LAST time Ta’Nius featured on My Extraordinary Family he had just given birth to his son Za’Nius. Now he has recently welcomed a new addition to the family - his baby boy Zy’Kell. He gave birth to both his sons and is raising them with his partner Royalty. Ta’Nius described finding out he was pregnant a second time a ‘wave of emotions’ because of his experience of pregnancy and delivery of Za’Nius. He said: “Once I’d disclosed to him [Royalty] that I was pregnant, he just reassured me that I wasn’t going to do it alone and it was going to be a better experience.” Ta’Nius has shared his journey as a seahorse dad online but he has been met with a lot of negativity with people saying he is confusing his children or that his children will be trans because he is. People also criticised him for carrying his children. Ta’Nius said: “Just because I transitioned does not mean I don’t want my own biological kids.” He and Royalty are raising their children with love and encouraging them to follow their own path. Ta’Nius added: “My love for my kids is unconditional regardless of what path they choose to go down.” He hopes to become a lactation consultant and create visibility for the trans community. Royalty added: “What I want the younger generation who are trans to know is that it’s okay.”
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00:00I've given birth to two kids as a man and we are their dads.
00:06Were you planning to have a baby together?
00:08Honestly, we...
00:10Okay, so, it was...
00:13A lot of people come with a negative input because they're uneducated.
00:18You're not allowing them to have a mom.
00:20A baby's gotta be trans because you're trans.
00:24How would you describe the way you're raising your children in terms of gender and sexuality?
00:31You want something to drink?
00:33Yeah.
00:36Now we can do a good cheers. Here we go.
00:39Cheers.
00:41My name is Tanias.
00:42My name is Rory T.
00:44What's your name?
00:46Zanias.
00:48So, what's happened since we last filmed with you?
00:53I'm a seahorse dad and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby.
00:58We've given birth to a second child.
01:03Zanias is two and a half and Zykel is three months.
01:07Are you nursing Zykel?
01:10Zykel is...
01:12Since he was in the NICU, for the seven weeks or whatever, they'd gotten him used to the bottle.
01:17He's bottle fed, but I'm still pumping and putting him in the bottle.
01:20What do or slash will the children call you?
01:24Honestly, they have the luxury of calling me whatever they're comfortable with.
01:28At this current moment, he's calling me dad.
01:31But when they're a little older, I plan on giving them the whole rundown about me being born female,
01:37living as a trans man, giving birth to them, and if they feel the need to want to call me mom, so be it.
01:43Were you planning to have a baby together?
01:46Honestly, we...
01:48Okay, so it was...
01:50I always wanted to have a kid.
01:52So when we originally first started talking six years ago, we had conversed about it or whatever,
01:58but I was doing my own thing.
02:00He was in Georgia, I was in Florida.
02:03And then what really set that I don't want any kids is because of my experience delivering Zanias,
02:09having to deal with a lot of false allegations and just feeling just unheard, unseen,
02:14and not treated like the human that I am.
02:17How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant with Zykel?
02:20Honestly?
02:23It was a wave of emotion just mainly because of what I went through delivering with Zanias.
02:30I was hyped.
02:32But I was shocked.
02:34Because he was taking steps fast forward.
02:35I found out on my own. I was at my house when I found out, like, we're going to do it again.
02:39But once I disclosed to him that I'm pregnant, he just reassured me that I wasn't going to do it alone
02:47and it was going to be a better experience.
02:51It helped going through this journey with him because he always reminded me
02:56and reassured that I was the human that I was and I didn't feel out of place
03:00and I wasn't alone during this journey.
03:06How would you describe Zanias and Zykel?
03:09Zanias and Zykel are night and day.
03:12Totally two different children.
03:15Zykel, he's more the serious one.
03:19And Zanias, he's just so playful.
03:30Zanias, can I see your brother's bottle, please?
03:33It does not go to Zoe.
03:39What was your experience at the doctor's?
03:42What was your experience at the doctor's and, like, out in public as a pregnant transgender man?
03:46Once I got it out of my head and, like, stopped overanalyzing the situation,
03:51there really wasn't nothing.
03:52Nobody was saying anything, but even in the doctor's, like, nobody was, they didn't care.
03:58I did my research this time.
03:59By far, a drastic difference from respecting my pronouns and treating me like I belong there
04:07and not like I was just an outcast.
04:12What responses did you receive about being transgender and pregnant a second time?
04:17I'm just trying to create more trans kids and more kids to confuse.
04:23You're only having kids because you're wanting to collect a check off of social media.
04:28You're not allowing them to have a mom.
04:30The baby's going to be trans because you're trans.
04:34They was like, oh, the breast milker's going to turn the baby trans.
04:38Yeah, I was watching the previous video.
04:39So, like, some comment about the testosterone.
04:42Child, they always swearing at that.
04:44They're so uneducated.
04:46They said, you married to a woman.
04:49Oh, you need to get you a real man.
04:52For me, I don't really let things bother me.
04:56Let's go.
04:59Come on.
05:00Grab it.
05:02You got it all over the floor.
05:05Where are you going?
05:08They are under the impression that being that I transitioned,
05:12I should disconnect from all the female anatomy that I've gotten
05:15and that we should get these surgeries and we should do this in order to be trans enough.
05:20And you should adopt.
05:22Just because I transitioned does not mean I don't want my own biological kids.
05:26It's also, it's what you want out of life.
05:28You know, it's just what you want.
05:30A lot of people are like, well, why would you transition just to date a man?
05:33Gender and sexuality are two different things.
05:35My transition does not dictate who I'm attracted to.
05:40I love you.
05:43The funny thing is, is a lot of people, not a lot, but a good portion of people, were those trolls.
05:48My biggest trolls are my biggest supporters now.
05:50Because a lot of people come with a negative input because they're uneducated.
05:55But once they sat down and stopped talking and started listening and seeing us for us
06:01and actually just seeing us for who we really are,
06:04they've shifted their thought process on us and it's been amazing.
06:08Come on. Say, I got this.
06:10I got this.
06:11Come on.
06:12Yeah.
06:13There you go.
06:15What are we doing, sir?
06:17There's been one time where I was just going to give it up.
06:20Like, I let the comments get the best of me.
06:22And a creator actually reached out to me.
06:24I am so very proud of you and absolutely inspired by the strength, courage, love, and so much more.
06:29I actually got ready to it when the message popped up.
06:31And I just kept going.
06:33I continue showing up because I want people to stop the negative connotation.
06:38Assuming that my transness is going to make me less than of a parent.
06:41It's not going to stop us from loving each other.
06:43It's not going to stop us from raising up our kids to be decent human beings.
06:47How would you describe the way you're raising your children in terms of gender and sexuality?
06:51They are going to walk on their own journey.
06:53So the only thing that we can do is guide them the best way we can.
06:58Just because I'm trans doesn't mean you've got to go transition.
07:01Just because you choose not to transition doesn't mean I'm going to stop loving you.
07:04My love for my kids is unconditional regardless of what path they choose to go down.
07:08What I look for in the future is success.
07:11We'll just continue growing as a family.
07:13That's the ultimate goal.
07:15I want to become a lactation consultant because I don't see any trans men.
07:20Navigating in what society feels is the most womanly thing out there.
07:25But I just want to be able to be that voice to all the trans community
07:30because I didn't have a me when I was trying to figure out this whole breastfeeding.
07:34And with our life, you know, I wouldn't have never thought I would find, you know, Tanias.
07:39And even though I would...
07:41I found you.
07:43You died.
07:45What I want the young generation to know that are trans is that it's okay.
07:50I've given birth to two kids as a man.
07:53And I support it.
07:55That was awesome.