Secrets of Great Relationships

Secrets of Great Relationships - as part of the expert series by GeoBeats. Five secrets of a great relationship are first of all to make a commitment, that you are really committing to each other and you are committing to create the relationship that you really want. You get in whole-heartedly, whole body, whole mind. The second one, is to let yourself be emotionally transparent with each other. That is to be real with each other, to share your feelings and to listen to each other's feelings. Particularly, anything you are sad, angry or scared about. The third is to take healthy responsibility, that is to shift from blame, either blaming yourself or blaming each other, to wonder, that is “hmm, what is it that I am doing to create what is going on?”. And as each of you do that, shifting from blame to wonder, you will move through problems and stuck places much, much more quickly. The forth is to really focus on developing your creativity, so when people really focus on fulfilling their own creativity, learning what it is they most want to do, what they most want to contribute, what their purpose is, then they spend far less time criticizing and trying to control their partner. So when you really focus on your creativity, you will find that the complaints in your relationship really tend to drop out, and you have lot more fun together, because you are actually renewing and creating and co-creating, rather than recycling old problems. And the fifth is to put a primary focus on appreciating. You can appreciate non-verbally by putting notes around, that is on one the things that Gay does that I really love, you could call your partner in the middle of the day just to let them know you were thinking of them and you really appreciate them, you can appreciate them when they come in the door. If you really put a focus on appreciating rather than complaining that is a very powerful and simple thing that you can do, that will really enhance your relationship.