LEAH, 23, has been with Gary, 61, for six years and married for four. Gary is originally from the UK but met his future wife when he was living in the Philippines, her native country. "When we met I was 56 years old and she was just 18," Gary said. They connected on a dating site, where she made the first move, sending a flirty winking emoji to Gary. Leah initially lied about her age, telling him she was 21, but he found out the truth months later, once they had already fallen in love. "We are judged because people assume I am with him for his money," Leah said. Gary has dual citizenship, for the UK and US, which has brought into question what Leah's real intentions are within the relationship. "We did not marry for a green card, I've already done that twice before!" He joked. Gary previously married an American to stay living in the country and then a Filipino woman to remain in the Philippines. However, now he says his third marriage, to Leah, is real and for love. Leah vlogs about her life as a housewife in the Philippines on YouTube, hoping to show that the assumptions about their age-gap relationship are wrong. Despite her efforts to overcome stereotypes, the feedback is mixed. Negative commenters have said : "Let's call this what it is... Legalised p**********" and "SICK MIND."
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00:00When we met I was 56 years old and she was just 18
00:05My husband is 38 years older than me. Yeah, I actually lied about my age
00:10I felt is this someone I'm gonna be able to trust. Let's call this what it is
00:15legalized
00:16sick mind
00:18People judge us because they assume that I'm with Gary because of his money. We did not marry for a green card
00:25I've already done that twice before
00:27Hi Andrew, how are you? Actually, I could look at you and think that you're a father and daughter
00:33It's actually lunchtime. So I'm gonna prepare our lunch. What are you making today? I'm gonna make some vegetable soup
00:40We've been together now for almost six years. I'm a housewife and stay at home mom also doing YouTube
00:47I'm not retired yet. I'm still working. Yeah, we want to show people that it's possible for an older man in you
00:55Filipina could actually fall in love when we first met. I was just a young 56 year old and you were an old
01:03Yeah, I was 18 when I met Gary. But yeah, I did lie about my age. We met using a dating app
01:09She actually reached out to me first. I send you the wing first
01:13I had a chopper on with me the first meeting we have and I was scared
01:18that was my reaction because I never date a foreigner and very shy also and he was so big like
01:24I am for 11. I think in here 6 3 I bring chopper with me because my mom was concerned
01:30I was happy that you respect that so that was a good sign. I was
01:34Physically attracted to even now I was attracted to your innocence
01:39You hadn't been corrupted by the city you hadn't been with other foreigners
01:43I could just see in you this was the kind of person I was looking for because I wanted a
01:47Traditional type Philippine woman that I could really have a real loving relationship with I didn't know you're 18 at the time
01:53I actually lied about my age
01:5718 yeah, but that's a legal in the Philippines. So guys, don't worry
02:02We have a healthy lifestyle living in the Philippines. So I like growing vegetables in our backyard
02:07I like to feed my husband healthy because
02:13I said, oh if I tell them that I am 18, I think there's no way he would consider meeting me
02:19I didn't care whether they were 21 41. I was actually a little disappointed that she had lied to me
02:25I felt is this someone I'm gonna be able to trust but I'd already gotten some feelings for her and
02:31Got to know her a little bit. And so I was willing to forgive her for that after living in Asia for
02:3812 years friends that I I knew they all had young girlfriends. So I kind of got used to
02:45Dating people much younger than me people assume that I'm with him because of his money and when we met I was actually
02:51Literally broke literally going for a bankruptcy
02:58Honey lunch is ready. Let's dig in reading hateful comments is always fun, isn't it?
03:04Am I young enough to be a granddaughter?
03:07Yeah, actually technically
03:10But you look more like my daughter
03:14Yeah, actually I am younger than your son. So that's all you're wrong. Was it six years younger than myself?
03:21Let's call this what it is in legalized
03:27Wow, she was 18 all this foreigner have a sick mind now, why why would they say he has a sick mind?
03:34I mean look at you. You're you're you're an adult. Yeah, I can make my own child
03:39The lady just want money and babies and she will be gone once you get what you want. Yeah, he is
03:47We need a lot a
03:50Lot of judgments saying I'm a gold digger
03:53I'm desperate to get out the poverty some of the people that judged our relationship at the beginning
03:59And now seeking a relationship like what we have because they see from our channel
04:05The beauty
04:08Because you know, we live in the Philippines and it's not unusual to see a man of my age with it with a girl of
04:15your age
04:17People don't understand the cultural differences. They've got the the Western mindset at first I would get
04:24Angry, he's more bothered me. I'm I have a thick skin
04:28The fact is we get way more complimentary things said then we do negative
04:34We did not marry for a green card, I've already done that twice before
04:39I've been married three times my first marriage
04:42I'm not proud of it, but I didn't meet someone and saw an opportunity to get a green card and
04:48residency in America and
04:50Then my second marriage. I was actually in the Philippines and I was having a difficult time
04:56Not making any money and I was concerned. I wouldn't be able to stay in Asia anymore. So
05:02The girl I was with she also had a dream of going to America so it seemed like well, this is a win-win
05:09so two times I have got married with the intent of
05:13Doing it for a green card, and I'm not proud of this. I'm actually
05:18I'm very ashamed actually, but I'd like to think I've changed a lot. And of course now my third marriage and
05:25This one is real
05:27It was purely out of love
05:29I've always been someone that liked to work out especially now. I have a young wife and kids
05:34I think I owe it to them to stay in healthy shape and hopefully live many years
05:45My friend Andrew's coming later Andrew is a pastor. I don't think he understood that we had a real relationship at first
05:53He's very honest man, you'll say whatever we really feel about our relationship
06:01Thanks for coming actually I could look at you and think that you're a father and daughter
06:06They'll see that told daughter-in-law
06:10But you know, I think God created people and they've always been age gap relationships
06:14Even in the Bible the issue that I have is that I'm not a father
06:20Even in the Bible the issue that I had was people who come over and get married to people without falling in love or without
06:27Having any similarities and I would just ask anyone to show me where in the Bible
06:32It says that there's something wrong with people who have a gap of 50 years. There's nothing
06:38But there's nothing wrong with that, there's nothing wrong with that
06:42We don't ever think about it. I never
06:45We're just a couple the reward that you have now, but you have a beautiful family two beautiful kids
07:01Gary is the one for me. There's so many things I like about him and he's very mature
07:06You know being a leader in our household how you deal when it comes to the kids
07:12There's so many things I love about you she makes me feel young and
07:16Just a joyful personality and she's intelligent. I want a great cook
07:23People love to make judgments when they just they don't know you that they just have assumptions all the time
07:30The world is a big place and and there's different cultures that have different kind of ways
07:41You