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90 Day: The Last Resort Season 2 Episode 17 Peace At Last
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90 Day: The Last Resort Season 2 Episode 17 Peace At Last
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00:00:00Hello, hello.
00:00:02You want a private bed?
00:00:06Previously on 90 Day The Last Resort.
00:00:14This is our final group therapy session.
00:00:18Each of you come up with one word to describe kind of where you're at at this moment in your relationship and in your marriage.
00:00:24I think my word is confusion.
00:00:27It doesn't make me feel very good that Sophie's this confused at this point.
00:00:31I'm only confused about what the hell does she want.
00:00:36Josh, I would love for you to look at her and just tell her directly where you are.
00:00:42I do love you and I do care for you.
00:00:45But I do have to let you go.
00:00:48Now my relationship with Josh is over.
00:00:50It kind of hurt my dignity a lot.
00:00:53Because I wasn't enough for him to commit to me, to be with me.
00:00:58I mean this hurts to do this, but I think it is best for both of us.
00:01:05We need to take every step seriously.
00:01:09And one of the main things is you talking to Matt.
00:01:16I agreed to meet Matt because Jasmine, she has this emotional connection with this guy already.
00:01:23That really worries me.
00:01:26Matt, can you hear me?
00:01:28Yeah, can you hear me?
00:01:54I love you.
00:01:56I love you.
00:01:58I love you.
00:02:00I love you.
00:02:24I'm sorry.
00:02:29So, as I told you Matt, right, Gino and I, we are in this retreat.
00:02:37And because we decided to be in this open marriage, we have to make an agreement for, like, the rules.
00:02:46It's very important for me, like, I have my husband approval of the person that is going to be part of this open marriage, which is you.
00:02:55And Gino is here and he can hear you.
00:02:57So I'm going to be here, just Gino has some questions for you.
00:03:02So go ahead, Gino.
00:03:05Hi Matt.
00:03:07Hey Gino, how are you?
00:03:09Good, how are you?
00:03:11Good.
00:03:16So, how did you guys first meet?
00:03:21At the gym.
00:03:27So, you two have never been intimate with each other yet?
00:03:34No, she's married. I try not to do anything like that to sabotage people's marriages because I think it's wrong.
00:03:42So, are you single now?
00:03:47Yeah, I am, yes.
00:03:50Have you ever had relationships in the past? Many relationships or a few?
00:03:58I've had quite a few, yeah, but I've never been married or anything.
00:04:03You've had quite a few?
00:04:05Yeah.
00:04:06One of the things that Jasmine and I already talked about, like one of the guidelines and such, was, you know, safe sex during the open relationship.
00:04:18Are you willing to agree to that on your end?
00:04:23Yeah, sure.
00:04:25This is such a weird conversation, I'm sorry.
00:04:28I understand, but it's an important question, right?
00:04:30I know, I feel it's strange, I'm sorry.
00:04:32You'll wear a condom if you have sex with Jasmine?
00:04:36Yeah, yep, of course.
00:04:38I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:04:40Yeah, I understand.
00:04:42I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:04:44I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:04:46I'm sorry.
00:04:48I'm sorry.
00:04:50I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
00:04:51You'll wear a condom if you have sex with Jasmine?
00:04:53Yeah, yep, of course.
00:04:57Okay.
00:04:59Let's say she's, you know, starting to fall in love or you have this really strong bond with you.
00:05:06Jasmine and I agreed that at that point we would have to end this because we don't want feelings to get involved or get too attached to each other.
00:05:18That's fine with me, but...
00:05:21I do think Jasmine is kind of fragile.
00:05:28So she does, you know, sometimes need a delicate way of handling her or talking to her.
00:05:36When I don't see that she is taken care of the way she should be, it's kind of heartbreaking because Jasmine is, you know, she can be a little bit of a brat, but she has a good heart.
00:05:52Um, you know, I appreciate that, but I'd rather just leave that between her and I.
00:06:01Okay.
00:06:09I knew this chat was going to be difficult, which is why I never wanted to do it, but it's turning out to be more difficult than I even imagined.
00:06:18Seeing Jasmine and Matt interact on the phone, it seems like they have this deep emotional connection already, and there's even a part of me that, you know, I just want to clock Matt right in the face, you know, and knock him over.
00:06:33I just, like, want to punch the guy.
00:06:36Well, I think I got all the information I needed through this first conversation.
00:06:41So does it mean that you are okay with Matt being the person that we are going to bring up in your open marriage, or you have to think about it?
00:06:57I don't know Matt that well, but from this moment, I'm okay with it at this moment.
00:07:04You know, nice meeting you. Jasmine, I'll see you when you get back to Michigan.
00:07:10Okay. To work out.
00:07:14No, to not work out.
00:07:17Oh, yeah.
00:07:19I told you I don't want to, like, a friendship.
00:07:22Okay. Okay.
00:07:25To have sex then.
00:07:33Okie dokie. Well, I hope you guys have a good day. Jasmine, make sure you drink your water and eat your food.
00:07:40I'm trying, I promise. Okay. Bye.
00:07:44Bye-bye.
00:07:45Bye.
00:07:51I don't like the way Matt talked to me.
00:07:54But unfortunately, I feel like I've been put in a corner by Jasmine as Matt being the only person she wants this open marriage with.
00:08:03And the recommitment ceremony is tomorrow.
00:08:05And I don't feel like I have another choice.
00:08:09I don't know.
00:08:12I just, I got a bad feeling inside.
00:08:16Can I hug you?
00:08:18I don't know.
00:08:20Remember what Reva said to reconnect. Give me a hug.
00:08:25I am very tense. It was very uncomfortable for me.
00:08:29I'm so f*****g confused.
00:08:32I mean, we, why we cannot be normal together?
00:08:36I know. Doesn't it suck?
00:08:38It sucks.
00:08:40It sucks?
00:08:42Mm-hmm.
00:08:43It sucks.
00:09:13At the last therapy, Josh ended our relationship.
00:09:19And I feel left behind. I feel used.
00:09:28But I still gonna accomplish last task as being part of recommitment ceremony.
00:09:36Because I'm not gonna give up on myself.
00:09:40Yes, he decided not to be next to me, but why can't I be there alone?
00:09:45This recommitment ceremony is not about Josh anymore. It's about myself.
00:09:58Hi, can I get a, a bell cart to 529, please?
00:10:03Thanks.
00:10:04Thanks.
00:10:06I'm packing my bags tonight and leaving the resort.
00:10:09Because I just don't feel like, you know, I really need to be around and drag this out any further.
00:10:16How are you feeling?
00:10:18Um, it was tough. I had, like, anxiety.
00:10:22And, like, I, I didn't want to hurt her, but, you know, like, I needed to be, like, I needed my voice to be heard.
00:10:28And I didn't know how she was going to take it.
00:10:34But the response I got was a little awkward.
00:10:37And it was almost like she was relieved, which is a little hurtful because of, like, everything I actually have done for her.
00:10:45It goes beyond, like, the relationship.
00:10:49We have a friendship also, so, like, I felt disrespected still in a way, you know?
00:10:57It's definitely hard to leave, you know, even when you know the time is up.
00:11:04Yeah. Come on in.
00:11:06Natalie is not like anybody I've ever dated before.
00:11:10And she's fun and she's very mysterious.
00:11:13She's cute. She's smart. She's funny.
00:11:16And I'll miss that.
00:11:21She's one of a kind.
00:11:28I got it.
00:11:30After this retreat, I'm going to, you know, do some self-reflecting.
00:11:35And I think that I need that.
00:11:37I think I need to love myself a little bit more.
00:11:40I don't think I've been doing that.
00:11:42I think that, you know, I need to be just the best dad that I could be.
00:11:46And, you know, just focus on that for right now.
00:11:59Whoa.
00:12:03Brandon!
00:12:05He going to first.
00:12:08Going to save the world.
00:12:10Let's have some drinking.
00:12:14Tomorrow's the recommitment ceremony.
00:12:16And tonight we're all going to go out, have some fun, and let loose a little bit.
00:12:21It's really sad to see this group is getting smaller.
00:12:24Ari and Benny were here and now they left.
00:12:26And Josh and Natalie just broke up.
00:12:29And really, I just want to celebrate who's made it this far and have a little bit of fun.
00:12:35Let's drink it for a happy end.
00:12:38To a happy ending.
00:12:40Like, not literally, but...
00:12:42Woo!
00:12:44Cheers!
00:12:46To Natalie and Josh!
00:12:48Josh can be a hoe in peace.
00:12:49Josh can be a hoe in peace.
00:12:51You thinking Jasmine and Gina come with Matt together?
00:12:55Three of them?
00:12:57I don't know. I feel like my thoughts on all this is really like...
00:13:02It's a disaster waiting to happen.
00:13:04This is the thing.
00:13:06Gina believes in Jasmine.
00:13:08He thinks she will come back to him when he's ready.
00:13:11I don't think Jasmine truly believes in Gina.
00:13:14And she's opening herself up to a huge problem.
00:13:19Which is her feelings emotionally investing in another man.
00:13:24It's what they want. If you don't agree, it's okay.
00:13:30I don't buy it for one second that Jasmine actually wants an open marriage.
00:13:34Jasmine's just trying to be able to have a little boo thing on the side.
00:13:37And Jasmine shows up here trying to reframe it to help.
00:13:42Like it's going to help Gina.
00:13:44I just want to call it out and call it like I see it.
00:13:46Jasmine should not get to get away with that.
00:13:49Seems like we have two more people here.
00:13:52Three more?
00:13:54There could always be room for three.
00:13:57Hello, hello, hello.
00:14:03I'm glad you guys are here.
00:14:05I got questions for y'all.
00:14:07Why'd you guys run in late?
00:14:09We were banging it out.
00:14:15I'm joking.
00:14:16Dammit.
00:14:18Come on, we were praying for that one.
00:14:21What happened, what happened?
00:14:23You really want to know?
00:14:25Yes.
00:14:27We ended up calling Matt the person that Jasmine picked for the open relationship.
00:14:32Oh.
00:14:34I wanted to talk to him and get to know him a bit.
00:14:37And figure out if he's like the right person, you know.
00:14:41He's not, keep searching.
00:14:43Let him see.
00:14:44There were some things I didn't like, you know, during the conversation with Matt.
00:14:48He was just talking about our personal relationship between Jasmine and I and how I should be nicer to her.
00:14:57They have a very good friendship going on and that worries me.
00:15:01Because this is only supposed to be like an intimacy thing, okay?
00:15:05Right, so he should shut the **** up.
00:15:09I told him that, hey, we can't, you guys can't have such a good friendship.
00:15:14Okay, I told him, and it's going to be in the rules.
00:15:16But sometimes feeling calm without you, I'm expecting them calm, right?
00:15:21You're not scared you're going to start feeling something for him?
00:15:25Oh, of course, this is a fear that we both have.
00:15:29That's why we're going to put it in the rules that if she does get any kind of connection with this person,
00:15:35that we have to cut off the relationship at that point.
00:15:38I suggest forget the ****, Matt, and **** your wife.
00:15:44That was my initial proposal.
00:15:46I suggest that, too, because I'm going to be honest with you.
00:15:49I do not believe that you will not have feelings for him if you start a relationship with him.
00:15:55She does love me.
00:15:57But you're not **** her. He will be.
00:16:01If she's falling for the other guy who's giving her what you want,
00:16:05who's giving her what you won't, why would she choose you?
00:16:12I would cut it off if I see this getting out of control.
00:16:15You will be the last one to realize this **** is getting out of control.
00:16:21It's very insulting to hear from Rob,
00:16:24insinuating that I'm forcing Gino to agree to the idea of an open marriage.
00:16:29Gino's an adult. Gino is free to decide what is best for him.
00:16:33And this is the best solution for Gino and I.
00:16:37Rob is allowed to have his own opinion, but he shouldn't force his own opinion on us.
00:16:44You said you're okay with her finding sex from somewhere else.
00:16:47Okay. Find another guy.
00:16:51Because this guy, she's already known this guy.
00:16:55She's already talking to this guy.
00:16:57He knows too much about your relationship.
00:16:59And he's already telling her what's wrong with you.
00:17:03Honestly, honestly, can I say something?
00:17:07I kind of agree with you, Rob.
00:17:10I feel like Gino feels pressured to accept this situation.
00:17:15I feel like Max already has feelings for you.
00:17:18And it's a little too late.
00:17:23I actually saw a smile and happiness like I've never seen in you.
00:17:29I think Jasmine is in a little denial about how much she likes Matt,
00:17:35which definitely is going to be a problem in their marriage.
00:17:39This full retreat, I'm telling like, have sex with your wife.
00:17:43You're going to solve this problem.
00:17:45Listen, you know, it's a dumb stubborn.
00:17:48Dumb stubborn means like it's dumb, dumb stubborn.
00:17:51Like it's going to accept somebody to have sex with his wife.
00:17:55It's dumb. That's it.
00:17:57You have an emotional connection with this Matt guy.
00:18:00I saw it. I saw it.
00:18:02Now that I'm hearing from Gino,
00:18:05this is just like a disaster waiting to happen.
00:18:08For me, it cannot be a random person.
00:18:11Okay, this guy over the bar, come to the open marriage.
00:18:14It has to be someone that I trust.
00:18:18Don't let her play that.
00:18:20Don't let her play that.
00:18:22I can build trust with another person,
00:18:24but I would have to start the process all over again.
00:18:27And that should happen.
00:18:30Gino and Jasmine are ready to be in an open relationship.
00:18:33Now let's go meet someone.
00:18:36If it's truly about sex, you're both starting from the beginning.
00:18:40You're both starting from the beginning.
00:18:46Yeah, I agree.
00:18:49Matt's out now. He's out.
00:18:51He's out.
00:18:55If you have too much of a connection with Matt, he's out.
00:18:59Okay, let's put it this way.
00:19:02No, let's put it this way, Gino.
00:19:05F*** it.
00:19:07I've been married to this guy almost a year.
00:19:10Nine months, he hasn't touched me.
00:19:12He has rejected me.
00:19:14I've been f***ing faithful to Gino.
00:19:16But you have no idea how I have to open myself.
00:19:21You have been here f***ing me judgmental.
00:19:25And you are the first people crucifying me.
00:19:29Crucifying me.
00:19:31F*** you all. F*** everything.
00:19:33F*** everything.
00:19:35Nine months. Nine months.
00:19:38If I can hold on to nine months without needing to f*** somebody else,
00:19:41I think you could too.
00:19:42F*** you.
00:19:44F*** everybody.
00:19:46F*** everybody.
00:19:48F*** Matt. Who cares about this f***ing guy?
00:19:59Are you on the truth?
00:20:01You're embarrassing her.
00:20:04You just want his f***ing wife.
00:20:06Yes!
00:20:08I need an emotional connection.
00:20:09People taking Gino's side.
00:20:11But Gino, the problem is...
00:20:13Do sex with your wife.
00:20:15Find a solution.
00:20:17You kicked her out for Christmas.
00:20:19I didn't f***ing kick her out, man.
00:20:21You got the story wrong, bitch.
00:20:23Guys, guys, guys.
00:20:25Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:20:27I'm not going to take your s***.
00:20:29Wait, guys.
00:20:39I'm not playing this.
00:20:41You don't f***ing touch me.
00:20:43I'm going back to Michigan and this is f***ing over.
00:20:45I haven't had sex in f***ing nine months with my wife.
00:20:47Does that mean that I'm like,
00:20:49I need to f*** this girl that I've been thinking about?
00:20:51And if I did, it would be a f***ing cheating situation.
00:20:56Gino, his heart's on the line.
00:20:58And I feel bad for him.
00:21:00And then there's this other person
00:21:02who doesn't give a damn about him,
00:21:04who's manipulating him and who's trying to get him to do s***
00:21:06that he doesn't want to do
00:21:07that will make his life harder.
00:21:09I just can't look at it and be like,
00:21:11good luck, buddy.
00:21:13And just keep on walking.
00:21:15Like, hey, I wouldn't do that.
00:21:17Think about it and then I'll walk away.
00:21:19Like, I just can't not say something.
00:21:22Where did that come from?
00:21:24What is that?
00:21:26I think that is a response to her
00:21:28not being able to hold on to the guy she wants.
00:21:30It is not as easy and simple
00:21:32as she's making it seem, Gino.
00:21:37This whole situation is turning crazy.
00:21:40I think just seeing Gino really upset
00:21:43and seeing the emotional connection
00:21:45Jasmine and Matt had,
00:21:47it just made it that more real.
00:21:49I've been very open
00:21:51and everyone is just f***ing judging me.
00:21:54This is what you chose,
00:21:56but we're not judging you.
00:21:58It's just a very convoluted situation.
00:22:00We're all trying to understand it.
00:22:02Let's go, let's go.
00:22:04Enough, enough.
00:22:05No one has to understand.
00:22:07Just Gino and I have to understand.
00:22:09Let me talk to you, please.
00:22:11Matt, let's go.
00:22:13I don't want a shit on him.
00:22:15I don't want to live here so far.
00:22:17I've been begging, begging,
00:22:19begging for nine months.
00:22:21First of all, you need to be strong
00:22:23for your two kids, okay?
00:22:25F***ing f*** everybody, okay?
00:22:27You need to be strong for your two kids.
00:22:29Okay?
00:22:31Oh, my God.
00:22:33Oh, my God.
00:22:35Oh, my God.
00:22:37I would bet money
00:22:39that this open relationship idea
00:22:41came about after Matt.
00:22:44After she was in the gym.
00:22:46After she met him.
00:22:48After they vibed.
00:22:50After she thought he was cute.
00:22:52She was at the gym.
00:22:54She worked out with him.
00:22:56She's vibing with him.
00:22:58He flirted with her.
00:23:00F*** Matt.
00:23:02Dude, we can walk,
00:23:03but I don't like it
00:23:05when people react like this
00:23:07and get so loud and stuff.
00:23:09I don't really like it.
00:23:11I think it is unattractive.
00:23:13It kind of gives me the ick.
00:23:15I agree with what he's trying to say, though.
00:23:17If Rob said, hey,
00:23:19I want to still be with you
00:23:21and you have to be my wife
00:23:23and do all this stuff,
00:23:25but I get to f*** a bunch of girls,
00:23:27absolutely not.
00:23:29And then if he said he already found
00:23:31the girl that he wants to sleep with,
00:23:33you gotta end the conversation.
00:23:35It's not Matt.
00:23:37Cancel.
00:23:39Cancel.
00:23:41It cannot be f***ing Matt, dude.
00:23:43I just know Jasmine.
00:23:46I know her.
00:23:48I've known her for a while.
00:23:50If she wants to act like it's just sex,
00:23:52then she needs to step up
00:23:54and let it be just sex.
00:23:57I know you feel judged
00:23:59and you feel hurt
00:24:01and you feel like everybody's attacking you.
00:24:03Yes.
00:24:05Yes, it's your...
00:24:07If we have all answers for our relationship,
00:24:09we wouldn't be here,
00:24:11but we're all here.
00:24:13We're all f***ed up.
00:24:15We're all not perfect.
00:24:17And we love each other how we are,
00:24:19so f*** all of us.
00:24:21Exactly.
00:24:23This is between you and Gino.
00:24:25We're all here for our own relationships.
00:24:27And tomorrow,
00:24:29that's it.
00:24:31We're all in the same boat.
00:24:33I just want to go home and rest.
00:24:35Yes, you need rest.
00:24:37Tomorrow's a big day.
00:24:40These people are nobody
00:24:43to judge me.
00:24:45I could tell them a lot of things
00:24:47that I disagree in their life
00:24:49and them as a person,
00:24:51but I keep it to myself
00:24:53because the therapists are here
00:24:55to guide them, not me.
00:24:59At this point, I feel like
00:25:01I just exhausted
00:25:03all of my resources
00:25:05to save this marriage.
00:25:12It finally clicked in my head
00:25:14that they have way too much
00:25:16of emotional connection.
00:25:18Florence, what do you think?
00:25:20You want the truth?
00:25:22You're embarrassing her
00:25:24with this s***.
00:25:26What the f*** is happening
00:25:28with your brain, man?
00:25:30You just want him to f*** his wife.
00:25:31No, it's f***ing simple, man.
00:25:33No, it's not simple.
00:25:36How old you are?
00:25:38I don't have to say my age.
00:25:40You are 56, okay?
00:25:42I'm older than you.
00:25:44Yes, I know.
00:25:45Yeah, so respect me.
00:25:47How do you f***ing respect your f***ing wife?
00:25:49How do you f***ing respect me?
00:25:51Tell me, how do I f***ing respect you?
00:25:53Tell me.
00:25:55I need emotional connection.
00:25:57Florian, with a woman.
00:25:59Disconnect.
00:26:02People taking Gina aside.
00:26:04But Gina is the problem, man.
00:26:06He refused to touch her.
00:26:08He refused to do sex with her.
00:26:10He refused to sleep with her.
00:26:12Do sex with your wife.
00:26:14Find a solution.
00:26:16Stop the drama, you know my point?
00:26:18It's Gina's fault.
00:26:20Same as much as Jasmine's fault.
00:26:22Both in the wrong path.
00:26:26What did you do for Christmas?
00:26:28Jasmine, tell me.
00:26:29Jasmine wasn't with me for Christmas.
00:26:31She f***ing with me.
00:26:33You kicked her out for Christmas.
00:26:35I didn't f***ing kick her out, man.
00:26:37You got the story wrong, b***h.
00:26:41You got the story wrong.
00:26:43No, she left.
00:26:45You f***ing b***h, you f***ing a**hole.
00:26:47Who are you telling, b***h?
00:26:49Tell me.
00:26:50Let's keep the story straight.
00:26:52That she.
00:26:54Let's keep the story straight, man.
00:26:56Listen to me.
00:26:57Guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:26:59Guys, guys, guys.
00:27:01Let's keep the story straight.
00:27:03Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:06Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:08Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:10I'm not gonna take your s***.
00:27:15Wait, wait, wait. Hold on.
00:27:16Wait, guys.
00:27:26Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:28Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:30I like you, Florian. I like you.
00:27:32But I'm not gonna f***ing take your s***, man.
00:27:34Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:36I'm not gonna take your s***, Florian.
00:27:38Shut your f***ing mouth.
00:27:40Gino is f***ing going through s***.
00:27:43Gino is going through s*** right now.
00:27:46Alright? It's over.
00:27:48It's over. It's over.
00:27:50Just understand. Just understand.
00:27:52He's going through s*** right now.
00:27:54He doesn't know what to think.
00:27:56I don't think anyone was expecting
00:27:58Gino and Florian to fight.
00:28:00I mean, it kind of came out of nowhere.
00:28:02They've been like buddies this whole time.
00:28:04I can kind of foresee it.
00:28:06That's why I've been telling Florian
00:28:08to stop telling him to just f*** his wife.
00:28:10Like, just try to understand that the guy,
00:28:12this is, you know, everybody's not like you
00:28:14and everybody's not just like
00:28:16hey, Gino got f***ing tired of that s***.
00:28:18He's ready to throw hands.
00:28:20Just try to help.
00:28:22Gino, good morning, you're going to think different, Gino.
00:28:25I'm not gonna think different, bro.
00:28:27No, I won't.
00:28:29Believe to me, Gino. Good morning,
00:28:31you're going to think different.
00:28:33You don't understand the f***ing problem.
00:28:35That's the problem.
00:28:37You don't understand what's going on.
00:28:39You're not in my f***ing shoes.
00:28:41I understand.
00:28:43You know why he can f*** his wife?
00:28:44Because he can f*** anything that moves.
00:28:46Yeah.
00:28:48Gino can't f*** everything that moves.
00:28:50He needs to f*** someone he likes and loves and has.
00:28:52Me too.
00:28:54So he's very judgmental.
00:28:56He's on a very basic level.
00:28:58He can't put himself in your shoes
00:29:00because the second he dealt with anything complicated like that,
00:29:02he'd break up with his wife.
00:29:04There would be no relationship, you know what I mean?
00:29:06Right.
00:29:08So he cannot even begin to put himself in your shoes.
00:29:10Oh, Gino is super pissed.
00:29:12I've never seen him like this before.
00:29:14We had a fun celebration last night
00:29:16before the recommitment ceremony.
00:29:18It's sad to see it turn into something so negative.
00:29:21But I feel like Gino takes a lot of s*** from Jasmine.
00:29:23This is it bubbling up, you know?
00:29:29This night went like f***ing hell
00:29:31and I was not expecting it to turn out like this.
00:29:35I was actually very happy today.
00:29:38I've been very happy.
00:29:45I think that honestly,
00:29:47I'm going to leave this place heartbroken,
00:29:50hurt,
00:29:52without a husband and without friends.
00:29:55Worse than when I came.
00:30:00I mean, it's too much.
00:30:02Hey, man, real quick, real quick, real quick.
00:30:04Hey.
00:30:06Hey.
00:30:08Hey.
00:30:10Hey.
00:30:12Hey.
00:30:14You and this guy.
00:30:16You guys are boys.
00:30:18Y'all are boys, man.
00:30:20So can we just make sure, hey, we good, right?
00:30:22I mean, I consider Florian my brother.
00:30:24He's just close-minded.
00:30:26And I consider Jasmine like a sister.
00:30:28He's just close-minded, but that's okay, though.
00:30:30I mean, I consider him my brother.
00:30:32He's your boy, man.
00:30:34Brothers be ready to scratch sometimes,
00:30:36you know what I mean?
00:30:38We got a big day, we got a big day.
00:30:40No, no, no.
00:30:42At the end of the day, he just cares about you.
00:30:44So tonight, I'm trying to be your brother, you know?
00:30:46To think about you, you know my point?
00:30:48Let's have a good night.
00:30:50Have a good night, yeah.
00:30:52Enjoy your life.
00:30:54I think Jasmine's got a lot to think about tonight as well.
00:30:56Trust me.
00:30:58And you might be surprised what she has to say tomorrow.
00:31:02After listening to all the other couples here tonight
00:31:06talking about this open relationship,
00:31:09they're absolutely right.
00:31:11Matt has to be canceled.
00:31:12I'll let you get your drink.
00:31:14You know, you hang out, amen?
00:31:16Just, you know, think about it, man.
00:31:18Take your time.
00:31:20I'm not sure we have the trust in each other
00:31:22that we need to make a recommitment
00:31:24to each other tomorrow.
00:31:28Now I'm, like, second-guessing everything.
00:31:30Now I'm, like, second-guessing everything.
00:31:54I'm starving.
00:31:56And I hope you're gonna feed me.
00:31:58Yeah, I got some stuff you'll like.
00:32:00Okay.
00:32:05You even take a small blanket, Brandon.
00:32:08Why not take a big blanket?
00:32:10It's all I could find, Julia.
00:32:12Don't complain. This is gonna be nice.
00:32:20Today is the day of the recommitment ceremony,
00:32:23and it's supposed to be a good day, right?
00:32:25But I'm not feeling that good today
00:32:28after what happened, you know, at the bar last night.
00:32:32And, you know, tempers got flared,
00:32:35and, you know, chaos erupting.
00:32:38So I ended up sleeping in a separate room from Jasmine
00:32:42because I just needed my space,
00:32:45and I felt it was best to get my own room last night.
00:32:52And I still need to talk to Jasmine about it.
00:32:55You know, I'm not ready to walk into this ceremony yet, Jasmine, or I.
00:32:59You know, and it's the day of the ceremony,
00:33:02and we still don't know what we're doing.
00:33:04I don't know what we're doing.
00:33:24Last night was a disaster.
00:33:26You can see it on my face. I haven't slept.
00:33:30I've been crying.
00:33:31You know, I feel so dry.
00:33:33I don't even have more tears.
00:33:35I am extremely anxious
00:33:37because today is the recommitment ceremony,
00:33:41and honestly, I don't even know
00:33:44if Gina and I, we're gonna recommit to what.
00:33:48What we're gonna recommit to.
00:33:50Because if we go back to Michigan at this stage of uncertainty,
00:33:56what I know for real is gonna happen
00:33:57is like we are gonna end up separated, being divorced.
00:34:02So I don't even know what he wants.
00:34:06What's the plan now?
00:34:27What you doing?
00:34:29Writing the vows.
00:34:31That's nice.
00:34:33I've been thinking about it a lot and writing what I feel.
00:34:37Did you write vows? I haven't seen you.
00:34:39I have in my heart.
00:34:41So you didn't really think about what you're just gonna like
00:34:43say what you say in the moment.
00:34:45Yeah.
00:34:47What should I feel at the moment?
00:34:49Take some effort, maybe jot down your thoughts.
00:34:52Yeah, you could speak from the heart,
00:34:54but I feel like you don't know what I'm gonna say.
00:34:55So maybe you should think about it, make some effort and dig deep.
00:34:59I think deep, don't worry.
00:35:05I'm going to shower.
00:35:11Take it easy in that book.
00:35:20I'm freaking out, I'm so nervous.
00:35:22I don't know how much thought he's putting into it.
00:35:25I feel like I don't know if he gets it.
00:35:28I feel like he understands my pain and everything I've been through.
00:35:33I've been digging deep and I'm scared what our future holds.
00:35:45Give me little, okay?
00:35:46Ceremony, I want my mind to be like clear and clean.
00:35:52I just want to take a minute and say this is really, really nice, you know?
00:35:57The art therapy is all done.
00:35:59How are you feeling about all of it?
00:36:01I feel relief.
00:36:03I feel all of this helped me to show you my inside
00:36:09and not to be afraid to talk about my past.
00:36:13You talking about my past and I'm glad you listened to me.
00:36:18But more important stuff, I'm agreed to take a second opinion for baby.
00:36:25But I didn't hear you agree to compromise about my parents.
00:36:32You know that you and your family can't get along.
00:36:35You're at the center of it all and it drives you crazy.
00:36:39You take it to your heart.
00:36:40And then when they're here, if they stay in our house,
00:36:43I think it's going to cause problems for us.
00:36:45And I'm very afraid of what that could do to us, Julia.
00:36:49I just think that we're going to figure out something.
00:36:53That's such a bad plan.
00:36:55That's not even a plan. We're just going to figure it out as it happens?
00:37:03I know I messed up by hiding things from Brandon.
00:37:07But I think Brandon doesn't understand how important it is for my parents to be here in the U.S.
00:37:12I feel like Brandon's holding anger at me.
00:37:15It looks like he's punishing me because I'm keeping secrets from him.
00:37:19And if he can't get over this, we can't move forward.
00:37:29But it's still my family. It's still my parents.
00:37:32And we have to help them.
00:37:35You know, maybe if you had told me when you first filed,
00:37:39we could have talked about this and I could have come up with something.
00:37:43But now this is immediate. It's so soon and I'm super unprepared.
00:37:48But I'm still already starting the process. It's coming.
00:37:52Julia, I can't...
00:37:54And now I just want your answer.
00:37:56Did you go in to support me and do everything with me or you did not?
00:38:05When it's not in the best interest of our family, I have a hard time supporting something.
00:38:12If you decide you're not going to help me with my parents, don't show up.
00:38:19Don't come to this ceremony.
00:38:30Think about that.
00:38:34Okay.
00:38:47Hi! Come on in, beautiful.
00:38:50I feel nervous about seeing some of the girls after last night.
00:38:55And I got so mad.
00:38:57Okay, I'm good.
00:39:00But hopefully they will understand. I was being a talk.
00:39:04Okay.
00:39:35I still don't know what I'm going to do today.
00:39:39Even though there's been some really weird and bizarre happenings between us since getting here.
00:39:48We've spent this time together and we've been getting along for like the last week.
00:39:58It kind of sucks because this whole time,
00:40:01It kind of sucks because this whole time,
00:40:04I haven't been able to get my wife to come home and work on our relationship.
00:40:08And only because of all of this do we do what I've been asking and wanting to do.
00:40:14And then I'm seeing the results of that and it's us getting along.
00:40:18And it's Sophie wanting me around.
00:40:20And it's just kind of like bittersweet.
00:40:24I do love Sophie.
00:40:27And my heart wants us to work it out.
00:40:29But I guess I'm worried that it just, it's like too little too late.
00:40:59I love you.
00:41:16Good morning.
00:41:17Good morning. Do you have some time to talk?
00:41:20Sure.
00:41:30Why did you sleep in a separate room last night?
00:41:35I just needed some space last night.
00:41:38I understand that but last night I went through a lot.
00:41:44And I really needed you to comfort me because I was and I still am very sad.
00:41:53You know that the commitment ceremony is today.
00:41:56Yeah.
00:41:57And I need to ask because I was so certain yesterday but now I don't even know where are we at now?
00:42:05That's the million dollar question.
00:42:13I know I want to commit to you and I love you.
00:42:16And I still think that the open marriage is our best option right now.
00:42:21But I have a lot of concerns about Matt.
00:42:24I don't know if I can move forward with this open relationship if Matt is the person that you're picking.
00:42:33Rob did have a good point as far as how close you and Matt are right now already.
00:42:40And if you guys are going to keep growing this bond together that is concerning and it scares me to be honest.
00:42:48I validate that fear but you have to trust in me.
00:42:52I'm not in love with Matt.
00:42:58This is not negotiable.
00:43:00Okay.
00:43:02I love you.
00:43:04But this is not negotiable.
00:43:06It has to be Matt for me in order to believe that you're actually being honest about accepting the idea of an open marriage for me to recommit to you.
00:43:19It has to be Matt.
00:43:20It has to be Matt.
00:43:24I feel like if Gino doesn't agree to an open marriage with Matt, I'm worried that Gino will continue just trying to find excuses to avoid being in an open marriage.
00:43:33Like, no it is not Matt.
00:43:35And another person.
00:43:37No I'm not okay with this other person.
00:43:39And then it's going to be like 20 candidates and anyone is good enough for him.
00:43:43I cannot even tolerate the idea of going back to Michigan and living the same life, the same marriage I was before the retreat.
00:43:52Based on what you said right now, I mean we're in big trouble right now.
00:43:56Yeah. I feel very anxious.
00:43:59Because we might not be able to commit at the ceremony.
00:44:06I have a lot to think about.
00:44:08I need to shower.
00:44:09Like, I feel like s***.
00:44:11I look like s***.
00:44:13But I love you. I want you to know that.
00:44:16For four years, Gino, I have loved you.
00:44:20Because I never stopped loving you.
00:44:23I give you time to think about it. I don't want you to make a decision.
00:44:28At this moment, just never put in doubt how much I love you, please.
00:44:34Because that will kill me. That will kill me, okay?
00:44:40Don't make me cry.
00:45:06All of the work leads up to this moment tonight.
00:45:09To commit or not to commit.
00:45:12This retreat, I worked so hard on myself.
00:45:15I hope Stacy can see I love her.
00:45:17Because I don't know what Stacy is going to say.
00:45:22Oh, gosh.
00:45:27I'm sorry.
00:45:40I love you.
00:45:48The girls are on their way. Let me just move this.
00:45:51Get your makeup started.
00:45:53So you feel beautiful and at your best self.
00:45:59Hi, Sophie.
00:46:01Hello.
00:46:03Come on in, beautiful.
00:46:05How are you guys?
00:46:07How do you feel?
00:46:09I know, we're all nervous too.
00:46:12I don't know yet what I'm going to do.
00:46:17You guys looked so happy yesterday and the last couple of days.
00:46:21We have happy moments, but he's unable to treat me how I think I deserve to be treated.
00:46:31On one hand, Rob is my best friend, my teammate, my confident, my literal everything.
00:46:36But on another hand, we still clearly have issues that we haven't resolved.
00:46:41I feel like I'm feeling all of the emotions.
00:46:44I have a lot going through my head.
00:46:46And this is one of the biggest decisions of my life.
00:46:51So Jasmine should be on her way.
00:46:54I wanted to invite Natalie.
00:46:56You guys are okay with that?
00:46:58Yeah, I'm okay with it.
00:47:00I think that, you know, I don't think she should be by herself.
00:47:02Yeah, I feel bad. I could text her.
00:47:04Okay.
00:47:06You guys are getting ready.
00:47:08We hope you're okay.
00:47:10Bring your white dress, no questions.
00:47:12Hope to see you.
00:47:15Oh.
00:47:17Hi.
00:47:19Come on in, beautiful.
00:47:21Aw, you need help?
00:47:23No, I'm good.
00:47:25I feel nervous about seeing some of the girls after last night.
00:47:28I flipped out and I got so mad.
00:47:32But hopefully they will understand I was being a talk.
00:47:36And I do believe that they say sorry
00:47:40about the way her words made me feel.
00:47:43And I appreciate her for that.
00:47:45Okay.
00:47:47You look beautiful as always.
00:47:49The worst. I had it last night.
00:47:51I know. It's crazy.
00:47:53Drama with the girls has been very tough for me.
00:47:56And right now I want to focus on the present
00:47:59because I don't know what's going to happen
00:48:01at the recommitment ceremony later.
00:48:03Hi.
00:48:05Come on in.
00:48:07Hi.
00:48:09Aw, take a seat, Natalie.
00:48:12I got your message.
00:48:14Why do we need the dresses?
00:48:16Like, what is the logic of bringing white dresses?
00:48:19Well, I mean, it's the recommitment ceremony
00:48:22and you'll feel a part of it.
00:48:24Yeah.
00:48:26Like you're recommitting to yourself.
00:48:28You're, you know, you're a part of it.
00:48:29Yeah.
00:48:31Like you're recommitting to yourself.
00:48:33You're, you know, you're free.
00:48:35How are you feeling?
00:48:37What pisses me off, like he abandoned me
00:48:39and I'm like alone.
00:48:41Like I'm here and I have to be alone.
00:48:43I don't want to be alone.
00:48:47You're going to be okay without Josh.
00:48:49He really just, just think of it,
00:48:51he's not going to waste your time anymore
00:48:53and you can now, like, find someone that values you
00:48:55and stops, like, playing with your feelings
00:48:56and it'll be a good time for you to, like,
00:48:58work on yourself, do your career,
00:49:00everything that's, like, important
00:49:02and you attract someone that loves you.
00:49:04You can thrive and find someone better than him.
00:49:10The last 24 hours have been rough.
00:49:13I have, like, hopeless mood.
00:49:16But even though I'm alone,
00:49:18I'm just going to walk into the recommitment ceremony
00:49:21and steal the party.
00:49:23I might join you, Natalie.
00:49:25I don't even know about myself.
00:49:27Aw.
00:49:29I might be part of you.
00:49:31I think we need to have some bubbly.
00:49:33Let's do this.
00:49:35Let's celebrate and recommit to ourselves.
00:49:37To a woman.
00:49:39Reaching woman power.
00:49:41Yes, ready?
00:49:43To us!
00:49:45To us!
00:49:47Woo!
00:49:49I feel like I have family and friends for life.
00:49:51I know.
00:49:53Our journey of love wasn't so successful,
00:49:55but I guess we gained some friends.
00:49:57Cheers!
00:49:59Woo!
00:50:01We don't have five glasses.
00:50:03We could sip out of it.
00:50:05Sip it!
00:50:07Love you, girls.
00:50:09Oh, this tastes good.
00:50:11I think we need a change before they kill us.
00:50:13Yeah.
00:50:14These guys.
00:50:16We have to go now.
00:50:18Let's get away.
00:50:20I'm on my side.
00:50:24That's cute dress.
00:50:26Oh, God, I love the shoes.
00:50:28This will look good on you.
00:50:30Yes!
00:50:32Woo!
00:50:34Yes, yes, that's it.
00:50:36Look in the mirror.
00:50:38Because you have long hair,
00:50:40you look like a nymph.
00:50:42How cute!
00:50:44Oh, my gosh.
00:50:46Wow.
00:50:48Hold up.
00:50:50My toes.
00:50:54More tire?
00:50:56Fuck me in, baby.
00:50:58I need more?
00:51:00No, I'm good.
00:51:20Hi, guys.
00:51:22How are you?
00:51:24Welcome.
00:51:26You look pretty amazing.
00:51:28We're happy you made it to this moment.
00:51:30Thanks for being here.
00:51:32Cold today.
00:51:34You're cold.
00:51:36You don't have any socks on.
00:51:38Where are your socks?
00:51:40You got to do it like me.
00:51:42You are Mr. Michigan.
00:51:45I come prepared.
00:51:47He's come prepared for Jasmine.
00:51:51Standing there with the guys,
00:51:53it kind of gives me flashbacks
00:51:55to my wedding day.
00:51:57That nerve that was hitting
00:51:59right before Sophie
00:52:01walked down on the sand
00:52:03and came up to me.
00:52:05This is kind of how that feels,
00:52:07but this is different
00:52:09because I had more confidence
00:52:11on my wedding day
00:52:13that I was leaving with the girl.
00:52:20Oh,
00:52:22oh,
00:52:24oh,
00:52:26oh,
00:52:28oh,
00:52:30oh,
00:52:32oh,
00:52:34oh,
00:52:36oh,
00:52:38oh,
00:52:40oh,
00:52:42oh,
00:52:44oh,
00:52:46oh,
00:52:48oh,
00:52:50oh,
00:52:52oh,
00:52:54oh,
00:52:56oh,
00:52:58oh,
00:53:00oh,
00:53:02oh,
00:53:04oh,
00:53:06oh,
00:53:08oh,
00:53:10oh,
00:53:12oh,
00:53:14oh,
00:53:16oh,
00:53:18oh,
00:53:20oh,
00:53:21oh,
00:53:23oh.
00:53:31Oh,
00:53:32oh,
00:53:34oh,
00:53:36oh,
00:53:39oh,
00:53:44oh,
00:53:47oh,
00:53:48of each and every one of you,
00:53:49and honored to be in front of you today.
00:53:52All of the work that you guys have been doing so far
00:53:54during this retreat leads up to this moment tonight.
00:53:58I would like to acknowledge not all couples are here.
00:54:02We want to acknowledge you, Natalie.
00:54:05We're all happy to see you here this evening.
00:54:07It's beautiful that you're showing up,
00:54:10that you're here for yourself.
00:54:12And I'm really hoping that we can use this time
00:54:15to think about this as your recommitment to yourself,
00:54:18to moving forward, to the work that you've done,
00:54:21and that you'll continue to do outside of this.
00:54:26Even though I'm alone, I'm a survivor and I'm a fighter,
00:54:30and a person who stands her ground,
00:54:32who is able to accomplish the task,
00:54:35and I made it through on my own.
00:54:38It's not what I imagined,
00:54:40but I'm feeling proud of myself to be here.
00:54:43And that brings us to this moment, right?
00:54:45This is really about a choice, your choice,
00:54:48your decision to commit or not to commit.
00:54:54These are your decisions as we move forward.
00:54:59There are a lot of issues that this group
00:55:01is facing, infidelity, distrust, and disconnect.
00:55:07But we're really proud about the progress that they've made
00:55:12and I am super optimistic
00:55:14about today's recommitment ceremony.
00:55:17I'd love to invite the first couple up.
00:55:24Stacey and Florian, please come on up.
00:55:27Oh God.
00:55:36I'm getting like butterflies, I'm feeling nervous.
00:55:38I don't know, like I just feel like overwhelmed.
00:55:42Yes, we've had improvement,
00:55:45but we still have unresolved issues.
00:55:47So I'm just trying to capture my thoughts and my feelings
00:55:50and save it for the speech.
00:56:03I know right now, I think, to be honest,
00:56:05just in what's come from my heart right now,
00:56:08I never think I'm coming here for the therapist, you know?
00:56:12I'm not like fan therapist, who actually helped me so much.
00:56:17And I appreciate you guys for helping me and you
00:56:20to be again together and happy.
00:56:22Mm-hmm, that makes me so happy.
00:56:26You're my priority in my life.
00:56:30You're my everything in my life.
00:56:38And I'm sorry for everything, which I did bad to you.
00:56:49I love you.
00:57:01This retreat, I worked so hard on myself.
00:57:04I tried my best to come here.
00:57:05I tried my best to learn from this therapist.
00:57:08I hope Stacey can see I love her.
00:57:11I want to work through this.
00:57:13I want to use these tools home to keep continuing
00:57:16to make the best relationship.
00:57:19But I don't know what Stacey is going to say.
00:57:24Oh, gosh.
00:57:29I really took my time writing these vows.
00:57:32And they really mean a lot to me.
00:57:35You ready?
00:57:36Yeah.
00:57:39We are approaching our 10-year mark.
00:57:42And we definitely had our fair share of challenges.
00:57:48I'm getting older and wiser.
00:57:53And I know what I deserve.
00:57:54At times, a part of me feels it's time to let you go.
00:58:24You will always be in my heart.
00:58:28I'm sorry.
00:58:54I'm sorry for all the bad times and all the negativity.
00:59:08But I'm not going to leave you.
00:59:16Not after everything we've been through.
00:59:20I'm not going to let the challenges in life
00:59:22and our roller coaster ride of a marriage break us up.
00:59:25But what I need from you is a promise.
00:59:29If we recommit, you need to agree to respect boundaries
00:59:35and stay focused on our relationship.
00:59:39And I promise to you to listen more and talk less.
00:59:45I promise to trust you from now on
00:59:48and let God guide us to the perfect plan.
00:59:52Now let's go live our best life.
00:59:55Te Dua.
00:59:57Love you.
00:59:58I love you.
01:00:07I'm glad we're both recommitted.
01:00:10I feel like we're setting the tone
01:00:12for a better future together.
01:00:14And this is exactly all I've ever really wanted.
01:00:18I know belief in therapy before,
01:00:20and I'm surprised I learned little things from therapy.
01:00:24Babe, I just want you to know that I'm really proud of you
01:00:26for opening up to the therapist and trying.
01:00:30I know it wasn't easy for you,
01:00:32and you've come a long way.
01:00:34God, I love you.
01:00:39It was like a fart.
01:00:41It was like a fart kiss.
01:00:44Let's start our new life.
01:00:46Fresh start, right?
01:00:47Starts now.
01:00:50Congratulations.
01:00:57Good job.
01:00:58Good job, guys.
01:01:00And the queen has a king.
01:01:02Yes.
01:01:04Our first recommittal.
01:01:06Congratulations, you two.
01:01:08That was absolutely beautiful.
01:01:11Next up is Sophie and Rob.
01:01:20Walking up to this altar is like,
01:01:23it's very, very, it's scary.
01:01:27Like, when I see Sophie, she looks beautiful.
01:01:31But on our wedding day, I looked at her
01:01:34and I saw my future.
01:01:37Today, I'm looking at her and I don't know
01:01:40what's the end goal for Sophie.
01:01:41I don't know what she wants out of this.
01:01:46Definitely makes me more nervous.
01:01:50I hope.
01:01:57Sophie, please go first.
01:02:09Mine is kind of different because I wrote
01:02:12like a letter to my younger self, younger Sophie.
01:02:16So, I'm gonna be reading that.
01:02:20Yes.
01:02:24I have anxiety, but I'm going to read it, OK?
01:02:25Mm-hmm.
01:02:26I'm just curious.
01:02:27OK.
01:02:30Dear younger Sophie, remember to stand up for yourself
01:02:33if people are mean to you.
01:02:35And remember you're perfect the way you are.
01:02:38Don't ever lose your light, and always be yourself.
01:02:43Remember you are so strong, and you are beautiful.
01:02:45And never try to change for others.
01:02:50Fast forward to grown-up Sophie.
01:02:52You are now more confident.
01:02:54You finally have friends, and even end up getting married.
01:03:02And grown Sophie has grown into a kind, loving person
01:03:08who deserves love and happiness.
01:03:12And even though who you marry is not your dream man,
01:03:30you was happy with him for a few years.
01:03:40And will always love and care for him.
01:03:50Love, older Sophie.
01:03:57Oh, boy.
01:04:11Well, I think that's pretty much it, then, huh?
01:04:29No.
01:04:34What I wrote doesn't matter.
01:04:41And I hate to see, and I hate to hear,
01:04:45but I appreciate the clarity.
01:04:56Yeah, I have the hard part now.
01:05:03I'm sorry.
01:05:04It's OK.
01:05:05It's OK.
01:05:06It's OK.
01:05:07It's OK.
01:05:08It's OK.
01:05:09It's OK.
01:05:10It's OK.
01:05:11It's OK.
01:05:12It's OK.
01:05:13It's OK.
01:05:14It's OK.
01:05:15It's OK.
01:05:16It's OK.
01:05:17It's OK.
01:05:18It's OK.
01:05:19It's OK.
01:05:20It's OK.
01:05:21It's OK.
01:05:22It's OK.
01:05:23It's OK.
01:05:24It's OK.
01:05:25It's OK.
01:05:26It's OK.
01:05:27It's OK.
01:05:28It's OK.
01:05:29It's OK.
01:05:30It's OK.
01:05:31It's OK.
01:05:32It's OK.
01:05:33It's OK.
01:05:34It's OK.
01:05:35It's OK.
01:05:36It's OK.
01:05:37It's OK.
01:05:38It's OK.
01:05:39It's OK.
01:05:40It's OK.
01:05:41It's OK.
01:05:42It's OK.
01:05:43It's OK.
01:05:44It's OK.
01:05:45It's OK.
01:05:46It's OK.
01:05:47It's OK.
01:05:49I'm ready to go now.
01:05:50Shut your fat lips.
01:05:51You already are.
01:05:52You've got it stuck.
01:05:57to see how we could be in each other's lives.
01:06:01I love you.
01:06:08I promise you, I've really tried.
01:06:11And I'm just not happy.
01:06:14Neither am I.
01:06:15I know that.
01:06:17And I wanted both to be happy.
01:06:21Me too.
01:06:28Thanks.
01:06:41Thank you for listening.
01:06:44Yeah.
01:06:48Thank you, Rob and Sophie.
01:06:52Hearing her little Sophie tell her story
01:06:55Since he's young, this is a mother****** bull****.
01:07:00I promise you, that English muffin is never going to grow up.
01:07:03It's going to stay like that.
01:07:05You know, and I feel pretty bad for Rob, to be honest.
01:07:08I think it's like 100% Rob is better out without Sophie.
01:07:19Oh yeah, leave it.
01:07:21Oh my gosh.
01:07:23Alright.
01:07:29Leave me alone.
01:07:53Leave me alone.
01:08:11When Sophie finally says, you know, she's not going to recommit,
01:08:14I'm not the man of her dreams.
01:08:17My heart falls out my ass.
01:08:19I'm like very uncomfortable. I don't want to stand here.
01:08:21I don't want to be here. I feel hurt. I feel betrayed.
01:08:28I'm not the man of her dreams.
01:08:31So that's what you're going to leave me for somebody that you don't know.
01:08:40I feel like I'm just getting jerked around left and right.
01:08:44And now I'm just getting discarded.
01:08:48Are you okay?
01:08:50I don't know how to process what the **** just happened.
01:08:54I just wish she was going to **** do it.
01:08:57Then she should have did it a long time ago instead of stringing me along up until now.
01:09:04I did all this.
01:09:13Just to end up alone.
01:09:18Yeah.
01:09:33Brandon and Julia, we're going to have both of you come up.
01:09:38And Julia, why don't you go ahead and start?
01:09:43I'm going to start.
01:09:44You're going to start. You got to go first.
01:09:46I can't.
01:09:48First, I want to thank you for you coming with me.
01:09:52This is a big step for you. You know how hard this is for you.
01:09:54You did this for me.
01:09:56And I appreciate this more than anything.
01:09:59I have something with me.
01:10:11What's in the bag?
01:10:17That is two rugs.
01:10:19What I carry all the time in the mountains.
01:10:25That is my rug, parents.
01:10:27That is your rug, baby.
01:10:31I agree to go second opinion.
01:10:47Are you trying to kill me?
01:10:51I'm sorry.
01:10:56Parents stay with me still.
01:10:58That's an open question for you.
01:11:02Did you really do compromise and help me for doing this journey with my family?
01:11:11That's a question for you because I have that rug with me.
01:11:17Oh, you write something.
01:11:26In the few weeks I have spent this resort, I have felt many things.
01:11:30I felt jealousy.
01:11:32I felt anger.
01:11:34I felt distrust.
01:11:36And I have felt a deep hurt.
01:11:39But the more memorable things I have felt and feel right now are connection, trust, and love.
01:11:49I love you with every ounce of my heart and soul.
01:11:52Though it may be difficult for me, I want to help you in any way to get your parents to the U.S.
01:12:00Let's get that out of here.
01:12:03I love you.
01:12:04I love you more.
01:12:08That was beautiful.
01:12:09Yeah.
01:12:10Yeah.
01:12:14Why did you finally agree to bring my parents to the U.S.?
01:12:17I think I was too focused on how we were going to make it all work.
01:12:20And as I was standing up there, I was thinking,
01:12:24Why did you finally agree to bring my parents to the U.S.?
01:12:27I think I was too focused on how we were going to make it all work.
01:12:30And as I was standing up there, in that moment, I think I realized
01:12:36maybe our relationship at this point is strong enough that we can work through it.
01:12:41You know, if you're with the right person, you can make it work, no matter how hard it is.
01:12:47And I'm with the right person.
01:12:49I love you.
01:12:50I love you.
01:12:54Congratulations.
01:12:55Congratulations.
01:12:56Beautiful job.
01:12:57Congrats.
01:12:58Woo!
01:13:01Congratulations.
01:13:03Congrats, man.
01:13:18Knowing that I hurt someone that I care about so deeply,
01:13:20that was a very difficult thing for me to do.
01:13:22And I feel, you know, I'm heartbroken.
01:13:25I feel like I know I did it to myself, but it's hard.
01:13:29This wasn't going to be something that I was going to say and be like, great.
01:13:33And I just don't want to be around people because this is very, very tough.
01:13:50Congratulations.
01:14:00Do you think he was going to recommit if he went first?
01:14:05I don't know.
01:14:06By his reaction, I don't know if he was or not.
01:14:13It would make me feel better if he was also not going to recommit,
01:14:17and I could at least feel better that he's not hurt.
01:14:24Can I have a blanket, please?
01:14:38It was what I know I needed to do.
01:14:42It doesn't feel nice.
01:14:48The future me will be happy I did that,
01:14:50and the past me will be happy I did that.
01:14:53But now I'm not happy I did that.
01:14:58Now he's going to hate me.
01:15:04It's hard to envision a life that Rob isn't a part of.
01:15:07I loved a lot of our time together, and it helped me grow.
01:15:11I'm sure it helped Rob grow.
01:15:13And also, there was a lot of good in that relationship,
01:15:16so I'm not going to be like,
01:15:17oh, I wish I never met him, because I don't feel that way.
01:15:23I don't want to say I'm giving up on love,
01:15:25but I'm definitely taking a long break from it.
01:15:28Like, I do still really want love in my life,
01:15:31but I really just don't want to get hurt again.
01:15:42I don't want to go home.
01:15:44I don't want to be here anymore.
01:16:10I'm relieved.
01:16:13I can move on with my life.
01:16:18I guess that's ultimately what I came here for.
01:16:21But I was going to try. I was going to say,
01:16:23if she wants to try, then I'll try.
01:16:26I mean, I should have expected it,
01:16:28but it did hurt for her to not want to try.
01:16:32Would you be willing to read me what you wrote?
01:16:43Honestly, I don't know if I really feel it.
01:16:54I'm going to keep...
01:16:57the first and most of the second page to myself,
01:17:01and I'll read the last page.
01:17:04Though a lot of things have continued to push us apart,
01:17:07I could not deny what we have
01:17:09when we shut off the noise.
01:17:12I've been reminded of Sophie's love for me these past few days,
01:17:15and my heart has always wanted it to be her.
01:17:18So that being said, I will recommit to Sophie
01:17:21and to us one last time.
01:17:23If Sophie will move to Los Angeles with me,
01:17:26we will again have our time together,
01:17:29and it is worth it to me to see if we can continue to grow together
01:17:33instead of growing apart.
01:17:36But yeah, I was going to recommit.
01:17:45The silver lining to this whole thing
01:17:48is that Sophie not recommitting gives me clarity.
01:17:53And I'm not going to wake up in 10 years and be like,
01:17:56why did I let that girl go?
01:17:59I didn't let her go. I did everything I could.
01:18:06I didn't let her go.
01:18:23Next up, we have Jasmine and Gino.
01:18:27The best for last.
01:18:29You got this, Gino.
01:18:31Okay.
01:18:33I'm overwhelmed right now.
01:18:35A part of me just wants to have it done,
01:18:38but another part of me is scared
01:18:40because my life could change forever after this moment.
01:18:52Like the old times.
01:18:54Yeah, flashbacks of not that long ago, right?
01:19:05Well...
01:19:10I still don't know if this is what you want.
01:19:18But anyway, love starts as a feeling but continues as a choice.
01:19:25And I find myself choosing you more and more every day.
01:19:31I promise you my unconditional love, tenderness,
01:19:36and undying devotion.
01:19:39And to love you, comfort you, protect you,
01:19:43and shelter you all days of my life.
01:19:50Till the day I die, baby.
01:19:52It's beautiful.
01:19:55That's beautiful.
01:19:57Is that all you had?
01:20:04What's really important to me is that
01:20:07our relationship is always getting better.
01:20:11It has to keep getting stronger.
01:20:13And I want to fight less.
01:20:15I want you to listen to me.
01:20:17I am very nice to you.
01:20:19And I want us to grow a very good connection and bond.
01:20:24I love you very much.
01:20:26I don't want to lose you.
01:20:28And I'm willing to do whatever it takes to keep you.
01:20:33I'm not going to give up.
01:20:41So, you're not going to give up.
01:20:46Um...
01:20:48So, it means that you are committed to move forward
01:20:53with our open marriage agreement
01:20:59and our third person to be mapped.
01:21:16So, it means that you are committed to move forward
01:21:20with our open marriage agreement
01:21:26and our third person to be mapped.
01:21:32So, it means that you are committed to move forward
01:21:36with our open marriage agreement
01:21:39and our third person to be mapped.
01:21:45Yes.
01:21:47Yes, I'm open to it,
01:21:49but we have to have in the rules that
01:21:53if you and Matt grow too much of a friendship
01:21:58or it's affecting your relationship,
01:22:01you have to move forward with our third person to be mapped.
01:22:05So, it means that you are committed to move forward
01:22:09with our third person to be mapped.
01:22:13If it's affecting our marriage,
01:22:16then I want to be able to avoid the contract.
01:22:21I want to work on our emotional connection
01:22:25and then we can cancel the...
01:22:28Open marriage.
01:22:29Open marriage at that time.
01:22:32That's what my goal is. That's what I want.
01:22:35That's it.
01:22:50One and a half.
01:22:51Te amo.
01:23:02I feel like Gino agreed to this open marriage
01:23:04just because he wants to keep Jasmine happy.
01:23:07And I'm happy that they're deciding to stay together,
01:23:11but it's a sticky situation.
01:23:13You know, if they love each other,
01:23:14I guess they'll figure it out.
01:23:17Gino making big, big, huge mistake.
01:23:20God knows what that guy going to...
01:23:24God knows. God help him. I don't know.
01:23:31First off, congratulations to all of you.
01:23:34What a beautiful night.
01:23:37This is the end of our journey here.
01:23:39It's bittersweet for all of us, right?
01:23:42It's sad to see that we're moving forward,
01:23:45but exciting and happy to see you guys
01:23:47being able to carry on outside of here.
01:23:49We're going to miss doing this work with you.
01:23:51Highs and lows, it was still a pleasure.
01:23:54Your growth is absolutely amazing
01:23:56and I look forward to what the future brings for all of you.
01:24:00We hope that all of you can take the tools
01:24:02that you have learned,
01:24:03incorporate them into your everyday lives,
01:24:06individually and as a couple.
01:24:10Good job, guys.
01:24:11Thank you so much.
01:24:14Let's celebrate everyone.
01:24:18Congratulations.
01:24:20Congratulations.
01:24:22Congratulations.
01:24:26Congratulations.
01:24:31After spending these weeks at this retreat,
01:24:34I'm making progress with feeling like I can trust her more,
01:24:37but it's not going to be fixed overnight.
01:24:40We've barely scratched the surface on a lot of these issues
01:24:43and it's going to take both our effort to keep working on them.
01:24:47Come on, come on.
01:24:52Come on, Chewbacca.
01:24:56We have a new start, but we have our past,
01:25:00and the past always will be with us.
01:25:03We can't change our past, but we can change our future,
01:25:06and that is precious and powerful.
01:25:15After you.
01:25:17I'm your queen for life.
01:25:20The last three weeks, basically, ups and downs.
01:25:24You're going to realize what you do wrong, what you do right.
01:25:28To me, recommitting means taking what we learned here seriously,
01:25:33and I want it to work.
01:25:36For me, boundaries are very important
01:25:38because I deserve all of Florian.
01:25:42I give you all of me,
01:25:45and I just want to make sure that you really want to put the effort in.
01:25:49Yeah.
01:25:50And that's all I want, just effort.
01:25:52That's all.
01:25:53I don't ask for much.
01:25:54I know.
01:25:55I make it clear right now.
01:25:57It's my priority and all.
01:26:00And I appreciate that.
01:26:06We made it!
01:26:08Yeah!
01:26:09We did it!
01:26:11Best f***ing day!
01:26:15Open the champagne!
01:26:17I'll open this bad boy.
01:26:19Open the champagne!
01:26:28Get me some, baby!
01:26:29Your wife first!
01:26:32Fill this glass up! Let's party!
01:26:34Yes, baby!
01:26:35I need some for myself!
01:26:37Cheers!
01:26:40We survived!
01:26:42No more therapy!
01:26:46We survived this.
01:26:48Oh my gosh.
01:26:50Not an easy journey, guys.
01:26:52No.
01:26:53For any of us.
01:26:54Good job.
01:26:55I'm proud of us all.
01:26:56Yes.
01:26:57And I feel so sad for Ari and Vinny.
01:27:00Yeah, that was pretty sad.
01:27:02Sophie and Rob.
01:27:04And Natalie, you got us.
01:27:07I know.
01:27:09Let's cheer for Natalie and Vinny!
01:27:17I understand that love is the most precious thing in the world.
01:27:20And I really crave for love.
01:27:22And I want to love and to be loved.
01:27:25But I probably have to heal first.
01:27:30My journey, it's not easy, it's hard.
01:27:32Sometimes you fall.
01:27:34But you have to keep going.
01:27:36No matter what.
01:27:39I love it!
01:27:40Yeah, so cute!
01:27:42Woo!
01:27:43Aww.
01:27:44Yeah.
01:27:45You guys are the best.
01:27:47Yes, I'm so happy to be here with you guys.
01:27:49Yeah, really.
01:27:50Cheers.
01:27:52I feel hopeful and very happy because we recommitted.
01:28:00And we are going with an open mind that this is going to work.
01:28:06This is very difficult to do, but I'll do whatever it takes to have a beautiful relationship like we've never had before.
01:28:14Woo!
01:28:15Yeah!
01:28:19My ultimate goal for all of this is that we build our emotional connection back.
01:28:24And, you know, that we can be intimate.
01:28:29Sorry.
01:28:32Baby.
01:28:34That we can be intimate again, and then we can void the contract.
01:28:47It has been such a hard process.
01:28:53But we don't want to lose each other, and we're going to try our best.
01:28:58Yes.
01:29:02Yeah.
01:29:08I'm going to miss you guys so much.
01:29:10Yeah, really.
01:29:11Absolutely.
01:29:12Sick.
01:29:13That's it.
01:29:14No, it's not an ending.
01:29:15It's a new beginning.
01:29:16New beginning.
01:29:17It's a new beginning, guys.
01:29:18New beginning!
01:29:19Woo!
01:29:20Adios, amigos!
01:29:28Adios, amigos!