Stefan Molyneux
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Friday Night Live 14 February 2025

In this episode, I examine the complexities of attraction and relationships, especially around Valentine's Day. We discuss how scent and immune system compatibility influence romantic preferences, along with the effects of hormonal birth control on women's attraction to long-term partners.

I also explore societal pressures on body image, the concept of "subsidizing attractiveness," and the challenges women face when dating standards shift. Additionally, I address the "alpha widow" phenomenon, highlighting the risks of transient attraction. Throughout the conversation, I underline the importance of empathy and a deeper understanding of love in our evolving relationships.

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Transcript
00:00:00Good evening, good evening, welcome to your, hey, happy Valentine's Day.
00:00:06Happy Valentine's Day.
00:00:08I am going out for a bit of a late dinner with my wife tonight, but we are doing a show
00:00:12first because when it comes to love, there's nothing that comes between me and the greatest
00:00:18audience in the history of the world.
00:00:21Hey, come on, if this is the greatest show in the history of the world, certainly what
00:00:23I'm in for, then you are the greatest audience.
00:00:25And thank you for sticking through with philosophy through thick and thin highs and lows, platforming
00:00:35and not quite so platforming, so I appreciate you being here.
00:00:39And I am eager and happy and thrilled and excited to take your questions.
00:00:46But before we do that, before we do that, I want to talk, since we're talking, since
00:00:52it is Valentine's Day, I really, really want to talk about stink, the stink.
00:01:02Stink is love.
00:01:03So our immune system as a whole has strengths and weaknesses.
00:01:09It's good at some stuff, not good at other stuff.
00:01:12So there was a study that was done not too long ago, and what they did was they measured
00:01:19everybody's various immune strengths and weaknesses.
00:01:24And then they had them not bathe for a while and then take their sweat, their pheromones,
00:01:28their natural joy juice of Bonerville, and they had the men sniff the women's smell and
00:01:37the women sniff the men's smell, and they said, which do you find the most attractive?
00:01:44And lo and behold, as evolution or the deity, whichever you prefer at the moment, would
00:01:49have it, or as you would expect, the people who had complementary immune systems, right?
00:01:56So let's just take a number of one to 10, right, like various immune responses.
00:02:02The people who were missing three, let's say they had number three was their weakest immune
00:02:07response, they were attracted to the people with number three as a strong.
00:02:11You were missing eight, you were attracted to somebody who had an excess of eight, and
00:02:15this is how the immune system stays strong and balanced through reproduction.
00:02:18We are attracted to those who will give us children who have the best spread of immune
00:02:24system responses as a whole.
00:02:27Isn't that amazing?
00:02:29I mean, that's wild to me that that is communicated over a smell in pheromones or whatever it
00:02:35is that you want to call them.
00:02:37Ah, but there was an exception, which is why I'm talking about this.
00:02:41So it was about 20% of the people didn't follow this pattern.
00:02:50Everyone did follow this pattern, but there was about 20% of people who didn't follow
00:02:54this pattern, and they couldn't figure out why until they found out that the people who
00:03:05didn't follow this pattern were women on birth control pills.
00:03:13So now we've had a couple of generations where women have been on birth control pills, and
00:03:17I'm no scientist, I'm certainly no doctor, but it seems to me interesting, what if we
00:03:22had, since women have been on birth control pills, well, we have a whole bunch of autoimmune
00:03:26disorders, we have excessive allergies, which is the body attacking things that aren't really
00:03:34particularly dangerous, we have a whole bunch of other things.
00:03:38What is the relationship between women unable to choose men based upon pheromones for a
00:03:46strong immune system for their children and rising health issues?
00:03:50Well, if anyone's going to find out about that, if anyone's going to figure that one
00:03:54out, it's going to be the new director of HHS, one Robert F. Kennedy, Jr.
00:04:01And that is going to be a pretty wild things to see.
00:04:03Is it related to vaccines?
00:04:05We'll find out.
00:04:06Hopefully.
00:04:07Certainly the VAERS database is going to be improved and expanded because it's only reporting
00:04:10about 1% of vaccine adverse effects.
00:04:14And is it going to be the case?
00:04:17Is it going to be the case that the taxpayer not only funded the creation of COVID-19,
00:04:23but also that the media was paid by the government to promote the propaganda that had everyone
00:04:29fear inject themselves with gene therapy mystery juice?
00:04:35It's going to be interesting to see.
00:04:38And see?
00:04:39We may.
00:04:40I'm not saying we will.
00:04:41But see?
00:04:42We may.
00:04:43There is, of course, a fair amount of somewhat anecdotal, I don't know how well it's been
00:04:52tested, but a woman meets a man.
00:04:55She's on birth control, which, of course, her body feels pregnant all the time.
00:05:01And so she's on birth control and hormonal, like the pill.
00:05:07And she meets a guy, dates a guy, gets engaged to a guy, gets married to a guy.
00:05:12The whole time she's on hormonal birth control.
00:05:16She's not herself.
00:05:17You don't really meet your woman until she's off the permanent pregnancy milk-the-cow joy
00:05:26juice of infinite egg suppression.
00:05:32And then a year or two, maybe three, into getting married after they've been together
00:05:37for three, four, five years, a year or two into getting married, she goes off birth control
00:05:43because they want to have a baby.
00:05:45They want to have babies, want to start their family.
00:05:46She goes off birth control and suddenly she can't stand him.
00:05:51Again, this is somewhat anecdotal.
00:05:54I don't know how much this has been studied.
00:05:56It does seem to be having an effect on relationships.
00:05:59It certainly does seem to be a factor in a not insignificant number of divorces.
00:06:04But she gets off her birth control.
00:06:07She looks at him and can't stand him.
00:06:10She physically does not respond to him.
00:06:12She finds him repulsive because she is herself, really, for the first time since she first
00:06:22went on hormonal birth control.
00:06:27It's pretty wild, man.
00:06:29It's pretty wild.
00:06:33And I don't know exactly how it goes.
00:06:36Thank you, Cata.
00:06:37I don't know exactly how this goes.
00:06:38But I imagine it's something like that she likes a nice, a gentle, over-solicitous Japanese
00:06:53estrogen-based boy band of a dude, and then when she goes off birth control, she views
00:06:59him as weak and simpy.
00:07:07That's tough, man.
00:07:08That's tough.
00:07:12Because you know, everybody knows in women's literature, women's erotica, women's sex addict
00:07:18text or prose that it's always some six-foot-six billionaire werewolf, you know, some excessive
00:07:29Christian Grey hyper-masculine guy with a helicopter, a leather whip, and the ability
00:07:36to play least to the point where people cry when his fingers touch the ivories, which
00:07:40of course is an analogy for finding the G-spot.
00:07:45So if a woman, when she's actually trying to get impregnated by a guy, finds him repulsive,
00:07:55too simpy, too nice, too spineless, too beta, too whatever, it's like, ah, damn, that is
00:08:03a bad time for that to happen, man.
00:08:05That is like the worst, dare I say it, yes, I dare say it, it's the worst conceivable
00:08:10time for this to happen.
00:08:18So have you ever had this happen?
00:08:24This is a question for the men's and the ladies', have you ever had this happen to you?
00:08:32All right, so let's get to your questions and comments.
00:08:35Histocompatibility factor is what that's called, I believe, yeah, I think, Kairos, I think
00:08:40you're right.
00:08:41I thought it might be that, anecdotally, I didn't fancy the same men when I was on birth
00:08:46control, says this lady, yeah.
00:08:48Fifty bucks to get the donor train going, owed you from the last show, so I'm still
00:08:52behind on my tithe schedule, thank you, I appreciate that.
00:08:57Makes sense, in the 1970s there were zero kids in my primary school with autism or allergies,
00:09:02today I've been told in Scottish schools, out of 320 children, 80 have emotional difficulties,
00:09:08but those are three different categories, right, allergies, autism, and emotional difficulties,
00:09:15so that's a, but I certainly never heard of an autistic kid when I was growing up, I never
00:09:24even really heard of it, I certainly never knew kids, and I was, you know, I went to
00:09:28a bunch of different schools on a bunch of different continents, and I just never heard
00:09:33of an autistic kid, there was nothing like that around.
00:09:36I didn't know, I knew a couple of kids who had allergies, but you know, the kind of pollen,
00:09:43you know, that kind of stuff, right, the more common sorts of allergies, but the peanut
00:09:48butter allergy was certainly not a thing when I was a kid.
00:09:53Now what is the US vaccine schedule up to, is it 74 vaccines?
00:09:59That's mental, absolutely mental, and well, we're going to see, right, we're going to
00:10:07see when Robert F. Kennedy Jr., like he already sued to find out that the vaccines have not
00:10:14been tested against placebo, and have never been tested in combination, you can't possibly
00:10:20test a combination of 74 medical interventions, you can't possibly test that in any way that
00:10:27would make any kind of sense.
00:10:30So it's going to be interesting to see, it's going to be interesting to see, it's also
00:10:35interesting to see, you know, as the Doge Bunderkinds sail in from USAID to now, what
00:10:43are they, they're in the IRS, going to be interesting to see, because what's really
00:10:47fascinating to me is Doge is like, hey, population, meet your sociopaths, right, I mean, for 20
00:11:00years, actually for even longer than 20 years, I've been talking about the state as, you're
00:11:05livestock to them, right, you're livestock to them, just like whatever you can do to
00:11:09get your money, right, whatever they can do to get your money, oh, do you care about foreign
00:11:13aid?
00:11:14Okay, we'll call it foreign aid.
00:11:15We'll get our hands on your money.
00:11:17So it's really interesting for me, since I've been talking about the sociopathy of people
00:11:21in power, particularly in political power, for like 40 plus years, it's really fascinating
00:11:27for me to see all of the people who are suddenly running into the fact and basic reality, all
00:11:32I want to say is that they don't really care about us.
00:11:35So, yeah, they don't, they're just like, oh, wait, hang on, wait a second here.
00:11:43Is it the case that they don't really care about what we want and they just say stuff
00:11:50to have us give up money?
00:11:53Next up, global warming, right, is wild.
00:12:01Somebody says, have dated someone who definitely had the histocompatibility thing like a perfect
00:12:05match?
00:12:06It's definitely different.
00:12:07They're like a drug, apart from any other attraction.
00:12:10She described the same kind of experience about me many times.
00:12:13Yeah, you can't keep your hands off each other, right?
00:12:17A guy says, I find it curious that when my ex-wife was pregnant, she couldn't get an
00:12:22aspirin because it wasn't tested with pregnant women, untested magic mystery juice, great
00:12:26for kids.
00:12:27Yeah, I mean, they, I think that some of the manufacturers have said, we can't call it
00:12:32gene therapy, otherwise nobody's going to take it.
00:12:37There was no peanut allergy concerns in the 80s when I was a kid.
00:12:40I've often wondered where it came from.
00:12:42Well, this is the dysgenics of the welfare state.
00:12:48Yeah, it's, thank you, Matt.
00:12:53It's really rough.
00:12:54Now, I'm happy to, of course, take your questions and comments and issues and challenges, whatever
00:12:59is on your mind.
00:13:00I would like to make a case, though.
00:13:02I would like to make a case and tell me if it would be interesting to you.
00:13:07I would, you know, it is amazing.
00:13:11You've seen this, you know, the dog in the fiery chamber, right?
00:13:16This is the, this is fine dog.
00:13:18You've seen that, right?
00:13:19So this was kind of going on around the last election in the U.S., right, the 2024 election
00:13:24that, you know, the whole West was burning down, but the women were like, well, at least
00:13:28we have abortion.
00:13:30So would you like me to explain to you why so many women are so desperate to keep abortion
00:13:47rights?
00:13:49Would you like me to explain that to you?
00:13:51It's a little, it's a little incomprehensible to men, I think, but I think I can talk about
00:13:57it in a way that makes sense so that you can understand why women are so pro-access
00:14:09to abortion.
00:14:10Why they refer to it as the crazy name, you know, access to healthcare, right, access
00:14:15to healthcare.
00:14:16Would you be interested in that?
00:14:17I want to do stuff that's interesting to you, of course.
00:14:19Would you be interested in knowing why women are so pro-abortion?
00:14:24All right.
00:14:25Well, so the reason why women are pro-abortion is because of sexual addiction, of sexual
00:14:33addiction.
00:14:38So if the government could pass a law, so if you want to understand this as a man, if
00:14:46the government could pass a law that forced you to only be able to date women with a BMI
00:14:56of 35 or more, like women who are like, I don't know, 50, 75, 100 pounds overweight,
00:15:01so depending on their height.
00:15:02If the government could pass a law that said you could only date obese women, you could
00:15:08only have sex with obese women, you could only marry obese women, how important would
00:15:14it be for you that that law not get passed?
00:15:19You had to date, not plump, not curvaceous, but overweight, really seriously obese women,
00:15:30right?
00:15:33How important that would be for you?
00:15:36Holy moly, I'd leave the country, 500%.
00:15:39Yeah, if you had to date truly fat women, if the government passed a law that said now
00:15:45you can only date truly fat women, you would hit the roof, you would fight a tooth and
00:15:51nail, right?
00:15:54I might start a secession.
00:15:57So because you would not, let's say that you're not a chubby chaser or whatever, right?
00:16:02So you would not be attracted to these women and you would not want to have your sexual
00:16:14activities restricted to truly obese women.
00:16:19Is weight really that big a deal?
00:16:24Pull the ejection lever.
00:16:26Weight is absolutely a huge deal for men.
00:16:27Sorry, that's a woman who's saying, is weight really that big a deal?
00:16:29Weight is an absolutely huge deal for men.
00:16:31Yeah, weight is, if there's one thing that a man would want, absent all other things,
00:16:38it would be weight.
00:16:43This is the one thing that men want more than anything else, is for a woman to not be obese.
00:16:51I mean, tell me if I'm wrong.
00:16:54Tell me if I'm wrong.
00:17:02Women can control that, right?
00:17:03She can't control her facial structure.
00:17:05She can't control some of the more details of fat distribution and so on.
00:17:10She can't control her height.
00:17:12She can do a little bit to make her hair more attractive, but only so much.
00:17:16But she can absolutely control her weight.
00:17:23And obesity is the single biggest turnoff for men, right?
00:17:29Which is why the fat positivity thing is just part of the general depopulation agenda, right?
00:17:34It's to make women as unattractive as possible.
00:17:40So weight is the single biggest factor in a woman being attractive or unattractive,
00:17:47and there isn't even really a close second, right?
00:17:54The obesity thing is like right at the top and somewhere, you know, like significantly down.
00:18:05Is some other factor, right?
00:18:08But it is obesity.
00:18:10No question, no real second, no debate whatsoever.
00:18:17Now, of course, why would a man not be attracted to an obese woman?
00:18:24And listen, I have sympathy with the obesity.
00:18:26You know, of course, you could have grown up with your parents overfeeding you.
00:18:30You might have grown up in a dangerous neighborhood where it was tough to walk and you couldn't
00:18:33get access to a gym.
00:18:35It might have been a rough school where you had to run away because, right, it was dangerous,
00:18:43the bullies and so on, right?
00:18:45So this is not any condemnation, not any particular criticism, because there's lots of reasons
00:18:50why someone, in this case woman, might be obese.
00:18:53And I say this with great and deep sympathy, but facts are facts, right?
00:18:57A man is not going to be attracted in general to an obese woman for a variety of reasons.
00:19:07One, it's harder for her to get pregnant.
00:19:10It's harder for her to bring a baby to term.
00:19:12It's harder for her to have a successful and healthy baby, and it's harder for her
00:19:18to clean her body, depending on the level of obesity.
00:19:22She is going to be more at risk of dying in childbirth.
00:19:26She's going to be more at risk of dying in general.
00:19:28She's going to have joint issues.
00:19:31She's going to have hip issues.
00:19:33She's going to have, you know, chronic pain is a big thing, and diabetes is a big thing.
00:19:38Early death is a big thing.
00:19:40So it's just, it's a really, really bad deal for men to get with obese women.
00:19:49And of course, it is, weight, tons of exceptions, but the higher the weight, on average, the
00:19:55lower the IQ.
00:19:56The higher the weight, the lower the IQ.
00:20:01And so lower IQ is more likely to be difficult, volatile, obstructive, to act out, no particular
00:20:11third eye, no particular sense of external morality, and so on.
00:20:15So lower IQ is harder to negotiate with.
00:20:18It's harder to have a productive and healthy relationship with, and so on, right?
00:20:27So it's a bad deal for men.
00:20:30It's a bad deal for men.
00:20:34And of course, a woman who is obese is, and I talk about this in Feudal Parenting, is
00:20:41much more likely to give birth to obese children and have the children more likely to be obese.
00:20:57So it's bad.
00:20:59It's bad all around.
00:21:01It's just bad all around.
00:21:04And of course, if you have, let's say you have an obese daughter, then your obese daughter
00:21:13is less likely to be able to attract a wealthy man, which means your children are going to
00:21:20have fewer resources.
00:21:29So, it's just, it's just bad.
00:21:39It's just bad as a whole.
00:21:41And of course, since 1960, the average weight of men and women in the U.S. rose nearly 20%.
00:21:52It's crazy.
00:21:58Some of that's going to be aging, for sure, it's just an aging population, and so on.
00:22:03But it's really bad all around.
00:22:11Although even when you age-segregate it, it's still higher, right?
00:22:18So men between the ages of 40 and 49 were nearly 27 pounds heavier on average in 2002
00:22:23compared with 1960.
00:22:25Men between the ages of 50 and 59 were nearly 28 pounds heavier on average in 2002 compared
00:22:30to 1960.
00:22:31Men between the ages of 60 and 74 were almost 33 pounds heavier on average.
00:22:40That's rough, man.
00:22:42That is really rough on the joints, and rough on the heart, and so on, right?
00:22:52And men have gained a little bit less weight than women have gained, percentage-wise,
00:23:02not in terms of absolute terms.
00:23:05But yeah, it's really bad.
00:23:10It's really bad.
00:23:11All right, let me just get to your comments and move on.
00:23:19It's a sign of being healthy to me, yeah.
00:23:20No self-respect, yeah.
00:23:21Willpower, and so on, right?
00:23:24If a woman can't restrain herself from eating too much, will she be able to restrain herself
00:23:31from having an affair?
00:23:32Will she be able to restrain herself from yelling at the children?
00:23:35Will she be able to restrain herself from continuing to gain weight?
00:23:40Because a man who marries a woman who's already obese, what happens after she has three children?
00:23:45She's not going to make it.
00:23:46I mean, our sort of evolution, evolutionarily speaking.
00:23:49If a woman can't restrain herself from having extra cheesecake, and cookies, and chips,
00:23:55and chocolate, or whatever her weakness is, will she be able to restrain herself from
00:23:59yelling at you, from raging at you, from nagging you, right?
00:24:02A man looks for self-restraint in a woman, and the biggest marker of self-restraint,
00:24:08before you get to know the person, the biggest marker of self-restraint is your weight, right?
00:24:18So, as a man, Steph, after the show, come join us from some Diablo 2 Resurrected.
00:24:28Boy, that's a way out.
00:24:29That's a ways back.
00:24:31So, why am I talking about men and obesity?
00:24:37So, if there was a law passed that said you could only date and have sex with women who
00:24:43had a BMI of 35 or 40, you would really freak out, because that would be the death of your
00:24:50sexual excitement, the death of your sexual interest, and you would have to lower your
00:24:54standards considerably for the attractiveness level.
00:25:01I know.
00:25:02I'm going to tie it in, man.
00:25:03Just give me a sec.
00:25:04So, as a man, you would really have to lower your standards, and you would not be able
00:25:08to have sex with nearly, or date nearly as attractive a woman if this particular law
00:25:13passed.
00:25:14So, for men to understand this, you have to date really, really fat women.
00:25:21Now, let's look at why women have such a tough time with letting go of abortion, because
00:25:31casual sex allows women to date men far more attractive than otherwise.
00:25:40Say this again, brothers.
00:25:41Say it with me, brothers and sisters.
00:25:44The ability to offer casual sex to men allows women to have sex with far more attractive
00:25:53men than they would otherwise.
00:25:55In other words, if every time a man has sex with a woman, he risks being tied to her permanently
00:26:02because of getting her pregnant, then he is going to change his standards considerably.
00:26:07Now, man to man.
00:26:10Can we just talk man to man?
00:26:11Can we just talk man to man?
00:26:16Man to man.
00:26:18What percentage of women you've slept with over the course of your life, what percentage
00:26:23of women you've slept with, would you have refrained from sleeping with if there was
00:26:29a significant chance you'd be tied to her forever through pregnancy and childbirth?
00:26:36What percentage of the women you've slept with would you have refrained from sleeping
00:26:40with if you knew there was a significant possibility you'd be tied to her forever?
00:26:45100%.
00:26:46Well, it's high, right?
00:26:50It's high.
00:26:54If birth control was not on the table, whatever form you want, doesn't really matter.
00:26:58If birth control was not on the table for men, you would have to be way more picky about
00:27:05who you slept with.
00:27:06Right?
00:27:07100%, 50%, 99%, all except one, yeah, that's the same with me too.
00:27:14I'm already afraid of that, don't risk it, right?
00:27:19All of them, yeah.
00:27:22So I assume that the men in this chat, I mean, you're obviously very intelligent if you follow
00:27:27the muscular philosophy exercise stuff that I talk about and put out, I assume that you're
00:27:32relatively trim and healthy and so on.
00:27:36So women who can offer you sex with no risk of babies, women who can offer you sex with
00:27:43no risk of babies get access to you as an attractive man much more often, and in some
00:27:54case it wouldn't be possible otherwise.
00:27:58So abortion comes out of sex addiction.
00:28:04For the women to want to have sex with far more attractive men than they otherwise would
00:28:13be able to because they can offer consequence-free sexual activity, women get access to far more
00:28:20attractive men than they would otherwise.
00:28:24And they get addicted to chat with abs.
00:28:31So think of some spring break situation, right, there's some woman, she's not particularly
00:28:35attractive but she can have sex on a beach with a guy who's a 9 or a 10 because he's
00:28:47not worried about her getting pregnant, having to keep the baby, shotgun marriage, child
00:28:54support, whatever it's going to be.
00:29:01So because women want to have sex with the most attractive men possible and consequence-free
00:29:10sexual activity is the greatest subsidy a woman can provide a man, the greatest subsidy,
00:29:16there's no bigger subsidy because men don't really care about women's money, right?
00:29:25We don't care about their family connections, we don't care if their father can get us a
00:29:29job, we don't care about any of that.
00:29:32There is no bigger subsidy that a woman can give a man than consequence-free sex.
00:29:45So it comes out of a form of sexual addiction because if abortion is off the table, women
00:29:55can only have sex with less attractive men.
00:30:01That is an absolute domino equation.
00:30:03If abortion is taken off the table, then every man is going to be concerned about sexual
00:30:08activity leading to a baby.
00:30:14And so women will have to readjust their calibration of male attractiveness to match their own.
00:30:31Tell me if you're following the argument.
00:30:33I'm sorry to sound condescending, hit me with a why.
00:30:36I don't want to over-explain, I don't want to under-explain.
00:30:44Now a woman wants to feel maximally attractive, right?
00:30:53There's nothing sexier for a woman than feeling that she's got a fantastic dress on, she's
00:31:00walking through the hotel lobby, eyes are following her.
00:31:04It's very sexy for a woman.
00:31:06It's actually kind of the opening of my novel, The Present, which you should definitely check
00:31:10out at freedomain.com slash books.
00:31:16So a woman feels as sexy as the attractiveness of the man she's able to get.
00:31:26So a woman does not measure herself against the 1 to 10 scale, right?
00:31:31She does not measure herself in some objective way.
00:31:36She measures herself by the attractiveness of the men who will sleep with her or pursue
00:31:44her even if she doesn't sleep around or whatever, right?
00:31:46So if a woman can get an 8 or a 9 to sleep with her or pursue her for sex, she genuinely
00:31:54feels like an 8 or a 9 or a 10.
00:32:01So, women, of course, want to feel as attractive as possible.
00:32:13Yeah, we'll get to the alpha widow, that's not unrelated.
00:32:19So the woman wants to feel as attractive as possible because that makes her feel sexy
00:32:23and that gives her, she gets a high, she gets dopamine, she gets a flood of happy, joy,
00:32:28juice hormones when attractive men pursue her.
00:32:36So a woman who is a 6 can get a 9 or a 10 to sleep with her and then she feels like
00:32:43a 9 or a 10 and then she looks at men who are 6 with contempt.
00:32:54So a woman who is a 6 can get a 9 or a 10 to sleep with her and therefore she feels
00:32:59that she's a 9 or a 10 and then she looks at the range she should be looking at, a 5
00:33:05to a 7, she looks at them with contempt and disgust and she finds it insulting if they
00:33:11ask her out.
00:33:12How dare you imagine that a woman like me would ever, ever get together with a guy like
00:33:20you, right?
00:33:21So you've seen these, what's the whatever podcast and so on, where they say, oh, what
00:33:26is, what is, how attractive are you?
00:33:29And the women in general will say, like I'm a 10, I'm a 10, everyone's a 10, right?
00:33:33Because they feel that way because they can get very attractive guys to sleep with them
00:33:37and therefore they think that that is their level of attractiveness, that make sense?
00:33:51So, if abortion is taken off the table, a 6 will no longer be able to sleep with a 9
00:34:03or a 10 in general.
00:34:10Now if abortion is taken off the table, the subsidy, the sexual subsidy that gets you
00:34:17three or four points up in the dating hierarchy collapses and a woman will be returned to
00:34:24her actual number of attractiveness because she will not have a subsidy.
00:34:29Like for a man, you say, oh, gee, you know, I'm a, I'm a podcaster, someone might say,
00:34:33I'm a podcaster and I'm a business genius and it turns out they were getting a million
00:34:37dollars or two million dollars or five million dollars from the government, right?
00:34:44Getting all this money from the government, it's a massive subsidy.
00:34:48Now why is it the people who genuinely think that they're brilliant and amazing and wonderful
00:34:55and so on, when they're getting heavily pumped up and subsidized by the regime, by the algorithm,
00:35:00by whatever, right?
00:35:02Now if you say to these people, we're going to return you to the free market.
00:35:11No more subsidies.
00:35:13No more subsidies.
00:35:17No more free sex.
00:35:18No more ass on the table.
00:35:19No more consequence free clanging and banging.
00:35:21No more if the vans are rocking, don't come a knocking.
00:35:25You will not be able to subsidize your sex life with consequence free orgasms.
00:35:36Let's return you to the free market without the subsidy of sex.
00:35:43Now Christian women, unless obviously generally Christian women tend to be pro-life rather
00:35:51than pro-choice, because they're looking for qualities of character for the purpose of
00:35:56raising children, whereas women on the left in general are looking for orgasms with the
00:36:03most attractive man, and if the babies have to be sacrificed on the altar of female lust
00:36:09and vanity, so be it, because that's an addiction.
00:36:20So women, I think, again this is not all women, tons of exceptions, but women in general understand
00:36:27that if you take away abortion, you are taking away the chad subsidy.
00:36:37You are taking away the hymphalation that allows them to pump up three or four or even
00:36:43five sexy points.
00:36:52If a woman can no longer subsidize male attraction with easy consequence free sex, then she is
00:37:06going to have to be chosen for what?
00:37:11Why would a man choose to date, get engaged, get married to a woman if she cannot offer
00:37:18him in the early stages of courtship consequence free sex?
00:37:22What happens?
00:37:27What's she going to have to be judged by?
00:37:34I dream of a day when all women are judged not by the contents of their couch, but the
00:37:40contents of their character.
00:37:42Here's your gift.
00:37:47They'll have to be judged by the content of their character.
00:37:50They'll have to be judged by their virtues, their values, their helpfulness, their support.
00:38:03She will have to be a good woman who provides practical, tangible value to a man.
00:38:12She will no longer be subsidized by the demon seed of empty lust.
00:38:19And her willingness to not cheat at her loyalty, her virtue, her relative lack of body count.
00:38:29See for sexual addicts experience is a positive because they'll often do more freaky skilled
00:38:33and crazy shit in bed, right?
00:38:37In the same way that if you are a gambling addict, the more experienced someone is in
00:38:43gambling who's helping you, the better, right?
00:38:46Because they kind of know what they're doing and they know how to help you win.
00:38:51Which is why the debate about body count is incomprehensible to either side.
00:38:56Because on the right, body count is bad because it indicates an erosion of the capacity to
00:39:02pair bond and a lack of self-respect and sexual addiction.
00:39:07Whereas on the left, it's like, well, why wouldn't you want to have sex with someone
00:39:10who was more skilled and freaky?
00:39:15Because the people on the right are interviewing for pair bonding and the raising of children
00:39:23and the people on the left are interviewing for freaky skills in strange Kama Sutra rituals
00:39:30between the sheets or in an elevator or in the woods, well, not in the woods, leftists
00:39:36don't really go in the woods, on the gritty tarmac on the top of an apartment building.
00:39:45So if you're interviewing someone for their skills, you want them to have more skills.
00:39:52I have been coding for 20 years, okay?
00:39:55I've been having lots of sex with lots of people for 20 years, so you're going to be
00:39:59more skilled and freaky.
00:40:00So that's a plus.
00:40:02The body count is a plus if it's orgasms and freakiness that you're after, rather than
00:40:07a quality wife, helpmate, companion, and mother for your children.
00:40:13You don't care about pair bonding, you care about how she massages the prostate and has
00:40:19your armpits orgasm or I don't know what the hell goes on.
00:40:22It's been a while since I've been on the open market, I don't know what the hell goes on,
00:40:26but some freaky shit goes down.
00:40:29Do you know how to choke in the right way?
00:40:32Yeah, robes, oils, and shag carpet for the left, right?
00:40:41Because on the left, they're not trying to found families, they're hiring for porn shoots.
00:40:56So if you are addicted to the vanity of your only happiness comes from orgasms, and the
00:41:05more attractive the man, the better the orgasm, and the better you feel about yourself from
00:41:10a I'm sexy and desirable standpoint, then abortion cuts off that dopamine, and we all
00:41:17know how addicts react when the supply goes dry, right?
00:41:25I remember when COVID hit, and everything was closed, except the liquor stores and beer
00:41:33stores were still open.
00:41:34It's like, what the hell is that?
00:41:35People were saying, well, no, you're a real addict, you're a real alcoholic, you can't
00:41:39get your alcohol, man, you might stroke out and die or whatever the hell, DTs are horrible.
00:41:52When the addict can't get his or her supply, in this case, it's her supply, they absolutely
00:42:00lose their shit.
00:42:05Thank you for the tip.
00:42:06Yeah, we had 10 bucks so far tonight.
00:42:07So if you could help me out, I'd like to think that I make more than I did when I was 12
00:42:11years old.
00:42:12That would be nice.
00:42:13That would be, that would be nice.
00:42:22So, for women, losing access to abortion is returning to an unsubsidized free market
00:42:32of attractiveness.
00:42:34And it is very, very, very hard for women, people as a whole, we're just talking about
00:42:44women at the moment, it's very hard to lose 50% of your value and to no longer have access
00:42:53to the top tier of men and have to settle with some local dingy guy with a pot belly
00:43:00and a neck beard because that's your level of attractiveness.
00:43:06That's tough, man.
00:43:08I mean, okay, so men or women here in the chat, have you ever had to do a big downgrade
00:43:16in your life?
00:43:17Like have you ever gone from like some big highfalutin position to working as a waiter
00:43:21or have you ever had to do, maybe if you moved countries or had to learn a language, like
00:43:25have you ever had to have a really big downgrade in your life?
00:43:34And tell me a little bit about that.
00:43:37The woman here, she says, I've always thought the number of partners equals skilled seems
00:43:41like an odd argument.
00:43:43It's like having 30 jobs versus one job for 10 years.
00:43:46Maybe they're just really bad at it and no one wants to give them a second go.
00:43:52That's not really how it works though.
00:43:54Like if you're a salesman, then the more industries you've worked in and the higher variety of
00:44:00customers you've worked with, the better.
00:44:03If you're a salesman and you say, well, my dad made me a salesman and I've had the same
00:44:07one customer for 20 years, nobody wants to hire you as a salesman, right?
00:44:12Because you don't have any experience and it's all subsidized and nepotism and all that
00:44:15kind of stuff, right?
00:44:19Yes, I've had a smidge of a downgrade.
00:44:22Not that I want to talk about you guys being a downgrade, but you know, obviously I went
00:44:25from very much being at the center of whatever you want to call it, all tech to a smidge
00:44:31on the periphery.
00:44:33But yeah, I've had some downgrades from time to time over the course of my life and so
00:44:40on.
00:44:41And if you have a downgrade, man, it's tough.
00:44:44It's tough.
00:44:45It eats away at you.
00:44:46It's, you know, you have to really recalibrate, you have to really recalibrate.
00:44:57It burns and you want to claw your way back up again, right?
00:45:01Claw your way back up as quickly as humanly possible.
00:45:09So I mean, if you've ever had addict friends or you yourself have been an addict like this,
00:45:13you're a drinker and your friends all drink, then when you quit drinking, often you have
00:45:17to flounder around to find some new social group because you're probably not going to
00:45:21be that welcome in your drinking group.
00:45:27If you're not drinking anymore, right, because they want to be drinking people and so you're
00:45:33going to have to find something else, right?
00:45:38It's rough.
00:45:41Somebody says fired for not masking in COVID, rebuilding my IT empire, which is why I will
00:45:46drink their tears.
00:45:51Somebody says I was an assistant manager for senior disabled public housing building.
00:45:56It was an upgrade from working three to four jobs, but after a few months in, it didn't
00:45:59feel right and I went back to lower pay work.
00:46:03I didn't like that I was helping the government.
00:46:05Okay, but that's for reasons of integrity and that's certainly respectable, but if you've
00:46:10ever just had a big, a big downgrade, it's rough.
00:46:17It's rough.
00:46:18And of course, that's why downgrades are kind of a punishment.
00:46:22If you ever held back in school, you know, you're like the guy in grade six with the
00:46:26beard.
00:46:27That's rough, man.
00:46:29That's rough.
00:46:33So to say to women, you can no longer subsidize the men you have access to with consequence
00:46:43free sex, you're going to have to, you're going to have to win men with the quality
00:46:51of your character.
00:46:53Well, developing the quality of a character sucks a lot more than a blow job.
00:47:00It's going to be on my tombstone, right?
00:47:03Blow jobs, orgasm, sex, whatever, easy, fun, you know, becoming a quality person who adds
00:47:10real value to another human being's existence.
00:47:15That's tough, man.
00:47:18That's really tough.
00:47:22I mean, guys go through this in things like crypto, right?
00:47:27You don't need that bullshit, right?
00:47:29So guys go through this in terms of crypto, so you can, you know, lose a bunch of money
00:47:35in crypto and then you've got to rebuild if you're in some altcoin bullshit, right?
00:47:41So if you voluntarily choose, as you say, to downgrade, that's a different matter because
00:47:54that's an integrity thing, right?
00:47:56But it's the old thing, like if you want to be happy and you go out and do good in the
00:47:59world, you take on evildoers, you promote virtue, well, you know, masturbation will
00:48:05give you an orgasm and make you feel good for a little while, and that's a whole lot
00:48:10easier than going out and developing skills and providing virtue and value in the world
00:48:14as a whole.
00:48:17Most women don't seem to like men very much.
00:48:19Well, there's some truth in that, but if you're heavily subsidized and in a protected industry,
00:48:26you don't really like your customers.
00:48:30It's not like when you go to the Department of Motor Vehicles, they're like, hey, good
00:48:35to see you.
00:48:36Come on in.
00:48:37We're so happy you're here.
00:48:38They're not that.
00:48:39You're an annoyance and an irritation as a whole, right?
00:48:44I mean, you go, if you're some restaurant, you know, you go to on a regular basis, hey,
00:48:50come on in.
00:48:51We got to see you.
00:48:52The table's ready for you.
00:48:53The chef's going to come out and say, hi, we're so happy you're here.
00:48:57That's a free market, right?
00:48:58But if you're in a protected, subsidized industry or a monopoly industry from the state, those
00:49:08you prey upon, you cannot have empathy for.
00:49:15Never underestimate the degree to which, men do this too, but never underestimate the degree
00:49:18to which women like showing off a picture of their date to their female friends.
00:49:23Oh my God, he's so hot.
00:49:26Oh my God.
00:49:27Look at those eyes.
00:49:28Oh, what a cow.
00:49:29I'm so jealous.
00:49:30Oh, you're so lucky.
00:49:31And people who are addicted to unreality fight tooth and bloody nail to avoid and dismantle
00:49:47a return to reality.
00:49:49And those who are heavily, I mean, you can see this happening with USAID and other things
00:49:54at the moment.
00:49:55Those who are heavily subsidized fight the free market like hell, because they have power,
00:50:02prestige and status and income from subsidies and falsehoods.
00:50:13So somebody had mentioned the alpha widow phenomenon, hit me with an N if you don't
00:50:19know what the alpha widow phenomenon refers to.
00:50:22It's just an N.
00:50:26Somebody says, being one of the few men in a female dominated space is bad if when one,
00:50:34you don't seek them sexually too, you don't flirt in ways that can backfire with HR complaints.
00:50:38It can be quite dreadful clocking in.
00:50:39Yeah, it's a bitter tweet today, 45% of men 25 and under have never asked a woman out
00:50:47in person and people are like, well, we solved the whole sexual harassment thing, but at
00:50:52what cost?
00:50:55But at what cost?
00:50:57Women are brutally cynical sometimes, I mean, brutally cynical, tools of the trade, right?
00:51:03The makeup store is called tools of the trade.
00:51:06And I remember many years ago, working at a restaurant and the female waiters, oh no,
00:51:15sorry, it was, yeah, no, it wasn't working.
00:51:17I was at a coffee shop and there were all these women behind.
00:51:20And I remember hearing it because I was working on a book and I had headphones on, but I could
00:51:23still hear the women chatting.
00:51:26And the women are all like, ah, tips suck today, call up so-and-so and get her to come
00:51:31over here with her low-cut tops because, you know, apparently she was rather top heavy
00:51:35and you know, that way we can, at least we can get some tips.
00:51:38Like just the women, it was very cynical and that can be kind of brutal and cold, right?
00:51:42You know, the old saying, I don't know how true it is, but the old saying that men are
00:51:45in love, women are in business.
00:51:50Being one of the few women in a male-dominated space, however, is lovely, yes, yes, yes.
00:51:58So the alpha widow phenomenon is something like this.
00:52:00So the alpha widow phenomenon is a woman, let's say she's a six and she can date for
00:52:08short-term relationships, guys who are eight, nines, and tens, let's just say the six can
00:52:12date the nine.
00:52:16And so she throws out a lot of hyper-sexual signals, she talks a lot about sex and low-cut
00:52:23tops, and so she, in a sense, bypasses male judgment with sexual stimulation of a visual
00:52:33kind, right, low-cut tops and lots of lipstick, the orgasm, kabuki, hello kitty face.
00:52:40And so she is hijacking a man's thinking by activating the penis, right?
00:52:49And so because of that, his judgment goes down, he's in a state of semi-perpetual arousal,
00:52:56and therefore his cognitive faculties, his judgment, his standards kind of collapse because
00:53:04he has access to sex, right?
00:53:08So it's a form of love-bombing, right?
00:53:11And so the six can have short-term relationships with the nine, and this is the general female
00:53:20paranoia about what do you do in the morning, right?
00:53:22What do you do in the morning?
00:53:23There's a whole Anna Faris, I don't remember the movie, but she gets up and she's got to
00:53:28put on all her makeup and then she goes back to bed and she pretends she wakes up that
00:53:31way, right?
00:53:35We talked about it, the wolf sex, I talked about that before, you chew your own arm off
00:53:38rather than wake the woman up.
00:53:40So it's a situation where the woman can sleep with the man because it's late, she's been
00:53:48putting out sexual signals all night, maybe he's a little drunk, he put the beer goggles
00:53:51on, right?
00:53:52And so she can have sex with the man, and she might even get a short-term relationship
00:53:55out of it, but at some point the man looks over and says, now or, or, of course, live
00:54:01by the sword, die by the horde.
00:54:04And so what happens is he's sexually sated with her, but then some other woman comes
00:54:10along with a low-cut top, might be a nice figure, sexual signals, is all over him, laughs
00:54:15at him, flips her hair, whatever they do these days.
00:54:17And so he then will leave the six and go, maybe it's another six, maybe it's a seven
00:54:22or whatever, but he will then drift because the women are all just disabling his neofrontal
00:54:28cortex by appealing to his libido, his base of the brain medulla stuff.
00:54:37And so he just drifts from one-night stand to short-term commitment to, you know, and
00:54:45he just kind of drifts off, he ghosts and so on.
00:54:48So the alpha widow is the woman, and it's very common and often is the breeding ground
00:54:54for feminism, right?
00:54:56So the alpha widow is the woman who can, she's a six, she can get the nine to sleep
00:55:04with her, maybe she can get a couple of weeks or maybe even a couple of months out of it,
00:55:11but he drifts on because she's, you know, sexuality, you know, that old saying, no matter
00:55:18how beautiful the woman is, no matter how sexy is, there's someone somewhere who's tired
00:55:23of having sex with her, right?
00:55:25Because if it's just about sex, it gets depressing.
00:55:29Because it's animalistic, it's not anything elevated, it's not about virtue, it's not
00:55:32about love, it's not about respect, it's just about, you know, fluid discharge.
00:55:39You know, it turns into dentistry, you know, they put that thing in your mouth that seems
00:55:44to suck, but basically just strip things in the back of your throat until you cough and
00:55:48feel like you're going to lose a tooth because they're scraping something that goes back
00:55:51to three generations of ancestry.
00:55:58Don't swallow, don't swallow, right?
00:56:00So a lot of sexual jokes here.
00:56:06So it's just fluid discharge, right?
00:56:07Just orgasms and, you know, the sex and the orgasm, you got 20 minutes or whatever, right?
00:56:12And then you've got, you know, a lot of time together and you're just not, like once the
00:56:16sexual frisson wears off, then he's going to drift on to somebody else, right?
00:56:20And then, after a certain number of this, could be, you know, 3, 5, 7, 9, 12, whatever,
00:56:25after a certain number of this, she then has a problem that men won't commit to her.
00:56:31And the reason men won't commit to her is because she's subsidizing with sex and that
00:56:37subsidy, the effect wears off and then some other new woman wants to subsidize with sex
00:56:41so he'll drift off in that direction, or he just finds that he doesn't really particularly
00:56:44enjoy her company because she doesn't have much to talk about, she doesn't have any thoughts
00:56:47or virtues or ideas or anything like that, she's not much of a conversationalist, and
00:56:52he just gets tired of the sex.
00:56:53And it gets depressing.
00:56:54Like, I don't know if you've ever been in that situation, but it just gets, it's just
00:56:58depressing.
00:56:59Like, what am I doing here?
00:57:00This is like, you sort of wake up as a man, post-night clarity, and you sort of look around
00:57:07at this messy apartment and trashy novels on the wall and Taylor Swift posters, and
00:57:13it's like, what am I doing here?
00:57:15This is really depressing.
00:57:18And then you just drift off, right?
00:57:20And so the woman is like, well, I can get, men will sleep with me, but they won't commit
00:57:23to me.
00:57:24And so rather than say, I am not providing enough value to keep the men, she then drifts
00:57:30towards the theories that men are commitment-phobic.
00:57:35Men just, they won't commit, they just, they won't grow up, they are terrified of a real
00:57:43man.
00:57:44They're intimidated by my intelligence and my money and my success, whatever it is, right?
00:57:48It's all just cope and nonsense, right?
00:57:51It's all complete scabby cope and nonsense.
00:57:56I mean, it's like if I, if there's some guy who fakes his way into various jobs and then
00:58:04keeps getting fired, does he say, you know, like employers just really phobic of commitment.
00:58:10They just won't commit to an employee.
00:58:11It's like, well, you're faking it.
00:58:15So the Alpha Widow is the woman who, at the height of her sexuality, the height of her
00:58:23sexual displays and which are chosen, then she can get a lot of quote high quality or
00:58:30sexy or chatty men to sleep with her.
00:58:35She can't ever get them to commit to her because basically all she's offering is sex and there's
00:58:38a newer model coming along all the time.
00:58:44And then rather than say, well, I clearly been shooting above my league and I need to,
00:58:51if I want an alpha, I have to find some way to provide real value to him, right?
00:58:57Now providing real alpha, real value to an alpha is not easy.
00:59:02So let's sort of take the typical chat alpha, right?
00:59:05So typical chat alpha comes from a upper middle class or even higher, a family, you
00:59:10know, he's privileged in many ways, he is attractive because his parents are attractive
00:59:18and attractive people tend to be successful, tend to be more successful in the world as
00:59:23a whole.
00:59:24So he probably comes, if he gets his looks from his mother, then it means that his mother
00:59:29was attractive enough to get an alpha male to not just have sex with her, but to commit,
00:59:33marry, right?
00:59:35So there's a certain amount of class that the woman is going to need because the young
00:59:40man, let's say he's destined to be a lawyer or a doctor or business executive or something
00:59:45like that, well, she's going to need to be presentable to his colleagues because a man
00:59:53is going to be judged to some degree by his wife.
00:59:55So she's going to need to be comfortable at the opera, in formal wear, she's going to
01:00:02need to know how to relate to people who are very successful, she's going to need
01:00:05to be an asset to him in this kind of way.
01:00:09And you know, a six who's not particularly stand out in any particular way and who maybe
01:00:15comes from not a great family or an elevated family who hasn't grown up in the same class
01:00:20or at least isn't willing to learn all of that kind of stuff, but some my fair lady
01:00:23stuff, right?
01:00:24The reign in Spain falls mainly on the plan, right?
01:00:28So he's going to have to, like you can't take the average six who is coming from a lower
01:00:37middle class family but who may have the gift of the fat deposits in the right place, she's
01:00:41really sexy, you just can't turn her into someone that you can introduce to your boss
01:00:49and have your boss be really impressed because she's going to need to have a certain grace
01:00:54to her, a certain look to her, she's going to have, you know, like the sort of, maybe
01:00:59not the giant breast peasant figure but this all small aristocratic figure and she's going
01:01:07to need to know what to say, she might even need the right accent, she's going to need
01:01:13to know all of this stuff.
01:01:16And I mean, when I was in the business world and I was dating women, they would be pretty
01:01:22nervous when they would meet my boss, my wife was very comfortable and very charming
01:01:26and was a great asset and all of that, so you really kind of notice these differences.
01:01:36So if a woman wants an alpha, then she's going to need to study upper middle class and above
01:01:44culture, she's going to need to adapt, she's going to need to figure out how to add value
01:01:48to him or add to his status because if she's even a little bit on the trashy side or a
01:01:53little bit on the not high class side, it's going to be a disaster.
01:01:57He's not going to marry her.
01:02:00And you know, the alpha's father is going to say to her, look, she's fine for a weekend,
01:02:03maybe even a month, but she's not the kind of girl you marry.
01:02:05No, no, no, no, no, he's going to be very, very clear about that, if that makes sense.
01:02:19So, let's see here, very interesting, definitely explains the lack of character value, virtues
01:02:24I have noticed.
01:02:25Thanks for explaining this, Steph, more concise than a seven hour whatever podcast, I'd be
01:02:28able to donate more at the end of the month, thank you very much, appreciate that.
01:02:31I don't think I've heard of Alison Armstrong.
01:02:34Okay, so the alpha widow is the woman who gets into her late 20s and her early 30s and
01:02:40she has a series, so she has programmed herself to only respond to the top 10% of male attractiveness
01:02:47remember 90% of men are rated unattractive by men.
01:02:51So a woman who is an alpha widow is someone who she's in her late 20s, early 30s, maybe
01:02:57even mid 30s, and she has had a series of relationships with men way out of her league.
01:03:04And then she's in trouble because the alphas are no longer interested in her because she's
01:03:09got that air of early 30s, mid 30s desperation and so on.
01:03:16And so, and they're interested in younger women because they're alphas, right?
01:03:20So even if they're in their early 30s, they're going to be interested in women in their early
01:03:23mid 20s and so on, who are free and footloose and fancy free.
01:03:27So the alpha widow is the woman who has, through sexual subsidies, programmed her entire sexual
01:03:34response mechanism to only respond to the top tier of men who now ignore her.
01:03:44Welcome to the desert of the real, right?
01:03:46She's programmed her entire system to only respond to men who no longer are interested
01:03:55in her.
01:03:56That's the alpha widow.
01:03:57And what does she do?
01:04:00I mean, the typical answer is she dips down to marry some simp who's been around who she's
01:04:06kept on deck for a while.
01:04:08She marries him and then she finds herself, particularly if she goes off birth control,
01:04:13then finds herself unattracted to him.
01:04:20And she'll just take all of her, she'll divorce him, take all of his stuff and bang the pool
01:04:29boy until even that becomes impossible.
01:04:31Yeah, pretty woman does not happen.
01:04:34Absolutely not.
01:04:35No, that's a complete fantasy.
01:04:37And that fantasy is designed to appeal to women with a past, right?
01:04:42That you can be trashy, slutty, be a literal prostitute, and the man will defend your honor
01:04:49even though his friends are making fun.
01:04:51I mean, this is the old thing, like imagine, this is sort of take an extreme example just
01:04:55to sort of drive the point home.
01:04:57I mean, imagine if some guy is a partner in a law firm, married a woman, and then it turns
01:05:03out that she was an only fans online sex worker.
01:05:09She did hardcore sex with groups or like whatever trashy stuff would be going on.
01:05:18And you know this vetting is going to happen.
01:05:22You know this vetting is going to happen.
01:05:29I mean, men aren't, men of means are not going to get married to women without background
01:05:33checks.
01:05:34And the background check could be a sort of Google search or reverse image search or something
01:05:38like that.
01:05:39There are even apps now, if you've got a girlfriend, there are apps that will check whether she's
01:05:42on active on any other dating sites.
01:05:47So women have this fantasy that they can escape their past.
01:05:52This is the, you absolutely have to watch The Streetcar Named Desire.
01:05:57So women have this fantasy that they can escape their past, which is completely impossible
01:06:01now.
01:06:03Completely impossible now.
01:06:04A quality man, a man of status, and a quality just means desirable to women, doesn't necessarily
01:06:10mean like moral qualities and so on.
01:06:14So it's a, it's killer.
01:06:24It's killer.
01:06:25All right.
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01:06:29I think we got the entirety of sexual market dynamics with abortion and alpha widows done
01:06:34in less than 40 minutes.
01:06:36I think that's pretty good.
01:06:37I think that's pretty good.
01:06:38All right.
01:06:39She's bitter.
01:06:40Then she's bitter to even look at you, you're on a speed date or a blind date.
01:06:46Yeah.
01:06:47Well, and again, this is true of women, maybe a little bit more, but the idea that a woman
01:06:57when she's in her thirties and she can't get the attention of the top tier of men that
01:07:04she would sit there and say, well, I guess I have a sexual addiction to physically attractive
01:07:09or high status men.
01:07:10I have a sexual addiction to high status men.
01:07:13And I broke a lot of hearts along the way because I rejected men on my level and went
01:07:19after these alphas and subsidized things with sex, which is a terrible thing to do.
01:07:23It's my fault.
01:07:24No.
01:07:25No.
01:07:26No.
01:07:27No.
01:07:28No.
01:07:29No.
01:07:30No.
01:07:31No.
01:07:32No.
01:07:33No.
01:07:34No.
01:07:35I mean, there was a debate with some woman, a med student, I think, or someone who's
01:07:36aiming to be a doctor, some woman, and Pearl, Pearly Things, H. Pearl Davis.
01:07:37And Pearl Davis was talking about like, okay, well, what about the minor, like some coal
01:07:44miner and so on, right?
01:07:46And the other woman was like, well, but who set up that system?
01:07:53You know, like some coal miner in Liverpool in the, you know, 18th century set up the
01:07:58system where he's stuck being a coal miner, right?
01:08:01So for women, you know, this, and this is a fairly common observation, but for women,
01:08:09the reason they think that there's a patriarchy that all men are involved in is they only
01:08:12look at the top 10% of men who do actually have some power and authority and they don't
01:08:17even notice everyone else.
01:08:19So this woman who debated with Pearl genuinely seems to think that the poor, broke, half-serf
01:08:26coal miner who's gonna die of black lung at the age of 45 set up the system because she
01:08:32only looks at the top tier of men who do have some influence on the system and thinks that's
01:08:36all men, right?
01:08:37So the reason that women believe in the patriarchy is they only look at the top 5 or 10% of men
01:08:43in terms of power, authority, wealth, and status, and the other men don't even exist
01:08:46to them.
01:08:47So they think that all men are privileged because the men who aren't privileged, who
01:08:50aren't in the top 90% of men don't even exist in their minds.
01:08:57And this is the woman who said, this woman who's debating with, I don't remember her
01:09:00name.
01:09:01She was talking about how, like, I like to see nuance and I like to do this and that
01:09:03and the other.
01:09:05And then when she's talking about when the coal miner comes up, like the guy who's dying
01:09:10of black lung and stuck down a coal mine for 14 hours a day or 16 hours a day, and the
01:09:14woman's just like, why don't you just get another job?
01:09:18That's all the nuance they can handle.
01:09:21Just get another job.
01:09:22All right.
01:09:24Um, Steph, do you think it's likely to have a successful relationship with a lady if there's
01:09:29a noticeable difference in IQ, but she's conscientious and virtuous?
01:09:34Well, the problem is you're really rolling the dice in terms of the kid's intelligence,
01:09:38right?
01:09:39So siblings can have an eight to 10 IQ point difference on average.
01:09:41So even with two smart parents, that can be quite a variety in IQ as a whole.
01:09:47And frankly, I think wisdom is even, even wider.
01:09:53So the problem is if you have a bunch of kids with a, let's say a woman who's not particularly
01:10:00intelligent, let's say you have an IQ of 130 and she's like 90, your kid's going to be
01:10:04scattered around.
01:10:05So it's going to be kind of unfair because some of the kids are going to be way closer
01:10:09to her and kind of not comprehensible to you because they're not very intelligent.
01:10:14Some of the other kids, the mother won't understand or be able to appreciate and they'll be much
01:10:18closer to you.
01:10:19So it's really going to separate the siblings as a whole because you're taking that general
01:10:23roll of the dice sibling stuff and adding in a two plus standard deviation.
01:10:30So I would say probably not.
01:10:33Plus, you know, I mean marriage is just conversation, conversation, conversation, conversation.
01:10:40And you know, you start cooking around two standard deviation points of difference.
01:10:48There's really not much to talk about.
01:10:51There's really not much to talk about.
01:10:54And I mean, I know this really deeply because I grew up in a pretty, pretty, I mean a very
01:11:00poor neighborhood, very sort of trashy neighborhood full of people who were not smart at all.
01:11:03I worked in a lot of industries without smart people and had to spend a lot of time moving
01:11:08through the world with people of IQs of 85, 90, 95.
01:11:14And you know, I can pass the time.
01:11:16It's not the end of the world, but there is not a, there is no capacity to sustain any
01:11:26type of conversation because depth is generally impossible.
01:11:31Other than in a mystical religious sense, depth is impossible for people of lower IQ.
01:11:34They don't have an observing ego.
01:11:36They can't compare proposed actions to ideal standards.
01:11:39They can follow rules, which is sort of the Ten Commandments stuff, but it is not, it's
01:11:47not going to have much in common.
01:11:48I mean, the fact that my wife is to me like absolutely brilliant and she is just incredibly
01:11:53fast at what she processes and grasps and suggests, it's a glorious thing.
01:12:00All right, so what else do we have?
01:12:03If Doge succeeds, won't Bitcoin's utility decrease as a hedge against inflation?
01:12:08Sorry, I don't mean to laugh, yeah, I don't.
01:12:14So Doge, Doge, okay, you got a $15 trillion economy as a whole, and you have well north
01:12:22of $200 trillion of unfunded liabilities.
01:12:29All Doge can do, and I think it's great what they're doing and no issues with that, right?
01:12:33But all Doge can do is extend the runway so that Bitcoin can be more widely adopted.
01:12:40Doge cannot solve the problem.
01:12:43And remember, a significant proportion in the majority of American government spending
01:12:49is mandated.
01:12:50It is not open to review, it is not open to cuts.
01:12:59So I mean, it will help for sure, but the real purpose of Doge is to expose the coldness
01:13:07and predation of the political class, particularly on the left, though it's certainly, and the
01:13:11other thing about Doge and Elon and Trump as a whole is to absolutely highlight how
01:13:23unbelievably fucking cucked the Republican Party has been forever and ever, amen.
01:13:31How unbelievably spineless and cucked, or everything that they're doing was completely
01:13:37and totally available to any Republican in the past 70 years or more.
01:13:461948 was the last time an American president had access to the government's payment systems.
01:13:52So this is why, you know, I never referred to myself as a Republican or a conservative
01:13:57in that way, because they were just so unbelievably cucked.
01:14:02Everything that they're doing could have been done by Paul Ryan, could have been done by
01:14:05Mitch McConnell, could have been done by Newt Gingrich, could have been done by Ronald
01:14:08Reagan.
01:14:09Everything.
01:14:10I mean, this ultimate controlled opposition.
01:14:14All right, my husband is really smart and was adopted.
01:14:22His adoptive family really struggled raising him, they described him as a nightmare.
01:14:27Everybody needs to be humbled in order to stay sane.
01:14:31Everybody needs to be humbled in order to stay sane.
01:14:38And for intelligent people, we recognize that humbling as something that is good and healthy
01:14:44for us, right?
01:14:45So I'll regularly dip into things I'm not particularly good at just to stay humble.
01:14:50And when you, the lower the IQ in generally, the lower the IQ, the higher the vanity, right?
01:15:03The lower the IQ, the higher the vanity, which is why, you know, often low IQ people will
01:15:09praise themselves to the skies and be like, I'm the greatest, you know, and sort of World
01:15:17Wrestling Federation kind of me best nonsense, right?
01:15:22And so humility is a mark of intelligence because when you're good at something, you
01:15:28recognize all the things you're not great at.
01:15:31You know, like I'm humbled, I'm humbled by, you know, I have callers who English is not
01:15:36their first or their native tongue.
01:15:39And they're like, oh, I'm sorry for the accent.
01:15:40I'm like, no, no, man.
01:15:41Like, and you've heard me say this on calling shows, like anybody who can learn to some
01:15:45degree of fluency, another language is incredible.
01:15:49I mean, it's amazing to me because I am not good at like great computer, I know 17 different
01:15:52computer languages.
01:15:54I'm not good at learning.
01:15:55Like I had to learn how to translate French live in an exam for my graduate degree in
01:16:02history, sort of history of philosophy stuff.
01:16:04I had to learn how to translate French.
01:16:06I took course for like 18 months just to do that.
01:16:10It's really, it is not come naturally to me in the same way that math, my wife is brilliant
01:16:16at math and loves math, Apple polisher, but it's not my particular thing.
01:16:22So there's stuff that I'm good at.
01:16:24And if you ever want to be humbled, try and help your daughter with her homework, particularly
01:16:29the math area.
01:16:30Right.
01:16:31So yeah, especially enough to do philosophy in a second language or emotional self-expression.
01:16:35I just think it's amazing.
01:16:36And I really impressed by that.
01:16:38Like Melania speaks like what?
01:16:40Melania Trump, four or five languages fluently.
01:16:42Amazing.
01:16:43Incredible.
01:16:44So Richard Burton, not the actor, but the old explorer spoke like 22 languages or 17
01:16:49languages or something like that.
01:16:50I just think that's incredible.
01:16:51It's not the way my brain works.
01:16:53I look, cause I'm so good at English.
01:16:55I look at another language and I think, my God, the amount, like 10,000 hours to become
01:16:58good at it.
01:16:59It would just, it's exhausting and depressing to even think about it.
01:17:04So when, uh, people of average intelligence, they often think they're much smarter than
01:17:13they are.
01:17:14Dunning Kruger.
01:17:15Right.
01:17:16So then when they encounter somebody who's really smart, they feel humbled, right?
01:17:21You know, like I was, I was the best actor by far in my university.
01:17:24I was always cast lead in everything.
01:17:26I went to the national theater school and I was like, yeah, I'm good.
01:17:29You know, I'm not bad, but they were all fantastic.
01:17:32Right.
01:17:33It's humbling.
01:17:35If you happen to be, uh, you know, the best karaoke singer in a tiny town, and then you
01:17:40go to some pub near Broadway where this, the actors are having fun afterwards.
01:17:44You're like, oh, okay.
01:17:45Well, they're really good.
01:17:46It's kind of, kind of humbling.
01:17:49Right.
01:17:50All right.
01:17:51Um, Steph, why is the left so upset that Elon gave a press conference with his toddler?
01:17:57Well, well, because if the left is about short-term sensual stimulation, of which rage seems to
01:18:04be one of their favorites, right?
01:18:05And the study just came out that the liberal women are the most bitter and unhappy, right?
01:18:10Which is what happens when you chase dopamine rather than virtue for your happiness.
01:18:14So for there to be children around, right, to, to, to have a man have sex with you is
01:18:24the easiest, laziest thing in the world.
01:18:26To have a man commit to you, provide for you and love you as a mother to his children is
01:18:33a whole other thing, right?
01:18:37Your whole is where you aren't, right?
01:18:40Whereas your virtues is where you are the most.
01:18:45How did Ayn Rand write so well in English when she was from Russia?
01:18:48Well, there's another absolutely brilliant thing that she does not get nearly enough
01:18:52credit for that.
01:18:53She wrote one of the most influential books in English when, which she only started to
01:18:57learn in her late teens.
01:19:00Incredible.
01:19:01Absolutely amazing.
01:19:04It's funny to think of course, that Atlas Shrugged and We the Living and Anthem and
01:19:09the Fountainhead are all translated into Russian kind of funny, right?
01:19:14All right.
01:19:15Any other last questions or comments, issues, challenges?
01:19:17I'm certainly happy to hear what is on your mind.
01:19:20If there's anything else I can help you with, a couple of reminders, freedom.com to help
01:19:26out the show.
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01:19:32or private.
01:19:33I'm a little booked up for a while, but this stuff opens up sometimes.
01:19:38So but Steph, Alison Armstrong is who I picture when you talk about good women.
01:19:47I just finished her book, The Amazing Development of Men.
01:19:51Oh, you're now beginning my novel, The Present.
01:19:54Keep up the good work.
01:19:55I'm glad you caught this live.
01:19:56Well, thank you very much for your tips, Joe.
01:19:58And I really do.
01:19:59I will make a note of that because I'm looking for always on the lookout for good books.
01:20:03Always on the lookout for good books.
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