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00:00:00There's a new couple coming tonight what previously

00:00:08Three new couples crashed the dinner party these two look

00:00:12Freaking good and the cracks in one of their marriages became clear to the group still really rejected. He's so shut down

00:00:19He's not giving me anything told us. I mean probably the most special thing. She was about to use it as ammunition

00:00:24Oh, wow, you're not talking to me

00:00:27Oh

00:00:31See you then but they weren't the only couple in crisis

00:00:35I struggle to relate to you as a person around your sister. There was more fragility there cried at the side of them

00:00:41I wouldn't say that that is me. So sorry Casper if that's not the answer that is needed

00:00:47Emma hasn't taken on board any changes. She has to make about herself. I'm running out of energy for it bullshit

00:00:53I need to see some sort of side and she might change the whole

00:00:57It's not just me

00:01:00Tonight

00:01:03The commitment ceremony marks a fresh chapter for some having the puddles in bed kisses and it feels like a relationship now

00:01:11But spells a drastic turn of events for others. I'm not convinced. We have a future

00:01:17Things are down to the wire now. It's make or break. Yes, I can be more vulnerable. Well, that's not me

00:01:23And will one couples time in the experiment? I'm so sorry. You don't believe

00:01:28I'm full of resentment be over before it's barely begun. Can you accept Hannah's apology?

00:01:47Let me get that

00:01:53It does feel nice to be going into a commitment ceremony with me and you in a better place

00:01:57I do feel like the cuddling and kissing

00:02:01Except as helped us get a bit closer as well on it. Yeah, it's been nice

00:02:06It feels like a relationship now rather than just friends. Oh, yeah

00:02:13There's obviously other couples that are not getting on I felt a little bit guilty

00:02:17Yeah, I know. I did not expect this to be though. This is a easy peasy

00:02:21Lemon squeezer

00:02:29The dinner party was obviously a rollercoaster

00:02:31and it did feel a little bit like we're moving forward but then I've not seen Steven since

00:02:35We were at the dinner party and I was glancing at him and I'm like I am attracted to you

00:02:38Like I do fancy you like there is something there. I'm ready to move forward. Like I want to speak to the experts today

00:02:44Hopefully we can pull this back

00:02:47The one thing that I've been struggling with ever since the honeymoon is after an argument that we had I

00:02:53Didn't have a problem with the dinner. I wanted to change it to suit our knees

00:02:56Afterwards you've come away and gone at least I got my way

00:03:00It's awful that comment me not lying. You've just said to me

00:03:03We're not gonna say certain things to each other on and off camera. You've just you didn't say it

00:03:06Do you want to talk about all the shit we've said off camera then should I do it to you?

00:03:09Don't you dare go down that route?

00:03:17There was a comment Hannah was gonna make that told her in confidence off-camera about something really personal to me in my life

00:03:22And I think she was going to use it as ammunition

00:03:25So I just don't think I can trust her at this point, which is why I'm really struggling with this marriage

00:03:35Last night didn't end. Well, I haven't spoken to Casper since he left the dinner table

00:03:41I thought actually we'd had a good dinner party

00:03:44It was the honesty box that made him shift and made him retreat

00:03:49Don't worry about the girls. That's all I am worried about Emma and Casper's dinner party clash

00:03:55Came off the back of a difficult in-laws week. What's the crack?

00:04:00Doesn't fancy me what I've never fancied curvy women

00:04:05That's not a nice thing to say

00:04:07And I got really angry and I just needed to say no. Oh, no, no, no, no, you can't say that

00:04:14I

00:04:16Can do so much

00:04:18But at some point I do have to look at myself and see what I can get out of this

00:04:25During the honesty box last night. I

00:04:28Answered the question what did I need from her to get the marriage back on track and I asked for her to show some more

00:04:33Fertility which she said that's not gonna happen

00:04:36The commitment is not gonna be the easiest conversation. I've ever had

00:04:39I don't think she has it in her to accept that she could possibly be part of the reason we're struggling

00:04:51Let me get that

00:04:56Do you start shop I'll bring it in then

00:05:00You'll like this play there this is something for us

00:05:09It's a book on sign language

00:05:13It's kind of mean Tom so we can learn together

00:05:16It's a nice idea

00:05:19To earn some style on work together and there's something we can teach each other

00:05:24Yeah, it's very nice of her

00:05:32Going into the commitment to money today, I wouldn't say that we're in a great place

00:05:37But I'm not going in throwing in the towel

00:05:42My biggest concern is the moves, you know

00:05:46It's been that roller coaster up down up down up down

00:05:51How long could you carry on doing that?

00:05:54Wilson and I've had quite a rocky week. I would prefer to go home because this week is my daughter's birthday

00:06:03We both agreed that we would write stay and at the commitment ceremony

00:06:07Because he said he wants the expert advice. Thank you

00:06:11I have told Orson that I wouldn't leave until he was ready to leave

00:06:14I am willing to sacrifice my daughter's birthday to show integrity

00:06:22Probably make or break this next week

00:06:28Holly and Alex last night. I don't know what was going on

00:06:30But she was dead tearful and he didn't really want to speak to her. Yeah, it was really hard seeing

00:06:35How sad like that because she is the life and soul of the group. Oh

00:06:40It's gonna be spacey at the commitment ceremony today

00:06:55Don't have a conversation

00:06:57Let's do

00:06:59Obviously we have had a really good week, but I

00:07:04Want to be able to talk to my partner and tell him when something pisses me off

00:07:07But I feel like sometimes can't be like that with you

00:07:11Why because of how confrontational it gets when we disagree to agree?

00:07:16I'm not an unapproachable person if you come at me respectfully

00:07:20You're gonna get respect back if you come at me hostile, you're gonna get hostility. I didn't come at you hostile

00:07:25No last night, I feel a bit shit

00:07:27I feel like we need to have a chat and you stormed off from me when I tried to speak to you when we

00:07:32Made a deal that we'd listen to each other and in that moment you show me that you didn't want to hear it

00:07:37I got good energies from you

00:07:40Alex's interest in new bride Amy at last night's dinner party

00:07:46Sparked insecurities in Holly

00:07:48What the fuck

00:07:52But attempts to raise this with him

00:07:58Led to a fresh round of conflict for the couple

00:08:01Are you joking me?

00:08:04And I'm not being funny Alex

00:08:06I'm sat at that dinner party last night new couples come in which has already made me anxious like I don't like change really

00:08:12Then you spent half the night talking to Amy way back to me

00:08:15How do you think that made me feel if you feel that way address it

00:08:19This is why I'm telling you I can't address it. If you I tried to be fine with you and you was being frosty

00:08:24I wasn't being frosty. I say that we're gonna speak when we get back and you was like

00:08:30In the process you'd rather stand and speak to Amy then try and sort things out with your wife

00:08:34I feel some way I tell you I'm gonna hold it in you just like to act like you're cool

00:08:38And you're not big Harley only comes out when there's cameras around and there's people around

00:08:41Because you don't listen to me if I start raising my voice it's gonna be a madness

00:08:46This is why I can't confront you because it's gonna be a madness. You wanna like when I say it's gonna be a man

00:08:50So I'm gonna do something. I'm not your ex. Don't try and project that onto me

00:08:56You fake how am I fake because when we are behind closed doors, you're not saying nothing and

00:09:11You mentally draining me

00:09:14You've reached everything you fucking think you're sick and you're not you think you're sick as well. I'm not a confrontational person

00:09:20I don't like it. I don't like this fucking arguing. It's awful

00:09:25There was no need for anything to get confrontational

00:09:28You chose to do it in front of people and in front of cameras make a big scene. Oh, Holly's upset. Oh

00:09:34Holly and Alex have gone for a chat. It's embarrassing. So I'm just like, oh, yeah

00:09:38She's doing this for the people and for the cameras which comes across as not genuine

00:09:44Nothing less to say man

00:09:46Nothing left to say

00:09:51This whole situation has made me question Holly's integrity because she's saying one thing to me behind closed doors

00:09:56Then we get in front of a group and it's another story

00:09:59Right now I feel like I don't really know who the real Holly is

00:10:08I

00:10:33Hello and welcome to your third commitment ceremony

00:10:36To

00:10:38Our three new couples welcome

00:10:41To truly benefit from our support. You need to be as honest and open as possible on this couch

00:10:48For the rest of you. This commitment ceremony is the halfway mark

00:10:53It's time for us and for you to take a long hard look at your marriages to decide

00:10:59Whether or not they have what it takes to go the distance

00:11:02Let's get started

00:11:06Amy and Luke to the couch, please

00:11:13Welcome aboard. Thank you very much. Gosh, you two must feel like you've been thrown in the deep end

00:11:18Do we just?

00:11:20Why don't we start with the wedding? What were your first impressions Amy? I asked for a 12 out of 10 and I got one

00:11:27I asked for a 12 out of 10 and I got one

00:11:31Okay, what about you look

00:11:33You know, I did ask for a Disney princess and here she is. She looks like the million dollars. She's absolutely gorgeous

00:11:40The honeymoon was amazing. I mean, I don't say this lightly, but that was the best

00:11:44Moment in my life Wow to be in the Bahamas. I felt like a James Bond villain. I

00:11:51Had the best time of my life

00:11:53It was amazing, wasn't it?

00:11:55He just supported me throughout it and made me feel really at ease and really respect my boundaries

00:12:01I'm going at a very slow pace and he understands that so I really appreciate it

00:12:07Initially, I called her bluff because I thought yeah, right two days and I work my magic, but

00:12:15But she's why need she's not like any

00:12:17Other woman that will fall for my cheesy shenanigans, she's a woman of principle and that's what I need

00:12:24She's got such a pure heart. I

00:12:28Really want to make this work. I'm so starstruck by you Amy

00:12:33Amy, how do you feel when Luke compliments you I hate compliments

00:12:40They just make me feel really awkward and that's why I see there is a strong connection between the two of you

00:12:46But maybe it's about learning

00:12:48What does it for the other person as well?

00:12:51Because sometimes if you compliment someone and that's not how they like to experience love it can make them repel a little bit

00:13:00Perhaps I don't have to compliment her every time I do it because I genuinely

00:13:04It's nice to wake up to someone looking like you have to see her without makeup

00:13:07It's nice to wake up even as you're talking there

00:13:10There's lots of compliments that you're saying and what I'm noticing is that Amy looks uncomfortable every time you compliment her

00:13:15I

00:13:16Just think to get the most out of this relationship. It's about understanding what each other's love languages are

00:13:23That the fact that you're already talking about these kind of awkward things is such a positive thing

00:13:28Keep letting each other know what those boundaries are and keep having fun. I think we're gonna go to the decision

00:13:36Amy start with you. I

00:13:39Feel like me and Luke was so different, but we fill in each of those gaps

00:13:44He's like the light in my dark sort of thing. So I have decided to stay

00:13:53Luke over to you. I'm so glad that I've got Amy by my side to help me in this journey

00:13:59So absolutely, I want to stay

00:14:05Thank you so much and enjoy your first week living together, thank you

00:14:15I'm sweating

00:14:21Next up on the couch we have Emma and Casper

00:14:34Welcome back. Welcome back. So you've just had in-laws week. How was it Casper?

00:14:44I'm gonna be honest

00:14:46Soon as I knew that I was going to be bringing up the honeymoon again apprehension has started to creep back in again

00:14:51And was that apprehension based on those feelings of shame? Yeah, but yeah reliving something that you're not proud of

00:14:59continuously

00:15:01It's hard, you know, it's not something you want to do. I would say there wasn't a whole lot of positive

00:15:06about me

00:15:08Why do you think that was?

00:15:10They only got the snapshot but the first week and nothing since the first week I think

00:15:15There wasn't a whole lot of but he's tried to change anything, okay?

00:15:20There needs to be a contract between you that you can leave what happened on the honeymoon behind you

00:15:26Because it sounds like for you Casper. It's come up again this week and it's pretty much ruined the experience. It was a 10-second

00:15:33Part of a three-week process

00:15:35I'm not proud of it

00:15:37But if you're consistently going and there is again that thing that makes me feel shame

00:15:42It's just dragging me down every time

00:15:44Like no, I'm bored of it. I'm over it. You know, let's draw a line under it. Everything about that is done now

00:15:51It doesn't need to be brought up again

00:15:54No, I want to draw a line under it. I don't think I'm that person. You know, you're showing you're not that person. Yeah

00:16:00Can you both agree? Yeah to leave it behind? Yeah

00:16:05Okay

00:16:07Last night during the honesty box you talked about seeing a little of her fragility

00:16:12I think was the word that you used and you'd like to see more of that. Yeah, I said I liked you around your friends

00:16:17You were more fragile. Yeah, and I something I could relate to more and Emma went that's just around my friends

00:16:23But really I'm just going to be Emma and that's what I got out of that response was I've asked for something

00:16:29She's got no no, I'm gonna be me

00:16:32What am I working with

00:16:34If Emma is just Emma and what we see that just confidence positive

00:16:39I'm gonna have a fabulous day every day. No matter what. I can't see how I'm ever gonna match that

00:16:45Also, I find it false. I

00:16:48Feel like I've been really open in this it just seems to me that Emma's walls

00:16:53So what I don't feel any emotions

00:16:56That I could relate to that was the hardest day I'd had and

00:17:00For Casper to say he only really likes that side of me. Yes, I can be more vulnerable

00:17:06Well, that's not me

00:17:11You're really just showing one part of yourself

00:17:14And I think what Casper's tapping into here is there's a vulnerable side or a softer side of you that you're still protecting

00:17:22Drop some of those walls

00:17:24Because we all have walls in different ways. You have a very positive and very sales like way of showing the world that you're okay

00:17:32But my sense is that means that no one's ever really going to get close to you

00:17:40Emma don't take this the wrong way. Okay, it's all love. Have you ever heard of the term toxic positivity?

00:17:50You're the first person to laugh

00:17:55What was most telling was last night you have your husband being emotional

00:18:02Telling you the moment that he felt connected to you and I thought

00:18:07You know what? Emma needs to learn. She needs to learn to just sit in the emotion. Yeah

00:18:13If you can go back and redo last night, what would you do? He's just

00:18:16Said that that was a moment. What could you do?

00:18:19So, thank you I listen I hear no it's not funny

00:18:26What you could do is you could affirm him you could affirm that feeling yeah, I'm here with you right now, right?

00:18:32I'm gonna sit in this moment with you

00:18:34This is the work that you could do. Yeah, it's going to make you better in all aspects of your life

00:18:41Right, but if you want to grow you've got to learn to sit and feel that emotion

00:18:46What I don't want Emma is for you to beat yourself up about being positive

00:18:51Yeah, it's just recognizing the times when actually it's okay to be vulnerable and you will still be loved in the same way. Yeah

00:18:59Things are down to the wire now with the two of you. It's make or break

00:19:04If you are to stay for another week together

00:19:07We're gonna need to see some real change from both of you

00:19:11Okay, Casper, let's go to you what's your decision I

00:19:19Thought long and hard about it. It's not been easy

00:19:25But we're about halfway through this process

00:19:29I'm not happy and

00:19:33I decided that the best thing for me to do would be to leave

00:19:42Okay

00:19:46And to you Emma

00:19:51I've been flitting between the two

00:19:54the last

00:19:56three days

00:19:58We came to the dinner party last night

00:20:00And we had a nice night did up until the honesty box came out

00:20:07And I woke up this morning

00:20:09Conflicted again, I

00:20:12Wanted to ask you guys what I can do to improve

00:20:17And I want to give you the opportunity to say that I can't change

00:20:22So it's okay

00:20:31Well as you both know if one partner says stay and the other says leave

00:20:36You will both stay for another week to continue to work on the relationship

00:20:44How does that sit with you Casper

00:20:46You

00:21:02You will both stay for another week to continue to work on the relationship

00:21:10How does that sit with you Casper

00:21:16You

00:21:22I would give everything a hundred percent. I work hard everything I do so and I will listen I will take feedback on board

00:21:31We need to see

00:21:32Not just positive Emma. Yeah, but the whole of Emma. I hear you. I do. Thank you. Thank you so much

00:21:40Thank you

00:21:41Thank you

00:21:46You next up on the couch Ross and Sasha

00:22:00Welcome

00:22:03So, can we talk about in-laws week, how was it?

00:22:06All I wanted to do was see my dad and just be like you're gonna be so happy with you

00:22:10I've ended up with like I feel like Ross is every dad's dream partner for the daughter

00:22:16Obviously, I want to look to him with them. They're not fucking

00:22:22But yeah, that's sweet it was good so then Ross, how does it feel to have her father's approval?

00:22:30All the maiden feeling because I don't know how close them to her

00:22:33I know we're married and my job to protect and I understood everything that I need to stay to a dad and it made him

00:22:40Happy start. Yes, but I made him okay. This is good in-laws week was good

00:22:46So I'm curious though. Is there anything that you reflected on that? You like to now come and tell us?

00:22:50I feel like Ross does so much for me

00:22:53Does all these little romantic things to like make my day and I just wanted to know what would give him butterflies?

00:23:00When I ask him these things, he's like, oh you're doing great. No

00:23:06It might just be because I meet his main needs which are communication and support but what would like make him think oh god

00:23:14That was lovely when Sasha did that. Yeah, you know, I mean, guess what you have the opportunity to ask him right now

00:23:23What could all you do on a day that would give you butterflies or make you happy

00:23:29They won't do everything make me both fine

00:23:34That's you don't know because I'm already a piece day

00:23:38I've a thought here part of what Ross is telling you which is incredibly

00:23:45Romantic is he's saying Sasha you're enough. She's enough. Yeah

00:23:56But no you could tell you can tell you see you are enough, all right, but I have no doubt that he feels love

00:24:03He has told me

00:24:14There I mean

00:24:30Yes, that's what we're here for I lost bench up I

00:24:34Just appreciate so much. So sweet

00:24:38blush, you know

00:24:42Can we go to a decision

00:24:44So we've got to that love mark now. I

00:24:47Was hoping I'd find it's a bit mad that I actually have and I've got this dream man

00:24:53and I'm really proud of us and

00:24:56Yes, so I said

00:24:59Stay

00:25:06When I first thought I knew gonna be the one

00:25:09This we mean the family's made us longer I should

00:25:21Thank you look forward to seeing you next week, thank you so much

00:25:39Next up to the couch Holly and Alex

00:25:51Hey guys, hi. Hello. We love you to see the two of you

00:25:56So it was quite a dramatic dinner party last night. I

00:26:01Mean coming into the dinner party. We had a good week prior to that. Yeah, everything was sweet

00:26:07There wasn't any inkling in my mind that something was up with Holly

00:26:16Holly can you maybe see Alex point of view that actually he goes into a dinner party and that it can feel quite

00:26:23Blindsided by the fact that you're mentioning how you feel when he thinks that you're actually quite good

00:26:29for me

00:26:31In past relationships when there's been confrontation

00:26:34I've always felt more secure in an open environment when there's other people there just because it makes me feel protected

00:26:42When me and Alex have had arguments before they do get very confrontational

00:26:47That's probably why I do bring things to the dinner party because I feel as it's a safe space for me

00:26:52There's speaking in private and then there's the dinner party. Yeah where there's like 20 people

00:26:58Everybody's gonna see us and then it's like, oh they're having issues. It's like

00:27:03At the end of the day if I feel like I need to speak to my husband

00:27:06Then I should be able to do that without there being a problem

00:27:08You know, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks why we're talking but why wait until the dinner party where there's 20 people when?

00:27:16We've been around

00:27:18company two three people

00:27:21And even when we did come you came away from the 20 people so we were still alone in the end

00:27:26Anyway, so what do you make of that then?

00:27:30You want to show

00:27:36You're letting it out at the most embarrassing of times at dinner parties

00:27:45It's not adding up to me this is some bullshit

00:27:49I

00:27:56Think because the two of you have committed to

00:27:59Working on managing conflict. I would definitely praise you Holly that you took on that advice. You spoke in a calm manner

00:28:07But I think what happens sometimes in this dynamic is that an argument that could be squashed in five seconds seems to escalate

00:28:16It's stupidness and we even spoke and I said I'm asking you to respect me

00:28:22And my decision that I don't want to speak right now

00:28:25but you pushed and pushed and pushed I

00:28:29Heard Alex, but for me, I'm a panicker. So

00:28:32Instantly I was like, I don't want to go to bed on an argument like I just want to put it to bed

00:28:37And I want to saw it

00:28:38We have been really good Alex. I this week we have laughed with giggled

00:28:46Sometimes I want to be like

00:28:47Just give it up. Do you know I mean like but I can't do that because I know it'll just go

00:28:53And I really don't want that

00:28:57Guys let's look at how we can move forward with this situation

00:29:01something happens when

00:29:04Conflict arises, but it's how it's said

00:29:07It's all the other body language that you may not be aware of that makes the other person feel like oh my gosh

00:29:13We're gonna go into combat here again

00:29:15There's a perception of me. I can't help the way I look I can't help the way my face expression is

00:29:20And this can't help your facial expression. That's behavior

00:29:24It's just my face. It just does what it does Alex you do it

00:29:28your brain controls your face and I I do wonder if this could be one of the missing pieces for you is

00:29:33Not being aware of the nonverbal communication that comes across

00:29:37I noticed that if you disagree with something even something we're saying your face is all

00:29:41Screwed up and you're looking angry and you're doing something with your chest

00:29:45You might not be aware of this but only 7% of your communication is the words

00:29:50Yeah

00:29:5193% comes across nonverbally and I think there could be something here for you in terms of just becoming a bit more aware of it

00:29:56and the impact on Holly definitely I

00:30:00think I focus so much on the verbal communication because look at me like if I start raising my voice it just

00:30:07automatically comes across

00:30:08Confrontational and aggressive intimidating all this kind of stuff. So I put such an emphasis on making sure I'm not raising my voice

00:30:14That maybe I'm not paying attention to the nonverbal communications. That's growth what we're talking about there

00:30:21But you have to work on the conflict resolution because I do feel like you guys have something good here

00:30:27If you can just work on the conflict, so let's go to the decisions

00:30:34Holly if we can start with you

00:30:38I feel like since the last commitment ceremony we have worked on the boundaries

00:30:43So that is a really good start for me that showing that we can do it

00:30:49For me it's about learning to address things because I know how when we argue it just goes bulls

00:30:59But

00:31:00You make me feel beautiful every day

00:31:03You make sure I'm always fed and watered you make me a brew every morning and you know

00:31:09They are the qualities that I love about you

00:31:12Yeah, I have chose to stay

00:31:20And over to you Alex

00:31:33When me and Holly are good, we're very good. I'm just tired of going over the same thing

00:31:44I've been blindsided so many times the trust isn't there for me

00:31:48I've been blindsided so many times the trust isn't there for me

00:31:57Tired of it

00:31:59Because it's just communication

00:32:02if we can just get this part, right then

00:32:07I

00:32:09I'm not sure I'm not sure I'm not sure

00:32:12I'm not sure I'm not sure

00:32:14I'm not sure I'm not sure

00:32:16I'm not sure I'm not sure

00:32:18Then

00:32:20It'll be amazing, you know

00:32:23When Holly's happy, there's nobody I'd rather be around

00:32:26I'm having fun when we're not at each other's throat

00:32:30So for that reason I've chosen to stay

00:32:40If you guys can make this work then I think this could be a beautiful relationship genuinely, thank you guys

00:32:47Well done

00:32:58Okay, next up to the couch we have Ryan and Shannon

00:33:07Hello

00:33:09Welcome

00:33:10Lovely to see the two of you together. So you've had your wedding. Tell me about your first impressions

00:33:18She was my type 20

00:33:20The initial sexual attraction has to be there. And obviously when I look at her, it's obviously that

00:33:26Personality's good. She's got manners. What more could I ask for though? And Shannon?

00:33:31What was your first impression when you when you met Ryan? I thought he was a pretty boy

00:33:36Obviously, he's like ridiculously handsome

00:33:38I'm not used to having somebody that's so attractive

00:33:41So it has taken me a little bit to get used to well

00:33:44I said to Shannon I said listen, you don't need to be worried about anything. I

00:33:48Will not get a wondering eye and that will be me. I've only got eyes for her anyway, and that's that

00:33:54I mean even just looking at the two of you here. I feel like there's a real connection here

00:33:58Like the body language is really powerful. You look super comfortable in each other's

00:34:04Presence would you say physical intimacy is in the place that it needs to be?

00:34:10What happens behind closed doors will stay behind closed doors

00:34:13I love that as a response, but obviously I'm trained in looking at body language. I'll just smile

00:34:20She knows

00:34:22And I know it's quite early on in the experiment for the two of you

00:34:26But what would you say are maybe some of the bumps that you've found that's happened in the relationship from my situation?

00:34:33It's been perfect with Shannon. So and we have a lot to relate to as well. Obviously, I've had cancer twice a dad passed away

00:34:40With cancer I've supported her on that. Yeah, there was a night on the honeymoon that I got like pretty upset

00:34:46When I was bawling my eyes out and like he gave me like a space to feel comfortable

00:34:52Opening up about it and be an emotional and I've never really been like that with anyone

00:34:56I think we like proper bonded that night didn't be 100% you know, I've got you

00:35:01You guys have seen some interesting things in life at quite a young age

00:35:05So maybe it's given you a different perspective

00:35:08But maybe helps you to also appreciate each other so much more as well and have fun. Yeah, we have so much fun together

00:35:15Life's too short. You're a once and I think I just want to be happy and enjoy my time

00:35:20I will experience it with someone and I've got Shannon now and I hope this can continue. I

00:35:26Really love this connection. So I'm really happy to see what's developing here, which is fabulous

00:35:33So now it's time for the decisions Shannon. Would you like to start? I mean, I don't think I need to say a whole lot

00:35:40I think it's very obvious

00:35:45Ryan what's your decision? Yeah, I've came here and to be honest, I didn't think I'd get the person that I've got though

00:35:55Well, Ryan Shannon, we hope that you go from strength to strength, thank you Paul. Thank you. Thank you

00:36:10Next up

00:36:15Polly and Adam

00:36:17I

00:36:22Love you to

00:36:24Couple dressing. Yeah

00:36:29So last week on the couch here one of the big topics for you two was intimacy

00:36:34It was interesting to hear you Adam

00:36:36Announced to the group that the two of you are now officially out of the friendzone. Yeah

00:36:44Yes, we're fully supportive of the sex

00:36:48I've

00:36:50Realized I was being stubborn. I was stuck on the type thing and I was probably giving Polly

00:36:5670%

00:36:57Now I'm having little cuddles in bed kisses and it feels like a relationship now, don't it? Yeah, what's different for you this way?

00:37:03I think because I felt like there was like that spark missing

00:37:07I was just plodding along hoping it was gonna come but because obviously we're not being intimate and kissing and cuddling and stuff like

00:37:14Maybe would never come so I feel like now I'm giving it 100% and it don't feel like I'm living with my best friend anymore

00:37:21Okay, and how's it been for you? Polly really good. Yeah, I feel like I've got what I've needed from Adam

00:37:28So it sounds like you've made this great leap from friends to

00:37:33Sexual partners. I'm interested in this bit in the middle the emotional intimacy in that that connection that is beyond friendship

00:37:41Can you tell me a bit about how that's developed?

00:37:43I feel like because the intimacy side of it has now come you are now more vulnerable with someone

00:37:49I do feel like it brought us closer

00:37:52So I feel like it's a good step in the right direction

00:37:55And I have realized that I was the problem because I wasn't letting Polly in

00:38:00Polly if you were to be really honest with yourself now, what would you say you need from Adam? I genuinely just more PDA

00:38:09to be

00:38:10Almost proud that he's with me and that he doesn't care and that he's secure enough in himself that it's not just for us

00:38:16Joe, I mean your sense of

00:38:19Security and self-esteem is very much tied up in the way other people see the two of you as a couple

00:38:26So if receiving PDA from your partner, does that help you to feel a bit more secure in the relationship?

00:38:32I would definitely say it's a sense of security for me. I think it's a sense of

00:38:37Reassurance for me as well because I've always been made to feel so unsure. So that comes from me what's missing

00:38:44Come and give me a kiss when I'm doing something or be more touchy-feely with me more compliments. I mean just more

00:38:52It's more of everything

00:38:54Adam you're sitting here nodding and agreeing

00:38:58Do you really understand what needs to change here?

00:39:01I need to just give Polly more just even just a little things because I know the little things mean a lot to Polly

00:39:07I could tell like how

00:39:09Polly's mood change just from having a little cuddle a little kiss. This is so out of my comfort zone

00:39:15It's new it's completely new and I want to learn and I want to be better good on you

00:39:21All right, you guys we're gonna go to the decision Polly we'll start with you, please

00:39:26We have had a really good week it has been really insightful and really helpful for both of us, I think

00:39:33So I have chosen to stay

00:39:38And to you Adam

00:39:40this probably the best week we've had I feel like we've got closer and

00:39:46I'm excited to see what happens from here. So

00:39:50I'll put stay as well

00:39:53All right, you two will keep listening to each other keep asking for what you need and keep doing the sex

00:40:08Next up Rochelle and all said

00:40:22So lovely to see the two of you

00:40:25Talk me through how your week has been

00:40:29It's been a little bit up and down I would say

00:40:32We had our first argument

00:40:35Our argument stemmed from something that came out a couple days after the wedding that he's an actor

00:40:40So I'm kind of like so are you playing a role here? Are we here for different reasons?

00:40:44And so I brought that up, but I didn't really get anything back

00:40:49Now, of course, we know

00:40:50Orson isn't an actor. That's a hobby. He's an engineer

00:40:54But it feels like it kind of brought up something in you around trust. Oh, yeah, definitely definitely

00:41:00But when I tried to address it

00:41:03shut down

00:41:04So nothing progresses

00:41:09You know, I have a question there was a comment that you made Rochelle last night

00:41:13It's just been weighing weighing on weighing on you

00:41:17You were asked is

00:41:19Orson the man that you need? Okay, and do you remember you said no

00:41:24You essentially said he wasn't masculine enough. I

00:41:29Took it fucking personal. I really did for a man. That's pretty cutthroat, right?

00:41:36For me a strong masculine man is somebody who has his own mind

00:41:41Masculinity is leadership and I just don't feel that I'm getting that right now

00:41:47I'm not sure I could trust Orson to lead me

00:41:53But is there space within a relationship to have that discussion but I need to get some value to I

00:42:01Need to learn something as well

00:42:03I've just been raising my child for the last 20 years

00:42:06I don't need to be another teacher and lead like can there be some balance here?

00:42:11I'm not convinced. We have a future

00:42:29I'm not convinced. We have a future

00:42:40Have you really not been able to learn anything from Orson at all

00:42:47Also, not can you answer that because I actually can't think of anything it's your question I can't think of anything

00:42:56Awesome what does it feel like to hear Rochelle say that she has learned nothing from you?

00:43:03It doesn't feel good

00:43:06The

00:43:07Switch for me if I'm being totally like transparent and honest

00:43:12We decided to have a deep conversation because it was like right we never had that list. Let's have a deep conversation

00:43:19And she said like Austin you don't really stimulate me mentally

00:43:24So yeah, it was he was a tough fucking week

00:43:26I can't lie if I'm being totally honest feel something in me that just maybe switched off a little bit

00:43:33I didn't know that that I mean this is the first I'm hearing that me saying that made him switch off

00:43:39Then you hadn't brought that up

00:43:42One thing that we're seeing I think tonight is that the two of you do need to

00:43:48Communicate more clearly and openly with one another you ask your partner. What are you feeling in this moment?

00:43:54How can I help you? How can I support you more? Yes, I agree

00:43:59Okay, so let's go to decisions

00:44:02Should we start with Rochelle, okay?

00:44:09I definitely

00:44:11knew I was committing to the process we did speak about whether we should leave and

00:44:18Also said that he would like to have the experts advice and he felt it was too soon

00:44:23so for that reason I

00:44:26wrote stay

00:44:32Also, what's your decision?

00:44:36If I walked away from this experiment not understanding why we're clashing

00:44:43Can we resolve stuff? I can't just leave until I know otherwise. I'll be doing myself an injustice so

00:44:50And that note I've decided to stay

00:44:53Hey

00:44:59Hey guys, so another week of a lot more work a lot more openness and good effective communication

00:45:06Okay, there's things that I like in Rochelle. Hence. The reason why I'm still standing here. I

00:45:12Think there's hope because there's this just something there. Can we both?

00:45:18find that something I

00:45:20I

00:45:22Don't know I

00:45:25Do feel a little bit irritated with Orson

00:45:28He said he wanted to stay and then he gets on the sofa tonight and starts bringing up all this stuff that he'd never mentioned

00:45:34to me I

00:45:35Stayed in the process when he knew I didn't want to and I sacrificed my daughter's birthday for that cretin

00:45:41So definitely gonna let him know how I feel

00:45:47Next up on the couch

00:45:49Kieran and Christina. Yeah

00:45:55Hey

00:45:57How are you both?

00:45:58brilliant

00:45:59Brilliant week. Okay. So was in-laws week who came to visit you?

00:46:03My mom came to visit me and my best friend came to visit me. All right now

00:46:09What did best friend have to say about our boy Kieran? Oh

00:46:13She

00:46:14Absolutely loved him. Oh

00:46:16She cared about was just seeing me happy and she was like I haven't seen you this happy and so long

00:46:24This is good. So what did mom think of?

00:46:27Steena army little mom loves loves Christina a bit

00:46:30She knew what the wedding that we were a really good match and she loved the energy the wedding

00:46:35It's just nice for me mom to see that I had continued on throughout and yeah

00:46:38It's just really happy to say we're both really happy and happy to say our son happy, of course. Yeah, absolutely

00:46:45So every week getting better, okay

00:46:47How strong are your emotions towards each other today?

00:46:52Very strong. I agree. I care about Christina a lot and when she feels something I feel it as well

00:47:00And I feel in terms of emotion. We'll both feel each other the same way. Mm-hmm. I agree

00:47:06All right, this is good so you don't even need us anymore then I

00:47:13Appreciate that the only thing was that I'm very very touchy feely all

00:47:22But we literally haven't and I really hope you don't mind me no, no

00:47:25but we literally haven't been able to kiss or like probably be intimate since the

00:47:31honeymoon

00:47:33Put another head on me lip like

00:47:39But you've wanted to

00:47:55Keep looking at it every day. I'm like, right let's go and it's really good. It's really good. It's allowed it to have a bit more

00:48:01Emotional emotional connection. Yeah, which is really

00:48:05Yeah, which is really benefited us. So it's been a bit of a blessing in disguise. I think I love it

00:48:10I love it. You're the optimist here the optimist. Yeah

00:48:13All right. Can we go to a decision? Yeah, okay Karen you go first

00:48:18Every week we get stronger and stronger

00:48:21And I'm really proud of everything that we're doing together

00:48:25And I'm really excited to see what the next few weeks are gonna bring and you are incredible

00:48:30For that reason I have wrought steel

00:48:39This was a really easy one

00:48:40I'm really happy like with how far we've come and I am just looking forward to having more fun with you

00:48:48So I'm gonna stay

00:48:55Yeah, this is really good we love the affection I love how you both look at each other in the eyes

00:49:00When you're referring to each other that's affirming your partner right there

00:49:03So continue to continue and hopefully the cold sore goes down. Oh, you're telling me

00:49:10Thank you so much

00:49:24Next up to the couch Nathan and Lacey

00:49:30How

00:49:37Has the last week been for the two of you it's been good it's been good had a Lacey's and mum and sister around this week

00:49:44Put my foot in it a little bit with it with some banter. I

00:49:48Did say tread careful my mum and sister. They're very sensitive and Nathan. What did you say?

00:49:54I do this thing with lace where like if I cook or something I say, oh, sorry about presentations bit like bottom bin in it

00:50:00That bottom of the beam. Yeah, I say bottom bin. But yeah, so I was like, I can't eat this but like bottom bin in it

00:50:07and I left

00:50:10Didn't realize this is mum can take banner even though he told me because they're so similar with their mannerisms

00:50:16I thought I just drop it in there. But yeah, no emotions completely changed. She did get upset. Yeah

00:50:22Yeah, obviously it was literally the second time they've met

00:50:25Too much. Yeah. Yeah, I did forget. Yeah

00:50:28Maybe you didn't sort of read the room. I thought fuck because obviously their opinion means so much to me

00:50:36So I was a bit guided and I did want the ground to swallow me up

00:50:39I can see how much it meant to both of you to impress your family

00:50:44I said it was probably nerves and he was trying to humor you because he was nervous

00:50:48I said he's not like that and they listened to me and I just loved the fact that they was like

00:50:53We're not gonna judge him on this. I was like, please don't

00:50:57Just don't just cooking food, you know, never again

00:51:02Banner and no one in that family. No way

00:51:04It's all right

00:51:06but dodgy filter I

00:51:11Think it's very clear to see that you guys in a really good place and

00:51:15Yesterday at the dinner party Nathan you said that you were falling for Lacey

00:51:19You know, I definitely do have a lot of love for Lacey and I definitely can see that growing here

00:51:26Would you say that emotionally you're opening up more? Yeah

00:51:30Speaking in front of loads of people especially people that I knew and you don't necessarily know it was just a bit awkward, you know

00:51:36Yeah, no, if that's what she wanted. Yeah, he gave me exactly what I wanted to hear

00:51:40You know, it's always such a pleasure to have the two of you

00:51:43On the couch because you can really see the progress and dare I say the love developing between the two of you. Yeah

00:51:50Let's go to a decision. So Nathan if we can start with you

00:51:54I'm learning more and more about myself. And yeah looking forward to what's more to come like, you know

00:52:01For that reason I'm gonna stay

00:52:08And Lacey what's your decision very happy do for all I found my person it's been Prince. Sorry

00:52:15So I said stay baby

00:52:17I

00:52:22Can't wait to see how you guys develop next week. So good luck

00:52:34Love you, too

00:52:38And last up on the couch we have Hannah and Steven

00:52:48Right, hey guys gonna be explosive

00:52:53Welcome

00:52:54Okay. So this body language right here

00:52:58This is incredibly frosty. I mean you can't sit further apart

00:53:03So where did it go wrong? He needs to answer that

00:53:08The first couple of days on the moon were great

00:53:13and

00:53:14then we had a

00:53:16Massive blow up because I just spoke my truth. What was your truth? It was the Hannah show

00:53:25And then during the argument

00:53:28Hannah was gonna use something against me. I told her in confidence, which was really close to my heart

00:53:33They just still won't go into because it's so personal

00:53:36Hannah shouted back at me saying I thought we weren't gonna talk about things that we spoke about behind closed doors

00:53:42So if you want to talk about things that have been said in confidence, why don't we?

00:53:46Then she stopped

00:53:48Although she said she wasn't gonna use it what she was gonna say isn't fucking ammunition

00:53:54I didn't say it and I respect you. I wasn't gonna say it. I was never gonna say it

00:53:58I respect you didn't say it, but you know, believe me

00:54:02Correct, even that thought

00:54:05Come into your head to use I didn't I came in to be brutally honest. I'm full of resentment

00:54:12Okay, which which is a very strong word

00:54:14So just so we're all clear you told Hannah something in confidence and you feel as if she used it as

00:54:21Ammunition against you. I've tried forgetting about it

00:54:25but every time in the back of my head, I'm like I can't get my head around someone that would

00:54:30Even though you said you wouldn't do it

00:54:32But it's what I'm feeling and it's what I think you were going to do and it's really hard to get past that I would

00:54:36Never do that to you. I would never do that to a human being

00:54:39But you don't believe me. So we're fucked

00:54:45I

00:54:47Think this is a great opportunity to apologize to him

00:54:52I'm so sorry, and I genuinely was never going to and you don't believe me, but I was never and I never will I never would

00:55:02Whether you're my partner whether you're my husband whether you whatever you you're a person in my life

00:55:05And I would never ever ever disrespect someone like that in public or private. I would never do it

00:55:14Can you accept Hannah's apology

00:55:45Can you accept Hannah's apology

00:55:55No

00:56:02It caught deep and it still does okay

00:56:08And what seems to be very apparent is this threatened secret?

00:56:12I don't think I even threatened it. I just felt like I was being attacked and I needed to protect myself

00:56:17Even though you're saying your intention was never to reveal the secret you've damaged the trust there. Can you say that? Yeah

00:56:26Trust can be built back, but it takes a hell of a lot of effort to build it back

00:56:32Hannah's is that something that you're willing to put in?

00:56:43I didn't see the point

00:56:46It's dead in it

00:56:50So, let me ask this why are you still here you came here to sit here what what what what can we help you with

00:56:57I don't know what you can do. I

00:56:59Genuinely don't know. Yeah. Why did you come here in the first place? Why do you enter this experiment to meet my person?

00:57:06This is like it was my genuine last-ditch attempt to find my person. Okay

00:57:13What

00:57:15Has happened?

00:57:17Clearly has derailed

00:57:19This relationship, but what you have to remember is how you felt

00:57:24walking into the experiment and

00:57:26The work that it requires you is to step outside of your ego and say, you know what?

00:57:32I'm going to step out on faith. I'm gonna step out on vulnerability, right?

00:57:37That's the hard work. But the question is are you going to do it?

00:57:43I

00:57:48Go to the decision, okay

00:57:53Hannah if you can go first

00:57:57Okay, I'm gonna take a risk I've got feelings for you I don't want to quit on the first week and I want to stay

00:58:13I

00:58:18Been tossing and turning over this clock completely

00:58:23As soon as you lose

00:58:25Trusting someone I've never had that in a relationship and it's hit me harder than I thought it actually would

00:58:33And I can't sit here and say all those things I've just said and then say I'm gonna say so

00:58:43You

00:58:44Know the rules

00:58:46Okay, when one partner writes stay you stay and you continue to work on your relationship

00:58:54So you'll be here for another week. I know I've signed up for okay

00:58:58Will you work on your marriage?

00:59:03I'll try my best

00:59:05Okay, that's fair. That's fair. All right. Thank you both

00:59:12I

00:59:17Genuinely no idea what it'll take for her to win me back

00:59:21But I knew I signed up to in this process and she's my wife. So I'll give it a go

00:59:29It's shit for someone to sit there and say I'm holding on to this one mistake you made and I resent you for it

00:59:34I'm massively regret that this all is stemmed from that one comment if I could take it back. I would

00:59:40I've tried every single day to make this work

00:59:43Why can't we just start fresh build a friendship and see how we go?

00:59:46Because I feel like that's what a lot of people here have done

00:59:48I signed up to this experiment to find a husband to fall in love. So I'm not gonna give up at the first hurdle

00:59:54I'm not a quitter

00:59:56It's on him the balls in his court

01:00:01Next time

01:00:04The couple's head off to a country retreat nice

01:00:08We're claiming this room while it marks a fresh start for Emma and Casper

01:00:12I actually don't know how to accept showing my vulnerable side about your questioning something again

01:00:17I need to change something about myself that sharing vulnerability back to progress. Could it spell the end for Rochelle and Dawson?

01:00:23It's fine for you to say you bore me. Is it fine for you to lie?

01:00:28You're a fraud and I've seen through you and group gossip about new bride Hannah

01:00:33After the commitment ceremony when Stephen was walking towards her

01:00:36She said to also not hold my hand making jealous puts her firmly in the firing line with husband Stephen

01:00:42You behave you're after has been terrible. So I can't even have fun to and try and make friends while I'm here. I'm out

01:00:48I'm getting so sick of people throwing under the bus get me off this fucking TV show

01:00:58You

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