Married At First Sight AU Season 12 Episode 18
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00:00:00Wow. She looked breathtaking.
00:00:04Previously, Lauren and Elliot were married at first sight.
00:00:09I wanted someone that was younger than me.
00:00:12Someone that's right at exercise like me.
00:00:14But Elliot left his wife after three days and exited the experiment.
00:00:20A grown man throwing a tantrum because he didn't get exactly what he wanted.
00:00:24The experts decided to give them both a second chance at love.
00:00:28Oh my god, Veronica, she's beautiful.
00:00:31I think Cliff's way better than I was expecting.
00:00:34And the final couple to enter this year's experiment, Beth and TJ, formed an instant connection.
00:00:40He's everything that I've asked the experts for, so I could not be any happier.
00:00:44But their special day was overshadowed by Jackie and Ryan's relationship.
00:00:49She'd written a rap sheet of every single grudge that had happened since the wedding day.
00:00:54Jeff got a text message from Jackie asking to catch up without me there.
00:00:58So deflective.
00:01:00Jackie, Jackie, it's not your wedding.
00:01:03Where is Adrian?
00:01:04Adrian called it quits.
00:01:06I'm asking you to come back.
00:01:07I'm not coming back until you give me the promo.
00:01:09There's always offloads, offloads, offloads.
00:01:12And after his shock return...
00:01:14Why were you out for dinner, Sierra, Saturday night?
00:01:16It was revealed that he and Sierra went out for a secret dinner behind their partner's backs.
00:01:22Why did you guys catch up?
00:01:24Like, why were you not with your wife?
00:01:26I did ask her to come out.
00:01:27No, you didn't.
00:01:28And Lauren and Elliot went head to head.
00:01:31That didn't happen.
00:01:32You had about five margaritas, so you might not remember.
00:01:34Oh my God.
00:01:38Tonight...
00:01:39We've been intimate.
00:01:43Love is in the air.
00:01:44I'm like, I'm just, I'd ride or die for people I love.
00:01:47He's someone that I do have love for.
00:01:49It's been amazing.
00:01:50It's been amazing.
00:01:51Oh, you guys.
00:01:52But not for all, as the experts ask the hard questions.
00:01:57Going to dinner with Adrian and breaking Billy's trust, is that something you regret?
00:02:03Um...
00:02:05Will Elliot apologise to Lauren for his behaviour?
00:02:09You had a chance to say, you know what, I regret that, I'm sorry.
00:02:12Elliot, what do you say to this?
00:02:15And then...
00:02:16Adrian, I've got it on good authority that you gave an ultimatum.
00:02:20Either put me in the promo or I'll leave.
00:02:22Adrian is held to account for his actions.
00:02:25You threw the toys out of the cot.
00:02:27You left her.
00:02:28Everyone reacts different.
00:02:29But it's Athena who leaves the room speechless.
00:02:34Oh my God.
00:02:47The countdown is on to the third commitment ceremony.
00:02:54Oh, it's good vibes.
00:02:55It's good vibes.
00:02:56Commitment ceremony day.
00:02:58I quite like you with the shaved fudge.
00:03:00Baby face.
00:03:01And after last night's explosive dinner party, many are eager to see the experts.
00:03:07I hope tonight's commitment ceremony is not going to be as...
00:03:09not going to be as heavy.
00:03:11So much to unpack.
00:03:13I definitely think there's going to be a few surprises.
00:03:16Jackie and Ryan will both right stay.
00:03:18They'll always do the opposite to what we think they should do.
00:03:22And across the hall, it's wedded bliss for Jackie and Ryan.
00:03:27I want to do something fun.
00:03:28You ready?
00:03:29What?
00:03:30All right, we're going to do our own little thing.
00:03:31As he has decided to take her list of grievances on board
00:03:34and make it up to her for the rest of the night.
00:03:37As he has decided to take her list of grievances on board
00:03:40and make it up to her for his wedding dance faux pas.
00:03:43You haven't really taken any personal accountability.
00:03:46Like, when you dropped me, I did hit my head.
00:03:50I'm going to dip here, ready?
00:03:52Okay, what way?
00:03:53Left.
00:03:54You're going to have to catch me though.
00:04:00I'm so sorry.
00:04:02Ready, we'll do a dip, we'll do a dip.
00:04:03Ready?
00:04:04Okay, ready?
00:04:05Ready?
00:04:07Oh, that way?
00:04:08Not out of the table.
00:04:09It's too dangerous, dip me that way.
00:04:11Are you ready?
00:04:15That was fun.
00:04:16That's it, redemption.
00:04:18Redemption.
00:04:19Now you've got 99 times to go.
00:04:20Actually, 90, 99.
00:04:22Who's counting?
00:04:2395, I'm counting.
00:04:25Mirena and Tony are also in high spirits this morning
00:04:29after taking the expert's advice last week to hit the reset button.
00:04:33You look nice.
00:04:35You look lovely as well.
00:04:38We're looking forward to it tonight, actually.
00:04:40Me and Mirena are in a good place at the moment.
00:04:43We've blossomed this week.
00:04:45Hey!
00:04:46Jesus!
00:04:47That's epic!
00:04:48Look at that!
00:04:49Look at the roses, baby, we're back.
00:04:53And the budding romance between the two was obvious at the dinner party.
00:04:57If I drink red, I'll tell you I love you, obviously.
00:05:00You need to give him, because he'll say he loves me by the end of the night.
00:05:03Three points.
00:05:07You know, I've put my 50% and more in.
00:05:11We've been having fun and spending time together.
00:05:16She's happy, she's a bit more relaxed.
00:05:19So, yeah, it's been nice.
00:05:20We're going smoothly at the moment, I think.
00:05:23And I'm looking forward to seeing the experts.
00:05:25It'll be interesting to hear what they say this time around when we speak.
00:05:28But as most of our couples look forward to tonight,
00:05:31it's a different story for Athena and Adrian,
00:05:35who have moved into separate apartments
00:05:37after they failed to come to a resolution last night.
00:05:41And in his solitude, Adrian has been reeling
00:05:44over the way he was received by the group and his wife.
00:05:50I'm feeling frustrated.
00:05:51I was treated unfairly last night.
00:05:54You heard one side and you were coming at me,
00:05:56and I was trying to speak and get a word in.
00:05:58But it didn't matter what I said,
00:06:00it was always going to be wrong according to everyone.
00:06:02Me and Tony were going out to dinner, as well as Sierra.
00:06:05On that night, Sierra, she looked upset.
00:06:07I was just trying to help.
00:06:08All there was, was a friendship.
00:06:10Oh, I don't care.
00:06:11I'll tell you exactly what it wasn't.
00:06:12Why were you not with your wife?
00:06:14Your wife is your priority.
00:06:16I was sad too.
00:06:19I know Athena, she's hurt.
00:06:21But, again, this is a two-way relationship.
00:06:25I'm getting used to this now.
00:06:28There's things that I'm upset about.
00:06:31Everyone's there on their promo, but me.
00:06:33And then she's saying, you know, you left, it was wrong.
00:06:35No, it was right.
00:06:36It was right.
00:06:37Being excluded made me feel like I wasn't good enough.
00:06:40And not once has she checked in,
00:06:41like, Adrian, I hope you're feeling better.
00:06:43It's been about just, you know,
00:06:45Adrian, I hope you're feeling better.
00:06:47It's been about just her, how she feels.
00:06:51I think she owes me an apology.
00:06:53So, yeah, I'm going to try to talk to her, for sure.
00:06:55Hopefully she's had a minute to sleep on it,
00:06:57think about it, and, you know, it's her story.
00:07:00Sorry.
00:07:13Didn't know you were going to answer the door.
00:07:21Forgot what our place looks like.
00:07:23Hm?
00:07:24I said, forgot what our place looks like.
00:07:26My place now?
00:07:27Yeah.
00:07:29How are you feeling after last night?
00:07:35Mm-mm.
00:07:36Keep your hand away from me.
00:07:41How do you feel after last night?
00:07:44Um...
00:07:45Yeah, I mean, it was...
00:07:47It was obviously intense.
00:07:50I wasn't happy how that went.
00:07:54I want to ask a question.
00:07:57Do you think...
00:08:00Do you think...
00:08:02that in the last two weeks,
00:08:04the way I've acted has nothing to do with how you acted?
00:08:09My God, Adrian, I have...
00:08:11You...
00:08:12Honestly?
00:08:17Do you listen to your question right now?
00:08:19I'm asking.
00:08:20You're asking me whether or not to validate your behaviour towards me
00:08:23due to my actions.
00:08:24I'm saying a certain time.
00:08:25That is not OK, Adrian.
00:08:26I'm saying a certain time.
00:08:27Why are you being defensive?
00:08:28That is not OK.
00:08:29It's so frustrating to me
00:08:30that you were still trying to pin your actions on me.
00:08:33You actually left.
00:08:36Let's be very real here.
00:08:37Yes.
00:08:38And I felt hurt and unseen by you.
00:08:39But also, though...
00:08:40Like I have done for six weeks straight in this environment.
00:08:42Also, though...
00:08:43You're not in the wrong any time.
00:08:44Adrian!
00:08:45You're not in the wrong any time.
00:08:46OK, now you're trying to deflect on me again.
00:08:55He doesn't actually hold himself accountable
00:08:57for any of his actions.
00:08:59And I've had enough.
00:09:01The reality is, he should just be here for me.
00:09:04That's what this experiment's about.
00:09:06But he left because he wasn't included in a 30-second promo.
00:09:11Not only that, he went to dinner with Ciara.
00:09:14I'm giving you a platform again and I'm over it.
00:09:16Deflecting, deflecting, deflecting.
00:09:19I really didn't know how I was going to approach
00:09:21the commitment ceremony tonight.
00:09:23But now I've got more clarity.
00:09:25Deflecting, deflecting, deflecting.
00:09:30I just can't deflect all the time.
00:09:31Adrian...
00:09:32This is all I'm copying is deflecting.
00:09:33Yeah.
00:09:34You haven't said one thing that you're doing wrong
00:09:36into why you understand why I'm feeling.
00:09:38You're not taking accountability on that.
00:09:39That's why I'm getting frustrated.
00:09:40I've taken accountability and I'm sorry...
00:09:42No, you haven't.
00:09:43Your actions right now show that you're not accountable at all.
00:09:46OK.
00:09:53OK.
00:10:11Down the hall, Billy is also shaken from the events of last night.
00:10:20Yeah, mixed emotions this morning.
00:10:23I feel hurt and really, really let down by Ciara.
00:10:27The couple have been living separately
00:10:29since the last commitment ceremony,
00:10:31where Billy was blindsided after Ciara revealed
00:10:35she had opened up to Adrian about her past.
00:10:38His sense of betrayal only worsened at the dinner party.
00:10:43Yeah, Adrian and Ciara called up for dinner.
00:10:47And Ciara's failure to acknowledge him...
00:10:49I did the wrong thing by Athena.
00:10:51I'm really sorry that I wasn't forthcoming with it.
00:10:54..and settled Billy even further.
00:10:57What about me?
00:11:01I just kind of wanted Ciara to hold herself accountable
00:11:03for what actually happened and just go,
00:11:05look, OK, sorry, I did go out for dinner with Adrian.
00:11:09She did it to Athena, but she didn't do it to me,
00:11:12and surely I should be the first person.
00:11:17It makes me very, very disappointed
00:11:19because I've dropped everything to be here.
00:11:40I've tried to be myself the whole way through this experiment.
00:11:46I've been open, been honest,
00:11:48but I just feel so lost with Ciara, like...
00:11:51I just feel so...
00:11:54..confused by her actions.
00:11:57She doesn't want to open up to me,
00:11:59and I'm still trying to understand as to why,
00:12:02because I've put everything on the table for her.
00:12:05While Billy remains confused,
00:12:08Ciara is still coming to terms
00:12:10with Billy's shocking wife-swap card.
00:12:14Billy, what about when you called me on Thursday?
00:12:17No, no, on Thursday, I said, do you want to do a wife-swap?
00:12:20Oh!
00:12:23Oh, my God.
00:12:25I opened it, man, I said that.
00:12:27I was fuming with what I've heard.
00:12:32I'm sorry, but I'm not a commodity that you can trade, first of all.
00:12:36Second of all, why would you want a wife-swap
00:12:39if you were so happy to be married?
00:12:42If you were so happy.
00:12:44If you actually liked me, you'd want me for yourself.
00:12:48And now he's clung on to this dinner with Tony and Adrian.
00:12:56Tonight also marks the first commitment ceremony
00:13:00for the experiment's three new couples.
00:13:03I'm excited to see how the experts think we're going.
00:13:06I know. I feel a little bit nervous.
00:13:08You are? Yeah.
00:13:09Cos you just don't know what they're going to say.
00:13:11Sorry, I actually can't find my wedding ring.
00:13:13You can't?
00:13:15Um, it is somewhere.
00:13:17I have seen it.
00:13:19This is really bad, isn't it? Oh, my...
00:13:21You've sold it. You've gone to CheapestChips.
00:13:23I've got it. Found it.
00:13:24I'm just glad it just means so much to you.
00:13:26It does. It's the most precious thing in the world.
00:13:32And for Lauren and Clint,
00:13:34the anticipation for tonight is at an all-time high
00:13:37as Lauren processes her reunion with ex-husband Elliot.
00:13:41If last night's dinner is any indication
00:13:44of how tonight's going to go, I'm scared.
00:13:47Yeah.
00:13:48Was it nice what happened to you? That's not OK.
00:13:50That's not how you treat someone.
00:13:52Last night was the first time exes Lauren and Elliot
00:13:56came face-to-face after he abandoned her
00:13:59and their marriage on the honeymoon.
00:14:02Oh, my God!
00:14:05And their reunion was not a happy one.
00:14:08You wanted someone who was 25.
00:14:10That I wasn't into fitness enough
00:14:12because I only go to the gym once a week.
00:14:14Also that I, um, I lacked handbags.
00:14:16What?! No.
00:14:18Yes, you did.
00:14:19So you deny that? Yes.
00:14:21I was perfectly consistent from the beginning.
00:14:23I said, look, if we don't click... Consistently shit.
00:14:25Very consistently shit.
00:14:28Yeah, I think him denying everything that he said was quite funny.
00:14:32I mean, why would you come to this experiment
00:14:34if you weren't willing to learn anything?
00:14:36Yeah, well, that's a good question.
00:14:38It was actually just repulsive.
00:14:40Like, he thinks he's just so perfect and wonderful
00:14:43and doesn't need to take any accountability.
00:14:46To learn, you need to have, like, self-reflection
00:14:49and I think that's something that he definitely lacks.
00:14:53Yeah, it was just embarrassing, really.
00:14:56Lauren isn't the only person
00:14:58disappointed by Elliot's behaviour last night.
00:15:03Yeah.
00:15:06I'm not impressed.
00:15:08Last night, I saw a side to Elliot that I've not seen before.
00:15:14When Elliot exited the experiment,
00:15:17it highlighted his questionable relationship habits.
00:15:21The person I was matched with was nothing like what I was looking for.
00:15:26I had to get out of there.
00:15:29This is a pattern
00:15:31and it is time to decide what you want to do with it.
00:15:35And this feedback from the experts
00:15:37prompted Elliot to reflect on his behaviour.
00:15:40I want to do better this time.
00:15:43I'm going to try to not just tick the boxes.
00:15:46I'm going to stick around.
00:15:48And after getting a second chance at love,
00:15:51he was blown away by his new bride, Veronica.
00:15:56Hi. Hi.
00:15:58Oh, my God.
00:16:00She's beautiful.
00:16:03And despite the fact that one of his non-negotiables
00:16:06is to have a large family...
00:16:08I've actually got endometriosis,
00:16:10so there is, like, a 50% chance that I probably am infertile.
00:16:16Elliot stayed true to his word and remained open-minded.
00:16:20It's not a concern for me.
00:16:22I kind of felt for her there in that moment.
00:16:25The lack of accountability
00:16:27and the way that he was responding to everybody last night
00:16:30is probably my biggest red flag at the moment.
00:16:33But I really want to believe that the Elliot that I've seen
00:16:36over the last five days is really Elliot.
00:16:39So in the commitment ceremony tonight,
00:16:41I really just need him to be completely open and honest
00:16:44about the way that he handled the situation.
00:16:50He needs to take accountability for his behaviour
00:16:53if he wants this to work.
00:17:13Hello there again. Hello.
00:17:15Greetings, gents. Come on in.
00:17:17Well, hello.
00:17:19Hello, hello.
00:17:36Hello, ladies. Hi.
00:17:38Welcome. Come on in and take a seat.
00:17:48Hello.
00:17:54Welcome, everybody, to the third commitment ceremony.
00:17:58Now, before we kick off,
00:18:00we would like to welcome our three new couples
00:18:04into the experiment.
00:18:06TJ and Beth.
00:18:08Lauren and Clint.
00:18:10And Veronica and Elliot.
00:18:14Now, I'm sure for all of you, last night was an eye-opener.
00:18:21Dinner parties can get explosive.
00:18:24This was one for the ages.
00:18:28There are certain things that have deeply concerned us
00:18:32and this we will be shining a light upon.
00:18:37There's no hiding tonight.
00:18:40Be completely prepared to lay everything out on the table
00:18:45because for some of you, you're in deep crisis
00:18:48and you need help.
00:18:54Our first couple up on the couch...
00:18:58..Elliot and Veronica.
00:19:00CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:19:03It's time to face the music.
00:19:06I look forward to seeing the experts
00:19:08finally pull him out on his bullshit.
00:19:11Greetings, you two. Elliot, we meet again.
00:19:15There's no running for the hills this time.
00:19:33Elliot, we meet again.
00:19:35How are we doing? We're doing well.
00:19:37And greetings to you, Veronica.
00:19:40Hi. Welcome.
00:19:44Here we go.
00:19:47It was a bit of a baptism of fire, wasn't it,
00:19:49last night at the dinner party?
00:19:51Yes, to say the least. Yeah, to say the least, definitely.
00:19:55Tell me about what it was like for you.
00:19:57Veronica, why don't you kick it off?
00:20:00Um, yeah, it was very confronting.
00:20:04What was so confronting about it for you?
00:20:11Um, well, we had a great honeymoon.
00:20:15We had a lot of fun.
00:20:17But, yeah, I mean, obviously,
00:20:19hearing Lauren's side of the story, what she went through...
00:20:23..is not a side of Elliot that I've ever seen.
00:20:27And then I guess the way that he was kind of responding to everybody
00:20:31was disappointing.
00:20:35Lauren was very clearly upset and hurt by what had happened.
00:20:39And, like, I just didn't really feel like Elliot
00:20:43was empathetic or open to it.
00:20:47There was a lot of rebuttal, a lot of, you know, kind of mocking.
00:20:52At one point, there was, like...
00:20:54He was kind of putting Lauren down at another point,
00:20:57like, shaming her for having a few drinks,
00:21:00saying to her that it wasn't possible that she could recount events
00:21:04because she'd had five margaritas.
00:21:08Um...
00:21:10Yeah.
00:21:11Just the general way that he handled himself
00:21:13didn't really sit well with me at all.
00:21:16I mean, there's no doubt that you copped a lot of heat last night.
00:21:22But in saying that, you know, you had a chance to say,
00:21:26you know what, I regret that, I could do that better.
00:21:29I'm sorry.
00:21:32And, unfortunately, you doubled down on it.
00:21:37So, Elliot, what do you say to this?
00:21:41I'll take ownership of that.
00:21:44I guess my, um, kind of defences went up a little bit
00:21:49when the fire turned towards me.
00:21:52And I 100% think that that's wrong.
00:21:56Like...
00:21:58You know, I should be able to sit there and, you know,
00:22:02um, say I'm sorry.
00:22:05Because I 100% have a right to say I'm sorry.
00:22:10Because I 100% have regrets
00:22:14about how I handled the whole situation.
00:22:18What specific regrets have you got for Lauren?
00:22:20Well, number one, the manner in which I left.
00:22:24I think that's quite clearly a mistake.
00:22:27Um, when I did that, it was a bit of a panicked decision.
00:22:35I didn't feel any kind of connection.
00:22:38I was trying to clumsily rationalise it with checkboxes.
00:22:44And I was wrong.
00:22:46Lauren, I didn't fully, um,
00:22:51consider your feelings in that process.
00:22:54And I made a mistake.
00:22:57It might not ever be something that you'll forgive.
00:23:01But I'm sorry nonetheless.
00:23:04Like, I mean that sincerely.
00:23:08Thanks.
00:23:17Good job.
00:23:19Why does that mean so much to you, Veronica?
00:23:22Because it's an acknowledgement.
00:23:24Like, I'm sorry.
00:23:25And what's the problem when someone can't do that?
00:23:28You'll just never move forward.
00:23:32Elliot, I'm curious.
00:23:35Where is that checklist for you now?
00:23:39Um, in the bin.
00:23:45Obviously, people can have preferences.
00:23:48But being so rigid in them, I don't think is productive.
00:23:53Wow.
00:23:55So this is a different guy that I'm speaking to right now.
00:24:02What has brought about this change?
00:24:05When did this happen?
00:24:07Um, probably the biggest thing is, you know,
00:24:13I've got someone by my side kind of talking sense into me.
00:24:19So do you really like Veronica Elliot?
00:24:23Yeah.
00:24:25Yeah, I think it's pretty obvious.
00:24:32You know, one thing that is very important for you to realise
00:24:36is that this wasn't an easy decision,
00:24:38you know, to bring you back into this experiment.
00:24:41But we felt like you,
00:24:44among all the people that we've seen over the years,
00:24:47could absolutely benefit.
00:24:50And we are all very pleased to see you apologise to Lauren.
00:24:57I didn't know whether you had it in you.
00:25:00But tonight, we like what we see.
00:25:07All right, well, we're going to go to the decision now.
00:25:11We'll go with you first, Elliot.
00:25:13Right, so I will be staying.
00:25:19Staying, there we go.
00:25:22Veronica, are you going to stay or leave?
00:25:26It's a tough one.
00:25:28No, I'm kidding. I'm staying.
00:25:30There we go.
00:25:32Lovely.
00:25:34You can go back to the group.
00:25:45Our next couple up on the couch...
00:25:53Lauren and Clint.
00:26:00Well, hello.
00:26:01Hello, you two. Hello.
00:26:03Welcome back.
00:26:05Hello, hello.
00:26:06And welcome back.
00:26:08Lauren, it is so lovely to see you again.
00:26:10Thank you, you too.
00:26:11Here with Clint now.
00:26:12How has this experience been for you, Lauren,
00:26:15a second time around?
00:26:21It's definitely been an upgrade of an experience
00:26:23from the get-go.
00:26:27I think Clint has pretty much all the qualities
00:26:30that I look for.
00:26:33Like, one of the main things that I really want
00:26:35is, like, a masculine energy,
00:26:38which is just, like, innately in him.
00:26:41Like, he's actually curious about my life and family and work,
00:26:44and he just straightaway is, like, my team-mate,
00:26:48and I feel like we have each other's back.
00:26:50And, like, with Elliot's vows,
00:26:55it's like he talked a lot about certain things,
00:26:57like traits that I asked for,
00:26:59but his actions were completely different.
00:27:03Whereas Clint is shown in his actions
00:27:06just in the short time that I've known him.
00:27:09You see that alignment.
00:27:10Yeah, definitely.
00:27:12Yeah, I think you guys have done a great job.
00:27:14Hmm.
00:27:17I think she ticks a lot of boxes, for sure.
00:27:20And no offence to anyone in here,
00:27:22I look around the room and I think she's just
00:27:24the most stunning person in the room, so...
00:27:26She's so beautiful.
00:27:28No offence.
00:27:29Sorry, guys, but she's, yeah...
00:27:31That's amazing.
00:27:32And on that note, let's go to the decision,
00:27:35and we're going to start with Clint.
00:27:37OK.
00:27:38That's such a tough decision, but...
00:27:40LAUGHTER
00:27:41..I did get there with that one.
00:27:43And Lauren.
00:27:45Um, well, it was an easy decision for me, too.
00:27:51Well done, you two.
00:27:53Thank you. Have a great week.
00:27:56Oh!
00:28:00Good job.
00:28:01Oh, sorry.
00:28:02That's OK.
00:28:03Woo!
00:28:04Our next couple are...
00:28:09..Jackie and Ryan.
00:28:10Woo!
00:28:11APPLAUSE
00:28:14Good evening, guys.
00:28:15Hello.
00:28:16Nice to see you both.
00:28:18SIGHS
00:28:23There we go.
00:28:30All right, well, Jackie and Ryan,
00:28:32where are we going to start tonight with you two?
00:28:35Where do we start?
00:28:37So the week that was, beginning with TJ and Beth's wedding,
00:28:41definitely wasn't our finest hour.
00:28:43I just want to apologise to you guys as well
00:28:45if there was any kind of disruption to that.
00:28:47Yeah, we're sorry.
00:28:48Thanks, guys. Appreciate it.
00:28:49The morning of the wedding,
00:28:52Jackie did pull out her laptop...
00:28:57..and she said she had a rap sheet
00:29:00of everything that she was holding onto,
00:29:03like little grudges and whatnot.
00:29:06Like, we went as far back as the wedding with the blooper,
00:29:10and then we went on to the shoes-on-the-bed thing
00:29:13with the air conditioning and whatnot,
00:29:15so immediately I did feel quite persecuted by that.
00:29:19I felt like I was on trial,
00:29:21and I didn't feel like it was a healthy or productive way
00:29:24to keep moving forward,
00:29:25particularly after we pressed the reset button
00:29:28after the last commitment ceremony.
00:29:30OK, so, Jackie,
00:29:32why was that important for you to have written that?
00:29:36I think... And then to show Ryan.
00:29:38Yeah, I don't know, I just felt like Ryan's behaviour
00:29:41was a bit disappointing.
00:29:44I felt like, as my husband,
00:29:46I would have hoped that he would have understood my needs.
00:29:49And I was trying to be so optimistic
00:29:51and still, like, give this man the best chance I could.
00:29:55So I was trying to find a solution that works for both of us.
00:30:02Um...
00:30:03I actually bought it in case I needed it.
00:30:06Oh. What?
00:30:09Oh!
00:30:11Oh, f***!
00:30:18Still to come...
00:30:21Adrian faces the consequences.
00:30:24I've got it on good authority that you gave an ultimatum.
00:30:29Either put me in the promo or I'll leave.
00:30:39I actually bought it in case I needed it.
00:30:42Oh, bro!
00:30:49No, yeah, there's a lot that's, like, I've been trying to process.
00:30:56No, I prefer we didn't go through that again.
00:30:58No, some of it's good, though.
00:31:02There's a lot of it you've improved on.
00:31:06But, like, the main thing for me was, um...
00:31:10So everyone knows that on my wedding day, um...
00:31:14Ryan dropped me.
00:31:16Oh, my God. Are we still going to...?
00:31:19So I was really struggling,
00:31:21because he never really did anything to make it up to me.
00:31:25Like, I mentioned it would be really fun if we danced every night
00:31:29and then you'd dip me 100 times and make it up to me.
00:31:32I did dip you again after that.
00:31:34Yeah, I know, I know.
00:31:39We did do some things to make it better.
00:31:41You did three dips, but you didn't do enough.
00:31:44I felt like...
00:31:46Yeah, I felt like, as well, like...
00:31:48You've got a quota now.
00:31:50No, no, this is how I felt, and I was upset,
00:31:53because, like, I just wanted more.
00:31:57More of what?
00:31:59I just told you, like, again.
00:32:02I just told you.
00:32:04I would have wanted you to dance me 100 times and dip me,
00:32:07so I never felt like you were going to drop me again
00:32:10or buy me flowers or, you know?
00:32:12What is going on?
00:32:15Yeah.
00:32:17I fully acknowledge that you had a need to get your feelings out,
00:32:21and what I should have done was just listened to the entire thing
00:32:25and then myself come back to you with how I was going to improve it,
00:32:30and recognise you were trying to help me grow as a man,
00:32:34and I respect that.
00:32:38Yeah, and I think he does listen.
00:32:40Like, it does take a few days after he's kicked and screamed,
00:32:43but, like, he does get there eventually.
00:32:50Well, look, I'm confused.
00:32:54It may, for many people, seem like writing down all your grievances
00:32:59is not something that's very healthy,
00:33:01but in a strange, bizarre way, it worked for you too.
00:33:05You figured out, well, we just have to listen differently
00:33:10to feel validated.
00:33:12Did you expect that?
00:33:13Didn't expect it, but I believe that's exactly the case, yeah.
00:33:17All right, we're going to go to the decision now,
00:33:20and we're going to go with you first.
00:33:22Ryan.
00:33:23OK, I really am committed to bringing out the best in us,
00:33:27and it can be chaotic, it can be catastrophic,
00:33:29it can be whatever adjective you want to give it,
00:33:32but at the end of the day, I really want to stay and find out.
00:33:37OK.
00:33:38Like that.
00:33:39Yeah.
00:33:41Right, up to you, Jackie.
00:33:43What have we got, stay or leave?
00:33:45Yeah, like, I feel like I owe it to Ryan
00:33:48to also, like, give him the chance to be the man I know he could be.
00:33:53So I said stay.
00:33:54OK.
00:33:55Yeah.
00:33:57You can go back to the group. Well done, guys.
00:33:59Thank you so much, guys.
00:34:11Our next couple up on the couch, Rhi and Jeff.
00:34:16Yay.
00:34:21Hey, guys.
00:34:22Hey, guys.
00:34:23How are you?
00:34:24Hello.
00:34:25How is it going?
00:34:27What have you been dealing with? Any issues?
00:34:29What's been going on?
00:34:31Um, yeah.
00:34:33So, over the past week,
00:34:35there was a little bit of drama around another couple.
00:34:41And it flustered me.
00:34:45But Jeff always just has my back.
00:34:48What happened? I don't know.
00:34:50The heaviness came from what?
00:34:52So, Jackie and Ryan have obviously had some troubles in their relationship.
00:35:01And Jackie reached out to Jeff
00:35:05to catch up for a coffee without me there.
00:35:10I just feel like it's not girl code to do that personally.
00:35:14And considering this experiment is about, like, marriages.
00:35:19Like, I don't know. I just think it's a little bit disrespectful.
00:35:25Jackie.
00:35:28Jackie.
00:35:31Do you understand why Rhi felt the way she felt?
00:35:39Um, yeah.
00:35:41So, I think, like, I mean, from my perspective,
00:35:45like, I was in a really, really bad place.
00:35:50And I just needed to have, like,
00:35:52some more people kind of have my back a little bit
00:35:54so that when they, you know, like,
00:35:57they see the behaviour going on in front of them,
00:36:00they can call him out.
00:36:03Like, I'm in a position where I can't handle Ryan on my own
00:36:08because it's just constant.
00:36:11I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
00:36:13That just makes me sound terrible.
00:36:15It's true, though, Ryan. It's true.
00:36:19But you're both here together.
00:36:21You're both here happy together.
00:36:25Anyway, so...
00:36:26Yes, yes, I can relate that she felt, like, excluded,
00:36:30I guess, or left out.
00:36:32Yeah.
00:36:33I didn't mean to make her feel that way.
00:36:35Thank you, Jackie.
00:36:36And I apologised and I am sorry again, Rhi.
00:36:38That's OK. She did apologise.
00:36:44You did feel the support from your partner
00:36:46in that whole entire thing.
00:36:48Yeah, I did.
00:36:50Like, I'm not sure how I would have dealt with that
00:36:52if I didn't have a supportive partner like I do.
00:36:56I feel really heard and I'm really grateful
00:36:59that we are in such a great place.
00:37:03And so, we've been intimate.
00:37:06Which is exciting.
00:37:08Good news.
00:37:12It is really exciting,
00:37:14especially with the history that you guys have,
00:37:16that you chose at this point to go there.
00:37:19Yeah, I am really glad that we did just take our time
00:37:23this time around.
00:37:26Yeah, and I agree with that.
00:37:28I think it was important for us, like Rhi said,
00:37:31the foundations were really solid before we did that.
00:37:33And now that it's happened, yeah, it's a great feeling
00:37:37and I think we're in a really good spot at the moment.
00:37:39I love that.
00:37:42Let's go to the decision, you guys.
00:37:44I don't think we're going to be too surprised.
00:37:46But...
00:37:48Stay.
00:37:50Offering up or stay.
00:37:51I love it.
00:37:54What about you, Jeff?
00:37:55Surprise or stay?
00:37:56Stay.
00:38:01Thank you so much.
00:38:02Thank you, guys.
00:38:03Well done.
00:38:04Thanks, guys.
00:38:05Well done.
00:38:12Our next couple up on the couch...
00:38:19..Sierra and Billy.
00:38:27Hello, you two.
00:38:28Hello.
00:38:29Hey, guys.
00:38:30Hi.
00:38:32Well...
00:38:35..there's clearly a lot to unpack from last night,
00:38:38is it was an incredibly chaotic dinner party.
00:38:43And in amongst the chaos, we saw two individuals,
00:38:48certainly not a couple, who were very separate, disconnected
00:38:53and fractured and really confiding in other people
00:38:56rather than each other.
00:38:58So we want to understand what's happened and what led to this.
00:39:02Why don't we start with you, Sierra?
00:39:07Um...
00:39:10I mean, obviously, I made a mistake and wronged people.
00:39:16So I guess...
00:39:17So just so we're really clear,
00:39:19what do you see as the mistake you made?
00:39:22So the mistake I made was lying to Athena, I think,
00:39:26or not being forthcoming.
00:39:30I'd gone out with Tony and Adrian for dinner.
00:39:33It was so innocent, like we just went for a plate of meat.
00:39:40But when I was doing that, I didn't realise that Athena
00:39:43and I were going to go for a walk, we hadn't organised it yet.
00:39:46So then when I went for a walk with Athena,
00:39:48I didn't mention it because I knew her and Adrian
00:39:50weren't in a good place.
00:39:51I didn't want to upset her.
00:39:56Obviously, any time Adrian and my name are mentioned
00:40:00in a sentence together, everyone's like, oh.
00:40:06And what made you hold back from telling Billie about this?
00:40:12I haven't spoken to Billie at all.
00:40:14I haven't spoken to Billie at all.
00:40:17So there's been no communication at all.
00:40:19No, there's been no communication, but I do feel like
00:40:21it might have been quite nice for me to have the same kind of,
00:40:25I don't know, just conversation.
00:40:26I felt like I was maybe owed that.
00:40:33Yeah, I'm not trying to jump in here,
00:40:35but I do feel like Billie felt weird only just found out.
00:40:40Yeah.
00:40:41And I was, you saw my face.
00:40:43Yeah.
00:40:44Like, I was heard in.
00:40:46Yeah.
00:40:47But this is, I think, why I probably feel a bit worse
00:40:49towards Athena because I was actually with her.
00:40:51So I feel like it was more of a lie to her face,
00:40:53if you know what I mean.
00:40:55I know you're worried about Athena here,
00:40:57but I just want you to focus on going to dinner with Adrian
00:41:02and breaking Billie's trust.
00:41:05Is that something you regret?
00:41:09Um...
00:41:13Yeah.
00:41:24Going to dinner with Adrian and breaking Billie's trust,
00:41:28is that something you regret?
00:41:32Um...
00:41:36..I guess maybe I could have addressed him?
00:41:39Yeah, I don't know.
00:41:42I don't know.
00:41:44I'm going to go to you, Billie.
00:41:45What's your response to everything
00:41:47Sierra's saying here?
00:41:55I have to be honest, I feel a lot frustrated.
00:42:00Sierra, can I just ask?
00:42:02Yeah.
00:42:03Do you feel a deeper connection with Adrian
00:42:06than you do with Billie?
00:42:08I just find him easy to talk to, for sure.
00:42:11And Adrian, do you feel a deeper connection with Sierra
00:42:16than you do with Afina?
00:42:19No, I don't.
00:42:26Nothing happened between Adrian and I.
00:42:28I just don't believe that Billie likes me.
00:42:31And the things I hear, like you want a wife swap.
00:42:36Why would you say that if you liked me?
00:42:38You would want me all for yourself.
00:42:42Well, Billie, just on that.
00:42:47It really troubled me when I heard
00:42:51that you had mentioned the possibility of a wife swap.
00:42:55Doesn't matter how you say that, that is poor form.
00:43:01You cannot be treating a woman like a piece of meat.
00:43:07And when we heard it, we were shocked.
00:43:13That's not the Billie we know.
00:43:14No.
00:43:16I think this is, as well, like you say,
00:43:18the Billie you know is not here right now.
00:43:23Them comments, it's not acceptable.
00:43:26I hold my hands up.
00:43:28It's wrong.
00:43:32I know, I'm deeply sorry.
00:43:33It's fine.
00:43:35I'm sorry to the other girls in here, as well.
00:43:37You shouldn't have to hear that.
00:43:39I am.
00:43:43I think I just built up frustration.
00:43:45And I don't know what to do.
00:43:49I think I just built up frustration.
00:43:51And that was me being a huge shadow of myself.
00:43:55That was not me at all.
00:43:56That is not the person I am.
00:43:58I just feel like I've really retreated.
00:44:03You know, I've said multiple times that I need
00:44:06more of an emotional connection.
00:44:08I'm full of physical touch.
00:44:09I've got literally no deep connection from you.
00:44:11I've got nothing more.
00:44:12You took a step further backwards.
00:44:14All I've ever wanted was a deeper connection.
00:44:17And I've got nothing, however many weeks we're in now.
00:44:21I've tried to give you what you needed.
00:44:23But you don't give me what I need.
00:44:26And I don't know why.
00:44:27Because I've expressed every part of my life to you.
00:44:30My mom doesn't even know some of the things that I've said.
00:44:33I've tried.
00:44:34Because I've come into this experiment,
00:44:36open minds, because I haven't been like that
00:44:38in previous relationships.
00:44:40I've got nothing.
00:44:41I've got nothing from you, Ciara.
00:44:43Absolutely sweet F.A.
00:44:49Well, certainly for us as observers,
00:44:53sitting back and watching the two of you,
00:44:55it's a real shame how things have really shifted.
00:44:59And you've gotten to this point.
00:45:02And with that said, we're going to go to the decision.
00:45:05But we'll go to you first, Billy.
00:45:08Yeah, so can't see us really coming back from anything.
00:45:13So yeah, I wrote leave.
00:45:18Oh, OK.
00:45:25And to you, Ciara.
00:45:27Yeah, I just wrote leave.
00:45:32It's OK.
00:45:35We're all very sorry that this is how things
00:45:39have ended up for the two of you.
00:45:42Billy, is there anything you'd like
00:45:43to say to Ciara at this point?
00:45:47I think, Ciara, obviously you are a beautiful person
00:45:52inside and out.
00:45:53And in that first couple of weeks of getting to know you,
00:45:57I've seen that.
00:45:58And it genuinely was nice.
00:46:00I guess going forward, maybe just don't maybe
00:46:03try and go too in yourself sometimes when someone's
00:46:06trying to speak to you.
00:46:10Because I feel like I'm a pretty easy person to talk to.
00:46:13And when I've tried to talk to you in the moments,
00:46:16you could have opened up to me and talked to me
00:46:18and trusted me in the moments.
00:46:21I just wish that we'd had this conversation before this.
00:46:24Because now that I've heard you out,
00:46:25and we've sat here and spoken like this,
00:46:27I wish we could stay.
00:46:37Do you regret writing Leave?
00:46:40Yeah, I feel actually quite full of regret.
00:46:58I wish we could stay.
00:47:06Yeah, I feel actually quite full of regret.
00:47:12Does this feel like a missed opportunity?
00:47:17Yeah, I think a little bit now just hearing him out,
00:47:19I think I was just treating him like the enemy.
00:47:21I should have tried harder.
00:47:23We could have spoken about it.
00:47:27But I was just so inside myself.
00:47:30I think I actually feel really awful.
00:47:46What about you, Billy?
00:47:51I don't regret my decision.
00:47:52I'm honest and open like I've been in this whole experiment.
00:47:57And this is the thing.
00:47:58We could have had these discussions
00:48:00on numerous occasions.
00:48:01But I felt like you don't really want to talk.
00:48:04So it's been very, very hard, you know?
00:48:07Yeah, I'd shut off.
00:48:12Well, obviously the rules of the commitment ceremony
00:48:15is that if both partners say leave,
00:48:17you both leave the experiment.
00:48:20You know, I think in a small way, the two of you
00:48:23are going to have to leave the experiment.
00:48:25I think in a small way, the two of you
00:48:27have made a little breakthrough just as two humans tonight,
00:48:30not necessarily as a couple.
00:48:31But, you know, if there is an opportunity
00:48:33for the two of you to keep talking,
00:48:35I think that would be really valuable for both of you.
00:48:40Thanks, guys.
00:48:41Take a seat.
00:48:41Good luck, guys.
00:48:43Appreciate it.
00:48:51And our next couple up tonight.
00:48:55Beth and TJ.
00:49:02Hello, you two.
00:49:03G'day, g'day.
00:49:04Welcome.
00:49:06First time on the couch.
00:49:08First time on the couch.
00:49:09Sounds so fun, innit?
00:49:14We are very interested in how things are going for you.
00:49:17I mean, we're smooth sailing.
00:49:20Two cups of still water.
00:49:23From the wedding, I think we connected really well
00:49:25and just bantered off each other.
00:49:27Honestly, we've just been taking the piss out
00:49:28of each other ever since.
00:49:29Yeah.
00:49:30Obviously, when I saw him in the aisle, yeah.
00:49:32Like, saw them beautiful eyes light up, you know?
00:49:35Stop it.
00:49:36Joking.
00:49:37No, it was just.
00:49:39He knows how to play to his strengths.
00:49:42Yeah, no, it was just great.
00:49:43I really wasn't expecting to kind of click
00:49:45this quickly with someone.
00:49:49And obviously, this is really new to me
00:49:50because obviously, as I've shared,
00:49:52I've never had a relationship, so.
00:49:53Never had a boyfie?
00:49:54Never had a boyfie in my life, yeah,
00:49:56which that does embarrass me a lot.
00:49:59So I did share that with TJ.
00:50:02And he said that he's so fine with me coming to him
00:50:05with my emotions, and he's ready to listen,
00:50:07and he's happy for me to share how I'm feeling.
00:50:10So that was really big for me.
00:50:12She mentioned that when she gets close to someone,
00:50:14it's easier to just sort of pull away rather than to open up
00:50:17and be vulnerable.
00:50:19So being able to gain her trust in order
00:50:21for her to be vulnerable with me is something
00:50:23that I'm sort of putting a big emphasis on.
00:50:26And you're going to have plenty of opportunities
00:50:29for building the trust.
00:50:30Yeah.
00:50:30I'm really ready for the experiment.
00:50:34Let's go to the decision.
00:50:36Beth, we'll start with you.
00:50:38Stay.
00:50:39Oh, it's a clear stay.
00:50:40Wonderful.
00:50:41With a smiley face.
00:50:43And to you, TJ.
00:50:44Me?
00:50:45I did a big old stay, too.
00:50:46Confident.
00:50:48Yeah.
00:50:49I like it.
00:50:50Well, all the best for the crash course that's
00:50:53coming up in the next week.
00:50:55All the best with moving in together.
00:50:57Yes.
00:50:57Enjoy it.
00:50:58Open up.
00:50:59And go for it.
00:51:00Let's get cracking.
00:51:01Come on, Tush.
00:51:01Good on you guys.
00:51:02Good on you guys.
00:51:04Thanks, guys.
00:51:04Great to see you.
00:51:10Our next couple up on the couch, Jamie and Dave.
00:51:16Hey, guys.
00:51:17Well, hello there.
00:51:18Hello.
00:51:18Hello.
00:51:19Greetings.
00:51:20How you going?
00:51:21We're going very well.
00:51:22How are you going?
00:51:23Oh, it just feels unreal, honestly.
00:51:27Like, I'm just, I ride or die for people I love.
00:51:30And the fact that he's just backed me from the get-go,
00:51:34like, means the most to me.
00:51:35Because that's, like, one of my, like, biggest values.
00:51:38Mm.
00:51:39So if we just go rewind and look at that sentence
00:51:43that you just shared with us.
00:51:45I'm ride or die for people I love.
00:51:48Well, OK.
00:51:49Can I just clarify?
00:51:51I'd like to clarify.
00:51:53Like, in love is a different thing for me.
00:51:56But of course, like, 100%, he's someone
00:51:59that I do have love for.
00:52:01Yes.
00:52:02And is that love for him developing into falling
00:52:06in love with him?
00:52:09I think we're on a good path.
00:52:12I like it.
00:52:14And what about you, Dave?
00:52:15Where are you at, feelings-wise?
00:52:16Yeah, tell us.
00:52:19Are you in love?
00:52:24No, yeah, well, I care about her so much.
00:52:27And yeah, I mean, those feelings are definitely there.
00:52:30They're, like, such an exciting feeling.
00:52:32Mm.
00:52:34Brilliant.
00:52:35Well, let's go to the decision, shall we?
00:52:37OK.
00:52:38Who do you want?
00:52:39I think we're going to start with you, Jamie.
00:52:41All right.
00:52:42I have chosen to stay.
00:52:44Woo!
00:52:45And big Dave.
00:52:47I'm staying.
00:52:48Oh?
00:52:49Yay!
00:52:51So well done, team.
00:52:52You can go back to the group.
00:52:53Good on you guys.
00:52:54Well done.
00:52:55Yay!
00:52:56Woo!
00:52:57Woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo!
00:53:03Our next couple up on the couch, Karina and Paul.
00:53:07Woo!
00:53:08Where are you going?
00:53:09Hi, hi, hi.
00:53:10Hello.
00:53:11Where do you want to sit?
00:53:12Up to you.
00:53:13Ha, ha, ha.
00:53:14Ha, ha, ha.
00:53:15Ha, ha, ha.
00:53:16Ha, ha, ha.
00:53:18Sit down.
00:53:22So, Karina and Paul, how are you?
00:53:24Karina, let's start with you.
00:53:26Where are you at?
00:53:28I'm doing good.
00:53:29I feel content in the relationship.
00:53:31I feel, like, full of life.
00:53:33I feel like I'm in the right place.
00:53:34I feel like I'm in the right place.
00:53:36And in the relationship, I feel like we've had a good ride
00:53:41and are still continuing that ride.
00:53:43And, yeah, really, we're blossoming.
00:53:48It just flows.
00:53:49I just feel comfortable.
00:53:50I just feel at ease.
00:53:51I feel at peace when I'm around her.
00:53:53You know, we're talking about life goals
00:53:55and just talking about the future.
00:53:59So I've been enjoying every single, every second of it.
00:54:03It's been amazing.
00:54:07Mm-hmm.
00:54:08Aw.
00:54:09Let's go to the decision, you guys.
00:54:11We're going to go to Karina, me, and Kay.
00:54:16Stage.
00:54:17Stage.
00:54:17Good to see.
00:54:18Yeah.
00:54:19Ha, ha, ha.
00:54:21Mr. Paul.
00:54:23Well, I'm also, for the third time, staying.
00:54:28Very well.
00:54:28Stay, stay, stay.
00:54:29Ha, ha, ha.
00:54:30Ha, ha, ha.
00:54:32Mm-hmm.
00:54:33Aw.
00:54:34Aw, you guys.
00:54:36Aw.
00:54:41Our next couple up on the couch,
00:54:45Marena and Tony.
00:54:47Yay!
00:54:48Yay!
00:54:51Hello, you two.
00:54:52I hope we can keep the smiles happening.
00:54:53So much enthusiasm.
00:54:54We love it.
00:54:56Hi, guys.
00:54:56How are you?
00:54:57Good.
00:54:58We're very well.
00:54:59And I've got to say, we enjoyed your matching outfits
00:55:02last night.
00:55:02Oh, huh.
00:55:03The flowers, the matching suit.
00:55:06It was extravagant and you talked about the blossoming which makes us very curious about what's been going on between you
00:55:16We listened to your advice and we
00:55:19you know 1% a day and I sort of
00:55:22Stopped Houdini and decided to spend some more time with
00:55:26Mariana and you know do some dates and stuff like that
00:55:29So when our first date was went to dinner and I'm sure you've all heard of Tia Tina Turner
00:55:37I
00:55:39Meet Mariana Turner
00:55:42Mate, I've never I walk into a restaurant and this lady's singing of him. So what are you doing?
00:55:49But that's my down you sang that's who I am. It was so beautiful
00:55:59And then the next day we had a game of bowls I let her win
00:56:03It
00:56:06Sounds like you've been having a lot of fun together that you've dropped some of the the seriousness
00:56:11Perhaps the overthinking and just started getting playful and curious with each other, which is
00:56:16Wonderful. Yeah, we've had a good time. Well, you know listening to your advice. It's kind of
00:56:23Been good. I hope it has a my side has now
00:56:26Hopefully the same thing for Mariana
00:56:33It's
00:56:36It's really lovely to hear that but I don't feel it
00:56:56So we've had a good time
00:56:59Really nice to hear that but I don't feel it
00:57:11Okay, what would it take to feel that I
00:57:14Just want him to be a gentleman, but I've asked him do not fist pump me and he still does it
00:57:22I
00:57:27Asked him to stop headlocking me and he still does it
00:57:36Now I'm sorry, I'm so sorry that I'm not fun and I'm so glad you're all laughing
00:57:47You've never ever stopped me from doing that it's just my fun thing I do with you
00:57:51That's how I show sometimes my affection and my touch and things like that. I headlock is affection
00:58:02Mariana can I sorry? Can I just ask what does what what like it?
00:58:07It's I feel like that's just like a just a jovial little thing. You know to me
00:58:11Jeff and I have a hand like we've hit fist pump all the time and have a handshake. I
00:58:16I
00:58:21Actually can't believe you guys are asking me that
00:58:24but how would you like me to
00:58:27To compliment you. How would you like me to show you and how how do you want to feel? Just be a gentleman?
00:58:35Stop headlocking me. Stop fist pumping me. All right. I'll stop. I will stop. I will stop I will stop
00:58:41I
00:58:45Sorry
00:58:46We had a good week this week. We change, you know, we took a step-by-step
00:58:50But I think it's time to step it up a little bit and get to that stage
00:58:59It's not a headlock it's a it's a hug
00:59:06No, that was actually a hug and you know what I actually think that's
00:59:12Nice beautiful
00:59:16It's very clear that the two of you are starting to develop a good foundation of friendship here
00:59:23But there needs to be progress and there is hope
00:59:28We can see it in the two of you and your faces and your body language worlds apart from where you were at last week
00:59:35So, let's just try and focus on the good stuff that's here and have those conversations with each other about what you are
00:59:43Comfortable with and not comfortable with that's really positive healthy stuff in relationships
00:59:49We're going to go to the decision
00:59:51Marina will start with you, please
00:59:53And
01:00:03Tony your decision, please
01:00:19Good job, babe
01:00:22Baby good job guys our last couple up on the couch Adrian and Athena
01:00:32Come and grab a seat. Hello
01:00:36Literally
01:00:42Athena where do you want to start?
01:00:45Let's
01:00:49Get it all out on the table. Why did Adrian leave on Friday?
01:00:55So Adrian wasn't included in one of the promo shoots
01:01:02And I've gone back to an empty apartment and his ring was left on the counter and
01:01:09Then I've texted him
01:01:11Where are you and I got back I left
01:01:14I've gone home. Can you pack my bag?
01:01:22So I mean just so I understand
01:01:24Adrian left because he wasn't going to be a part of the promo for the show
01:01:31No, I left because I was frustrated
01:01:35Adrian I've got it on good authority that you gave an ultimate
01:01:40I
01:01:42That put me in the promo or I'll leave
01:01:58Just so I understand
01:02:00Adrian left because he wasn't going to be a part of the promo. No, I left because I was frustrated
01:02:06Adrian
01:02:08I've got it on good authority that you gave an ultimate
01:02:15Either put me in the promo or I'll leave I
01:02:24Did
01:02:27Was that any reason to hold the production or a fiend of to ransom I didn't hold to ransom ransom is not the right word
01:02:38Well, I think it is I mean you gave an ultimatum yeah, I was frustrated I was upset I had every right to be
01:02:46Why?
01:02:47Because I felt disrespected like now this this is like this is not fair
01:02:53Now I reacted in emotions, you know, I'm a man I make mistakes
01:02:58I'm upset
01:03:03What about a female
01:03:05Honey yeah, I'm a female Wow
01:03:08You left her. She was devastated
01:03:12But like I know where you left her everyone reacts different
01:03:24It but anyways, like I said in a day left to me Adrian, yeah, you left your ring
01:03:29You told me you were only coming back if you were a part of that promo and now you're deflecting once again
01:03:35I'm trying to talk it
01:03:38Like I said
01:03:40I'm human and we all make mistakes like Adrian
01:03:43I've got to jump in because the way in which you're saying this is a real problem
01:03:49You're not showing empathy. You're not giving her a sense that you understand
01:03:53The bottom line is you weren't involved in the promo and you left you threw the toys out of the cart and took off
01:04:00You then left her hanging didn't contact her yeah went to dinner with Sierra and she didn't know about
01:04:07You then came into the dinner party all fired up and got defensive and essentially tried to go at anyone that came at you
01:04:14And you're certainly getting defensive now. So what I'm feeding back to you
01:04:18Adrian is that you're not good at saying sorry and
01:04:22That's a problem
01:04:25Because when things hurt your feelings
01:04:27You get on attack mode your fight style is to get aggressive and a win
01:04:33And I pointed this out to you before it's a pattern and you've got to change it up
01:04:38Because Athena is not going to be able to get close to you. It's also contributing to why she's
01:04:45Dancing around saying her true feelings because she's afraid of your reaction
01:04:50Which is to get on the defense and to put her in a place
01:04:55It's destroying your intimacy it's destroying your bond. Yeah, I'm aware
01:05:03Athena
01:05:05How did it land for you when you found out that Adrian had left? What did it do to you? What impact did I have?
01:05:15It was kind of just like
01:05:17Really validating how I felt for quite some time
01:05:22Where I felt invisible
01:05:25I
01:05:27Because I don't feel like you were considered me at all
01:05:32the fact is
01:05:35It is just a promo video and you should be here for me
01:05:40But these actions show me that I'm not your priority
01:05:48Yeah, like yeah, I just messed up
01:05:51I've done that in my past. I can just go in this mode like I'm self-sabotage. I don't give a shit about anything or anyone. I
01:05:58Was hated and I reacted on emotion us men can react heavily on emotions and we're not good with emotions
01:06:05Let me make some decisions and that's what I've done. I would like to jump in
01:06:10Being a man has nothing to do with that. Did I say man? Yes
01:06:14Any person can have difficulty and all of us every single human is an emotional being period
01:06:21That is what defines us as human beings. So unless you're not human
01:06:25Mmm, that capability is in you and it has nothing to do with man and woman
01:06:32Yeah, I'm not coming for you Adrian and all but like wouldn't you love to learn how to be so open with someone like
01:06:37Athena like yeah, of course
01:06:40She'll love you to the end of the day. He's made. She's so gorgeous. Yeah
01:06:45I
01:06:54You've got a good opportunity and I really feel like you need to open up to her man because she'll show you the way
01:06:59And I agree
01:07:04Because I care for her I
01:07:08Generally do care
01:07:10And I know
01:07:13That I'm doing wrong and I need to do better
01:07:24So, I guess there's only one way to prove it okay you want to go there let's do it
01:07:30You know, I heard everything Athena had to say tonight
01:07:34she wasn't being seen and she was unheard and I'm the only way to fix that was
01:07:41Say say, okay
01:07:48Athena can we have your decision? Please? No, we don't need a die
01:07:59You know like you know like confessions week we all had to write letters
01:08:04Adrian didn't write one line. He didn't do it
01:08:08And he was I went through my drawer today and I read through it and a big thing in all of this
01:08:15Was my most significant milestones as a mom?
01:08:22And I think at the end of it I wrote how being a mom you have to put your child first and now here I am
01:08:29being selfish
01:08:31Missing out on real milestones in the pursuit of love. I
01:08:35Guess time will tell if I made the right decision or not
01:08:40And
01:08:43Coming on this experiment how I felt today didn't feel worth being away from those very real milestones
01:09:05So, yeah, I'm yeah, I wrote I wrote sorry leave
01:09:11So, yeah, I wrote I wrote sorry leave
01:09:33So, yeah, I wrote I wrote sorry leave
01:09:41You
01:10:02So as we know with the rules of this experiment that if one person says stay the other says leave
01:10:06Then they stay for another week to see if they can turn it around
01:10:12Now
01:10:14Athena do you hear Adrian saying he wants to improve? I
01:10:20Heard him say it you believe it
01:10:26Feel like
01:10:30Tonight was definitely
01:10:34Like a big whack-in-the-face moment for Adrian
01:10:38And he probably does truly believe that he wants to start showing up for me
01:10:46But I'm not sure he's able to
01:10:50Yeah
01:10:55So
01:10:56It's out in the table. The challenge is there
01:10:59It's on your shoulders to really do some big time lifting
01:11:03Yeah, you know learning a lot about myself and taking on a board listen to it and hearing her and
01:11:10I'm well aware. She's taking time from her son. Yeah, so it's like need to show up
01:11:18I think you've got it in you but we can only see from what you do on a day-to-day basis
01:11:25You got seven days turn it around and let's see some big change
01:11:29Go back to the group now. Thank you guys
01:11:33You
01:11:45Yeah, it's a tough one it's like I wasn't expecting that actually quite shocked
01:11:54But I took accountability and I hope Athena heard me well, so we're rooting for you now, I appreciate it
01:12:03You know, I know I can show up
01:12:06So I am positive that we can work things out
01:12:11And get back to where we were
01:12:15Tomorrow night. Wow. Here we go. Our three newest couples move into the apartments
01:12:24As they get a crash course in married life
01:12:28Well, obviously this dirty stinky rat goes there just kind of want to hear like your side
01:12:33I feel so sorry for you Elliot's about as shallow as a pond in a desert
01:12:38But is Lauren poisoning Veronica and Elliot's well Elliot is a narcissist
01:12:43it is really disheartening to hear that inside into Elliot and
01:12:48Then the next phase of the experiment begins
01:12:57Ignites
01:12:59family and friends week returns
01:13:02You guys are happy. We are we are our couples get much-needed perspective
01:13:07We've got to have each other's back from their partners loved ones. This is gaslighting
01:13:13That's your interpretation of it, but that doesn't mean that it's true
01:13:17But for Athena and Adrian you are focusing a lot on the negative because he hasn't even shown up
01:13:24From I was talking I don't care when their families come together
01:13:30All hell breaks loose actually, I'm just I don't need to listen to this goodbye pointless conversation. I'm done