June 1 is World Narcissistic Abuse awareness day. Unlike physical abuse, narcissistic abuse leaves emotional and psychological scars. Do you suspect that someone might be a narcissist? Perhaps, a narcissistic friend, narcissistic boyfriend or girlfriend, or even a narcissistic parent. If you suspect that you yourself or someone you know might be narcissist, here are some signs to watch out for.
Also as a disclaimer: A narcissist is not the same as someone diagnosed with Narcissistic personality disorder. Someone with NPD would have to be officially diagnosed by a professional whereas a narcissist is more a layperson term for someone who shows the behaviour and tendency of someone who may or may not suffer from NPD. Also, do not use this video to completely diagnose yourself or others. Use it for insights only.
Source: Psych2Go
Also as a disclaimer: A narcissist is not the same as someone diagnosed with Narcissistic personality disorder. Someone with NPD would have to be officially diagnosed by a professional whereas a narcissist is more a layperson term for someone who shows the behaviour and tendency of someone who may or may not suffer from NPD. Also, do not use this video to completely diagnose yourself or others. Use it for insights only.
Source: Psych2Go
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00:00 The signature characteristics of many personality disorders can be quite unpleasant, such as
00:06 the case of narcissistic personality disorder.
00:10 Interacting with an MPD sufferer can be confusing, frustrating, and even hurtful.
00:16 The MPD individual will often overlook or ignore many of these traits that make them
00:21 unlikable.
00:22 Here are nine signs which may be a result of narcissism.
00:27 1. Instead of listening, they're wrapped up in their own opinion.
00:32 Ever felt looked down upon or ignored, even though that person was in no position to do
00:37 so?
00:38 You might have encountered a sign of narcissism.
00:42 Their perception leads them to believe what you have to say isn't important, so they
00:46 blank it out.
00:48 Rather than actively listening and integrating in discussions, they treat all conversations
00:53 as a platform to present their ideas only, which they think are the only ideas worth
00:59 listening to.
01:00 2. They tend to cheat in relationships.
01:06 Narcissists feel they're treasures that are too good for anyone.
01:09 Bring this attitude into a relationship and you have lightning waiting to strike.
01:15 Cheating is often a way for narcissists to build their ego.
01:19 Author Katerina Valentini at Psychology Today says that narcissists are incapable of forming
01:25 any kind of normal relationship and will wreak havoc in partners' lives.
01:30 Betraying someone and leaving them in great grief gives a narcissist a rush of power.
01:36 3. They constantly need to be admired.
01:41 If you've seen a narcissist, maybe you've seen that they almost swagger, oozing conceit
01:46 and arrogance with every breath.
01:49 They may look like they possess tremendous confidence, but it's not enough.
01:54 They need constant admiration.
01:57 The delusion of always being entitled to admiration is why people around them often find themselves
02:03 emotionally drained.
02:05 To them, there's no greater rush than being put on a pedestal and worshipped by their
02:09 fans and followers.
02:12 4. They do not take any criticism well.
02:16 Have you ever commented on something someone said and they lashed out at you?
02:21 Maybe the reaction was more hostile than expected.
02:25 They think they're superior to others around them and believe themselves to be infallible.
02:31 They react poorly, maybe yelling, throwing a tantrum, or with another unreasonable response
02:37 when they perceive what you've said might be criticism.
02:40 5. They exploit others without guilt or shame.
02:45 Narcissism and empathy don't go hand in hand.
02:50 Narcissists are unwilling to see the world from the perspective of others.
02:54 As a result, they're able to exploit others without any feeling of remorse.
02:59 They can manipulate people to fulfill their own needs without regard for the consequences
03:04 that their actions may have on others.
03:07 6. They belittle others.
03:11 The narcissist thinks they're the best and brightest, so seeing proof that dictates otherwise,
03:17 like someone who is more talented than they are at a particular activity, is a rude shock.
03:23 The response is to make sure that the person is below them, where the narcissist feels
03:28 most others belong.
03:30 They try to be dismissive about the other person, to show that they don't really even
03:34 care about them.
03:36 And if that doesn't work, they resort to personal attacks.
03:40 They belittle and intimidate the other person in order to assert their superiority over
03:44 them.
03:45 7. They see themselves as more attractive than they really are.
03:52 Despite the fact that everyone should feel attractive, there's a fine line between a
03:56 healthy self-image and being delusional.
04:00 This line is often crossed by narcissists who believe that they are exceptionally attractive,
04:05 regardless of having any imperfections.
04:08 The narcissist uses this perceived superior attractiveness to justify to themselves why
04:14 they're too good for everyone.
04:16 8. They gaslight those who are dear to them.
04:20 Have you ever noticed feeling that you can't remember anything correctly around a specific
04:26 person?
04:28 When you're with that person, do you feel a little like you've lost your mind?
04:33 It's due to gaslighting, a tactic narcissists use in order to manipulate and gain power
04:38 and control over those around them.
04:41 Gaslighting is frightening because it's insidious.
04:45 The manipulation is lengthy and gradual, so the victim doesn't notice it happening, like
04:50 when you grow taller.
04:53 The end result of the long-term gradual manipulation is the devastation of the victim.
04:59 It can reduce the most healthy, confident person down to being a shaking, paranoid shell.
05:05 The victim no longer believes they know what's real, so they adopt the reality of the abuser,
05:11 giving the narcissist full control.
05:14 9. They put some people on pedestals.
05:20 Our last sign seems oddly contradictory to the other signs, but it is very logical, and
05:26 here's why.
05:28 Narcissists believe that they have to have perfection in everything, including people
05:33 they associate with.
05:35 A narcissist will often cozy up to someone higher in status, believing that the perfection
05:41 will somewhat rub onto them.
05:43 For example, that suck-up in class who always gets the lecturer's full attention, or the
05:49 brown-noser at work who barely does any work but gets promotions.
05:54 Do you or does anyone you know show these signs of narcissism?
05:59 Tell us which sign or signs you find most helpful, and why in the comments below.
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06:13 As always, thank you for watching.