90 Day - The Last Resort S2 Episode 17 - Peace At Last
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00:00:00Hello, hello.
00:00:02You want a private den?
00:00:06Previously on 90 Day The Last Resort.
00:00:14This is our final group therapy session.
00:00:18Each of you come up with one word to describe kind of where you're at at this moment in your relationship and in your marriage.
00:00:24I think my word is confusion.
00:00:27It doesn't make me feel very good that Sophie is this confused at this point.
00:00:31I'm only confused about what the hell does she want.
00:00:36Josh, I would love for you to look at her and just tell her directly where you are.
00:00:42I do love you and I do care for you.
00:00:45But I do have to let you go.
00:00:48Now my relationship with Josh is over.
00:00:50It kind of hurt my dignity a lot.
00:00:53Because I wasn't enough for him to commit to me, to be with me.
00:00:58I mean it hurts to do this, but I think it is best for both of us.
00:01:05We need to take every step seriously.
00:01:09And one of the main things is you talking to Matt.
00:01:16I agreed to meet Matt because Jasmine, she has this emotional connection with this guy already.
00:01:23That really worries me.
00:01:26Matt, can you hear me?
00:01:28Yeah, can you hear me?
00:01:54I love you.
00:01:56I love you.
00:01:59I love you.
00:02:24I'm sorry.
00:02:29So, as I told you Matt, right, Gino and I, we are in this retreat.
00:02:37And because we decided to be in this open marriage, we have to make an agreement for, like, the rules.
00:02:46It's very important for me, like, I have my husband's approval of the person that is going to be part of this open marriage, which is you.
00:02:55And Gino is here and he can hear you.
00:02:57So I'm going to be here.
00:02:59Gino has some questions for you.
00:03:02So go ahead, Gino.
00:03:05Hi Matt.
00:03:07Hey Gino, how are you?
00:03:09Good, how are you?
00:03:11Good.
00:03:15Good.
00:03:21So how did you guys first meet?
00:03:25At the gym.
00:03:31So you two have never been intimate with each other yet?
00:03:38No, she's married. I try not to do anything like that to sabotage people's marriages because I think it's wrong.
00:03:46Mm-hmm.
00:03:50So, are you single now?
00:03:55Yeah, I am, yes.
00:03:58Have you ever had relationships in the past? Many relationships or a few?
00:04:06I've had quite a few, yeah, but I've never been married or anything.
00:04:10You've had quite a few?
00:04:13Yeah, of course.
00:04:16One of the things that Jasmine and I already talked about, like one of the guidelines and such, was, you know, safe sex during the open relationship.
00:04:30Are you willing to agree to that on your end?
00:04:35Yeah, sure, that's fine. I mean, of course.
00:04:41This is such a weird conversation, I'm sorry.
00:04:43I understand, but it's an important question, right?
00:04:46I know, I feel it's strange, I'm sorry.
00:04:49You'll wear a condom if you have sex with Jasmine?
00:04:52Yeah, yeah, of course.
00:04:56Okay.
00:04:58Let's say she's, you know, starting to fall in love or you have this really strong bond with you.
00:05:05Jasmine and I agreed that at that point we would have to end this because we don't want feelings to get involved or get too attached to each other.
00:05:17That's fine with me, but I do think Jasmine is kind of fragile.
00:05:27So she does, you know, sometimes need a delicate way of handling her or talking to her.
00:05:35When I don't see that she is taken care of the way she should be, it's kind of heartbreaking because Jasmine is, you know, she can be a little bit of a brat, but she has a good heart.
00:05:53You know, I appreciate that, but I'd rather just leave that between her and I.
00:06:01Okay.
00:06:06I knew this chat was going to be difficult, which is why I never wanted to do it, but it's turning out to be more difficult than I even imagined.
00:06:18Seeing Jasmine and Matt interact on the phone, it seems like they have this deep emotional connection already, and there's even a part of me that, you know, I just want to clock Matt right in the face, you know, and knock him over.
00:06:32I just, like, want to punch the guy.
00:06:36Well, I think I got all the information I needed through this first conversation.
00:06:42So does it mean that you are okay with Matt being the person that we are going to bring up in your open marriage, or you have to think about it?
00:06:57I don't know Matt that well, but from this moment, I'm okay with it at this moment.
00:07:06You know, nice meeting you. Jasmine, I'll see you when you get back to Michigan.
00:07:13Okay. To work out.
00:07:17No, to not work out.
00:07:20Oh, yeah.
00:07:22I told you I don't want to, like, a friendship.
00:07:25Okay. Okay. To have sex, then.
00:07:33Okie dokie.
00:07:35Well, I hope you guys have a good day. Jasmine, make sure you drink your water and eat your food.
00:07:40I'm trying, I promise. Okay. Bye.
00:07:44Bye-bye.
00:07:45Bye.
00:07:51I don't like the way Matt talked to me, but unfortunately, I feel like I've been put in a corner by Jasmine as Matt being the only person she wants this open marriage with.
00:08:02I'm in the recommitment ceremonies tomorrow, and I don't feel like I have another choice.
00:08:09I don't know.
00:08:12I just, I got a bad feeling inside.
00:08:16Can I hug you?
00:08:18I don't know.
00:08:20Remember what Reva said to reconnect. Give me a hug.
00:08:25I am very tense. It was very uncomfortable for me.
00:08:37It sucks.
00:08:39It sucks?
00:08:41Mm-hmm.
00:08:45I don't know.
00:08:46I don't know.
00:08:47I don't know.
00:08:48I don't know.
00:08:49I don't know.
00:08:50I don't know.
00:08:51I don't know.
00:08:52I don't know.
00:09:13At the last therapy, Josh ended our relationship.
00:09:19And I feel left behind. I feel used.
00:09:29But I still gonna accomplish last task as being part of recommitment ceremony.
00:09:36Because I'm not gonna give up on myself.
00:09:41Yes, he decided not to be next to me, but why can't I be there alone?
00:09:45This recommitment ceremony is not about Josh anymore. It's about myself.
00:09:58Hi, can I get a bell cart to 529, please?
00:10:03Thanks.
00:10:05I'm packing my bags tonight and leaving the resort because I just don't feel like, you know, I really need to be around and drag this out any further.
00:10:15How are you feeling?
00:10:19It was tough. I had, like, anxiety. And, like, I didn't want to hurt her, but, you know, like, I needed to be, like, I needed my voice to be heard.
00:10:28And I didn't know how she was going to take it.
00:10:34But the response I got was a little awkward.
00:10:37And it was almost like she was relieved, which is a little hurtful because of, like, everything I actually have done for her.
00:10:45It goes beyond, like, the relationship. We have a friendship also. So, like, I felt disrespected still in a way.
00:10:57It's definitely hard to leave, you know, even when you know the time is up.
00:11:01Can I ask for a bell cart?
00:11:03Yeah, come on in.
00:11:05Natalie is not like anybody I've ever dated before. And she's fun and she's very mysterious. She's cute. She's smart. She's funny. And I'll miss that.
00:11:19She's one of a kind.
00:11:26I got it.
00:11:27I got it.
00:11:29After this retreat, I'm going to, you know, do some self-reflecting. And I think that I need that. I think I need to love myself a little bit more. I don't think I've been doing that.
00:11:41I think that, you know, I need to be just the best dad that I could be. And, you know, just focus on that for right now.
00:11:58Whoa.
00:12:03Brandon!
00:12:05He going to first.
00:12:08Going to save the world.
00:12:10Let's have some drinking.
00:12:14Tomorrow's the recommitment ceremony. And tonight we're all going to go out, have some fun, and let loose a little bit.
00:12:20It's really sad to see this group is getting smaller. Ari and Vinny were here and now they left. And Josh and Natalie just broke up.
00:12:30And really, I just want to celebrate who's made it this far and have a little bit of fun.
00:12:35Let's drink it for a happy end.
00:12:38To a happy ending. Like, not literally, but...
00:12:46To Natalie and Josh!
00:12:47To Natalie and Josh!
00:12:49Josh can be a hoe in peace.
00:12:52You thinking Jasmine and Gina come with Matt together? Three of them?
00:12:57I don't know. I feel like my thoughts on all this is really, like, it's a disaster waiting to happen.
00:13:05This is the thing. Gina believes in Jasmine. He thinks she will come back to him when he's ready.
00:13:12I don't think Jasmine truly believes in Gino. And she's opening herself up to a huge problem.
00:13:19Which is her feelings emotionally investing in another man.
00:13:24It's what they want. If you don't agree, it's okay.
00:13:30I don't buy it for one second that Jasmine actually wants an open marriage.
00:13:33Jasmine's just trying to be able to have a little boo thing on the side.
00:13:37And Jasmine shows up here trying to reframe it to help, like it's going to help Gino.
00:13:43I just want to call it out and call it like I see it. Jasmine should not get to get away with that.
00:13:49Seems like we have two more people here.
00:13:52Three more?
00:13:54There could always be room for three.
00:13:56Hello, hello, hello!
00:13:59Gina, hi!
00:14:01Jasmine, girl.
00:14:03I'm glad you guys are here.
00:14:05I got questions for y'all.
00:14:07Why'd you guys run in late?
00:14:09We were banging it out.
00:14:15I'm joking.
00:14:17Damn it. Come on, we weren't saying that one.
00:14:21What happened? What happened?
00:14:23You really want to know?
00:14:24We ended up calling Matt the person that Jasmine picked for the open relationship.
00:14:32Oh.
00:14:34I wanted to talk to him and get to know him a bit and figure out if he's like the right person, you know?
00:14:41He's not. Keep searching.
00:14:43Let him see.
00:14:45There were some things I didn't like, you know, during the conversation with Matt.
00:14:48He was just talking about our personal relationship between Jasmine and I and how I should be nicer to her.
00:14:57They have a very good friendship going on and that worries me.
00:15:01Because this is only supposed to be like an intimacy thing, okay?
00:15:05Right, so he should shut the f*** up.
00:15:09I told him that, hey, we can't, you guys can't have such a good friendship, okay?
00:15:15And it's going to be in the rules.
00:15:18Without you, I'm expecting them to come, right?
00:15:21You're not scared you're going to start feeling something for him?
00:15:25Oh, of course, this is a fear that we both have.
00:15:29That's why we're going to put it in the rules that if she does get any kind of connection with this person,
00:15:35that we have to cut off the relationship at that point.
00:15:39I suggest forget the f*** Matt and f*** your wife.
00:15:45That was my initial proposal.
00:15:48Because I'm going to be honest with you.
00:15:50I do not believe that you will not have feelings for him if you start a relationship with him.
00:15:56She does love me.
00:15:58But you're not f***ing her. He will be.
00:16:02If she's falling for the other guy who's giving her what you want, why would she choose you?
00:16:12I would cut it off if I see this getting out of control.
00:16:14You will be the last one to realize this f***ing getting out of control.
00:16:20It's very insulting to hear from Rob,
00:16:24insinuating that I'm forcing Gino to agree to the idea of an open marriage.
00:16:29Gino is an adult. Gino is free to decide what is best for him.
00:16:33And this is the best solution for Gino and I.
00:16:36Rob is allowed to have his own opinion, but he shouldn't force his own opinion on us.
00:16:44You said you're okay with her finding sex from somewhere else. Okay.
00:16:48Find another guy.
00:16:51Because this guy, she's already known this guy.
00:16:55She's already talking to this guy.
00:16:57He knows too much about your relationship.
00:16:59And he's already telling her what's wrong with you.
00:17:04Honestly, honestly, can I say something?
00:17:07I kind of agree with you, Rob.
00:17:08I feel like Gino feels pressured to accept this situation.
00:17:13I feel like Matt already has feelings for you.
00:17:17And it's a little too late.
00:17:22I actually saw a smile and happiness like I've never seen in you.
00:17:29I think Jasmine is all in a little denial about how much she likes Matt.
00:17:36Which definitely is going to be a problem in their marriage.
00:17:59You have an emotional connection with this Matt guy.
00:18:02I saw it. I saw it.
00:18:03I saw it.
00:18:05Now that I'm hearing from Gino, this is just like a disaster waiting to happen.
00:18:10For me, it cannot be a random person.
00:18:13Okay, this guy over the bar, come to the open marriage.
00:18:16It has to be someone that I trust.
00:18:19Don't let her play that.
00:18:21Don't let her play that.
00:18:23I can build trust with another person, but I would have to start the process all over again.
00:18:28And that should happen.
00:18:29Gino and Jasmine are ready to be in an open relationship.
00:18:32Now let's go meet someone.
00:18:35If it's truly about sex, you're both starting from the beginning.
00:18:39You're both starting from the beginning.
00:18:45Yeah, I agree.
00:18:48Matt's out now.
00:18:50He's out.
00:18:54You have too much of a connection with Matt.
00:18:56He's out.
00:18:58Okay, let's put it this way.
00:19:00Let's put it this way.
00:19:02No, let's put it this way, Gino.
00:19:04F*** it.
00:19:06I've been married to this guy almost a year.
00:19:09Nine months, he hasn't touched me.
00:19:11He has rejected me.
00:19:13I've been f***ing faithful to Gino.
00:19:16But you have no idea how I have to open myself.
00:19:21You have been here f***ing being judgmental.
00:19:24And you are the first people crucifying me.
00:19:28Crucifying me.
00:19:30F*** you all.
00:19:32F*** everything.
00:19:34Nine months, nine months.
00:19:37If I can hold on to nine months without needing to f*** somebody else, I think you could too.
00:19:42F*** you.
00:19:44F*** everybody.
00:19:46F*** everybody.
00:19:48F*** Matt.
00:19:50Who cares about this f***ing guy?
00:19:54F*** you.
00:20:00You want the truth?
00:20:02You're embarrassing her.
00:20:05You just want his f***ing wife.
00:20:07Yes!
00:20:09I need an emotional connection.
00:20:11People taking Gino's side.
00:20:13The problem is...
00:20:15Do sex with your wife.
00:20:17Find a solution.
00:20:19You kicked her out for Christmas.
00:20:21I didn't f***ing kick her out, man.
00:20:22Guys, guys, guys, come on!
00:20:24Don't you f***ing mouth my f***ing stupid dad.
00:20:27I'm not gonna take your s***.
00:20:29Wait, guys.
00:20:39I'm not playing this.
00:20:41Don't f***ing touch me. I'm going back to Michigan and this is f***ing over.
00:20:44I haven't had sex in f***ing nine months with my wife.
00:20:47Does that mean that I'm like, I need to f*** this girl that I've been thinking about?
00:20:50And if I did, it would be a f***ing cheating situation.
00:20:56Gino, his heart's on the line.
00:20:58And I feel bad for him.
00:21:00And then there's this other person who doesn't give a damn about him,
00:21:03who's manipulating him and who's trying to get him to do s*** that he doesn't want to do,
00:21:07that will make his life harder.
00:21:09I just can't look at it and be like,
00:21:11good luck, buddy.
00:21:13And just keep on walking.
00:21:15Like, hey, I wouldn't do that.
00:21:17Think about it. And then I walk away.
00:21:18Like, I just can't not say something.
00:21:22Where did that come from?
00:21:24What is that?
00:21:26I think that is a response to her not being able to hold on to the guy she wants.
00:21:30It is not as easy and simple as she's making it seem, Gino.
00:21:37This whole situation is turning crazy.
00:21:41I think just seeing Gino really upset and seeing the emotional connection Jasmine and Matt had,
00:21:47it just made it that more real.
00:21:50I've been very open and everyone is just f***ing judging me.
00:21:54This is what you chose, but we're not judging you.
00:21:57It's just a very convoluted situation.
00:21:59We're all trying to understand it.
00:22:02Let's go, Gino. Let's walk.
00:22:04Enough is enough.
00:22:06No one has to understand.
00:22:08Just Gino and I have to understand.
00:22:13I don't want to see him again.
00:22:14I don't want to see him again. I don't want to live here so far.
00:22:17I've been begging, begging, begging for nine months.
00:22:22First of all, you need to be strong for your two kids, okay?
00:22:25F***ing f*** everybody, okay? You need to be strong for your two kids.
00:22:28Okay?
00:22:31Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God.
00:22:34We need to take her home.
00:22:37I would bet money that this open relationship idea came about after Matt.
00:22:45After she met him.
00:22:48After they vibed. After she thought he was cute.
00:22:50She was at the gym. She worked out with him.
00:22:52She's vibing with him. He flirted with her.
00:22:54F*** Matt.
00:22:56Dude, we can foresee the future.
00:22:58If she's got an emotional connection and she needs and wants it to be Matt.
00:23:02When Rob reacts like this and gets all loud and stuff, I don't really like it.
00:23:06I think it is unattractive. It kind of gives me the ick.
00:23:09I agree with what he's trying to say, though.
00:23:10If Rob said, hey, I want to still be with you and you have to be my wife and do all this stuff,
00:23:16but I get to f*** a bunch of girls, absolutely not.
00:23:19And then if he said he already found the girl that he wants to sleep with, I'd be sick.
00:23:23I'd throw up. I would cry, throw up, do everything.
00:23:26No. No. No.
00:23:28It's crazy.
00:23:31Clause number one.
00:23:33Thank God I had this conversation.
00:23:35It's not Matt.
00:23:37Cancel.
00:23:39Cancel.
00:23:41It cannot be f***ing Matt, dude.
00:23:43I just know Jasmine.
00:23:46I know her. I've known her for a while.
00:23:49If she wants to act like it's just sex, then she needs to step up and let it be just sex.
00:23:57I know you feel judged and you feel hurt and you feel like everybody's attacking you.
00:24:02F*** all of us.
00:24:03Yeah. Both our opinions.
00:24:19This is between you and Gino. We're all here for our own relationships.
00:24:24And tomorrow, that's it.
00:24:27We're all in the same boat. We're all in the same boat.
00:24:30I don't know what's going to happen between me and Florian. I don't know.
00:24:33I just want to go home and rest.
00:24:35Yes, you need rest.
00:24:37Tomorrow's a big day.
00:24:40These people are nobody to judge me.
00:24:45I could tell them a lot of things that I disagree in their life and them as a person,
00:24:51but I keep it to myself because the therapists are here to guide them, not me.
00:24:55Good night, baby. Good night.
00:24:59At this point, I feel like I just exhausted all the resources to save this marriage.
00:25:11It finally clicked in my head that they have way too much of an emotional connection.
00:25:17Florian, what do you think? What does Florian think?
00:25:19You want the truth? You're embarrassing her with this.
00:25:25What the f**k is happening with your brain, man?
00:25:28You just want him to f**k his wife.
00:25:30Yes! I know. It's simple, man.
00:25:33No, it's not simple.
00:25:36How old you are?
00:25:38I don't have to say my age. You know how old I am.
00:25:41You're 56, okay?
00:25:43I'm older than you.
00:25:45Yeah, so respect me.
00:25:46Why are you f**king respecting your f**king wife?
00:25:48How do you respect me? Tell me! How do I f**king respect you? Tell me!
00:25:54I need an emotional connection.
00:25:56Florian, there's a disconnect.
00:26:02People taking Gina aside.
00:26:04But Gina is the problem, man.
00:26:06He refused to touch her. He refused to, like, do sex with her. He refused to sleep with her.
00:26:11Do sex with your wife and find a solution.
00:26:13Find a solution.
00:26:15Stop the drama, you know, my boy.
00:26:17It's Gina's fault. Same as much as Jasmine's fault.
00:26:21Both in the wrong path.
00:26:26What'd you do for the Christmas?
00:26:28Jasmine, tell me.
00:26:30Jasmine wasn't with me for Christmas. She's f**king with me.
00:26:33You kicked her out for Christmas.
00:26:35I didn't f**king kick her out, man. You got the story wrong, bitch.
00:26:41You got the story wrong.
00:26:43She left, she left, she left.
00:26:45You don't need a f**king bitch to f**king ask you.
00:26:47No, I f**king left.
00:26:49Tell me. Let's keep the story straight.
00:26:51I'm telling you that she...
00:26:53Let's keep the story straight, man.
00:26:56Listen to me.
00:26:58Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:27:01Guys, guys, keep it straight, bitch.
00:27:03Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:06Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:08Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:10I'm not gonna take your f**king mouth.
00:27:11Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:15Okay, wait, wait, hold on, hold on. Wait, guys.
00:27:24You guys keep it straight, alright?
00:27:26Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:27F**king stupid. Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:30I like you, Florian. I like you.
00:27:32But I'm not gonna f**king take your f**king hand.
00:27:34Shut your f**king mouth. You're so f**king stupid, man.
00:27:36I'm not gonna take your f**king mouth.
00:27:38Shut your f**king mouth.
00:27:39I don't think your f***ing Gino is f***ing going through this f***ing motherf***er right now, alright?
00:27:46It's over. It's over. It's over.
00:27:50Just understand. Just understand. He's going through f***ing s*** right now.
00:27:54He doesn't know what to think.
00:27:56I don't think anyone was expecting Gino and Florian to fight.
00:28:00I mean, it kind of came out of nowhere. They've been like buddies this whole time and...
00:28:04I can kind of foresee it. That's why I've been telling Florian to stop telling him to just f*** your wife.
00:28:08Just try to understand that everybody's not like you and everybody's not just going to disregard how they feel.
00:28:15I mean, hey, Gino got f***ing tired of that s***. He's ready to throw hands.
00:28:20Just try to help. Just try to help.
00:28:22Gino, good morning, you're going to think different, Gino.
00:28:24I'm not going to think different, bro.
00:28:26I promise you.
00:28:27No, I won't.
00:28:28Try to understand.
00:28:29Believe to me, Gino. Good morning, you're going to think different.
00:28:31You don't understand the f***ing problem. That's the problem.
00:28:34You don't understand what's going on. You're not in my f***ing shoes.
00:28:39He's not you.
00:28:40I understand.
00:28:41You know why he can f*** his wife? Because he can f*** anything that moves.
00:28:46Gino can't f*** everything that moves. He needs to f*** someone he likes and loves and has me too.
00:28:53So he's very judgmental.
00:28:54He's on a very basic level.
00:28:56He can't put himself in your shoes because the second he dealt with anything complicated like that, he'd break up with his wife.
00:29:02There would be no relationship. You know what I mean?
00:29:04Right.
00:29:05So he cannot even begin to put himself in your shoes.
00:29:08Oh, Gino is super pissed. I've never seen him like this before.
00:29:12This is supposed to be a fun celebration last night before the recommitment ceremony.
00:29:17It's sad to see it turn into something so negative.
00:29:20But I feel like Gino takes a lot of s***, Jasmine.
00:29:23This is it bubbling up, you know?
00:29:26This night went like f***ing hell and I was not expecting it to turn out like this.
00:29:33I was actually very happy today.
00:29:36I've been very happy.
00:29:39I've been very happy tonight.
00:29:53I think that honestly I'm going to leave this place heartbroken, hurt, without a husband and without friends.
00:30:04Worse than when I came.
00:30:09I mean, it's too much.
00:30:10Hey man, real quick, real quick, real quick.
00:30:12Hey, you and this guy.
00:30:15You guys are boys.
00:30:16Y'all are boys, man.
00:30:17So can we just make sure, hey, we good, right?
00:30:20I mean, I consider Florian my brother.
00:30:22He's just close-minded.
00:30:24And I consider Jasmine like a sister.
00:30:26He's just close-minded, but that's okay, though.
00:30:28I mean, I consider him my brother.
00:30:29That's your boy, man.
00:30:30I like Florian.
00:30:32Brothers be ready to scratch sometimes, you know what I mean?
00:30:35We got a big day.
00:30:36We got a big day.
00:30:37No, no, no.
00:30:38Because you know what?
00:30:39At the end of the day, he just cares about you.
00:30:40I want to talk to him.
00:30:42I'm sorry, Gino.
00:30:43Have a nice, good night.
00:30:44I'm like, I'm trying to like be your brother, you know, like to like think about you.
00:30:49You know my point?
00:30:50Let's have a good night.
00:30:51Have a good night here.
00:30:53Enjoy your life.
00:30:54I think Jasmine.
00:30:55Be happy what you have.
00:30:56Got a lot to think about tonight as well.
00:30:58And you might be surprised what she has to say tomorrow.
00:31:04After listening to all the other couples here tonight talking about this open relationship,
00:31:10they are absolutely right.
00:31:12Matt has to be canceled.
00:31:14I'll let you get your drink.
00:31:15You know, you hang out.
00:31:16Amen.
00:31:17Just, you know, think about it, man.
00:31:19Take your time.
00:31:20I'm not sure we have the trust in each other that we need to make a recommitment to each other tomorrow.
00:31:29Now I'm like second guessing everything.
00:31:33Yeah.
00:31:55I'm starving.
00:31:56And I hope you're going to feed me.
00:31:58Yeah, I got some stuff you like.
00:32:00Okay.
00:32:04You even take a small blanket, Brandon.
00:32:07Why not take a big blanket?
00:32:09It's all I could find, Julia.
00:32:12Don't complain.
00:32:13This is going to be nice.
00:32:19Today is the day of the recommitment ceremony.
00:32:22And it's supposed to be a good day, right?
00:32:25But I'm not feeling that good today after what happened, you know, at the bar last night.
00:32:33And, you know, tempers got flared and, you know, chaos erupting.
00:32:39So I ended up sleeping in a separate room from Jasmine because I just needed my space.
00:32:46And I felt it was best to get my own room last night.
00:32:53And I still need to talk to Jasmine.
00:32:55You know, I'm not ready to walk into this ceremony yet, Jasmine, nor I.
00:32:59You know, and it's the day of the ceremony, and we still don't know what we're doing.
00:33:23Last night was a disaster.
00:33:25You can see it on my face.
00:33:27I haven't slept.
00:33:30I've been crying.
00:33:31You know, I feel so dry.
00:33:33I don't even have more tears.
00:33:36I am extremely anxious because today is the recommitment ceremony.
00:33:41And honestly, I don't even know if Gina and I, we're going to recommit to what?
00:33:49What we're going to recommit to?
00:33:50Because if we go back to Michigan at this stage of uncertainty,
00:33:56what I know for real is going to happen is like we are going to end up separated, being divorced.
00:34:02So I don't even know if what he wants, what's the plan now?
00:34:27What you doing?
00:34:28Writing the vows.
00:34:30Oh, that's nice.
00:34:32I've been thinking about it a lot and writing what I feel.
00:34:36Did you write vows? I haven't seen you.
00:34:38I have in my heart.
00:34:40So you didn't really think about what you're just going to like say what you say in the moment.
00:34:44Yeah.
00:34:46What should I feel at the moment?
00:34:48Take some effort, maybe jot down your thoughts.
00:34:51Yeah, you could speak from the heart, but I feel like you don't know what I'm going to say.
00:34:55So maybe you should think about it, make some effort and dig deep.
00:34:59I think deep, don't worry.
00:35:05I'm going to shower.
00:35:11Take it easy in that book.
00:35:20I'm freaking out, I'm so nervous.
00:35:23I don't know how much thought he's putting into it.
00:35:26I feel like I don't know if he gets it.
00:35:29I feel like he understands my pain and everything I've been through.
00:35:34I've been digging deep and I'm scared what our future holds.
00:35:40Give me a little, okay?
00:35:42Ceremonial, I want my mind to be like clear and clean.
00:35:48I just want to take a minute and say this is really, really nice.
00:35:53You know, the art therapy is all done.
00:35:56How are you feeling about all of it?
00:35:58I feel relieved.
00:36:00I feel all of this helped me to show you.
00:36:04I feel relieved.
00:36:05I feel all of this helped me to show you.
00:36:10My insight and not be afraid to talk about my past.
00:36:15I'm glad you listened to me.
00:36:18But more important stuff, I'm agreed to take a second opinion for baby.
00:36:25But I didn't hear you agree to compromise about my parents.
00:36:31You know that you and your family can't get along.
00:36:35You're at the center of it all and it drives you crazy.
00:36:38You take it to your heart.
00:36:40And then when they're here, if they stay in our house, I think it's going to cause problems for us.
00:36:44And I'm very afraid of what that could do to us, Julia.
00:36:49I just think that we're going to figure out something.
00:36:52That's such a bad plan.
00:36:55That's not even a plan. We're just going to figure it out as it happens?
00:37:00Yeah.
00:37:03I know I messed up by hiding things from Brandon.
00:37:07But I think Brandon doesn't understand how important it is for my parents to be here in the U.S.
00:37:12I feel like Brandon is holding anger at me.
00:37:15It looks like he punished me because I'm keeping secrets from him.
00:37:20And if he can't get over this, we can't move forward.
00:37:26But it's still my family. It's still my parents.
00:37:29And we have to help them.
00:37:32You know, maybe if you had told me when you first filed,
00:37:37we could have talked about this and I could have come up with something.
00:37:40But now this is immediate.
00:37:42It's so soon and I'm super unprepared.
00:37:46But I'm still already starting the process. It's coming.
00:37:49Julia, I can't...
00:37:50And now I just want your answer.
00:37:52Julia, I can't...
00:37:53And now I just want your answer.
00:37:55Did you go in to support me and do everything with me or you did not?
00:38:05When it's not in the best interest of our family, I have a hard time supporting someone.
00:38:11If you decide you're not going to help me with my parents, don't show up.
00:38:19Don't come to this ceremony.
00:38:23Okay?
00:38:32Think about that.
00:38:46Oh.
00:38:48Hi! Come on in.
00:38:50Beautiful.
00:38:51I was so nervous about seeing some of the girls after last night and I got so mad.
00:38:57Okay. I'm good.
00:39:00But hopefully they will understand I was being a talk.
00:39:21No.
00:39:40I still don't know what I'm going to do today.
00:39:42Even though there's been some really weird and bizarre happenings between us since getting here,
00:39:51we've spent this time together and we've been getting along for like the last week.
00:40:01It kind of sucks because this whole time I haven't been able to get my wife to come home and work on our relationship.
00:40:07And only because of all of this do we do what I've been asking and wanting to do.
00:40:14And then I'm seeing the results of that and it's us getting along.
00:40:17And it's Sophie wanting me around. And it's just kind of like bittersweet.
00:40:24I do love Sophie. And my heart wants us to work it out.
00:40:29But I guess I'm worried that it just, it's like too little too late.
00:40:38MUSIC
00:41:03KNOCK AT DOOR
00:41:07KNOCK AT DOOR
00:41:15Good morning. Good morning. Do you have some time to talk?
00:41:19Sure.
00:41:30Why did you sleep on a separate room last night?
00:41:35I just needed some space last night.
00:41:37I understand that but last night I went through a lot.
00:41:43And I really needed you to comfort me because I was and I still am very sad.
00:41:52You know that the commitment ceremony is today.
00:41:56Yeah.
00:41:57And I need to ask, because I was so certain yesterday.
00:42:00But now I don't even know, where are we at now?
00:42:04That's the million dollar question.
00:42:12I know I want to commit to you and I love you.
00:42:15And I still think that the open marriage is our best option right now.
00:42:20But I have a lot of concerns about Matt.
00:42:24I don't know if I can move forward with this open relationship if Matt is the person that you're picking.
00:42:33Rob did have a good point as far as how close you and Matt are right now already.
00:42:40And if you guys are going to keep growing this bond together, that is concerning and it scares me to be honest.
00:42:48I validate that fear but you have to trust me.
00:42:53I'm not in love with Matt.
00:42:58This is not negotiable.
00:43:00Okay.
00:43:03I love you.
00:43:05But this is not negotiable.
00:43:07It has to be Matt for me in order to believe that you're actually being honest about accepting the idea of an open marriage for me to recommit to you.
00:43:20It has to be Matt.
00:43:24I feel like if Gino doesn't agree to an open marriage with Matt, I'm worried that Gino will continue just trying to find excuses to avoid being in an open marriage.
00:43:32Like, no, it is not Matt.
00:43:34Then another person, no, I'm not okay with this other person.
00:43:38And then it's going to be like 20 candidates and anyone is good enough for him.
00:43:42I cannot even tolerate the idea of going back to Michigan and living the same life, the same marriage I was before the retreat.
00:43:52Based on what you said right now, I mean, we're in big trouble right now.
00:43:55Yeah.
00:43:56I feel very anxious.
00:43:58Because we might not be able to commit the ceremony.
00:44:02Yeah.
00:44:06I have a lot to think about.
00:44:08I need to shower.
00:44:09Like, I feel like s***.
00:44:11I look like s***.
00:44:13But I love you.
00:44:14I want you to know that.
00:44:16For four years, you know, I have loved you.
00:44:20Because I never stopped loving you.
00:44:23I give you time to think about it.
00:44:25I want you to make a decision.
00:44:27At this moment, just never put in doubt how much I love you, please.
00:44:33Because that will kill me.
00:44:34That will kill me, okay?
00:44:40Don't even cry.
00:44:50F***.
00:44:57F***.
00:45:06All of the work leads up to this moment tonight.
00:45:09To commit or not to commit.
00:45:11This retreat, I worked so hard on myself.
00:45:14I hope Stacy can see I love her.
00:45:17But I don't know what Stacy is going to say.
00:45:22Oh, gosh.
00:45:24I'm sorry.
00:45:45The girls are on their way.
00:45:46Let me just move this.
00:45:47Get your makeup started.
00:45:49So you feel beautiful and at your best.
00:45:52Hi, Sophie.
00:45:54Hello.
00:45:55Come on in, beautiful.
00:45:57How are you guys?
00:45:58You look nice.
00:46:00How do you feel?
00:46:01I'm nervous.
00:46:03I know.
00:46:04We're all nervous, too.
00:46:07I don't know yet what I'm going to do.
00:46:12You guys looked so happy yesterday and the last couple of days.
00:46:16You guys looked so happy yesterday and the last couple of days.
00:46:19We have happy moments, but he's unable to treat me how I think I deserve to be treated.
00:46:30On one hand, Rob is my best friend, my teammate, my confidant, my literal everything.
00:46:35But on another hand, we still clearly have issues that we haven't resolved.
00:46:40I feel like I'm feeling all of the emotions.
00:46:43I have a lot going through my head, and this is one of the biggest decisions of my life.
00:46:51So Jasmine should be on her way.
00:46:53I wanted to invite Natalie.
00:46:55You guys are okay with that?
00:46:57Yeah, I'm okay with it.
00:46:58I think that, you know, I don't think she should be by herself.
00:47:01Yeah, I feel bad.
00:47:02I could text her.
00:47:03Okay.
00:47:04All the girls are here, getting ready.
00:47:06We hope you're okay.
00:47:08Bring your white dress.
00:47:09No questions.
00:47:10Hope to see you.
00:47:14Oh.
00:47:16Hi! Come on in.
00:47:18Beautiful.
00:47:19Can I?
00:47:20Aw, you need help?
00:47:21Yeah.
00:47:22Oh, good.
00:47:23I feel nervous about seeing some of the girls.
00:47:26After last night, I flipped out, and I got so mad.
00:47:31But hopefully they will understand.
00:47:33I was being a talk.
00:47:36And I do believe that Daisy's sorry about the way her words made me feel.
00:47:42And I appreciate her for that.
00:47:45Okay.
00:47:46You look beautiful, as always.
00:47:48The worst.
00:47:49I had it last night.
00:47:51I know.
00:47:52It's crazy.
00:47:53Drama with the girls has been very tough for me.
00:47:55And right now, I want to focus on the present.
00:47:58Because I don't know what's going to happen at the recommitment ceremony later.
00:48:08Hi!
00:48:10Come on in.
00:48:12Oh, take a seat, Natalie.
00:48:16I got your message.
00:48:17Why do we need the dresses?
00:48:19Like, what is the logic of bringing white dresses?
00:48:22Well, I mean, it's the recommitment ceremony, and you'll feel a part of it.
00:48:27Yeah.
00:48:28Like you're recommitting to yourself.
00:48:30You're, you know, you're free.
00:48:34How are you feeling?
00:48:41I have to be alone, and I want to be alone.
00:48:46You're going to be okay without Josh.
00:48:48He really just...
00:48:49Just think of it, he's not going to waste your time anymore.
00:48:51And you can now, like, find someone that values you
00:48:54and stops, like, playing with your feelings.
00:48:56And it'll be a good time for you to, like, work on yourself,
00:48:59do your career, everything that's, like, important.
00:49:01And you'll attract someone that loves you.
00:49:04You can thrive and find someone better than him.
00:49:07The last 24 hours have been rough.
00:49:11I have, like, hopeless mood.
00:49:14But even though I'm alone,
00:49:16I'm just going to walk into the recommitment ceremony
00:49:19and steal the party.
00:49:23I might join you, Natalie.
00:49:25I don't even know about myself.
00:49:27Oh.
00:49:28I might be part of you.
00:49:30I think we need to have some bubbly.
00:49:33Let's do this. Let's do this.
00:49:35Let's do this.
00:49:36Let's celebrate and recommit to ourselves.
00:49:41Yes, ready?
00:49:42Yay!
00:49:43To us!
00:49:44To us!
00:49:46Woo!
00:49:48I feel like I have family and friends for life.
00:49:51Our journey of love wasn't so successful,
00:49:54but I guess we gained some friends.
00:49:57Cheers!
00:49:58Cheers!
00:49:59You have the...
00:50:00We don't have five glasses.
00:50:02You can sip out of it.
00:50:04Sip it!
00:50:06Love you, girls.
00:50:07Oh, this tastes good.
00:50:10I think we need to change before they kill us.
00:50:12Yeah.
00:50:13These guys.
00:50:14We have to go now.
00:50:15Let's get away.
00:50:16Whatever you need.
00:50:17There's makeup there.
00:50:19Oh, it's not my size.
00:50:23That's cute, Jess.
00:50:25Oh, God, I love the shoes.
00:50:27This will look good on you.
00:50:29Yay!
00:50:30Yes!
00:50:31Woo!
00:50:33Yes, yes.
00:50:34That's your...
00:50:35Look at Miro.
00:50:38Because you have long hair,
00:50:39you look like a nymph.
00:50:41How cute!
00:50:43Oh, my gosh.
00:50:44Oh!
00:50:45Wow.
00:50:46Hold on.
00:50:47Yes, ma'am.
00:50:48Do you want me to lick your finger?
00:50:50My toes.
00:50:53A little tighter.
00:50:54More tighter?
00:50:55Fuck me in, baby.
00:50:56Fuck me in.
00:50:57I did. More?
00:50:58No, it looks good.
00:51:02Let's go.
00:51:20Hi, guys.
00:51:21How are you?
00:51:22Hi.
00:51:23Welcome.
00:51:24Welcome to the scene.
00:51:25Nice.
00:51:26Pretty amazing.
00:51:27We're happy you made it to this moment.
00:51:29Thanks for being here.
00:51:32Cold today
00:51:33You're cold
00:51:35You don't have any socks on
00:51:37Where's your socks?
00:51:39You got to do it like me
00:51:44I come prepared. It's come prepared for Jasmine. Don't touch him
00:51:52Standing there with the guys. It kind of gives me flashbacks to my wedding day
00:51:56that nerve
00:51:58That was hitting what right before Sophie walked down on the sand and came up to me
00:52:04This is kind of how that feels but this is different because I had more confidence on my wedding day that I was leaving with
00:52:12the girl
00:52:28Oh
00:52:51Hello ladies
00:52:53Looking amazing gorgeous Wow
00:52:57Look at this look at this
00:53:06You feel like you're getting married again
00:53:16I'm a lot of nerves right now because
00:53:19You know could leave me on the altar and tell me that she's not willing to
00:53:24recommit that he's not gonna agree to the upper marriage and I
00:53:29Could potentially get my heart shattered into a thousand pieces
00:53:36Welcome everyone you guys all look amazing
00:53:40I'm so happy to see all of you here, and I know by you being here means you did the work
00:53:46I'm so proud of each and every one of you and honored to be in front of you today
00:53:51All of the work that you guys have been doing so far during this retreat leads up to this moment tonight
00:53:57I would like to acknowledge not all couples are here
00:54:01We want to acknowledge you Natalie
00:54:05We're all happy to see you here this evening. It's beautiful that you're showing up
00:54:09That you're here for yourself
00:54:12And I'm really hoping that we can use this time to think about this as your recommitment to yourself
00:54:17To moving forward to the work that you've done and that you'll continue to do
00:54:22Outside of this. Thank you
00:54:26Even though I'm alone
00:54:27I'm a survivor and I'm fighter and my person who extends your ground who is able to
00:54:33Accomplish the task and I made it through on my own
00:54:38It's not what I imagined, but I'm feeling proud of myself to be here
00:54:43And that brings us to this moment right this is really about a choice your choice your decision
00:54:50To commit or not to commit
00:54:54These are your decisions as we move forward
00:55:00There are a lot of issues that this group is facing infidelity distrust and
00:55:06Disconnect
00:55:07But we're really proud about the progress that they've made and I am super optimistic about today's recommitment ceremony
00:55:17I'd love to invite the first couple up
00:55:24Stacey and Florian, please. Come on up
00:55:35I'm getting like butterflies. I'm feeling nervous. I I don't know like I just feel like
00:55:41overwhelmed
00:55:42Yes, we've had improvement
00:55:44But we still have unresolved issues. So I'm just trying to capture my thoughts and my feelings and save it for
00:55:51the speech
00:55:53I
00:56:02Know right nothing to be honest doesn't what come from my heart right now. I
00:56:08Never think I'm coming here for the therapist, you know, I know like fan therapist
00:56:14Well actually helped me so much and I appreciate you guys for helping me and you to be again together and happy
00:56:24Excuse me my priority in my life
00:56:30You my everything in my life
00:56:38And I'm sorry for everything which I did bad to you
00:56:49I love you
00:56:54You
00:57:01This retreat I worked so hard to myself I try my best to come here I try my best to learn from this therapist I
00:57:09Hope Stacy can see I love her. I want to work through this
00:57:14I want to use these tools home to keep continuing to make the best relationship
00:57:20But I don't know what Stacy going to say
00:57:24I
00:57:29Really took my time writing these vows and they really mean a lot to me
00:57:39You ready yeah
00:57:43We are approaching our 10-year mark and we definitely had our fair share of challenges
00:57:50I'm
00:57:52Getting older and wiser and I know what I deserve
00:58:10At times a part of me feels it's time to let you go
00:58:19You
00:58:24You will always be in my heart, I'm sorry
00:58:49I
00:58:56Sorry for all the bad times and all the negativity
00:59:07But I'm not gonna leave you
00:59:16Not after everything we've been through
00:59:19I'm not gonna let the challenges in life and our rollercoaster ride of a marriage break us up
00:59:25but what I need from you is a promise if
00:59:29We recommit
00:59:31you need to agree to respect boundaries and
00:59:35stay focused on our relationship and
00:59:38I promise to you to listen more and talk less I
00:59:43I
00:59:46Promise to trust you from now on and let God guide us to the perfect plan
00:59:52Now, let's go live our best life
00:59:55to do I
00:59:57Love you
01:00:00I
01:00:07Am glad
01:00:08We're both recommended. I feel like we're setting the tone for a better future together and this is exactly
01:00:15All I've ever really wanted I know believe in therapy before and I'm surprised I learned little things from therapy
01:00:23You know, babe. I just want you to know that I'm really proud of you for opening up to the therapist and trying
01:00:29I know it wasn't easy for you
01:00:32And you've come a long way
01:00:39It was like a fart
01:00:44Let's start our new life fresh start right starts now
01:00:51Congratulations
01:00:56Thank you, good job guys
01:00:59Nick Queen has a king. Yeah
01:01:04Our first recommittal
01:01:06Congratulations you too. That was absolutely beautiful
01:01:11Next up is Sophie and Rob
01:01:22Walking up to this altar is like it's very very it's scary
01:01:27Like
01:01:29When I see Sophie she looks beautiful
01:01:33But on our wedding day, I looked at her and I saw my future
01:01:39Today I'm looking at her and I don't know what's the end goal for Sophie. I don't know what she wants out of this
01:01:48Definitely makes me more nervous
01:01:51So
01:01:56Sophie please go first
01:02:07Mine is kind of different because I wrote like a letter to my younger self younger Sophie, so
01:02:16I'm gonna be reading that it's a letter to you. Yes, I
01:02:23Have anxiety, but I'm gonna read it. Okay. Mm-hmm. I'm scared. Okay
01:02:29Dear younger Sophie remember to stand up for yourself if people are mean to you and remember you're perfect the way you are
01:02:38Don't ever lose your light and always be yourself
01:02:42Remember you are so strong and you are beautiful and never try to change for others
01:02:50Fast forward to grown-up Sophie. You are now more confident. You finally have friends and
01:02:58Even end up getting married
01:03:00and
01:03:02Grown Sophie is going to a kind loving
01:03:08Who deserves
01:03:10Love and happiness
01:03:14Um, even though who you marry is not your dream man
01:03:30He was happy with him
01:03:35For
01:03:38For a few years and more boys love and care for him
01:03:49That's older Sophie
01:04:07I
01:04:14Think that's pretty much it
01:04:21I would like to be still here
01:04:28No
01:04:33What I'm what I wrote doesn't matter
01:04:38I
01:04:48And I hate to see and I hate to hear but I appreciate the clarity
01:04:52I
01:05:05Have the hardware
01:05:22I
01:05:52Saw I don't see how we could be in each other's eyes
01:06:13Neither am I
01:06:16I know that and I want his bone to be hard. Me too
01:06:40Thank you for listening
01:06:43Yeah
01:06:48Thank You Robin Sophie
01:06:51Hearing her little Sophie tell her story sense is young
01:06:57This is
01:07:00The promise you that English muffin never going to grow up is going to stay like that
01:07:04You know, and I feel pretty bad for up to be honest. I think it's like 100% Rob is
01:07:11Better out without Sophie
01:07:29Leave me alone
01:07:40You
01:08:11When Sophie finally says, you know, she's not gonna recommit
01:08:15I'm not the man of her dreams
01:08:17My heart falls out my ass. I'm like very uncomfortable. I don't want to stand here. I don't want to be here
01:08:22I I feel hurt
01:08:24feel betrayed
01:08:28Not the man of her dreams
01:08:31So that's what you're you're gonna leave me
01:08:37For somebody that you don't know
01:08:40I feel like I'm just getting jerked around left and right and
01:08:45Now I'm just getting discarded
01:08:50Okay, I don't know how to process what just happened
01:08:56Just wish she was gonna do it then she should have did it a long time ago instead of stringing me along up until
01:09:01now
01:09:05Did all this
01:09:11Just
01:09:14End up alone
01:09:32Brandon and Julia
01:09:35We're gonna have both of you come up and Julia why don't you go ahead and start
01:09:41I
01:09:43Gonna start you're gonna start you gotta go first. Okay?
01:09:49First I want to thank you for you come with me
01:09:52This is big step for you know, how hard is for you?
01:09:54You did this for me and I appreciate it is more than anything. I have something with me
01:10:11What's in the bag
01:10:17That is two rocks what I carry all the time in the mountains
01:10:25That is my rock parents that is your rock, baby
01:10:31I'm agree to go second opinion
01:10:40You're
01:10:47Trying to kill me, I'm sorry
01:10:56Parents stay with me still that's this open question for you
01:11:02Did you will be do compromise and help me for?
01:11:07Doing this journey with my family, that's his question for you because I have that rock with me. Oh
01:11:20You write something
01:11:28In the few weeks I have spent this resort I have felt many things I felt jealousy I felt anger
01:11:36I felt distrust and I have felt a deep hurt
01:11:44But the more memorable things I have felt and feel right now our connection trust and love I
01:11:54Love you with every ounce of my heart and soul and though it may be difficult for me
01:11:59I want to help you in any way to get your parents to the US
01:12:06I
01:12:18Was beautiful, yeah
01:12:24But did you finally agree to bring my parents to us
01:12:27I think I was too focused on how we're gonna make it all work. And as I was standing up there in that moment, I
01:12:34think I realized
01:12:36Maybe our relationship this point is strong enough
01:12:40That we can work through it. You know, if you're with the right person
01:12:44You can make it work no matter how hard it is, and I'm with the right person. I
01:12:49Love you
01:12:55Congratulations
01:13:03Congrats friend. Thank you
01:13:06I
01:13:18Knowing that I heard someone that I care about so deeply that was a very difficult thing for me to do and I feel
01:13:24You know, I'm heartbroken. I feel like I know I did it to myself, but it's it's hard
01:13:30this wasn't gonna be something that I was gonna say and be like great and
01:13:35I just don't want to be around people because this is very very tough
01:14:00Do you think he was gonna recommit if he went first
01:14:05You know now who's by his reaction it I don't know if he was or not
01:14:13It would make me feel better if he was also not gonna recommit and I could at least feel
01:14:19Better that he's not
01:14:22Her
01:14:24Can I have a blanket, please?
01:14:28Okay
01:14:35It
01:14:39Was what I know I needed to do who doesn't feel nice
01:14:49The future me will be happy I did that and passed me you'll be happy I did that
01:14:54But now I'm not happy I did that
01:14:59No, he's gonna hate me
01:15:05It's hard to envision a life that Rob isn't a part of I loved a lot of our time together and it
01:15:11helped me grow sure helped Rob grow and also
01:15:15There was a lot of good in that relationship
01:15:17So I'm not gonna be like, oh, I wish I never met him because I don't feel like that way. I
01:15:24Don't want to say I'm giving up on love, but I'm definitely
01:15:27Taking a long break from it. Like I do still really want love in my life
01:15:32But I really just don't want to
01:15:36Get hurt again
01:15:46I don't wanna be here anymore
01:16:01I
01:16:12Relieved I can move on my life
01:16:18Yes, that's all ultimately what I came here for but I was gonna try I was gonna say if she wants to try
01:16:25Then I'll try. I mean I should have expected it, but it did hurt for her to not want to try
01:16:32I'd be willing to read me what you wrote
01:16:47Honestly, I don't know if I really feel like
01:16:56I'm gonna keep
01:16:59The first and most of the second page to myself and I'll read the last page
01:17:07And though a lot of things have continued to push us apart I could not deny what we have when we shut off the noise
01:17:14I've been reminded of Sophie's love for me these past few days and my heart has always wanted it to be her
01:17:19So that being said I will recommit to Sophie and to us one last time
01:17:25If Sophie will move to Los Angeles with me
01:17:28We will again have it have our time together and it is worth it to me to see if we can continue to grow together
01:17:35instead of growing apart
01:17:39But yeah, I was gonna recommit
01:17:48The silver lining to this whole thing is that Sophie not recommitting gets gives me clarity
01:17:55And I'm not gonna wake up in 10 years and be like
01:17:59Why don't why'd I let that girl go? I didn't let her go. I did everything I could
01:18:03I
01:18:23Next up we have Jasmine and Gino. It's the best for last
01:18:29You got this Gino
01:18:31Okay
01:18:33I'm over one right now a
01:18:35Part of me just want to have it done. But another part of me is this care because my life could change forever
01:18:44after this moment
01:18:52Like the old times yeah
01:18:56Yeah flashbacks of not that long ago, right
01:19:06Well, I
01:19:11Still don't know if if this is what you want
01:19:18But anyway
01:19:20Love starts as a feeling but continue as a choice
01:19:25And I find myself choosing you more and more every day. I
01:19:35Promise you my unconditional love
01:19:38tenderness and
01:19:40undying devotion
01:19:42And to love you comfort you
01:19:45Protect you and shelter you all days of my life
01:19:50Till the day I die, baby, it's beautiful
01:19:59That's beautiful is that yeah
01:20:07What's really important to me is that
01:20:10Our relationship is always getting better. It has to keep getting stronger and
01:20:16I want to fight less. I want you to listen to me. I am right now and I
01:20:24Want us to like grow a very good connection and bond. I
01:20:28Love you very much. I I don't want to lose you and I'm willing to do you know, whatever it takes
01:20:35You know to keep you I'm not gonna give up
01:20:38So it means that you are committed to move forward with our open marriage agreement
01:20:48And our third person to be mapped
01:20:58I
01:21:01Love you
01:21:07You
01:21:30So it means that you are committed to move forward with our open marriage agreement
01:21:38And our third person to be mapped
01:22:01Yes, yes, I'm open to it but we have to have in the rules that
01:22:07if you and Matt
01:22:11Grow too much of a friendship or it's affecting our marriage
01:22:16Then I want to be able to avoid the contract. I
01:22:22want to work on our emotional connection and then we can
01:22:27Cancel the open marriage open marriage at that time
01:22:32That's that's what my goal is. That's what I want
01:22:37I
01:23:02Feel like Gino agreed to this open marriage just because he wants to keep Jasmine happy
01:23:08And I'm happy that they're deciding to stay together
01:23:11But sticky situation, you know, if they love each other, I guess they'll figure it out
01:23:18Gina making big big huge mistake. God knows what that
01:23:23Guy going to God knows God help him. I don't know
01:23:31First off congratulations to all of you
01:23:35What a beautiful night this is the end of our journey here, it's bittersweet for all of us, right
01:23:42It's sad to see that we're moving forward but exciting and happy to see you guys being able to carry on outside of here
01:23:50We're gonna miss doing this work with you highs and lows. It was still a pleasure
01:23:55Your growth is absolutely amazing and I look forward to what the future brings for all of you
01:24:01We hope that all of you can take the tools that you have learned
01:24:05Incorporate them into your everyday lives
01:24:07Individually and as a couple, thank you
01:24:24Congratulations
01:24:31After
01:24:33Spending these weeks at this retreat. I'm making progress with feeling like I can trust her more, but it's not gonna be fixed overnight
01:24:40We've barely scratched the surface on a lot of these issues and it's gonna take both our effort to keep working on them
01:24:47We
01:24:56Have new start but we have our past and past all this will be with us
01:25:03We can't change our past but we can change our future and that's as precious and powerful
01:25:17I'm your queen for life
01:25:21The last three weeks basically like ups and downs
01:25:25Well, like you can realize what you do wrong what you do, right to me recommitting means
01:25:31taking what we learned here seriously and
01:25:34I want it to work
01:25:36For me boundaries are very important because I deserve all of Florian. I give you all of me
01:25:44And I just want to make sure that you really want to put the effort in
01:25:49Yeah, and that's all I want just effort. That's all I don't ask for much
01:25:54I know I make it clear right now is my priority or no
01:26:01And I appreciate that
01:26:13I
01:26:18Open this bad boy
01:26:29Your wife first fill this glass up let's party
01:26:34Yes
01:26:42No more therapy
01:26:46We survived this yeah
01:26:50Not not an easy journey guys Wow for any of us good job
01:26:56Yes, and I feel so sad for Ari and Vinny yeah
01:27:05Natalie hey, you got us. I'm not a girl
01:27:16I
01:27:17Understand that the love is the most precious thing in the world and I really crave for love and I want to love and to
01:27:23be loved
01:27:25But I probably have to heal first
01:27:28My
01:27:30Journey it's not easy. It's hard. Sometimes you fall, but you keep have to keep going no matter what I
01:27:40Love it
01:27:45Yeah, you guys are the best yeah, I'm so happy to be here with you guys Cheers I
01:27:53Feel hopeful and very happy because we recommitted
01:27:58and
01:28:01We are going with an open mind
01:28:04That this is gonna work. This is very difficult to do, but I'll do whatever it takes to have a
01:28:10Beautiful relationship like we've never had before
01:28:19My ultimate goal for all of this is that we build our emotional connection back and
01:28:24And you know that we can be intimate sorry
01:28:33Baby that we can be intimate again, and then we can avoid the contract
01:28:47It has been such a hard process
01:28:50But we we don't want to lose each other and we're gonna try our best
01:29:00Yeah
01:29:06I'm gonna miss you guys
01:29:11That's it no, it's not an ending it's a new beginning it's a new beginning guys
01:29:19You