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Psalms 145:8-9

"The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy. The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works."

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Transcript
00:00Good morning everybody, hope you're doing well. This is Bible Verses and we are going to look at
00:05Psalms 145, 8-9. Psalms 145, 8-9. And I quote,
00:13The Lord is gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and of great mercy. The Lord
00:23is good to all and his tender mercies are all over his works. So we can take this of course as God,
00:32if you're secular we can take this as what is the most virtuous. What is the most virtuous?
00:39Gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and of great mercy. One of the things that corrupt
00:47people don't really understand is how much good people want them to improve. If you have somebody
00:56who's an addict, a drunk drug addict, it's hard for them to understand how much those around them
01:04want them to improve, want them to get better, want them to give up their addiction. We are rooting,
01:12we good people, we are all rooting, desperately sometimes, for corrupt people to become good.
01:20Now that is a hope born of optimism and sometimes your optimism needs to be in the Aristotelian
01:26mean. Too little optimism and you're depressed, too much optimism and you are exploited. So you
01:33need a healthy amount in the middle which doesn't answer much other than to saying it is one of the
01:37virtues where an excess is a problem. Even a virtue like honesty, an excess of honesty,
01:46is not healthy because then you put everything out into the world which allows you to be
01:52targeted and exploited. So honesty is also one of these virtues that you need to balance a little
02:00bit, not so much in your private life of course, to be honest with people in your private life,
02:03but in the world as a whole. This is why Jesus says be as cunning as the serpents. Do not wear
02:08your heart on your sleeve, other people will pluck it for profit. So I mean speaking personally of
02:15course, my desire for my family of origin and my friends to become better, I mean I was begging
02:22friends to go to therapy, I was begging friends to improve and as disasters hit them, people that
02:28I knew in the past, as disasters hit them, it broke my heart and I very much wanted them to
02:34seek and achieve the consolations of philosophy and humility and virtue and all kinds of
02:40wonderful things. I just wanted them, I was so desperate for them to see the light as I had seen
02:45the light, to move towards virtue, to become better. And I was a lot of emotion early in the
02:54morning. It's hard for me to say why they didn't, why they steadfastly avoided and rejected the
03:04path that I had blazed towards a better life. I don't really know any of them who had happy
03:10marriages, I don't know any of them who achieved any particular sustained success. I think that it
03:18was because they had done wrong and they had harmed others and in particular harmed...
03:29No, I'm just going to leave it at harmed others. And when you harm others, you either recognize
03:36that you harmed others and take your lumps, take your licks from your conscience, right? That the
03:43conscience wants to make you feel bad for doing wrong so that you will do better. It is the first
03:50step towards virtue, which is the avoidance of the pain of the bad conscience rather than the
03:54pursuit of virtue for the sake of the happiness it provides. But when you do wrong to others,
04:02it clashes with your self-image. And when the empirical wrongness of your actions
04:10clashes with the vanity of your self-image, you are really trembling on the brink. You are
04:17standing on the greatest fork in life, in the world, in your soul, in the future of the world.
04:26Which is either you adjust your self-image to accept that you're capable of great wrong
04:35and vow to improve and work to improve. Or you say, I am blameless because there's no such thing
04:44as right and wrong, thus saving your self-image at the expense of truth, virtue, happiness,
04:52and improvement. When you do something wrong, it's sort of like if you are failing to attract...
04:59if you're a man and you fail to attract women, or maybe you repel women, you either say,
05:05well, good women out there and I need to adjust what I'm doing to be more attractive.
05:09Or you say, women all have terrible taste, they're all bad or whatever nonsense you would come up
05:16with. And that saves your self-esteem, right? That the fault is not yours, the fault is women.
05:23So you save your self-esteem and end your bloodline. You have no future with women if
05:28you blame them for being unattractive. In the same way, if you have disastrous relationships,
05:34you can either say, I'm choosing the wrong women, doing the wrong things. Or you can say, well,
05:39all women are like that. That's the nature of relationships. And then you just either continue
05:45dating bad people until your adrenals burn out, your fight or flight burns out and you give up,
05:50or you just go monk mode right away. So when you have a clash between your self-image
05:55and your empirical actions, right? So if you've cheated on your partner, again,
06:02talking to the men, if you've cheated on a woman or you cheated on your partner,
06:06then you either say, I did something really wrong and take your lumps and work to improve.
06:14Or you say, well, she drove me to it. It was just impulsive. It was a one-time thing.
06:19She's overreacting. Who really cares? We're all just mammals. It doesn't matter.
06:24You know, it's just flesh and flesh, right? You either accept your conscience,
06:30which is painful in the short run to say, gee, I cheated, you know, and that's not good. And
06:35there's something wrong with the way I'm approaching the world if this is what's going on.
06:40Or you then adjust your mindset to remove the morals from what you're doing. And you remove
06:51yourself from the divine to the mammal, the divine being. There are universal moral values
07:00that we should accept and pursue. And you say, well, I'm just flesh. I'm just atoms in space.
07:09And virtue is just a tool of manipulation, sort of the Nietzschean approach in some ways. Virtue
07:16is just a tool of manipulation. And what matters is physical hedonism, fleshly hedonism. Animals
07:23pursue pleasure and avoid pain. I'm just an animal. And then you can't pursue moral philosophy. You
07:30can't pursue God or virtue in that situation. And in hindsight, I didn't really see it at the time.
07:38I had a sort of vague feeling for it, but I didn't really see it at the time. But I can think back
07:46to instances where that choice was occurring for people, where that choice was occurring for
07:54people. And it's very sad, of course, to see the path they took. Especially, not to overpraise
08:02myself, because certainly I was no angel back then. I'm still no angel now, but I'm trying.
08:08But having at least access to philosophy through me was a real benefit and a bonus.
08:14But they didn't. Oh, and not just philosophy, but you know, therapy, self-knowledge and all
08:18that kind of stuff. And they chose what they chose. So, gracious and full of compassion.
08:27This is part of the sort of 24-hour rule that if someone has wronged you,
08:31they have 24 hours to apologize or it's not going to happen. Because, and this is part of this fork
08:38in the road. If you do someone wrong, if you don't apologize within 24 hours, it is virtually
08:45inevitable that you will simply justify and avoid it, right? I mean, we, of course, can see this
08:53in this strange lunar landscape of society post-COVID. And people should be, at least,
09:00I mean, look, the unvaccinated were right about some things. Not everything, but they were right
09:04about some things. And there's no apology from, nobody references it, nobody talks about it.
09:10And so, they've simply justified it to, well, we did the best we could with the knowledge we had.
09:14They happened to be lucky. It's not something worth talking about. It doesn't matter. And so
09:18on, right? But nobody will say, listen, we kind of threatened you and attacked you and said you
09:24were going to die and took away some of your rights of bodily autonomy for a time. And, you know,
09:28that was kind of wrong. We got to figure out what we did and why we were so susceptible. And like,
09:33you know, there should be a reckoning. Like in a healthy society, there would be a reckoning,
09:37but there's no reckoning. And so, people are just moving on. And then, if you bring it up,
09:42well, of course, if you bring it up, you're provoking people's bad conscience, if they
09:45even have one. If you bring it up, you're provoking people's bad conscience. And therefore,
09:50they get annoyed and irritated with you. Why are you digging up the past? It's all moved on.
09:55Doesn't matter, right? Everybody was doing the best they could with the knowledge they had.
09:59There was a lot of chaos, a lot of misinformation, it turns out, but nobody knew it at the time. All
10:03that kind of stuff, right? So, I mean, you're going to get these apologies within 24 hours,
10:10usually. And I think everyone who got vaccinated or strongly advocated for it to the point of
10:16interfering with people's bodily autonomy, at some point, they read something that gave them pause,
10:22right? Something that didn't make sense with regarding to vaccination. And, you know,
10:28that was the point where they could have said, well, geez, tell me what your experience was.
10:31It turns out that you weren't totally wrong about everything as I first thought,
10:35and so on, right? So, you get that 24-hour window. It's the same thing when the pursuit of hedonism
10:43leads to a pain. You know, like this sort of typical example is the guy who gets married
10:49to a woman mostly because she's really sexy in heart, and then they have problems because the
10:54relationship is not founded on virtues. And then he ends up in this dead bedroom, sexless marriage,
11:00right? There's a negative consequence to pursuing this kind of hedonism in the same way that,
11:05of course, if somebody says, well, exercise is a drag, and yes, it is, and I don't want to limit
11:11my food intake, so he goes for hedonism because he can eat whatever he wants and doesn't have
11:16to exercise. And then he ends up, you know, overweight, joint pain, back pain, gout is going
11:23on that is difficult and unpleasant for him. That's a time when he can say, gee, I was wrong,
11:29and work to improve. And, of course, it's the same thing with people who do you wrong. You're
11:36going to apologize. It's the same thing when people have that time where the consequences
11:42of their bad decisions are becoming manifest, but rather than say, I was making bad decisions,
11:47I've been making bad decisions, and rather than go, because it's an act of, this is the angry
11:51will that I talk about, sort of angry animal will, which is, if I've been telling people,
11:58you're living the wrong way, and it's going to go badly, if I say that to people, and then it
12:06turns out that they have been living the wrong way, and it is going badly, it is the angry will
12:12to say, I must subjugate myself to a standard. This is the Garden of Eden, right, the serpent.
12:21God says, here's a rule, and subjugate yourself to a rule, and if you don't subjugate yourself to
12:27a rule, then bad things will happen. You have to subjugate yourself to a moral rule if you don't,
12:33or moral rules if you don't subjugate yourself to moral rules, bad things will happen.
12:37You have to subjugate yourself to the disciplines of eating well and exercising, and if you don't,
12:41bad things will happen, you know, like we sort of understand that. In a marriage you have to
12:46subjugate yourself to monogamy, and if you don't, bad things will happen, and so on.
12:51But the angry will does not want to subjugate itself to rules, because it views
12:57subjugation to rules as humiliation, as a blow against vanity. Now why do people
13:04view subjugation to rules as humiliation? Well, because they have inflicted rules
13:11on others in order to humiliate them. Or they have had people in authority
13:17inflict rules on them in order to humiliate them and they haven't
13:22processed that and found a different path forward. Because let's say they had
13:25mean teachers who bullied them with stupid rules as mean teachers and most
13:28teachers tend to do. When they were growing up they had teachers who
13:32bullied them for the sake of pointless rules. But what they do is then
13:37they say, well, all subjugation to rules is humiliation. Anyone who tells me to
13:42live reasonably and morally is exactly the same as a teacher who bullies, right?
13:47I had a friend many years ago, not part of this group, but I had a friend many
13:52years ago who was telling me once that he skipped school and the school
13:57called his mother and his mother said, why weren't you in school? He said, I got
14:03sick, I threw up. Where did you throw up? In a corner of the playground and
14:08it hadn't rained of course and she took him, not quite by the ear, but she took
14:11him over to the playground and demanded to know exactly where he had thrown up
14:17and there was of course no throw up there and so it just got into a real
14:22tussle about these kinds of things. But of course a lot of parents have backed
14:27themselves into such desperate corners that they can't really have empathy for
14:32their kids, right? So if you know you're just broke and you absolutely need a job,
14:35you've got no husband or your husband is non-functional as a woman and you just
14:40have to work and your kid has to go to school because gotta have him be
14:44somewhere during the day, the kid really can't say, I mean the kid can say, but you
14:48can't act on it. If the kid says I don't like school, I don't want to go to school,
14:51well, I mean what can you do, right? You back yourself into a corner to the point
14:55where you can't do what your kid needs, right? You can't say, okay, we'll take you
15:02out of school because it's sort of pointless and stupid. Well, you can't do
15:05that and because you feel bad you then often will get aggressive against your
15:10kid for saying I want something different. I mean I certainly remember I
15:14didn't I didn't really want to go to boarding school, I didn't really want to
15:17go to Canada, but my needs and preferences were not acceptable to my
15:25mother and therefore I just was pulled along like a tail on a kite to my
15:30mother's, after my mother's whims. So when people make bad decisions
15:36they either learn and work to improve or they justify those bad decisions.
15:44Gracious and full of compassion. People often make bad decisions based upon
15:49childhood suffering and we can be compassionate to them, right? I mean I
15:54can't come down like a ton of bricks on people, I mean morally or rationally, I
15:59can't come down like a ton of bricks on people who make bad decisions based upon
16:04their bad childhoods because, I mean at least when I was young and sort of
16:07certainly pre philosophical, because I made bad decisions as a teenager based
16:12on a bad childhood. So I mean there has certainly been cases where I've had a
16:20much more critical view of somebody on a call-in show but then hearing about their
16:26bad childhood it's like oh yeah okay that kind of makes sense and I have
16:29compassion, right? So the Lord or morality is gracious and full of
16:33compassion. Slow to anger. Now it doesn't say without anger it's a slow to anger
16:38and of great mercy. Slow to anger is important. Being quick to anger is a
16:44fault, it's a flaw. Being without anger is a fault and a flaw, right? So it's sort
16:51of like the autoimmune issue that people have, right? This is obviously my
16:56amateur understanding of the issue, not being any kind of medical professional
16:59myself, but you have an immune system that does not attack healthy cells but
17:04rather attacks viruses, bacteria, dangerous foreign entities, right? Now you
17:10don't want to have no immune system because then you're just desperately
17:14gonna live in a bubble and you're desperately sick from everything. So you
17:19don't want to have no immune system but at the same time if you have an
17:21overactive immune system it can attack healthy cells and that's really bad,
17:27right? So it's the same thing with anger. You don't want to have an overactive
17:32anger that attacks everything instantly, that's called being defensive and
17:36aggressive, but at the same time you also don't want to have no anger because then
17:39you are unprotected in a world that has predation and exploitation in it.
17:44Slow to anger and of great mercy. I mean it's funny you know I've thought
17:49occasionally over the years, I mean it comes up, people that I knew when I was
17:54younger, it comes up and I just I think sometimes if people were to contact me
18:02and to say you know you were right about some things and I should have listened
18:07and you know congratulations on what you're doing with your life it seems to
18:11be pretty noble and it would be great to reconnect. I mean honestly I can't
18:16imagine that I would be like oh yes but you know in the time of my trials and
18:20sufferings and right you weren't there and and so on I would be like I mean
18:24you've heard this of course in in shows right where people who were really
18:29critical and negative towards the show at a time when a lot of that was going
18:32on and it was not always the easiest thing they have called in to apologize
18:38or to work of all of that and maybe I'm maybe I'm just really bad at holding
18:43grudges but when somebody approaches with an apology and it seems to be
18:50genuine and it's not manipulative and it's not like some weird information
18:54gathering thing and I got a pretty good instinct for those kinds of things if
18:57somebody has seen the light doesn't mean necessarily we'll be best buds but I'm
19:01glad to have the conversation and I would in terms of forgiveness yeah sure
19:06I mean if somebody has seen the light and improved and learned about their
19:11past and become a better person then good then good of great of great mercy I
19:17admire people who having done the wrong thing find a way to turn it around and
19:23take down the angry ape will of dominance and submission and do the
19:30right thing and they're honest and apologize right I mean I admire that
19:33behavior and others of course because I hold it as a standard for myself that
19:36if I do something wrong then I will examine it and I will not I will not
19:43apologize for everything because there is a hierarchy to these things so if
19:46somebody comes at me with some nitpicky thing from years ago I will not
19:50necessarily apologize for that because I suspect the person's motives and I do
19:55not believe that they're interested in my moral improvement they're just trying
19:58to dominate and humiliate me by often pulling something out of context from
20:02years ago I just I don't view that as acting in in good faith and I just won't
20:08I won't do that so yeah of great mercy I think that's important if people have
20:15overcome their animal will their dominance will and they are willing to
20:19subject themselves to virtue well that's a that's a positive thing and I think it
20:25should be respected it's a hard thing to do so the Lord is gracious and full of
20:30compassion yes I am very sorry for people's childhoods and I want them to
20:34make better decisions and I want of course myself to keep making good
20:38decisions and that means that you do have to have some graciousness and
20:43compassion slow to anger yes yes because there is a certain amount of forgive
20:51them father for they know not what they do there's a certain amount of people
20:55don't know the connections between their past and their present they don't
21:03really get what has happened between their past and their present you start
21:07connecting those things well you're drawn to this type of woman because of
21:10this is how you were raised and right so once they have those connections and
21:14they understand why they're doing things and they understand why it's negative
21:19or dysfunctional particularly if there are children involved so once that
21:22happens then they have a responsibility to work to improve right we can we can
21:28understand that right I don't really need to get too far into that if a woman
21:33is overweight because she was sexually abused and therefore wants to remain
21:36unattractive to predatory men then that's a connection that she can
21:40understand now she's responsible for working on it she's also responsible for
21:42eating more healthy more healthily and and so on right so it makes sense right
21:47so we are compassionate with people and we provide them knowledge with the hope
21:53and intent and goal of having that use of having them use that knowledge in
21:57order to improve right I mean if you wanted to be a really good torturer you
22:02would pretend that you wanted to be a doctor and you would be trained about
22:06the human nervous system not because you wanted to heal people but because you
22:12wanted to do maximum pain damage to them without harming them you would want
22:17to do minimum physical harm and maximum pain right because that's how you could
22:22draw out the torture for the longest so if you were a compassionate teacher in
22:29the medical field and somebody was really eager to learn about the nervous
22:33system you would probably be keen to teach them but if you found out that the
22:39person was planning on using the knowledge that you were providing to
22:42torture people and then you would kick his or her ass out of the class right
22:46don't take my knowledge and use it for evil purposes if somebody came to your
22:54art gallery because they loved your art you would be happy to have them there
22:58even if they came seven times in a week however if you found out that the person
23:03who was coming to your art gallery was in fact an art thief then you would bar
23:07them from your gallery because they would not be coming because of their
23:10appreciation of art or only in part but because they wanted to scan your security
23:15system and steal everything that wasn't nailed down so in the same way we want
23:22to teach people how to be good how to have self-knowledge with all humility
23:27and at some point they have enough knowledge that they're now responsible
23:32for their choices so we can view people and I think reasonably so as living in a
23:36state of nature right is subject to propaganda haven't really thought things
23:39through haven't thought things from first principles and so yeah they they
23:44don't really know what they're doing they're not responsible for knowledge
23:46they don't have particularly if that knowledge is hard to come by I mean the
23:50Internet has increased everyone's moral responsibility virtually infinitely so
23:56you provide people knowledge principles connections and so on you provide them
24:01all of these things and then they are responsible for doing better so once
24:10they are responsible for doing better because you have informed and instructed
24:13and modeled the behavior once they are responsible for doing better then they
24:19have a choice to do better and if they choose continue continually to do bad
24:24things to do wrong things to do corrupt and negative things well then they're
24:29immoral but evil corrupt so if you have some guy who was severely traumatized as
24:36a child he's a father and he keeps showing horror movies to his little kids
24:40and you tell him look this is because you were traumatized as a kid and here's
24:45what happened and this is a reproduction of trauma it's bad for your children
24:49then he has a responsibility to stop showing appalling horror movies to his
24:54little children if you go through this whole process with him and then he
24:59decides to continue to show appalling horror movies to his little children
25:03then he is now with knowledge sadistic he's not just reproducing copy pasting
25:09the Groundhog Day trauma of his past he is in fact now with full knowledge
25:15traumatizing his children which means he's no longer unconsciously reproducing
25:19his own trauma he's now active with knowledge fully responsible a sadist so
25:25slow to anger is provide the knowledge and once they have that knowledge
25:31they're responsible and if they continue to do wrong then you can get angry
25:35because now they're not acting in an unconscious manner so you give people
25:38the truth about the nature of the system and society they live in and if they can
25:44disprove you then you gain the benefit of knowledge but if they can't disprove
25:48you then they are responsible for not advocating for these things these
25:53negative or destructive things anymore and if they continue to do so then they
25:56are no longer acting without knowledge they are no longer acting automatically
26:00they are in fact acting in a malicious conscious fashion well then you can get
26:08angry right then you can get angry and in fact you should get angry so your
26:14parents can say if your parents were were cruel or abusive then going to talk
26:21to them and say listen I experienced this and this is my this is my judgment
26:25and this is what I think happened and this is how tough it was for me well
26:29they can no longer claim that they didn't hurt you and if they just
26:33continually come up with sort of mealy-mouthed excuses that I dissect in
26:36peaceful parenting and peaceful parenting calm please share if they
26:42continue to avoid an excuse and then continue to abuse well now they're doing
26:46it with full knowledge and therefore they have moved from potentially
26:49unconscious trauma repeaters to fully knowledgeable conscious sadists the
26:56Lord is good to all and his tender mercies are all over his works this is
27:01something I've talked about with people if you if your parents were abusive and
27:05you don't have conversations with them about this then what happens
27:09unfortunately is that by not providing any negative feedback they have no
27:13chance to stop being abusive I've mentioned this before of course with my
27:18my mother my mother behaves badly around me in particular because I don't conform
27:24or comply with her corruption I pointed out I was fairly assertive on multiple
27:31occasions talking to her about my needs history experiences and preferences and
27:35she escalates and screams and throws things around and accuses me of being in
27:40league with bad people and you know to harm her and like she's really she
27:45behaves really badly so if my mother was an alcoholic and every time she
27:53interacted with me she binge drank herself into near comatosia well the
28:01kind and compassionate thing would be to talk to her about this but if every
28:05single time this happened she she was okay not drinking but every time she
28:09interacted with me she drank herself into near oblivion then the only kind
28:14thing that I could do since we couldn't break the pattern the only kind thing
28:17that I could do would be to not interact with her so she wouldn't die from
28:20alcohol poisoning or you know permanently damage her liver her health
28:24as a whole so if people cannot restrain themselves from acting badly around you
28:30you remove yourself from their presence because you are a catalyst to them doing
28:34great harm to themselves and to others so that is a kind thing to do so if you
28:39separate yourself from people with whom if you are honest they freak out and
28:44behave in really terrible and appalling and negative ways you know if your
28:49father had a real temper when you were younger and then you kind of comply and
28:52he's relatively peaceful but then the moment you're honest with him and try
28:55and actually participate and show up in the relationship he goes back to his old
29:00habits escalates yells intimidates threatens calls you names or whatever
29:03right then if you decide not to see him either anymore forever or for a certain
29:10amount of time it is because in part because your behavior and your honesty
29:15provokes him to negative behaviors right if you had a girlfriend who cut herself
29:23you break up with her and then every time you contact her she cuts herself
29:28again you need to stop contacting her because when you contact her she cuts
29:33herself I mean we can all understand this right so there is compassion in
29:39separating yourself from corrupt people if your continued contact and honesty
29:44causes them to act out in negative and destructive ways then it is compassion
29:48to them to say look if I if my honesty provokes you to destructive behaviors to
29:54yourself or others or both really both you can't harm others without harming
29:58yourself if my presence provokes you to truly negative and destructive and
30:04corrupt and immoral behaviors then I will withdraw myself from contacting
30:09you because I don't want to provoke you to negative destructive behaviors if
30:14every time I contact you you drink yourself into oblivion I'm gonna stop
30:19contacting you because I don't want to I don't want to be any kind of cause of
30:24you harming yourself in that way my mother is a better person without me in
30:29her life because she could not restrain herself from attacking and being abusive
30:35when I was honest right you say I guess while I go back and be dishonest but
30:40that's harming me right to be in a relationship where I have to be
30:43dishonest is harming me so it's the it's the least harm possible right for me not
30:50to be in contact by my mother is the least harm possible it is the most
30:53compassionate thing it is the nicest thing because she doesn't behave in
30:57terrible ways and I am NOT harmed by having to lie and misrepresent
31:01everything about my history and pretend to have respect and love for someone I
31:05do not have respect and love for so I mean this little white lies and then
31:09there's like spinal soul lies falsehoods thou shalt not bear false witnesses in
31:15really really important matters so the Lord is good to all yeah I mean virtue
31:19benefits everyone even those it causes pain to in the short run it benefits
31:25them in the long run my mother is better off because of my decision to not see
31:31her so the Lord is gracious and full of compassion yeah we try and extend
31:36knowledge virtue and compassion to people who are doing wrong slow to anger
31:42yep it means that we try to instruct them if they end up using our
31:46instructions against us or to manipulate us or to control us right if
31:50you say to someone I really care about your life and want you to be happier and
31:53better and they take that and say gee that's really nice of you let me let's
31:57talk about it and I'll try and figure out a way you know assuming I accept
32:01what you say is true and it is true then I'll try and find a way to be happier
32:04and better thank you for your care blah blah blah right that's good however if
32:08someone is really corrupt they cross that Rubicon they took that fork in the
32:13road towards hell itself if they're really corrupt then what will happen is
32:17if you say to someone who's really corrupt I care about you and I want you
32:22to be happier and better then they will use your caring against you if they're
32:27sadists they will intentionally harm themselves or others or you in order to
32:31make you feel bad because they enjoy that or they will you know like a drug
32:37addict who there's people around him who desperately want him to become better he
32:41will beg and plead them for money for quote rehab right because he knows that
32:45they want him to stop doing the drugs and to get rehab and to get better so
32:48because they desperately want him to get better he will use that desire to get
32:53money pretending to go to rehab but then just use it for drugs right so he knows
32:57that they want what's better for him and he will manipulate that in order to get
33:03that or they you know the drug addict who says like let's say there's a
33:07daughter she's a drug addict and she says to her parents you have to give me
33:11money for drugs or I'm just gonna go out into the worst section of town and try
33:15and get drugs any way I can right which might mean prostitution or or something
33:21right terrible right and so she knows that her parents want what's best for
33:27her they don't want her to get hurt they care about her and so she's using it as
33:32a bully tactic to extract money to get the drugs right I mean this is again we
33:36can say she's out of her mind with the idea it's the addiction talking and so
33:39on but it is that's the mechanism right and this is why in the show intervention
33:44as I mentioned before they say listen you you either go for help like right
33:48now or you're out of her life's completely I mean this really is the
33:51most compassionate thing that you can do right so yeah slow to anger for sure we
33:57will try to give people good knowledge and because we care about them but if
34:01they then use that knowledge and are caring of them to further abuse and
34:04escalate and exploit us then we get angry because then you your virtues are
34:10being used against you which is about as corrupt a thing as is possible and then
34:14the more virtuous you are the more you'll be exploited and therefore you
34:17are feeding the preferences desires and material wants of someone because you're
34:22virtuous and they're corrupt in other words you're paying them for their
34:24corruption and they will whatever you pay you get more of so you have to
34:28withdraw because they're just getting worse out of association with you so
34:32yeah his tender mercies are all over his works so because it is well known
34:39certainly in this community and you know by many many people across the world
34:43that I do not see my mother because she is abusive I think of course of the well
34:49first of all she's a better person and I'm a better person because of it we're
34:52both less traumatized because we are not in contact so it's a it's a huge net
34:57plus for the world as a whole my honesty was not making her a better person by
35:02provoking her to further abuse so we're better off but also think of the number
35:06of parents who've said oh gosh well if my kids don't have to see me if I'm
35:11relentlessly corrupt I will work work to improve right I will I will work to
35:15improve well okay so think of all of that so my decisions with my mother say
35:20just to take the example that's most understandable to people my decisions
35:24with my mother have been a net positive for the world as a whole virtue is good
35:28to all my mother has benefited I have benefited from our non-contact or my
35:33decision to go no contact and his tender mercies are all over his works so having
35:39mercy to my mother by not provoking her to bad behavior through my own virtues
35:43well if you have a friend who's so lonely that you're happy marriage makes
35:48him suicidal it's probably better to disconnect from your friend and suggest
35:52he gets mental health help because if you keep being happy with your wife
35:55around him he's gonna throw himself off a bridge right so it's not right so the
35:59tender mercies or virtue benefits just about everybody right so I hope this
36:05helps I really really am enjoying these thank you for these great Bible verses
36:09and I hope that you find this helpful and useful lots of love from up here
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