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Do you wonder how healthy relationships could be nurtured? Where it starts and how to keep a healthy relationship going? You communicate openly, you argue, you keep relationship details private, you don't hold grudges, you have realistic expectations, you take time and space for yourself, having a life outside the relationship, etc Which of these healthy relationship habits do you relate to? Which do you agree or disagree with?
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00:02 *groan*
00:04 Hello Psych2Goers!
00:13 We just want to take the time to thank you for all your kind support.
00:16 We are a team of dedicated, passionate, and hardworking individuals
00:20 who come together every day with one goal in mind.
00:22 We want to make psychology come alive for you.
00:25 Many of us want to be in happy and meaningful relationships.
00:29 But nowadays, in a dating scene plagued with superficiality
00:33 and an abundance of choice,
00:35 making a relationship long-term while staying sane
00:38 is much easier said than done.
00:40 The initial spark is great,
00:41 but it takes a lot more than attraction to sustain a relationship.
00:45 What are some ways we can keep a healthy relationship
00:47 and ensure longevity with our partners, you may ask?
00:50 Here are 12 signs you are in a healthy relationship.
00:53 1. You communicate openly.
00:57 A great relationship starts with transparency.
01:00 Do you feel like you can communicate about anything with your partner,
01:03 from personal needs to taboo topics?
01:05 Do the both of you take the time to listen and empathize with each other?
01:09 Good communication means using assertive techniques,
01:12 which includes welcoming body language,
01:14 concentrative listening, and respectful language.
01:17 2. You argue.
01:20 This might sound strange,
01:22 but arguing sometimes is actually healthy in a relationship.
01:25 Otherwise, you're probably just bottling up your feelings
01:28 and letting them turn into resentment.
01:30 Couples who communicate well can argue effectively.
01:33 Both parties can state their opinions
01:35 while trying to understand where the other person is coming from.
01:38 They also know when to apologize when they are wrong.
01:41 This point, however, shouldn't be confused with destructive fighting,
01:44 in which couples use aggressive behavior and language
01:47 to hurt each other when they disagree about an issue.
01:50 3. You keep relationship details private.
01:53 It's normal to turn to close friends and family for relationship advice
01:57 when you run into conflict with your partner.
01:59 But making your problems public on social media is passive-aggressive
02:03 and can damage the trust you've built with them.
02:05 Everyone needs a sense of privacy to feel safe,
02:08 including relationships.
02:10 4. You don't hold grudges.
02:13 The more you get to know your partner,
02:15 the more you may get on each other's nerves, which is normal.
02:18 We all get a little agitated from time to time
02:20 and say and do things we don't mean that can upset our partners.
02:23 But holding a grudge even after they apologize sincerely
02:27 can hurt your relationship in the long run.
02:29 Be sure to talk things out instead when you're upset and learn to let go.
02:34 5. You have realistic expectations.
02:37 The perfect partner doesn't exist.
02:40 It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship going.
02:42 Healthy couples understand that the key to a long-lasting relationship
02:46 is commitment, open communication, and compromise.
02:49 6. You take time and space for yourself.
02:53 Being in a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're glued at the hip.
02:57 It means you can have separate lives, interests, and friends
03:00 and maintain your own sense of individuality
03:02 without fearing that your partner is going to be jealous or resentful.
03:06 Having a life outside of a relationship is essential.
03:09 7. You trust each other.
03:12 Healthy couples can spend time away from each other
03:15 without worrying about their whereabouts or who they're with.
03:18 Stalking a partner on social media and asking them for constant updates, however,
03:22 are signs of trust issues or codependency.
03:25 Trust means respecting your partner's decisions and feeling secure.
03:29 8. You enjoy spending time together.
03:32 Whether that means dinner dates or cuddling on the couch,
03:35 you enjoy spending time with your partner no matter what.
03:38 A healthy relationship involves taking time out of your busy schedule
03:41 to connect with your partner.
03:43 It's not just an obligation, but a way for you to enjoy life.
03:46 9. You're friends.
03:49 Great couples share common interests, enjoy hanging out together,
03:52 and making each other laugh.
03:54 Just like best friends, healthy couples can talk about anything
03:57 and confide in each other without fear of judgment.
04:00 It's important to feel comfortable with your partner.
04:03 10. You make decisions together.
04:06 Healthy relationships aren't a power struggle.
04:09 They are a partnership that allows both individuals to have equal say.
04:12 If you disagree on which restaurant to go to for your date,
04:15 one of you may have to give in, but next weekend,
04:18 the choice should be yours. Compromise is key.
04:21 11. You get intimate.
04:24 Yes, sex is extremely beneficial in healthy relationships,
04:28 but so is intimacy.
04:30 Intimacy can be bonding, sexually or otherwise,
04:33 familiarity or romance.
04:35 Maintaining a healthy relationship means courting your partner with affection,
04:39 quality time, gift-giving, or other forms of love language.
04:43 12. Lastly, you make each other better.
04:47 Fixing is not the same as supporting.
04:50 Healthy relationships consist of couples that love one another for who they are,
04:54 not who they want them to be.
04:56 Are there items on this list that you and your partner practice regularly?
05:00 Let us know in the comments below.
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