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This lecture explores the challenges surrounding women's rights in today's political climate, focusing on reproductive rights and the anxiety fueled by misinformation. The speaker analyzes modern relationship dynamics and the concept of "sexual market value," urging women to prioritize personal growth and qualities beyond physical appeal to foster genuine connections. The discussion highlights the intersection of societal pressures and personal development in the ongoing discourse about women's rights.

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00:00Good morning, everybody. It's Ivan Mullany from FreedomAid. Hope you're doing well.
00:03So, of course, there does seem to be rather a bit of hysteria at the moment among some of the
00:08fairer sexist circles in that women seem to genuinely believe that they're losing their rights,
00:13that they're losing, with the election of Donald Trump, they're losing their rights.
00:17And it seems to be something that is very true and very vivid.
00:22And I'm just here to tell you what's going on with some real sympathy.
00:27So, men, if a law was passed that said you could only date women with a BMI of 30 or more,
00:42like some significantly overweight women, or you could only date women who were 45 and older,
00:50then you would get very upset, right? You would get very upset.
00:54If you could only date women who were extremely tall or extremely short or whatever it is that you would find
01:03some sort of negative physical characteristic, but probably the one that's most vivid is the obesity one.
01:07So, if a law was passed that said you were only allowed to date women who were obese, you'd be very upset.
01:14You'd be very upset because your preferences that you have would no longer be achievable.
01:20If you wanted a slender woman, you wouldn't be allowed to date a slender woman.
01:22You'd have to date an obese woman. So, you'd be upset.
01:26If a law was passed for men, like let's say you've got some money,
01:31and if a law was passed for men that said you were never allowed to spend any money on dates,
01:39you had to pretend that you were broke, right?
01:41You didn't have to pretend that, well, we're just going to go for a walk.
01:43Maybe we'll get something from a hot dog stand.
01:45Like if there was a law that was passed that said you're only allowed to spend $10 or $20 on a date
01:50and you're not allowed to have a nice car, you're not allowed to have nice clothes,
01:55you're not allowed to display your wealth in any particular way, that would be frustrating.
02:00Like you would feel like, well, I mean, I have this money, I want to spend some money on some dates,
02:03like to impress the woman, like to show my competence and so on.
02:07Well, that would be frustrating for you.
02:10If you had to date overweight women, if you couldn't spend any money on dates,
02:13that would significantly lower the quality of the women that you were able to date.
02:19So just so you understand.
02:21So this is what women are experiencing because they've been told that, I mean,
02:26it's really, really toxic and dangerous nonsense.
02:29So the women have been told that ectopic pregnancies are now illegal,
02:33that you're going to be prosecuted for having a miscarriage,
02:35that you can't get health care in the event of a pregnancy problem, which is all false.
02:43It's all false.
02:46Or that if they get raped, they'll have to bring the baby to term.
02:50And again, I'm no lawyer, but as far as I understand it,
02:52if you get raped and you go to the hospital, of course,
02:56we have a massive sympathy for such a trauma,
02:58then you would get a morning after pill to prevent pregnancy and so on.
03:01So there's lots of sort of choices and options.
03:05And it is really, it's terrible to tell women that they can't get health care
03:08if they have an ectopic pregnancy or if they have a miscarriage.
03:12I mean, that's just not true. And it does prevent women.
03:15Some women will not go for health care because they're afraid of legal problems
03:18and they just won't get the health care that they need.
03:21And these difficult and sometimes, well, ectopic is quite dangerous, I think.
03:26But miscarriages is very unpleasant and can be, of course, medically problematic.
03:33So women believe that they can't get abortions
03:42and risky pregnancies and so on will not be treated,
03:47which is, again, not true as far as I know.
03:51So what that means is that women will not be able to subsidize
03:57their sexual market value with sexual access.
04:01And therefore, they will have uncovered before them.
04:06And, you know, vanity is a thing. I mean, I have some, I'm sure you have some.
04:11And finding out where we actually stand in the pecking order
04:14can be a rather brutal wake-up call, right?
04:19I mean, how attractive am I really, right?
04:21I mean, I think I'm all that in a slice of bread,
04:24but let's find out how attractive I am.
04:27Like we have this in the business world, we think we're worth a lot,
04:30but then we actually have to go and negotiate salary.
04:33We find out the truth about how much we're worth to others and so on, right?
04:38So for women, they are in the mental process of evaluating themselves.
04:47And of course, it's not all women, it's probably not even many women,
04:50but those who are making the most noise at the moment.
04:53They're going through the process and they're saying in their heart of hearts,
04:59I'm now going to find out the men who will marry me
05:06versus the men who will sleep with me, right?
05:09They're going to go and find out, or they're in the process of finding out
05:12what are the qualities of the men who will marry them
05:17rather than the men who will just sleep with them.
05:19Because if a man is a nine and a woman is a five,
05:25the man may very well sleep with her,
05:27but he's not going to become her boyfriend, he's not going to marry her.
05:30And I'm not just talking about looks, there could be other qualities as well.
05:36So when women are complaining that they're losing their rights,
05:41and what they are complaining about is that their right, in a sense,
05:48or their capacity to access more attractive men through subsidizing
05:53relationships with sexual access is being threatened.
05:57It's the same thing if welfare or alimony and so on were threatened
06:05or were diminished in some manner,
06:08then women would be bringing less money to the table,
06:11and so for some women, bringing that money to the table
06:14can allow them to get access to a more attractive male.
06:20So really, if you want to know that the hysteria that's going on
06:23is the hysteria of, and it's a humiliating thing,
06:26because women don't feel very good, deep down,
06:29about getting men to sleep with them but not commit to them.
06:33It's enraging, frustrating.
06:36Women are complaining all the time, you know,
06:38I thought we met on a couple of dates, it was great,
06:41and then he just ghosted me.
06:42They just get really frustrated and angry and upset,
06:44and I completely understand that.
06:46I completely understand that.
06:48I mean, it's like a man who, let's say he's very, very wealthy,
06:51and he pays for really fun activities for all of his friends,
06:55and then they don't stick around.
06:59It turns out they weren't really his friends.
07:01Oh, they were just here for the money,
07:03because I flew them to, I don't know, Cabo Santa Maria,
07:07I flew them to the Turks and Caicos,
07:09and we had a fantastic weekend of wakeboarding and partying,
07:13and I paid for everyone, and I paid for the flights and the hotels,
07:16and then let's say he falls upon hard times
07:19and that his friends don't stick around.
07:21He's frustrated and he's bitter,
07:23and he's finding out how many people like him
07:25versus how many people like his money.
07:27I'm trying to give it sort of in the male equivalent
07:29so we can have some sympathy for this process.
07:33So if we gave average-looking men $3 million when they turned 18,
07:43then they would be able to spend a lot of money,
07:45they'd be able to have a lot of fun,
07:47and they'd be able to attract more attractive women
07:50in part through the resources.
07:53And then if we took that money away,
07:58and the young man, rather than having millions and millions of dollars,
08:01he would actually have to attract women and friends
08:04through the quality of his character, his personality, and so on,
08:07he'd be frustrated and there would be a sense of terror
08:10at the base of his soul.
08:13We all, I can obviously speak for myself,
08:15we all have to go through this process of how valuable am I really,
08:20as opposed to what I, you know, we all daydream,
08:22we're all going to be, you know, I don't know,
08:24astronauts and superstars and all these sorts of things.
08:28I had, of course, my own ambitions and dreams and fantasies
08:31about things as a kid.
08:33And then we all have to get sorted in the actual pecking order of life, right?
08:39We go out with big plans and ideals and dreams,
08:41and then we get sorted into the actual thing.
08:43So women, unfortunately, in the modern world,
08:46and it's very bad for both men and women,
08:48they can have, in a sense, consequence-free sexuality.
08:53In other words, the sexuality that is designed to pair-bond humans
08:57with the goal of creating a stable marriage
09:02in which to raise children, right?
09:04The purpose of human sexuality is to pair-bond people,
09:07to create stable marriages for the purposes of raising children,
09:10being raised in a stable two-parent household
09:13is by far, like, almost infinitely the best for children.
09:17So the purpose of human sexuality,
09:22if pair-bonding for the sake of raising children,
09:25and to use it recreationally for your own vanity,
09:28or to use it to, I don't know, be flown around the world
09:31so you can have fun travel because men are sexually interested in you,
09:35to use it to subsidize your vanity, to say,
09:37oh, here's a picture of the guy I'm dating,
09:39look how handsome he is, look how successful he is,
09:42and then getting embittered and ghosting and so on
09:45as the man moves on because he's just sleeping with you,
09:47he's not committing to you,
09:49that whole process is really tough.
09:52I mean, it's a tough but necessary process
09:54to find out where you stand in the actual pecking order.
09:58You may recall, if you've been around for a while,
10:00I went through this a couple of years ago,
10:03and it's a necessary and healthy process
10:06to find out what your actual value is.
10:08So just so you know, when women feel like they're having their rights taken away
10:12and they gravitate quite a bit towards any potential restrictions on abortion,
10:18then what is happening deep down
10:23is that women are confronting in their heart of hearts
10:28the gap between the men who will sleep with them,
10:32who can be very attractive, and I'm not necessarily saying high quality,
10:35but in terms of like status and money and looks,
10:38they're saying, what is the gap between the men who will sleep with me
10:42and the men who will get down on one knee with a ring and propose to me?
10:48And that gap can be quite large.
10:51That gap can be quite large.
10:53And if you have attuned your entire reproductive strategy to high-value men
10:59that you get as the result of subsidizing the relationship with sexuality,
11:04then if that subsidy is threatened,
11:07if the subsidy which gets you up in the rank of sexual market value,
11:11if that is threatened, you really feel like a right is being taken away,
11:15that something is being stripped away from you,
11:18something is being taken from you,
11:20and it's really, really painful and difficult and frustrating and frightening
11:25to find out where you stand.
11:27Vanity is not a bad thing.
11:29I mean, it's good to have high ambitions,
11:31but we do have to adjust over time to what we can actually achieve
11:34rather than what we believe we can achieve or what is subsidized, right?
11:40And so that's why there's this vivid sense of rights being taken away,
11:46and it is a necessary adjustment to reality.
11:49For a woman, it is very important to find out not who will sleep with you,
11:54but who will marry you, and that is a very, very difficult process.
11:59If you can't subsidize relationships with sexual access,
12:04then you can get high-quality men by becoming a high-quality woman
12:08in terms of virtue and commitment and consistency and trust and honesty.
12:13You can definitely get high-quality men,
12:16but rather than just subsidizing with sexuality,
12:19you have to become a high-quality woman,
12:22and that is a tough journey.
12:24It's a tougher journey rather than offering up sex.
12:28It's tougher to be good than to provoke lust through sexual displays.
12:34It's a necessary process.
12:36It's a process I sympathize with and I understand,
12:39but just bye-bye if you're wondering what's going on at the moment.
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