07a quality guy
47:08who'll settle down
47:09with you in your 30s.
47:11Yeah, but where do you
47:12draw the line?
47:13When is it enough effort?
47:14Because I believe
47:15every person has this feeling.
47:16Even you, Steph,
47:17I can always do more.
47:18Sure.
47:19But you also have to
47:20be competent at rest.
47:23Right?
47:24You also have to be
47:25competent at resting.
47:28I don't get how you
47:29scrimp and save
47:30while they go partying.
47:31Then they're jealous
47:32of you having nicer things
47:33later in life.
47:34Yeah, for sure.
47:37Everyone basically knows
47:38how to be happy
47:39and everyone basically knows
47:40how to be healthy.
47:41They're just addicted
47:42to the excuses,
47:43the feeling of being a victim.
47:44They crave that.
47:45So when you say,
47:46I wish to be,
47:47I wish to have sympathy
47:48for the results
47:49of my choices,
47:50let's be frank.
47:51We're not talking
47:52about everyone.
47:53We're talking about women
47:54as a whole.
47:55Great women in my life,
47:56lots of exceptions,
47:57but as a whole,
47:58people who crave sympathy
47:59for their bad choices
48:00are women.
48:01How do I know that?
48:02Have you ever tried
48:03being a man
48:04and getting sympathy
48:05for your bad choices?
48:07Try it.
48:08If you doubt me
48:10and you're a dude,
48:11try getting sympathy
48:12for your bad choices.
48:14Try crying to people
48:16that you were lazy
48:17in your 20s
48:18and you don't have
48:19a good income in your 30s.
48:20What will people say?
48:21Well, you chose that.
48:22So when we,
48:23we just give,
48:24we give sympathy to women,
48:26which is very toxic.
48:30Because most people
48:31don't want to take ownership.
48:36But they have ownership
48:37whether they want
48:38to take it or not.
48:46Obese older women
48:47are the biggest offenders.
48:48They get so many poor women.
48:49Oh, pity her.
48:51Yeah, well, maybe
48:52she made some mistakes,
48:53but she's suffering now.
48:54It's like,
48:55but she didn't care
48:56about her older self,
48:57so why would I care
48:58about her older self?
49:00Yeah, it's better
49:01to overexercise a little bit,
49:02do junk volume,
49:03not working out enough
49:04and never progressing.
49:05Yeah.
49:14Well, and because people
49:15won't admit their mistakes,
49:16we have cut off
49:17the next generation
49:18from bitter wisdom.
49:21So women in their 40s
49:22who screwed around
49:23in their 20s
49:24and 30s
49:25and 40s
49:26and 40s
49:27and 50s
49:28who screwed around
49:29in their 20s
49:30and early 30s
49:31and then couldn't lock down
49:32a quality mate,
49:33they're not saying
49:34to young women,
49:35don't make the mistakes
49:36that I made, right?
49:37Men will do this
49:38as a whole.
49:39Men will say,
49:40don't do what I did, son.
49:41Don't make the same mistakes
49:42I did.
49:44Women don't do that
49:46as a whole.
49:51I used to run the lot,
49:52says this lady,
49:53oh, you got the same shit.
49:54Yeah, yeah.
49:59It's like they think
50:00you're saying
50:01the sex is really good
50:02excuses everything else.
50:04It's like, well,
50:05so you were too lazy
50:06to woo a quality woman
50:07and maybe you were fearful
50:08of a quality woman
50:09and so you wanted
50:10sex quickly
50:12and so you looked
50:13for a woman
50:14with no boundaries
50:15and then you complained
50:16that she has no standards.
50:20The worst is when
50:21old women didn't care
50:22about using their
50:23childbearing years
50:24for childbearing
50:25and are now lonely.
50:26Yeah.
50:27I mean, I say this
50:28because back in the
50:29Twitter days, right,
50:31back in the Twitter days
50:32I would talk about this
50:33with women
50:34and say, you know,
50:35your childbearing years
50:36are largely done at 40,
50:37you're going to live
50:38into your 80s,
50:39what are you going to do?
50:40What are you going to do?
50:43Well, I don't want to,
50:44I don't want to be dependent
50:45on no man.
50:46It's like, okay,
50:47well then you're just
50:48dependent on a boss
50:49who's often a man, right?
50:50My sister who turned 30
50:51not too long ago
50:52keeps dating decent men
50:53for two to three months
50:54and then breaking up
50:55with them
50:56for some silly reason,
50:57including but not limited to
50:58he wanted to get
50:59more educated
51:00and he wanted to spend
51:01more time with me.
51:04Right.
51:05So, I don't know, of course,
51:06but my guess would be
51:07that your sister
51:10has burned out
51:11her pair bonding
51:12and therefore gets
51:13great anxiety
51:14and then,
51:15I don't know,
51:16I don't know,
51:17I don't know,
51:18I don't know,
51:19but she gets great anxiety
51:20when the pair bonding
51:21starts to form
51:23because she's then
51:24being asked to actually
51:25do the job
51:26of romance
51:27which is to pair bond.
51:28You know,
51:29if I lie my way
51:30into a job
51:31I'm actually kind of tense
51:32when they ask me
51:33to do what I say
51:34I can't do,
51:35like what I said
51:36I could do
51:37but I can't, right?
51:39I mean, when I was a teen
51:40I got a job
51:41at a hardware store
51:42and they said,
51:43do you have any experience
51:44fixing screen doors?
51:45And I'm like, yeah.
51:46I got the job.
51:47I didn't have any experience
51:48fixing screen doors
51:49so I killed a lot of time
51:50cleaning stuff
51:51and then the boss guy
51:52finally said,
51:53hey man,
51:54can you go and actually
51:55fix some screen doors
51:56and do something
51:57that's going to make me money?
51:58How do you think
51:59you're getting paid?
52:00And I'm like,
52:01can you just remind me?
52:02And so I went and fixed
52:03a whole bunch of screen doors
52:04learned it pretty quickly
52:05but I didn't want to be
52:06caught out on stuff
52:07I lied about.
52:08I didn't want to be
52:09caught out on stuff
52:10I pretended
52:11to be able to do
52:12and so,
52:13she has
52:14a deficiency in pair bonding
52:15so when the relationships
52:16start to expose that
52:17she freaks out and runs.
52:18I get that.
52:21I've known a few travel hacks
52:22and yes,
52:23body count higher
52:24than Pol Pot
52:25but still not as high
52:26as stewardesses.
52:28Oh my gosh.
52:37Where have all
52:38the good men gone?
52:41Damn,
52:42most of the men I meet
52:43here in Paris in particular
52:44live on excuses this
52:45and injustice that.
52:47It's systemic
52:48bigotry is why
52:49I can't succeed.
52:50No,
52:51the bigotry is against
52:52your future self.
53:00Yeah,
53:01like burnout is a real thing
53:02so you have to
53:03rest
53:04you have to be good
53:05at resting as well
53:06as working, right?
53:07This reminds me
53:08of my brother
53:09who has an unhealthy lifestyle
53:10he complains about
53:11lower back problems
53:12and tiredness
53:13yet he's shocked
53:14when I point out
53:15something.
53:16No,
53:17he's not shocked
53:18he's just pretending
53:19to be shocked
53:20because he wants
53:21sympathy, right?
53:22Sympathy
53:23is the biggest
53:24resource transfer
53:25in the world
53:26like unjust sympathy
53:27sympathy that is not earned
53:28is the biggest
53:29resource transfer
53:30in the world
53:31and so much dysfunction
53:32comes out of that.
53:38Speaking of resting
53:39how do you know
53:40when you've done enough
53:41to deserve a bit of rest?
53:42What?
53:43That's like asking me
53:44are you thirsty?
53:45How do you know
53:46you've done enough
53:47to deserve a bit of rest?
53:48You're tired
53:49you've done your work
53:50and you're tired
53:51so you rest.
53:52When does
53:53when
53:54when do
53:55one starts to
53:56Okay,
53:57if you don't care enough
53:58to type your question well
53:59I don't care enough
54:00to answer it.
54:01If the question
54:02is not important enough
54:03for you to type it well
54:04I don't care.
54:05It's just a quality thing, right?
54:06Jeez,
54:07I don't know why
54:08people do this stuff.
54:09Steph,
54:10what about women
54:11who get breast reduction?
54:12Practically every man
54:14No,
54:15because
54:16it's inconvenient
54:17maybe they want to play golf
54:18maybe they want to do
54:19racquet sports
54:20there are lower back issues
54:21I mean,
54:22you try
54:23filling up
54:24two
54:25you know
54:26couple of pound
54:27bags of something or other
54:28right?
54:29You know
54:30and walk around
54:31and it's unpleasant.
54:32It's difficult.
54:34The most common advice
54:35older women tell younger women
54:36is to cut their hair short.
54:37Oh, it's so convenient.
54:38No, it's not.
54:39No, it's not.
54:41So
54:42Yeah, of course
54:43because older women
54:44are constantly in competition
54:45with younger women
54:46I mean,
54:47having single older women
54:48corrupts
54:49the
54:50generational relationships
54:51because
54:52women in their 40s
54:53should be
54:54raising their children
54:55not competing with younger women
54:57for guys.
55:00I feel like this stream
55:01is not inclusive to lazy people.
55:03No, I'm trying to help lazy people.
55:06To be cold and hostile
55:07to your future self
55:08is not a good strategy in life.
55:13The post honeymoon stage
55:14is really hard for women.
55:15When you're dating men
55:16don't criticize you.
55:17They start after the honeymoon stage
55:18and then
55:19it increases again after marriage.
55:20You need to prefer
55:21your man
55:22will criticize you
55:23all over the other
55:24sorry
55:25you need to prefer
55:26your man
55:27who will criticize you
55:28over all the other men
55:29in the world.
55:30So it's hard to cope
55:31with criticism
55:32when you've never had it before.
55:34I don't understand this at all.
55:38When you're dating
55:39men don't criticize you.
55:40When you're dating
55:41men don't criticize you.
55:46I'm probably
55:47missing something obvious
55:48so I'm sorry about this
55:49but why would you
55:50why would you
55:51criticize someone you love?
55:54You love them
55:55because they're wonderful.
55:56Why would you
55:59I mean
56:00I'm 22 years
56:01into my relationship
56:02with my wife
56:03we're still in the honeymoon phase.
56:06Why would you
56:07criticize someone you love?
56:08I mean
56:09maybe a little feedback
56:10here and there
56:11that's fine you know
56:12to add too much salt to this
56:13or but
56:14I don't
56:15I don't criticize my wife.
56:17Why would I
56:18why would I criticize my wife?
56:19I love her.
56:21What am I missing here?
56:26You can
56:27you can't
56:28nag people
56:29you can't criticize people
56:30that you love.
56:33You're just criticizing yourself
56:34because you chose them.
56:40Yeah
56:41I wouldn't be
56:43yeah reading fiction
56:44when you're young does help you
56:45develop empathy.
56:46What are the best ways
56:47to develop one's empathy?
56:50Well imagine you're
56:51the other person
56:52that's all it is.
56:53Just imagine you're
56:54the other person.
56:56So when I do shows
56:57I'm trying to empathize
56:58with the audience.
56:59What's helpful for you?
57:00What would be enjoyable for you?
57:01What's interesting for you?
57:02I'm trying to put myself
57:03in your shoes
57:04and what is it like
57:05to watch me right?
57:10So just imagine what
57:12it's like for the other person.
57:15You know
57:16if you're an employee
57:17and you're frustrated
57:18with your boss
57:19what do you think it's like
57:21as a boss to manage you?
57:25Right?
57:27What is it like
57:28to sit across the table
57:29from you in the morning?
57:30What is it like
57:31to go on a date with you?
57:32What is it like
57:33to spend time with you?
57:34Are you positive, energetic,
57:35enthusiastic,
57:36happy, healthy?
57:37Are you a whiner,
57:38a complainer, negative,
57:39a downer?
57:40What is it like?
57:41Just think about
57:42what it's like
57:43to spend time with you.
57:52Empathy is just
57:53a basic recognition
57:54that we're social animals
57:56and it matters
57:57how other people see us.
58:02Alright.
58:04At what point
58:05do we begin to recognize
58:06whether our current situation
58:07is due to a troubled childhood
58:08or our own poor choices?
58:10Sorry for being lazy earlier.
58:11That's fine.
58:12I appreciate the apology
58:14and we're going to go
58:15to donor only.
58:17In just
58:1959 seconds.
58:27Does not sound like love
58:28to ask your loved ones
58:29trap questions
58:30to have an excuse
58:31to be mad at them.
58:32No one wants to be treated that way.
58:33What is it like to date you?
58:34What is it like
58:35to be in love with you?
58:36What is it like
58:37to manage you?
58:38What is it like
58:39to be your friend?
58:40Are you enthusiastic
58:41about your friend's successes?
58:42Do you really,
58:43really want them
58:44to succeed?
58:45I have a good friend of mine
58:46who started a business
58:47not too long ago
58:48after transitioning
58:49from being in the arts
58:50and he's just killing it.
58:52I mean,
58:53I went and toured
58:54his whole factory
58:55and I'm so thrilled
58:56and happy
58:57and excited
58:58for his success.
58:59I just think that's wonderful.
59:00I have a little bit
59:01of entrepreneurial experience.
59:02I've given him
59:03a tiny bit of advice
59:04but he's just doing great.
59:05He's just doing great.
59:06Are people around you
59:08excited
59:09to be in your presence?
59:10Are they excited
59:11and positive
59:12and thrilled
59:13and happy?
59:14Did their hearts sing
59:15when you come by?
59:16All right,
59:17three, two, one.
59:18And we are
59:19a supporter only.
59:20All right, hang tight.