The Adam's Apple - Pastor Keion Henderson
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00:00:00 Should I unbutton my jacket?
00:00:02 And Mother's Day, don't look for nothing for me today.
00:00:04 Mother's Day ain't here.
00:00:07 Fellas, I got your back.
00:00:08 Let me hear you.
00:00:14 And out of the ground, the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every fowl
00:00:19 of the air and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them.
00:00:27 Not they, he.
00:00:36 And whatever Adam called it, that's what it was.
00:00:48 Fellas, you're going to have to have my back because they already got attitude.
00:00:54 They already...
00:00:55 And I'm reading the Bible.
00:00:57 That'll tell you how difficult this is going to be.
00:00:59 I'm not giving them a thesis statement, a paper that I wrote, a doctrine.
00:01:03 I'm reading the Bible and they're already like...
00:01:08 Where this going?
00:01:19 And Adam gave names to the cattle and the fowl of the air and to every beast of the
00:01:25 field, but Adam was not...
00:01:28 He was there but was not found any help for him.
00:01:32 Verse 21, "Then the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon him and he slept and he
00:01:38 took one of his ribs and closed up his flesh instead thereof.
00:01:42 And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man made he woe man and brought her
00:01:52 unto him.
00:01:56 And Adam said, 'She fine?'"
00:02:03 That's what bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.
00:02:07 She's a brick.
00:02:09 She's a mighty God.
00:02:31 And after all of that, after being alone all of that time, the moment she got there,
00:02:41 everything changed.
00:02:46 Now he has to leave his mother and father while she keeps hers and cleave unto his
00:02:52 wife.
00:02:59 I'm going to tell you right now, women are going to say this all day to me, "Watch it,
00:03:02 Reverend.
00:03:03 I'm not watching it.
00:03:04 You watch me."
00:03:05 It's going down.
00:03:06 It's going down.
00:03:07 I've been waiting on Father's Day since Christmas.
00:03:18 I've marked this on my calendar.
00:03:23 I'll get all year, but we're going to get today.
00:03:29 And they became...
00:03:31 No, that's not what it says.
00:03:37 Because when we read it, we always say, "And the two shall..."
00:03:41 And they were both naked, but I want you to hear what the Bible says.
00:03:48 The Bible says, "Therefore shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave unto his
00:03:52 wife and they shall be one flesh."
00:04:00 Just because you found a man or a man found you doesn't mean you become one flesh.
00:04:07 You got to work, and if you keep working, one day you shall be.
00:04:16 So it doesn't mean you got the wrong partner because y'all can't get along right now.
00:04:20 You're still in the shall be phase.
00:04:29 And they were both naked, the man and his wife.
00:04:35 And as of this moment, they were not ashamed.
00:04:40 I want to talk on this subject for the next few moments.
00:04:43 The Adam's apple.
00:04:45 You may be seated in the presence of the Lord.
00:04:49 The Adam's apple.
00:04:58 For those who will watch this online and for those of y'all who have a tendency to have
00:05:05 my back online when people lie, point them to the first five seconds of the message.
00:05:12 This don't go for everybody because all the comments are like, "Well, in my case, you
00:05:18 don't know my case."
00:05:19 Generally speaking.
00:05:22 Got that part?
00:05:24 Watch what happens tomorrow.
00:05:28 I don't think it is new news to anyone listening to me online or in this building that Adam
00:05:41 was the first human created.
00:05:45 I do recognize that there are other theories, but they are not supported by the canon of
00:05:50 Scripture.
00:05:51 There was only one name that Moses documents in the book of Genesis, which is not the first
00:06:00 book written, just the first in chronological order in the Scripture.
00:06:05 The book of Isaiah was written before Genesis.
00:06:10 See that as it may, by virtue of the fact that Adam was the first man created, he also
00:06:21 coincidentally becomes the first father in operation.
00:06:27 God formed him out of the dust, breathes into him the breath of life, and man became a living
00:06:45 soul.
00:06:50 God forms him out of the dust, breathes into him the breath of life.
00:06:59 Adam takes his first breath, opens his eyes, and everything already is.
00:07:10 The water's already wet.
00:07:13 The sun is already hot.
00:07:17 And he sees animals that already have companionship.
00:07:27 And here he is, all alone.
00:07:33 Now I don't know this to be true, but I do know the Bible says that to God a day is a
00:07:38 thousand years, 2 Peter, and a thousand years is but a day.
00:07:43 There are some theories then that would suggest that these are not seven
00:07:47 consecutive days, these are seven consecutive thousands of years.
00:07:54 Quite plausible, not impossible, that Adam was in the garden a thousand years
00:08:02 before he had company.
00:08:06 Are you with me so far?
00:08:09 And all of a sudden, after doing his own thing his own way, whether it is for 24
00:08:14 hours or a thousand years, now everything has to change because of the introduction
00:08:21 of something God said he needed.
00:08:26 You have to understand that the first desire for woman didn't come from Adam,
00:08:32 it came from the design of God.
00:08:36 And he brings her out of him.
00:08:38 She is man, but she is woman, which means womb man.
00:08:43 That means she's a man with a womb.
00:08:48 She's made of the same thing he's made of.
00:08:52 She has the same drive, tenacity, and will that he has.
00:09:00 And the intentions of God was for them to walk in blissful happiness and the garden
00:09:07 of Eden was paradise until the serpent snuck into the garden and begowed Eve and
00:09:15 got her to take of the fruit, which was the forbidden fruit that God had given
00:09:21 them instruction, that everything in the garden was theirs except for the tree in
00:09:27 the middle of the garden.
00:09:30 Anybody here knows the fruit you want the most is the one you ain't supposed to have.
00:09:38 Talk to your boy in here today.
00:09:43 Adam has never had parents.
00:09:49 He's the only man never born.
00:09:50 He was created.
00:09:54 He never saw a father.
00:09:59 He had no uncles.
00:10:03 He didn't get a chance to have an example, no role model.
00:10:10 He was born and he began.
00:10:15 He didn't know what a father was supposed to be.
00:10:17 He didn't know what a husband was supposed to be.
00:10:20 He had no family.
00:10:21 He had no friends.
00:10:23 He just arrived to a functioning planet.
00:10:26 Are y'all still with me?
00:10:29 And when God needed somebody to take care of what he created, he got Adam introducing
00:10:38 the malady of man.
00:10:40 We're only needed when somebody needs something taken care of.
00:10:47 As long as everything was well, Adam wasn't needed.
00:10:52 But when he recognizes, and this is after the fall, that the earth needs to be tended
00:10:57 and the ground needs to be tilled, he goes and says, "All right, now I need Adam because
00:11:01 the grass is overgrown.
00:11:04 I need Adam because the refrigerator is broken.
00:11:08 I need Adam because the carburetor needs fixed.
00:11:11 I need Adam because the car needs gas.
00:11:14 I need Adam because the windows are broken.
00:11:17 I need Adam because they won't listen to me.
00:11:20 So if I get daddy to be the disciplinarian, I'll go get your daddy.
00:11:23 I'll tell your daddy if you won't listen to me."
00:11:26 Now there's a complex in men that we're only needed when somebody has a need.
00:11:35 Not needed because you need us.
00:11:38 Needed because you need us to handle a need.
00:11:44 Come on, talk to me, somebody.
00:11:48 Need me because I've got to change the tire.
00:11:51 Now you can do anything a man can do until it comes time to do things that men do.
00:12:05 You can open your own door until you want a man to open your door.
00:12:09 I got it.
00:12:10 I can carry it until you want somebody else to carry it.
00:12:14 And then when we don't do what you tell us you can do, then we are inconsiderate for
00:12:19 not doing what you told us you can do on your own.
00:12:24 Now fellas, they ain't never this quiet.
00:12:27 I normally can't even get past this far in a sermon without 7,000 women.
00:12:32 I'm telling you, they ain't going to have nothing to say today.
00:12:35 And look at the woman next to you and say, "I don't care how you look and he don't either.
00:12:39 You ain't going to get me today.
00:12:42 I came to fight every one of you."
00:12:49 He never saw marriage.
00:12:53 He never saw marriage.
00:12:55 You might not shout today.
00:12:57 He never saw marriage.
00:12:58 He never saw a father give grace.
00:13:05 And so now he's asked to do what he's never saw, which is exactly what is happening to
00:13:11 black men and brown men in our country today because 67% of minorities are born into single
00:13:19 family homes.
00:13:23 Asked to be what we've never saw.
00:13:30 Asked to be a father.
00:13:32 Our fathers were fathers to somebody else but not to us.
00:13:37 Because typically, a father in this generation and dispensation only gets to be a father
00:13:42 in the home he lives in.
00:13:46 But he doesn't get to be a full functioning father in a home he does not live in because
00:13:51 when you have custodial parental rights, you get to make choices without input.
00:13:59 But only call us when the outcome isn't the same as you anticipated.
00:14:04 Come get your son.
00:14:05 Oh, I thought he was yours.
00:14:08 Come get your daughter.
00:14:09 Oh no, you told them in court that you had it.
00:14:14 And now we have women who are having babies without the intent of having a man.
00:14:25 Introducing fertilization.
00:14:29 Introducing all of the technology that allows for a woman to have a child without the influence
00:14:36 of a father.
00:14:37 And let me tell you something, women, you might be a good mother but you ain't never
00:14:41 going to be a good daddy.
00:14:49 Can I just be quite frank and I hope you take this with a grain of salt?
00:14:53 You don't have what it takes to be a father.
00:14:55 You have to have certain things inside of you in order to be a father.
00:15:00 And guess what?
00:15:01 We can't be mothers either.
00:15:02 So, it is not about sexism.
00:15:04 It is about knowing what you can be.
00:15:06 Be a 100% mama and leave daddying up to mentors and Jesus.
00:15:13 See, the thing about a father is everything don't make us happy.
00:15:22 Your child can bring home, he can go in the basketball game and play 75 minutes and get
00:15:29 two points and you're going to be like, "That's my baby."
00:15:31 When he get in our house, we're going to be like, "Boy, if you're going to be out there
00:15:33 that long and don't do nothing, sit your butt down.
00:15:35 This ain't what God birthed you to do."
00:15:40 Let me tell you something, daddy love and mama love ain't the same.
00:15:44 That's why the Bible says that we got to have both of them.
00:15:46 In order to raise fully functioning children, you got to have somebody who will hug you
00:15:51 at night and you got to have somebody who will get in your face and tell you that being
00:15:54 trifling is not something you're going to do with this last name.
00:15:57 And I know some mothers in here do both of them, but ain't nothing like a father.
00:16:07 And what I've learned about fathering is that it is a good exercise when you witness it,
00:16:13 but it is hard for you to let it be.
00:16:16 It is hard.
00:16:18 It is hard to watch a father really be a father.
00:16:20 We don't have the same emotions you have.
00:16:23 We don't have the same outcomes and realization you have, and they need both of them.
00:16:28 They need, listen, if God is a father, then let me tell you how he loves.
00:16:32 Those whom he loves, he chastises.
00:16:36 Y'all got to hear me in here today.
00:16:37 You got to understand the difference between punishment and love.
00:16:42 Some love says, "I'm not letting you get away with it."
00:16:45 Some love says, "You are better than that."
00:16:47 Some love says, "Let me call you on the carpet, and if it means our relationship is a little
00:16:51 rocky for a few weeks, then it's okay if I'm securing your future."
00:17:00 So stop calling your husband mean and just call him a man.
00:17:05 Come on, talk to me, somebody.
00:17:06 Stop calling him callous and narcissistic every time he stands up for something.
00:17:10 You've got the wrong definition on him.
00:17:12 Let me tell you what he is in most cases, a man, a man.
00:17:17 And when you have been born into a home where there wasn't one, you don't recognize one
00:17:24 when you see one.
00:17:28 And so when you don't recognize a man when you haven't seen one, then the only definition
00:17:33 of man you can come up with is the one that was given to you by somebody who came before
00:17:41 you.
00:17:44 Imagine you were the daughter of the son of a bitter woman, and she defined manhood to
00:17:51 you.
00:17:59 Imagine your mother had been hurt by five men before you were born.
00:18:02 What kind of man do you think she's going to tell you that all men are?
00:18:09 Most people who define men define it from their pain, not their intellect.
00:18:18 And so we are mean and weak and callous and inconsiderate.
00:18:26 But it's a little more complicated than that.
00:18:30 Y'all got time?
00:18:31 When Hammond was up here, y'all was ready to go all day, so you're going to wait.
00:18:40 If you look in the Bible, it is interesting.
00:18:45 If you connect the reality of Adam just opposed to the theology of Adam, the Hebrew word transliterated
00:18:50 Adam is found 560 times in the Old Testament alone.
00:18:56 And the overwhelming majority of cases, the name Adam means man.
00:19:02 Did you hear what I just said?
00:19:07 That in 560 times you see the word Adam.
00:19:13 It is God actually saying the word man.
00:19:16 So how many times have we read the scripture thinking about God talking about the man in
00:19:20 the garden?
00:19:21 He was talking about somebody say man.
00:19:28 In Genesis 1, I'm about to help you brothers.
00:19:30 I'm about to help you.
00:19:31 I hope I am.
00:19:32 Anyway, in Genesis 1, we see that God created the world and everything in it.
00:19:39 And on the first day, he created what?
00:19:41 Light and darkness.
00:19:43 On the second day, he created the firmament or what we call the atmosphere.
00:19:47 On the third day, he created the land and the plants.
00:19:50 On the fourth day, the sun, the moon, and the stars.
00:19:53 On the fifth day, he created the fish and the birds.
00:19:56 And on the sixth day, he created man with the animals.
00:20:03 And on the seventh day, he rested.
00:20:06 Now without getting too far into the discussion, you have already been introduced to the male
00:20:11 malady.
00:20:13 First came the light and the darkness.
00:20:16 Then came the atmosphere.
00:20:18 Then came the plants and the trees.
00:20:20 Then came the galaxy.
00:20:21 Then came the fish and the birds.
00:20:23 And finally, after everything else has been considered, here comes man.
00:20:32 And you have been introduced to the male malady because most men in this room and most online
00:20:37 will tell you that all of their life, they have been the last thing to be considered.
00:20:45 Everything comes before man.
00:20:47 We even got statements like, "Ladies first, happy wife."
00:20:53 Come on, don't get quiet.
00:20:57 But remember when I read the text, the text didn't say, "We were made for y'all."
00:21:05 The Bible says she was made for him.
00:21:09 And by the way, if you go and look in the Old Testament, whenever a man and woman was
00:21:15 married in the Old Testament, a woman stood at the altar and the man walked down the aisle.
00:21:24 But now here comes...
00:21:26 Oh, if you don't believe me, if you don't believe me, the church is the bride and Jesus
00:21:39 is the groom.
00:21:41 And the last I saw, the church is here waiting on the groom to come.
00:21:47 So if you want us to love you like God loved the church, why are we always doing the waiting?
00:21:57 Oh, I'm messing up.
00:22:01 See, and I'm not messing up your theology, I'm just messing up your opinion because the
00:22:05 things most of you all are thinking have nothing to do with Scripture.
00:22:13 Oh God, I can't stand how quiet y'all are.
00:22:18 This is very...
00:22:19 You ought to be really paying attention to yourself how you act when you get the truth.
00:22:31 Women are always considered last.
00:22:40 We got to wait.
00:22:43 Any good man will tell you, if you got a couple of dollars, you got to make sure everybody
00:22:47 in the house has it.
00:22:48 You got to go without.
00:22:51 And even parents teach their sons, "Your sisters, let them go first."
00:22:59 "Let them get the bathroom first."
00:23:04 "Let them be first, let them be first."
00:23:08 And so in every step of his life, he's always last.
00:23:14 Women get in a club for free.
00:23:22 Y'all get free drinks from four to six.
00:23:27 Tell me one club that says, "Men's special."
00:23:30 The first 50 men get in free.
00:23:38 Now we got to buy bottles at $1,500 a pop so all of the women can drink for free.
00:23:43 Come on now, come on.
00:23:49 If you can't say amen, say ouch.
00:23:53 Fellas, I'm telling you, you're going to have to say something because if y'all don't start
00:23:58 saying amen, I'm going to switch on y'all right now.
00:24:00 I'm going to turn a corner because when I help them out, they say something.
00:24:05 You better say something.
00:24:07 I'll fight y'all too.
00:24:13 But let me tell you why.
00:24:15 Let me tell you why the men are sitting here silent because they're afraid if they say
00:24:18 too much, there are consequences.
00:24:22 Oh, oh, oh, so you're going to let Reb get you in trouble?
00:24:25 Don't let Reb come up and mess up our house.
00:24:27 No, Reb telling the Word of God, "You messed up the house."
00:24:39 I want you to remember the name of my sermon, the Adam's apple, and I'm not talking about
00:24:43 the one in the garden.
00:24:44 I'm talking about this one.
00:24:47 You're going to get it in a minute.
00:24:49 You're going to get it in a minute.
00:24:50 And I came cocked and loaded and ready to fight the devil in here today.
00:24:54 And the reason why I'm not talking about the one in the garden, we don't even know what
00:24:59 fruit they ate in the garden.
00:25:02 We don't know if it was an apple, but I'm talking about this Adam's apple.
00:25:12 Ladies first.
00:25:14 Ladies night.
00:25:16 What a dudes night.
00:25:18 Have y'all ever been to a jewelry store?
00:25:21 Say the jewelry store is the size of this stage.
00:25:25 All of this is the women's rings.
00:25:39 And here go the men's ring section right over here in the corner.
00:25:48 That's why all of us got the same ring on.
00:25:49 We ain't got no four choices.
00:25:52 Ain't but three men's rings in the whole world.
00:25:59 Everyone got an oval, square, emerald, cushion, big, small, clarity, cut, princess cut, Diana
00:26:12 cut, Sarah cut.
00:26:15 All we got is a band.
00:26:19 That's a gold or a black or a wooden band.
00:26:31 So we live in a world of double standards.
00:26:33 Now I've been watching online, men have been getting wigs lately.
00:26:38 And y'all been laughing and talking about us, but you haven't wore your hair natural
00:26:44 since Madam CJ Walker.
00:26:46 Why in the world?
00:26:51 Why y'all making fun of us?
00:26:53 If we want to change how we look, shouldn't we be able to do it like you?
00:27:00 Your hair is not that straight and it ain't that long.
00:27:04 Now if we get rid of all of the helping here today, it's going to be a whole lot of Nigerian
00:27:09 sisters in the room today because your real texture underneath that silk texture, all
00:27:17 we got to do is look at your neck.
00:27:18 Now we can tell.
00:27:19 Y'all better stop playing with us.
00:27:20 That ain't yours.
00:27:21 I ain't saying nothing wrong with your wig, but stop making fun of the brothers if they
00:27:45 want one.
00:27:49 You can see sisters online, "Oh girl, look at him.
00:27:52 That wig is out of control."
00:27:53 Uh, baby, let me tell you something.
00:27:56 Some of y'all wigs out of pocket.
00:28:04 Fellas, holler at your boy because they ain't came to no church.
00:28:27 I was in the golf store yesterday getting me a golf bag.
00:28:31 And women always make fun of men about how we always wait till the last minute when it's
00:28:36 Mother's Day.
00:28:37 Let me tell you how many women was in the golf store yesterday getting gift cards last
00:28:42 minute.
00:28:43 Just, I mean a million of them in there asking a man, "What me and like?"
00:28:48 This was yesterday.
00:28:55 Y'all want picnics in the park, a drone to bring about a crystal down from the air.
00:29:03 You want a plastic bubble with an air conditioner in the inside because you had nine months
00:29:08 of labor.
00:29:09 I understand that mothers ought to be respected and applauded, but so should fathers.
00:29:26 We're just always falling behind.
00:29:31 Go do the statistics right now.
00:29:33 Look at boys and girls in academia.
00:29:36 The boys are falling behind academically, behind women.
00:29:40 If you go to graduate schools right now, women are outnumbering men in graduate schools two
00:29:44 to one.
00:29:45 And in the 1980s, it was even.
00:29:46 So right now, you have two women being educated for every one man.
00:29:53 Do you hear me?
00:29:54 And if you're a woman, you can be a double minority if you are black or brown.
00:30:02 Are you listening to me?
00:30:05 And let me tell you something.
00:30:06 And when I looked at my brother in the hospital bed, it made me realize that our men are dropping
00:30:11 out of the workforce, overdosing on drugs, contemplating suicide, drinking themselves
00:30:19 to death, and dying seven years earlier.
00:30:24 I want you to look at the mall the next time you go and you see an older couple, and the
00:30:29 woman is about 70 years old, and the man is about 72.
00:30:33 The woman is going to be 72, 75, still in heels walking, just getting it.
00:30:39 And here go Willie Earl behind her.
00:30:44 They the same age.
00:30:53 Pay attention.
00:30:58 What is it about why are we dying seven years earlier?
00:31:04 Did God give women special hearts than He gave men?
00:31:08 Do y'all have veins we don't have?
00:31:10 Do y'all have kidneys we don't have?
00:31:12 Oh, maybe we have pressure that you don't have.
00:31:18 Maybe we have responsibilities that you don't have.
00:31:22 And maybe the weight on us has drug us so far down that a 50-year-old man can be in
00:31:30 the hospital with a double aneurysm.
00:31:38 And where are the hashtags that protect us?
00:31:43 Us too.
00:31:50 We have no dates that protect us, only dates that memorialize us.
00:31:59 Not only are we being killed in our homes, we are being killed in our streets.
00:32:06 Not always by gang members.
00:32:10 Sometimes by those who promise to protect and serve.
00:32:17 On the first day, He created day and night.
00:32:22 On the second day, He created the atmosphere.
00:32:24 Oh, there is a Paris Climate Agreement with 160-plus nations protecting the air.
00:32:31 He created the fish in the file.
00:32:33 There's a game and wildlife coalition that protects it.
00:32:37 He created the sun, moons, and stars, and NASA has spent trillions of dollars appreciating
00:32:42 and exploring it.
00:32:45 But where's the commission for man?
00:32:50 Everything He created has an agency that protects it except for us.
00:32:59 Look at commercials that publicize things for women.
00:33:05 It's always women in the park just happy, just, "Oh, if you take this medicine, you're
00:33:13 going to be good."
00:33:15 When it's a man's medicine, he like...
00:33:22 You seen that one Voltairian with the father and the son.
00:33:24 He gets up, he can't get up from the desk, he can't walk, and then he takes his dad up
00:33:27 to the mountain and he wipes the stuff on his knee and all of a sudden he's better because
00:33:31 even the way we're depicted on television is always broken down, always dying, always
00:33:40 in need of more.
00:33:43 I'm going to preach today whether you like it or not.
00:33:49 And some in our society will blame it on video games and some will blame it on fatherlessness
00:33:55 and some will blame it on negative relationships.
00:34:00 But I'm afraid that the problem is a lot more complicated than that.
00:34:05 And so are the solutions.
00:34:08 Here it is.
00:34:09 Are you ready?
00:34:10 You want to know why we're struggling, men?
00:34:14 Satan hates Adam.
00:34:22 I'm going to prove it to you.
00:34:25 Satan hates Adam.
00:34:27 Verse 5 says, "There was no man to work the ground."
00:34:32 Verse 7 says, "So God formed him from the dust."
00:34:35 Verse 18 says, "The man was alone and God made him a helper."
00:34:39 Well, why does he need help?
00:34:42 Everybody just say this with me, "Help a brother out."
00:34:45 Let me tell you why he needs help because the first two jobs that God gave him are never
00:34:50 ending.
00:34:51 The first thing God told him to do was till the ground.
00:34:52 Can you imagine Adam is over here tilling the ground and as soon as he gets the east
00:34:57 side of the garden together, he goes to the west.
00:34:59 But before he finishes with the west, the east is already growing again.
00:35:03 And then he goes south to get south done.
00:35:05 And then he goes to get north.
00:35:06 But once he gets north done, then south is overgrown, but west still needs help.
00:35:10 So he's over here now trying to fix west again.
00:35:13 And in the same time that he's trying to keep the garden cut, just imagine having to cut
00:35:18 a yard the size of Houston.
00:35:19 By the time you get one side done and go to the other side, it would have grown again.
00:35:24 So now he's in a full-time job, don't know when he's going to get a break, doesn't get
00:35:29 an opportunity to stop because he's got to make it pretty for everybody.
00:35:32 And in the same time, he's got to name all of the animals.
00:35:37 And scientists are still discovering animals today.
00:35:40 So that means that just when he figures and thinks he has named all of the animals, here
00:35:44 comes another species that needs a name.
00:35:48 So now he's cutting and naming, cutting and naming, cutting and naming.
00:35:52 And then Eve comes and says, "I need me time."
00:36:03 I thought you were here to help, not tell me to do more.
00:36:14 I thought you were here to help.
00:36:18 Can you name some of these animals?
00:36:20 Can you cut some of this grass?
00:36:23 Because let me tell you something, you will either babysit a broke man or miss a rich
00:36:29 one.
00:36:33 No man who is bringing home the bacon and can buy you the house you want and can buy
00:36:39 you the car you want and can clothe you the way you want to be clothed has enough time
00:36:44 to eat lunch with you every day.
00:36:51 So either you're going to have a man who's at home with you all day so you can know where
00:36:56 he's at at all times and he can contribute.
00:37:05 Or you're going to have one who knows how to slay giants.
00:37:14 But you ain't going to find both of them in one.
00:37:18 Any man who got as much time as you want him to have ain't going to have as much resources
00:37:23 as you need him to have.
00:37:26 So you just pick.
00:37:29 Do you want a boo or do you want a man?
00:37:34 And when that man comes home from cutting that grass and naming those animals, you be
00:37:40 at the door talking about, "Adam, wherefore art thou, Adam?
00:37:49 Remove your fig leaf."
00:37:50 No, because we need some help.
00:37:55 Help a brother out.
00:37:56 Slap your nemesis and help a brother out.
00:37:57 He needs some help.
00:37:58 He needs some help.
00:38:06 See the thing about a man, y'all better hear me, a man's primary job is to protect and
00:38:10 provide.
00:38:11 And let me tell you something, if a woman takes care of the house, you can be too tired
00:38:16 to cook.
00:38:17 He can never be too tired to protect.
00:38:20 Oh, you better hear me.
00:38:22 See, the man's job is never ending.
00:38:25 He can't ever be too tired to provide.
00:38:27 He can't ever be too tired to protect.
00:38:30 But you can have a headache.
00:38:36 Now the way the Bible says your body don't belong to you, it belongs to him, so take
00:38:40 an Advil.
00:38:45 If you know you're prone to get headaches, wake up and take one so it'll start working
00:38:48 before you get one.
00:38:52 You know you got headache problems.
00:38:55 Oh, I know you don't like it.
00:39:00 I know you don't like it.
00:39:03 But you don't recognize that society has commercialized man and womanhood.
00:39:09 And because women buy, that's what story is sold.
00:39:20 Oh my God.
00:39:26 You don't have any idea how a good man in the house wakes up every time he hears a sound.
00:39:33 This is all men do right now.
00:39:35 When a man is with you, let me tell you something, he has looked at the topography of everything.
00:39:39 Okay, if something happens, I'm going to pick this up and knock him out.
00:39:42 This is the exit.
00:39:43 This is where I'm going to go.
00:39:44 I'm going to tell her to go here.
00:39:46 He's already trying to figure out how to protect you at all times.
00:39:51 Every man in this room right now that is with a woman has already calculated what it would
00:39:55 take to protect her without saying a word to you.
00:40:05 I know it Sarge.
00:40:06 I just want to think, oh, if I don't open the door for her, how long is she going to
00:40:10 be mad at me?
00:40:11 If I don't speak to her when I walk in the house, even though she don't speak to me,
00:40:14 how long is she going to be mad at me?
00:40:16 If I don't kiss her, but if she don't kiss me, I forgot.
00:40:19 But if I don't kiss her, who else you got?
00:40:21 I don't need y'all getting quiet.
00:40:35 I'm telling the God's honest truth.
00:40:38 He's cutting the grass and he's naming animals, cutting the grass, naming animals, cutting
00:40:46 the grass, pruning the grass, and Lord knows, don't let him make a mistake.
00:40:53 Don't let him make a mistake.
00:40:57 If he make a mistake, it ain't never going to be forgotten.
00:41:01 And here's the thing, everything that God created in some way has disserved you and
00:41:07 yet you still enjoy it.
00:41:08 The sun can give you cancer, but you don't stay inside.
00:41:12 The atmosphere can give you allergies, but you just take a pill and you go.
00:41:15 The fish can give you food poisoning, but you eat it anyway.
00:41:19 But let man make a mistake.
00:41:30 Man makes a mistake, he might not ever be forgiven.
00:41:35 And women say, "Oh, we do forgive.
00:41:36 We stayed."
00:41:37 Just because you stayed don't mean you forgave.
00:41:40 Some women stay so they can manipulate you into being the kind of weak man they need
00:41:45 you to be so they will forgive you so they can control you.
00:41:50 They will pretend to forgive you so they can control you.
00:41:52 You made a mistake, they think, "Ah, got him.
00:41:55 Now I'm going to make him spend the next 10 years making up for an insecurity I had before
00:41:59 I got him."
00:42:05 Look at every woman and say, "Unfold your arms.
00:42:06 I don't care.
00:42:07 I don't care."
00:42:08 See, because let me, ladies, let me tell you something.
00:42:14 And this sermon, I know they're going to go crazy online.
00:42:17 I'm not worried about it.
00:42:18 But see, you can't use your body language to get me to change my conversation.
00:42:24 You can slouch down in that seat.
00:42:25 You can keep rolling your eyes at me.
00:42:26 I'm still going to preach.
00:42:32 Because why am I talking about the Adam's apple?
00:42:34 Brothers, let me give you the end before the beginning.
00:42:36 If the devil can get you to stop talking.
00:42:40 So now you have men, their answer to the frustration is to get a man cave and to play video games
00:42:51 for nine hours a day and be in silence.
00:42:56 And if there is one thing that frustrates a woman with a man, it's when he won't talk.
00:43:04 My question for you is when was the last time what we said considered to be valuable?
00:43:16 We are only quiet because you told us we talk too much.
00:43:24 Which one do you want?
00:43:28 Do you want us to talk to you or do you want us to shut up and let you be you?
00:43:34 Which one do you want?
00:43:35 Because you are confusing us.
00:43:38 Do you want us to shut up and talk or be quiet and listen?
00:43:48 Or does it depend on which version of man you want that day?
00:43:52 Y'all hear them church mice?
00:44:08 We have to detoxify what it means to be a man.
00:44:12 And being a man doesn't mean we can do everything.
00:44:15 Let me tell you something.
00:44:17 That man cries.
00:44:18 People say, "I ain't never seen my daddy cry before."
00:44:22 That's because he wouldn't let you see it.
00:44:23 But let me tell you, your daddy cries.
00:44:27 He goes in the bathroom and locks the door and cries in the shower.
00:44:32 Make sure that his eyes are not red when he comes out because he knows all of his life
00:44:37 tears have been met with condescending comments like, "Weak."
00:44:42 Oh, he cries.
00:44:45 Let me tell you about a man.
00:44:46 He doesn't cry like you.
00:44:48 He don't cry with tears.
00:44:50 He cries with another woman.
00:44:56 He cries by going and buying a sports car and washing it all day long.
00:45:01 He cries by buying jewelry and watches.
00:45:04 He cries by buying rims.
00:45:06 Oh, he will get attention from somebody if you won't give it to him.
00:45:15 He cries.
00:45:17 He cries.
00:45:18 Touch your neighbor and say, "Me and cry."
00:45:25 He struggles to do the one thing that he needs to do the most.
00:45:29 Listen to me.
00:45:30 He struggles to ask for help.
00:45:41 He struggles to ask for help.
00:45:49 And when he does ask for help and he does get the help, he will realize that his life
00:45:59 could be better, but Satan has gotten the Adam's apple.
00:46:06 The Adam's apple is cartilage that God strategically placed in the body that covers the larynx or
00:46:12 what scientists call the voice box.
00:46:16 So every attack of the enemy is to silence a man because things happen when we speak,
00:46:24 which is why we are silent because we are under the spell of Satan.
00:46:29 We're quiet everywhere.
00:46:30 We're quiet at home.
00:46:31 We're quiet at church.
00:46:35 You know your son needs to be talked to, but you don't want to fight with his mama because
00:46:40 she's telling you how to talk to him.
00:46:44 Let me tell you some women, if you got a good man in your house, don't you stand in between
00:46:48 him and his son.
00:46:58 Don't put your hands on my child.
00:47:00 The Bible says beat them and they will not die.
00:47:02 Read your scripture.
00:47:03 Read your Bible.
00:47:04 Read your Bible.
00:47:06 Read your scripture.
00:47:07 I know what you're thinking, but read your Bible.
00:47:11 Those whom he loved, he also chastises.
00:47:13 What is wrong with our young boys today is that they have no disciplinarian.
00:47:26 Can I still talk to you?
00:47:30 Adam is in the garden.
00:47:31 He feels last.
00:47:33 Now all of a sudden he sees Eve.
00:47:35 He sees what the animals do.
00:47:37 He tried.
00:47:38 Nine months later, they got sons.
00:47:43 He learned how to procreate from an animal.
00:47:51 What do lions do after they mate with lionesses?
00:47:55 They leave.
00:48:02 He learned from the beast.
00:48:06 The one thing a man can do without help is leave.
00:48:13 That's his nature.
00:48:17 That's why I told you all to praise God for a man that stayed, because any man that stayed
00:48:20 is acting in opposition to his nature.
00:48:25 He leaves.
00:48:31 He has two sons, Cain and Abel, and they are born.
00:48:36 And then they give an offering to God.
00:48:38 The Bible says that God saw that Abel's offering was more advantageous than Cain's.
00:48:50 So Cain saw that his offering was considered last.
00:48:58 Now why does he struggle with being considered last?
00:49:03 Well, because the first thing that Adam gave Cain was not a name.
00:49:06 It was insecurity.
00:49:10 Adam felt last.
00:49:12 Now Cain feels last.
00:49:14 And now Cain kills Abel because he feels last.
00:49:18 And by the way, go read your Bible.
00:49:20 By the time you get to the fourth chapter, Cain has left the garden.
00:49:25 He leaves.
00:49:27 And the Bible says he lives as a vagabond for the rest of his life, because men, when
00:49:32 we are in a tight spot and we don't have words to say or we don't feel that we would be believed
00:49:38 or we don't feel validated, let me tell you what we will do.
00:49:44 We will leave.
00:49:48 We will walk right out of the room.
00:49:52 And you will think we walked out on you.
00:49:55 We've walked out on something that was passed to us because what is the benefit of staying?
00:50:06 Am I staying so that I can be manipulated?
00:50:11 Am I staying because it's right to do?
00:50:15 Am I staying for the kids?
00:50:20 And I know we talk about men who stay for things other than the relationship, but women,
00:50:25 y'all stay for other stuff too.
00:50:29 Some women, they want to leave, but when they start calculating the bills, they figure they
00:50:33 can't live on their own yet, so they stay until they can.
00:50:36 So I can't afford this house by myself, so I'm going to stay for a little while, but
00:50:42 by the time tax return come, I'll be able to get it, so I'll file in February because...
00:50:59 The devil is after the male voice.
00:51:01 And let me tell you why your sons are joining gangs, not so they can get an AK-47, but because
00:51:06 they want a man to tell them what to do.
00:51:10 They getting in the game so that somebody with clout and authority can give them instructions
00:51:16 even if it's the wrong instruction.
00:51:23 Are you listening to me?
00:51:27 So Adam gives Cain insecurity, and now Cain is insecure.
00:51:36 Listen to me, women, which means that if you don't start lifting your men, you are actually
00:51:44 punishing your boys.
00:51:54 Whatever man doesn't get from you, he can't give to his sons.
00:51:59 And so if you don't have healthy men, you can't have healthy sons.
00:52:03 If you don't have strong fathers, you can't have strong boys, and daughters for that matter.
00:52:08 That's why you got to understand the nature of men.
00:52:10 The Bible says in Genesis that man was created in the image of God.
00:52:15 And one of the things that God needs to be is what?
00:52:18 Praised.
00:52:19 And every time God is praised, he does more.
00:52:26 Why do you think Solomon said it is better for a man to be on a rooftop or in a desert
00:52:31 than in the house with a complaining woman?
00:52:33 If you would turn that complaining into praise, let me tell you something.
00:52:37 A man who is praised will run through fire and a brick wall to bring the bacon home.
00:52:42 A man who is praised.
00:52:44 And let me tell you something.
00:52:46 Listen to me, women.
00:52:47 We need to be loved before we get rich.
00:52:49 We need to be loved before we get it right.
00:52:51 We need to be loved when we're getting on y'all nerve.
00:52:54 We need to be loved because most of us are learning how to be husbands and fathers on
00:52:58 you.
00:53:06 Nobody wants to praise the man.
00:53:07 All we want to do is correct him.
00:53:12 But you got to praise that man.
00:53:14 And when you praise that man, he'll perform miracles.
00:53:16 When you praise that man, he'll protect you the more.
00:53:19 When you praise that man, he will remember to do the things that you need done without
00:53:23 you having to ask for them.
00:53:29 One of the things that most women say about men is, "Why should I respect him if he don't
00:53:33 respect me?"
00:53:40 But how many women have been loved by men they didn't love?
00:53:49 You got to respect that man even when he is not in the best position to be respected.
00:53:58 He can be acting a fool and be plum ignorant, but he yours.
00:54:06 Talk to me, somebody.
00:54:08 I said talk to me, somebody.
00:54:11 Aren't we taught as a society to love women the way they are?
00:54:14 Well, why don't y'all love us the way we are?
00:54:19 Messed up, tore up, psychologically disturbed, insecure, rejected.
00:54:26 We are all of those things too.
00:54:32 Somebody help Adam.
00:54:33 I want you to look at a man right now and say, "I got your back, bro."
00:54:37 Just look at him and say, "I got your back, bro."
00:54:38 I'm going to let y'all go.
00:54:57 Let me tell you why this is so hard.
00:54:58 Let me tell you why this is so hard because only 10% of the room wants to hear what I'm
00:55:04 saying.
00:55:07 That's why this is so hard because only 10% of the room wants to hear what I'm saying.
00:55:12 But I promise to God if I was saying, "Women, you don't need a man.
00:55:16 You can get a man."
00:55:17 Y'all would be in here going crazy.
00:55:20 Y'all would be going crazy if it was for you.
00:55:27 I'm just trying to get you to understand you're damaging your child when you don't give a
00:55:35 damn about him.
00:55:44 That's your child's father.
00:55:46 Do you not want him to be healthy enough to pour into your child and love your child?
00:55:51 Let me tell you something.
00:55:53 Most men are confused and broken.
00:55:56 Let me tell you why.
00:55:57 Because they were born to men who were confused and broken.
00:56:01 Let me tell you why.
00:56:02 Because they were born to men who were confused and broken.
00:56:06 And since Adam's time, men have been silent.
00:56:12 Adam should have stood up and said, "Eve, you heard what God said.
00:56:18 God said we can't eat that tree.
00:56:20 You know what he did?
00:56:22 He acquiesced to make her happy.
00:56:25 And he bit the fruit.
00:56:26 And now we are all in trouble because the man didn't speak up."
00:56:32 Brother, let me tell you something.
00:56:35 The last thing I want you to be is silent.
00:56:37 You can be broke, but don't be silent.
00:56:40 You can be broken, but don't be silent.
00:56:42 You can be confused, but don't be silent.
00:56:44 You can be a whoremonger, but don't be silent.
00:56:47 Open your mouth and speak life.
00:56:50 I need to hear every man in this place today.
00:56:52 Open up your mouth and begin to praise God like your life depended on it.
00:57:06 How do I know this is true?
00:57:09 Because even Jesus, when he was going through his crucifixion, the Bible says he never said.
00:57:18 Because when men struggle, we get quiet.
00:57:23 The most dangerous man in the world is the one who gets enough courage to not care if
00:57:29 you talk to him either.
00:57:32 When a man gets to the point where your silence doesn't make him do something different, you're
00:57:39 losing.
00:57:40 Because every man who still cares will come to you and say, "Okay, baby, what we got to
00:57:44 do?
00:57:46 What's wrong with you?"
00:57:49 The moment you can go three days without talking and he can go four?
00:57:59 I'm telling you, it ain't going to be good.
00:58:02 And you might not care, but I'm just saying.
00:58:06 It's a wrap.
00:58:09 Don't lose your voice.
00:58:13 Talk to your sons even if you feel uncomfortable.
00:58:19 And don't let a divorce make you not be a father to a child you brought into the world.
00:58:25 Fight whoever you got to fight to see your child.
00:58:29 Stop buying Louis Vuitton and go get you a lawyer.
00:58:34 Don't you just let your son or your daughter be out here without you.
00:58:42 There's something in you they can't get from nobody else.
00:58:45 And I don't care how good the man is that she got, he ain't you.
00:58:51 If anything, get alongside that brother and help him raise your child.
00:58:55 But don't be absent because you can't have the mama.
00:58:58 You're the worst kind of man that won't raise your child because you can't sleep with they
00:59:01 mama.
00:59:06 She shouldn't have to sleep with you for you to pay child support.
00:59:09 She shouldn't have to flirt with you for you to be a man.
00:59:11 Be a man every day of your life.
00:59:21 Somebody shout, "I'm a man."
00:59:23 Man got responsibilities.
00:59:25 It's hard to be a man.
00:59:27 It's tough to be a man.
00:59:28 It's uncomfortable to be a man.
00:59:30 But nonetheless, be one anyway.
00:59:34 Be one anyway.
00:59:36 Be one broke.
00:59:37 You ain't got to buy your child Jordans to be a father.
00:59:40 All you got to do is show up and spend time with them.
00:59:42 Be a man.
00:59:47 Sit down and play the video game with them even if you don't understand what's going
00:59:50 on.
00:59:51 Sit down with them and dribble the basketball.
00:59:53 Have the conversation of the birds and the bees with them.
00:59:55 And let me tell you something, just because you made mistakes don't mean you ought to
00:59:58 not try.
01:00:04 Every man shout, "Be a man."
01:00:10 Don't you ever be more father to somebody else's child than you are your own.
01:00:17 Be a man.
01:00:20 Man, you're going to have to fight because it's going to be stuff trying to get you along
01:00:29 the whole way, but you're going to have to fight.
01:00:31 And you're going to have to be strategic and you're going to have to be smart.
01:00:35 And you can't be emotional.
01:00:36 You're going to have to think.
01:00:42 Because a real man always thinks about the long-term consequences of immediate decisions.
01:00:51 Speak up.
01:00:52 Stop coming to church and letting the women praise and you just sitting there looking
01:00:55 like I ain't talking to you too.
01:00:59 Standing around here praising and dancing, the fellas just sitting there cool.
01:01:01 Let me tell you something, you ain't going to get no miracle with your hand in your pocket.
01:01:05 You ain't going to get no miracle with your tongue at the roof of your mouth.
01:01:08 You're going to have to subot God too.
01:01:09 You're going to have to fall prostrate in the sanctuary.
01:01:12 You're going to have to speak in your heavenly language.
01:01:14 You're going to have to lift your hands.
01:01:15 I want to see men walking around this room laying your hands on your wives and your sons
01:01:21 and your daughters.
01:01:22 I want to see husbands doing it too.
01:01:24 Women shouldn't always be at the altar praying.
01:01:27 There ought to be some men carrying your whole family up here coming to the Lord, beseeching
01:01:33 the throne of grace.
01:01:42 Having a beard don't make you a man.
01:01:47 Having pecs in your chest don't make you a man.
01:01:49 Having biceps don't make you a man.
01:01:50 What makes you a man is you're responsible for your garden and naming your animals.
01:01:56 That's what makes you a man.
01:01:59 You might not be able to buy the garden I can buy, or you might not be able to buy the
01:02:02 garden that Pastor Torrance can buy, but get your garden and you tend that garden.
01:02:06 Don't wish for somebody else's garden.
01:02:08 Work the garden you got.
01:02:09 I said work the garden you got.
01:02:12 If you got a two-bedroom apartment, work your garden.
01:02:15 If you got a 5,000-square-foot house, work your garden.
01:02:18 If you got vacation homes, work your garden.
01:02:23 Be a man.
01:02:28 Help me, Holy Spirit.
01:02:31 Let me tell you why you're having trouble, because I'm going to tell you what the Bible
01:02:33 says.
01:02:34 It says the first Adam was a created creature.
01:02:41 The second Adam was a life-giving spirit.
01:02:46 Uh-oh, we got a problem.
01:02:50 The reason why Satan hates the first Adam is because he picked a fight with the second
01:02:55 Adam.
01:02:58 The second Adam is Jesus.
01:03:00 According to Paul, not only, here it is, not only was Jesus the second Adam, if you look
01:03:07 at it in the Hebrew, the Bible says that Jesus was the last Adam.
01:03:13 So Jesus says, "Men, you got a complex as a result of the fall.
01:03:20 You ain't the last Adam.
01:03:24 I was the last Adam, so you never have to be last again."
01:03:29 The reason why most men don't know their place is because they haven't found it in God.
01:03:36 You keep finding your place in how much money you make and how much your job pays you, but
01:03:41 can I get some spiritual men who don't count your worth by what your bank account looks
01:03:47 like but count your worth because when you pray, something happens?
01:03:52 Can I get a spiritual man in this house to make the roof shake on this place and use
01:03:59 your voice?
01:04:04 I need every brother to find another brother and tell him, "You ain't last.
01:04:08 The first shall be last and the last shall be first."
01:04:11 I speak to every man in here.
01:04:13 It is time for you to find your rightful position.
01:04:16 It's time for you to get in the front of the line.
01:04:18 It's time for you to call the prayer meeting with your wife, not the other way around.
01:04:22 It's time for you to anoint your children with oil, not the other way around.
01:04:26 Every man stand up and shout, "I'm a man."
01:04:33 I said every man stand up and shout, "I'm a man."
01:04:38 I'm a man whether I'm unemployed.
01:04:41 I'm a man whether I have a savings account.
01:04:43 I'm a man whether I have a woman.
01:04:45 I'm a man because God created me to be one.
01:04:56 Stop calculating your worth on stuff.
01:05:00 You don't need seven rings on, 12 bracelets, and 15 chains to be a man.
01:05:07 You don't even know how they talking about your crazy butt when you come over here with
01:05:10 all that jewelry on and women like, "It ain't real anyway."
01:05:14 You want to impress a woman, come over and bring her your journal, your prayer life,
01:05:18 and your devotional and tell her, "Baby, I got your back.
01:05:23 I might not be where I want to be, but I promise you I can keep the devil off of you."
01:05:27 Where are the real spiritual men in this house today?
01:05:32 Give another brother a high five and tell him, "This is your season to be the man that
01:05:36 God called you to be.
01:05:37 Lift up your head, oh ye gates.
01:05:39 Be ye lifted up, ye everlasting doors, and the King of glory shall come in."
01:05:43 I need every man to shout.
01:05:51 Shout this man and say, "It's my time."
01:05:54 Shout, "It's my season."
01:05:55 Shout, "I got the victory."
01:05:58 Now men, if you believe it, I want to hear some noise in this place.
01:06:06 Men, remember Romans 8 and 1 the rest of your life, because men are not often forgiven for
01:06:16 their sins.
01:06:17 But Romans 8 and 1 says, "Therefore, there's no condemnation to those that are in Christ
01:06:22 Jesus."
01:06:23 Let me tell you something, even if they don't forgive you, God has.
01:06:35 God has forgiven you.
01:06:38 For every mistake you've made, God ain't just a God for women.
01:06:44 He don't just forgive them.
01:06:47 He don't just give them another chance.
01:06:51 He don't just forgive them for divorce, He forgives you too.
01:06:56 Let me tell you something, if all mothers were staying with their children, then we
01:07:00 would not have receptacles at fire stations.
01:07:06 Let's talk about it.
01:07:08 Let's talk about it.
01:07:09 They now have a new box at the fire station where you can go and drop the baby off, and
01:07:14 it is inside of the fire station, and it locks from the outside after you drop the baby off.
01:07:19 So let me ask you, are men doing that?
01:07:25 We got a myth that all women stay and all men leave.
01:07:29 That's a lie from the pit of hell.
01:07:31 There's some single fathers in here right now raising children, they ain't got help
01:07:33 from nobody.
01:07:36 There's some single fathers in here right now speaking life into their child and their
01:07:39 mama in Vegas living up their life.
01:07:41 I want you to start recognizing that men are not asleep at the wheel.
01:07:45 It ain't as many of us as it is y'all, but we got this.
01:07:55 Help me, Holy Ghost.
01:07:58 Help me, Holy Ghost.
01:07:59 I'm breaking curses in here.
01:08:01 I'm breaking chains in here right now, because if I can get these fathers to see who they
01:08:05 are, they're going to call their sons when they get home and say, "Baby boy, I'm sorry
01:08:09 that I wasn't there for you, but as of this day, you got your daddy and I got your back."
01:08:14 Because let me tell you, a man that knows that his father has his back, a daughter who
01:08:21 knows that her father has her back.
01:08:28 I told my wife one day in a conversation, I said, "Baby, I got a revelation.
01:08:34 I said, 'Baby, I got a revelation.
01:08:35 I wish I would have known this a long time ago.'
01:08:37 I said, 'But here's the problem that I've always had, and the Lord helped cure when
01:08:42 I met you.
01:08:43 It is not my job to turn you into who I wish you were.
01:08:51 It is my job to love you just like you are.'"
01:09:01 And she's always done that for me.
01:09:07 But that's what men need.
01:09:12 Can you love me with my bad temper because I love you with your over-emotionalism?
01:09:24 Can you love me when I don't cry because I love you and you cry for everything?
01:09:30 And after you cry, you still don't change.
01:09:37 Can you love me when I lose your job because I definitely dated you when you wasn't making
01:09:40 a lot?
01:09:44 And do I have time to get better because I definitely am giving you time to get better?
01:09:49 Literally, I think I said this the last time I was here at the North Campus, that we got
01:09:57 to get out of human worship.
01:09:58 Do you all remember that conversation?
01:10:00 And my brother Cleo sent me a message the same day after the sermon where a woman posted
01:10:06 online, "I need a man to call."
01:10:12 Just trying to figure out why y'all get to be worshipped and we don't.
01:10:19 Either we both going to be worshipped or we're not.
01:10:24 But this double standard that has men at the back of the line as if we're not contributing,
01:10:32 those days got to be over.
01:10:43 You think that sleeping with Him will satisfy Him.
01:10:51 It will for 15 minutes.
01:11:00 And I'm being generous.
01:11:08 You live in your house, you adjust.
01:11:12 I want you to look at these men standing up all over this room.
01:11:24 They ain't sat down in 25 minutes.
01:11:28 You know why they're standing up?
01:11:34 I want you to look at all these men because people say, "Man, it ain't that many men in
01:11:37 the church."
01:11:38 All the men stand up real quick.
01:11:39 All the men stand up.
01:11:40 Oh, it's some men in the church.
01:11:53 Look at them in the balcony.
01:11:54 All those men in the balcony.
01:11:58 It's some men in the church.
01:12:03 Let me tell you something.
01:12:06 You know why they're standing up?
01:12:09 Because they go their whole life and nobody speaks up for them.
01:12:13 And the reason why these men in this church and they're going to be back next time, because
01:12:17 they finally found a place where somebody ain't scared to speak the truth for them.
01:12:24 You know why they're standing up?
01:12:28 Because all of them thinking, "Rev, this is what I've been trying to say, but if I say
01:12:35 it, I get punished.
01:12:39 If I say it, it's going to be a problem."
01:12:42 Ladies, stop always trying to get us to hear you and hear us too.
01:12:58 Because if Satan gets behind this Adam's apple and he gets the voice, you're going to have
01:13:06 an issue because the Bible says in 1 Peter 3 and 7, "Let the man pray for the wife, for
01:13:15 she is the weaker vessel, that his prayers might not be hindered."
01:13:25 Did you not know that when you find the right man, you just haven't found a lover, you found
01:13:32 a prayer warrior?
01:13:43 I will grab my wife's hands in a minute and get to praying.
01:13:48 Sometimes I get to praying and she'll be looking at me like, "What you want?"
01:13:53 I'm like, "I don't want nothing, we're just going to pray."
01:13:57 We're riding in the car today, I know this is a second father's day without a father.
01:14:01 I just looked at her and said, "You're going to be all right."
01:14:05 Watch what I told her next, "Let me know if you're not."
01:14:09 Because she got permission not to be okay today.
01:14:14 She got permission.
01:14:21 She can get that from me because she gives that to me.
01:14:24 I'm just trying to tell you that a man you won't praise will not perform.
01:14:37 Even Jesus got to be praised.
01:14:43 And we were created in His image.
01:14:45 I tell you what.
01:14:50 Every man in this place grab another man by the hand.
01:14:55 One can chase a thousand.
01:14:58 Two of us can put 10,000 to flight.
01:15:04 And I'm going to ask you to do me one more favor before I pray.
01:15:13 I can almost guarantee you that that brother ain't got a hug from another brother since
01:15:21 he can remember.
01:15:23 I want you to wrap your arms around that dude and I want you to hug him like y'all used
01:15:30 to share twin beds as brothers.
01:15:33 Wrap your arms around and hug that brother.
01:15:34 Hug him.
01:15:35 Oh, it's amazing.
01:15:47 Hold on, hold on before we move on.
01:15:49 Hold on.
01:15:50 Hold on before we move on.
01:15:52 I ain't say pat him because this—come here, Raymond.
01:15:55 This is how brothers hug.
01:16:00 I said hug that brother.
01:16:02 Put your arms around that brother and squeeze and let him know he ain't by himself.
01:16:07 Hug that brother.
01:16:08 Hug him.
01:16:09 Hug him.
01:16:10 Hug him.
01:16:15 Now how many of y'all brothers feel better?
01:16:31 So there may be some women in this place today.
01:16:33 You're a single woman.
01:16:34 You live by yourself.
01:16:35 You're raising children on your own.
01:16:37 You don't have no help.
01:16:38 You wish you could find where they daddy was.
01:16:43 Let me tell you what we about to do.
01:16:46 I got enough brothers in here that's going to pray the spirit of courage and tenacity
01:16:52 in your house.
01:16:55 And I'm going to pray that the spirit of man falls on your house.
01:17:01 There's enough of us in here to do it.
01:17:05 Look at me, ladies.
01:17:06 Please, raise your hand if you have a teenage son in your house.
01:17:11 Look at me.
01:17:12 Look at me.
01:17:13 Look at pastor.
01:17:14 Do me a favor.
01:17:17 Do not make your son think he's your husband nor the man of your house.
01:17:28 Because when God does send both, your son is going to pretend as if the person God gave
01:17:35 you got to pass an exam.
01:17:38 And there's going to be contention.
01:17:39 You let God lead your house until he sends the man that he wants in your house.
01:17:44 Can I get an amen in this place today?
01:17:50 You put that boy in his place so he will be in his place when God puts somebody in your
01:17:55 space.
01:18:02 Don't let him sleep in your bed.
01:18:03 I don't care if you're home or absent.
01:18:06 Let him sleep in his own room.
01:18:09 He need to knock on your door before he come in.
01:18:12 Just walking in the door.
01:18:15 Put some parameters in place.
01:18:18 Sometimes God won't send you a man just because your environment ain't for men.
01:18:28 Start balancing your money.
01:18:32 You want a husband?
01:18:33 Either learn how to order real good or start cooking right now.
01:18:39 Either one of them will do.
01:18:43 If you order real good, he won't know you don't cook.
01:18:47 I want you to order real good.
01:18:49 Take it out the box, put it on the plate, make it look like you made it.
01:18:52 He won't know.
01:18:54 All we is is hungry.
01:18:55 That's it.
01:18:56 Am I right, brothers?
01:18:59 All we is is hungry.
01:19:05 Most of us don't care if you make something different every day.
01:19:08 As long as we full, just feed us until we want no more.
01:19:15 Brothers, I'm your father talking to you right now.
01:19:24 I have spoken for you, but now I'm going to challenge you.
01:19:29 Do not let this seed fall by the wayside.
01:19:41 Don't you leave here arrogant.
01:19:44 Don't you leave here hardy and puffed up with pride.
01:19:49 You leave here humble under the mighty hand of God.
01:19:56 You leave here broken and mistake-ridden because you ain't perfect, but nobody is.
01:20:05 But do not weaponize this message to be manipulative and get your way.
01:20:12 When you get home, you be a man.
01:20:17 Honor that woman as a weaker vessel that your prayers may not be hindered.
01:20:22 Woke not your children to raft.
01:20:27 Acknowledge the Lord in all of your ways, and He will direct your path.
01:20:31 Don't be silent, men.
01:20:36 Stop just trying to be rich.
01:20:37 Find your voice.
01:20:41 Stop just trying to put on muscle.
01:20:42 Find your voice.
01:20:46 Stop worried about your fashion for a little bit and find your voice.
01:20:53 Be authentic.
01:20:56 Be courageous.
01:21:00 And I promise you, my God shall supply all of your needs according to His riches in glory.
01:21:13 Let your family see the emotional side of you.
01:21:20 You don't have to be hard all the time.
01:21:25 You don't have to know everything.
01:21:29 If you don't know where you're going, ask for directions.
01:21:34 Stop getting lost for no reason.
01:21:40 Do you hear me?
01:21:47 I'm so honored to be your father.
01:21:52 I'm so honored to be your pastor.
01:22:01 I love you too.
01:22:04 And it ain't easy to get men to come to church.
01:22:07 But brothers, I'm over trying to get you to come to church.
01:22:11 I'm after getting to church in you.
01:22:15 I want you to take your position.
01:22:19 I want to see some of you as prayer warriors.
01:22:23 I want to see some of you as ministry leaders.
01:22:26 I want to see you in your position.
01:22:29 I want to see you here early and not coming late.
01:22:32 I want to see a volunteer army of men rise up that everything we do in this church, we
01:22:36 don't have to ask a woman to lift nothing.
01:22:38 I said we don't have to ask her.
01:22:40 I don't want to see another woman carrying a chair and opening a door.
01:22:43 I want you doing it.
01:22:47 If you got my back, say I got you.
01:22:52 Let me tell you something.
01:22:53 The devil tried to fight one of us, he fighting all of us.
01:22:58 We see a child in this church going by the wayside, we all praying for him.
01:23:04 Can you hear my mouth and my heart and my mind?
01:23:09 Spirit of the living God, touch these men.
01:23:12 These are not your typical men.
01:23:15 These are men on the upswing, on the rise for the upward call.
01:23:22 I call prostate cancer out of their bodies.
01:23:27 I call tumors out of their brains.
01:23:31 Hallelujah.
01:23:33 Cholesterol levels going down, hypertension going down, back pain going away, rejection
01:23:41 and insecurity dissolving.
01:23:44 I feel them rising.
01:23:50 As tears fall down their eyes, and it's okay to do so, I speak courage and life into you.
01:24:01 And no weapon, even if it is a family curse, no weapon formed against you will prosper.
01:24:15 And every lying tongue of the enemy that rises up against you shall be condemned.
01:24:23 In Jesus' name we pray.
01:24:27 Let every heart say amen.
01:24:29 One last time, ladies, can you praise God for these men?
01:24:34 [cheering]