MISTRESS Marley, 30, has an unusual occupation. "I make six figures a year telling men what to do," she told Love Don't Judge. "I started this work six years ago, fresh out of grad school. I took a corporate job but I felt like I wasn't making any money from it, I was having a lot of anxiety." Sparked by her dissatisfaction and want for more, Marley Googled 'how to make money online as a woman', webcamming popped up as an option but it wasn't for her. Eventually, during her search, she stumbled across women on the internet earning their living by telling men to send them money and controlling their bank accounts. Her first cheque came in after she requested her $50 lunch bill to be paid. The money arrived straight away from a client, and her new career took off from there. Now Marley checks her online wallet each morning to see what her clients have sent her. "I had a client who sent me $1,000 to be unblocked, two hours later he sent me $2,500," she said. Marley's work also involves her clients doing her household chores, errands and life admin. During the episode, her regular client Beta comes to clean her home, which he relishes. "She gives me tasks, I enjoy to do it. I feel safe with her, that if anything goes wrong, she's always there for me to protect me." He continued: "Sometimes I feel that this is the purpose of my life. That I need to be of service for women, and especially for Mistress Marley." When asked what Beta gets out of the arrangement, Marley said: "As a reward, he gets to be in my presence." Marley believes her job also has a deeper meaning, due to her culture. "95% of my clients are white men, as a black woman I see my work as reparations." Marley shares some aspects of her work online and others have also filmed her in action. One such post went viral with one of her clients walking on a leash, and she received a harsh backlash, with some people sending her racist comments. She explained: "I had a white s** on a leash, next thing I know it was blowing up, going crazy. There were some people in my inbox calling me the n-word, saying 'you should be on a white man's leash'." Despite these comments, Marley believes in what she is doing. "This lifestyle has enabled me to create a better life for myself, I've been able to give myself that creative freedom to not feel that I'm behind bars or locked in a box. Judge all you want, but the money is hitting my account just the same."
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00:00 This is Marley.
00:02 She fell in love with controlling men's money.
00:06 I make six figures a year telling men what to do.
00:08 I have a client that sent me $1,000 to be unblocked.
00:10 Two hours later, he sent $2,500.
00:12 Marley has clients who pay to do her household chores.
00:16 She gives me a task. I like to enjoy to do that.
00:19 95% of my clients are white men.
00:21 As a black woman, I see my work as reparations.
00:23 But less obedient people on social media think that what Marley is doing is wrong.
00:28 I was going to have this white [bleep] on a leash.
00:30 Next thing I know, this just was like blowing up, going crazy.
00:33 There was some people in my inbox calling me the N-word, saying, "You should be on a white man's leash."
00:39 So I wake up in the morning. I go to see what men have sent money overnight,
00:45 what men are inquiring about sending me money.
00:48 They send me cash. They run my errands. They clean my apartment.
00:51 Everything that I want in life, these men are there waiting hand and foot.
00:55 My name is Mistress Marley.
00:57 I am a woman that takes money from men.
01:01 They pay me just to be around me, just to speak to me.
01:04 Who's going to send me money today? I'm going out shopping. I need to be reimbursed.
01:08 So boys, if you're watching this, make yourself useful. Send to my Cash app.
01:13 I don't need to pay for anything when I go out today.
01:15 Everything is funded by you. I own your wallet, as you know.
01:18 I started this work fresh out of grad school.
01:23 I took on a corporate job, but I felt like the job, I wasn't really making any money from it.
01:26 I was having a lot of anxiety.
01:28 So out of curiosity, I just went online and I searched up how to make money online as a woman.
01:33 Webcaming came up, but I wasn't really into webcaming.
01:36 And I stumbled upon so many women that were pretty much having clients send them money for existing.
01:41 I'm here now, six years later.
01:43 This client, for example, is saying I'm going to empty his bank accounts.
01:46 That's like a fun little thing they like to say.
01:48 The ones that just like to talk and they haven't sent any money, I kind of just ignore them.
01:52 The first amount of money that I ever got from a man, I had went out to eat and I had posted my receipt online,
01:59 like reimbursed my meal, it's $50.
02:01 And then someone randomly sent me $50.
02:03 And I was like, this is real.
02:06 When I got that first send, I was like, OK, I need to take this more seriously.
02:09 The biggest amount I've ever received from one client in an hour was $5,000.
02:13 Every day is different for me.
02:16 For instance, I have a client that sent me $1,000 to be unblocked.
02:19 He wasn't living up to my standards.
02:21 He was getting on my nerves.
02:22 I still felt like he needed to be blocked.
02:24 So then two hours later, he sent $2,500 and says, I will do better.
02:28 But he might get blocked again because he's not doing better.
02:32 We don't thank our clients for sending money.
02:34 They know they're supposed to send that money to me.
02:35 I'm not thanking them for something that they're supposed to do.
02:38 In total, I've probably had over 500 men send me money.
02:41 I can earn anywhere between $3,000 and $5,000 weekly.
02:44 And then yearly, anywhere of $100,000 and up.
02:47 And then you'll have some clients that will come to you and tell you directly what they're looking for.
02:51 Like, I want to run your errands. I want to clean your apartment.
02:54 So today I have Beta coming over.
02:56 He's going to give me money for pretty much taking care of whatever I need done around the house today.
03:00 [Doorbell rings]
03:02 Beta, you're finally here. It took forever.
03:06 Yes. Hello, Mrs. Marley.
03:08 Come in.
03:10 Thank you.
03:11 Today you're going to be cleaning my kitchen, so you can take that stuff over to the kitchen.
03:14 Okay.
03:15 Move quickly.
03:16 She gives me a task. I like to enjoy to do that.
03:19 Everybody has some limits, and she respects that.
03:23 So what have you been doing in your free time?
03:25 Been thinking of how you're going to serve me?
03:26 Yes, Mrs.
03:27 Louder.
03:28 Yes, Mrs.
03:29 Right, as you should.
03:30 The cleaner my house, the better I feel.
03:33 Faster, faster, faster. I don't have all day. Go.
03:37 Compliment me.
03:40 It looks wonderful.
03:42 Tell me how beautiful I am.
03:43 You are looking gorgeous, Mrs. Marley.
03:46 I know. It's an honor to serve me, isn't it?
03:48 Yes, Mrs.
03:49 Exactly.
03:50 I never feel like I'm taking advantage of Beta, because anything that happens between us, I always communicate ahead of time.
03:55 I always like to ask in advance, "What's your schedule for the week?"
03:58 "In what capacity can you serve me this week?"
04:00 Make sure I establish boundaries with the client.
04:02 All right, move. Let me see now.
04:04 All right, that's much better.
04:08 This is mutually beneficial, because we're both getting something out of the arrangement.
04:11 Sometimes I feel that this is the purpose of my life, that I need to do service for the women, and especially for Mrs. Marley.
04:24 Yes, I enjoy myself a lot.
04:26 What do you give Beta as a reward?
04:29 I mean, as a reward, he gets to be in my presence.
04:31 Beta, I need a foot rest. My feet hurt.
04:34 Thank you, Mrs.
04:35 Good boy.
04:36 I feel like a big reward, too, is he gets to be around all these powerful women.
04:39 Just being able to reward him by having him in spaces where he can also thrive, too, as a man that likes to be controlled.
04:47 I feel safe with her, that if anything goes wrong, she's always there for me to protect me.
04:53 You did a good job.
04:55 Thank you, Mrs.
04:56 I'll have you back next week. You can leave now.
04:58 Thank you, Mrs.
05:00 Goodbye, Mrs.
05:02 Bye.
05:03 Thank you.
05:04 I have this bag of great little things.
05:08 This right here is very important to me.
05:10 So this was the first ever tool that I bought when I first started.
05:14 And it has my name on it, and then it also has reparations on the back.
05:18 95% of my clients are white men.
05:20 I've had men that say, you know, I want to pay you for what my race did.
05:24 As a black woman, I see my work as reparations because it is.
05:27 The money that I make from this, I'm some way, somehow, always giving back to my community.
05:32 I've done, like, backpack drives.
05:34 I've done, like, holiday drives.
05:36 That's why I just like to include it in my work.
05:39 This is a video that went viral of me at Homecoming.
05:42 I had to let them know that's not my sugar daddy.
05:44 That's a client that pays for that.
05:46 The client had reached out, and he was like, you know, I want to be walked on your leash at your Homecoming.
05:49 I went to a historically black college, so, like, I knew it was going to be, like, all black people there,
05:53 and I was going to have this white [bleep] on a leash.
05:56 Next thing I know, this just was, like, blowing up, going crazy.
06:00 And there were some, like, people in my inbox, like, calling me the N-word,
06:03 saying, you should be on a white man's leash.
06:06 One person was like, it's one thing to do this at home with somebody you would care about.
06:10 It's another to humiliate an old man.
06:12 I'm like, you guys don't understand that he reached out to me.
06:15 The client also loved it.
06:16 Like, I have a conversation with him where he was saying, I loved being on your leash.
06:19 You were bomb yesterday.
06:21 There's valid concerns in, like, my client's state of mind.
06:24 There are some potential clients I've had in the past that messaged me,
06:28 and I could tell they were not mentally in a good space.
06:30 I think it's better to ask questions than to just assume.
06:33 A lot of the criticism I get back is that I'm taking advantage.
06:36 I'm taking from them because they don't know anything else.
06:38 You figure out what they can afford through conversation.
06:41 So, like, if you have that client that can only stand for, like, coffee or, like, breakfast,
06:45 you pretty much know, like, that's what they can afford.
06:47 The judgment in the beginning when I first started was a lot
06:50 because I wasn't used to being at the forefront, being so public-facing.
06:55 It's to the point now where it's like, I really don't care.
06:57 They're still going to have their opinion at the end of the day.
06:59 It's not going to change.
07:00 So the best thing I could do at that time for my mental health was just block them.
07:04 I also make money by throwing educational events for women that want to get into this type of thing.
07:09 Hi, ladies. I'm Mistress Marley, and today I'm going to be giving you the top three tips
07:13 on how to get men from money.
07:15 Get men from money.
07:18 That's a new one.
07:19 I throw them all over the world.
07:21 So women come together, we network, we learn how to do this work safely.
07:24 Are you more sadistic? Are you more powerful? Are you more nurturing?
07:29 You need to figure out who you are in this space.
07:31 There have been, like, comments surrounding, like, am I promoting something dangerous?
07:35 That's why I'm really, really big on teaching about safety, teaching about vetting each client.
07:40 The warnings that I like to give women coming into this industry is not to have unrealistic expectations
07:45 because some of them come in and they think they're going to make $5,000 their first day,
07:49 and it's not always like that.
07:51 Another warning I like to give, too, is to just be careful about who you're speaking to.
07:55 There are some men that will try to scam you.
07:57 Make sure you're not giving out any personal information, anything that can be identifying,
08:01 just really protecting yourself.
08:03 I feel very empowered by the work that I do.
08:06 There were times in college and undergrad where I was, like, in a relationship.
08:10 I felt like I was being controlled, so taking my power back from that.
08:14 I also feel empowered just helping other women.
08:17 They just feel so great after they leave, like, I did something today.
08:20 I told a man what to do, and he did it for me, and I didn't feel guilty after.
08:24 A lot of women feel guilty of asking men to do things that benefit them.
08:29 My ultimate message to other women about my work is just take back the power in your life.
08:34 You only have one life to live.
08:36 Just move around like you've got it going on because we do have it going on as women.
08:40 I'm headed to the dungeon to control men some more for the rest of the night.
08:44 We're here. We're about to enter the dungeon.
08:49 This is where everything happens.
08:51 There's certain things that we use in here, but of course I can't show you all because you have to pay for that.
08:56 The backgrounds of these men that come here vary, so some of them are CEOs.
08:59 Some of them work on Wall Street.
09:01 Doctors, educators, police officers.
09:04 Most of the men do have jobs where they're in high positions of power,
09:07 and they come to see people like that so they can just get rid of that power, even if it's just for an hour.
09:11 I don't like to date clients.
09:13 I like men that are going to take the lead, and a lot of people find that to be ironic.
09:16 But when I'm in my personal relationships, I like dating alpha males.
09:19 On the first date, I will tell them what I do.
09:21 Sometimes it takes some explaining.
09:23 I do want a long-term relationship, so I want to get married. I want to have children.
09:27 I want something definitely separate from the lifestyle and what I do.
09:32 I can see myself doing this job until I'm 80, 90 years old.
09:35 You know, being really old, like, "Give me your money," like in a nursing home or something like that.
09:39 This lifestyle has been able to make a better life for myself.
09:42 I've been able to give myself that creative freedom to just not feel like I'm, you know, behind bars or just locked in a box.
09:48 To people who judge me, I pretty much just say, "Judge all you want. The money's still hitting my account the same."
09:55 [Music]
10:01 [Silence]