Resisting Offended Women!

Stefan Molyneux

Wednesday Night Live 17 July 2024  Join us in this episode as we reflect on listener feedback, explore negotiation strategies, and touch on current events and ethical dilemmas. From self-employment to dating dynamics, we delve into societal issues and government influences on relationships. Discussing the welfare state's impact on gender dynamics, we emphasize collaboration and honest communication. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical insights, we address dating ethics, personal growth, and financial tips. We stress the importance of honesty, self-awareness, and accountability in relationships and society, urging listeners to engage authentically and embrace rationality in navigating life's complexities.  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!  Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon!  https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Transcript

00:00:00Yes, good evening, 17th July 2024, Wednesday Night Live.

00:00:10Wednesday Night Live, and I'm here to talk to y'all, and thank you everyone who sent

00:00:16me positive responses to my WeChat on the assassination attempt on Trump.

00:00:21Maybe we should do that.

00:00:22Hit me with a why, if, you know, we could do, I could answer questions about politics

00:00:28on a donor livestream, but just be donors, we could do it after the first hour of the

00:00:33Sunday morning livestream, if you would have any interest.

00:00:36I don't know if you guys are interested in politics, or doing politics, or not.

00:00:44And if you are interested in politics, I would be happy to answer questions on politics,

00:00:50just for donors, and we could do that, yeah?

00:00:56All right, that's something we can think about.

00:00:59All right.

00:01:00So let's get your questions, my friends!

00:01:02Thank you for your support of the show, freedomain.com, slash, donate, peacefulparenting.com, share

00:01:08it around, man, share it around, peacefulparenting.com.

00:01:13All right, I figured out a concise question to ask pertaining to my situation with general

00:01:21philosophical value.

00:01:22If somebody is producing and responsible for $4,000 worth of product daily, is 3.75% $150

00:01:31a reasonable and equitable amount to be compensated for?

00:01:35There's obviously other bills and expenses that need to be covered by the $4,000, but

00:01:40I just want to make sure I'm being reasonable, plus any other insights you would have.

00:01:45Right, right.

00:01:49Well, if you can make $4,000 worth of product daily, why don't you work for yourself?

00:02:01I know that sounds like, well, why don't you just, I'm a genuine question, right?

00:02:05Why wouldn't you just work for yourself?

00:02:08I mean, then you get the full $4,000 gross, and then you just deduct your expenses from

00:02:14that.

00:02:15So if you know how to produce $4,000 worth of product, like if, let's say, you're making

00:02:24jewelry for someone and you make $4,000 worth of jewelry for them and they only pay you

00:02:28$150, why don't you just go make your own jewelry?

00:02:31I mean, it's a serious question.

00:02:33Why wouldn't you just go make it yourself?

00:02:37Go do it yourself.

00:02:38I mean, if I was working for someone and I said, gee, you know, I'm doing all this great

00:02:43philosophical world-changing content.

00:02:45I'm not getting paid enough.

00:02:46It's like, well, why don't you go solo and just do your own show?

00:02:56This is the problem.

00:02:57If you're not willing to quit, you can't really negotiate.

00:03:03If you're not willing to quit, you can't really negotiate.

00:03:07The only way that you can negotiate is to have options.

00:03:12I don't mean stock options, although those don't hurt.

00:03:15The only way you can ever negotiate in anything in this world is to have options.

00:03:21Get a side hustle.

00:03:22Get other job offers.

00:03:24Get an objective evaluation of what your compensation should be.

00:03:28Get performance reviews.

00:03:31Go in with confidence.

00:03:32And if you don't have any options, all of your negotiating is bluffing.

00:03:40So before, people think like negotiation is just sort of sitting down and willing your

00:03:45way and manipulating and being, it's like, no, it's just about having options.

00:03:51It's just about having options.

00:03:53If you're a 39-year-old woman and you want to have kids and only one guy is interested

00:03:57in you, let's not pretend you have anything to negotiate with.

00:04:01You could negotiate with not having kids, but if you really, really want kids, you're

00:04:04going to have to find a way to please that guy who's willing to take on your four years

00:04:08plus geriatric pregnancy eggs so that you can have a kid.

00:04:12Knowing when you have leverage is absolutely essential to success in life.

00:04:17If you don't know when you have leverage, you have no skill or ability to negotiate

00:04:23in any way, shape or form.

00:04:25It's so important in life.

00:04:26When do you have leverage?

00:04:28I foolishly thought I had a bit of leverage on the social media platforms because I thought

00:04:32they might follow their own rules before kicking people off.

00:04:36You know, you live, you learn, right?

00:04:40I thought, well, I'm not getting any warnings.

00:04:42I'm not getting any issues with my content.

00:04:44Nobody's saying, ooh, this might not be great.

00:04:46It's just like, judge, jury and executioner, somebody with a button in our soul central.

00:04:57So you think that there is a reasonable amount to be compensated for.

00:05:06There is no such thing.

00:05:11You are worth what you are willing to accept and what someone else is willing to pay for

00:05:18you.

00:05:19That's all you're worth, right?

00:05:20There's no, well, if it's this percentage and that percentage, it doesn't matter.

00:05:24You are worth nothing more or less than what you are willing to accept and what someone

00:05:29else is willing to pay for you.

00:05:31There's no fantasy world in which what I do is $10 billion a year and everything less

00:05:39than that is unreasonable.

00:05:41It's like, am I adding a huge amount of value to the world?

00:05:43Why yes, I am.

00:05:44I know that I am.

00:05:46I know that I am.

00:05:48Millions of children over the course of this show have stopped being hit, yelled at, tortured,

00:05:54manipulated, neglected, and confined.

00:05:58Millions, millions of children.

00:06:00What is the net effect of that in terms of society over the long run?

00:06:04Reduction in crime, reduction in dysfunction, reduction in addiction, reduction in teenage

00:06:08pregnancies, reduction in interpersonal violence.

00:06:13It's inestimable.

00:06:17That's just one aspect of what I do.

00:06:23What am I worth?

00:06:26I'm worth what I ask for and what you are willing to donate.

00:06:32That's all I'm worth.

00:06:35I'm worth what I ask for.

00:06:36I generally say like 50 cents a show.

00:06:39You know, you listen to a hundred shows, that's usually 200 hours of great content.

00:06:44You know, tip me 50 bucks.

00:06:48You know, 50 bucks is a night of the movies, right?

00:06:51Popcorn, drinks, gas, maybe parking.

00:06:54The price of the...

00:06:55You go into the movies, it's 50 bucks.

00:06:57That's two hours and apparently three hours of previews now.

00:07:01So two hours of manipulative bullshit, non-entertainment.

00:07:05Well, it's entertaining junk food for the brain, right?

00:07:09So I say you pay 50 bucks for two hours of programming.

00:07:15How about you pay 50 bucks for 200 hours, not two hours, 200 hours of intense high-quality

00:07:20philosophical content that truly changes the world?

00:07:24That's what I ask for.

00:07:26I think that's a reasonable ask.

00:07:27Lord knows the price hasn't gone up since I started the show, 50 cents a show.

00:07:33I think that's reasonable.

00:07:35But it doesn't matter what I think is reasonable.

00:07:37It matters what you're willing to pay and that's it.

00:07:40That's it.

00:07:44Happy birthday, by the way.

00:07:46Happy birthday.

00:07:47I had two people email me saying it was their birthday.

00:07:49So happy birthday to you.

00:07:53Happy birthday, man.

00:07:54Happy birthday.

00:07:55Well, happy birthday.

00:07:57I hope you're having a wonderful day.

00:08:01All right.

00:08:06You see, all my money is in cash at the moment.

00:08:09Would you guys accept Google Play Store cards?

00:08:11Yes, let me give my money to Google.

00:08:15All right, let's see here.

00:08:24Let's get to your further questions.

00:08:27So it's great when it comes to negotiation.

00:08:31Just ask, man.

00:08:34Just ask.

00:08:36Well, what's your justification for what you're asking?

00:08:38Well, it will make me happy.

00:08:42It will make me happy.

00:08:43So when you go to your boss, you want to raise, say, pay me 10% more.

00:08:47Well, that's too much.

00:08:48Well, that will make me happy.

00:08:49I understand you want to be happy.

00:08:51How about we find a number where we're both happy?

00:08:53Neither one of us is going to be fully happy because that would be the expense of the other

00:08:57and nobody with any empathy wants to be fully happy at the expense of someone else.

00:09:01Let's find something.

00:09:02So, well, objectively, no, no, no.

00:09:04Value is subjective.

00:09:05I don't think I'm worth this.

00:09:06Maybe you can make a bit of a case here and there, but whatever, right?

00:09:11Steph, an older woman, got fired from Home Depot for posting she was bummed that the

00:09:14bullet mistrumped.

00:09:15Some people are saying she shouldn't be fired and she could have been going through hard

00:09:18times mentally, so they feel bad for her, while others are saying they don't feel bad.

00:09:22What are your thoughts?

00:09:24Ah, the great cuckolding.

00:09:27Well, it's true that for the last 10 years, leftists have been a feral lava tide going

00:09:34through everybody's social media, trying to get everyone deplatformed, fired and charged.

00:09:40But you see, we don't want to descend to their level now, do we?

00:09:44We don't want to do the same thing to them, do we?

00:09:49So funny to me.

00:09:51Listen, if you're nervous to apply the same pressure back that's been put upon you and

00:09:56your friends, if you're nervous about it and you want to chicken out of it and it's not

00:10:00for you, then just say that.

00:10:01It scares me.

00:10:02I don't want to do it.

00:10:03I'm nervous.

00:10:04For God's sake, don't take the fucking high ground, whatever you do.

00:10:09That's embarrassing.

00:10:10You're scared.

00:10:11You're nervous.

00:10:12You don't want to fight fire with fire.

00:10:15You don't want to get into the mud.

00:10:16You don't want to brawl.

00:10:18I get that.

00:10:19But let's not pretend that there's any moral high ground here.

00:10:22That's embarrassing.

00:10:24It's embarrassing.

00:10:25Well, it is true that a guy broke into my house and was taking potshots at my dog, but

00:10:31I wouldn't want to use any force because, you see, that would just be lowering myself

00:10:34to his level.

00:10:35Shut up.

00:10:36Shut up.

00:10:37It's embarrassing.

00:10:38Because people are all like, well, you know, you shouldn't advocate for censorship because

00:10:47it could blow back upon you.

00:10:49And then when there's a chance to have it blow back upon people, well, no, we don't

00:10:52want to do that.

00:10:55Oh, gosh.

00:11:00Let me get this quote.

00:11:01Oh, it's just embarrassing.

00:11:07It's just embarrassing.

00:11:08Just say you don't want to fight.

00:11:10You don't want to...

00:11:11I get that.

00:11:12I mean, I understand that.

00:11:15I understand that.

00:11:20I understand that.

00:11:21But then just say, I'm not...

00:11:24I don't want to fight.

00:11:26It makes me nervous.

00:11:27I'm afraid of blowback.

00:11:28Blah, blah, blah.

00:11:30Fine.

00:11:40From A Man With All Seasons, William Roper says, So now you give the devil the benefit

00:11:45of law?

00:11:46said Thomas More.

00:11:47Yes.

00:11:48What would you do?

00:11:49Cut a great road through the law to get after the Devil?

00:11:53William Roper.

00:11:54Yes, I'd cut down every law in England to do that.

00:11:57And when the last law was down, and the devil turned round on you, where would you hide,

00:12:03Roper, the laws all being flat?

00:12:06This country is planted thick with laws from coast to coast—man's laws, not God's.

00:12:11And if you cut them down—and you're just the man to do it—do you really think you

00:12:15could stand upright in the winds that would blow then?

00:12:17Yes, I'd give the devil benefit of the law for my own safety's sake.

00:12:23And you're withholding a lesson from those who lack empathy that could allow them to

00:12:27develop some empathy.

00:12:32It's embarrassing to watch the great cuckolding occur among these brave, noble heroes.

00:12:43It's a shame that we went to deplatforming.

00:12:45But if only one side goes for deplatforming, you lose in your cucked sense of smug self-superiority.

00:12:51So, no, I don't understand.

00:13:00I understand that it's just cowardice masking itself as moral superiority, but it's embarrassing.

00:13:06Tips on starting writing.

00:13:07Well, it's easy.

00:13:08You just sit down and stare at a blank screen until your forehead begins to sweat beads

00:13:12of blood.

00:13:13You just sit down and start writing.

00:13:17Get out of your own way.

00:13:18Don't self-censor.

00:13:20Write as if you're a genius and see how far you can get.

00:13:23But you just make it happen.

00:13:25Have you considered doing a truth about Europe?

00:13:26Things aren't looking great here.

00:13:28Yeah, I mean, Europe is toast, right?

00:13:33And Europe is toast because Europeans want free things and deny reality and deny empathy

00:13:40and deny morality.

00:13:44You can't win if you deny reality, empathy, and morality.

00:13:48I mean, Europeans want stuff for free.

00:13:50See, now, if Europeans – let's just go on a little mind journey here, just for a

00:13:55minute or two.

00:13:56So, if Europeans loved their children, as you're kind of supposed to and everyone claims

00:14:00to do, if Europeans loved their children, what would they do?

00:14:03What would they do?

00:14:07They'd say, holy crap, they would have said this in the 60s and 70s.

00:14:12They'd say, oof, you know what, we can't afford this welfare state and we certainly

00:14:17don't want to burden our children.

00:14:21We don't want to burden our children with being born into a million pounds or dollars

00:14:27or euros of debt just for the privilege of drawing breath under the giant gut shadow

00:14:32of the obscenely greedy boomers.

00:14:35We say, man, we love our kids, man, this welfare state, it's producing fatherless children,

00:14:41which is bad for children.

00:14:45It is causing women to turn feral against men because they don't need men for resources,

00:14:52and it's burying our children in absolutely unsustainable debt.

00:14:56So, with great regret, we're going to have to dismantle the welfare state because we

00:15:01love our children.

00:15:04Unfortunately, very unfortunately for a tens of thousands year old civilization, people

00:15:13were too fucking greedy and lacked love for their children, and therefore they kept voting

00:15:20for more and more free fucking stuff.

00:15:26They literally sold off the hands and muscles and minds of their children for emotional

00:15:32self-gratification and virtue signaling in the here and now.

00:15:35Oh, you want to get rid of the welfare state, you must hate the poor, that's terrible, people

00:15:39starving on the streets, oh, oh, oh, oh.

00:15:41Okay.

00:15:42What does the devil do?

00:15:43Hey, here's some free shit.

00:15:45You don't have to earn it.

00:15:46You want some talents?

00:15:47Snap my fingers.

00:15:48You don't have to work to get them.

00:15:49You want to be beautiful?

00:15:51Don't have to work out, make you beautiful.

00:15:53Oh, you want to be good?

00:15:54Yeah, just here's the pretense and appearance of virtue.

00:15:56You'll be fine.

00:15:58You'll be fine.

00:16:02And then you have your fun, and then you lose your soul.

00:16:09And Europe is in the late stages of that.

00:16:11They wanted a whole bunch of free stuff.

00:16:13They wanted to feel good about themselves rather than do good in the world.

00:16:16They rejected morality, reality, history, virtue, truth, evidence, data, reason, charts.

00:16:23It's not sustainable.

00:16:24We don't care.

00:16:25We don't care.

00:16:27It can't last.

00:16:28We don't care.

00:16:29Your children will be born into debt.

00:16:30We don't care.

00:16:31We just want to look good and sound good and feel good.

00:16:35It's the greatest addiction.

00:16:37The greatest addiction is to the unearned.

00:16:39All evil is the taking of the unearned.

00:16:47If Europe had loved their children, they would have said, ooh, I'm afraid we've got this

00:16:52big giant lever called government education, and this big giant lever gives people way

00:16:57too much power over the minds of the next generation, and people are going to misuse

00:17:01that power.

00:17:02Why?

00:17:03Because power corrupts, and the power over the education of the next generation is the

00:17:05greatest power of all, and therefore, with great regret and sorrow, we're going to have

00:17:09to say, we need to really fragment this and have diversity.

00:17:11It's funny.

00:17:12All the people who want diversity never want diversity in the realm of government education,

00:17:16right?

00:17:17That's got to be uniform, centralized, bureaucratic, curricular.

00:17:23No diversity.

00:17:24Everybody, get in line.

00:17:28Jackboot your way across the type-imprinted, shallowed-out, hollowed-out, bombed-out-with-propaganda

00:17:35former minds of the children.

00:17:42We want to feel good.

00:17:45We don't want to be good.

00:17:46Being good is tough.

00:17:47You've got to be strong.

00:17:48You've got to be tough.

00:17:49You've got to be sensible, and you're going to have to weigh some resources.

00:17:51No!

00:17:52We just want to feel good, and if that comes at the expense of our children having little

00:17:56future, well, the important thing is how they feel, not the good they do.

00:18:02If you reject morality and truth and love and virtue and empathy and facts and reason

00:18:06and data, how can you last?

00:18:11You can't last as an individual, you can't last as a society.

00:18:16I mean, if you want to know what the current times are, the current times are an inoculation

00:18:23in every nation in the West.

00:18:25It's an inoculation.

00:18:27It's the fall of Rome, but in 4K, 60 frames a second, vivid, videoed, documented, factual

00:18:37reality.

00:18:40So in the future, people will say, hey, let's try X, and be like, no, no, we have about

00:18:45a zillion hours of footage about how X turns out, and we know that that slippery slope

00:18:49is a very real thing, so we know, we know, we know, so not so much, you know, we gave

00:18:55that a shot.

00:18:56You know, it could be if somebody comes along and says, hey, let's try slavery again, we'll

00:18:59be like, no, no, no, that's evil and terrible, and we know where that leads, and that's really,

00:19:02really bad.

00:19:03So we are just going through a big inoculation.

00:19:06People are just generally so dumb that they never learn by principles, they only learn

00:19:10by bitter experience.

00:19:12And now, the fact that we have to learn some very hard lessons by very bitter experience

00:19:16will be documented now until the end of time, which will inoculate future societies from

00:19:22doing all of the stupid, selfish shit that we're doing.

00:19:27The wages of sin is what?

00:19:32The wages of sin is what?

00:19:48Good to see you this Wednesday.

00:19:49Thank you.

00:19:50Thank you for dropping by.

00:19:52See, you pay your boss to do the things that you don't want to do.

00:19:58It's fine.

00:19:59I don't want to learn how to be a dentist and operate on myself with a mirror, so I

00:20:04pay my dentist to do that.

00:20:11Hey, Steph, what's your opinion on the beach?

00:20:13Like going on vacation?

00:20:14Have you ever taken your family?

00:20:15Oh, yeah, we've gone to the beach.

00:20:16I love snorkeling, I love swimming, and I love the beach.

00:20:20I love swimming, and I love body surfing.

00:20:23So, if there are good waves, cool fish, I actually swam with a turtle once as well.

00:20:29I think it's great fun.

00:20:31And, of course, when your kids are little, you know, just building those endless trenches

00:20:34is a blast, right?

00:20:38All right.

00:20:41Steph, I got a $17,000 raise per year by changing jobs this week.

00:20:45I felt underpaid, and I was correct.

00:20:47Excellent.

00:20:48Excellent.

00:20:49Well, outside you're underpaid, you have some options, right?

00:20:52It's awkward when a bad employee doesn't understand that you have options.

00:20:55Oh, it's the boss.

00:20:56Oh, yeah, for sure.

00:20:57For sure.

00:21:03People really don't understand the unfathomable amount of value you add to the world.

00:21:06Yes, for sure.

00:21:11Let's get some donations going.

00:21:12Yes, please.

00:21:15Yes, please.

00:21:20Why do men get so hung up when women reject them?

00:21:24Is it something deeper?

00:21:28Women are stuck in mid to late teens, for the most part, in the West, for very simple reasons.

00:21:35So, for women as a whole, is it more fun to be wooed and dated and taken out places and

00:21:44wined and dined and flowers and chocolates and all of that kind of stuff?

00:21:48Or is it more fun to have, say, five babies under five and raise them?

00:21:55Is it more fun?

00:21:56I'm not talking deep or meaningful.

00:21:57Is it more fun in the short run to be wooed and dating or to settle down and have kids?

00:22:09It's more fun, of course, to be wooed and dating.

00:22:12So, women are stuck in the wooed and dating phase because that's more fun than settling down.

00:22:18Now, what is it that has women settle down?

00:22:21Well, the good men get taken.

00:22:24The high quality men get taken.

00:22:26And you get the leftovers, the chunky, the oddballs, the weirdos, the addicted, the violent, the desperate,

00:22:31the needy, the clingy, the dysfunctional in every way, shape and form, the oddly shaped,

00:22:36the oddly featured, the crooked-toothed, the too-big-a-nose, too-small-a-nose, too-wide-an-ears.

00:22:42I get FM, right?

00:22:44So, you have to pick because the quality pickings get slimmer and slimmer.

00:22:50So, women have to commit.

00:22:52In the past, they had to commit because the quality men were going.

00:22:57But now, women want to date, be wooed, dangle sex for free dinners a lot of times.

00:23:09And they don't have to worry, at least they don't think they have to worry about all the good men being gone.

00:23:20Because there's a great guy called Uncle Sam.

00:23:23He's going to be your sugar daddy.

00:23:25Don't be your sugar daddy, honey.

00:23:27Uncle Sam, deep pockets, infinite money printing, professional counterfeiter, right?

00:23:32He's just going to borrow and print and buy your votes by keeping you single.

00:23:36He's going to give you a wallpaper.

00:23:38He's going to give you a walled, fiery moat of fiat currency to keep all the quality men at bay.

00:23:43And if you get an STD, he's going to give you free penicillin.

00:23:47And if you get a baby without a marriage, you're going to get free welfare and healthcare and education and dental care.

00:23:53It's all going to be free.

00:23:54All going to be free.

00:23:56Just keep fucking around and fucking things up.

00:23:59And it's all going to be free.

00:24:01And it's going to be paid for by the people who are more responsible, the men and women who are more responsible.

00:24:09So, men get hung up when women reject them because men want girlfriends, right?

00:24:19Men want girlfriends.

00:24:22And men have had their negotiating power.

00:24:28Their negotiating power with women has been castrated and disemboweled

00:24:33because the government goes to men by force, takes money from men and gives money to women.

00:24:43And so women don't have to woo men.

00:24:47They don't have to say to men, oh, okay, so I'm a woman, you're a man.

00:24:52What is it that you want?

00:24:53What would make you the happiest?

00:24:55What would make you want to commit to me?

00:24:58Because I'm for sale in the marketplace, just as men's resources are for sale, women's fertility is for sale.

00:25:03It's a monetary transaction because children take resources to raise, blah, blah, blah, right?

00:25:07So women don't have to go to men and say, what do you want?

00:25:10What's your preference?

00:25:11What would you like?

00:25:12What's good?

00:25:14No, instead, do men want women with master's degree in communications and social work to raise their kids?

00:25:22Nope.

00:25:23They don't care.

00:25:24We don't care.

00:25:25We don't care.

00:25:26We don't want that.

00:25:27Yet, what do you keep providing?

00:25:29An endless conveyor belt of, I got a master's degree.

00:25:33We don't care.

00:25:34We don't care.

00:25:35We want you to raise your kids.

00:25:36We want you to be a bright, smart, intelligent, witty, wise woman and companion and to raise our kids.

00:25:41We don't want that.

00:25:43Don't be fat.

00:25:45Don't be fat, right?

00:25:47As Kevin Samuel says, men are visual creatures, right?

00:25:49Don't be fat.

00:25:50And what do women keep giving?

00:25:52Well, more and more and more of you.

00:25:58Don't be fat.

00:26:00Don't sleep around.

00:26:01A lot of women keep sleeping around.

00:26:07Like men.

00:26:08Like men.

00:26:09Nope.

00:26:10Easy to poison women's minds with the patriarchy, right?

00:26:12Because easy, if you don't need men because the government's forcing them to provide resources to you, it's easy to dislike men.

00:26:18Because men are kind of the modern-day galley serfs of the gynocracy, right?

00:26:23So women vote for more and more free stuff, which has to be extracted out of the hard-working hands of men.

00:26:28And you say, oh, well, women have jobs.

00:26:29It's like, eh, really?

00:26:32I mean, really?

00:26:36Jobs protecting Trump, right?

00:26:37I mean, do they?

00:26:38I mean, the majority of women work for the government, don't they?

00:26:44Not only do they often not have real jobs, they're actually in the way of men getting real jobs or having real jobs because they have bureaucracy and paper and layers, right?

00:26:54So it is something deeper.

00:26:57It is something deeper.

00:26:59It's a lack of compassion, right?

00:27:01If women loved their men, if women loved their men, if women loved men, then this weird psychotic curse called the patriarchy would never have taken root.

00:27:20See, the patriarchy is inflicted upon women so that they get mad at men for their own choices, remain helpless, dependent, unpleasant, single, therefore they'll vote for the left.

00:27:30A bigger and bigger government.

00:27:33And it is a lack of love.

00:27:36It's a lack of love.

00:27:41If women loved their brothers, husbands, uncles, fathers, they would never accept the patriarchy because the patriarchy is horrifying sexism.

00:27:54I mean, throughout almost all of human evolution, all of human evolution, men and women were just trying to survive against insurmountable odds.

00:28:01Because we rolled the biggest crap dice in the universe, right?

00:28:04We rolled the biggest set of dice in the universe and the odds of victory, of winning, were incredibly slim.

00:28:12So what we did, we tried this thing.

00:28:15And we said, okay, what if, okay, just let's try this.

00:28:19We'll shrink our muscles, we'll remove our claws.

00:28:23We'll make our teeth smaller.

00:28:25We won't even grow any body hair, really.

00:28:29Sicilians accepted.

00:28:31We're going to take everything we've got and throw it on this intergalactic crapshoot called the giant brain.

00:28:40We're going to be good at nothing else than thinking.

00:28:44Every other creature can take us down.

00:28:47Even a bunny while we're sleeping could bite through a jugular.

00:28:49Every other creature in the known universe can take us down.

00:28:52We're going to be susceptible to sunlight because we're not going to have fur all over our bodies.

00:28:57So we're going to take everything.

00:28:59You know how in the old Star Trek it's like, divert power to shields, Zulu.

00:29:03Divert power to shields.

00:29:06Divert absolutely everything to the brain.

00:29:10Because life was getting a little bit tired of this fight, fuck, flee, and feed.

00:29:16A little bit of a hamster wheel there.

00:29:17A bit of a groundhog day for about four billion years.

00:29:22Don't get eaten.

00:29:23Find someone to fuck.

00:29:25Have a snack.

00:29:27That's it.

00:29:28So life got completely bored and was like, you know what, I'm so tired of this ridiculous stuff.

00:29:33It's so boring.

00:29:34It's so repetitive.

00:29:36Let's just get one species.

00:29:38I don't know, you, hominid guy.

00:29:41Okay, from here on in, we're taking everything away from you and pouring it into the brain.

00:29:47Just, that's it.

00:29:48The brain.

00:29:49You don't get muscles.

00:29:50You don't get claws or big teeth.

00:29:53You don't get hair, fur, massive strength.

00:29:55You know, a gorilla can pluck your head off like you take the top of a twist off.

00:30:01Beer, and we're just going to take everything and pour it into your brain.

00:30:05Go for broke, baby.

00:30:06Double or nothing, double or nothing, infinity or nothing.

00:30:10And, you know, it was really, really touch and go for a long time there.

00:30:14We were down to 10,000 people in the last ice age.

00:30:1610,000 human beings.

00:30:17That's the whole thing.

00:30:18That was it.

00:30:19That was it.

00:30:20And we're like, I don't know, man.

00:30:21I don't know that this whole let's put everything in the brain thing, that seems like a bit of a dice roll.

00:30:25Can I at least get some tusks?

00:30:26No.

00:30:27How about some retractable claws?

00:30:29No.

00:30:30Shark fin?

00:30:31I don't know.

00:30:32Laser eyes?

00:30:33Can my nipples produce liquid flame?

00:30:34Anything.

00:30:35Any super bad?

00:30:36No.

00:30:37All you get is the brain.

00:30:38Good luck.

00:30:39Man, it happened to pay off.

00:30:40It really did happen to pay off.

00:30:42So, throughout almost all of human evolution, men and women were like this close away from death.

00:30:49And we had to take on specific roles in order to survive.

00:30:52Because in order to get the giant brain, our babies have to be retarded until they're about 25.

00:30:59Years, not minutes or months.

00:31:04You know, they have to be kind of stupid.

00:31:07I was.

00:31:08You were.

00:31:09Because, you know, that which is the most complex is going to take the longest to develop.

00:31:13And we've got the most complex brain.

00:31:15Therefore, our brain barely works in any significant or productive way for 20 to 25 years.

00:31:22And in order to do that, women had to be disabled for most of their adult life, either with caring for their children or their grandchildren.

00:31:30And men had to just go out.

00:31:32Because, like, we got this giant Pac-Man brain.

00:31:35It takes up, what, a third of our body energy?

00:31:37It's insane.

00:31:38It's a black hole.

00:31:40So, men have to go and hunt to feed the brains for 20 to 25 years before they become useful in hunting or reproducing back.

00:31:49So, razor's edge of survival.

00:31:51And we made it through, man.

00:31:53We, together, men and women, took the ultimate gamble of put everything, not into shields on the enterprise, but into brain on the brain stem.

00:32:01Grow the brain.

00:32:02Grow the brain.

00:32:03Throw everything else overboard.

00:32:04We're just sailing for the brain.

00:32:05We're going to do the brain.

00:32:06Junk everything else.

00:32:07Throw out everything else.

00:32:09And we made it, man.

00:32:11We brought this thing in like a Blues Brothers spin parking in, right?

00:32:16We brought this thing home.

00:32:17We brought it in, men and women.

00:32:19What an incredible team.

00:32:20We created the only point of the universe, which is having a brain that does more than fight, flee, feed, and fuck.

00:32:26Oh, magnificent.

00:32:29We won the lottery.

00:32:30We played the odds.

00:32:31We got the greatest prize in the known universe, rational consciousness, as a team.

00:32:36And then, apparently, we just used that rational consciousness, which we got as the result of being an incredible team with each other, but used that rational consciousness to say,

00:32:45Hey, it's patriarchy.

00:32:46We're exploited.

00:32:52It's like an office pool where 10 abysmal, pencil-necked, chubby losers win $100 million, get $10 million a piece, and all they do is start suing each other.

00:33:07It's almost like we fought so hard and for so long that the moment we got any kind of comfort, we just turned on each other.

00:33:13We're used to fighting everything all the time, nature, everything, to get to the top of the food chain.

00:33:17Over at the top of the food chain, let's fight each other because we're just fighters.

00:33:21And we got all this office turning us against each other.

00:33:23Rather than, holy crap, we made it through, man.

00:33:26We made it through.

00:33:27We made it to the top against all odds.

00:33:30It's like us getting to this giant brain was like those insane Nintendo levels with Luigi, right?

00:33:39Where you got lasers and asteroids and jump platforms and, like, getting through it takes the cocaine in the brain of a 12-year-old, but I repeat myself.

00:33:48We got it through.

00:33:49We got through.

00:33:50And can we celebrate and say, Wow, did we ever do a great job developing this rational brain?

00:33:56No!

00:33:58There ought to be no celebrations of our infinite, ultimate victory.

00:34:02All we can do is turn on each other like a pack of rabid fucking dogs.

00:34:09We both collaboratively, men and women, over four billion fucking years, we created the greatest glory in the known universe against all conceivable odds in the biggest dice roll the galaxies have ever seen.

00:34:22We created this infinite, giant, Goldilocks-just-right brain.

00:34:28And the moment we got any kind of peace or plenty at all, a couple of assholes came along and told all the women that the men are just bad.

00:34:38They were just controlling.

00:34:39They were just mean.

00:34:41They just ordered women around.

00:34:46You know, if women were slightly less susceptible to sophistry, people might be slightly more enthusiastic about giving them power.

00:34:53It's just a thought.

00:34:55It's just a thought.

00:34:58Conservatives are all, Imagine if the situation was reversed, and then when the situation is reversed, don't stoop to their level.

00:35:04Yeah, yeah.

00:35:12You know, wishing the death.

00:35:14See, I mean, if the, and you know, it's like a hair's breadth, right?

00:35:17If the Trump assassination had succeeded, then, I mean, significant social chaos would have resulted.

00:35:24So they're not just talking about Trump.

00:35:27Hatred is destructive because it blocks you from visibility for consequences.

00:35:36What happens after, right?

00:35:40People say, I wish this, I wish that, but okay, let's say you get your wish.

00:35:44Then what?

00:35:45Then what?

00:35:46The left bans for people for saying things they don't like, but when they advocate for murder.

00:36:02Oh, no, we can't ban them.

00:36:04Nobody's getting banned.

00:36:06Just consequences, right?

00:36:16If Euros love their children so much, they'd make some to begin with.

00:36:27Yeah, it's a funny thing that happens.

00:36:30It's a funny thing that happens.

00:36:32That before you have kids, it's easy to not want kids, right?

00:36:39I don't know if you guys have had this, if you've gone through the experience of having kids.

00:36:43Before you have kids, it's pretty easy to not want kids and to think my life's going to be fine without that, right?

00:36:51Now, once you have kids, you're like, everything before was kind of bullshit, was kind of meaningless.

00:36:58And kids just are so fantastic and such a wonderful part of your world that that knowledge is hidden until you have them.

00:37:07It's a funny thing.

00:37:11And the other thing, too, is in particular for women, although it certainly happens to men as well.

00:37:15But in particular for women, one big problem is that by the time your life is empty, your eggs are dead.

00:37:27By the time you realize, holy shit, I'm 40, I'm unmarried, no kids on the horizon, no tadpoles in the womb.

00:37:38I got another 40 to 50 years to go. Oh my God, what am I going to do?

00:37:53When Greece went bankrupt, people were still rioting against austerity.

00:37:56Even crashing against a stone wall of mathematics isn't enough for some people.

00:38:00It's just a funny thing, you know?

00:38:02Just a funny thing is that so often in life, and on my deathbed I'll write my autobiography probably, right?

00:38:11But so much in my life I thought was a bad thing and turned out to be a great thing.

00:38:16So right now, of course, if you just look at single moms, right?

00:38:19They say, oh my gosh, when the welfare state runs out, when, not if, right?

00:38:23When the welfare state runs out of money, oh my God, who's going to feed my kids?

00:38:25What are we going to do?

00:38:26And it's like, well, it'll take them about three days to figure it out.

00:38:29What they'll do is the single moms will all rent a big house.

00:38:32Six or seven single moms will rent this big giant house and then they'll work in staggered shifts

00:38:37so they can take care of each other's kids, right?

00:38:45And what do they get out of that?

00:38:46Right now, they're isolated, right?

00:38:48This big moat of fiat money comes to them and they don't have to interact with society to get resources.

00:38:54They just have to vote, right?

00:38:58But if the single moms, when the welfare money runs out and the single moms decide to get together

00:39:05and work together and watch each other's kids and so on, they get a massive community out of that.

00:39:11They're no longer as isolated, no longer as lonely.

00:39:16They watch each other's boyfriends, for God's sakes.

00:39:20There's no vetting.

00:39:21Women who've proven they can't choose a man just get to keep choosing men with no vetting and no resources.

00:39:27Now, no repercussions.

00:39:29You get a bunch of women together in a single mom mansion and they all are going to watch each other.

00:39:34Oh no, he's not good, man.

00:39:36He looked at my kid funny.

00:39:37He's too aggressive.

00:39:38He's a drunk.

00:39:39I can't have him around my kids.

00:39:40So they will start watching each other's boyfriends and they will end up so much happier.

00:39:44They can't even imagine how much happier they're going to end up.

00:39:50And also, do you know like when one of the things that the welfare state does, of course,

00:39:55is it makes people feel like they're helping the poor and they don't actually have to help the poor.

00:39:59So the satisfaction, people care so much, oh my gosh, we can't cut the spending.

00:40:03It's like, okay, well go and help people.

00:40:05Go and actually help people.

00:40:09Go and actually help people.

00:40:13I mean, there's a reason I ask for donations.

00:40:15If you think of the millions and millions and millions of people, tens of millions by now probably,

00:40:20who've listened to call-in shows, who've got that kind of wisdom,

00:40:22who understand things about the world they wouldn't otherwise have even figured out.

00:40:27I mean, I don't charge for those call-in shows.

00:40:30I never will, right?

00:40:32I mean, you can get private call-ins if you want, right?

00:40:34Just you and I talking and all of that.

00:40:36Freedomain.com slash call if you want that.

00:40:40But that's a donation, right?

00:40:45I'm helping the poor.

00:40:47How did I help the poor?

00:40:48Well, I helped a lot of my friends.

00:40:50Helped them get jobs and so on once I became in the business world.

00:40:53I got raises for my employees to the tune of over a million dollars a year of increased spending.

00:40:58I made sure the people I worked for got really good stock options.

00:41:02So I actually helped people.

00:41:04Put people out of being broke-ass students and got them solidly into the middle class,

00:41:08watched them form families, have kids, made sure they got paid well.

00:41:11So I actually helped people.

00:41:13Now the satisfaction that comes from actually helping people, there's no comparison.

00:41:18Like voting and whining about the welfare state and complaining,

00:41:21that doesn't actually give you any happiness or satisfaction.

00:41:23In fact, deep down there's just a sense of shame and guilt

00:41:26because you're an asshole lying about consequences

00:41:29because you want the dopamine of virtue without actually doing any good.

00:41:33But once you get the dopamine of real virtue,

00:41:35like once you get the happiness that is associated with really doing good

00:41:38and being good and helping people,

00:41:40you wouldn't want any of this bullshit substitute, right?

00:41:44So the welfare state falls, people actually help the poor,

00:41:47and they're like, oh my god, I didn't even know this feeling was there.

00:41:52I didn't even know I could feel this way.

00:41:55I didn't even know I could feel this good.

00:41:57I mean, what sustains me? Endless attacks and nonsense and lies.

00:42:00Well, I mean, I'm sustained by the dopamine of knowing exactly how much good I'm doing in the world.

00:42:06Which is obviously, exactly, it's unmeasurable.

00:42:12So people think that this disaster is going to occur

00:42:15when the made-up money runs out, and it's like, no, no, no, no.

00:42:19People don't have any clue how happy they're going to be on the other side of that,

00:42:24how much community is going to grow out of that,

00:42:27how the genuine happiness that comes from really helping people

00:42:30rather than just voting and pretending and lying to yourself.

00:42:33Because, you know, the people who say, well, we need the welfare state,

00:42:35they're disassembling families and people and the futures of children,

00:42:38and things are just getting worse and worse down there.

00:42:41So they don't know, like, you actually go and help people,

00:42:45and you actually have a community, and you live with people,

00:42:48your kids play together, they're going to get much better adjusted, right?

00:42:51Because one of the things that teaches kids empathy is unstructured play,

00:42:54and in particular, older kids helping younger kids, which is going to happen.

00:42:59You're going to get better boyfriends, a community,

00:43:01your kids are going to grow up healthier and happier,

00:43:03people will actually go and help the poor

00:43:05rather than just shrieking about the welfare state,

00:43:08and they will look back and they'll say, oh my gosh,

00:43:11that was the best thing that ever happened in my life and in society as a whole.

00:43:16That was the best thing that ever happened.

00:43:19Right?

00:43:20They're just going to have to learn that, I suppose.

00:43:26All right.

00:43:36All right, let me just get to your comments.

00:43:40What about, it's the best time to live in?

00:43:42I tend to agree with that still.

00:43:44I wouldn't want to live in any other time.

00:43:46I would have taken all my thoughts with me to the grave.

00:43:49Terrible, terrible, terrible.

00:43:57All right.

00:44:01Thank you for the insight, Steph.

00:44:03All was spot on.

00:44:04I donate, but my money is actually all in cash at the moment.

00:44:06You are right, though.

00:44:07My boss is handling a lot of the stuff related to the business.

00:44:09He did know before I got really into this what my value in the market would be,

00:44:13and I just think it's kind of funny that you picked up on that

00:44:15with very little information points.

00:44:17Well, I have a little bit of experience now.

00:44:19I've got 42 years in philosophy,

00:44:23and if I'm not pretty good at this stuff by now,

00:44:25I need to go back to violin playing and karaoke.

00:44:28All right.

00:44:30So, if your money's in cash, so what?

00:44:34Go and buy a prepaid visa, and you can donate that way.

00:44:38Sorry.

00:44:40If it was a problem you'd really want to solve,

00:44:43if I gave you a lottery ticket for a million dollars,

00:44:45but said you've got to pay for it, would you say,

00:44:47well, I'm sorry, my money's all in cash at the moment?

00:44:49You'd go out and buy a prepaid credit card and donate that way.

00:44:53Funny.

00:44:54Don't give yourself excuses.

00:44:55Just be honest.

00:44:57I don't want to donate right now.

00:44:59It's a bit of a hassle, Steph.

00:45:01Oh, no, my money's all in cash.

00:45:05Just go with your cash.

00:45:07Get a prepaid credit card and donate 50 bucks.

00:45:10It's fine if you don't want to do that,

00:45:12but just be honest about it,

00:45:14because if there was, you know, the woman of your dreams

00:45:18and she wants to have a date with you,

00:45:19you need to take her out, but the restaurant only takes visa.

00:45:22Well, I'm sorry, I'm going to have to give up on the woman of my dreams

00:45:24because I only have cash lying around.

00:45:26It's like, oh, you can't solve that problem?

00:45:28Of course you can.

00:45:29Oh, God, don't insult me with this nonsense.

00:45:31Just tell me you don't really feel like donating

00:45:33because it's a little bit of a hassle.

00:45:35Because I've got to put something else on the conveyor belt

00:45:38in the grocery store, a little visa card for 25 bucks or 50 bucks.

00:45:42Ah, I can't do that, man.

00:45:44That's a hassle.

00:45:45Okay, just tell me that.

00:45:46Don't insult me with this.

00:45:47It's all in cash, right?

00:45:50Why is it so hard for women to rate themselves realistically?

00:45:53I ask because on the whatever podcast,

00:45:55women do not want to rate themselves or other women.

00:45:59Right.

00:46:05So magical thinking is, again, just amateur nonsense from me.

00:46:09I'm no mental health professional, of course, right?

00:46:11But magical thinking to me is a kind of psychosis,

00:46:13and women are living in unreality.

00:46:18Women are living in rank unreality.

00:46:24So they can make up whatever they want, right?

00:46:28I mean, they can show some skin on the Internet,

00:46:33and they can make thousands of dollars a month.

00:46:37I mean, this is the sort of masturbation culture that is so rampant, right?

00:46:47There's a reason that cultures that ban pornography and masturbation

00:46:52tend to actually produce children.

00:46:54It's a funny thing, right?

00:46:58So why would women have to have any reality whatsoever?

00:47:04The government and money printing and debt shields them

00:47:08from all the consequences of all their bad decisions, right?

00:47:11I mean, we understand that.

00:47:13A kid whose father pays her no attention.

00:47:18She's got a really wealthy dad.

00:47:19He's always traveling and working.

00:47:20Her dad pays her no attention and just gives her lots of stuff,

00:47:25gives her an unlimited credit card, and any time she's in trouble,

00:47:28he bails her out.

00:47:31Any time she gets a DUI, he pays off.

00:47:34He makes it all go away.

00:47:36Any time she gets sick, free health care, whatever, right?

00:47:40We understand that she's going to grow up with no sense of reality

00:47:43and certainly no sense of morality, because morality,

00:47:49morality comes out of scarcity, right?

00:47:56So women can rate themselves however they want.

00:47:58It doesn't matter.

00:47:59See, in the past, when there was a short window, you know,

00:48:02two to four years, maybe, not even that, sometimes six to 18 months,

00:48:05there's a very short window for women to lock down a mate,

00:48:09very short window, tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny.

00:48:13Now, then women had to rate themselves realistically,

00:48:18because if they rated themselves too low,

00:48:21then they would not get the high-quality man that they wanted

00:48:24or deserved or could get.

00:48:26But if they rated themselves too high,

00:48:28they also would not get the quality man.

00:48:31So they either end up with a schlub and a loser.

00:48:34Let's say the woman is a nine and she ends up marrying a five.

00:48:37She's going to feel bad.

00:48:39Women hate that deep down, right?

00:48:41Women hate that deep down.

00:48:44It's like if you sell something at a yard sale.

00:48:50You got some old painting that's been gathering dust

00:48:52and you sell it for like 10 bucks, right?

00:48:54And then somebody else says,

00:48:55Holy crap, I got a $100,000 painting at a yard sale

00:49:00and they sell it for $100,000.

00:49:02The rage and frustration and horror that you'd feel about that

00:49:06is what women feel about dating down.

00:49:11I could have got more. Oh, God, so stupid.

00:49:15And now I'm locked in because I can't divorce.

00:49:18I got kids.

00:49:21And they look at that.

00:49:22That's a horror for a woman to spend the rest of her life

00:49:25looking at a man knowing she could have done better.

00:49:29You know, she married some guy.

00:49:31He's like a five.

00:49:32She's a nine, right?

00:49:34And the guy she really wanted years later says,

00:49:38Oh, man, I really I wanted to marry you so badly.

00:49:40It was crazy.

00:49:41Now I'm a multimillionaire.

00:49:43So she's going to, it's going to eat her alive.

00:49:45So women, if you aim too low, your life is wrecked.

00:49:51And if you get a smart woman who dates and gets married to

00:49:55and has kids with a dumb guy,

00:49:57then she's going to have tough time parenting, right?

00:49:59Because the IQ will probably fall in between the two, right?

00:50:02So the dad's going to be frustrated

00:50:05because the kids are smarter than he is, right?

00:50:08The mom's going to be frustrated

00:50:10because the kids are dumber than she is.

00:50:12So nobody's going to be happy.

00:50:13It's going to be a mess.

00:50:14Can't do it.

00:50:15That's no good.

00:50:17So the woman who's a nine,

00:50:19maybe she can get a 10 if she works super hard,

00:50:21but she's just going to get a nine.

00:50:23Maybe she'll settle for an eight, right?

00:50:26And you got six to 18 months to make that decision.

00:50:29So you got to rate yourself accurately.

00:50:32In the same way, if you want to understand it as a man,

00:50:36you're a highly skilled man, right?

00:50:39You're a lawyer, right?

00:50:41You're a accountant, top-level accountant or whatever, right?

00:50:46And you're looking for work.

00:50:47Now, if you're a lawyer and you end up working

00:50:50as the night janitor in a local junior high school,

00:50:53you're going to feel depressed and you're going to feel like crap.

00:50:57And people are going to be like,

00:50:58you're a lawyer, what the hell are you doing here?

00:51:04On the other hand, if you're a lawyer and you say,

00:51:06I want to be paid $10 million a year

00:51:10because Brad Pitt gets $10 or $20 million a movie

00:51:13and I want to be paid $20 million a year, right?

00:51:17So in one, you're miserable.

00:51:20And in the other one, you're unemployed

00:51:22because nobody's going to pay a lawyer $10 or $20 million a year

00:51:26just like a good lawyer, right?

00:51:28Maybe you make a couple of hundred K a year,

00:51:30maybe half a mil a year if you make it to partner or whatever.

00:51:33So for a man, if you aim too low,

00:51:36you're depressed and horrified and hate yourself.

00:51:40And if you aim too high, you're broke, starving and can't get married.

00:51:43So it's the same thing with women.

00:51:45They have to rate themselves just so, just right,

00:51:49not too high that they end up alone

00:51:52and not too low that they end up with self-hatred

00:51:57or self-loathing or frustration or whatever it is, right?

00:52:01So women are experts, absolute experts at rating themselves perfectly.

00:52:05This is the old line from, I remember,

00:52:08this gave me goosebumps when I first read this play,

00:52:11Streetcar Named Desire.

00:52:14Do you think it's possible that I ever could have been considered attractive?

00:52:18I don't go into that stuff. I don't go for that stuff.

00:52:21Stuff like what?

00:52:23Complimenting women about their looks. I don't go in for that stuff.

00:52:26I never met a woman yet who didn't know exactly how attractive she was.

00:52:30A lot of them give themselves credit for way more than they got, right?

00:52:34So that women know exactly how to rate themselves.

00:52:38So what are the consequences for a woman these days of rating herself too high?

00:52:43There's no negative consequences because she can get her money by

00:52:46showing skin on the internet or she can get money.

00:52:49Like you understand, a lot of women will date multiple guys

00:52:52that they have no intention of sleeping with just to get free meals and nights out.

00:52:56Right?

00:52:58So.

00:53:01Yeah, you won't spend $500 on a first date at a three-star Michelin restaurant.

00:53:05Forget you, move on to the next guy.

00:53:08Education is mostly agreeing with the professor nowadays,

00:53:11not exactly a good measure of character or IQ for that matter.

00:53:14Oh, IQs in university are dropping catastrophically.

00:53:23Yeah, some girl who's in her 30s without children posted how she got her master's.

00:53:27In my mind I was thinking, enjoy those two weeks of dopamine.

00:53:30Oh yeah, I was just reading, I was doing some research the other day

00:53:33and I came across a government website that was talking about

00:53:36women's prime earning years from 25 to 40.

00:53:39I'm like, whoever tells women.

00:53:42And I did a show with Janice Heimlich many years ago

00:53:46where she was pointing out that the more money and education a woman gets,

00:53:49the smaller and more narrow her pool of men she'll date with is.

00:53:53Can't wait to share this live with my girlfriend over the weekend.

00:53:56Live or lying?

00:53:59Yeah, you can really tell how unlikely the odds were

00:54:02based on how there's no other comparatively intelligent life on earth

00:54:05or in the Milky Way as far as we can tell.

00:54:08Yeah, for sure.

00:54:11We beat out those damn Neanderthals.

00:54:14I think we absorbed them.

00:54:18I ask answering phones.

00:54:21I don't know what that means.

00:54:24Yeah, I worked for the government very briefly in my early 20s.

00:54:27Well, I shouldn't say, I worked there for a whole summer, Department of Education.

00:54:30And it was ridiculous.

00:54:33I mean, honestly, I was doing all the work

00:54:36and the women just sat around chatting and gossiping

00:54:39and I remember the woman saying, oh, you know, my husband's quit smoking

00:54:42and he's such a bear, I'm on my knees begging him to smoke a cigarette

00:54:45and such a grouch and they're all laughing and my gosh, long lunches

00:54:48and oh my gosh, crazy.

00:54:51Thank you for all you do for myself and my family.

00:54:54You are very welcome, my friend. Thank you for the tip.

00:54:57I believe I found your content in 2006.

00:55:00I was a freshman in college and taking an intro to philosophy class

00:55:03so I searched intro to philosophy on YouTube and found your series.

00:55:06Finally, the world made sense and my life changed forever.

00:55:09I can't thank you enough, but you can thank me enough. It's $20.

00:55:13Now, women are against men.

00:55:16Well, you have to dehumanize whoever you want to exploit and because women

00:55:19fundamentally know that their resources are coming from male taxpayers,

00:55:22they have to dehumanize men because you can't both sympathize with a group

00:55:25and exploit them, right?

00:55:32New reality TV show, Single Moms Mansion.

00:55:35Yes, yes, yes.

00:55:38Every supermarket has those gift cards. That is very true.

00:55:43See, let me give, yeah, when was the last time they worked in a homeless shelter

00:55:46so close, bought boxes of groceries for food banks?

00:55:49I mean, that's fine, that's fine, but the poor don't need that stuff as much.

00:55:53What the poor need is sympathy for their childhood,

00:55:56empathy for their suffering and responsibility for their adulthood.

00:56:01Otherwise, you're just feeding them to make more mistakes.

00:56:05All right.

00:56:12Yeah, so when you say, here's the thing, right?

00:56:15If you want to have quality interactions with people,

00:56:18and you do, obviously, you want to have quality interactions with people,

00:56:21don't give excuses.

00:56:24So, if you feel the urge to give an excuse,

00:56:27say to yourself, is it possible?

00:56:30And I'm sorry, Zinf, I absolutely don't mean to pick on you. I love you to death, brother.

00:56:33I'm glad that you're here. So, I'm just using you as an example.

00:56:36So, please don't feel bad. This is a good example, right?

00:56:39So, when bro says, oh, I can't donate.

00:56:42Everything's in cash right now, right?

00:56:45So, before you say something like that,

00:56:48you have to ask yourself, would it be possible for me to solve this problem?

00:56:52So, if somebody said, well, the solution to your problem, Steph, is B20,

00:56:55again, it's like, well, I can't do that, right?

00:56:58But if the problem is, is there any way to send cash,

00:57:01to convert cash to something you can send electronically,

00:57:04well, sure, there's tons of ways to do that.

00:57:07So, before you give an excuse, ask yourself,

00:57:10is it possible for me to solve the problem?

00:57:13Now, just because it's possible for you to solve the problem,

00:57:16doesn't mean you have to do it.

00:57:19But then, don't lie about why you're not doing it and say,

00:57:22well, it's all in cash and I can't do it.

00:57:25It's like, it's inconvenient for me right now.

00:57:28Oh, boy, oh, boy.

00:57:31I had this in a private call-in, so I won't give any details whatsoever,

00:57:34but the speech that came out of the private call-in was,

00:57:39do you really think nobody knows when you're lying?

00:57:43Do you really think nobody knows when you're lying?

00:57:46Everybody knows everything all the time.

00:57:49They either call you out on it, which is rare,

00:57:52or they go along with it, which is dangerous.

00:57:55When you lie, even if it's unconscious,

00:57:58people either call you out on it,

00:58:01or what they do is they just kind of let it slide.

00:58:06You let it slide down there, people.

00:58:10When I come back home, my landlady got nothing nice to say to me.

00:58:13She says, where you been all day?

00:58:16I've been looking for work.

00:58:17I said, oh, you weren't looking for work.

00:58:18I saw you the other day just leaning up against the post.

00:58:21She says, I'm tired. I've been working all day.

00:58:23Here's another song quiz for you.

00:58:26One bourbon, one scotch, and one beer.

00:58:30George Thurgood did look a little bit like an ape, didn't he?

00:58:33Good guitarist, though, and good singer.

00:58:39People know when you're lying.

00:58:42You have to make a commitment just to not lie.

00:58:46Just to not lie.

00:58:50As best you can, right?

00:58:51And the way that you check that is when you feel like giving an excuse,

00:58:53say, is it physically possible, right?

00:58:58I mean, the number of people over the years who've said to me

00:59:01something along the lines of, I say, oh, you have issues with your parents.

00:59:05Have you ever talked about it with them, right?

00:59:09And they say, well, you know, they live far away.

00:59:15Oh, God. Oh, it burns.

00:59:20The level of pathetic, ridiculous toddler avoidance.

00:59:26This literally is like a toddler putting his hands over his eyes saying,

00:59:29you can't see me.

00:59:31That's what lying is.

00:59:32It's just everybody participating in the lie.

00:59:35Pretending it's something other than what it is.

00:59:37Everybody knows.

00:59:39So I have to say to people, I said, you know, you're literally talking to me

00:59:42from the other side of the world saying you can't talk to me about.

00:59:45Sorry.

00:59:47You're saying you can't talk about important things with people far away

00:59:51while talking about important things to me far away.

00:59:54Literally this call is proof that you could talk about these things

00:59:56with your parents.

01:00:02I knew a guy once.

01:00:04He started listening to me seven or eight years ago.

01:00:06Knew he had problems with his parents.

01:00:09And I said, why haven't you confronted them?

01:00:11I've been really busy the last couple of weeks.

01:00:18Sure, absolutely.

01:00:20Been really busy the last couple of weeks.

01:00:21I've known for seven or eight years I need to have this conversation.

01:00:24But you know, the last couple of weeks, I've been jammed, man.

01:00:27Jammed.

01:00:28Like a raspberry and pectin.

01:00:32Hey, Steph, you got me introduced to Ayn Rand in one of your shows a few years ago.

01:00:35I want to say thanks.

01:00:36I loved the fountainhead.

01:00:38On a side note, what's your opinion on Schopenhauer?

01:00:41We had a book club many years ago.

01:00:43A bookie book club.

01:00:45We did 1984.

01:00:46We did The Antichrist.

01:00:47We did The Fountainhead.

01:00:49James, can you let me know if we have, do we still have,

01:00:51are they anywhere on the premium?

01:00:55We had a, it was a donors only book club.

01:00:57We did a bunch of books.

01:00:59So I'm glad you like The Fountainhead.

01:01:00I think it's a great book.

01:01:02What's your opinion on Schopenhauer?

01:01:05Well, my opinion on Schopenhauer is obviously some bitter and wise things to say,

01:01:11but I do not have a comprehensive enough knowledge of Schopenhauer.

01:01:14Clearly, he's on the list of history of philosophers things,

01:01:17which I'll get back to at some point in this known universe.

01:01:20But I do not have enough of a comprehensive knowledge of Schopenhauer

01:01:25to give you much of an opinion, other than stuff I've read here and there.

01:01:28All right.

01:01:29On good news, my body is healing from surgery, fighting infection,

01:01:32but still, but feeling stronger every day.

01:01:34Hope to be back to work by September.

01:01:36They have to hold my job, union job, thank goodness.

01:01:39Good, good for you.

01:01:43I don't, I want to donate and I will donate.

01:01:45I just don't want to drive 45 minutes to deposit it in my account

01:01:48and spending $4 extra on a Visa card seems like a waste.

01:01:54What?

01:01:58I just don't want to drive 45 minutes to deposit it in my account

01:02:03and spending $4 extra on a Visa card seems like a waste.

01:02:08Really?

01:02:10So, you're trying to tell me, I don't know why people do this.

01:02:13Why do they do this?

01:02:14So, spending $4 on a Visa card seems like a waste.

01:02:17Let me ask you this, my friend.

01:02:19Have you ever withdrawn cash from an ATM?

01:02:26Have you?

01:02:27Why do people try this?

01:02:28Why?

01:02:29Have you ever taken money out on an ATM?

01:02:33You know, you pay like 10%, so $2 on $20 or $3 on $30.

01:02:38I mean, sometimes you pay 10% or more to withdraw money from an ATM.

01:02:41Have you ever done that?

01:02:42Oh, suddenly spending a little extra doesn't, like, just why?

01:02:44I don't know why people do this.

01:02:45Why do they try?

01:02:47All right.

01:02:49Ayo Dylan, still have a stepchild from a past relationship

01:02:51that still wants to see and spend time with me.

01:02:53His father has never been in the picture.

01:02:55I was the only man he knew.

01:02:56I care for him deeply, but I'm worried how this could affect future relationships.

01:03:03What?

01:03:05Oh, man, that's gross.

01:03:09That's gross.

01:03:10What do you mean?

01:03:15So, you were with this, you were around this kid for years, right?

01:03:24You chose to get, voluntarily, you chose to get involved in this kid's life.

01:03:31Voluntarily.

01:03:32It's a package deal, right?

01:03:34The mom comes with a kid.

01:03:36You chose to get involved in this kid's life.

01:03:40You chose to mentor him, to parent him, to be a father to him,

01:03:45and now you're gonna bail on him because you want a date?

01:03:54Bro, that's fucking cold.

01:03:58I mean, if I were a woman, or just, I don't know, a good human being,

01:04:04and I found out that you spent years being in a child's life,

01:04:10being a father to a child,

01:04:12and then you dumped him because you wanted to find it easier to date?

01:04:18Imagine if this was a mother.

01:04:19Imagine if this was a mother who said,

01:04:21Oh, yeah, I raised my kid for five years,

01:04:24but I found that it was tougher to date, so I just put him in an orphanage.

01:04:30What?

01:04:31Wouldn't that be a giant-ass red flag?

01:04:33Bro, what's the matter with you?

01:04:35Appreciate the tip.

01:04:36I gotta be frank with you, though.

01:04:40You got involved in this kid's life.

01:04:41You mentored him.

01:04:42You became his father.

01:04:45You don't get to dump him because it's slightly difficult to date

01:04:49because if you dump him and a woman finds out about this,

01:04:52a quality woman will run for the hills.

01:04:56Some point she's gonna find out,

01:04:58Hey, you were a stepdad for five years or ten years.

01:05:00Wow.

01:05:01What's that like?

01:05:02What's your relationship like with the kid?

01:05:04No, I don't see him because it was interfering with my dating.

01:05:08Run.

01:05:09Run away, run away, run away, run away.

01:05:11All right.

01:05:15It's amazing how you were able to break down social dynamics.

01:05:17You're a treasure, Steph.

01:05:18I love you.

01:05:19No homo.

01:05:20Thank you.

01:05:21Appreciate that.

01:05:22I prefer 2% myself, so I'm with you there.

01:05:23All right.

01:05:25Question from Orson over on Rumble.

01:05:30I'm interested in a woman who's in a relationship.

01:05:31What is the right thing for me to do?

01:05:33Do I just keep my mouth shut?

01:05:34Do I try and steal her away?

01:05:36And if I succeed, does that prove she isn't virtuous?

01:05:44Well, the problem is,

01:05:47so the only thing I think that's right in terms of trying to woo a woman away

01:05:51is something like if she has been in a relationship with a guy

01:05:54who hasn't committed to her for like five years, she's not committed.

01:05:58Okay, but then the problem is she's got five years of relationship to undo, right?

01:06:03It's like half the time of being in a relationship,

01:06:05you need to recover from a relationship.

01:06:07So she's not going to be fit to date you for a couple of years

01:06:09after she gets out of a five-year relationship.

01:06:17I've never stolen a girl.

01:06:19I'm not saying there's some big right or moral thing.

01:06:22I'm just I've never done it because I don't want the complications.

01:06:26And I also don't want the woman who could be stolen

01:06:28because if she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you, right?

01:06:34Just joined, is he talking about destiny?

01:06:38Oh, did you see that tweet?

01:06:40Oh, that is just a skin crawling tweet.

01:06:43You're just going to have to go and look it up.

01:06:45I'm not even going to reproduce it here or say anything about its contents.

01:06:49But if true, and it seems to be true,

01:06:52the tweet from destiny is about a skin crawlingly repulsive

01:06:55as anything I've ever seen on the internet.

01:06:57Lord knows we've all seen some stuff on the internet.

01:06:59All right.

01:07:05Do you believe in the devil now, Steph, or metaphorically?

01:07:07Metaphorically.

01:07:11All right.

01:07:14Some people lie to themselves.

01:07:19I don't think, I mean maybe you guys are way better than I am,

01:07:22but I don't think there's anybody who doesn't lie to themselves

01:07:24or hasn't lied to themselves.

01:07:26I mean, honestly, I'm a fairly big fan of gaslighting yourself at times.

01:07:35I mean, I wouldn't have got anywhere without a massive amount of lying to myself,

01:07:41to be honest with you guys.

01:07:42I want to be frank with you.

01:07:44I mean, I came from this like trash heap, bottom of society,

01:07:47welfare of state, crazy mother institutionalized hell hole

01:07:52of a nightmarish situation, and this is before I knew anything

01:07:56about my sort of family line and pedigree really,

01:07:58so I just came from the absolute crap-tastic shit-stained bottom of the universe,

01:08:03and you don't think I had to gaslight myself a little bit about my potential

01:08:08in order to get out and get moving?

01:08:11Yeah, absolutely.

01:08:14Absolutely.

01:08:15Absolutely.

01:08:16I can do it.

01:08:17Right?

01:08:18Yeah, sometimes.

01:08:19Is it a lie?

01:08:20Well, sort of, because I'm saying I can do it.

01:08:24I have confidence when I have no particular reason to believe that.

01:08:27I thought, oh, I could be good in business.

01:08:29I've read some economics.

01:08:30Turned out I was pretty good in business.

01:08:33You know, the little bit of fake it till you make it stuff, is that lie?

01:08:37Well, I believe I can do it.

01:08:40I believe I can rise.

01:08:41I believe I can do good things or great things.

01:08:43I believe that I can do all of these things.

01:08:46Can I prove it?

01:08:47Nope.

01:08:48It's kind of like faith.

01:08:49Right?

01:08:50It's kind of like faith.

01:08:57So, yeah, I don't know.

01:09:01Saying you can do it.

01:09:03I mean, I gathered evidence along the way and so on, right?

01:09:06But believing that you can do it is kind of important,

01:09:09and you kind of have to believe it before you know.

01:09:12So is that lying?

01:09:13Blah, blah, blah.

01:09:14I don't know.

01:09:16I don't know.

01:09:19But honesty is a complicated thing.

01:09:30Not finding book club on the premium side.

01:09:32Did trip over some book club MP3s.

01:09:33Yeah, I think so.

01:09:36Yeah, we did 1984.

01:09:38We did The Antichrist.

01:09:40We did, as I mentioned, we did The Fountainhead and a couple other things.

01:09:46So.

01:09:52I don't pay ATM fees with my bank.

01:09:56As in I get reimbursed from out-of-network ATMs.

01:10:00I get reimbursed from out-of-network ATMs.

01:10:03I don't know what that means.

01:10:10Banking apps are photo deposits for paper checks.

01:10:12Yeah, but I think he's talking about he's got it in cash.

01:10:17So.

01:10:20Well, maybe they're lost to the winds of time.

01:10:24I remember some of the old participants.

01:10:26You could always ping them.

01:10:28Somebody says,

01:10:29I'm a Discord subscriber who usually watches pre-recorded shows.

01:10:32What is the preferred app for live streams and chats?

01:10:35freedomain.locals.com.

01:10:36You can install the Locals app.

01:10:38And don't forget, don't forget, bros,

01:10:40a lot of FDR content is now installable.

01:10:43FDR podcasts.

01:10:44The AI is a lot of stuff.

01:10:46Is installable now.

01:10:51I think we did CS Lewis.

01:10:52I know.

01:10:53I know I did the screw tape letters with Duke Pesta.

01:10:59And we are still working on potentially a meetup in late November

01:11:03in Central Florida.

01:11:05And yeah, FDRURL.com.

01:11:07Slash apps.

01:11:09FDRURL.com.

01:11:10Slash apps.

01:11:11There's lots of instructions there.

01:11:12You can install them as apps,

01:11:14which is really great.

01:11:18James has done some great work on that,

01:11:19which I really, really appreciate.

01:11:23But yeah, I think the book clubs were great.

01:11:25And I think they're worth resurrecting.

01:11:27There was some really, really great stuff in there.

01:11:32If I use an ATM that isn't my bank,

01:11:34functionally I don't pay an ATM fee,

01:11:36since it gets reimbursed,

01:11:37but it's not my bank's ATM.

01:11:40Since I was 18, I've used this bank.

01:11:44I don't pay an ATM fee.

01:11:48So you pay no ATM fees.

01:11:50Wow.

01:11:51Do you use credit cards?

01:11:52Because credit cards have a 3% to 5% overhead.

01:11:55So I don't know if you've ever used credit cards.

01:11:58I mean, we can play this game all day,

01:11:59but I guarantee you,

01:12:00you've paid fees on things for convenience in the past.

01:12:03Guarantee you that.

01:12:05I mean,

01:12:07you donate here, right?

01:12:09His Space Trilogy is worth looking into.

01:12:11Yeah.

01:12:14Oh, you still have the old app?

01:12:18Is that the old APK?

01:12:21Yeah.

01:12:22If you still have the old app,

01:12:23shoot me an email at support at freedomain.com.

01:12:26Support at freedomain.com.

01:12:27Cool.

01:12:28Yes, I absolutely have paid fees on things for convenience.

01:12:32Ah, yes.

01:12:33Ah, yes.

01:12:35Ah, yes.

01:12:37So you do pay fees on things for convenience.

01:12:39So saying, I don't want to pay fees on things

01:12:43doesn't make much sense, right?

01:12:45So again, it's just,

01:12:46is it possible for you to do it?

01:12:48Yes, it is.

01:12:50All right, people.

01:12:52freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show.

01:12:55Come on, I've been on fire tonight, baby.

01:13:00For the meetup,

01:13:01will we be meeting shirtless Steph,

01:13:02backward hat Steph,

01:13:03or Steph in his base form?

01:13:04Well, let me tell you something, my friends.

01:13:08Let me tell you something, my friends.

01:13:09Today,

01:13:11I did a show

01:13:13outside

01:13:15with no shirt on.

01:13:16Yes, that's right.

01:13:18Nipple-tastic Steph philosophy lasers

01:13:20were flying all over the place,

01:13:21burning up the squirrels, the livestock,

01:13:24the fences, the clouds.

01:13:26Cut right past an airliner at one point.

01:13:28Oof!

01:13:29It was raw.

01:13:31And I thought, my God,

01:13:32I should be chopping wood

01:13:34with my wood.

01:13:35I can, you know.

01:13:36I just try not to,

01:13:37because it feels like showing off.

01:13:39But yeah, I did a show.

01:13:41No one has seen it except me.

01:13:44But it was some pretty raw Steph.

01:13:46Because the thing is,

01:13:47I'm trying to get some sun, right?

01:13:48I'm

01:13:50no longer afraid of the sun.

01:13:52And I didn't even work out.

01:13:53You know, people are like,

01:13:54I got to work out like crazy

01:13:55before I take my shirt off.

01:13:56I didn't even work out,

01:13:57and I just took my shirt off,

01:13:58and I'm like, I'm going to get some sun.

01:14:00Let's turn on the camera.

01:14:01Let's turn on the camera.

01:14:02Let's see Steph in all of his orchid glory

01:14:05and slightly 58-ish man-boob muscularity.

01:14:08Oh, why not?

01:14:09Why not?

01:14:10So maybe you'll get a chance to see that.

01:14:12I'm not sure if I'll release that or not.

01:14:14With video.

01:14:15I don't know.

01:14:16Do you care?

01:14:17Does it matter?

01:14:18You don't care, right?

01:14:21Yeah, you don't care, right?

01:14:23Do you care?

01:14:24I don't know.

01:14:26All right.

01:14:32I will be donating, though.

01:14:34Thank you.

01:14:35I appreciate that.

01:14:36Thank you very much.

01:14:37Oh, I've gone all...

01:14:38I've got to get that laser Tom Cruise,

01:14:40like he's got this bolted,

01:14:41perfect baseball cap in his movies.

01:14:43What was it?

01:14:44The Out...

01:14:45No, not Outlander.

01:14:46That was Sean Connery.

01:14:47But yeah, maybe I'll put it on.

01:14:50Donor.

01:14:51Donor only.

01:14:54So you were not caught in the floods.

01:14:56I was not in the path of the floods,

01:14:59but I'll tell you this.

01:15:00I lived in Toronto for decades,

01:15:02and there were no floods.

01:15:03So, blaming it as the mayor did on...

01:15:07What did she blame it on?

01:15:08Oh, yeah.

01:15:09Climate change and people with big driveways.

01:15:14Oh, that's funny.

01:15:17Yeah.

01:15:18Well, you know.

01:15:19Yeah, you...

01:15:20Once you have anything other than a meritocracy,

01:15:23things are doomed, right?

01:15:25Meet up in Winnipeg in January.

01:15:26Minus 20 bills character.

01:15:28Well, Winnipeg, you either get minus 20,

01:15:30or you literally get carried aloft by the...

01:15:35You get carried aloft by the mosquitoes.

01:15:37It's really something.

01:15:38You're either freezing your tits off,

01:15:40or you're getting liposuction from

01:15:43an infinity of Galactica viper-like mosquitoes.

01:15:50I've been to Winnipeg.

01:15:51Actually, I went to Winnipeg right before I got married

01:15:53to do some business,

01:15:55and I was like,

01:15:57everybody here is really, really odd.

01:16:01I mean, I lived in Thunder Bay

01:16:03when I worked up north for quite some time.

01:16:05Well, it was based in Thunder Bay.

01:16:06We went all over the bush, all over the place.

01:16:08I like Thunder Bay.

01:16:09Some great clubs in Thunder Bay.

01:16:11Some great clubs.

01:16:12Some great dance clubs,

01:16:13and great discos,

01:16:15and met some great ladies up in...

01:16:17Thunder Bay!

01:16:18Thunder Bay.

01:16:20Just Poor and the Present Book Club, anyone?

01:16:23Just donated a free domain.

01:16:24Thank you very much.

01:16:25War of the Worlds, yes.

01:16:26War of the Worlds, yes.

01:16:27That perfect baseball hat.

01:16:28Yeah, I don't know.

01:16:29It's wild.

01:16:30I don't know how he gets that hat.

01:16:31It's like...

01:16:32It's like it's been visored on like a Cylon top.

01:16:35I guess everybody knows what show I'm watching at the moment.

01:16:38But yeah, it's been sort of visored on

01:16:39in this perfect laser-like way,

01:16:41and it's pretty wild.

01:16:44Yeah, I would love to do

01:16:45A Just Poor Book Club.

01:16:46That's one of my favorite books.

01:16:48It's a book I rewrote the entire second half of that book

01:16:51because I met this woman on a plane

01:16:52who was a publisher.

01:16:56If there could be a potential

01:16:57for you to donor-only livestream Politics Plus Philosophy,

01:17:00I'd be curious to know

01:17:01if such may be apt to ask stuff about Venezuela.

01:17:04Absolutely, yeah.

01:17:05We were just talking about this.

01:17:06You may have missed this at the beginning.

01:17:07I'll mention it again.

01:17:08That for donors, I could do

01:17:10the first hour on Sunday, 11 to noon,

01:17:12could be general,

01:17:13and then on the second hour,

01:17:16I could just make it donor-only

01:17:17and could answer questions about politics,

01:17:19which is fine.

01:17:20All right.

01:17:21Somebody says,

01:17:22I have my first child on the way.

01:17:24Oh, yeah.

01:17:25But don't you get text messages

01:17:26on each point of the vantage point, right?

01:17:28I've mentioned to my mom

01:17:29that I need to have a chat

01:17:31with both her and my dad again soon.

01:17:33I've since sent Peaceful Parenting to her

01:17:34and all my siblings.

01:17:35They all said they would listen.

01:17:36Oh, fantastic.

01:17:38Yeah, James did a great upgrade

01:17:39on PeacefulParenting.com.

01:17:40There are testimonials.

01:17:41You can listen to the first chapter right away

01:17:43and all of that, right?

01:17:46He says,

01:17:47My dad wasn't clued in on all this yet.

01:17:51He had just gotten home

01:17:52and didn't want to ruin his vibe right away.

01:17:53My parents are very religious

01:17:54and tend not to take any thought seriously

01:17:55if it isn't rooted in religion.

01:17:57Every serious talk I've had

01:17:58with my parents in my life

01:17:59resulted in getting Bible verses in response.

01:18:01How do I approach people like this?

01:18:04Well, you would study the Bible

01:18:06and you would learn

01:18:07how the Bible talks about children

01:18:08and how, in particular,

01:18:09Jesus talks about children, right?

01:18:17Jesus on children.

01:18:21I mean,

01:18:23one of the things that Jesus got

01:18:26in trouble for the most

01:18:27was his sympathy for children, right?

01:18:36So, let me see here.

01:18:45See that you do not despise

01:18:47one of these little ones,

01:18:49for I say to you

01:18:50that their angels in heaven

01:18:52continually see the faces of my Father

01:18:54who is in heaven.

01:18:57So, it is not the will of your Father

01:18:58who is in heaven

01:18:59that one of these little ones perish.

01:19:04But Jesus, knowing what they were thinking

01:19:06in their hearts,

01:19:07took a child and stood him by his side

01:19:10and said to them,

01:19:11Whoever receives this child in my name

01:19:13receives me

01:19:14and whoever receives me

01:19:15receives him who sent me.

01:19:17For the one who is least of all among you,

01:19:20this is the one who is great,

01:19:22the children.

01:19:26Taking a child, he set him before them

01:19:28and taking him in his arms,

01:19:30he said to them,

01:19:31Whoever receives one child like this

01:19:32in my name receives me

01:19:34and whoever receives me

01:19:35does not receive me

01:19:36but him who sent me.

01:19:38So, it is through respect for children

01:19:41that you attain heaven and love God.

01:19:50And he called the child to himself

01:19:52and set him before them

01:19:54and said,

01:19:55Truly I say to you,

01:19:56unless you are converted

01:19:57and become like children,

01:19:59you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.

01:20:01Whoever then humbles himself as this child,

01:20:03he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven

01:20:06and whoever receives one such child in my name

01:20:08receives me.

01:20:10Powerful.

01:20:12Because in many religions,

01:20:13children are sinners

01:20:16to be beaten, cajoled and bullied into virtue.

01:20:19But for Jesus,

01:20:20children are perfect.

01:20:21We are born perfect.

01:20:29Yeah.

01:20:31And of course,

01:20:32Jesus says,

01:20:33Whoever harms the least among us,

01:20:36the children,

01:20:37it is better that a millstone

01:20:39be tied around his neck

01:20:40and he be dropped into the ocean.

01:20:49Children are innocent but corruptible.

01:20:51Christ is very caring about children's well-being.

01:20:58Jesus tells people not to look down on children.

01:21:00Jesus shares a secret.

01:21:02Little children all have angels.

01:21:03God cares so much for little ones

01:21:05that he assigns them angels.

01:21:08The angels maintain such a close relationship with God

01:21:10that they see God's face.

01:21:11Children are that precious to God.

01:21:13Now,

01:21:14for those of you who've read my novel,

01:21:16The Future,

01:21:17well,

01:21:19you know where that's coming from, right?

01:21:20That the children need angels to protect them.

01:21:31Jesus said he longed to gather us

01:21:33as a mother gathers her chicks under her wings.

01:21:42So,

01:21:43this is one of the challenges

01:21:45that all thinkers who work to protect children,

01:21:51all workers,

01:21:52sorry,

01:21:53all thinkers who work to protect children

01:21:58face attacks from the devilish.

01:22:04I mean,

01:22:05what has happened with me is nothing new.

01:22:09It's just that most philosophers get attacked

01:22:12for things that mean far less.

01:22:18If I had to sit down with religious parents

01:22:20and they quoted the Bible at me,

01:22:22I would say,

01:22:24God himself instructs me to not bear false witness.

01:22:28I will not lie to you.

01:22:29So,

01:22:30honor thy mother and thy father.

01:22:31Yes,

01:22:32we honor people with the truth.

01:22:33We dishonor people by lying to them.

01:22:35Honor thy mother and thy father.

01:22:36Absolutely.

01:22:37I will honor you with the truth.

01:22:42And I will not lie.

01:22:43I will not bear false witness.

01:22:44Are you asking me to lie to you?

01:22:49Do you want me to lie to you

01:22:51or do you want me to tell the truth?

01:22:53Because parents, of course,

01:22:54and any decent parents can't say

01:22:56that they want you to lie to them.

01:22:58So, you say,

01:22:59okay,

01:23:00well,

01:23:01then I have to tell the truth, right?

01:23:02Now,

01:23:03they will say,

01:23:04maybe,

01:23:05they could say that you are lying to them

01:23:06when you say bad things happen, right?

01:23:10So,

01:23:11then,

01:23:12what I would say,

01:23:13if they say,

01:23:14well,

01:23:15these things didn't happen,

01:23:16those complaints you have are invalid,

01:23:17that's not true,

01:23:18what I would say then is,

01:23:19okay,

01:23:20we have a victim

01:23:25and we have a perpetrator.

01:23:27You did wrong to me as a child.

01:23:34And if they say,

01:23:35well,

01:23:36spare the rod,

01:23:37spoil the child,

01:23:38it's like,

01:23:39no,

01:23:40no,

01:23:41no,

01:23:42that means if you spare instruction

01:23:43from your children,

01:23:44it will spoil them,

01:23:45which is true.

01:23:46You need to give your children feedback

01:23:47and instruction.

01:23:48But,

01:23:50I'm accusing you of doing me wrong.

01:23:55Now,

01:23:56I'm not calling you criminals,

01:23:57but we can understand

01:23:58that in a situation

01:23:59where a person is accused of a crime,

01:24:02in general,

01:24:03the person who is accused of the crime,

01:24:05let's just say somebody says to him,

01:24:07I think you committed a crime,

01:24:10if he did commit the crime,

01:24:12what is he most likely to say?

01:24:17Right?

01:24:19What is he most likely to say?

01:24:21If a neighbor thinks,

01:24:24if a man thinks his neighbor

01:24:25stole his lawnmower

01:24:27and he goes over to his neighbor

01:24:29and says,

01:24:30hey,

01:24:31did you take my lawnmower?

01:24:32What's he going to say

01:24:33almost automatically,

01:24:34almost immediately?

01:24:35No,

01:24:36I didn't.

01:24:37No,

01:24:38what are you crazy?

01:24:39I didn't take your lawnmower.

01:24:40How dare you,

01:24:41blah,

01:24:42blah,

01:24:43blah,

01:24:44right?

01:24:45So,

01:24:46to immediately deny it

01:24:47and to gaslight the other person.

01:24:48Now,

01:24:49I understand

01:24:50that we can't say,

01:24:51well,

01:24:52he who denied it

01:24:53is he who supplied it.

01:24:54We can't say

01:24:55that all denials

01:24:56are proof of guilt,

01:24:58but we do expect

01:24:59almost everyone

01:25:00who's accused of wrongdoing

01:25:03to deny it,

01:25:04right?

01:25:05And to call the person

01:25:06who's accusing them of wrongdoing

01:25:07a liar

01:25:08and to take offense.

01:25:09Like,

01:25:10it's all a very boring

01:25:11and predictable script.

01:25:12Oh,

01:25:13that never happened.

01:25:14How dare you?

01:25:15I told you earlier,

01:25:16I can't believe

01:25:17you've let these delusions

01:25:18fester in your mind

01:25:19and how dare you?

01:25:20Like,

01:25:21the whole script

01:25:22is very boring

01:25:23and predictable,

01:25:24right?

01:25:25So,

01:25:26if your parents say

01:25:27that never happened,

01:25:28right,

01:25:29you would say,

01:25:30but that would be

01:25:31in accordance

01:25:32with it happening.

01:25:33Right,

01:25:34that would be

01:25:35in accordance

01:25:36with it happening.

01:25:37Now,

01:25:38if you have siblings,

01:25:39it's good to talk

01:25:40to your parents.

01:25:41If they did you wrong,

01:25:42it's good to talk

01:25:43to your parents

01:25:44about doing the same thing.

01:25:45So,

01:25:46now,

01:25:47and this is the problem,

01:25:48right?

01:25:49This is the problem.

01:25:50It's a huge problem.

01:25:51When you accuse someone

01:25:52of wrongdoing,

01:25:53I've had this

01:25:54in my life,

01:25:55man,

01:25:56it's brutal.

01:25:57When you accuse someone

01:25:58of wrongdoing,

01:25:59you did me wrong.

01:26:05The moment

01:26:06they gaslight you

01:26:08and lie to you

01:26:09and manipulate you

01:26:11is the moment

01:26:12the relationship

01:26:13as it stands

01:26:14is done.

01:26:19Because if you say

01:26:20to your parents,

01:26:22you harmed me,

01:26:23and they say,

01:26:25you're making it up,

01:26:26you're nasty

01:26:27and mean

01:26:28and you're a liar,

01:26:31then they're continuing

01:26:32to do it.

01:26:40And if your parents say,

01:26:41I never said that,

01:26:42or did that,

01:26:43then you have to say,

01:26:45this is logic, right?

01:26:46This is just logic 101

01:26:47and it's all in the

01:26:48Peaceful Parenting book, right?

01:26:49So, if your parents say,

01:26:50I never said that,

01:26:51like, Mom,

01:26:52you called me an idiot

01:26:53on a regular basis,

01:26:54I never did, right?

01:26:55Say, okay.

01:26:59So, was I allowed

01:27:00to deny things as a child?

01:27:01Like, if you accused me

01:27:02of something, right?

01:27:04Right?

01:27:05If you accused me

01:27:06of something

01:27:07and I denied that I did it,

01:27:08was that the end

01:27:09of the story?

01:27:10Right?

01:27:11If I came home

01:27:12and I had broken

01:27:13your favorite plate

01:27:14and I said,

01:27:15I didn't break it,

01:27:16was that it?

01:27:17Like, oh, okay.

01:27:18Right?

01:27:19No.

01:27:20You'd say,

01:27:21of course you did.

01:27:22Right?

01:27:23Oh, defenses are

01:27:24NPC talk.

01:27:25Defenses are

01:27:26all the same,

01:27:27they're all

01:27:28ridiculously boring,

01:27:29they're all

01:27:30ridiculously predictable.

01:27:31Denial of reality

01:27:32is a train track.

01:27:35Reality itself

01:27:36is a 360 aerodrome

01:27:37of possibilities.

01:27:40Denial of reality

01:27:41is a one-way

01:27:42descending train track

01:27:43to hell.

01:27:44So, it's programmed, right?

01:27:47So, if your mother says,

01:27:49I never said that,

01:27:50you say, well,

01:27:51was I allowed to say

01:27:52that as a kid?

01:27:53No.

01:27:54When I did something wrong

01:27:56and I wasn't allowed

01:27:57to just deny it,

01:27:58you say, well,

01:27:59I don't remember.

01:28:00Your dad says,

01:28:01I don't remember shit.

01:28:02It's like, okay, well,

01:28:03when I was a kid,

01:28:04if I didn't remember

01:28:05that I had an exam,

01:28:06was I still punished?

01:28:07If I didn't remember stuff?

01:28:08So, right?

01:28:13And the other thing

01:28:14that I would say

01:28:15as a whole

01:28:17with regards

01:28:20to this, right?

01:28:24If you're confronting anyone,

01:28:25doesn't matter,

01:28:26parents, right?

01:28:27If you're confronting someone

01:28:28with the wrongs

01:28:29they've done you

01:28:30and they try

01:28:31to gaslight you,

01:28:32they try to minimize,

01:28:33they try to defend,

01:28:34they're all blah, blah, blah, right?

01:28:35They play fake offense

01:28:37and they just,

01:28:38I can't believe

01:28:39that you would even think

01:28:40and blah, blah, blah,

01:28:41how offensive,

01:28:42blah, blah, blah, right?

01:28:43Then you can say,

01:28:46what I would say is this.

01:28:48I have said this.

01:28:50I've said, okay,

01:28:52so you're really

01:28:54raising the stakes here.

01:28:55Like, just so you know,

01:28:56like you're totally

01:28:57raising the stakes here.

01:28:59Obviously,

01:29:00if my repeated memories

01:29:02from my childhood

01:29:04have been implanted

01:29:05by space aliens

01:29:06or I got some sort

01:29:07of brain injury

01:29:08or somehow

01:29:09I mistook a movie

01:29:11for ten years

01:29:12of you calling me

01:29:13an idiot.

01:29:15So, if you're saying

01:29:16it didn't happen,

01:29:17then I'm unjust

01:29:18for accusing you

01:29:19of something

01:29:20that didn't happen, right?

01:29:21So, I just want to,

01:29:24obviously,

01:29:25I will come

01:29:26and apologize to you

01:29:27on bended knee

01:29:28if I've accused you

01:29:29of something false, right?

01:29:31Now,

01:29:33on the other hand,

01:29:35and I just want you

01:29:36to know what the stakes

01:29:37are here.

01:29:38I can forgive you

01:29:40for what you did

01:29:41in the past

01:29:43if you don't lie

01:29:44about it now.

01:29:46It was tough.

01:29:47I can absolutely

01:29:48find a way

01:29:49to forgive you

01:29:54for what happened

01:29:55in the past.

01:29:58I cannot ever

01:29:59forgive you

01:30:00if you lie to me

01:30:01about it in the present.

01:30:03If you call me unjust

01:30:05for calling out

01:30:06things you did

01:30:07that were wrong,

01:30:08if you say

01:30:09that I'm a liar

01:30:10and you completely

01:30:11mess with my sense

01:30:12of reality,

01:30:13if you pretend

01:30:14to be offended

01:30:15because you're

01:30:16feeling guilty,

01:30:17if you're that

01:30:18manipulative

01:30:19and that destructive

01:30:20towards my mind

01:30:21and my certainty

01:30:22and my reality

01:30:23and the truth

01:30:24of what I know

01:30:25to be a fact.

01:30:26So, I will put this

01:30:27on hold

01:30:30and I will go

01:30:31and ask other people

01:30:32and I will look

01:30:33at old videos

01:30:34and I will look

01:30:35at messages

01:30:36and I will look

01:30:37at emails

01:30:38and I will look

01:30:39at text messages

01:30:40and you say

01:30:41well, son,

01:30:42I never called you

01:30:43an idiot

01:30:44so I'm going to go

01:30:45talk to my siblings,

01:30:46I'm going to go

01:30:47and talk to my friends,

01:30:48I'm going to check

01:30:49the messages,

01:30:50I'm going to check

01:30:51emails,

01:30:52I'm going to check

01:30:53posts,

01:30:54I'm going to check

01:30:55everything that's

01:30:56written down,

01:30:57I'm going to

01:30:58and if there's

01:30:59one time

01:31:00that you ever

01:31:01attack my sense

01:31:02of reality

01:31:03and say that

01:31:04I'm a liar

01:31:05and I'm unjust

01:31:06and this never happened

01:31:07but if I find

01:31:08one instance of this

01:31:09happening,

01:31:10we're done.

01:31:11We're absolutely done

01:31:12because I can forgive you

01:31:13for what you did

01:31:14in the past

01:31:15but if you lie to me

01:31:16about it now,

01:31:17if you lie to me

01:31:18about it now,

01:31:19it means you've

01:31:20learned nothing,

01:31:21you continue to

01:31:22escalate,

01:31:23you continue to lie.

01:31:24So, if I find out

01:31:25that this never

01:31:26happened,

01:31:27I will come

01:31:28on bended knee

01:31:29and apologize to you

01:31:30because I found out

01:31:31it even happened

01:31:32once.

01:31:33We're done.

01:31:34That's it.

01:31:35I have nothing

01:31:36left to say to you

01:31:37in this or any

01:31:38other life.

01:31:39Now,

01:31:40just so you know

01:31:41what the stakes are,

01:31:42you cannot lie

01:31:43with impunity.

01:31:44You could lie

01:31:45with impunity

01:31:46when I was a kid

01:31:47because I was a kid

01:31:48and I was dependent

01:31:49on you.

01:31:50You cannot lie

01:31:51to me with impunity

01:31:52now.

01:31:53There will be

01:31:54consequences

01:31:55if you lie to me.

01:31:56Now,

01:31:57I'm going to

01:31:58give you a day

01:31:59and I promise you

01:32:00if you come back

01:32:01and say,

01:32:02I was really shocked,

01:32:03I handled it badly,

01:32:04I did call you

01:32:05an idiot,

01:32:06I did yell at you,

01:32:07I do remember

01:32:08spanking you,

01:32:09I'm so sorry,

01:32:10let's reboot,

01:32:11let's start this

01:32:12conversation again,

01:32:13hey,

01:32:14open minds,

01:32:15open heart,

01:32:16we absolutely can

01:32:17begin that conversation

01:32:18again.

01:32:19But if you

01:32:20double down

01:32:21and I find

01:32:22even the slightest

01:32:23shred of evidence

01:32:24that you're lying

01:32:25to me,

01:32:26and there's a lot

01:32:27of people who

01:32:28get text messages

01:32:29from you,

01:32:30if I

01:32:32find out

01:32:33or have any

01:32:34shred of evidence

01:32:35that this did happen,

01:32:38it's unforgivable.

01:32:41Because then

01:32:42you will have

01:32:43lied to me about

01:32:44the most essential

01:32:45aspects of my childhood

01:32:46in order to save

01:32:47your own skin

01:32:48and not admit fault.

01:32:49In other words,

01:32:50this is stuff

01:32:51that you would have

01:32:52absolutely

01:32:53punished me for

01:32:54as a child

01:32:55and sometimes

01:32:56quite brutally

01:32:57punished me for

01:32:58this as a child.

01:32:59And now you're

01:33:00claiming

01:33:01a lying

01:33:02and a minimizing

01:33:03and a gaslighting

01:33:04and a fogging

01:33:05and a manipulation

01:33:06that you never

01:33:07would have allowed

01:33:08for me as a child.

01:33:20I just want you to

01:33:21know where the stakes are.

01:33:24If upon reflection

01:33:25and research

01:33:26you're lying to me,

01:33:28now,

01:33:29as an adult,

01:33:30I'm done.

01:33:31Because I can't

01:33:32have a conversation

01:33:33with people who

01:33:34attack my very sense

01:33:35of reality.

01:33:36Like I'm just not

01:33:37going to do it.

01:33:38People who have

01:33:39learned nothing

01:33:40and continue to

01:33:41abuse and escalate

01:33:42and use exactly

01:33:43the same defenses

01:33:44that they would have

01:33:45violently punished me

01:33:46for as a child.

01:33:47No.

01:33:48Done.

01:33:49Done,

01:33:50done,

01:33:51and done.

01:33:52Yeah.

01:33:56I think that's the

01:33:57approach that I've taken.

01:33:59Now,

01:34:00once or twice I've had

01:34:01people say,

01:34:02oof,

01:34:03you know,

01:34:04you're right,

01:34:05I reacted badly,

01:34:06I reacted defensively,

01:34:07I tried to gaslight you,

01:34:08I'm really sorry.

01:34:09That was a bad approach

01:34:10and thank you for

01:34:11calling me out on it.

01:34:12Once or twice in my life

01:34:13that's happened.

01:34:14Everybody else just

01:34:15doubles down.

01:34:16In which case it's like,

01:34:17okay, you prefer lies

01:34:18to me,

01:34:19I'm gone.

01:34:20If you prefer lies

01:34:21why on earth would I

01:34:22want to spend time

01:34:23with people who

01:34:24prefer lies

01:34:25and destruction

01:34:26to truth and connection?

01:34:27Yeah, we can only meet

01:34:28in reality.

01:34:31We can only meet

01:34:32in reality.

01:34:34Absolutely.

01:34:37Ah.

01:34:40You know,

01:34:41it is so satisfying

01:34:42in my mind when the

01:34:43locks and clicks and

01:34:44tumblers all click

01:34:45into place.

01:34:47It is so,

01:34:49it's such a relief

01:34:50for me when

01:34:51the planets align,

01:34:52the truth comes out

01:34:53and it's irrefutable.

01:34:55What I want to provide

01:34:56to you guys is

01:34:57absolutely irrefutable stuff.

01:34:59Not, well,

01:35:00the proportion of evidence

01:35:01or the preponderance

01:35:02of evidence or proof

01:35:03beyond a reasonable doubt.

01:35:04It's like,

01:35:05absolute proof.

01:35:07Absolute proof.

01:35:09Somebody says,

01:35:10being called lazy

01:35:11and stupid by my parents

01:35:12for not doing well

01:35:13in school,

01:35:14for not being fast

01:35:15to do chores.

01:35:16The ADHD thing is doing

01:35:17many tasks at the same time

01:35:18several times over.

01:35:19In your head,

01:35:20long before you ever

01:35:21physically get to a thing.

01:35:22Very exhausting.

01:35:23Trying to do work

01:35:24or rummage the ball

01:35:25and chain tied to your ankle

01:35:26and being called lazy

01:35:27or not capable

01:35:28for not being successful

01:35:29at a thing.

01:35:31That causes damage.

01:35:37I mean,

01:35:38ADHD or just fatherlessness.

01:35:45Let's get fathers

01:35:46back in the household

01:35:47and see how much ADHD

01:35:48we have left.

01:35:52I mean,

01:35:53we men are so constituted

01:35:54that we don't

01:35:55often respect

01:35:56women as authority figures.

01:35:58I mean,

01:35:59right or wrong,

01:36:00good or bad,

01:36:01it's just the way

01:36:02in nature is.

01:36:03I mean,

01:36:04I'm not apologizing for it.

01:36:05It's just a fact.

01:36:06It's really tough

01:36:07for a boy

01:36:08to accept

01:36:09a mother

01:36:10as an authority figure.

01:36:11Both because

01:36:12he's got to learn

01:36:13how to be a man

01:36:14and not just

01:36:15obey women

01:36:16because if he obeys women

01:36:17he's not a man himself

01:36:18because women

01:36:19don't respect men

01:36:20who just obey them.

01:36:23And also because

01:36:24women tend to have

01:36:25a pretty shrill way

01:36:26of enforcing discipline.

01:36:28There's not a relaxed,

01:36:29calm,

01:36:30you know,

01:36:31Adama style,

01:36:32low voice,

01:36:33let's do it this way.

01:36:34I mean,

01:36:35I know there are,

01:36:36of course,

01:36:37as hysterical

01:36:38and aggressive men

01:36:39and I get all of that,

01:36:40but in general,

01:36:41male authority

01:36:42tends to be

01:36:43less shrill

01:36:44and...

01:36:46Male authority

01:36:47as a whole,

01:36:48female authority,

01:36:49I don't know,

01:36:50this could just be

01:36:51my experience,

01:36:52so,

01:36:53and it's certainly

01:36:54not the case

01:36:55in my current family,

01:36:56and so I could be

01:36:57completely wrong

01:36:58about all of this,

01:36:59but

01:37:00in my experience,

01:37:01female authority,

01:37:02it tends to be

01:37:05they take it

01:37:06a lot more personally

01:37:07if you don't obey them.

01:37:08Like,

01:37:09women get upset,

01:37:10mothers get upset

01:37:11if you don't obey them

01:37:12because they think

01:37:13that they should be obeyed

01:37:14and it's disrespectful

01:37:15and it's personal

01:37:16and it's emotional,

01:37:17whereas,

01:37:18men are like,

01:37:19I'm trying to teach you something

01:37:20that's going to keep you safe

01:37:21or productive,

01:37:22like,

01:37:23you need to listen to me

01:37:24because this is the right way

01:37:25to do things,

01:37:26whereas,

01:37:27for moms,

01:37:28it tends to be

01:37:29you need to listen to me

01:37:30because I'm really upset

01:37:31and taking it personally

01:37:32and you're being disrespectful

01:37:33if you don't.

01:37:34And boys don't respond to that.

01:37:37Boys,

01:37:38boys don't respond to that.

01:37:40Boys don't respond to

01:37:44I'm morally insulting you

01:37:46if you don't do what I say.

01:37:48You're a bad kid,

01:37:49you're a disrespectful kid,

01:37:50you're this or that,

01:37:51the other.

01:37:52Boys do not respond.

01:37:53I'm sure girls don't that much either,

01:37:54but I can only speak

01:37:55from a boy's standpoint.

01:37:56It's gross.

01:37:57It's gross.

01:38:00Somebody says,

01:38:01what I truly hated

01:38:02is when

01:38:03my mother would say,

01:38:05why aren't you like so and so?

01:38:06Her kids can do this and that,

01:38:07why can't you?

01:38:09Right.

01:38:10This would make me doubt myself so much.

01:38:11It was so cruel of her

01:38:12to do this to me as a child.

01:38:13Yeah.

01:38:21Yeah.

01:38:22Yeah, I know.

01:38:23I remember my mother

01:38:24would get mad at my brother

01:38:25because one time

01:38:26we were at my aunt's place

01:38:28and my uncle said to my brother,

01:38:31hey,

01:38:32he just said,

01:38:33somebody left the cap

01:38:34off the toothpaste tube

01:38:35and my brother flew up.

01:38:36My mother would always say,

01:38:38you just flew up the stairs

01:38:39and did it

01:38:40and why don't you listen to me

01:38:41and you listen to him

01:38:43because he wasn't shrieking,

01:38:48because he wasn't taking it personally,

01:38:50because he wasn't panicking

01:38:51and felt that I had to obey him

01:38:53because of vague feelings

01:38:54of hysterical offense and upset

01:38:56and he was just like saying it,

01:38:57like, yeah,

01:38:58just somebody should fix that, right?

01:39:00All right, Stanislavski,

01:39:01famous acting teacher,

01:39:02when the actor has been acting so much

01:39:04that he's believing

01:39:05that he is in reality

01:39:06the role he is portraying,

01:39:07you have to fire him immediately.

01:39:09What you described

01:39:10did remind me of this,

01:39:11and I'm going to ask you, Steph,

01:39:12if this could have been seen

01:39:13in your own life experience.

01:39:14I don't know what that question means.

01:39:16Yeah, my mother takes everything so personally,

01:39:18it's so annoying.

01:39:19Yeah, yeah, for sure.

01:39:22All right,

01:39:24questions, comments,

01:39:25any last tips, my friends?

01:39:29And I have no problem with the fact

01:39:31that women take things personally.

01:39:33I mean,

01:39:34that's a beautiful part of female nature,

01:39:35just for older boys, right?

01:39:38In the past,

01:39:39when there was a family breakup,

01:39:40the children would go with the man.

01:39:46Because women were, like,

01:39:47absolutely essential for, from,

01:39:49you know, pregnancy

01:39:50to the age of seven or so,

01:39:51and then after that,

01:39:52the authority should shift to the males, right?

01:39:55Because women are about

01:39:57keeping the babies alive,

01:39:58and the men are all about

01:39:59preparing them for adulthood.

01:40:10Tell me these kinds of insights

01:40:11aren't worth a little tippy-tip.

01:40:13freedomain.com slash donate,

01:40:14or you can tip right here in the app,

01:40:16both on Rumble and on Locals.

01:40:19And I would very much appreciate that, too.

01:40:23Oh, I don't remember what my hat says.

01:40:25Honestly, I grabbed it,

01:40:27I don't know,

01:40:28years and years ago,

01:40:29I think at a garage sale.

01:40:30Because, you know,

01:40:31if I go out someplace

01:40:32and I don't have a hat

01:40:33and it suddenly turns sunny,

01:40:34oh, got to grab a hat.

01:40:35So, I don't know what it says.

01:40:36It's some new tip to my side.

01:40:38Thank you, brother.

01:40:41You're connecting some dots.

01:40:42For me,

01:40:43why at least admitting you did wrong

01:40:44is necessary for reconciliation.

01:40:46If you don't admit you did wrong,

01:40:47then you're not living in the same reality

01:40:49as the person you wronged,

01:40:50and it's impossible to meet.

01:40:52Well, no, because maybe you didn't do wrong.

01:40:53I mean, I get accused of wrongdoing,

01:40:55and it's not true, right?

01:40:57Mujeres.

01:40:58Isla Mujeres, right?

01:40:59Island of the Women.

01:41:01So, no, I mean,

01:41:02just because you get accused of wrong

01:41:03doesn't mean you have to agree, right?

01:41:08Dad was there,

01:41:09Edwardian attitudes and tyrannical.

01:41:11Do what I say because I said so.

01:41:12Mom would use verbal abuse

01:41:13until I exploded.

01:41:15Yeah.

01:41:17Yeah.

01:41:19Men tend to enforce rules.

01:41:21Women tend to be upset.

01:41:27I mean, for women, of course,

01:41:28emotional sensitivity is very high,

01:41:30and, again, that's beautiful.

01:41:31They need to be attuned

01:41:32to nonverbal infants.

01:41:34So, they need to have,

01:41:35like, you know,

01:41:36when you crank things up,

01:41:37I mean, I remember

01:41:41a friend of mine gave my brother

01:41:42an audio tape back in the day

01:41:43when you'd make audio tapes,

01:41:45and I remember he said,

01:41:46oh, this is a great song,

01:41:47but you're going to have to

01:41:48really turn up the volume

01:41:50because I just can't get

01:41:51the volume to play,

01:41:52but trust me,

01:41:53it's a fantastic song,

01:41:54and the opening is kind of delicate,

01:41:55but really worthwhile,

01:41:56and so my brother, of course,

01:41:57cranked up the stereo,

01:41:58and then,

01:41:59bum, bum, bum, bum,

01:42:00came out from, like,

01:42:01he just cranked up

01:42:02to maximum volume

01:42:03the opening of

01:42:04Beethoven's Fifth Symphony.

01:42:05Almost gave my brother

01:42:06a heart attack.

01:42:07That's not funny at all.

01:42:08Not funny at all.

01:42:18Yeah, men tend to enforce

01:42:19do it because otherwise

01:42:21you're against the rules.

01:42:23Women tend to be

01:42:24do it because otherwise

01:42:25you're upsetting me.

01:42:27And upsetting me is bad, right?

01:42:28So, men tend to be

01:42:29a little bit more objective

01:42:30in the enforcement of rules.

01:42:31Women tend to be

01:42:32a little bit more reactive

01:42:33and emotional

01:42:34in the, quote,

01:42:35enforcement of rules,

01:42:36and so on, right?

01:42:37So, these things

01:42:38can certainly go that way.

01:42:40And again,

01:42:41very great strengths.

01:42:42I absolutely love

01:42:43Women of Death.

01:42:44Great strengths in both

01:42:45males and females,

01:42:46but obviously we have,

01:42:48we have

01:42:50divided up labor

01:42:52in some ways, right?

01:42:56Because, you know,

01:42:57one of the ways that

01:42:58moms enforce rules

01:42:59is to be upset

01:43:00because as babies

01:43:01and toddlers

01:43:02and little kids,

01:43:03you really don't want

01:43:04to upset mom.

01:43:05She's your source of comfort

01:43:06and food and so on.

01:43:07So, being attuned to mom

01:43:08and not wanting to upset mom

01:43:09is very healthy and right,

01:43:10but you've got to

01:43:11grow out of that.

01:43:12And you've got to start

01:43:13obeying objective rules

01:43:14and reality

01:43:15and reason

01:43:16and facts, right?

01:43:18Because women can be upset

01:43:20and men will bend reality

01:43:21to make things

01:43:23better for them,

01:43:24but if the man

01:43:26shoots at the deer

01:43:27and misses and cries,

01:43:28the deer doesn't

01:43:30die and feed him, right?

01:43:32So, we men,

01:43:33we have to deal with

01:43:34objective reality,

01:43:35which means we have to

01:43:36subjugate ourselves

01:43:37to rational, objective,

01:43:38material, empirical rules.

01:43:40So, if you're training

01:43:41men as boys

01:43:43to subject themselves

01:43:45to emotional outbursts

01:43:47and to be slaves to upset,

01:43:49then they won't be providers

01:43:50when they get older.

01:43:56Ah, you donated on the side.

01:43:57Thank you very much.

01:43:58All right, let me just see

01:43:59if there are any last questions here.

01:44:00Really appreciate everyone

01:44:01coming by tonight.

01:44:02I promise I'll look at

01:44:03this goofy hair, right?

01:44:04That's why I'm wearing a hat

01:44:05because I'm getting all kinds

01:44:07of Christopher Lloyd hair

01:44:10going, so I need to

01:44:12get that sorted.

01:44:13I just, you know,

01:44:14haven't been in a convenient place

01:44:16to get a haircut.

01:44:19Whenever my mom would act

01:44:20upset when I was a kid,

01:44:21I just didn't take her seriously.

01:44:22Yeah, we boys,

01:44:24we hate this.

01:44:25We hate, hate, hate

01:44:27the idea or the argument

01:44:30that we

01:44:33have to change

01:44:34because our mom is upset.

01:44:36Like, I'm sorry, ladies.

01:44:38You know, you can say,

01:44:39well, you should.

01:44:40It doesn't matter.

01:44:41It's like saying to men,

01:44:43well, you should

01:44:44be chubby chasers.

01:44:45Like, you should like

01:44:46the overweight women,

01:44:48or you should find women

01:44:50who are 60 as attractive

01:44:51as women who are 30.

01:44:53And it's like,

01:44:54I mean, being lectured

01:44:55about basic reality

01:44:56is kind of pointless.

01:44:58Does a barber give a discount

01:44:59to bald guys?

01:45:00No.

01:45:01So,

01:45:02yeah, like we just,

01:45:03we hate it.

01:45:04And for women,

01:45:05if you're a single mom,

01:45:07you either need to find a way

01:45:08to not take disobedience personally,

01:45:11or you need to get a man in

01:45:13to start giving some rules.

01:45:15But boys, my God,

01:45:17we absolutely find it repulsive

01:45:19in our very souls

01:45:20to be subjugated by emotionality.

01:45:23It is enraging

01:45:25and horrifying

01:45:26and appalling

01:45:27and negative and destructive.

01:45:28Oh, it shouldn't be this way.

01:45:29I don't care.

01:45:30We have howdies,

01:45:31not innies.

01:45:32This is our nature.

01:45:33This is our nature.

01:45:34And the sooner the men

01:45:35stop apologizing

01:45:36for their nature,

01:45:37the better.

01:45:39On a lighter note,

01:45:40why are you no longer

01:45:41afraid of the sun?

01:45:42I've just been reading about

01:45:43some of the vitamin D stuff

01:45:44and how,

01:45:45where there's more sun,

01:45:46there actually tends

01:45:47to be less vitamin D,

01:45:48and even when you account

01:45:49for skin lightness

01:45:52and demographics

01:45:53and so on.

01:45:54So,

01:45:55I'm still, obviously,

01:45:57I'm not out all day

01:45:58in the sun,

01:45:59but I used to cover up

01:46:01and sunscreen

01:46:02and all that kind of stuff,

01:46:03and I'm just

01:46:04less afraid of the sun.

01:46:08My mom always got upset at me

01:46:09when I did something

01:46:10she disliked.

01:46:11In my teens,

01:46:12I just turned to anger and rage.

01:46:13Yeah, because it's kind of

01:46:14claustrophobic, right?

01:46:15So, it's claustrophobic

01:46:16when you've got to,

01:46:17because women can be

01:46:18kind of moody,

01:46:19and if you try to obey

01:46:20a woman's moods,

01:46:21your mom's moods,

01:46:22you end up paralyzed,

01:46:23because sometimes

01:46:24she likes stuff,

01:46:25sometimes she doesn't,

01:46:26could be hormonal,

01:46:27could be menopausal,

01:46:28could be period-based,

01:46:29and so on, right?

01:46:30So, you just get paralyzed.

01:46:32At least with a man

01:46:33who's trying to teach you

01:46:34some objective rules

01:46:35or how to deal with reality,

01:46:37you're dealing with facts,

01:46:38you're dealing with reason,

01:46:39you're dealing with empiricism.

01:46:40Right?

01:46:41If your dad teaches you

01:46:42how to build a table,

01:46:44you know,

01:46:45getting upset isn't going

01:46:46to change the outcome.

01:46:48And so, for a man

01:46:51to be dragged

01:46:52into a woman's upset,

01:46:53to mom's upset,

01:46:54and to feel like

01:46:55he has to obey

01:46:56because the woman is upset,

01:46:58for that man,

01:46:59it feels like tentacles

01:47:00are pulling you down

01:47:01at a quicksand

01:47:02and you've got to

01:47:03fight and chew

01:47:04and bite your way

01:47:05to get out.

01:47:08That's how I was raised,

01:47:09to obey my mother,

01:47:10and especially when

01:47:11she's upset.

01:47:12If I didn't,

01:47:13my father would step

01:47:14into back rub

01:47:15with furious rage.

01:47:16Right, so that's

01:47:17the enforcement arm

01:47:18of feminine upset, right?

01:47:19Which is now the state

01:47:20as well, right?

01:47:21Women are upset,

01:47:22so we can't have

01:47:23a society, so.

01:47:24Just hit me,

01:47:25I want to make sure that,

01:47:26because this could just be

01:47:27more my personal experience

01:47:28of what I've seen,

01:47:29hit me with a why

01:47:30if, as a man,

01:47:32you lost respect

01:47:33if your mother

01:47:34was trying to be

01:47:35a rules enforcer

01:47:36through emotionality,

01:47:37through being upset

01:47:38and offended,

01:47:39and how dare you,

01:47:40and that's inappropriate,

01:47:41and I'm so upset,

01:47:42and if you loved me,

01:47:43you'd obey,

01:47:44and if you got

01:47:45that kind of stuff,

01:47:46I certainly rebelled

01:47:47against it

01:47:48absolutely ferociously.

01:47:49Like, literally,

01:47:50I was fighting for my life.

01:47:51I felt like I was

01:47:52fighting for my life,

01:47:53getting out of that quicksand.

01:47:57I just felt like

01:47:58I was going to be

01:47:59a slave forever

01:48:00if I fell into that,

01:48:01and just spent

01:48:02the rest of my life

01:48:03trying to please

01:48:04unstable women.

01:48:05It's like,

01:48:06oh God,

01:48:07no, no, no,

01:48:08no, can't do it.

01:48:09Like, if that succeeds,

01:48:10the tribe dies.

01:48:13Because men don't

01:48:15get used to dealing

01:48:16with objective facts,

01:48:17but rather appeasing

01:48:18aggressive emotions,

01:48:19and appeasing

01:48:20aggressive emotions

01:48:21rather than dealing

01:48:22with objective facts

01:48:23doesn't get any

01:48:24crops sowed,

01:48:25it doesn't get any

01:48:26fences built,

01:48:27it doesn't get any

01:48:28houses built,

01:48:29it doesn't get any

01:48:30game trapped,

01:48:31it doesn't get any

01:48:32of that stuff.

01:48:33Yeah,

01:48:34it's really,

01:48:35and we feel this

01:48:36all over the place.

01:48:37So, you know,

01:48:38just for those of you

01:48:39who don't know,

01:48:40like, you know that

01:48:41old meme,

01:48:42it's like,

01:48:43hey, when you tell

01:48:44a joke so funny

01:48:45that HR wants

01:48:46to hear it too.

01:48:47Like, so going

01:48:48into this

01:48:49inappropriate

01:48:50HR-based

01:48:51pink ghetto

01:48:52nonsense that is

01:48:53like a noose around

01:48:54the neck of

01:48:55productive men.

01:48:57Ooh!

01:48:59All of this

01:49:00creepy,

01:49:01free-floating,

01:49:02vaguely

01:49:03it's-gonna-go-in-your

01:49:04permanent-record

01:49:06caroning that's

01:49:07going on in society.

01:49:08Men hate this stuff!

01:49:10We hate it!

01:49:11With a burning

01:49:12testosterone passion!

01:49:15Because you can't

01:49:16get away from it now!

01:49:17It's everywhere!

01:49:20Isn't it?

01:49:21Everyone who banned me

01:49:22was a female,

01:49:23if I remember rightly.

01:49:24Yeah, it's,

01:49:25it's just,

01:49:26and then, you know,

01:49:27Elon Musk comes back in,

01:49:28it's like,

01:49:29yeah, let's do

01:49:30free speech again,

01:49:31right?

01:49:32Ah!

01:49:33It's gross!

01:49:34It's gross!

01:49:35That letter

01:49:36from HR,

01:49:37it's time to come in

01:49:38and talk about,

01:49:39could have said

01:49:40something inappropriate,

01:49:41nyeh, nyeh, nyeh,

01:49:42nyeh, nyeh, nyeh,

01:49:43nyeh, nyeh, nyeh,

01:49:44nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh,

01:49:45nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh,

01:49:46nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, nyeh, n

01:50:16Well, leftism as a whole is female nature plus the state, female nature plus the state.

01:50:22So women are programmed to use coercion to redistribute resources to those who are more

01:50:28vulnerable and less able.

01:50:29Of course, right?

01:50:31If you've got, you know, five kids under the age of 10, let's say 10-8-2, sorry, 10-8-6-2

01:50:38and newborn, you don't just put a bunch of food out and let whoever grab what they want

01:50:44because the baby will starve and the 10-year-old will get all the food, right?

01:50:48So if, you know, the bigger kid's taking food from the younger kids, the mom has to intervene

01:50:52and if necessary, pull the kid out of, pull the food out of the kid, give it to the younger

01:50:56kid.

01:50:57So using force to redistribute resources is essential to female nature and it's a beautiful

01:51:01thing.

01:51:02It's why we're all alive.

01:51:03I say this as a younger sibling myself.

01:51:04It's kind of important that I wasn't in a free-for-all against my brother because he

01:51:07would have won, bigger, right?

01:51:11So women using force to redistribute resources to the vulnerable and the underrepresented

01:51:16and the excluded, the marginalized, all this, I mean, just, it goes into the female nature

01:51:21to coercively redistribute resources to keep toddlers alive in the face of grabtastic 10-year-olds

01:51:26and it's beautiful and perfect and wonderful, right?

01:51:30You combine that with the state, well, you have some serious problems, right?

01:51:35All right.

01:51:36Well, that's a cozy two hours.

01:51:38I really appreciate everyone dropping by.

01:51:40If you're listening to this later, you know that this is gold and here's the other thing

01:51:44too.

01:51:45I really don't repeat myself that much.

01:51:46A little bit here, I've talked about this before, but it just came up here at the end,

01:51:50but there's a lot of new stuff and this is after 18 years, man.

01:51:54There's a lot of new stuff.

01:51:55You come by here because there's new stuff.

01:51:57I'm not repeating myself.

01:51:58It's not the same old speech over and over again and the same old arguments and data

01:52:03and ideas like you would get new stuff all the time and that's why you're here and I'll

01:52:08tell you, it's not the simplest thing in the world to keep coming up with new stuff.

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01:52:42Have yourselves a glorious, gorgeous evening and I will talk to you Friday night.

01:52:50Bye.

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