Women are their own Worst Enemy

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Featuring Cardinals Elle Wyse & Clark Isaac, revealing abusive and manipulative women, the importance of conventional relationship dynamics, what the word of God says, and the simple needs of both partners.
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00:00The end of Brian Banks ordeal was marked by tears after a judge threw out the rape charge
00:14that had sent him to prison for more than five years.
00:18My only dream in the world was to just be free and to have the same opportunity as everybody
00:25here.
00:26He was a 16-year-old star linebacker with a full-ride scholarship to USC and a dream
00:32to play in the NFL, when in 2002, a classmate accused Banks of raping her in the stairwell
00:39of their Long Beach high school.
00:41Although Banks insisted it was consensual and there was no sex, he told KCBS-TV that
00:46his defense attorney at the time gave him a choice, plead no contest to rape or risk
00:51a trial that could send him to prison for life.
00:54When you go into that courtroom, the jury is going to see a big black teenager and you're
00:59automatically going to be assumed guilty.
01:02Those are her exact words.
01:03He took the deal, went to prison and had to register as a sex offender.
01:08He thought that was the end of it.
01:10But after he was released came a surprise, a friend request on Facebook from his accuser,
01:17Juanetta Gibson.
01:18I remember closing the laptop real quick and just thinking, what did I just see?
01:24So Banks arranged a meeting with a private investigator who videotaped the whole thing.
01:31Gibson later explained she hadn't wanted to say that publicly for fear of losing a $1.5
01:36million settlement that her family had gotten after suing the school district.
01:41I may not ever get the answers as to why I was supposed to go through what I went through.
01:46But I know that I'm here today and I remain unbroken.
01:51Unbroken and working to get his life back on track.
01:55Those dreams of playing in the NFL, he says, might be realized yet.
02:00Lee Cowan, CBS News, Los Angeles.
02:07Cardinal Ali Weiss, thanks for joining us.
02:10Thank you.
02:11Thank you for having me.
02:12Yeah, no problem.
02:13We've got a topic that has been a popular point of discussion in social media a lot
02:20lately.
02:21We're talking about abusive, entitled, these types of women that take control of men and
02:36really ruin their lives just for their own betterment, for their own selfish gain.
02:49I wouldn't say that all women are that evil, but some women truly are evil.
02:54Yeah.
02:55I would say borderline psychopathic at times, the way that they go out and they know what
03:04they're doing.
03:05Believe you me, they do know.
03:07And they are looking for a target, something that's a prime target.
03:13Like a predator.
03:14A millionaire, a sportsman that's got a lot of money, got a reputation that they can destroy.
03:23You can guarantee they'll probably go for them to try and bring them down, to try and
03:27destroy their lives.
03:28And take everything that they have.
03:29And take everything.
03:30And you saw that case that we were just watching there.
03:37Ultimately the reason she did what she did was for a settlement of over a million dollars
03:42from the school district.
03:44She didn't want to tell the truth about it because that would have made it so she didn't
03:48have all those nice little goodies and treats and trinkets and treasures.
03:53One good thing is truth always reveals itself in the end.
03:58And unfortunately, I mean, this guy, he was lucky, but there are so, so many men in the
04:07system today that have been falsely accused of rape.
04:11I want to ask you something.
04:13Why do you, what's the mentality there?
04:16Like why do women, why do some of them do that?
04:21What were they brought up to believe that made them behave this way?
04:24Well, it boils down to a lot of coaching by their mothers.
04:31Nine times out of ten, their mothers were also the same kind of persona, looking out
04:40for themselves, trying to get rich quick, getting pregnant so that they can trap the
04:47man.
04:48I don't know if my sister's spoken about that yet, but they entrap the men.
04:53They'll do anything they can to get that money.
04:57Now, the younger generations learn from the mothers.
05:02I have heard umpteen conversations by other women and they are out to, yes, destroy a
05:12man.
05:13I've heard them coming into the ladies together.
05:15If you ever wondered why they do that.
05:17So they can talk about you and a lot of the conversations have been really disgusting
05:24in my opinion.
05:25Yeah.
05:26Well, speaking of childhood, growing up as a boy, I played mostly with other boys and
05:37even when I was playing by myself, I would play with Legos, I would be building stuff
05:43and I would be imagining what kind of world I could create and such a deep imagination
05:50in that way.
05:51I think all children are like that in that they all have a very deep imagination, but
05:55I noticed when I started going to daycare and hanging around more with girls than I
06:00did before, that they had a different way of playing.
06:03While they did also have a deep imagination, they weren't out there, they weren't building
06:08things with Lego blocks.
06:09They were playing with dolls and simulating these intricate relationship dynamics.
06:14Correct.
06:15Yes.
06:16In the little playhouse, they have a little cooker and stuff like that and all the dolls
06:20and sitting down to so-called feed them.
06:23Yeah.
06:24The guys, I used to get a little bit jelly with this because they'd go out and they'd
06:30be playing like with a baseball bats or other things to create stuff, building blocks.
06:36I used to actually join in a little bit with them.
06:41One thing I noticed right away about, and clearly you were spared from some of that
06:47social manipulation that was going on, but I noticed that the girls, they would simulate
06:52these relationship dynamics that were like a reflection of what they were taught, whether
06:57it be from their parents or mother, but also from things like Disney.
07:01Yes.
07:02They emulated to be a princess.
07:06Yes.
07:07They all wanted to be royalty or doted over in some way where they were treated as though
07:14they were man.
07:15Pampered.
07:16God's gift to men, treasure themselves.
07:19Yeah.
07:20The thing is, with that ideology that was created by Disney, it is a prima donna kind
07:27of falsehood.
07:29You can't just wear a tiara and not realize the gravity of that crown.
07:35So if you take that perspective, if you really want to teach your girl responsibilities and
07:42maturity and morals and everything that is good, then you show them that, you teach them
07:50properly.
07:51You don't just plug them in front of the TV and say, that's how you're princesses.
07:55It's wrong.
07:56It's a false illusion.
07:57Yeah.
07:59That's a good thing to show them that without teaching them anything about the responsibility.
08:04Because really, none of those Disney movies really express what the responsibility of
08:08a queen really is.
08:09Exactly.
08:10They just show them this whimsical path of receiving all these blessings when doing nothing
08:15to earn them.
08:16And the thing is, with the woman's mind, she's thinking, oh, I want that.
08:21I want the guy to give me everything so that happens in one way, shape, or form.
08:26So she'll have the guy work two or three jobs to make sure she has that lifestyle she's
08:32used to.
08:33The cars, the clothes, the makeup, all the bits and jewelry and stuff.
08:38She wants that, but she's forgetting one flaw.
08:44If she wants to be treated like a queen, she has to treat her husband like the king that
08:49he is.
08:50Yeah, of course.
08:52With that, there can't be any deception.
08:56And some of these strange expectations that women seem to have for men to be some kind
09:01of mind reader, and to know what they're thinking, and to understand that many of these things
09:08that they do while are deceptive are actually supposed to be tests for the man.
09:13And I wanted to bring up a video here about that so that our audience can see what we're
09:19talking about.
09:20One of these examples, it's listed in this video.
09:23I've got us both up on the screen still, so feel free to let me know if you want to pause
09:27and we'll talk about it.
09:28So many times women say to me, it's like, oh, I told him I wanted a divorce, but hoping
09:32he'd come back for me, but he let me pack my bags.
09:34When we push you and you succumb to us, you automatically lose us.
09:38After I gave him the ultimatum, he just looked at me in my face and was like, if you feel
09:43like you need to move, move.
09:44Yes, I just really blurted that out.
09:46I did not mean it.
09:47I had no intention.
09:49She says, I just blurted it out.
09:51I didn't mean it.
09:53So she says she has no intention of actually leaving, but she's playing mind games.
10:02And real strong men, they don't play that game with them.
10:07They don't just say, oh, please don't do it.
10:10You know, they'll just let you do your thing and go on with your day.
10:16Yeah.
10:17You want to leave, leave.
10:18I'm not here to stop you.
10:19You know, like she's, she's very wrong in doing what she's doing by applying this pressure
10:26falsely.
10:27So I'm probably, I don't know who her husband or boyfriend was going to be, but he did the
10:33right move.
10:35He stood his ground and rightly so.
10:40And she's now panicking, thinking, ah, yeah, well, yeah, she can, uh, along to the streets.
10:47In fact, I think a lot more men nowadays should start standing up and say enough is enough.
10:53So the last day I was putting my stuff in the car, he came over and helped me put my
10:59stuff in the car.
11:00There's been so many times where women say to me, it's like, oh, I told him I wanted
11:03divorce, but hoping he'd come back for me, but he let me pack my bags.
11:06So sometimes they file for divorce or take it that far as a way of testing their partner.
11:11And if they're with quite a healthy partner, they'll think you mean it.
11:14The easiest way to lose a confident man who knows himself is to use this type of strategy.
11:19It only works with guys who aren't sure about themselves or are dependent on their spouse.
11:24That's really a codependence right there.
11:27And I think also, I think we need to also bring up the fact that, you know, I'm not
11:34going to say it's a bad thing, but I'm not going to say it's a bad thing, but I'm not
11:39going to say it's a bad thing.
11:41I think also, I think we need to also bring up the fact that probably the man in that
11:48kind of thing would take that kind of abuse and that kind of test and weaken, are actually
11:54more likely to have actually grown up in a fatherless relationship.
11:59Where's the dad figure that can turn around to him and say, look, stand up for yourself, son?
12:05Well, yeah, maybe.
12:08I'm sure that there's exceptions to every dynamic there, but oftentimes, you know, a
12:15partner will want to see the potential in their partner that's really like deep down
12:22and they want to give them a chance to change.
12:25But the reality is people are who they are and it just takes us time to realize that
12:31if somebody wants to change, then they're going to certainly act differently than trying
12:36to manipulate their partner.
12:38I mean, it's one thing I noticed about men.
12:40You don't push them like that.
12:42You're going to get, you're not going to get anywhere fast.
12:46You know, there's one thing about testing, but I don't believe in it.
12:50I really don't.
12:51Why do that, especially when it's a good guy, a really nice guy that you've got your hopes
12:57on and you're going to mess it up greatly if you start doing these ultimatums.
13:04It's almost like they're trying to narrow it down to make sure that he's a good guy,
13:08that make sure he's a nice guy.
13:10But every good person has their limits as to how much abuse they're willing to tolerate.
13:16And the thing is men are very, very simplistic.
13:18They're very logical.
13:20So I've got a classic.
13:24You go and ask for, say, a red jumper, right?
13:29You haven't told the guy what the color of the red jumper is.
13:31You just said red.
13:33A guy will go into a shopping precinct, go into the first red jumper that he sees and
13:40buy it for you and bring it back because he's the hunter gatherer.
13:45Now, a woman would say, oh, I didn't want that one.
13:48That's not right.
13:49That's the wrong kind of red.
13:51She should have been more detailed.
13:53If she wanted that kind of red, she could have at least used her brain and thought, right,
13:59I'll get something that he can take with him.
14:01So he knows exactly which red it is.
14:05It's nagging him afterwards to say you got it wrong.
14:08This is oddly specific.
14:10It's almost like something you went through.
14:13Yeah.
14:16You had to specify red jumper, you know?
14:18But what I did is actually gave him an actual color sheet and I said that color there.
14:25And he went, ah, good.
14:26No, thanks.
14:26Thanks for the contest.
14:30Let's play some more of this, shall we?
14:56All types of storms.
14:58So we have to test them.
15:00So we have to, unfortunately, test them.
15:02We have to test, are they going to be faithful, financially stable, have their own boundaries?
15:06Now, the problem is, unfortunately for men, when we push you and you succumb to us,
15:12you automatically lose us.
15:13What we're saying when we're pushing you is really make sure you don't give into this,
15:17because if you do, then I know you're not strong enough.
15:19Oh, my God, give me an example.
15:20It might be something like I push a man to say, I'm going to come home when I want.
15:24I'm going to come on girls trips.
15:25I'm going to do whatever I want.
15:27And then when you actually give in and say, OK, essentially, she feels like she's not
15:31being protected.
15:32So she feels like nobody's governing her.
15:33You don't have a spine.
15:34You're not responsible.
15:36Or she might say, I'm talking to my ex-boyfriend.
15:38And you say, I don't feel comfortable with that.
15:40She went, no, you have to, I have to, I have to.
15:42Fine, he accepts it.
15:43Essentially, she's saying that you don't mind if I have an affair.
15:46Bye.
15:46Essentially, what we're begging for sometimes is the boundary.
15:50We're not looking for you to bow down.
15:51Wow.
15:52So hard for men to figure that out.
15:54Right, right.
15:56I hate to say it, but if the shoe is under the foot, just say that I'm in that situation.
16:05And my partner is turning around and saying, oh, I'm just getting in contact with a partner
16:11that's whatever, and doing it as a test, and trying to test me to see if I'm loyal or whatever.
16:18I would say, well, bye-bye.
16:21Yeah, well, I could say, from my experience, I've tested women quite frequently, and they
16:30all fail, almost every single one of them, until I moved to Mexico.
16:37Because it's like, the women here, they just know how to treat a man.
16:40They know what to do, and they don't have to be told.
16:44You want to test, and really not be very clear about what that test is, and try to use subtle
16:50psychology, well, I guess the true test of a person is to see what they'll do without
16:56being influenced.
16:57You've just struck on something that really comes to mind.
17:01You get different variations of women.
17:06We call them Eve and Lilith.
17:07Hopefully, my sister will do a teaching later on on that.
17:12But there are different types of women on this earth, and you get some, even like in
17:19the lower states, where they are trained from a young age.
17:25That's your husband.
17:26You respect your husband.
17:27You balance your husband.
17:29You do everything in the household for your husband.
17:32A real homely woman, as they reference us, she supports her husband through her life,
17:40right?
17:40She supports her husband thick and thin, and he loves her, and he provides for her, and
17:46the balance is perfect to a degree.
17:49You can't get any more perfect than that.
17:51Yeah, that's harmony.
17:52That's true harmony right there.
17:53And then you've got the other extreme, where you've got the women that are into careers.
17:59Yes, fine, fair enough.
18:01But it's like they've lost their part of themselves that God gave them.
18:10A man is the balance that they need.
18:13If they can't treat a man right, then they're already beaten.
18:17It's like there's a spiritual influence there too.
18:20And when some of these crimes happen within abusive relationships, it's been characterized
18:32that men are more often the abusers than women.
18:36But there's actually information out there to support the contrary, and that men often
18:44just don't say anything.
18:46More often, men are actually being abused and just not reporting it because it's not
18:54just about pride.
18:58It's about being viewed as a grown man who can take care of himself and take care of
19:04his relationship.
19:05And to be able to be in charge of one's own life is paramount for all men.
19:13It's so important to us to know that we can take care of business and that we can take
19:18care of family, house, and home too.
19:21And to have to report to an authority figure about this, and not only be rejected more
19:27often, not believed, to be thought that, well, you might be the abuser.
19:32But men can't even react to it.
19:35They can't protect themselves.
19:37They risk going to jail for defending themselves to physical violence from women.
19:42My father used to say to my brothers, don't hit a woman.
19:47Don't hit a woman.
19:49Take the abuse.
19:50Take the abuse if you have to.
19:52But never lay a hand on a woman.
19:54Thing is, I'm a woman, right?
19:59But I turn around and say, at the end of the day, if that woman is out of order and out
20:04of line and abusing you, defend yourself.
20:08Stand up.
20:09Make the reports.
20:11And this is really a Western way of thinking to think, well, you can't defend yourself,
20:15that sort of thing.
20:16In fact, in some Eastern cultures, including Muslim cultures, they're taught within their
20:23law, Sharia law, and in the Hadith that Sharia law is derived from, that oftentimes women
20:31deserve to be put in their place physically.
20:34And you might even see examples of it on video of men with sticks beating the backs of their
20:41daughters and wives simply from misbehaving.
20:44But with the influence of Western culture, that risk is even more so there now than it
20:51was before.
20:52And they're really cracking down on this in Islamic countries.
20:58Iran had a cultural revolution, I think it was back in the 70s, right?
21:02Wow.
21:03Yeah, about that.
21:04Yeah.
21:04And they gave women the right to vote.
21:08And it wasn't soon, well, it wasn't long after all that happened that they abolished
21:16it immediately.
21:18And all these women's rights just went away.
21:24And it wasn't a detriment to their society.
21:26In fact, it was a way of repairing the damage that was being done to their society.
21:30Well, that's good.
21:32That was very good.
21:33Because I do believe that, I mean, you got Britain, they had the suffragettes, they had
21:39the vote, and then they pushed on and pushed on and pushed on.
21:43Well, feminists, if you really want your equality, it's the wrong kind of equality you're after,
21:50not what you're doing, right?
21:52There's a different way of being equal and having the balance and understanding.
21:59You need to understand men and to appreciate men, to have that balance so you think alike.
22:09That's the balance.
22:10That's the equality.
22:12Thinking as one together.
22:16Not getting a hammer and saying to him he's useless and start doing stuff yourself.
22:23Belittling him.
22:24No, it's wrong.
22:26You're supposed to be the yin to his yang.
22:30And that's what you were created for as a patriarch.
22:35Patriarchy.
22:36That's almost like a buzzword these days too, isn't it?
22:39Um, there's this show from, it's called Tyra, it's from Tyra Banks.
22:47You gave me a clip of that.
22:48I'm going to go ahead and put that on here.
22:49This is an example of a very abusive relationship.
22:55We've all seen the headlines and we've read stories about men abusing women,
23:00but what we hear a lot less about are facts like this, okay?
23:04Every 38 seconds in this country, a man is being abused at the hands of a woman.
23:10Every 38 seconds.
23:13Kendra and Andrea have both hit and they have punched and they have spit at the men in their
23:20lives.
23:20Kendra's boyfriend Marcus is here now.
23:23Marcus, we saw in the tape what happens.
23:26Did you see that backstage?
23:27Were you watching it?
23:28I saw it backstage.
23:29What did it, when you're looking at that happen, what happens to you constantly,
23:34what are you thinking when you're looking at that?
23:35First of all, I feel like she doesn't love me.
23:38Like if you love somebody, you won't go that far to get their attention or just do anything
23:45like that to somebody to hurt them physically or mentally.
23:47Why let her hit you like that?
23:49I mean, me, me and Kendra, we have a son together and she doesn't look sorry about any of this.
23:54She doesn't look apologetic at all.
24:00But all this going on, I mean, it's not worth it.
24:04I'd rather be a good father.
24:05You know, I'm willing to bet that Tyra coached her before that show started.
24:08And she, she probably said something like, you better shut your mouth when we were talking.
24:13We're not going to tolerate any of this misbehavior while, while you're on stage.
24:17You better sit there and be quiet and you will speak when you're called upon.
24:21She comes across also as a narcissistic woman because she will eventually,
24:29because she's now put on the spot.
24:31Yeah.
24:32She's now put on the spot.
24:33She's going to try and play the victim now to a degree.
24:36Well, that's, that's clearly what's going to be happening.
24:37Yeah.
24:38We'll see how that goes.
24:39My son, like I've been doing without her in my life.
24:42So now a lot of people would ask, a lot of people would probably want me to ask you,
24:47are you cheating on her?
24:48Are you this?
24:49Are you that?
24:50And I honestly think all of that is irrelevant.
24:52Whether you're faithful, whether you're cheating, it has nothing to do with getting hit.
24:58Like if we were to flip it and there was a guy beating on a woman and I went and he was like,
25:03well, I think she's cheating on me, Tyra.
25:05And that's why I beat her.
25:06I went and asked the girl, well, are you cheating on him?
25:08Like, what does that have to do with getting your ass beat?
25:10You know what I'm saying?
25:11Like, so that's, that's exactly irrelevant.
25:15Are there people in your life that say, why are you,
25:18why are you putting up with this?
25:20They must know.
25:21Yes.
25:21I mean, before my grandmother passed away,
25:24she used to always like see the abuse I got from Kendra.
25:28She, what happened to your face?
25:30Why is your head bleeding?
25:31What do you say?
25:33I mean, me and Kendra got into it.
25:34I mean, I'm not going to lie to my grandmother.
25:36I told her the truth.
25:36Like me and Kendra got into it.
25:37What about work?
25:38You go to work and you see the people that you work with?
25:40I mean, when I go to work, I mean, I lie to my boss, basically.
25:44I tell him that, you know, I have a dog, like my dog scratched me up.
25:48We was playing too rough or I had broke up with my cousins fighting each other.
25:53But no.
25:53Wow.
25:54So you know, that's what women do.
25:56They say I fell down the stairs or I did this or I did that.
25:59But really, they're getting beat.
26:01OK, Kendra, what do you want with Marcus?
26:04Do you want to do you want to take the relationship further?
26:07What do you what do you want?
26:08I love Marcus.
26:10Marcus, I love you.
26:14I love you with all my heart.
26:19Say you're sorry.
26:21What what?
26:22And I know we need help.
26:24We need help.
26:25We need help.
26:26I need help.
26:28This relationship needs help.
26:30And I'm willing.
26:32She's lying.
26:33She's playing with her.
26:34I just need you to help me help myself.
26:37She's she's doing this.
26:39She's putting her hand down like this, right?
26:42She's in reflecting mode.
26:45Yeah, deflecting.
26:46Yeah, yeah.
26:48Uh, no, she's she's not willing to take responsibility.
26:54I've been with you going on four years.
26:57We've been through a lot of stuff, a lot.
27:00And through the four years, that's all I took was your abuse.
27:05You say the things that you say towards me that you know that hurt me.
27:08I've never had somebody break me down the way you break me down.
27:12Never.
27:13That's why she wants to marry you.
27:14What do you want?
27:16I'm not going to marry Kendra.
27:17I won't marry Kendra because what's going on right now
27:22is going to escalate and graduate to something else
27:24from the hitting, the kicking, the biting, the spitting.
27:30Next time, it won't probably be a stiletto in my head,
27:31probably be a bullet or a knife because of her anger.
27:34I agree.
27:34That's right.
27:35And I know I'm not perfect.
27:36I say things too.
27:38I say things.
27:39Wait, you say that you love me, right?
27:41Yeah, I love you.
27:42Well, why won't you help me make this back up?
27:44Kendra, you say that you love him, but you beat him.
27:46Do you understand that love is not pain?
27:49Love is not attack.
27:54And you know the most important thing
27:59before loving somebody else is self-love.
28:01And Marcus is finally showing that he loves himself.
28:04That's what he's showing right now.
28:07And without Marcus loving himself, he can't love you.
28:10Taking your beatings is not loving you.
28:12Staying is not loving you.
28:14That's showing your son a disgusting, negative, abusive
28:17relationship that he will either be the victim of
28:20or he will repeat and beat somebody else.
28:23So believe it or not, Marcus is showering you with so much
28:26love right now by saying, I don't want to be with you.
28:30And you were saying that you need to help him.
28:33He needs to help you help yourself.
28:35No, you need to help yourself, Kendra.
28:37You need to help.
28:40She needs to help her own son, her own child.
28:44Like she needs to stop looking just at herself.
28:48I mean, yeah, she needs to correct herself.
28:50She needs to be sorry for what she's done, for one.
28:53Exactly.
28:53And the thing is, he's correct because he turned around
28:56and said it could escalate to something far, far worse.
29:00It's far, far worse.
29:02And unfortunately, there is a fear that men have
29:06that wasn't expressed in this.
29:08And that's when men leave the relationship,
29:11they're often very limited on the amount
29:14that they're able to be a part of their children's lives.
29:18And it's most likely that she would gain custody, full custody.
29:24It would be very difficult for them to have shared custody,
29:27even more difficult for him to get full custody.
29:30And it's more likely that the family courts would side for her.
29:35And he would have some kind of visitation rights, perhaps.
29:38And that has been put into place as well,
29:40because of all this Me Too movement and feminism.
29:46They do it in such a way that the courts,
29:48there's even lawyers creating videos saying,
29:52oh, this is what we can do if you marry some millionaire
29:57and you want a divorce because he's not in
29:59or whatever you want to say about it.
30:02And we can get loads of money off him
30:05because you are the victim.
30:08You know, and I'm thinking, I cannot believe I'm hearing this.
30:12Well, the facts of life, especially in America, are this.
30:16More often than not, men are victims of domestic violence.
30:19And that violence has been known to escalate even worse
30:24than what would be just a slap, kick, punch or scratches.
30:28It's gotten to the point lately where men are being murdered.
30:33Yeah, exactly.
30:34And there's a case here that I know you wanted to show us.
30:37And I think we should watch it and talk about this too.
30:41This is very important.
30:43And while the majority of domestic violence victims are women,
30:46tonight we're diving deeper into cases where men are the victims.
30:50It's rare, but it does happen.
30:52And sometimes with deadly outcomes.
30:55ABC Action News reporter Michael Paluska tonight
30:57looking at two high profile cases with local connections.
31:05The knife entered Christian's chest in a downward angle
31:10to the depth of three inches.
31:13Miami, a social media influencer, arrested.
31:16We are charging 26-year-old Courtney Taylor Klenny
31:20with one count of second degree murder in Christian's death.
31:24Social media influencer, professional princess.
31:26Miami-Dade County State Attorney Katherine Fernandez-Rundle
31:29telling the media at an August news conference,
31:32all the signs were there.
31:34This fight in an elevator with Klenny and her boyfriend,
31:36Christian Abuseli is key evidence,
31:38along with constant noise complaints about violence.
31:41I've actually, in that times, I've seen women doing that.
31:43It was a homicide.
31:44In St. Petersburg, August 19th,
31:46Larry Jarrell is found inside the apartment he shared with his partner.
31:50They talk.
31:51Might get away with it.
31:51An eerily similar case where police say Jarrell was stabbed to death.
31:55The complaint showing that Spicer had a quote,
31:57Google search history of,
31:59do you spend life in prison if you killed someone in self-defense?
32:03Our advocates often have a very tough time
32:05that sometimes in abusive relationships,
32:08sometimes it happens within a 24-hour period
32:10that we'll get both partners in the relationship
32:13that reach out to us for help.
32:15Christine Meister is the outreach program manager
32:17at the Spring of Tampa Bay.
32:19She did not comment on these two specific cases,
32:22but spoke in general about what she's experienced when it comes to domestic violence involving men.
32:25That was a little Freudian slip there.
32:27She wouldn't speak directly about it, but she said that.
32:29When they're the victims.
32:30But they were both reporting this.
32:32What do they do about it?
32:34Nothing.
32:34They did nothing about it.
32:36They let this happen.
32:38So I think a lot of times when men are victims,
32:42they face additional biases.
32:45And a lot of that has to do with gender norms.
32:46Yeah, biases also against the system.
32:48And men have this expectation.
32:49Or from the system against them.
32:50To be more dominant in that relationship.
32:52In fact, you can see the difference between abuse for a guy and abuse for a woman.
32:58And they end up in jail.
33:00The sentences are a massive difference.
33:31I think they've actually manipulated the numbers greatly on that.
33:47Because there's a lot of men who haven't even come forward about what they're having to put up with.
33:54And a lot of it's all quiet.
33:57So these women think that they can do this to a guy.
34:04You know, if she hadn't of Google searched.
34:08If she were to get sentenced to life in prison for self-defense.
34:13For murdering him.
34:15If she hadn't of Google searched that.
34:17She probably, I'm just guessing.
34:20But it's very likely that she could have won the case for self-defense.
34:25And that is unbalancing those numbers right there.
34:29About the vast majority being women who are these victims.
34:35Because they're all labeling even the perpetrators as victims.
34:40Just because they're women.
34:44I remember a while back.
34:47They were actually turning around in a court.
34:50There was a guy who had his manhood chopped off.
34:54And she was turning around saying.
34:56No, he was.
34:57She was cheating on me.
34:59And then she was saying that she had mental issues.
35:02Something to do with PNT or something like that.
35:06And she was using everything in her arsenal as a woman.
35:09To get the courts to go on her side.
35:12But she committed a crime.
35:13Yeah.
35:14And thus at some point she became a victim.
35:19And her crime became excusable.
35:21Yeah.
35:22Outrageous.
35:26Violence again just weeks before Jarrell was found dead.
35:30No contact orders were also in place.
35:32In February, court records showed that Jarrell was also arrested for domestic violence.
35:37And pleaded no contest.
35:38The couple had three children together.
35:40Of course he pleaded no contest.
35:42Because that was the advice that his legal counsel gave to him.
35:45But there was a restraining order.
35:49Protection order.
35:50Restraining order.
35:50Same thing.
35:51Yeah.
35:53Preventing them from being together.
35:54So clearly the law wasn't even being enforced here.
35:58And the thing is, like I said, a lot of this manipulation's happened.
36:03Where the woman is getting away with a lot.
36:07She just has to cry wolf once.
36:10And immediately the authorities come down on the man.
36:14And you know, he's completely innocent.
36:17But she said, it's like he said, she said.
36:21But she's lying.
36:22She knows she's lying.
36:24But she gets the weight of the government, the police or whatever, on her side.
36:31Purely because she's a woman.
36:33And we're showing a lot of cases here from the United States of America.
36:38The Lord has said it clearly that the United States of America is the seat of Satan.
36:44That is his realm.
36:45And as the Lord said, we discussed this in previous episodes on the show,
36:52that Satan was told by the Lord that he knows judgment, but he does not know justice.
37:02And that is so clear with this matter that there's really no denying that fact alone.
37:08But there's scripture supporting the contrary, the contrast to this.
37:15That there's very clear instructions of how the dynamic of healthy romantic relationship
37:23should work between a man and a woman.
37:25Yes, definitely.
37:26I mean, for one, they've got, just for instance, wives be subject to husbands as to our Lord.
37:36Because the man is the head of the woman, just as the Messiah is the head of the church
37:43and savior of the body.
37:45So let's consider that, okay, Christ is the head of the church.
37:50So that means we're following his spirit, his teachings, his purpose.
37:57As members of the church, it's our duty to comprehend the reasons for these teachings,
38:02to apply it to ourselves, to first judge ourselves before judging anyone else,
38:09to better ourselves so that we're of greater service to others.
38:12Now, if Christ being the head of the church is the example comparable to a man being the head
38:19of his family, that means that those under the man in that family need to look to him
38:25as the teacher, the guide, the provider, but also do their very best to support him
38:32in everything that he does.
38:34Yes, I mean, God is the top with our Christ, his son.
38:43The husband is the representative in the household.
38:48He is everything embodied coming down from the father.
38:55He guides you, he protects you as a woman.
38:59The woman is next afterwards.
39:02She, like I said, she's the yin to the yang.
39:04She's the balance.
39:06She guides the household in such a fashion that he wants, right?
39:13That includes children.
39:16She's underneath.
39:17They look up then to their parents, honor thy father and thy mother.
39:24So that's their part as well.
39:27So everyone has a role within the family unit and a good wife who submits to her husband
39:37will be looked after.
39:39She looks after and teaches and nourishes because she's doing that for her husband.
39:44There's a quote from 1 Peter that you wanted me to put up.
39:48I just put it up on the screen for you.
39:50You wanted me to start at verse one.
39:53Yes, in this way.
39:55Also you, woman, submit to your husbands that you may win without labor
40:02those who do not obey the word of your beautiful way of life.
40:08When they see that you conduct yourselves in reverence and discretion,
40:14do not be adorned with outward ornaments of your hair braids or of your gold jewelry
40:23or fine clothing, but be adorned in the secret person of the heart in a humble spirit,
40:31which is uncorrupted and excellent ornament before God.
40:36For in this way, from the first, the holy woman who hoped in God were adorning their souls
40:46and they were submitted by to their husbands, just as Sarah was subject to Abram
40:51and was calling him, my Lord, those daughters you are by good works
40:59when you are not shaken with any fear.
41:02Any fear.
41:03That's so important.
41:04And there's so many ways to go about looking at this.
41:08There's, there's little points here and there that really stood out to me in the very beginning.
41:12Of course, it was talking about women submitting to their husbands,
41:15but there's a, there's a point there, which does offer like some contention
41:20and Western society today about women adorning themselves with ornaments, braids, fine clothing.
41:28You know, you were telling me earlier about how this is a fact of life.
41:32Most men know about this too.
41:34Women take their sweet time getting ready because they want to doll themselves up and
41:39put on their mask, which is sort of like this.
41:42It's almost like a Freudian representation of what's actually going on within.
41:45They're trying to cover up the reality of the situation.
41:49And that concealment is a form of its own form of deception.
41:53But not only that, as a man, I can attest that a woman putting on makeup,
42:01a woman dressing fancy is not important to me at all.
42:06I actually appreciate more modesty.
42:08I do.
42:09And it's not just from a religious perspective.
42:11It's that I get to see more about who you really are when I'm not distracted
42:17by your jumbly bits in the front shaking around in front of me or,
42:21worrying about some man walking by us lusting after you when truly you belong to me.
42:27That sort of dynamic needs to be between us in private.
42:30And it's not really for everyone else to oogle at.
42:33So I could totally relate to this on a personal level.
42:37I'm sure most men can.
42:39Most straight men.
42:41Um, but, um, some of these other factors here about, you know, women being daughters by good
42:51works and, and not, not shaken with any fear of basically doing this out of love, you know?
43:00I mean, I personally would, uh, if I was interested in a guy and, uh, I mean,
43:06I would make him a meal.
43:08I would definitely make him a meal.
43:10I'd probably go and, uh, go do his laundry, go and clean up after him, um, his house.
43:16But I was always told this by my mum, a waiter, a good man is pretty stark.
43:22So she gave me some really good advice on that one.
43:26But, you know, compliment him as well.
43:30I mean, he's, he's probably doing a lot for you.
43:33Uh, picking you up, taking you to probably come to do your, you know, you might even want to
43:39paint your flats or something.
43:42All right.
43:42If he does, I would turn around and say, what a fantastic job.
43:48I could never do that.
43:49You're, you're wonderful.
43:50Yeah.
43:51Stroke his ego.
43:53Well, we all want to, men, we all want to be of service and, and, and I want to read
43:58on this appreciation.
43:59Yeah.
43:59I want to read on the scripture that you, that you had there because there's a message here
44:03for men to, and you men in this way, dwell with your wives by knowledge and hold them
44:08in honor as weaker vessels.
44:11Lest you be subverted in your prayers because they also inherit the gift of eternal life
44:16with you.
44:18But in the conclusion is that you should all be in harmony, suffer with those who are suffering,
44:24love one another, be merciful and humble, and you should not repay a person evil for
44:30evil, neither insults for insults, but to the contrary of these things, give blessings
44:35for your call to this, that you would inherit blessing.
44:40And I'm not going to say that women are so complicated creatures that, that it's not
44:49clear what they, what they really need.
44:52It is clear what they need.
44:54It's outlined in scripture.
44:55It's also outlined clearly in scripture, what men need.
44:59And, and it, you were talking earlier about a man's needs being so simple as sometimes
45:05all they need is just a good home cooked meal.
45:07Yeah.
45:08And, and there's truth to that.
45:10And most, most men would agree, especially those of us who've experienced relationships
45:13with women who refuse to cook.
45:16That could be a nightmare on its own.
45:18Yeah.
45:18Because you get home from a hard day's work and you want someone to prepare something
45:21for you.
45:22And the thing is they shouldn't nag you.
45:24Yeah.
45:25There's too much of this nagging.
45:26So you suddenly go, the man comes in, you know, he's had a hard day.
45:33He's had a really, he's probably had something you don't even know about.
45:37Yeah.
45:37That you can never or impossibly understand unless you've been in the shoes of a guy.
45:42Yeah.
45:42And know them well.
45:43I mean, I love my brothers to bits and I've learned quite a bit from watching them growing
45:48up.
45:49But never nag him.
45:51Never.
45:52There's something that, for the women out there who are wondering how to, how to acquire
45:56and keep a good man, understand that most Western men have experienced horrible romantic
46:04relationships.
46:06A lot of these examples that you've seen on this show thus far, and many more that are
46:09displayed on the internet, they show very common Western women, how they are on a daily
46:19basis, whether it be in private or in public, unhinged, narcissistic, entitled, spoiled
46:27little brats.
46:29Prima donnas, I call them.
46:30Yeah.
46:31Little princesses that are more like the Wicked Witch and Wizard of Oz.
46:36And men, they need to be shown that you are willing to be like a mother to them.
46:45That's really what they need.
46:46They need to be taken care of.
46:47And there's a video here.
46:48Let's show a little clip.
46:50This guy made this video himself.
46:54It's not like an actual thing happening, but it's so clear the example that he sets about
47:01what a man really needs.
47:07Like I was saying, I think we should just stay friends, you know what I'm saying?
47:09Because I'm not ready for a relationship.
47:11Like, you know, I'm just not ready for all that right now.
47:13You know what I'm saying?
47:14Like, real talk.
47:25You say you cooked them?
47:26You did them?
47:34Cornbread too?
47:36This ain't just for scratch?
47:40Lord, sure.
47:42And you cook this like this all year round.
47:44It stays the same taste like this all year round.
47:47Well, I don't know, baby, look.
47:49You mind if I take my Air Max off?
47:50No, take this off.
47:52I'm going to take my Air Max off for a couple of years because I've been thinking since I've
47:56been sitting here eating on this that you might be right.
47:59We might do need to get in a relationship because real talk, I've been hungry lately
48:05and these women I've been dealing with, you know, this is the taste I've been looking for.
48:12Uh, you won't get married tomorrow?
48:14Yeah.
48:14Won't get married tomorrow?
48:15Because that look like that will finna happen.
48:17I don't want to be single no more.
48:19I'm gonna go eat.
48:23That's all it took.
48:24He was ready.
48:25He was ready to settle down just because there was a woman out there that was really willing
48:28to take care of him like he knew he needs.
48:31I must admit, I've had myself several over the years trying to propose to me and stuff
48:38and I wasn't ready.
48:40But, um, like I said to you earlier on, I was in a public house.
48:45I was by myself.
48:46It was a brand new, you know, evening and the sun's still and mind your own business.
48:55This guy comes along, starts chatting me up, getting really, really, uh, conversations
49:01going for a very long time and he gave me the biggest compliment going.
49:06Yeah, he said that I'd like a kind of like an inner beauty because the fact that, you
49:12know, he's trying to say I was attractive.
49:13Oh, no, no, no, no way.
49:16Not me.
49:18But he said, no, a heart.
49:21Yeah.
49:22He said you were the, the, well, basically the female that he had never, ever had a proper
49:28conversation with until now.
49:32He said that I'd relaxed him.
49:33I'd had a really good conversation with him.
49:36He felt so at ease with me, you know, and, uh, so I've had that compliments quite a few
49:43times throughout my life.
49:44And when they say, are you a Eve or are you a Lilith?
49:50Um, hopefully I'm like a, the best one, which is the Eve side of things where I respect
49:56man more importantly, I respect the patriarch.
49:59It's important that we respect each other's roles.
50:02It's important that we have harmony in all of our relationships.
50:06Yeah.
50:07It's, it's paramount that we see the part that we should play and really be open to
50:14correction about doing better.
50:17Yeah.
50:17And it's not simply for, for a man to correct a woman, nor is it for a woman to correct
50:24a man.
50:25It's not simply for a parent to correct their children, but for parents also to correct
50:30themselves.
50:31Yeah.
50:32And the same could be said for any man or woman out there that we need to look at ourselves,
50:37what we need to do better.
50:39And if we feel that we need to help somebody else to be better, there's ways to go about
50:43it.
50:44And it's often first with correcting ourselves and setting a better example.
50:47I'm going to say this to the women out there that are watching, please, first of all, not
50:54First of all, look at yourself in the mirror.
50:57Realize and be completely honest with yourself.
51:02Where are you going wrong?
51:04How you're treating the man that you're interested in?
51:07Yeah.
51:08Whether it's your boyfriend or your husband, you know, because he chose you because there
51:14was something about you that was special to him that triggered all these little boxes
51:19that guys have, you know, they're not going to just take you willy nilly.
51:22There's something about you that was nice that they'd run his belt.
51:27Don't destroy that for your own selfishness.
51:30Yeah.
51:30And don't let the only thing that attracted him be a physical appearance.
51:34Exactly.
51:35Yeah.
51:36Which is why I think that's the reason why it's important for women to dress modestly
51:39because they need to display who they really are.
51:41Yeah.
51:42I mean, not distract a man with the with the frivolous and vain things.
51:48I mean, I used to have a little trick because I was trying to learn myself.
51:52And get used to certain things.
51:55And I would go and dress up all the bee's knees and I'd go and walk into a bar and I'd
52:02walk in and I'd o'clock all the men that was in there.
52:07I'd walk from the entrance and I'd pick my spot at the end of the bar and I'd do this
52:13slow, purposeful walk, watching and sight glancing who was watching.
52:20You're sitting on the seat and then you eventually, after a while, you start to play
52:25and you expose a little bit of flesh.
52:27And it's amazing how the guys home in on that.
52:31All right.
52:33The next time I did that, I actually walked in, jeans, baggy t-shirt.
52:37Yeah, the trainers walked in, same kind of walk.
52:43Not quite so many noticed, but the ones who did were actually the maturer males.
52:50That, yeah, they knew what they were after and they knew what buzzed them.
52:54They thought, oh, that's one of the nice women that comes in.
53:00You know, the ones you can actually talk to, the ones that's actually going to treat you
53:04properly.
53:05And the amount of times I actually had very good male company and I had more male friends
53:11that you could shake a stick at because I was just being honest with them.
53:16I loved their company.
53:17They were awesome men.
53:19If they're actually out there now, hi guys.
53:24You know, that is one of the things you should do as a woman is to appreciate men.
53:29Be yourself.
53:31Let them see who you are.
53:33You don't need all this makeup.
53:34You don't need it all.
53:36Be yourself.
53:39Yeah.
53:40And attract a man that really appreciates you for who you are.
53:44Yeah, exactly.
53:45Yeah.
53:46Good advice.
53:48Thank you, sister.
53:49We're going to have you on again on, is it Monday?
53:54Monday.
53:54Yes.
53:55Yeah.
53:55Okay.
53:56So next Monday, one o'clock.
53:58Excellent.
53:59God willing, if we're still here.
54:00Yeah, if we're still here.
54:01Yeah.
54:02When things are going, I think there could be, I mean, wars and rumors of wars, but
54:10yeah, we're coming to the end.
54:11Calamities are increasing across the world too.
54:14Yeah.
54:14Join us in all of our episodes.
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54:27If they need these teachings, I would wise up on it quickly and get ahold of the book.
54:32Yeah.
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54:42Yeah.
54:43Get yourselves right with God.
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54:47May God bless you all.
54:48In Lord Rael's name.
54:49Amen.