WHY WOMEN WON'T SETTLE!

Stefan Molyneux

Sunday Morning Live 14 July 2024   Today's show touches on a range of topics, starting with the connection between political instability and Bitcoin prices post a recent shooting incident. We then analyze the dismissal of charges against Alec Baldwin due to a lack of crucial evidence. Shifting to the male sex drive in monogamous relationships, we discuss legal implications and the role of self-compassion. We also explore standing up against bullying, advocating for peaceful parenting, and ethical dilemmas in relationships. Finally, we delve into relationship dynamics and commitment in modern dating, emphasizing excellence and self-compassion.   Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!   NOW AVAILABLE FOR SUBSCRIBERS: MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING' - AND THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI AND AUDIOBOOK!   Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!   See you soon!   https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

Transcript

00:00:00Yeah, good morning, it is the 14th of July 2024, and yes, there was of course an incident

00:00:11last night, a shooting last night, and we'll talk about it later.

00:00:20I'll just do a 45 minutes to an hour of a general stream, and then we'll go donor only.

00:00:28I think my thoughts are probably donor only.

00:00:31Okay, Southwest Florida, excellent, Bitcoin reclaimed 60k, well sure, political instability

00:00:37is a plus for Bitcoin.

00:00:43So assassination, yeah, nation of assassins, assassination, yeah.

00:00:48So yeah, we'll get to that.

00:00:51We'll get to that, and there's a lot to talk about.

00:00:57There's a lot to talk about in general, of course, there is this scene in Atlas Shrugged

00:01:02where Daphne Taggart, there's some disaster on the railway, and she reaches for the phone

00:01:06and she has to will herself to...

00:01:10I have seen The Remains of the Day, it's a cute film, it's a good film.

00:01:14So I had to last night will myself away from, I mean, because a lot of stuff went on, right?

00:01:22Alec Baldwin, his entire trial got thrown out, and with prejudice, which means it's

00:01:29impossible to refile the charges.

00:01:33Well, that's, and apparently it's because of Brady violations, I'm no expert, but I

00:01:39understand that the state withheld exculpatory or relevant evidence, right?

00:01:43The state doesn't get to decide what your defense is, so they have to turn over everything.

00:01:47Apparently there was a bunch of stuff that wasn't turned over, and so the judge tossed

00:01:55out the whole case with prejudice.

00:01:59So in other words, three years, and I can't even tell you how millions of dollars, how

00:02:03many millions of dollars of police resources were wasted because apparently the prosecution

00:02:10did not turn over evidence.

00:02:14Now that's interesting.

00:02:17Now I guess my question is, if you are a prosecutor and you don't turn over evidence, shouldn't

00:02:24you be prosecuted?

00:02:26I mean, isn't that sort of how it works?

00:02:28Because that's railroading otherwise, right?

00:02:30Something like that.

00:02:31So I don't know.

00:02:32I mean, if none of the prosecution people who made these decisions, if they don't lose

00:02:41their license at least, or get charged, then eh.

00:02:54You watch the Tim Allen, Kirstie Alley movie?

00:02:56It's pretty good actually.

00:02:57I thought so.

00:02:58I thought so.

00:02:59I thought so.

00:03:02All right.

00:03:03So if you have questions unrelated to the shooting from yesterday, negligence is a civil

00:03:08matter, not criminal.

00:03:10No, that's, obviously I'm not going to argue law with Alan Dershowitz, but no, you can

00:03:17be charged with negligence.

00:03:20You can be charged with carelessness.

00:03:22If your negligence results in someone's death, I think that that is possible to charge.

00:03:28Again, I'm not going to argue law with Alan Dershowitz, so that's just my understanding.

00:03:32I'm sure I'm wrong, but I think that criminal negligence is a thing.

00:03:36Thank you for the tips.

00:03:38In my country, people say they want to run off their horns when referring to wanting

00:03:41a certain amount of casual sex before settling down.

00:03:44Where does this mindset come from?

00:03:45Is casual sex always a bad idea?

00:03:47Is someone always being exploited?

00:03:51Well, so why is the male sex drive so high?

00:04:03Why is the male sex drive so high?

00:04:08And we're going to get 15 times the testosterone of women and so on.

00:04:13And certainly when you're a teenage young man, late teens or whatever, your sex drive

00:04:19is insane, right?

00:04:20It's a force of nature, right?

00:04:22It's a force of nature.

00:04:24So why is, why has evolution allowed our sex drive to get so high?

00:04:31Well, the reason why evolution has allowed our sex drive to get so high is because it

00:04:36is contained within a monogamous relationship.

00:04:44And because it's contained within a monogamous relationship, it then becomes a very strong

00:04:53pair bonding mechanism.

00:05:01Under the state can sue someone in criminal court, the victim of a crime cannot legally

00:05:04inflict direct punishment on the perpetrator, can only sue for civil damages.

00:05:07Yeah, and I'm sure that will, that will go forward sort of O.J. style.

00:05:11So no, we have such a strong sex drive because the monogamous pair bonding is what allows

00:05:19the sex drive to be so strong because then you pair bond.

00:05:23Sex drive being high, and if you're in a monogamous marriage, then the place where you get sex

00:05:29is your wife.

00:05:30So for men, the stronger the sex drive, the stronger the pair bond in a monogamous relationship.

00:05:37Yeah, there are some legal systems where, I think in Chile, you can bring your own criminal

00:05:47complaint through the court system, but obviously I don't think that's the case in America.

00:05:51I'm, again, not going to argue with Alan Dershowitz.

00:05:55So, but yeah, it certainly is true that you cannot bring criminal charges, only the state

00:05:59can do that.

00:06:00I think that's the case.

00:06:04So the male sex drive has been allowed to become so high through nature because it forms

00:06:09a pair bond that is very powerful within the confines, or I don't find it confining, a

00:06:14monogamous relationship.

00:06:22So the high sex drive of the male, if society focuses men on monogamous pair bonding, the

00:06:30high sex drive of men is the foundation of the pair bonding.

00:06:34It is the foundation of the stability of marriage and so on.

00:06:38Now when monogamous pair bonding falls by the wayside, excuse me, when monogamous pair

00:06:46bonding falls by the wayside, the sex drive remains crazy high for men, and it's just

00:06:50high relative to some women and certainly relative to some other species.

00:06:54So the sex drive remains very high and then it's kind of unleashed on the general female

00:07:01population.

00:07:03It's not used to pair bond, it in fact is used to destroy pair bonding.

00:07:07So high male sexual drive desire within a pair bonded relationship is a plus and stabilizes

00:07:15society and keeps the pair bond intact and so on.

00:07:19When pair bonding is decayed, when the monogamous relationship is decayed or delayed or whatever

00:07:25it is, then instead of the male sex drive being a glue that holds families together,

00:07:31it becomes an acid that dissolves people's capacity to pair bond, right?

00:07:38Because men lose their ability to pair bond if they sleep with a lot of women.

00:07:41Women lose their ability to pair bond if they sleep with a lot of men.

00:07:45I look great with the hat.

00:07:46Spoiler!

00:07:47I look great either with or without the hat.

00:07:49Bye.

00:07:50Thank you.

00:07:51I appreciate that.

00:07:52Thank you.

00:07:53But then why does evolution allow men to have a strong sex drive towards women who are not

00:07:56their partner?

00:07:59I don't quite understand.

00:08:00A strong sex drive is just the hormone saying have sex.

00:08:04And if the only place you can get sex is within the confines of a monogamous marriage, then

00:08:12that will cause you to bond with your partner.

00:08:13If you can get sex anywhere, then you'll get it there, right?

00:08:23Happy Sunday.

00:08:24Nice to see everybody.

00:08:25Hi, Steph.

00:08:26This is someone I'm terrified of asking questions at work.

00:08:29I'm a newly minted CTO, that's Chief Technical Officer.

00:08:33I've sat in that chair myself for many years at a very small startup and I'm currently

00:08:37leading the design of a very challenging product.

00:08:38I feel an immense amount of pressure to know every little detail of every subsystem, line

00:08:42of code, etc.

00:08:43Where is this fear coming from and how do I overcome it?

00:08:47Well, how do you have high standards without self-attack?

00:08:51I mean, that's a foundational question.

00:08:53Why do you have high standards without self-attack?

00:08:55Well, you have to realize you cannot have high standards if you self-attack.

00:09:03Like if you're like, I made a mistake, I'm such an idiot, oh God, how can I be so stupid?

00:09:07You can't have high standards because everything gets too stressful for you to have that sort

00:09:11of relaxed flow and positive creativity that comes along.

00:09:14I mean, I've made mistakes in this show, I've said things that are not true, I've had to

00:09:18correct myself.

00:09:19I've got a whole series of videos called I Was Wrong About X, Y, and Z.

00:09:23So how do I not self-attack?

00:09:29Well, I aim for quality with the recognition that quality, 100% quality is impossible.

00:09:36You can't get everything right, you can't be perfect, and you're going to make mistakes.

00:09:42So recognizing that as a fact allows you to have a relaxed approach to creativity.

00:09:52So if you are self-attacking, quality and excellence are impossible because you're in

00:10:01a reactive situation relative to your own self-attack.

00:10:05I mean, if you can imagine, you couldn't do very well at a challenging math exam if

00:10:13somebody kept randomly punching you in the side of the head, and from behind, or the

00:10:18behind of your head, so you didn't even know when the blow was coming.

00:10:20You'd be too stressed, you'd be, when's the next blow coming?

00:10:23And so you can't get into a relaxed and creative flow if you self-attack.

00:10:30So people use mistakes, of course, to punish you.

00:10:35They don't use mistakes because they care about quality, right?

00:10:38They use mistakes to punish you.

00:10:40This happens all over the place.

00:10:42Thank you, Daniel.

00:10:43This happens all over the place, and particularly in school, it happens at home, it can happen

00:10:48at work, and so on.

00:10:50You know the old, there's nothing more terrifying than trying to hold a flashlight for your

00:10:53father while he's trying to fix something under the car.

00:10:55Left, right, that's the wrong place!

00:11:01So people will attack you for errors or mistakes, not because they want you to get better, but

00:11:10because they want to exercise power over you.

00:11:14So the typical example would be the mother who gets really angry at the kid who doesn't

00:11:21clean properly, who doesn't stack the dishwasher in the way that she likes, who drops a plate,

00:11:27she gets really angry, how could you be so careless, right?

00:11:30Because she's all about excellence and quality.

00:11:34But of course, if people are into excellence and quality, if a mother's into excellence

00:11:37and quality, then she should have studied the living heck out of how to be a good parent,

00:11:41right?

00:11:42Because she's so into excellence that you've got to stack that dishwasher just so in some

00:11:47sort of Rubik's Cube, Tetris, Minecraft combo of infinite efficiency, because she's just

00:11:53about efficiency.

00:11:54You've got to stack things properly.

00:11:56You've got to put things here, not there.

00:11:58You've got to put the knives down so I don't stab myself.

00:12:01It's got to be perfect.

00:12:02It's got to be right.

00:12:03Okay, so you're really into getting things right, so I'm sure that you read a whole bunch

00:12:08of books on parenting, because it's slightly more important to be a good parent than it

00:12:12is to stack the dishwasher well.

00:12:15I mean, I remember when I lived with a woman once, she was very fussy about how things

00:12:19were done, and you've got to put the plates here and not there, and don't mix the big

00:12:22and the small, forks in the cutlery tray, and she was just really, really into just

00:12:29getting things right.

00:12:34And I remember asking her once, I said, okay, so you're really into getting things right.

00:12:38I respect that.

00:12:39I appreciate that.

00:12:40I understand that.

00:12:42What is your definition of a good girlfriend?

00:12:55Boy, talk about a thousand-yard stare, because, you know, when you're in a relationship with

00:13:00someone and she wanted to get married, it's really, really important that you don't fuck

00:13:04up where the forks are, but apparently it's completely unimportant to talk about what

00:13:08makes a good girlfriend or not.

00:13:14Oh my gosh.

00:13:16That was the beginning of the end.

00:13:17Oh, so it's really, really, really important that I file everything correctly in the folder,

00:13:22but it's not important for you to ever think about what makes a good girlfriend.

00:13:30Cutlery quality is job one.

00:13:33Girlfriend, never thought about it.

00:13:39So, with regard to sort of my own inner voices, because we all have the sort of harsh, you

00:13:44know, that Tom Cruise in Magnolia screaming, just do your goddamn job!

00:13:48Do your job right!

00:13:49You know, all this sort of screaming stuff, right?

00:13:52We all have that, right?

00:13:55With my own particular instincts, if I get that, I don't get it that bad, but if I get

00:13:58some sort of snippy voice in my head if I've made a mistake, be like, where were you when

00:14:02I was making the mistake?

00:14:03Like, if you didn't speak up before I made the mistake, I don't really care what you

00:14:08have to say afterwards, right?

00:14:10So if my instincts didn't say, ooh, this could be, you should double check this or whatever,

00:14:14then they don't get to castigate me afterwards and be like, hey, I'm happy to get your input,

00:14:18but if you didn't warn me about this ahead of time, you don't get to nag me about it

00:14:21after the fact, right?

00:14:23So, you know, just approach me more reasonably, I'd be happy to hear.

00:14:26That kind of stuff.

00:14:28So the fear is coming from your avoidance of hypocrisy, because anyone who bullied you

00:14:36was a shit person and a trash person of incredibly low quality.

00:14:41Now the irony is, and it's always this way, it's always this way, that shit people, trash

00:14:46people always bully you about quality while ignoring the fact that bullying is low quality,

00:14:52right?

00:14:53So it's the rank hypocrisy.

00:14:54It's just the rank hypocrisy.

00:14:59And you're avoiding that hypocrisy because when that hypocrisy has power over you, you

00:15:03can't talk about it.

00:15:04You can't notice it.

00:15:05You can't do it.

00:15:06So you just have to look at the people who snarled and snapped and, oh, you're just so

00:15:10incompetent, you drop everything, you don't take any care of your things, you don't...

00:15:13Oh, I said it was a great...

00:15:17Not a great movie at all called Sleep With Me, right?

00:15:18Those three lovely words, Sleep With Me.

00:15:20And there's a guy who just snaps at his friend like, you just don't...

00:15:23You don't take care of your things.

00:15:26Like this is some...

00:15:27Okay, then why be a friend, right?

00:15:28And also snarling at your friend that he doesn't take care of his material objects, I think

00:15:32it was a motorcycle or something, right?

00:15:34So snarling at your friend that he just doesn't take care of things, it's like, how is that

00:15:37taking care of the friendship, right?

00:15:39So when people criticize you harshly, then you have to take their criticisms and apply

00:15:45it to their criticism, right?

00:15:49So if your mom was like, you didn't stack the dishwater right, you don't wash the dishes

00:15:53right, you don't do this right, you don't do that right, okay, do you do parenting right?

00:16:00So when somebody says to you, there's a standard that you're failing to meet and it's wrong

00:16:03and bad and careless and stupid and disrespectful, but okay.

00:16:07So then they're saying there's a high standard that you should reach and failure to reach

00:16:10that high standard is evidence of really bad things in the personality, all right?

00:16:17How good a parent are you?

00:16:19If I'm going to get nagged about where I put the cutlery in the cutlery drawer, then you

00:16:24have a standard of excellence.

00:16:27So what is the standard of excellence to be a good girlfriend?

00:16:30And if she doesn't have a clue, then it's just bullying.

00:16:35And they can frankly fuck right off.

00:16:37So, I mean, that's how you counteract internal bullying, right, is you say, is bullying good?

00:16:49So if bullying isn't good, then whatever you're being bullied about is immaterial.

00:16:54That's how you cock block and put the garlic and sunlight on the vampire of bullying, right?

00:17:00That's a counter move, right?

00:17:02Oh, I'm not meeting a high standard?

00:17:05Is you bullying me meeting a high standard?

00:17:07No, then it's all just nonsense and power play and humiliation and sadism, whatever

00:17:12it is, right?

00:17:15So just deal with that.

00:17:16Yeah, just deal with that.

00:17:18Yes, I caught a live stream live, sent you a message today, plus a donation.

00:17:24Thank you.

00:17:25But I'll just mention it here.

00:17:26I don't understand why so few followed you after the great banning.

00:17:29But remember, Jesus ended up alone on a cross, betrayed and abandoned, and a few years later

00:17:33his message changed the world.

00:17:34Oh, and soon he'll return in glory.

00:17:37Your message about peaceful parenting, separating from bad people, is definitely gaining traction.

00:17:42As a shrink, your arguments have helped me help so many people.

00:17:45Well, I appreciate that.

00:17:46I personally wouldn't refer to myself as a shrink if I was a psychiatrist, but I appreciate

00:17:51the very kind words.

00:17:52Thank you.

00:17:53Thank you.

00:17:55You know, like your father, who says, uh, go and get me the seven-eighth inch Allen

00:18:01key.

00:18:02Right?

00:18:03And you're like six years old and you don't know what the hell he's talking about.

00:18:06And you say, I don't know what that is.

00:18:07Well, just go and get an Allen key.

00:18:09Just bring it here.

00:18:10I don't care.

00:18:11Just get me the right, just get me an Allen key.

00:18:12And you come back, this is the wrong Allen key, right?

00:18:14So you don't know what you're getting.

00:18:16And he's got this standard, which is, well, you should bring me the right Allen key.

00:18:19And you can have a standard called, Hey, maybe you shouldn't be a shitty dad.

00:18:23Cause you know, that's slightly more important than the right Allen key is maybe don't be

00:18:29a shitty dad who puts your kids in impossible situations and snarls at them.

00:18:33And that way, you know that the dad who's snarling at the kid for getting the wrong

00:18:37Allen key or holding the flashlight in the wrong direction has standards of excellence.

00:18:43Just not about being an actual father, in which case there's no standard of excellence

00:18:46and it's all bullshit lies, manipulation and nonsense.

00:18:51What do you think of men who go after women who have a boyfriend?

00:18:54She's not married, nor has any children with him.

00:18:56Well, it kind of depends, I think.

00:18:59Sorry, that's annoying.

00:19:02Will you post the for donors only segment for later viewing?

00:19:04I have to go.

00:19:05Yeah, but for donors only.

00:19:07So here's the thing.

00:19:09If I would view, when I was younger, I viewed a new relationship as a no-go zone, right?

00:19:15So if the one had just started dating the guy and they were just starting to get to

00:19:18know each other and they'd be going out for a couple of weeks, couple of months, maybe

00:19:22six months, eight months, whatever, right?

00:19:25That's a no-go zone and I would never dream of anything like that.

00:19:28If the woman had been going out with the guy for a couple of years and she had no firm

00:19:32commitment from him, I don't care, it's open season.

00:19:36If you don't lock down the deal, someone else is going to take it, right?

00:19:41I mean, if you're not willing to commit to the woman, why should you continue to hold

00:19:45some kind of monopoly on her?

00:19:47So I don't view, and I never did this, I never did poach another guy's girl, but I'll just

00:19:53tell you from my sort of moral standpoint that if you see one of these three or four

00:19:57or five-year relationships where there's no particular plan for anything, you're actually

00:20:02saving her from that, right?

00:20:04I mean, I would just work to break up people like that.

00:20:07I wouldn't date a woman who was just coming out of a multi-year relationship, but I had

00:20:16no problems saying, oh, you guys have been going out for four years?

00:20:21Are you getting married?

00:20:23That's a perfectly fair question to ask.

00:20:27And you could see the woman wakes up from the haze, right?

00:20:30The devil wants you to copy-paste your days like you have an infinite supply, and philosophy,

00:20:34reason, and God, and Jesus himself want you to remember that you're running out of time,

00:20:39and you have to make some freaking decisions.

00:20:41So no, I was perfectly happy, in fact, I felt I was doing God's work himself by pointing

00:20:47out to women who had not received a commitment after many years with a guy that they had

00:20:52not received a commitment after many years with a guy.

00:20:55That's pretty bad.

00:20:56So, alright.

00:20:57Hi Steph, I've been journaling, which has really helped me uncover some emotions.

00:21:03By the way, freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show, please, please, please.

00:21:08Freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show.

00:21:11I've been journaling, which has really helped me uncover some emotions.

00:21:14I've realized that I have a strong desire towards female attention, and when I don't

00:21:17get it, I notice that I feel a sad slash depressed pit-in-the-stomach feeling.

00:21:20I'm curious to know if this is a natural feeling of simply desiring a woman's companionship

00:21:24in general, loneliness, or if this is possibly related to trauma I experienced in childhood

00:21:29when my mother neglected me.

00:21:30I'm leaning towards the latter.

00:21:34I'm sure I'm missing something, so please feel free to set me straight.

00:21:40You're a male.

00:21:44You have a strong desire for female attention.

00:21:47Huh.

00:21:48I wonder if that serves any evolutionary purpose.

00:21:52Gosh.

00:21:53Oh, so complicated.

00:21:55Oh, my brain throbs.

00:21:58Like a throbber.

00:21:59Oh, gosh.

00:22:00Could a male desire for female attention serve any evolutionary purpose?

00:22:07Could it help secure the reproduction of your dreams, your genes, and your dreams, I suppose,

00:22:12to have a strong desire for female attention?

00:22:16Now I can't get it.

00:22:17Sorry.

00:22:18I mean, I know when I'm just, it's just too wide a leap.

00:22:20I can't figure it out.

00:22:23I'm asking for a sanity check.

00:22:25What do men who had healthy mother-son relationships experience when it comes to what they would

00:22:28describe as a natural loneliness-slash-desire-for-female-companionship?

00:22:32We are men in order to want women.

00:22:36That's why we're men.

00:22:38We are men to want women.

00:22:41Do you remember that great line from the movie Dead Poets Society?

00:22:47Why do men write poetry?

00:22:49Oh, to express the human condition, to get in touch with, no, to woo women.

00:22:53Why do men build houses?

00:22:54To woo women.

00:22:55Why do men build churches?

00:22:57So that women gather in one place, you don't have to hunt all over Hell's half-acre to

00:23:01find them.

00:23:05Why do men build heaters?

00:23:07Because women get cold.

00:23:08Why do men build air conditioning?

00:23:10Because women get hot.

00:23:11We are here to woo women.

00:23:12We are here to pursue women.

00:23:13We are here to love, and make love to, and reproduce with, and raise families with.

00:23:18We are men because we want women.

00:23:21So your genes will provoke a negative experience in you until you actually work to reproduce.

00:23:40If the pressure to be perfect 100% of the time, about 100% of everything, comes from

00:23:45a boss and there is no hope of them changing or leaving, you have two choices.

00:23:48Learn to live with it, or look for a new job.

00:23:50No, you don't.

00:23:53What the living Sam hell are you talking about?

00:23:58If you're standing in the middle of a field with a jet pack and a shovel, you can either

00:24:05go north or you can go south.

00:24:10No, you can dig down, you can take your jet pack up, and you can go in any of 360 degrees

00:24:18of direction.

00:24:19How dare you try to put everything down in a complex situation of free will to only two

00:24:26choices.

00:24:27Learn to live with it, or look for a new job.

00:24:28That is absolutely not true.

00:24:31That is absolutely... my gosh, man.

00:24:35Don't do that.

00:24:36Now, I know I've said there are only two ways of looking.

00:24:38That's all mental stuff, right?

00:24:40And there's no such thing in life as you only have two choices.

00:24:49No such thing.

00:24:51No such thing.

00:24:52That is a terrible thing to say, and it's a terrible thing to believe.

00:24:56And you need to go to apologize anyone you've ever said anything like that to, you need

00:24:59to go and apologize to them for giving them a false dichotomy.

00:25:03There is so much to... if you have a perfectionist boss, there's a lot of things you can do.

00:25:12You can document any abuse and you can go to his boss or her boss.

00:25:16You can sit down and work it out with the boss and talk it out with the boss.

00:25:20You can try to get the boss fired.

00:25:22You can go to the shareholders, you can go to co-workers, you can go to your employees

00:25:25and you can sort of foment a strike or some kind of rebellion.

00:25:29You can do just... you can document everything and make sure you've got... there's so many

00:25:33choices other than learn to live with it or look for a new job.

00:25:37Sorry, bro.

00:25:38Love you to death.

00:25:39That's completely retarded and absolutely wrong to polarize all of your free will choices

00:25:46down to this or this.

00:25:50That's really tragic, man.

00:25:51I can't tell you how much pain I get coming from underneath that dichotomy.

00:25:59There's no possibility of action.

00:26:01There's no possibility that good can triumph against corruption.

00:26:04There's no possibility that there's any decent people in the organization who may be unaware

00:26:08of this or the degree of the problem.

00:26:10There's no possibility that you can do anything within the situation.

00:26:13You're helpless and hopeless and you've either got to conform to it or run.

00:26:16The only thing that is there is fight or flight or freeze.

00:26:19There's nothing you can...

00:26:20Oh my god, man.

00:26:21That's just horrendous.

00:26:22I mean, deal with your family's shit, but don't spray that goop on my audience.

00:26:28You get far better performance out of people if they're chilled out and comfortable.

00:26:31If you attack people whenever they make a mistake, they'll either leave or be paralyzed

00:26:34against action.

00:26:35Right.

00:26:44Right.

00:26:44Yeah, don't do that.

00:26:47Just donated $5.

00:26:50Thank you.

00:26:53Answer the question of a lifetime.

00:26:55You have five bucks.

00:26:57All right.

00:26:58All right, let's see here.

00:27:04If someone talks and acts, thank you for the tip, Eric.

00:27:06If someone talks and acts in an abusive-slash-aggressive way towards their pets, how much of an indicator

00:27:11is it that they treat children that way?

00:27:13Automatically think less of someone who does this.

00:27:18All right.

00:27:19Let me get to the questions over here on Rumble.

00:27:21Hello from Sweden!

00:27:23Lovely.

00:27:24I think I remember you from the Muppets.

00:27:28Let's see here.

00:27:31Is feminist culture causing stranger sexual urges in women or hormonal swings through

00:27:36diet and birth control?

00:27:40Kink seems to be accelerating.

00:27:41What was it?

00:27:42I saw Billie Eilish in some interview where she's chatting about a woman's breasts and

00:27:45it's like, maybe I'm just a little old-school British, but anyway.

00:27:54Do you consider Jack Nicholson a really good actor or does he just play the same character-slash-himself

00:27:58in every role?

00:27:59He is a very good actor.

00:28:00I mean, if you look at something like As Good As It Gets, the one he did with, oh,

00:28:10what's her name?

00:28:11The girl from, I can't remember now.

00:28:15It's not Helen from that couple show on TV.

00:28:23Oh, what a bunch of threads I'm fraying with my brain.

00:28:26So if you look at As Good As It Gets, he plays a sort of neurotic and introverted kind of

00:28:30guy.

00:28:31If you look at the Colonel Jessup that he plays in A Few Good Men, that's really sort

00:28:35of an alpha and psycho and powerful guy.

00:28:40Randall Patrick McMurphy in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, RPM's a great name, great

00:28:45set of acronyms.

00:28:46He plays just a wild guy.

00:28:49So if you look at all of those different varieties, he does play a good number of different characters.

00:28:56Of course, there is an essence of roguish Irish stuff going on as a whole, but yeah,

00:29:02he absolutely does play a wide variety of different characters.

00:29:05And there is, of course, an essence, right?

00:29:07He didn't blend himself into the characters in the same way that Marlon Brando did.

00:29:12They did do a movie together, The Missouri Breaks, which I've never seen.

00:29:16But yeah, he is a fantastic actor.

00:29:19Will there be a truth about Richard Simmons anytime soon?

00:29:24That's funny.

00:29:25All right.

00:29:28How is it possible that the Secret Service didn't have someone positioned on a roof within

00:29:31a couple of hundred yards?

00:29:34Well, didn't they shoot the shooter?

00:29:35So they must have been able to see him, right?

00:29:39Okay.

00:29:40So thank you for the questions.

00:29:44People say, well, why don't you spend more time on the Rumble live stream?

00:29:49And it's because y'all don't tip.

00:29:52Follow the money.

00:29:53Show me the money, right?

00:29:54Because y'all don't tip.

00:29:55And I appreciate that.

00:29:56And I'm glad to have you guys here, but you get better service if you tip.

00:30:01All right.

00:30:02Pets.

00:30:03Is it too early in the show for a rant?

00:30:06He asked cockatishly.

00:30:09Is it too early in the show for a rant?

00:30:14Just out of...

00:30:15Helen Hunt.

00:30:16Thank you.

00:30:17Just out of curiosity.

00:30:18Hit me with a why.

00:30:23Is it too early for a rant?

00:30:26I think it is.

00:30:29I think it is okay to rant.

00:30:34And so it begins.

00:30:39Because I got a question from a guy today, and he's like, Steph, I had to sell my horses

00:30:47of 15 years.

00:30:50I love them to death, but I can't ride them anymore because of back problems.

00:30:53And I'm just torn up, and I'm tortured, and I'm sad, and I'm wretched.

00:30:57And I'm like, holy crap.

00:31:01Pet fetishes are weird, man.

00:31:05Pet fetishes are weird.

00:31:06It's okay to love your animals, just don't love your animals, right?

00:31:11We all know the trope about the women and the cats and so on.

00:31:14Guys and dogs do similar things.

00:31:16Look, if you evolved in a colder climate in particular, you need to domesticate animals

00:31:23in order to survive, right?

00:31:26You need to domesticate animals in order to survive.

00:31:29Which means you have to bond with your animals, you have to care about them, you have to keep

00:31:32them healthy, you have to build fences, you have to protect them, you have to kill the

00:31:36predators who might harm them, so you have to have a bond with your animals in order

00:31:40to survive.

00:31:41That's healthy.

00:31:42That's good.

00:31:43Anybody who didn't care about his animals in a colder climate in particular when you

00:31:46need milk and all of that over the course of the winter, you know, a cow is a great

00:31:51way of keeping meat fresh without a freezer, right?

00:31:55That's sort of what cows are for in the same way that a human being is a great way to turn

00:31:58a pig into a poem.

00:32:03So it's important that people care for animals.

00:32:07That's how we evolved.

00:32:08However, you got to remember all human desires fall in a bell curve, right?

00:32:13All human desires fall into a bell curve where too little is bad and too much is bad.

00:32:17And being broken up because you had to sell some horses, bro, that's because you have

00:32:23fantasy projected a whole bunch of feeling and goop and human characteristics into big

00:32:30ass brute dumb animals.

00:32:33They're animals.

00:32:35They bond with you biochemically.

00:32:37It's not any big virtue of yours.

00:32:39They don't judge you.

00:32:40They don't evaluate you.

00:32:41Nothing like that.

00:32:43They're just big ass dumb animals.

00:32:45Now I have pets.

00:32:46I had pets when I was growing up and I liked my hamsters and I liked my mice and I bred

00:32:49them and I, you know, my daughter has the ducks and we care about the ducks and we take

00:32:52care of the ducks and we protect the ducks and I, um, yeah, I spent half my life building

00:32:57chicken coops, it seems like.

00:32:59So I'm a big, pets are great.

00:33:02Yeah.

00:33:03Love pets.

00:33:04And I understand this, particularly, I think the East Asian and in particular the European

00:33:08mind, we are sensitive to harm to animals.

00:33:10Like, you know, when, when kids are little and they grab frogs too tight, you're like,

00:33:13ooh, careful, careful, right?

00:33:14You want to teach them how to be nice to the animals because animals are required for your

00:33:18survival, but they ain't family.

00:33:20They ain't people.

00:33:21They ain't lovers.

00:33:22They ain't great friends.

00:33:23They aren't people who can call you out on your ethics or make sure you have integrity

00:33:26or make sure you're honest with yourself and those around you that just big, dumb, chemically

00:33:29bonded animals.

00:33:32And it's really fucking easy, really easy and really dangerous to project some sort

00:33:38of humanoid relationship on big ass, dumb animals.

00:33:44Oh, the horse is so happy to see me.

00:33:47Yeah.

00:33:48Cause you feed the horse.

00:33:50Oh, she, the Muffy, the Chairman Meow, the cat is so happy when I come home and it's

00:33:56like, yeah, because you're a giant can opener for the cat and you're, you pet the cat, which

00:34:03makes the cat happy.

00:34:06This is not your virtue, right?

00:34:07Oh, the dog is so excited when I get up in the morning, it's like, yeah, cause he needs

00:34:11to get the hell out of the house and run around and he can't open the doors himself.

00:34:19First of all, understand, of course, that your pets, if you're going to anthropomorphize

00:34:24your pets to the point where you think you have some kind of big old relationship with

00:34:28them, then understand that you are a kidnapper and an imprisoner, right?

00:34:34Because if you're going to say, oh, uh, when, when, when the cat looks at me this way, he's

00:34:39thinking this and he really thinks that, and you put all of this weird anthropomorphic

00:34:43projection on your cats, okay, then you just kidnap them from the wild and you're keeping

00:34:49them locked in your house.

00:34:52I mean, you lock horses in stalls, you lock horses in fields.

00:34:56So you, if you're going to anthropomorphize your animals, which is weird enough, then

00:35:00you also have to accept that if they're kind of like people, then you have cut the balls

00:35:05off your friends and you have a trapped and emasculated and kidnapped and hold hostage

00:35:11your friends.

00:35:12They're not your friends, they're your pets, they're service animals.

00:35:17And what happens is that animals then become some sort of weird dopamine delivery mechanism

00:35:22where you get addicted to positive responses from easily programmed animals.

00:35:32So if you cut their balls off and you imprison them and you don't let them go, they're pets,

00:35:39which means stop treating them like human beings.

00:35:41Because if you treated human beings like that, and they were actually like human beings,

00:35:44you'd be arrested for kidnapping and forced incarceration, confinement.

00:35:50They're not animals, they're not substitutes for people.

00:35:54Go find somebody to love, go find somebody who's going to challenge you, who's going

00:35:57to engage with the best in you, who's going to encourage you, who's going to call you

00:36:00out on your bullshit, which we all need.

00:36:01We stay sane collectively, not individually.

00:36:04And stop strip mining dopamine from dumb animals programmed to bond with you and think you

00:36:08have any kind of relationship with anything other than dependence and delusion.

00:36:11Sorry to be strict.

00:36:12I gotta be strict.

00:36:14I really, really dislike the degree to which people substitute human relationships with

00:36:18animals.

00:36:19It's really appalling, because this also prevents the formation of families.

00:36:26Horrible.

00:36:31Thank you for the tip, my friends.

00:36:38A quick thank you, Steph, for chasing up my tipped question last week after all the time

00:36:42was consumed by the white knight delegations against your team.

00:36:45I'm keen to have a private call and look forward to finding out what your rates will be.

00:36:48I'm sure they will be fair, whatever the price.

00:36:50Yeah, nobody's had any problem with my rates.

00:36:51You can just email me, freedomain.com slash call.

00:36:54Just fill out the form and we'll do it.

00:36:57They are beautiful, but so dumb, unfortunately.

00:36:59Yeah, horses are beautiful, absolutely.

00:37:01They're just lovely.

00:37:05I own being a can opener.

00:37:06I'm okay with it, lol.

00:37:07Well, that's fine.

00:37:08Yeah, you can be a can opener for your cats.

00:37:10You're a food source for the cats, because they're imprisoned, right?

00:37:12I mean, if you imprison some person in your basement, they'd be happy to see you when

00:37:16they were hungry, because they can't get their own food.

00:37:20Would you eat dog, cat, or horse meat?

00:37:22God, no.

00:37:24I still won't get over people calling dogs slash cats son, daughter, brother.

00:37:27It's cringe.

00:37:28Oh, yeah.

00:37:29Dog moms and all of that.

00:37:30Cat moms.

00:37:31It's all just terrible.

00:37:34When my alarm goes off, my cat comes running and is all affectionate.

00:37:36It's cute, but I know it's because his food bowl is empty.

00:37:38Right.

00:37:39Because if you're in a concentration camp, you have to be nice to the guard so you don't

00:37:42get fed.

00:37:47My mom treats her dogs almost like kids.

00:37:49She only had one kid, me, and a pretty rough childhood.

00:37:51I hate to see it.

00:37:52Yeah.

00:37:53Yeah.

00:37:54I mean, there's a reason why, I mean, in the Muslim culture, dogs are reviled and so on,

00:38:00and partly it's because people use dogs as substitutes for human relationships.

00:38:03People use pets as substitutes for human relationships.

00:38:08Oh, and you see these ads on social media, you know, you can get a picture of you chilling

00:38:12in sunglasses with your dog who's in sunglasses, and it's, oh my God, it's so sad and pathetic.

00:38:18It's pitiful, really.

00:38:20It's pitiful.

00:38:21I have absolutely no patience with it whatsoever.

00:38:26A dog will never leave you, said by a divorced man.

00:38:29Yeah.

00:38:30For sure.

00:38:31Yeah.

00:38:32Absolutely.

00:38:33Because the dog can't judge you.

00:38:34You never have to negotiate.

00:38:35You never have to figure out what the dog wants.

00:38:37You can't verbalize.

00:38:38You can't find win-win solutions.

00:38:40You can't tell a story.

00:38:42You can't share your memories.

00:38:43It's just a dumb animal programmed to bond with you by nature and chemicals.

00:38:50I love my cats as cute furry company, fun to play with, stress relief and endorphins.

00:38:55They have emotions and needs, and I have some entertainment.

00:38:57Trust me, I think he ate better than I do.

00:39:05You don't love your cats.

00:39:10You don't love your cats.

00:39:12I mean, you don't love your cats.

00:39:16Love is our response to virtue if we're virtuous.

00:39:19Our involuntary... cats cannot be virtuous.

00:39:23Cats cannot be virtuous.

00:39:24Dogs cannot be virtuous.

00:39:26They can't lie.

00:39:27They can't be corrupt.

00:39:28They can't be hypocritical.

00:39:29They can't fail to reach their high moral standards.

00:39:32They can't struggle with honesty in a world of corruption.

00:39:35They just pant and screw and eat and shit and sleep.

00:39:41You don't love your pets.

00:39:43You don't love your pets.

00:39:46I really hate it when people tell me I'm a good dog parent.

00:39:50I don't fetishize pets like that, but I feel like you shouldn't be cruel to them.

00:39:57What a spectacularly useless statement.

00:40:02I mean, good Lord.

00:40:05I mean, that's like me saying, you know, it's possible to train your body so hard that you

00:40:11injure yourself and it's not healthy.

00:40:13You know, if you run a hundred miles a day, I don't know, whatever, right, like you're

00:40:17going to hurt yourself.

00:40:18You can lift weights and pull muscles, and it's important not to overtrain and hurt yourself.

00:40:22And you say, well, I agree with that, but I'm not saying you should... but I also don't

00:40:25believe you should sit on the couch all the time.

00:40:27It's like, oh my God.

00:40:31What a low bar you have for contributing to a conversation.

00:40:34Yes, I agree that this extreme is bad, but the other extreme is also bad.

00:40:43You shouldn't eat too much because it makes you fat and unhealthy.

00:40:46Well, I agree with that, but you also shouldn't starve yourself to death.

00:40:50And it's like, wow, what a wonderfully great contribution you have to this.

00:40:55Extremes are bad.

00:40:56Yes, but this extreme is bad too.

00:41:02Oh my gosh.

00:41:06Oh my gosh, that's great.

00:41:10What do you think about people who scream at their dogs?

00:41:12Is it at all comparable to yelling at children?

00:41:15It's worse in many ways because the dogs are just going to bow and cow and all of that,

00:41:20and children at least can yell back at you at some point.

00:41:23A lot of sad, lonely women have dogs.

00:41:31Right.

00:41:32And everyone says, well, they're sad, lonely women, so they have dogs.

00:41:36And I say, no.

00:41:37Part of why they're sad, lonely women is because they have dogs.

00:41:44You know, if I ran a cat company in a truly free society, I wouldn't sell to women unless

00:41:50they had kids.

00:41:51I wouldn't give cats to women unless they have kids.

00:41:55Because I try not to feed addictions that are destructive to society.

00:41:59It's sickening to see people substitute family formation with animals.

00:42:02It is, yeah.

00:42:03It's absolutely appalling.

00:42:06Thanks, Stefan.

00:42:07I appreciate the critique on my horses.

00:42:08Sometimes the truth is hard to hear, but much needed.

00:42:10Yeah, I'm trying to help you with your grief.

00:42:12I really am trying to help you with your grief by giving you, you know, a cold bucket of

00:42:17ice to the gnats, right?

00:42:19I felt kind of defensive after that rant in case that was being applied to me.

00:42:23Ha ha.

00:42:24Wait.

00:42:25Yes.

00:42:26Oh, oh, sorry.

00:42:27Was that being applied to you?

00:42:28No.

00:42:31Was it being applied to you?

00:42:37Yeah, I, uh, it is a huge warning sign.

00:42:43It's a huge warning sign because a woman, let's say a woman who has a couple of cats

00:42:49and she's single in her thirties or whatever, right?

00:42:52Then the problem is that if, if she, if she's not getting along with you, like if

00:42:59she's being difficult with you, let's just say she's in the wrong or whatever,

00:43:02right?

00:43:03So she's being difficult with you.

00:43:04Then that causes a feeling of isolation and loneliness.

00:43:08And that feeling of isolation and loneliness is exactly why you should make up, right?

00:43:14Right.

00:43:15So if, if a woman just snaps and snarls at you and you sort of withdraw, right?

00:43:19Let's say you're, you're dating her and she snaps and snarls at you over nothing because

00:43:22she's self-indulgent in her temper, then she's going to feel lonely and isolated and

00:43:28she's going to feel bad.

00:43:29And that's going to be one of the things that drives her to apologize to you.

00:43:32It's really hard to guide yourself without positive and negative signals.

00:43:36Like it really is very tough to guide yourself without positive and negative signals.

00:43:44Now, if you can't guide yourself without positive and negative signals, this is why addiction

00:43:49goes so haywire.

00:43:51Because if the woman is like, Oh, I feel kind of lonely and isolated.

00:43:55My man is displeased with me and he's, he's distancing himself from me because I've been

00:44:00kind of mean.

00:44:01And then she goes and she cuddles with her fluffy cats and she feels better.

00:44:05And, Oh, that's such a relief.

00:44:07I'm getting my dopamine.

00:44:08My cats love me.

00:44:09Okay.

00:44:10She's just taking a drug rather than deal with the pain.

00:44:18She's just taking a drug rather than deal with the pain.

00:44:22And that means that she has lost her ability to guide herself according to her instincts.

00:44:27That's the big danger with animals.

00:44:29Right?

00:44:31Well, I'm having problems in my relationship, but I go home and my dog's happy to see me

00:44:35and everything's better.

00:44:36It's like, no, it's not.

00:44:37You've just taken a drug rather than fix your relationship.

00:44:40You got a toothache and you just take some painkiller, your toothache, it's just getting

00:44:44worse.

00:44:46It's getting worse.

00:44:47Dangerous.

00:44:51Animals give you the dopamine of relationships without there actually being relationships.

00:44:56They create a giant moat of dopamine addiction around you that nobody can penetrate.

00:45:01The woman doesn't have to be nice to you because she can get her, quote, companionship from

00:45:05her cats.

00:45:10Oh, I haven't.

00:45:11What's with the cap?

00:45:12I just, my hair is kind of goofy.

00:45:13I haven't gotten around to getting it cut.

00:45:18So, it's goofy hair right now.

00:45:27It's interesting how many dogs are put up for adoption after the kids are born.

00:45:31My friend asked me recently if I would like to get some pets.

00:45:34I told her I would love to have pets when I have children.

00:45:38Yeah, I think pets with kids can be great.

00:45:40Pets can teach kids a lot about responsibility and empathy and so on.

00:45:43Right?

00:45:44For sure.

00:45:46I still don't really understand how a woman could be involuntarily single in her 20s and

00:45:5030s.

00:45:51You don't?

00:45:52You don't?

00:45:55Interesting.

00:45:57Interesting.

00:45:58Let me dip over to Rumble and see if anybody's taken my hint about donations.

00:46:04Uh, no.

00:46:05Oh, oh, oh.

00:46:06Yes.

00:46:07Thank you, Silver Spider.

00:46:10Steph, at work I always get the most incompetent people placed under me.

00:46:13Their job performance is always tied to mine on a team, yet no matter how good we do, I

00:46:18never move up.

00:46:19Any advice?

00:46:21Well, have you read books on how to improve people's production when you're put in charge

00:46:25of them as a manager?

00:46:26Have you read books?

00:46:27Have you taken courses?

00:46:28Have you figured out all of these wonderful things that you can do to help people improve

00:46:33their productivity?

00:46:37So, the reason why you get incompetent people assigned to you probably is because you're

00:46:42a bad manager.

00:46:45Right?

00:46:46Because the good managers want the competent people.

00:46:48So, do you fight for the competent people?

00:46:50Do you fight?

00:46:51Like, it's sort of like if you, you know, when you're a kid, you get, you team up for

00:46:55like baseball and there's two kids and then you choose your team, two kids who are the

00:46:59captains choose your team.

00:47:00Well, if you end up with all the bad players, it's because you're not assertive enough in

00:47:04getting the good players.

00:47:05So, other people take the good employees and you just sit there, what, like a toadstool

00:47:09and let it happen?

00:47:10Get the good employees or figure out how to improve the performance of bad employees.

00:47:14But as a manager, as a manager, your success is based upon the quality of the people you

00:47:20work with.

00:47:21So, are you making proactive steps to make sure you get the best people or learn how

00:47:27to improve the people who aren't good?

00:47:29If you're just sitting there being a dumping ground for the incompetent and you're not

00:47:33actively working to get more competent people or know how to improve the performance of

00:47:36less competent people, then you're a bad manager.

00:47:40Because your job is based upon how well your people perform.

00:47:45And you have to work to make sure you get the best people.

00:47:48You're in competition.

00:47:50And if you fail and flake and fold in the face of that competition, I don't know how

00:47:54you have anyone to blame but yourself.

00:47:56Come on.

00:47:57If you could get better workers, you would.

00:47:59If you and I were competing for workers, I'd make sure I chatted with the workers, I took

00:48:05them to lunch, I showed them what a great guy I was to work for, I would tell them how

00:48:10I'd fought hard to raise the wages and improve the careers of the people who work for me

00:48:14so that they'd want to come and work with me.

00:48:17You're in competition with all the other managers for all of the good workers.

00:48:22So, go fight.

00:48:23Go get the good workers.

00:48:24Or if you get bad workers, at least figure out how to improve them.

00:48:27And if you can't improve them, figure out how to fire them.

00:48:30I never accepted responsibility over someone I couldn't fire.

00:48:34Somebody would say, oh, you're responsible here.

00:48:36I was like, you're responsible for this project.

00:48:38Okay, can I fire people?

00:48:39No.

00:48:40Well, then I'm not going to take the responsibility.

00:48:42Because if you can't tell me how to constitute my team, I'm not going to be responsible for

00:48:45their output.

00:48:46So, if you have bad employees and you can't improve their performance, fire them.

00:48:54I don't know, what are you doing?

00:48:56What are you complaining to me for?

00:48:58Get the good employees, improve the bad ones, and if you can't improve them, fire them.

00:49:01This isn't brain surgery.

00:49:04I've made bad employees productive.

00:49:06It's almost like I'm the guy who trains people to be better, but then that's my role now,

00:49:10and there's no benefit except for when they get better, they move on.

00:49:14Right.

00:49:15Right.

00:49:16Well, then you need to sit down with your boss, right, because you say, oh, my employees

00:49:20are bad, you're a bad employee.

00:49:21Because what's happened is you've allowed a situation to accumulate where your motivation

00:49:25is down, and let's say you've got a magic idiot whisperer that you can make bad employees

00:49:30better, right?

00:49:31Let's just say you're the DEI whisperer or something.

00:49:33You can make bad employees better.

00:49:35Okay, great.

00:49:36Then you need to be compensated on improvements on people's productivity, right?

00:49:39So, you go to your boss and you say, I keep getting these employees, I keep making them

00:49:42better, then they move on.

00:49:43I'm fine to help improve employees, but I'm not getting paid to do that, and I need to

00:49:46have a compensation scheme that is based upon something other than the employee's productivity,

00:49:52right?

00:49:53It's like if you're the team doctor for a sports team, you don't get paid based upon

00:50:00how well the players under your care perform, because they're under your care because they're

00:50:06injured, right?

00:50:07So, some pitcher hurts his shoulder or his wrist or whatever, right?

00:50:11Then you can't get paid as the team doctor on how well that pitcher is pitching because

00:50:15he's only with you because he can't pitch, so you have to get paid on how well he gets

00:50:18better, how quickly he gets better.

00:50:23But don't complain, right?

00:50:25Don't complain.

00:50:27Act to secure your interests.

00:50:29This is a life lesson as a whole.

00:50:30Stop complaining.

00:50:31Act to secure your interests.

00:50:33No one's coming to fix your life.

00:50:34No one's coming to make everything better for you.

00:50:36No one's coming to advocate on your behalf because you're not 12 anymore.

00:50:39You advocate on your own behalf.

00:50:41You don't like something, you find a way to make it better, but don't just whine and complain.

00:50:45My God, what are you, a girl guide?

00:50:47It's embarrassing.

00:50:49We have to be men.

00:50:50We get a lot of advantages to being men, and one of the disadvantages is nobody advocates

00:50:54on our behalf.

00:50:56We have to fight and win for everything that we want, which gives us a certain kind of

00:50:59pride, and all of that's wonderful, right?

00:51:01Don't complain.

00:51:02Complaining is embarrassing.

00:51:03Complaining is effeminate.

00:51:04Complaining is ridiculous.

00:51:05Complaining is cheesy.

00:51:07Complaining is cringe and lame.

00:51:10Men, we don't get to complain.

00:51:11We don't have to bear children.

00:51:12We don't have to poop a watermelon out of our nipples.

00:51:14We don't have to breastfeed.

00:51:16We don't age out as quickly.

00:51:18We stay attractive longer.

00:51:19We make more money later.

00:51:20We don't have to have periods or endometriosis or cramps or bizarre things growing in our

00:51:25innards that way, so we get lots of benefits.

00:51:28Lots of benefits as being men.

00:51:33But there's benefits and costs in everything.

00:51:39So you get lots of benefits for being a man.

00:51:42Oh, we don't have to go through menopause.

00:51:44That's not fun.

00:51:46Menopause is not fun at all.

00:51:47Talk about jamming your head in the freezer because your body's on fire.

00:51:50So we don't have the same hormones.

00:51:53Our bodies are kind of like bricks and tanks, and they just sail from, you know, 16 to 80,

00:51:59pretty much the same as long as you take reasonably decent care of them.

00:52:02So as men, we get huge amounts of benefits.

00:52:06And nobody advocates for us and complaining is being a little bitch.

00:52:10And please don't be a little bitch.

00:52:12Nobody can respect that.

00:52:13Say, oh, it's so unfair.

00:52:15When a woman cries, everyone wants to comfort her and care for her.

00:52:18And when a man cries, we get nothing.

00:52:20Yeah, it's true.

00:52:22What are you going to do, reprogram human DNA?

00:52:24Good luck with that.

00:52:25What are you, Pfizer?

00:52:28So, no, just stop.

00:52:30For heaven's sake, stop complaining.

00:52:32Oh, my gosh.

00:52:33Oh, my gosh.

00:52:34It's like complaining is like the ultimate act of emasculation.

00:52:39Just go down and saw your nads off and feed them to wild ducks.

00:52:42Do that instead of complaining.

00:52:45I keep getting all the bad employees and then I keep moving on whenever I make them better.

00:52:51I'm sorry.

00:52:52I made a laugh.

00:52:53Holy crap.

00:52:54Holy crap.

00:52:56That's sad, man.

00:52:58You want to be a man with all the benefits of a woman.

00:53:03You see, when women complain, people jump to solve the problems.

00:53:06When men complain, we just get ignored.

00:53:10Right?

00:53:11That's why there's breast cancer awareness month and not prostate cancer awareness month in the same way.

00:53:16That's why there are pink ribbons but not like in prostate cancer.

00:53:18I think it's more common over the lifespan than breast cancer because just about every old guy gets it.

00:53:25Oh, my gosh.

00:53:28Yeah, breast exam is walking the park next to a prostate exam.

00:53:35The moment that I, as a voluntarist, realized that I have a prostate or a pro-state, it was horrifying.

00:53:41And I wanted to go in there with a spork and take it out.

00:53:43But apparently, that's not supported.

00:53:45Because I'm a man.

00:53:48So, yeah, I'm sorry.

00:53:51Like, as a man, every time you have the urge to complain, don't.

00:53:57Shut up and solve it.

00:54:00Oh, gosh.

00:54:01Can you imagine?

00:54:02Like, imagine a whole bunch of men out there in the neolithic era, right?

00:54:07And it's like, it's raining and they're all just sitting there going, oh, man, it's raining.

00:54:12I hate it when it rains.

00:54:13It tickles down my back and I get all clammy.

00:54:15And then I get fungus between my balls.

00:54:17And it's like, oh, I hate raining, man.

00:54:19Rain is so terrible.

00:54:20It's raining.

00:54:21It's so unfair.

00:54:22It seems like it's raining all the time.

00:54:23I think it's raining more than it used to.

00:54:24And it's probably because we displease the rain gods.

00:54:26And rain, rain, rain, rain, rain, rain.

00:54:30We never would.

00:54:31Hey, there's a cave over there.

00:54:33Maybe we should go into the cave.

00:54:35No.

00:54:36No.

00:54:39Because the rain is really annoying and it's really bad.

00:54:41I'm just going to sit here and complain about the rain.

00:54:45You know, we have a civilization because people shut the fuck up about complaining.

00:54:49Like, you know, we have roofs over our head because people stopped complaining and started doing something to solve problems.

00:54:55So, yeah, complaining is...

00:54:57And listen, I say this with sympathy, right?

00:54:59You probably grew up without a father.

00:55:00Or if you grew up with a father, you grew up with a weak father.

00:55:03But complaining is sad.

00:55:07It's really, really sad.

00:55:09Complaining is emasculating.

00:55:11And complaining is relying on everyone else to solve your problem.

00:55:14It's kind of like being a parasite on society, right?

00:55:18It's really, really tragic.

00:55:20It's really, really tragic.

00:55:23So, yes, please don't.

00:55:24Please, please don't complain.

00:55:27Please don't complain.

00:55:28I mean, did Elon Musk sit there and say,

00:55:30Oh, man, it's such a drag that you can't get internet out in the middle of nowhere.

00:55:34And it's such a drag that we can't easily get satellites into orbit.

00:55:37I really think we should.

00:55:38It'd be so much nicer.

00:55:39All that is is just whining and expecting everyone else to solve your own fucking problems.

00:55:43If you care about something, do it.

00:55:44Can you imagine me like 20 years ago?

00:55:46Like, oh, man, the quality of philosophical discourse in society really sucks, man.

00:55:52Somebody needs to do something to make the quality of philosophical discourse in society better, man.

00:55:56I can't believe nobody's making quality of philosophical...

00:56:00My God, I'd rather the ground open up and swallow me down to Hades.

00:56:05Oh, my gosh.

00:56:07It's just so appalling.

00:56:10It's just so appalling.

00:56:15And the other thing, too, if you have a bunch of sucky, terrible, incompetent people under you,

00:56:22nobody's going to want to work for you who's got any shred of competence,

00:56:25because you're going to be known as the guy with crap employees.

00:56:28Would you want to work with a company?

00:56:30Would you want to work in a division where everyone was crap?

00:56:32Would you want to work under a manager who had trashy employees?

00:56:36Well, you don't want to work with them.

00:56:37Why the hell would anyone else?

00:56:38So stop complaining and start taking some action to solve the problem.

00:56:42And you know what to do to solve the problem.

00:56:44You'd just rather complain because you were raised by women.

00:56:46And I sympathize with that, and I understand that.

00:56:48But, oh, my God, you've got to let that shit go.

00:56:55If you can't make it to the dentist and you're in tremendous pain,

00:56:58a painkiller is probably the only thing that can alleviate the pain.

00:57:03Yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about.

00:57:06Yes, absolutely.

00:57:07You are such a nitpicker at times, man.

00:57:09That's really sad.

00:57:11I'm using an analogy that if you don't get your rotten tooth dealt with,

00:57:18it's going to get worse.

00:57:19And you're like, well, what if you can't get to the dentist?

00:57:21Then you should take painkillers, right?

00:57:25Oh, my gosh.

00:57:27That is also a sadly fucking low level of expectation contribution

00:57:32to the conversation.

00:57:33What if you can't get to a dentist?

00:57:36Then take the painkillers.

00:57:39I mean, my analogy was if you take the painkillers instead of going

00:57:44to the dentist, that's bad.

00:57:45Well, what if you can't go to the dentist?

00:57:47Then that's not part of my analogy.

00:57:50It's totally different.

00:57:52You're not adding anything.

00:57:53You're just throwing sand in the Vaseline.

00:57:56You're just farting in my face and calling it a fresh breeze.

00:58:00Stop wasting people's time with things that don't apply.

00:58:03Stop thinking you're contributing when you're nitpicking

00:58:06about irrelevant things.

00:58:08Ah.

00:58:11Bleeding heart types who feed feral cats in the neighborhood

00:58:14and then they reproduce like crazy decimate the local fauna, too.

00:58:20This reminds me of a woman I know whose dog died and only afterwards

00:58:23she got pregnant.

00:58:24It's sort of like having the pet who's holding back the parents

00:58:26to have a child.

00:58:27Yeah, for sure.

00:58:28For sure.

00:58:29Is it a red flag when a young attractive woman is living with a cat?

00:58:34I would think so.

00:58:38I would think so.

00:58:43Ah.

00:58:46It's not a deal breaker.

00:58:49I would view it as a red flag.

00:58:55You know, I remember a friend of mine's girlfriend had a cat that was

00:59:05like dying, you know, and they had to wake up every morning and try

00:59:10and force feed the cat some medicine.

00:59:12And it was just like, oh, my God.

00:59:15Oh.

00:59:17Grug hate rain.

00:59:18Right.

00:59:20Right.

00:59:21Right.

00:59:23Rain make Grug face hair itch.

00:59:25Yeah, that's right.

00:59:27People in the UK still complain about the rain constantly, but then

00:59:30it's raining here in July.

00:59:33But they didn't complain about the rain only.

00:59:36They also built houses, mostly for immigrants, apparently.

00:59:41All right.

00:59:42How red is the flag of a female neighbor with eight cats divorced

00:59:45mother to a kid in his 20s?

00:59:47She's over 50.

00:59:48Only a neighbor and friend to me.

00:59:49Not interested.

00:59:50But as an example.

00:59:51Okay.

00:59:52I don't care.

00:59:53Sorry.

00:59:57So why would a woman be single?

01:00:01Let me get back to this question because a good question.

01:00:06Oh, no.

01:00:08Did I not keep the question?

01:00:11Get ready for the pause.

01:00:14I really don't understand how a woman could be involuntarily single

01:00:18in her 20s and 30s.

01:00:20Well, that's easy.

01:00:23That's easy.

01:00:28So.

01:00:30Thank you for the tip.

01:00:31I appreciate that.

01:00:32So why?

01:00:33Let's let's take it out of women, right?

01:00:36Let's take.

01:00:37Sorry.

01:00:38Let me just I forgot to close my door.

01:00:39Hang on one sec.

01:00:44So let's take it to men.

01:00:47Let's take it to men.

01:00:49All right.

01:00:50Have you ever had a friend?

01:00:53Who wasn't a cat.

01:00:55Have you ever had a friend?

01:00:58Who won't take a job he's suited for, but instead is has dreams of being

01:01:04an entrepreneur or catching some big break.

01:01:14Have you ever had a friend like that?

01:01:17I certainly have.

01:01:19Friends who have dreams.

01:01:21I remember.

01:01:23A guy I knew many years ago who was like, well, I'm working for this guy,

01:01:27but I've got like.

01:01:29I'm going to go in real hard for a pay raise because I want to be an

01:01:32entrepreneur and I've got like five business ideas that will make me a

01:01:35fortune, right?

01:01:37So he went in tried to get a big race got fired and then didn't ever

01:01:42start any of these businesses.

01:01:45It's really sad.

01:01:47That's really, really sad, really sad.

01:01:50I don't need to work for anyone.

01:01:51I'm an I'm a natural born entrepreneur.

01:01:53So I need a big raise.

01:01:55He goes into his boss and says, you know, you're competing with my five

01:01:57other business ideas and you better give me a 50% raise or I'm out of here.

01:02:01And he's like, well, you know, if you want to be an entrepreneur, like I,

01:02:04I don't want to hold you back.

01:02:05So off you go.

01:02:08And then I won't even tell you what he ended up doing, but it was not

01:02:10ideal, right?

01:02:11So.

01:02:15Why is a woman single?

01:02:19In her twenties.

01:02:21How do you keep women single?

01:02:25How do you keep women single?

01:02:30It's an interesting question.

01:02:35Right?

01:02:36Because none of this is accidental, right?

01:02:41Now.

01:02:45If the guy who won't get a job because he thinks he just deserves more than

01:02:50the market will offer, that's paralyzing.

01:03:00The best way to paralyze people is to raise their expectations to

01:03:04unrealistic levels.

01:03:08Listen to this.

01:03:09Listen to this.

01:03:11The best way to paralyze people is to raise their expectations to

01:03:16unrealistic levels.

01:03:22For the most part, when you're young, work sucks.

01:03:30It does.

01:03:32I was probably 26 or 27 before I even got a job remotely.

01:03:39That didn't suck.

01:03:41Right?

01:03:42I mean, I worked cleaning dog hair off carpets.

01:03:44I worked as a cleaner in offices.

01:03:48I worked as a, I had a paper route.

01:03:51I worked in restaurants.

01:03:53I worked in a hardware store and all those jobs sucked.

01:03:56They did.

01:03:58They sucked.

01:03:59So what?

01:04:01The beginning of everything sucks.

01:04:03You're starting to learn piano.

01:04:04It sucks.

01:04:05When I was starting to learn philosophy, it sucked.

01:04:08Everything sucks at the beginning.

01:04:11So the best way you paralyze people is you say, things shouldn't suck.

01:04:16But they do.

01:04:18They do.

01:04:20Say, oh, well, you should be not part of suckydom.

01:04:25You should be immune from the suckness.

01:04:28Embrace the suck.

01:04:29Right?

01:04:30It's an old army thing.

01:04:31Embrace the suck.

01:04:32Yeah, stuff sucks.

01:04:33I hated going to work.

01:04:34I mean, I didn't hate it, but, I mean, as soon as I didn't have to,

01:04:37or as soon as I got to do something that was more fun,

01:04:40like I finally got a decent job in my mid to late 20s as a computer programmer,

01:04:45and I enjoyed that one.

01:04:47Yeah, everything sucks at the beginning.

01:04:52And most people are average.

01:04:56I really, really don't like that they don't talk bell curves and statistics

01:04:59and averages to people more.

01:05:02Most of you are average.

01:05:04Right?

01:05:05I'm average or below average at most things.

01:05:11I was not a very, I mean, I did, I studied and played violin for a decade.

01:05:16I was okay.

01:05:18Right?

01:05:19I like to sing.

01:05:20I'm not a very good singer.

01:05:21I like to do it.

01:05:23But I ain't no good singer.

01:05:25I tried to learn guitar.

01:05:26Learned a couple of songs.

01:05:27Wasn't for me.

01:05:28I got these stubby fingers, and it hurt at the end of my fingers.

01:05:31I played all kinds of different sports.

01:05:34I have played.

01:05:35Let's go.

01:05:36I have played.

01:05:37I was on the swim team.

01:05:38I was on the water polo team.

01:05:39I was on the cross-country team.

01:05:41I played soccer for many years.

01:05:42I played rugby.

01:05:43I played tennis, played squash, and still play tennis, still play pickleball.

01:05:50I was a diver.

01:05:52And at these things, I ski.

01:05:57At these things, I beach volleyball, love to play volleyball as a whole.

01:06:01Badminton, played a lot of badminton.

01:06:03And at these sports, I was good.

01:06:08Not great.

01:06:10I was good.

01:06:12I exercise six to eight hours a week.

01:06:15Am I a super muscle guy?

01:06:16I am not.

01:06:18My body does not drape those muscles on me like icing on a wedding cake.

01:06:22Icing on a wedding cake.

01:06:24So, I am average, good, or below average at most things.

01:06:29And some things, I'm just terrible at.

01:06:32Just terrible at.

01:06:36So, you try and focus on the things you're good at,

01:06:40and most things you're good, average, or bad at.

01:06:43Some things you're great at, and some things you're terrible at.

01:06:46So, focus on the things you're great at.

01:06:48But most things, you will not be good at.

01:06:50You will not be great at.

01:06:53And some people can't be great at anything.

01:06:57You hear these women, and, you know,

01:06:59hey, would you date a guy making $40,000 a year?

01:07:02Well, as long as he was ambitious.

01:07:04And it's like, no.

01:07:06Most people can't make much beyond the average.

01:07:09They can't.

01:07:11Most people cannot make much beyond the average.

01:07:15So, you say to women,

01:07:17self-esteem is believing you deserve the best.

01:07:23If you don't believe you deserve the best,

01:07:26then you lack self-esteem and confidence,

01:07:28and you're not a boss bitch babe who's going to change the world.

01:07:32You tell women that confidence is

01:07:42statistical insanity.

01:07:47Most women are average,

01:07:49and most women can get an average man.

01:07:55Most men are average,

01:07:57and most men can get an average woman.

01:08:00Now, some men are below average and get a below average man,

01:08:04and some women are above average and can get an above average man.

01:08:08But most people, it's a bell curve, right?

01:08:10Most people are average and will end up with someone who's average.

01:08:13What does that mean?

01:08:14Average height, average attractiveness, average intelligence,

01:08:16average income, average ambition.

01:08:18That's it!

01:08:20You ain't getting Jamie Dornan with the brain of Richard Feynman.

01:08:27Not going to happen.

01:08:28You are not going to get that woman I still remember many years later

01:08:31from that old Robin Williams movie, The Fisher King.

01:08:34There was this absolutely gorgeous woman at the desk greeting Nietzsche.

01:08:38Not going to get that.

01:08:39Not going to get that.

01:08:41You're average.

01:08:42For most people.

01:08:43I don't believe this crowd, this audience is average at all,

01:08:46but we're talking in general.

01:08:49So what you do is you say to women,

01:08:53if you're not aiming for the best,

01:08:56you don't have any self-esteem.

01:09:01You deserve the best.

01:09:02You deserve the best.

01:09:04Hey, I have no problem with that.

01:09:08You deserve the best on one condition.

01:09:12You deserve the best if you provide the best.

01:09:17There you go.

01:09:21If you said to every man,

01:09:23you deserve to make a million dollars a year,

01:09:26and settling for anything less

01:09:29is a mark of crushingly low self-esteem,

01:09:33and you're a loser.

01:09:35You deserve a million dollars a year.

01:09:40Men would say,

01:09:41what do you mean I deserve a million dollars a year?

01:09:44I don't deserve a million dollars a year.

01:09:46I could earn a million dollars a year.

01:09:48And how do you earn a million dollars a year?

01:09:50Well, you provide substantially more than a million dollars a year

01:09:53in value.

01:09:57You provide 1.5 million dollars a year in value,

01:10:01and they'll give you two-thirds of that.

01:10:05They'll give you a million bucks.

01:10:07They're going to take half a million for risk,

01:10:08and overhead, and marketing,

01:10:10and office spaces, and tax, and rents.

01:10:15You deserve a million dollars a year.

01:10:18Okay, you deserve a million dollars a year

01:10:20if you provide a lot more than a million dollars a year in value,

01:10:23and you're willing to negotiate for that.

01:10:26So men,

01:10:32men don't get to deserve anything.

01:10:37You're currently reading Schopenhauer and Nietzsche.

01:10:40Yes, but I'm married.

01:10:43I appreciate that.

01:10:44Look, I'm not saying it doesn't exist.

01:10:46I'm not saying it doesn't exist,

01:10:48but

01:10:51I have a six-pack in the fridge.

01:10:54In the fridge.

01:10:55Yeah.

01:10:56So, how do you keep women single?

01:11:00You tell them they deserve the best

01:11:02without also telling them they have to provide the best.

01:11:11Yeah, follow?

01:11:13You don't get the best unless you provide the best, right?

01:11:18If a man were to say,

01:11:20I deserve to be the quarterback on the football team,

01:11:22people would say,

01:11:23okay, let's see you call a play and throw a football.

01:11:27Let's see you run and dodge and leap over people,

01:11:29and let's see your size and strength and agility and constitution,

01:11:33and, right?

01:11:35Show me how you provide what you claim to deserve.

01:11:39Somebody says,

01:11:44I had a conversation with a below-average woman,

01:11:46three to four out of ten,

01:11:48who believed she was owed a nine to ten male,

01:11:50or as she put it, a hunk,

01:11:51broke down in tears when I pointed out that wasn't realistic.

01:11:55Right, and it's hard.

01:11:57To know where you stand in the pecking order

01:12:00is an essential, essential task of life.

01:12:05Where do you stand in the hierarchy?

01:12:10Right?

01:12:12It's a big-ass question.

01:12:15And your success as a human being depends,

01:12:20depends on your ability to figure out where you stand in the hierarchy.

01:12:27I mean, I mentioned this before,

01:12:29and I remember talking about this with friends when I was in grade six.

01:12:32Grade six, I think I had my first dance.

01:12:34I was new to the country.

01:12:36Grade six, and there's a DJ playing songs.

01:12:41It's kind of dark on either side of the gym.

01:12:44It's a big, giant gym.

01:12:45The lights are in the middle, and it's dark on either side.

01:12:47So the boys are all on one side, let's say the south side,

01:12:50and the girls are all on the north side.

01:12:52And you've got to cross over that no-man's land.

01:12:54You've got to cross over,

01:12:56and you've got to go and try and find in the dark

01:12:59a girl who will dance with you.

01:13:01Now, she can't be so ugly that your friends will make fun of you,

01:13:03but she can't be so attractive she'll never say yes.

01:13:06You've got to find that sweet spot.

01:13:07Who is going to actually dance with me

01:13:10where I'm not aiming too low, and I'm not aiming too high?

01:13:14Men have to figure this stuff out.

01:13:23And if you aim too high, you lose.

01:13:26And if you aim too low, then you could have done better,

01:13:30and you kind of lose as well.

01:13:31Aiming too low is better than aiming too high as a whole.

01:13:36So I aimed. What did I do?

01:13:38I did what every guy is supposed to do.

01:13:40What are guys supposed to do when you're a teenage boy

01:13:43and you're trying to figure out where you stand in the pecking order?

01:13:46You start as high as conceivably you can,

01:13:49and then you go down until you get a girl to go out with you.

01:13:56So I asked out the very top tier, absolute queen bee of the junior high school.

01:14:07I asked her out, and she did not go out with me.

01:14:10And then I asked the next tier, and they went out with me.

01:14:20So you aim for what you can get.

01:14:24Why is it possible to sell to women that they can get more than they can get?

01:14:30Why is it possible to sell to women that they can get more than they deserve?

01:14:48How is this achieved?

01:14:50How is this miracle achieved?

01:14:53How is this miracle achieved that you can convince women

01:14:56that they deserve more than they can get?

01:15:00Well, you give them a giant subsidy called sex.

01:15:06That's right.

01:15:09That's right.

01:15:10Sex and sexual access adds three points to a woman's attractiveness.

01:15:16It's actually pi, but I don't want to get into all of those 3.14159627 stringo numbers.

01:15:27So you get a massive subsidy as a woman called sexual access.

01:15:37And with a sexual access, a woman who's 5 can get a guy who's 8 to sleep with her.

01:15:41A woman who's a 6 can get a guy who's a 9.

01:15:43A woman who's a 2 can get a guy who's a 5 because they're offering sex.

01:15:47So you get a subsidy.

01:15:49And then you say to women, that's what you deserve.

01:15:53Now, women know exactly what value sexual access adds to their dating market value

01:16:02because they offer it.

01:16:04So if a 5 woman goes to an 8 guy and says,

01:16:09we're not going to have sex for at least 3 to 6 months,

01:16:12then he probably won't go out with her.

01:16:15But if she's like, we'll have sex on the second date or the third date,

01:16:18he'll dip down and get his rocks off and then move on.

01:16:32So what happens is you convince women to sleep with men.

01:16:36What is this, the 30 under 30? Sleep with 30 men under 30.

01:16:39Or Sheryl Sandberg in Lean In was saying, go date, go have sex, go do this, go do that.

01:16:43And what that does is it trains women to believe that they can get more than they deserve

01:16:53because they can subsidize with sex.

01:16:56You can hold out for the perfect job if mommy and daddy are paying your bills.

01:17:02But all you're doing is decaying and destroying your resume.

01:17:05Yeah, this is why less attractive women wear more revealing clothing.

01:17:08Right, so the single moms on dating apps show a lot of skin, of course.

01:17:14Of course.

01:17:16Please discuss Trump.

01:17:18Yeah, we're going to stop this bit and I'll do half hour straight up Trump.

01:17:21Yeah, don't waste away in your 20s, go live it up.

01:17:24Yeah, ride the carousel, go round and round, listen to the music.

01:17:27So what it does is it raises women's expectations to the point

01:17:31where they can't pair bond with someone suitable for them.

01:17:35And pornography and other sexual fetishes and perfect bodies and faces does this for men too.

01:17:42If you spend too much time around obscene beauty,

01:17:46average attractiveness looks revolting to you.

01:17:49Right?

01:17:59So women think they can have the same caliber of man they can sleep with in a relationship.

01:18:04That's right.

01:18:05So women think that they can sleep a man, they can have sex with a man and then he'll commit to them.

01:18:09And honestly, from the male perspective,

01:18:13if the woman has sex with you too quickly, you will not commit to her.

01:18:19Because she's desperate.

01:18:23I hate to say it, like, come on guys, let's be honest with each other.

01:18:26Right? Let's be honest with each other.

01:18:28If a woman sleeps with you too quickly, maybe you'll have your fun, but you're not going to marry her.

01:18:32Because she's kind of desperate and kind of deluded.

01:18:41Yeah, of course, they sleep with the Chad, they sleep with the Chad,

01:18:45but they can't keep them.

01:18:47That seems a bit of a leap.

01:18:48That's not an argument.

01:18:50That's not an argument.

01:18:57I mean, if men are honest, if a woman puts...

01:19:00And this is tough for women, right?

01:19:01Because it used to be that women would have to secure the commitment of marriage before having sex.

01:19:06But now, all of these women are throwing the V-bombs everywhere.

01:19:10And how is a woman supposed to compete based on the quality of her character

01:19:15if men are getting easy sex from other women?

01:19:23So, you can get a man to sleep with you,

01:19:27but how do you measure success?

01:19:31Marriages.

01:19:33And women get frustrated.

01:19:35Because they subsidize relationships with sexual access,

01:19:38which means they get a higher quality man, or a more attractive man, or whatever it is,

01:19:42and then they say, but men won't commit.

01:19:44Oh, men are commitment-phobic.

01:19:45It's like, no, you're just aiming too high.

01:19:48You're just aiming too high.

01:19:52For a woman to subsidize a relationship with sex

01:19:56and then complain that the man won't commit

01:19:58is like a man buying everything for the woman,

01:20:01and flying her everywhere, and giving her lots of money,

01:20:03and then complaining that she's only in it for the money.

01:20:07Why do women think they can have a relationship

01:20:10with the same caliber of men that they can sleep with?

01:20:12Especially if it never happens.

01:20:15Well, because women think that men are like them.

01:20:19This is what's happened when we blended the sexes together, right?

01:20:22Women are just like men, and women can kick ass,

01:20:25and women can be ninja warriors, and take down guys twice their size.

01:20:30And so, we've blended the two sexes together,

01:20:32and said men and women are basically the same.

01:20:34And what that does is it has women fundamentally

01:20:36not understanding male nature.

01:20:41Male nature is provider or man-whore.

01:20:45That's male nature, and we understand why.

01:20:48Because a provider male is in a situation of social stability.

01:20:53You want to raise your kids.

01:20:54You want to provide, and protect, and pair bonding,

01:20:58and monogamy, and invest in your kids.

01:21:00Absolutely.

01:21:01But if there's been some horrible war or plague that hits men more,

01:21:06then if you've got 80% of men decimated,

01:21:11then the other men have to stop pair bonding

01:21:14and reproduce to replenish the tribe, right?

01:21:23So, men have to be able to flip between provider and man-whore.

01:21:27Because sometimes men are needed to repopulate the tribe

01:21:30because a man can get five women pregnant in a day,

01:21:34but it doesn't work the other way.

01:21:41And so, women think,

01:21:42well, because I pair bond when I sleep with someone,

01:21:45men also pair bond when they sleep with someone.

01:21:47And it's like, we don't.

01:21:49Like, we don't. We don't.

01:21:50That's just not how we've evolved.

01:21:52It's not how our mechanics work.

01:21:54It's not how our emotions work.

01:21:59It's not how our nervous systems work.

01:22:02It's not how our dopamine works.

01:22:04So, the women feel like,

01:22:06well, I mean, if I sleep with a guy,

01:22:08I'm already starting the pair bonding process.

01:22:10And they think,

01:22:11because they've been told that men are just like women,

01:22:13they think that men are doing that too.

01:22:15And they get incredibly angry and frustrated

01:22:17when that doesn't pay off.

01:22:19Of course.

01:22:21I understand that.

01:22:23But it used to be that the exploration of the vive la différance,

01:22:28the exploration of the difference between men and women

01:22:30used to be a very fun and exciting and cool thing.

01:22:33Women are delightfully incomprehensible.

01:22:35Love them to death.

01:22:37Half the time, I don't know what the hell is going on.

01:22:39It's fine.

01:22:41I'm sure I'm delightfully incomprehensible to women too.

01:22:49And men are also,

01:22:54you know, with the sort of pornography problem and so on,

01:22:57men are also, you know, pair bonding with

01:23:00bizarre, over-lit physical perfection.

01:23:02And, you know, often there are erectile problems

01:23:05when it's actual real women in a real room, right?

01:23:08All right.

01:23:10I think we got everywhere.

01:23:11Let me just go and check over here.

01:23:16What did we get?

01:23:18Ah, so nice to livestream to Rumble.

01:23:21Cozy five bucks.

01:23:22I do appreciate everyone over here on Locals though.

01:23:25Have you discussed what helps men bond to women?

01:23:27Sorry if I missed it.

01:23:31Sure, I can talk about this very briefly.

01:23:33So what helps men bond to women

01:23:36is a woman who offers more than sex, right?

01:23:41So she offers support and help and encouragement and so on.

01:23:45I mean, I talked about this way back in the day

01:23:48that I first started to become seriously interested in the woman

01:23:51who became my wife when I had some sandals

01:23:55that were being repaired downtown

01:23:57and she offered to pick them up for me

01:23:58because she was going downtown anyway.

01:24:00And I was like, what?

01:24:04You're going to like voluntarily help me out

01:24:07and I won't pay for it later?

01:24:09Let's get married.

01:24:10Done, done and done.

01:24:12Just be helpful, right?

01:24:15Be supportive, be positive, right?

01:24:17Because the man is going to be serving you

01:24:19by providing money and protection.

01:24:25The man is going to be supporting you

01:24:27by providing money and protection.

01:24:28The man is looking for something back

01:24:30called support and help.

01:24:34So, yeah, just do that

01:24:37and any decent man will bond with you like that.

01:24:39Just be helpful.

01:24:42If the man gets the sense that you want to make his life better

01:24:47and it's not a trap,

01:24:49that's where the pair bonding happens.

01:24:55All right, so we're going to spend a little bit of time now.

01:24:57I'm going to go to Donor Only.

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