Have you ever wondered why someone would break up with you even when they still love you? That feeling of abandonment can really hurt and it hurts because you know that you have love within your grasp and still, you let it slip away. It can make you question the entire relationship - would someone who loves you still find a way to abandon you? Why would a person so willingly walk away from love? To help you answer these questions, here are a few common reasons why people leave the one they love.
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00:02 Hey Psych2Go family, welcome back to our channel.
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00:18 As a quick note, we wanted to say that this video
00:20 is for educational purposes only.
00:22 And we're not suggesting that you need
00:23 to end your relationship if you're familiar
00:25 with any of these reasons.
00:27 What's important is to sit down with your partner
00:30 and talk about any issues first.
00:32 We also encourage you to speak with somebody you trust
00:34 who can provide support.
00:36 With that said, let's begin.
00:38 Being in love can feel like one of the most amazing feelings
00:42 in the world.
00:43 Even though you and your partner are very much in love
00:46 with each other, it doesn't necessarily mean
00:49 that they'll stick around.
00:50 Sometimes you can be in a relationship
00:52 with someone who loves you,
00:53 and that person can still wind up leaving you.
00:56 That feeling of abandonment can really hurt.
01:00 And it does because you know that you had love
01:03 within your grasp and you still let it slip away.
01:06 It can make you question your entire relationship.
01:09 Like why would they so willingly walk away from love?
01:12 To help you get some closure,
01:15 here are six common reasons why people choose
01:17 to leave the ones that they love.
01:19 Number one, they don't feel respected.
01:23 Do you respect each other in your relationship?
01:26 At the foundation of any kind of relationship is respect.
01:29 Your partner may love you,
01:31 but they will never allow themselves
01:32 to stay in a relationship that didn't have mutual respect.
01:36 A person's dignity is always going to come first,
01:39 and it's best to stay mindful of that notion.
01:42 Number two, they don't feel emotionally supported.
01:45 Are you able to be vulnerable and open around each other?
01:49 The bulk of what makes up a good relationship
01:51 is the emotional support between two individuals
01:54 who love one another.
01:55 Neither one of you wants to feel slighted or cheated.
01:59 Rough patches are common,
02:00 and having to be vulnerable can be difficult.
02:03 Vulnerability opens up the possibility of pain.
02:06 And if your partner doesn't feel
02:08 that they're being supported emotionally,
02:10 it's less likely that they will allow themselves
02:12 to be vulnerable with you.
02:13 Number three, your relationship has experienced
02:16 a loss of physical intimacy.
02:18 Have you ever been in a situation
02:20 where you still love and care for your partner,
02:23 but you're not attracted to them anymore?
02:25 Physical affection is much more than sex
02:28 and is part of the glue that holds a relationship together.
02:31 Research has found that non-sexual physical intimacy
02:34 is key to long-term happiness in a relationship,
02:37 and that held close, skin-to-skin contact
02:40 releases the same bonding chemicals in your brain
02:42 as sex would.
02:43 Research has found that humans have an innate ability
02:46 to interpret emotional messages through touch alone.
02:49 In a 2009 study conducted by Hertenstein,
02:52 blindfolded people were able to correctly interpret
02:55 eight distinct emotions, such as anger, fear, disgust,
02:59 love, gratitude, sympathy, happiness, and sadness,
03:03 solely through the touch of a stranger, with 78% accuracy.
03:08 Loss of physical intimacy is often the first step
03:10 towards a loss of emotional intimacy.
03:13 It's such a critical part of a relationship
03:15 that when it's gone, you or your partner
03:18 may be tempted to look for it somewhere else.
03:20 Number four, they don't feel adequate.
03:23 Believe it or not, a person is always at risk
03:26 of leaving the relationship whenever they don't feel
03:28 like they're enough for somebody.
03:30 In a relationship, your partner wants to feel validated
03:33 by you and desires to be appreciated.
03:36 Over time, if they don't get the appreciation they deserve,
03:39 they may feel inadequate
03:40 and choose to leave the relationship.
03:42 Number five, they don't feel listened to.
03:46 One tip you always get is that communication
03:48 is very important in a relationship.
03:51 However, we might take that to mean
03:53 that we need to be doing a lot of talking
03:55 in the relationship, but it's more than just talking.
03:58 It's also about listening.
04:00 Do you truly listen to what your partner has to say?
04:03 Or do you listen just for the sake of responding?
04:06 Healthy communication consists
04:08 of both listening and speaking.
04:10 If your partner doesn't feel properly listened to
04:13 and like they don't have much of a voice,
04:15 they may feel that they can't express themselves
04:17 in the way that they'd like to.
04:19 And number six,
04:21 they no longer feel an emotional connection.
04:24 Studies have shown that the love and passion
04:26 that comes with the initial boost of marriage
04:29 have a tendency to wear off after about two years.
04:32 This is why the best relationships are the ones
04:34 that have genuine friendship at their core.
04:37 Emotional connection is often what sustains
04:39 a long-lasting relationship.
04:41 And if that is no longer there,
04:43 this may be another reason why people choose
04:46 to leave the person they love.
04:48 Did this video help you find closure?
04:51 Or if you've left someone you loved,
04:53 did you relate to any of these reasons?
04:55 Let us know in the comments below.
04:58 It can be difficult and overwhelming,
05:00 especially when making the decision
05:01 to leave a relationship that you're invested in.
05:04 We hope this video was able to provide some insight for you.
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