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00:00Hi, baby.
00:02You're the best mommy ever.
00:04You're the best baby ever.
00:06Previously on 90 Day The Last Resort.
00:09I'm trying to work on the marriage.
00:11Seems like Vinny is more than happy to just let it all go.
00:14My heart is broken.
00:16Brandon told me,
00:18Gina, say he doesn't want to have sex with you
00:22even if you have a good behavior.
00:24I'm not willing to be in a sexless marriage anymore.
00:29I know an upper marriage is not conventional,
00:32but I'm willing to do whatever it takes to save our marriage.
00:38Darcy's here.
00:39What?
00:40What?
00:41Yeah.
00:42A lot of the issues that Flor and I are having,
00:43like Darcy is the key factor here.
00:46Give me a hug.
00:47How you doing?
00:48Yeah, well, we're here to work on our issues,
00:50so tell me about it.
00:52You told Flor and you're better off single.
00:55Why don't you call him at 3 o'clock in the morning
00:57and be like, what?
00:59You want to f*** my man or something?
01:01Are you f***ing crazy?
01:03Enough.
01:05Then I'm out.
01:27I'm out.
01:58Tighten that tush.
02:00Work it, work it.
02:04You know what hurts?
02:05My ass hurts.
02:06These seats are not comfortable.
02:08My nana hurts.
02:09I just had a vagina rejuvenation.
02:11It's tingling a little bit.
02:13Don't let it get to you.
02:20I brush my teeth.
02:22Oh, that's good.
02:24Feel it.
02:25Huh?
02:26Huh?
02:28Oh.
02:40Nala!
02:41Where's my baby?
02:43Yasik, you're my boy!
02:45That's my baby!
02:47Where's my favorite baby?
02:49Where's my favorite baby?
02:52Oh.
02:55You like to go fast on these things?
02:58I guess so.
02:59Gotta break a sweat.
03:02I woke up thinking maybe go get some cardio in,
03:04and at first I'm seeing Stacy,
03:07but, like, there's something different about Stacy.
03:14Oh, I know what it is.
03:15It's not f***ing Stacy.
03:16It's Darcy.
03:18And that's kind of weird and a surprise.
03:20I must have missed some things at dinner the night before,
03:23if Darcy's here.
03:25What was your name again?
03:26Rob.
03:27Rob.
03:28Okay, so you're here for the couples retreat?
03:31Yes, I am.
03:32With Sophie.
03:33I heard you guys all hung out yesterday.
03:35She's very sweet.
03:36She's beautiful.
03:37Why weren't you at the dinner last night?
03:40Because Sophie just really hit me over the head
03:42with just a bunch of bulls*** yesterday.
03:45Oh.
03:46She comes out and she makes this announcement.
03:48Rob's got a dating profile, and it's like,
03:51no, I'm not online talking to anybody right now.
03:54All the girls are, oh, Sophie.
03:56Oh, Sophie.
03:57Right.
03:58And I have to defend myself, and then I get upset
04:00because I'm a fiery guy.
04:01Like, if you're gonna sit there in my face,
04:03accuse me, lie about s*** to my face.
04:06Well, how the s*** did you jump on?
04:08I needed a minute yesterday.
04:09It was a rough day for me, but, like, what did I miss?
04:12You know, I wasn't there.
04:13I'm kind of curious.
04:15I missed a lot.
04:16Stacey was really going at it.
04:18She was starting.
04:20She came in really hot as soon as I arrived.
04:22At you?
04:23Like, she was mad?
04:24Kind of.
04:25Just had an attitude.
04:26Oh.
04:27Was Florian being loud?
04:28No.
04:29Actually, he was trying to, like, calm her down.
04:31He was being very approachable to me and sweet and nice,
04:33like a brother he is, and maybe that kind of triggered her.
04:36And then she walked off, and then Florian followed her.
04:40I followed because I wanted to see what was going on.
04:42She said, what, do you want to s*** my husband?
04:45That's what she said?
04:46Yep.
04:47I said, are you f***ing kidding me?
04:48Are you crazy?
04:49Absolutely not.
04:50Never in a million years.
04:51That's my brother at all.
04:52What was that response to?
04:53That's your husband.
04:54I don't know.
04:55It's her insecurities.
04:57Stacey accuses Darcy of wanting to have sex with Florian?
05:00Mm.
05:03I mean, as far as I know, the dynamic with Darcy
05:06is that Florian hangs out with her too damn much.
05:09And so I can see why Stacey might be, like,
05:12side-eyeing Darcy, like, what's up with you?
05:15You trying to get at my man or what?
05:18We have a special connection, Florian and I.
05:21And I think Stacey gets a little intimidated by that.
05:24Do you ever think, like, you guys might need more space between you?
05:27Yeah.
05:28This family?
05:29Yeah.
05:30Closeness and everybody's so on top of each other,
05:34I feel like it's just, it's actually driving you all apart.
05:37It is.
05:38It absolutely is.
05:39And if we don't fix that now, we're gone.
05:43We're done.
06:03Wait.
06:04OK.
06:06After returning from camping,
06:09Vinny and I haven't really been in the same room.
06:12We haven't really talked much with each other.
06:14It's kind of like I'm sort of numb to this in some ways
06:17because, like, I've just been dealing with this forever.
06:19Chris, can you wait over there?
06:24At the end of the day,
06:25it seems like my husband has no interest in fixing the marriage,
06:28and I don't feel any support from the other couples.
06:36Hello.
06:37Hey, how are you?
06:38How are you?
06:39Yeah, come in, come in.
06:41How are you?
06:42So I asked to speak with James and Sarah
06:44to figure out what the future looks like for us
06:47and what the future looks like for us here at the retreat.
06:50You got us?
06:51OK, yeah.
06:55So yesterday was obviously a lot.
06:57What I noticed is that most of the time
07:00from the camping trip and our experiences there,
07:04you two were separate most of the time
07:07in kind of having an individual experience.
07:10At this point, it feels like
07:12I'm still pretty uncomfortable around Vinny,
07:14and then, like, I don't want to sit here and be like,
07:17you did this, you did that,
07:18but, like, that was a big reason why I wanted to come here,
07:21because I wanted him to be held accountable
07:24for the things that he's done that are not OK.
07:27Seems like he's the only one who has done
07:30maybe worse than anyone else here,
07:32and he doesn't, and he gets to just skate off and...
07:36Wait, I'm curious real quick.
07:37You're bringing up an important topic
07:39or something that's bothering you, and you're laughing.
07:41So what's going through your brain?
07:43For me, it is not true.
07:44Well, your voice is yours to own,
07:47and you can tell your story however you'd like to,
07:50and the same goes for him.
07:52If he doesn't want to take accountability
07:54the way that feels right for you or feels good for you...
07:57There's no control over that.
07:58There's nothing, you know,
07:59it's like what's inside of your control, right?
08:01What can I control? Control that.
08:03What can't I control? Let the rest go.
08:06I feel like Ari and Benny's biggest challenge
08:08is getting caught up on past behaviours,
08:10almost like they're in this loop,
08:12and they just keep replaying the past,
08:14which is keeping them almost stagnant
08:16from being able to move forward.
08:17You know, we've had some sessions.
08:19You guys had a lot of time doing camping activities
08:23and learning a lot.
08:25What are you guys thinking with all this?
08:26Let's just hear from you now.
08:31Um...
08:34I think it's better for us maybe not to be together.
08:47Because I just don't believe
08:48that any of the things that were promised to me,
08:50I don't believe that they're going to be carried out,
08:53so it's just hard.
09:02Emotionally? How are you handling this?
09:21I want to make sure that we're understanding you guys,
09:23and I'm hearing that as of this moment,
09:26this will not be moving forward
09:28in a romantic marriage relationship.
09:39Hi, Betty. Hi, Ron.
09:41I think I have great news today,
09:43but I'm not sure I want to share that anymore.
09:46This is another lie. It's another lie.
09:49This is... She cheated on me. You know that?
09:52What are you talking about?
09:54You can't make things better by walking away.
09:59So this will not be moving forward
10:01with a romantic marriage.
10:29I tried so hard to make a broken marriage work,
10:33and, uh, it's not working.
10:40So, yes, that's how I feel.
10:55We've decided that we're going to be getting a divorce,
10:57and we're leaving the resort.
10:59And I have mixed emotions.
11:01I'm happy because, you know,
11:04I'm finally free, in some sense,
11:06from all this... these burdens and problems and stress.
11:10And on the other hand, it's sad
11:12because it'll be starting all over again.
11:23We're going to make sure that we have resources
11:25for you guys, too, right?
11:26This isn't just saying, this is over.
11:28I think we're going to talk about continued tools.
11:30How do we continue with the goal of friendship,
11:32co-parenting, and getting through this
11:34in the least complicated way, right?
11:38Everybody, when they're separated,
11:40everybody's sad.
11:42And for Ari, she's a lovely person.
11:45It's better, like, building focus
11:47and building friendship.
11:49She helped me so many things.
11:51I want to help her, too.
11:53Now that you've both made a mutual decision,
11:55using this point as a chance to start to focus on,
11:59what do I want to build going forward?
12:02Who do I want to be going forward?
12:04And how do I use, right, because the pillar now
12:06is your son.
12:08This is really about what's best for Avi.
12:11But at least we can start there, right?
12:13Yeah.
12:15Thank you so much.
12:16Thank you for coming.
12:17Thank you for every time that you guys help me.
12:20Thanks so much.
12:21Of course.
12:24I don't know.
12:25I have a tendency to feel like I failed at things.
12:27I feel like I failed at my marriage.
12:28I feel like I failed at the resort.
12:31In a lot of ways, I'm ready for the relationship to be over.
12:35But I'm sad because it was, like, five years together, so...
12:39And mostly, I'm sad for my son.
12:47What can I do?
13:00What can I do?
13:16Oh, God.
13:17My head.
13:18I need something to drink.
13:21Medicine.
13:24I had some drinks last night.
13:27I hadn't had drinks in months because I had my, you know,
13:31health scare, so, you know, it kind of went straight to my head
13:34really fast.
13:36Just get me food.
13:37Just get me food.
13:38I need food.
13:39I need, like, hangover food.
13:40Like, empanadas.
13:41Can you get me empanadas?
13:46What is that?
13:48Oh, God.
13:51Oh, my God.
13:55That's not empanada.
13:57That's not empanada.
13:58That's not empanada.
13:59What's going on?
14:03What happened last night?
14:04You get off in D'Arcy.
14:06Yeah, what'd I say?
14:08What'd I say?
14:09Leave my husband alone.
14:13You know what?
14:14I had to get it out.
14:15You're in my D'Arcy.
14:16What the f*** are you talking about?
14:17Because I want to work it out.
14:18Which way does this turn?
14:19Yes, bro!
14:20But it's not work like this out.
14:21It's not work like this to come, like, storm off.
14:23Let's fix it.
14:26No, I'm going to get a shower.
14:28Go get a shower.
14:29Cool off.
14:30Okay.
14:31You're getting a hot shower.
14:32How are you going to cool off in a hot shower?
14:35Dirty.
14:36Yeah, I got to take a dump.
14:38You make a mess in your bed like dirty.
14:40A dump and a shower.
14:41Dump, dump, dump and a shower.
14:53Come on, Rob, you got it.
14:54I almost lost a leg.
14:55Oh, shoot.
14:56Keep going.
14:57If I can do it, you can do it.
14:59This bike is riding me, let me tell you.
15:01You're lucky you just got here.
15:03This has been so dramatic since we got here.
15:05I can believe it now.
15:06I didn't expect it coming in, but...
15:08Oh, yeah, it's...
15:09I can only imagine.
15:10It's like hooking up drama the next...
15:12What's up, guys?
15:14How are you guys?
15:15Mind if I join?
15:16Getting our spin on, yeah.
15:18All right.
15:19So, since our big fight at the camping trip,
15:21like, I've been trying to, you know,
15:23give myself some space, give Natalie her own space,
15:26because we're not getting along.
15:29It is a relief that we are staying in separate rooms
15:33because she just keeps wanting to fight with me.
15:35I mean, I'm ready to actually get over this.
15:38I don't need anything from Natalie but to just act normal.
15:41That's all I need her to do is just, you know,
15:45understand we're at this resort.
15:48We're trying to work our issues out with each other.
15:51Like, I just need her to focus on that and work with me
15:54as opposed to working against me.
16:00How are you?
16:01I'm okay.
16:02Sorry about last night.
16:03You know, the drama with Stacey and I.
16:05Oh, no, it's fine.
16:06Trust me, I've been dealing with a lot more than that.
16:09So, it's okay.
16:10Yeah.
16:11Has this been happening the whole time,
16:13like, on the trip?
16:14You know, during, like, the camping thing,
16:16Natalie's just, like, attacking me constantly.
16:18I've literally been called so many names on this trip.
16:21You know, I know I'm a good person, I'm a giver,
16:23and I just can't keep being called these names
16:26and, like, having her cut me down
16:28when I haven't done anything wrong.
16:30Has she apologized?
16:31No.
16:32I mean, obviously, she knows she shouldn't be saying those things.
16:33She is not.
16:34She is not.
16:35What do you think she wants from you?
16:38I mean, she wants more of me
16:41and, like, she wants to be in my house.
16:44She wants to be with my kids.
16:45She wants, you know, to come to my job
16:47and, like, be around my employees.
16:49And, like...
16:51She's unpredictable.
16:52She's unpredictable,
16:53and I can't bring that into my home.
16:55So, all these girls are, like, ganging up on all of us.
16:57I feel like one of the guys.
16:58Hey, you know, that's what we feel like, too.
17:04I got thrown into it.
17:05Stacy was kind of getting in my face at the room.
17:07I was like, don't come at me like that.
17:09Yeah.
17:10Yeah.
17:14She is.
17:15Okay.
17:16Yeah, where?
17:19Oh, hey.
17:20How's it going?
17:21Oh, okay.
17:23Hi, Natalie.
17:24Nice to meet you.
17:25How are you?
17:26Oh, yes.
17:27Good to see you last night.
17:29Just having a little workout.
17:33Join us.
17:36You good?
17:37I am.
17:38I'm good.
17:41Natalie just, like, snuck up to us
17:43with the crazy eyes that she wakes up with.
17:46Oh, I should have known.
17:47If she wasn't right there,
17:48she'd probably be on the roof or something,
17:49and listening.
17:50She's listening.
17:51She's always somewhere close by.
17:53And I'm wishing I could ride off.
17:54Like, I'm wishing the wheels worked.
17:56Like, can I just get out of here?
17:58This is just so weird.
18:00It's not a comfortable place to be
18:02between Natalie and Josh.
18:08Oh, it's probably turned up.
18:09I think you've got to...
18:10You've got to turn the knob.
18:12That one? Yeah.
18:13Turn the left one.
18:14Yeah.
18:15And then the wheels.
18:16Can you help me?
18:17Yeah.
18:19Josh, help her.
18:20As far to the left as you can.
18:21That's good.
18:22Just pedal the bike.
18:23Why are you doing so much?
18:24Pedal this way.
18:25Why are you doing so much?
18:26There you go.
18:27There you go.
18:28There, got it.
18:29Careful.
18:30Yeah, you're athletic.
18:31Yeah, I am.
18:32Oh, wow, it's cool.
18:33It's good, right?
18:35Josh ignores me.
18:36He came to build a relationship with me,
18:38and he doesn't give him, like,
18:40one hour of his time to me.
18:42Oh.
18:45Yeah.
18:46And he tells the people nice stuff about me.
18:49He body shames me.
18:50I feel like everybody's saying
18:51a little bit about everybody.
18:52I'm going to ask her how I body shamed her.
18:53Please.
18:54You body shamed me.
18:55Please, how did he body shame you?
18:56You know, like,
18:57he doesn't want to sleep with me.
18:58I never body shamed him.
18:59Imagine how I feel when he body shames me.
19:01I think the body shaming
19:02was maybe a misinterpretation.
19:04He says a lot of stuff.
19:05Maybe a misinterpretation.
19:06No.
19:08If he would have said,
19:09Natalie, you're fat,
19:10then clearly that's body shaming, right?
19:12That's not really body shaming.
19:23I need to take control.
19:24No, no, dear.
19:25We would sink.
19:28If I let you control it,
19:29we would drown.
19:31This is all news to me, guys,
19:32so I'm going to let you guys
19:33enjoy your workouts.
19:35I'm out of here.
19:58I don't know
19:59where Natalie is getting
20:00all of these ideas,
20:02but she's clearly distraught
20:05about what I have no idea.
20:07She's not the one
20:08that got kicked in the balls.
20:09This is honestly probably
20:11the worst that Natalie
20:12and I have ever been.
20:14Nothing is working.
20:15Nothing I do or say helps,
20:17and so I'm to the point now
20:20where, you know,
20:22I'm about ready to give up.
20:29I'm ready.
20:45Hi.
20:46Hi.
20:47Hey, Natalie.
20:48Good to see you.
20:49Good to see you.
20:51Today, I requested a one-on-one
20:54session with Reba,
20:56because, you know,
20:57NIRs still stand still
20:58when it comes to our intimacy.
21:00He even refuses
21:01to be affectionate to me,
21:03and on top of that,
21:04he doesn't agree
21:05to an open marriage.
21:07So I'm very hopeful
21:09that Reba, as an expert,
21:11will actually guide me
21:13about what to do next,
21:14because I really feel lost.
21:17So, during our last session,
21:19you said that you guys
21:20haven't been intimate.
21:21No.
21:22Have you been intimate at all
21:24during your stay here?
21:25No.
21:26He wouldn't.
21:27There is no way on earth,
21:29and I feel like I'm in the wrong
21:32for expressing out loud
21:34that I desire my husband,
21:37that I want to be intimate with him.
21:40He makes me feel
21:41like that is something bad.
21:44So, I hear you saying
21:45that physical intimacy
21:46is an integral, necessary part
21:50for your romantic relationships,
21:52and if sex is not
21:54the thing that connects you two,
21:56which it doesn't seem like it is,
21:58then what is holding
22:00this relationship together?
22:03Like, we get along.
22:04Like, we are funny together,
22:06we laugh, we joke.
22:08It's hard to explain.
22:09It's a weird dynamic that we have,
22:11but it's love.
22:13I love my husband.
22:15I cannot see myself
22:16building my life without this man.
22:18And on the other hand,
22:20I cannot see myself
22:23in a sexless marriage.
22:25Sex is like the detonator
22:27of all our arguments.
22:29So, in my mind,
22:30what I'm thinking is,
22:31like, if we take that pressure
22:33and we get along on other things,
22:35like, we could improve
22:36our communication,
22:38our coexistence, you know,
22:40in the same house,
22:41we could get along better,
22:42and maybe even our intimacy
22:45will come back.
22:48I hear you, like,
22:49exploring open marriage
22:51and ethical non-monogamy
22:53as, like, a way...
22:54How do you say it?
22:55Ethical non-monogamy.
22:56So, it's just,
22:57when you are with
22:58more than one person
22:59and everybody knows about it, right?
23:01And everybody's okay with it.
23:02Now, the issue is
23:03that when we did have
23:04this conversation,
23:05Gino mentioned that
23:06having an open marriage
23:07was a deal-breaker for him.
23:08He was very angry about it.
23:10Like, the idea that he has
23:11of open marriage is, like,
23:13you're gonna be f***ing
23:14every dude you can,
23:15and that's a deal-breaker.
23:18That's the idea
23:19he has of open marriage.
23:20I have tried to explain it to him.
23:22There are rules.
23:23We wouldn't do anything that,
23:25you know, like,
23:26we set the rules.
23:27Every open marriage relationship
23:29is different.
23:30So, I am a person
23:32who practices
23:33ethical non-monogamy,
23:34and I am married.
23:36What?
23:37Yes, my husband and I
23:38have been married for nine years.
23:40Nine.
23:41Yes, and we've practiced
23:42ethical non-monogamy
23:43all nine years.
23:44And you look so calm,
23:45so happy.
23:47Gina's gonna die.
23:50Gina's gonna die.
23:54The way that our, like,
23:55agreement started
23:57is not the way that it is now.
23:58Right?
23:59We've gone through many iterations
24:00of what it looks like
24:01for us to be
24:02ethically non-monogamous.
24:04It's not all, like,
24:05sunshine and rainbows, right?
24:07It takes a lot of conversations.
24:10It takes really good
24:11conflict resolution skills.
24:13And it does take
24:14a lot of self-awareness
24:16and a lot of confidence
24:17and a lot of connection
24:20for something like this to happen
24:22and to succeed.
24:26It could be Gina and me.
24:29It could be.
24:30It could be. Why not?
24:31Yeah.
24:32But I'm not gonna tell you
24:33to blow up your life
24:34or your marriage
24:35for ethical non-monogamy
24:37to have an open marriage.
24:39Right?
24:40This is a conversation
24:41that you and Gino need to have
24:43before you guys
24:44decide to recommit.
24:46The whole point
24:47of the open marriage
24:48is that eventually
24:49my husband will be able
24:51to satisfy my sexual needs.
24:53I don't want to have
24:55a third person
24:56in a permanent way.
24:58I want this to be temporary.
25:00But I won't cross
25:02any sexual boundaries
25:04unless Gino and I
25:06come to that agreement.
25:10I need it.
25:11Now?
25:12It's now or never
25:13because I cannot recommit
25:16if this is still like,
25:18you know, like,
25:19what's gonna happen.
25:22Yeah.
25:37Hey, how are you guys?
25:38Hi!
25:39Good to see you.
25:40How are you?
25:41Glad we have some time.
25:42Yes, finally!
25:43How are you doing?
25:44Good to see you.
25:45Good. Sit down.
25:46Let's get into it.
25:48What's happening, guys?
25:49How have you been?
25:51It's been upside down so far.
25:53Yeah?
25:54It's been upside down?
25:55I mean, for you, it's down.
25:58You've been up?
26:02After this camping trip,
26:03I feel like our marriage
26:05is not getting worse,
26:08but it's not getting better.
26:10I feel like we have a lot
26:12of different issues
26:13in our relationship.
26:14So today,
26:16we are going to do family therapy
26:19because me and Betty,
26:22Brandon's mom,
26:23we are like nuclear war.
26:26There's a big issue
26:27in our marriage right now
26:28and I really want to figure out
26:29how to change that.
26:31A lot of different things
26:32happening.
26:33Yes, thank you so much.
26:34Of course.
26:35We're gonna use this time
26:36and we're gonna use this time
26:37to meet with your parents.
26:39I'm excited to see them.
26:40I really am.
26:41I miss them so much.
26:42Yeah, I'm excited to meet them.
26:44You're taking a deep breath.
26:45What's going through your brain?
26:47I'm a little nervous.
26:48Yeah?
26:49Mm-hmm.
26:50What are you thinking about?
26:51When we're in one place together,
26:53we always fight.
26:55We always have, like, hey.
26:56Really?
26:57You're shaking your head.
26:58You're like, this is true.
26:59Mm-hmm, this is true.
27:02Me and Brandon's mom,
27:03we have competitions.
27:04We have competitions
27:05for attentions,
27:06for being right.
27:08I feel like Julia creates
27:09this competition,
27:10imagines this competition.
27:15I just feel like
27:16you're making it up.
27:17I feel like she's not competing
27:18with you.
27:27What do you mean?
27:28I can tell you
27:29who's most important in my life.
27:31My wife.
27:37No, I've always told you that.
27:38In front of your mom?
27:46I don't want to hurt
27:47my mom's feelings, you know?
27:49So I'm going to invite them in.
27:51We'll have a family therapy session,
27:53and we'll just kind of see
27:54what comes up,
27:55and we'll talk about
27:56where the two of you are
27:57and just kind of the dynamics
27:58and the roles
27:59that's been happening
28:00with this family.
28:01Does that sound good?
28:02Yes.
28:03Okay.
28:04Sure.
28:05Let's do this.
28:08Hi, Betty.
28:09Hi, Ron.
28:10Mom and Dad.
28:12Hello.
28:13How are you?
28:14Just tell me,
28:15what's it like
28:16with Mom and Dad
28:17in your world?
28:20I love having Mom and Dad
28:22in the world.
28:24And if you knew
28:25what amazing people they were,
28:26you'd understand
28:27why we're so close
28:29and why I would consider them
28:30friends.
28:32I love that
28:33there's a special...
28:34Aw, thank you, Brandon.
28:35Of course.
28:36We care about you
28:37and Julia,
28:38and we want to be there
28:39for both of you.
28:40Mm-hmm.
28:41No, I think you guys
28:42care more about only Brandon,
28:43not about me.
28:46No, we care about both of you.
28:48We do.
28:50Julia,
28:51something kind of clicked
28:52in your brain to say,
28:53I don't know,
28:54they don't treat me
28:55the way they treat Brandon.
28:56What are you thinking about?
28:58Brandon always say
28:59how horrible I am,
29:00how, like,
29:02we have, like,
29:03arguments in the home,
29:04and them only listen
29:05his side,
29:06but them never listen
29:07my side.
29:08I'm never gonna have
29:09support like that
29:10because Brandon number one.
29:14I so don't get that.
29:17We try.
29:29Oh.
29:30Okay.
29:32So this is bigger than...
29:34Julia, we've always tried
29:35to make sure
29:36that you felt welcome,
29:37that you took,
29:38that we took care of you
29:39just like we do Brandon.
29:40You never try.
29:41You never be like my parents.
29:42You are not my parents.
29:43You are his parents.
29:45You say this
29:46and then make us feel like
29:47you don't think
29:48that we care or love you.
29:50That kind of hurts.
29:51I gotta tell you,
29:52that hurts.
29:53I want my parents here.
29:55I want to have
29:56my support side.
29:57I want,
29:58I have somebody
29:59who come to them
30:00and say how,
30:01what my husband
30:02doing wrong.
30:03I want,
30:04because he always come
30:05to them and say
30:06how I'm doing wrong
30:07and I'm bad person
30:08and I think
30:09I have a great news today.
30:12I have a good news,
30:13but I'm not sure
30:14I want to share
30:15that anymore
30:16because it's like...
30:19Well, we would love
30:20to hear the good news.
30:21We have the good news.
30:22We'd like to hear it.
30:27I apply documents
30:29for my parents
30:31without telling anybody.
30:35I have a day
30:37for interview
30:38for my parents
30:39to come here for visa.
30:42What?
30:43Wow.
30:44Really?
30:45Wow.
30:46When did you do that?
30:47Wow, when did you do that?
30:48Two months ago,
30:49like one and a half months ago.
30:53Julia's been pushing
30:54for months
30:55that she wants her parents
30:56to come and get a visa
30:57and come to the U.S.
30:58and I've told her repeatedly
30:59it's a bad idea.
31:01What's on your rock?
31:02It says parents.
31:04Okay.
31:05What does that mean?
31:06I'm talking about my parents.
31:08Help me make them
31:09apply together for visa.
31:12So again,
31:13I'm finding out
31:14something else
31:15Julia's been keeping from me
31:16and it's something
31:17I've been telling her no
31:18and she still goes and does it.
31:20It's like everything
31:21I tell her doesn't matter.
31:23She's still going to do
31:24what she wants to do.
31:26I'm just a little curious
31:27as to why I'm finding out
31:28about this right now.
31:31Because you don't want
31:32to support me.
31:33You say you don't go with me.
31:34What point am I telling you
31:35if you don't go with me?
31:38So you thought
31:39because you weren't feeling
31:40the support from him
31:41that I would just
31:42keep this from him.
31:43Yes, exactly.
31:46I'm here
31:47and I'm trying
31:48to work this therapy with you
31:51and you keep telling me
31:54and you keep
31:57coming with things.
32:01And Julia,
32:02you didn't share this with him?
32:03This is pretty big news.
32:05Guys, it's not about you.
32:07It's about your son.
32:08What about me?
32:09You didn't include me in this.
32:10I tried to.
32:11This is another lie.
32:12It's another lie.
32:14This is...
32:15She cheated on me.
32:16You know that?
32:17What?
32:18What are you talking about?
32:19Yeah, in Russia.
32:20Hold on.
32:21What?
32:22Yeah, you bring that up?
32:23Yeah, she cheated on me.
32:24It's just this one...
32:25What?
32:26One whole thing of lies.
32:30What is going on?
32:31Why are you walking away?
32:33I mean, that is your son.
32:34That is your son.
32:36You always blame me
32:37for every single thing.
32:39What are you talking about?
32:40Brandon, come back.
32:41You can't make things better
32:43by walking away.
32:53This is what he's doing.
32:54He always run away.
32:59I'm frustrated
33:00because Brandon handled
33:01all of this situation like that.
33:03He just decided to run away.
33:05I'm doing everything
33:07to make this marriage succeed.
33:09Brandon, who I am,
33:11won't give up.
33:14Brandon,
33:15can I talk to you for a second?
33:16No.
33:17Brandon,
33:18can I talk to you for a second?
33:19No.
33:20Brandon,
33:21can I talk to you for a sec?
33:22We gotta get this...
33:23make this as productive as possible.
33:25And I know you're going through a lot.
33:26I want something
33:27to come out of this for you.
33:28I don't know what's gonna...
33:29More lies are gonna come out of this.
33:31I don't want anymore
33:32to come out of this.
33:33Yeah.
33:34I mean, I'm tired
33:35of finding out lies.
33:37You've done so much work
33:38with her so far.
33:39I've tried.
33:40I've tried,
33:41but I'm the one
33:42who keeps getting hurt.
33:43It's not fair.
33:44Yeah, there's a lot
33:45happening here.
33:46It's not fair at all.
33:47I don't wanna do this anymore.
33:49I'm tired of it.
33:52I have no idea.
33:53I have no idea what's going on.
33:54I don't...
33:55He don't want to talk to me.
33:56I know it hurts you.
33:57I know it hurts you.
33:59This thing about lying,
34:00we're trying to figure
34:01what is all this about.
34:03And the distrust.
34:04Yeah, this is all
34:05getting us blindsided, too.
34:09That's why we come here
34:10to this therapy.
34:11And I say,
34:12open.
34:13I open.
34:14Open for me.
34:15He just shuts down
34:16every single time.
34:17But you don't hurt our son.
34:18You divide him.
34:19Please.
34:21This is like so
34:22tearing us apart
34:23because there was
34:25something special
34:26between you two.
34:29Please don't give up on this.
34:50Please.
35:04Oh.
35:05Yeah.
35:06Let me help you.
35:15I have to accept now
35:16that the marriage is over
35:17and moved forward.
35:19It's really heartbreaking.
35:26I have to go get Avi.
35:29I don't know.
35:30I'm not sure.
35:34It's hard.
35:36I ask myself a lot,
35:38like, was it worth it?
35:39Would I do it all over again?
35:40You know, the whole thing.
35:42And I've always said
35:43it was worth it.
35:44It was worth it.
35:45I have the most wonderful son
35:47that anyone could ever have.
35:50I just...
35:51I don't know.
35:52I guess it's a question
35:53we all ask ourselves
35:54about our life.
35:55Like, was it worth it?
35:58Only time will tell.
36:18You know, since I met you,
36:19the only thing I ever wanted for you
36:21was success, happiness, peace.
36:24I wanted to make your life better
36:26and give you a better life.
36:27That's all I've ever wanted for you.
36:28I still want that for you now.
36:31Uh, yeah.
36:32Thanks for wish for me.
36:34Thanks for everything.
36:36I love you.
36:37I love you.
36:38I love you.
36:39I love you.
36:40I love you.
36:41I love you.
36:42I love you.
36:43I love you.
36:44I love you.
36:45I love you.
36:46Thanks for everything.
36:48We need to focus for...
36:49for...
36:50for future, you know?
36:51We need to focus for RV.
36:52We need teamwork.
36:55Whatever something,
36:56you need me,
36:57I'll be there.
36:59No doubt.
37:05Want a hug?
37:16Yeah.
37:34I'm sad
37:35seeing Ari leave.
37:37I tried my best,
37:38like, for RV,
37:39but it didn't work.
37:42She's not...
37:43she's not my wife anymore now.
37:45That's a...
37:46that's very hard to think about.
38:12Okay.
38:21I was on the fitness bikes
38:22with Darcy.
38:24You guys good, though?
38:25It sounded like you guys got into it.
38:26Yep.
38:27You know,
38:28that's just our dynamic.
38:29Yeah.
38:30We butt heads a lot.
38:31Yeah.
38:33What's going on?
38:34What's happening?
38:35Benny,
38:36what you got your bags for?
38:37Oh, my God.
38:38It's good, it's good.
38:39How are you?
38:40So, where are you going?
38:41So cute.
38:59It's done?
39:04Do you feel good about it?
39:10She left already?
39:11Yeah, she left already.
39:12She's already gone.
39:13Yeah, already she's gone.
39:15Oh.
39:16I mean, she hates us.
39:18Maybe she's really just upset.
39:19Yeah, it's like...
39:20Yeah, she's upset,
39:21just all the...
39:23It breaks my heart
39:24when I hear Benny say
39:26it's officially over.
39:27And it makes me really sad
39:29that I didn't have the chance
39:30to say goodbye to Ari,
39:32to let her know
39:33that I am here for her.
39:35And I really hope
39:37that she didn't walk away
39:39thinking that we didn't like her,
39:41because that is not true.
39:44You're not going bye, are you?
39:45What's up, just...
39:46Yeah, say goodbye.
39:48What are you doing, my boy?
39:51You're going home?
39:55Oh, you did?
39:56Oh, OK.
40:03I'm shocked, to be honest.
40:05I think the son is going to
40:07bring both the parents together.
40:10I feel sad for the son,
40:11to be honest.
40:12I feel bad that
40:13it didn't work out for them.
40:14I know they were trying,
40:16but it's a very difficult situation.
40:18And I just want them
40:21to be happy, OK?
40:23I want both of them
40:24to be happy.
40:26Everything what I learned,
40:27all the new therapy,
40:28everything, all the tools,
40:30I can use, you know.
40:31Absolutely.
40:32You can learn, you can use.
40:33Yeah, I learned
40:34from both of you guys.
40:35I know both of you guys,
40:36both of you guys.
40:37What did you learn from Gino?
40:38I'm curious.
40:42I learned from Gino's hat.
40:43Yeah.
40:45Gino's baby.
40:47Gino's style.
40:49Fedora brothers.
40:52I'm very sad to leave this resort.
40:54This whole situation,
40:56like all the divorce,
40:57like, it's not easy for me.
41:00But here in the resort,
41:02like, everybody, like,
41:04we support each other.
41:06We build like a family.
41:08Thank you so much.
41:09I love you guys.
41:10Please contact me.
41:12I love you guys, you know,
41:13like the Mike Johnson.
41:15We wish you and Arian
41:16your son the best.
41:17Yeah.
41:18Bye, guys.
41:21OK.
41:22Love you guys.
41:24Wow, so sad.
41:30Scary.
41:31Very scary.
41:32It's very real to come in here
41:33with hope and leave
41:34not together.
41:35Right.
41:36You came as a couple
41:37and look at them,
41:38how they're living separately.
41:40You know, I've been
41:41through divorce before
41:42and it's one of the hardest
41:43things you'll ever have to do.
41:44And Florian,
41:46I hope we never have to
41:47go through that because
41:49your life has changed forever
41:51and they have a child involved
41:52and I know they both
41:53love the child.
41:54It's just,
41:55they'll be connected for life.
41:56It's very tough
41:57because I feel like
41:58if anybody had a lot,
41:59had the most to fight for,
42:01it was them two
42:02because they have a kid together.
42:03Yeah.
42:04So, and if they can't
42:05work theirs out...
42:08Damn.
42:10There are some things that
42:12even therapy cannot fix.
42:15It's like an eye-opener.
42:17Like, if Gino and I
42:20don't make things work,
42:22I don't want to get divorced.
42:23I love my husband,
42:25but
42:27this could be us.
42:33I really realized
42:34through this therapy
42:35that I realized
42:36that I have so much more to heal
42:38and I shouldn't be ashamed of that
42:40because, you know,
42:41what I went through is a lot.
42:44But for now,
42:45I need to love myself
42:46and I need to stop
42:48trying so hard to fix others
42:50and to focus on others
42:52and I need to really
42:53focus on myself.
42:56I'm so grateful
42:57that I have a husband
42:58and I'm so grateful
43:00that I can focus on myself.
43:09How are you, my friend?
43:13Let's go.
43:19For years,
43:20I've been fighting for my son's happiness,
43:22but if you have the worst marriage,
43:24it's not good for my son, too.
43:26Like, me and her, we split.
43:29I think it's the best thing
43:31for my son.
43:34Life is short.
43:35Just find your happiness
43:37and then enjoy it.
43:39That's very important
43:40for your life.
43:42I'm not long,
43:43live for a long time,
43:44just I want to be happy for him.
43:50I do believe
43:51that when you marry someone,
43:52you commit to them
43:54and even when it's hard,
43:55you're not supposed to give up
43:57and I feel like I've failed
43:59and I have to forgive myself.
44:05I have to forgive myself.
44:12I do deserve happiness
44:13and that's only going to come
44:16from inside myself.
44:28Let's have a fun night.
44:29Next time on 90 Day,
44:31The Last Resort.
44:33Well, we have the most beautiful girls
44:35in this van.
44:36Wow!
44:38It's just been really hard for me
44:40to give up on Natalie.
44:41I'm hoping that we can try
44:43some new things
44:44and see what happens.
44:49I'm here just actually
44:51to discuss the parameters
44:53in our own open marriage.
44:56That's cheating
44:57and I don't want a cheater
44:58in my life.
44:59Enjoy your life.
45:00Okay, perfect.
45:01Have a good one.
45:02Bye.
45:03How the heck
45:04proposing ethical,
45:06non-monogamous marriage
45:08is cheating?
45:10What should I do now?
45:11I don't f***ing know.
45:12I don't know what to do.
45:13I don't know.
45:17You went out
45:18after hours
45:19with Darcy and Georgie.
45:21There was two hot blonde chicks,
45:22okay,
45:23that Darcy saw you leave
45:24the club with.
45:25The clues are looking like
45:26he's cheating
45:27and I'm not a fool
45:28because I will leave.
45:30Are you f***ing with a woman
45:31behind my back?
45:32One second, sis.
45:33I don't need this anymore.
45:35Sis.