I get this question a lot in direct messages.
If we think our spouse is cheating, then we are afraid. Fear has the same goal all the time. It wants to lure us into a trap of self-defense that ultimately destroys us.
So, if we believe that our spouse is cheating and we are afraid of that, the first trap that fear lays: we are so afraid of the truth that we won’t look at it. It’s a very obvious truth; it’s there, but we are unwilling to look because if we do it might hurt us. I am not talking about presuming things or assuming things. I am talking about very obvious truths no one can deny.
The other thing fear wants you to do--fear wants you to fight other people to protect yourself. It wants you to accuse other people without really knowing the truth.
What you should do is not accuse people, not ignore obvious truths—but if there is something specifically that someone is doing that is concerning you, and, it’s your spouse, why not just tell them: this concerns me a little bit. Can you please help me understand?
Again, don’t accuse them. If they can’t’ help you understand, ask them a little more about that.
And, don’t ignore the obvious truth.
Trust God’s Word no matter what, because His word is truth.
Keep your eyes on the horizon.
Join us on “The Right Fight” podcast.
Kenny Vaughan
If we think our spouse is cheating, then we are afraid. Fear has the same goal all the time. It wants to lure us into a trap of self-defense that ultimately destroys us.
So, if we believe that our spouse is cheating and we are afraid of that, the first trap that fear lays: we are so afraid of the truth that we won’t look at it. It’s a very obvious truth; it’s there, but we are unwilling to look because if we do it might hurt us. I am not talking about presuming things or assuming things. I am talking about very obvious truths no one can deny.
The other thing fear wants you to do--fear wants you to fight other people to protect yourself. It wants you to accuse other people without really knowing the truth.
What you should do is not accuse people, not ignore obvious truths—but if there is something specifically that someone is doing that is concerning you, and, it’s your spouse, why not just tell them: this concerns me a little bit. Can you please help me understand?
Again, don’t accuse them. If they can’t’ help you understand, ask them a little more about that.
And, don’t ignore the obvious truth.
Trust God’s Word no matter what, because His word is truth.
Keep your eyes on the horizon.
Join us on “The Right Fight” podcast.
Kenny Vaughan
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