Video Information: Shastra Kaumudi, 20.12.2021, Rishikesh, India
Context:
~ Why there is so much suffering in life?
~ Do we suffer by our own choice?
~ How to avoid pain and suffering?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Context:
~ Why there is so much suffering in life?
~ Do we suffer by our own choice?
~ How to avoid pain and suffering?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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LearningTranscript
00:00See, there is a need to avoid talking big of even your failures.
00:16You know, when we say, oh, I failed so miserably, we are trying to turn our failures into something
00:29grand.
00:34Your efforts are petty, even your failures are petty, so forget them.
00:43You have done nothing worth remembering.
00:51What you rather need is some honesty.
00:58That would turn your effort into something a bit substantial.
01:07Then probably you won't have to talk so much of your failures.
01:14What is happening is this, I hardly put any effort into this, hardly any effort, no effort
01:23has gone into this, and then I fail, and then I sing aloud of my failures.
01:33One hour of effort went into this, and 23 hours went into singing the melancholy song
01:41of my failure.
01:47Be honest, put more effort into this, then you won't have to sing so much of your failures.
01:56And remember that petty work begets petty failures.
02:08Show some spine with your effort, don't succumb to the smallest temptation, to even ordinary
02:37blows of maya.
02:45Any small wave comes and sweeps you away, know what's worth remembering or describing
02:56in this.
03:04Show some spine, some gallantry, some resistance, and then the discussion can even commence.
03:25Yes, Taraji, when we talk of honesty and dishonesty, there's always this confusion
03:51that being what we are, which is fundamentally dishonest, we would still be resisting.
04:06So in that resistance, are we being honest?
04:10It all depends on you, what you want.
04:16Honesty is about not doing to get what you want to get.
04:27That's the fundamental dishonesty.
04:31So dishonesty is just stupidity.
04:34I want this, yet I do not act to get this.
04:39This is what I'm calling as dishonesty.
04:46Honesty is not about doing something miraculous or magnanimous, divine, altruistic, deeply
05:01spiritual, very offbeat, very odd, nothing.
05:15Honesty means I am thirsty, I will go to water.
05:22This is honesty.
05:24I am thirsty, I will go to water.
05:30Honesty is self-interest.
05:33Honesty is common sense.
05:38And this honesty, when practiced, is freedom, illumination, and what you can call as enlightenment.
05:56Nothing else.
05:57This is what is enlightenment.
06:00This honesty.
06:01Know what you want and commit yourself to it.
06:07Satcharita ji, lately, I've been seeing that the more you catch yourself being dishonest,
06:23so there is always this disappointment, which is probably coming from false expectations.
06:33So on one hand, there is this disappointment that, you know, okay, again dishonest.
06:40On the other hand, one also has to constantly work towards improvement.
06:49So is the only use of this disappointment to just, you know, it is the only use of this
07:00disappointment is to improve and not repeat it again.
07:04We think that we should not repeat it.
07:08We disappoint, we get disappointed, we learn from, try to learn from it and then try not
07:13to repeat it.
07:17And then maybe we don't try hard enough and then it happens again.
07:23So then what did we learn from it?
07:28This enjoyment, love enjoyment, miss the joy of the success in beating yourself.
07:48Be accustomed to that joy.
07:58Love it so much that you miss it when you don't get it.
08:06The joy of succeeding against yourself, the joy of excelling beyond yourself, fall in love with that joy.
08:20There is pleasure in being defeated by yourself.
08:42If you fall to your tendencies for pleasure, for rest, all you get is happiness, ordinary pleasure.
09:04When you lose to yourself, there is just pleasure.
09:08When you beat yourself, there is joy.
09:13Practice joy.
09:29Become obsessed.
09:35I'll go to the extent of saying become addicted.
09:46Saint Kabir says, become so addicted that you don't survive without it.
09:55He loves the metaphor of the fish.
10:03He says, only the fish knows love.
10:06Only the fish knows love.
10:09Won't survive a minute if you take it out of the ocean.
10:15Become so addicted to that.
10:20Want it every second.
10:23Crave it.
10:33Miss it badly.
10:46So, if this is not happening frequently, does it mean that we have not had enough moments of joy?
10:54Yes, yes, yes, yes.
10:57Well said.
10:59That's the tricky thing.
11:03If you have not had enough of it, you will not even develop the urge to want it.
11:15So, somehow you must be given frequent tastes of it.
11:21Only then you fall in love with it.
11:25That's where the role of conditioning, parenting, education comes in.
11:39That's where the role of good company is.
11:45That's what the role of the teacher is.
11:50To kickstart you.
11:53To give you the first taste.
12:00To help you practice that taste.
12:10To create an ecosystem in which you can fall in love.
12:15Somehow.
12:16Anyhow.
12:25To bring you to the real thing.
12:29Once, twice, then again and again.
12:35Till you start saying, I want it, I love it.
12:42Initially you won't.
12:43Initially you have to be dragged to that.
12:50Many times.
12:56Then there has to be discipline.
12:59So that you practice it.
13:02Without discipline nothing will happen.
13:05A lot of practice is needed.
13:07And then comes a point when practice is no more needed.
13:10There is love.
13:12You want to do it on your own.
13:18That point doesn't come quickly or easy or cheap.
13:29Effort is involved.
13:32Grace is involved.
13:38Discipline is needed.
13:39So, if such thoughts come that, you know, even the best may not be enough because of
13:47the enormity of the challenge, do we just let this be and still keep on?
13:53You don't have to think of the final victory.
13:56The final victory will always be a gift.
14:01Immense beyond your imagination.
14:05Immense beyond your imagination or desire.
14:09You have to think of your current daily battles.
14:14You have to think of your little daily victories.
14:19If you think of the final victory, all you will get is demotivation.
14:25Because the final victory is totally beyond you.
14:28Thinking of it is not going to pep you up or energize you.
14:38It will only deflate you.
14:42So, don't think, don't envision any final thing.
14:50Think of your daily battles.
14:52Think of your small tasks.
14:55Go for your daily victories.
14:59Go to bed a winner every day.
15:08That's plausible, is it not?
15:12To not to sleep without having won the little battles.
15:25Zero in on the battles you need to win right in the morning.
15:37Just three for today, fine.
15:39Just three for today.
15:40Just one for today, even that is fine.
15:44But then don't retire without victory.
15:49Practice being a winner.
15:52Practice beating yourself every day.
15:58Defeat, I repeat, is an ugly habit.
16:04Somehow a lot of us seem to have developed it.
16:10Defeat should bother you.
16:13Defeat should hurt.
16:15Which defeat am I talking of?
16:17Defeat against yourself.
16:25And being a winner is important.
16:27Therefore, you must not set unrealistic targets.
16:30You must not set unrealistic targets.
16:32You must not set unrealistic targets.
16:35And being a winner is important.
16:37Therefore, you must not set unrealistic targets.
16:51Be a little biased towards victory.
16:55So, set targets that are achievable.
17:00And then ensure that you don't miss them.
17:03Otherwise, missing becomes a habit.
17:10Win small, but win daily.
17:25And you are not responsible for the ultimate victory.
17:28So, unburden yourself of that final task.
17:35That will happen on its own.
17:37Nobody can do that.
17:40You are responsible only for your daily little battles.
17:46There, if you lose, then you are accountable.
17:48There, if you lose, then you are accountable.
18:03Is that clear?
18:08The future is dangerous.
18:12Don't think of it.
18:13I am not saying it's really dangerous.
18:17It's a dangerous thing in the sense of what it does to your mind.
18:22When you think of the future, you allow yourself to go astray.
18:28So, don't think of the future.
18:29Think of this day.
18:31What do I need to do today?
18:34That's all.
18:39The future will take care of its own.