JHELA is a trans woman from the Philippines. She transitioned two years ago. Just under nine months ago, Jhela matched with Juno on Facebook dating; they both openly admit they met up in a hotel for nothing but fun and what they both assumed would be a one night stand... Juno knew that Jhela was trans and had said to her that he didn't want to have a relationship with her because she is a trans woman and he was scared about the stigma. Juno considers himself a straight Cis man and says he “wasn't sure” at the start because of Jhela’s new gender identity. However, they both say that the first night they met they did have fun together, but also shared an unexpected connection on a deeper level and spent every day of the next two weeks together. They went on romantic dates rather than just meeting in a hotel and enjoyed getting to know each other. After two weeks, Jhela gave Juno an ultimatum; she wanted to be able to label their relationship as something real so told Juno to either make it official with her or it's over! Juno wanted to experience love and asked Jhela to be his girlfriend officially and they moved in together just a couple of weeks later. The couple face judgement online; people have trolled Jhel warning her Juno will get bored and leave her for a biological woman so he can become a father. People online have accused Jhela of love bombing and gaslighting Juno to be with her, she denies this and says she treats him better than other women have.
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00:00I'm Jonna, a transgender woman.
00:02I'm Juno, a straight guy.
00:04We get a lot of hate comments for being together.
00:07Both gay.
00:08Both gays.
00:09They're saying like we're both gays in love.
00:11No. I know for a fact that I'm a straight guy.
00:14Juno is just using me. Juno just wants money from me.
00:18Juno will replace me with another biological woman.
00:21Cassandra, my friend, is coming over today.
00:23It's her first time to meet Juno.
00:25I was kind of skeptical, you know, whether they'll last long
00:28because really, some guys are just experimenting.
00:33We met on a dating app and during our first meet-up,
00:36we decided to have one-night stands,
00:38but then we actually talked a lot.
00:41We actually cried during that time.
00:44We got a connection.
00:46And then after that, during our second meet-up,
00:48we decided not to have sex.
00:51I already mentioned to him that I'm a trans
00:55because I don't want him to waste his time
00:57messaging me multiple times
00:59without him knowing that I'm a trans.
01:01And I don't want him to feel that I'm catfishing.
01:04I realized that I'm a trans during college,
01:07but when I was a kid,
01:09I always believed that I was trapped in a wrong body.
01:13I know to myself that I'm a woman
01:15and I know that I'm not a gay or I'm not a guy.
01:18At first, it's very hard for me to decide
01:21whether I wanted to pursue this relationship
01:24because, you know, as a straight guy,
01:26obviously, I like biological women.
01:28The first few months, I really felt like
01:31he is treating me as a woman.
01:33That's why I trusted him immediately.
01:36And then I fell in love immediately
01:39because of how he took care of me during that time.
01:43But at first, a bit afraid of the consequences
01:46that I'm having because...
01:48The judgment.
01:49The judgment, yes.
01:50Criticism that we might have,
01:52which is happening right now, but we really don't care.
01:55At first, I'm afraid, but now...
01:58Nah, I don't care.
02:01Because I know for a fact that I'm a straight guy.
02:04Some of my friends are asking me,
02:06why did I do this?
02:07Why did I enter in this kind of relationship?
02:09I always answer, why not?
02:10It's not a big deal, though.
02:12What I really love the most about Juno
02:14is that ever since our first meet-up,
02:17he always holds my hand in public.
02:20I feel like it's very important for me
02:23to have a relationship with a guy
02:25who's very proud of me regardless of my gender.
02:28Alright, so this is one of my photos
02:31before I transitioned.
02:33This one.
02:34I feel like I really look different here
02:37the way I present myself.
02:39Before I transitioned,
02:40I always wanted to look masculine
02:42because I don't want people to bully me for being gay.
02:46So I try to really fit into the society.
02:50But, you know, it's not me.
02:51I'm not really happy about it.
02:53I've come a long way.
02:55My God.
02:56I'm a bit shocked
02:57because I don't usually see her like that.
03:01Way different person.
03:03Looking back,
03:04I'm really happy with my decision of transitioning
03:07because now I'm happier.
03:10I'm more confident about myself.
03:13And at the same time,
03:14I don't need to hide myself from other people.
03:17Ever since we posted our videos online,
03:20of course, we're getting a lot of support
03:22from other people.
03:23But at the same time,
03:24we're also getting so much hate.
03:26Sometimes they will say that
03:28Juno is just using me financially.
03:31Or maybe Juno is really not a straight guy.
03:34That's why he fell in love with me.
03:36There's a negative comment.
03:37There's a negative comment here.
03:39Both gays.
03:40They're saying like we're both gays.
03:42Gays in love.
03:43Forgive them father
03:45for they do not know what they're doing.
03:47Ew, disgusting.
03:49The guy likes him because of money.
03:51Nah, I have a job.
03:53You have a job.
03:54A lot of people will think that
03:56a straight guy is just using a chance.
03:58That's why they're together.
03:59They will tell you that it's because
04:01they just want to get money from the transgender woman.
04:04Or maybe they're just curious.
04:06But in our situation,
04:07we really love each other.
04:09And that's what I want to show
04:11in my videos online.
04:12That the straight and the trans couple can work.
04:17Cassandra, my friend, is coming over.
04:19It's her first time to meet Juno.
04:20So I'm very, very excited.
04:22Because I feel like she'll make a lot of comments.
04:25Maybe good and bad.
04:26I don't know.
04:27I knew Jalove and
04:29you know, I met her first year in college.
04:32I was kind of shocked that
04:33she told me that she was trans.
04:35Because, you know, like
04:37she was alright being a gay man before.
04:40She was doing good.
04:41So I was kind of shocked that
04:42she kind of figured herself out
04:44that she was trans.
04:45Since she told me that she dated a guy,
04:48I was kind of skeptical.
04:49The doubts was, you know,
04:51whether they'll last long.
04:53Because really, some guys are just experimenting.
04:56So, some of the negative comments that we're getting,
05:00you being gay because
05:03you have a relationship with a trans,
05:05that's what they're talking about.
05:07What's your opinion about that?
05:09Honestly, dating someone that's trans
05:13isn't gonna make you gay.
05:16Because physically and spiritually,
05:19you're attracted to someone
05:20because they're feminine.
05:22And being trans, you're feminine.
05:24You're not attracted to that trans person
05:26because they're a guy before.
05:30You see the person as a person.
05:32And you love the person because, you know.
05:34And at the same time,
05:35if you're gay,
05:36you're only attracted to someone
05:38who is very masculine,
05:40who is living as a guy.
05:42There are other people saying that
05:44I'm using you and money
05:47for pastime or something.
05:52You know the thing is,
05:53why people say that?
05:56It's because some trans people stigmatize.
05:59Yeah.
06:00Like, they made it the standard.
06:02Yeah, they stick with it.
06:03And people, you know, think that
06:06just because you like someone,
06:08you have to pay them.
06:09And that's when you're trans.
06:10That's true.
06:11When you're trans,
06:12you have to pay them to like you back.
06:14That's crazy.
06:15In reality, a lot of biological men
06:17are also using biological women,
06:20not just trans.
06:21That's true.
06:22It's not only happening to the trans community,
06:25but also to straight people as well.
06:27So I don't understand why
06:29when there's a relationship
06:31between biological men and women,
06:33they don't give comments like that.
06:36But when it comes to trans people
06:38and at the same time straight,
06:41they keep on commenting.
06:43Do you trust Juno?
06:46Yeah, of course I trust Juno.
06:48They've been together for quite a long time.
06:50You know, like their ups and downs.
06:52I feel secure in the relationship
06:53and I trust both of them.
06:55And, you know, I'm happy.
06:57They're good.
07:01I'm gonna cry.
07:02No, just kidding.
07:03Just like the relationship
07:05of biological men and women,
07:08I think our relationship is just so normal also.
07:11It's just the same.
07:12She's like a safe space for me.
07:14And also, she's pretty.
07:19I think the best advice that I could give
07:22to other trans and straight couples out there
07:25is, you know, just to keep loving each other.
07:29Make the most out of it.
07:30Don't put your energy to other people's comment
07:34because at the end of the day,
07:36it's the both of you who will work your relationship
07:39to be healthy and for you guys to be together
07:42for a long time.
07:44Don't limit yourself and...
07:46Just go for it.
07:47Yeah, just go for it.
07:48Go with the flow.
07:49Disregard all their hate comments,
07:52all the bad comments, all their criticism.
07:54It's just between you and the world.
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