Stefan Molyneux
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Sunday Morning Live 19 January 2025

This lecture explores narcissism in individual and societal contexts, starting with the implications of the TikTok ban in the US and cultural cancelation. It guides listeners in identifying narcissistic traits, differentiating them from sociopathy, and underscores the importance of empathy using relatable anecdotes.

The discussion examines the impact of adult narcissism on children, advocating for compassion as essential in relationships. It also addresses societal changes like women entering the workforce, critiquing popular culture's unrealistic romance narratives. The session concludes by emphasizing self-awareness and empathy as vital for navigating modern interpersonal dynamics.

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Transcript
00:00:00Good morning everybody, welcome to your Sunday morning philosophy.
00:00:06Thank you Eric, thank you ThinkClearly, I appreciate that and I'm thrilled, eager and
00:00:11happy to take your questions and comments.
00:00:14For those friends of ours living in these United States of America, I guess TikTok went
00:00:24dark as of yesterday afternoon.
00:00:28And of course America, America you see is so horrified at the idea of Chinese technology
00:00:38that they only allow hundreds of billions of dollars of American investment to flow
00:00:44into China.
00:00:45That's how horrified they are.
00:00:46They're so horrified of Chinese spying technology that they allow significant proportion, significant
00:00:51portions of their infrastructure to be built in China.
00:00:56Just so terrifying.
00:00:58In general, I assume that picking the least popular, it's the sort of Andrew Anglin principle,
00:01:07picking the least popular social media platform to ban sets a precedent, right?
00:01:11I mean that's just the way, Andrew Anglin was the first guy to get cancelled.
00:01:15And yeah, so you just pick the least popular person, start with them, nobody depends on
00:01:19them and then just move on to other people.
00:01:22All right.
00:01:24Any new Trump coin millionaires on the chat?
00:01:28No, but that hawk to a girl has kind of vanished from sight, right?
00:01:37She gone baby gone.
00:01:39She is the wind.
00:01:41She went for a nap and apparently has hibernated for almost an eternity.
00:01:49All right.
00:01:52Frida says, good morning.
00:01:53Just finishing listening to the Friday night stream a few minutes ago.
00:01:56So I have a fresh question.
00:01:57How do you identify narcissistic tendencies in yourself?
00:02:07How do you identify narcissistic tendencies within yourself?
00:02:14So narcissism, again, I just use this term as a rank amateur, I'm not a psychologist
00:02:21or psychiatrist, have no capacity to diagnose anyone, I'm just using this in an amateur
00:02:25colloquial fashion, but narcissism is when you can only perceive your own emotional state
00:02:36and you cannot, at an elemental level, process other people's emotional states.
00:02:43Now, I mean, a sociopath probably can't even feel his own emotional state, but a narcissist
00:02:50will feel his or her own emotional state, but not those of others.
00:02:56The typical example for me would be the sort of typical example of the guy who was abused
00:03:06by his mother, he goes and talks to his mother about it, his mother dissolves into tears
00:03:10and self-pity and says, well, I guess I've just been the worst mother ever, right?
00:03:16And she's only experiencing her own emotional state, right?
00:03:27She only knows that she feels hurt.
00:03:29She cannot fundamentally process that her son also feels hurt, right?
00:03:39So that is a big problem.
00:03:41Oh, woe is me, right?
00:03:43So she has upset her son as a child, when he was a child, right?
00:03:52And he brings to her attention that she upset him, and then what happens is she can only
00:04:01feel her own sorrow at being upset, she cannot process that he feels sorrow.
00:04:05This is sort of the mirror neurons thing.
00:04:09So there is a line or a moment in the Gulag Archipelago by Solzhenitsyn, where he says
00:04:24that there was a guard.
00:04:25There was a guard who would beat up the prisoners, and then at some point the guard ran afoul
00:04:29of the system, became a prisoner, and was beat up by the other guards, right?
00:04:36And the guard who was beaten up by the other guards said, oh my God, I had no idea how
00:04:42much it actually hurt.
00:04:43I had no idea how much it actually hurt.
00:04:45In other words, he was inflicting this pain on other people, and then assumed that their
00:04:52pleas for mercy, their pleas for having them not hit them, was just a kind of manipulation,
00:04:59right?
00:05:00It was just, oh, they're just manipulating me, they're just, you know, they're pretending
00:05:03to be hurt and so on.
00:05:04But when he actually got beaten, he was like, holy crap, this hurts unbelievably, no idea,
00:05:09this hurt so much.
00:05:14So if there's a principle, and you can't imagine that it applies to others in a way, that probably
00:05:28would be a sign of some kind of narcissism.
00:05:33In other words, if you have a breakup, right, you have a breakup, and you only process how
00:05:40much it hurts you, but you don't think about how much it hurts others or hurts the other
00:05:44person, that would be narcissism.
00:05:48I mean, I think there's narcissistic elements, again, just my own opinion, but I think there
00:05:52are narcissistic elements in all divorces, because if people who were contemplating divorce
00:05:58or heading in that direction, if they have children, if they were to truly recognize
00:06:02how bad divorce is for their children, then they would improve their own behaviors, right?
00:06:07They would improve their own behaviors.
00:06:13They would be more reasonable, they would negotiate, they would mature, they would manage
00:06:17their tempers.
00:06:19And so all divorce is based upon or founded upon ignoring the needs and preferences and
00:06:26what is best for the children.
00:06:27What is best for the children is that the couple work it out and stay together.
00:06:30That's what's best for the children.
00:06:31So there are massively selfish or narcissistic elements in all divorces, all divorces, because
00:06:41the needs of the children are being ignored.
00:06:44Narcissism to me would also be the mother who says, well, I want to go to work because
00:06:50work fulfills me, right?
00:06:52The mother who says, I want to go to work because work fulfills me, right?
00:07:00But she doesn't sit there and say, what's best for my children, what's best for my children.
00:07:09So you want to put yourself in the other person's shoes on a regular basis because compassion
00:07:18or empathy is like a muscle that you have to work at continually developing.
00:07:26So you have to put yourself as a regular exercise, right?
00:07:30Do unto others as you would have them do unto you is very foundational because it continually
00:07:36reminds you to put yourself in another person's state of mind.
00:07:41You put yourself in another person's state of mind and that's a regular exercise of compassion.
00:07:51So you think, what is best for my kids?
00:07:54What is best for my wife?
00:07:55What is best for my community?
00:07:56What is best for the world?
00:07:57What is best for my family as a whole?
00:07:59What is best for philosophy?
00:08:01And through doing that, you get yourself out of simply focusing only on your own pleasures
00:08:08and preferences, and you then become emotionally available to other people, right?
00:08:14I mean, a lot of times people will say, women will say often, oh, my boyfriend is emotionally
00:08:19unavailable.
00:08:20And usually what that means is he's become cautious about sharing his thoughts and feelings
00:08:24because they get used against him.
00:08:25So that would be an example.
00:08:29All right.
00:08:32So yeah, put yourself in the position of other people on a regular basis.
00:08:36I mean, try to do it daily, right?
00:08:39If you're at work, say, what is it like being my boss?
00:08:43What is it like being my customer?
00:08:45What is it like being my employee?
00:08:49What is it like being on the other side of the negotiating table?
00:08:52What is it like living with me?
00:08:55What are other people's views of me?
00:08:56I mean, every now and then, right, I will look across the table or if I'm, you know,
00:09:04sitting sort of kiddy corner with my wife and we're chatting, I think of what it's like
00:09:09to be in her mind looking at me.
00:09:14It's a really good exercise to do.
00:09:17What is it like?
00:09:18Right.
00:09:19I mean, I'm here looking at the camera and I think about what it's like being on the
00:09:23receiving end of what it is that I'm talking about.
00:09:25To be an effective communicator, you do really have to think about what other people are
00:09:28experiencing as you're talking and as you're communicating.
00:09:33So you ever do this?
00:09:34Right.
00:09:35If you're in a, I mean, if you're in a relationship, what is it like to be in a relationship with
00:09:41me?
00:09:42Right.
00:09:43What are the pluses I'm bringing to bear?
00:09:45What are the positives I'm bringing to bear?
00:09:47What is it like to be in a relationship with me?
00:09:55That is a, always a big and interesting question, right?
00:10:05So try and do that on a regular basis.
00:10:10What is it like to be in a relationship with me, right?
00:10:15Like I can look at the camera and I can see what you see, right?
00:10:19I can look at myself here on the camera and this is what you're seeing.
00:10:22So I want to put myself in your shoes.
00:10:25Putting yourself in the mind of another is the best way to combat that kind of selfishness.
00:10:33And it actually is very good at self-protecting because sometimes what you'll do is you'll
00:10:37put yourself in the mind of another and you'll recognize their cruelty, their sadism and
00:10:43so on.
00:10:44Right.
00:10:45So I've put myself in the minds of others who hate me, right?
00:10:50What is it like to look at me, Steph, and hate my guts, or think you do, or whatever
00:10:56it is, right?
00:10:57That's also important as well so that you can empathize with others' lack of empathy
00:11:01or hostility towards you is an essential element of self-protection.
00:11:06All right.
00:11:07Let's see here.
00:11:08Do sociopaths even have an emotional state?
00:11:19So sociopaths have an instinctual awareness in my understanding, and in my obviously amateur
00:11:27opinion, but sociopaths have an instinctual understanding of what is good or bad for them.
00:11:31So of course sociopaths who are criminals don't want to get caught, right?
00:11:38They know that society disapproves, that the cops are after them and they will cover
00:11:42their tracks, so they have a sort of fight-or-flight instinctual understanding of plus or minus
00:11:48from me, but they wouldn't experience emotions in the way that you and I would.
00:11:57A narcissist will experience tremendous levels of self-pity when they feel harmed or wronged,
00:12:03but sociopaths will often just react with anger if anything negative happens to them.
00:12:13What are some reasons someone would attract mostly narcissists?
00:12:18Well, I was talking about this this morning, I did a Bible verse this morning.
00:12:25So one of the reasons that somebody would attract mostly narcissists is they have an
00:12:29excess of compassion.
00:12:31In other words, they have not universalized the principle of compassion to include themselves.
00:12:38So they are compassionate to others, but they do not think of compassion towards themselves
00:12:44or about themselves or direct it at themselves.
00:12:48So this would be the enabler, right?
00:12:50Somebody who, the husband's a drunk and they would go and buy them alcohol and they'll
00:12:54work extra hard to pay the bills and they will call in sick for their husband when their
00:12:59husband is actually hungover and they will try to reduce the negative consequences of
00:13:05her husband's alcoholism.
00:13:06So that is, quote, having an excess of compassion.
00:13:10An excess of compassion is a deficiency of standards.
00:13:14And so she's not sitting there, and particularly if there are kids involved, she's not sitting
00:13:17there thinking, well, is this good for me?
00:13:19Is this good for my kids?
00:13:20She's just, well, what's the best thing for my husband in the moment, right?
00:13:23That's an excess of compassion, which is very, it's a tasty delicacy for narcissistic
00:13:32people to have an enabler around because narcissists believe that they are above the moral law
00:13:38and therefore they need people to help them escape the moral law, right?
00:13:46So the moral law called don't be a single mother, well, narcissists will then just say,
00:13:51well, the government should pay me and it doesn't matter if my kids end up growing up
00:13:54in debt.
00:13:55I should escape the consequences of the moral law, right?
00:13:59And so enablers help you escape the consequences of your behavior.
00:14:03And since narcissists believe that they're above consequences and they should not be
00:14:06subject to consequences, they rage against consequences.
00:14:11They will be very attracted to people who only have compassion for the narcissist and
00:14:16no compassion for their own selves.
00:14:31There are so many restaurants and fast food places in the West.
00:14:36In my experience, it's common to see mostly women work in fast food, in the proliferation
00:14:41of fast food, sorry, is the proliferation of fast food a result of the marriage rate
00:14:49declining?
00:14:50In other words, if more women were married and cooking for their families at home, would
00:14:53we have fewer restaurants?
00:14:54Well, I was actually just talking about this with my daughter the other day, that when
00:14:58I was a kid, it was very rare to go to a restaurant.
00:15:01It was very rare.
00:15:03I maybe went to McDonald's once or twice a year.
00:15:06My mother and I would occasionally, very occasionally go to Wimpy's Diner if we were out shopping
00:15:10for the day.
00:15:11There was a restaurant in the Don Mills Mall my mother and I would occasionally go to,
00:15:15but it was very rare.
00:15:16I mean, maybe a little bit more, I remember there was a restaurant called the Appian Way
00:15:20or Pizza Place in the old Don Mills Mall, this is going to shock people who are younger.
00:15:26It was 25 cents for a Coke and 75 cents for a slice of pizza.
00:15:31So for a buck, you got a good lunch.
00:15:36So that was rare, eating at home was the norm.
00:15:42And when I grew up in England, there were no restaurants around.
00:15:46I can't even remember the closest restaurant.
00:15:49I remember my mother had some upper class friends that occasionally we would go, but
00:15:54it would be at their expensive restaurant and they would pay.
00:15:59I actually remember one elderly woman with very fragile hands digging around in her purse
00:16:04at the end of the meal, and I was convinced that I was going to get a 10 penny piece.
00:16:11And I didn't, but very, very occasionally, occasionally, of course, when my mother would
00:16:17come and visit me as she did on occasion when I was in boarding school, she would take me
00:16:20out for lunch.
00:16:21I wrote about that in an early novel that is lost to time.
00:16:25And so it was very rare.
00:16:29I remember I first discovered the joys of chickpeas at an all-you-can-eat restaurant
00:16:34called Ponderosa and I have loved them ever since.
00:16:41So it was very rare, very rare to go out.
00:16:42Yeah, almost all eating happened at home.
00:16:46My mother was a comically bad cook, but we did not, we did not go out.
00:16:52Now of course, the proliferation of restaurants has to do with the fact that women are working
00:16:58and because women are working, people eat out a lot.
00:17:05They order in the Uber and all of that, and Amazon, like all of this delivery stuff is
00:17:10because women are working outside of the home.
00:17:16So if women were married and cooking, yes, there would be far fewer restaurants for sure.
00:17:22Somebody says, I work in family law, half my clients tell me their spouse or baby mama
00:17:26slash daddy is a narcissist, yeah, for sure.
00:17:34Within the first hour of me speaking with them, eventually that percentage goes up the
00:17:37more you speak with them, yeah.
00:17:39But it's funny, of course, because people choose narcissists at the expense of their
00:17:44children, right?
00:17:45This is family law.
00:17:46So people choose narcissists at the expense of their children and then confidently identify
00:17:51the other person as a narcissist, but not themselves, right?
00:18:02This is live, that's right.
00:18:08My mother literally said to me, says, Robert, you know when someone has made mistakes, what
00:18:12you have to do is look at all the good they have done, right, right, right.
00:18:21Let's see here.
00:18:26TikTok allows folks to not work for a company, more dollars, more freedom of thought, right?
00:18:32Right, I mean, I think banning an entire platform that Americans use to communicate to Americans
00:18:38would seem to me not overly friendly to the first amendment.
00:18:45And of course, the whole thing is that if, let's say TikTok is full of misinformation
00:18:51or disinformation or whatever it is, let's say it's just full of things that are false
00:18:55that are bad for Americans, well, of course, the big question is why are Americans so bad
00:19:04at sorting out true from false information, right?
00:19:07So all of the censorship is a lot to do with covering up the negative effects of government
00:19:11schools because it's easier to censor people than it is to reform government school because
00:19:15government schools are virtually impossible to reform, right?
00:19:26Likely this has played a role in, quote, conspiracies recently becoming understood as truth, not
00:19:31good for the powers that be.
00:19:33Oh yeah, the amount of information that is available to people has removed all claims
00:19:38of ignorance from people's vocabulary of excuses, it's amazing, amazing.
00:19:47I grew up middle class and we ate out more regularly, but it was at most one to two times
00:19:52per week with Sunday being the regular dinner after church thing with grandpa.
00:19:57Yeah, so one to two times a week eating out, absolutely incomprehensible to me as a kid.
00:20:04Friday night show on narcissism was very helpful for me as well.
00:20:07Good, I appreciate that, thank you.
00:20:12A.T. says, thank you Steph, spot on regarding the enabling via excess compassion.
00:20:16I grew up in a narcissistic family as the family scapegoat, finally defood three years
00:20:21ago after years of therapy, it's a long lonely road once one finds moral standards.
00:20:26Well I hear what you're saying and I'm obviously not going to disagree with your experience,
00:20:29but the loneliness, it comes from, when you begin to have moral standards, you don't become
00:20:36lonely, you realize you always were alone, and you want to, like if you are alone but
00:20:41don't feel lonely, in other words you're in pseudo relationships where there's proximity
00:20:44without honesty, contact, intimacy, openness.
00:20:48If you are alone but don't feel alone, that's really bad, right?
00:20:55It's like having some mole on your back you can't feel that's dangerous, right?
00:21:02Hey Dylan, how's it going?
00:21:08Good morning insomniac, insomnia cat, well insomniacs never get to say good morning,
00:21:14it's just like another damn day of tiredness, of tiredness.
00:21:21In the clown world of Me Too, perhaps men being quote narcissistic is learned self-preservation,
00:21:26who else gives a crap, yeah?
00:21:30It's the Baldoni thing, right?
00:21:31I think Baldoni, by doing the show, where he did the movie It Ends With Us, where he
00:21:41just plays a causeless abuser, I mean even Christian Grey from Fifty Shades of Grey,
00:21:48and he had a backstory in that he was sexually abused and molested by an older woman when
00:21:54he was a child, so he has a backstory that explains his brutal predilections for violent
00:22:00sex.
00:22:03But Jason Baldoni played a character in a movie who was causelessly bad and the woman
00:22:13was a perfect, wonderful, eternal victim, so he ran into that trope, right?
00:22:23Abuse tends to be mutual in relationships, abuse tends to be mutual.
00:22:27Now one may be physical, one may be verbal, but abuse levels tend to be mutual in relationships
00:22:32like like attracts like.
00:22:40And women will sometimes, and men, will sometimes put up with abuse for status, right?
00:22:46So this is the hot girl, hot guy phenomenon, and Justin Baldoni is a very good looking
00:22:53guy, great physique, and talented of course, but the guy who wants the hot girlfriend will
00:23:02sometimes put up with her abuse because he gets high status for having such an attractive
00:23:06girlfriend, right?
00:23:10And the woman, so Jason Baldoni is super good looking and a surgeon and wealthy, just crazy
00:23:19high status, right?
00:23:24I've been, God help me, I should not have gone in alone, I should not have gone in alone.
00:23:30I've been reading a couple of popular women's romance stories because I'm trying to figure
00:23:38out what is going on with women these days that they find the vast majority of men unattractive.
00:23:45Like I've been looking into this and trying to figure this out, like what is the equivalent
00:23:51of brain rot pornography for women these days, and it tends to be these sort of romance novels,
00:23:56and it's generally surly guys with great hair, sometimes with tattoos, great physiques, and
00:24:07mysteriously single and super empathetic, yet at the same time very dominant and masculine,
00:24:16and like in one of them, well it's always some mysterious money, right?
00:24:21So in one of the novels that I was reading the man had won the lottery, he'd won like
00:24:2512 million dollars in the lottery.
00:24:29In another one he had inherited his money, in another one he did, he was in his late
00:24:36twenties and he was the CEO of a startup that just had, the woman didn't even know
00:24:41what it did, but just mystery money from being a young guy.
00:24:48And it always is the case that the women are mid, no particular outstanding characteristics,
00:24:55and the reason why women write these mid characters is so that all women can project
00:24:58themselves into this woman, right?
00:25:02Because if the woman had some significant characteristic, then it would be tough for
00:25:08other women to put themselves in her shoes, so to speak, right?
00:25:12So there are all these neutral, mid, slightly neurotic women, and the men are always super
00:25:21attractive, super wealthy, and young, which is not a big combination, unless of course
00:25:26they come from a very wealthy family, but a very wealthy family will patrol their children
00:25:33to make sure they don't marry mids.
00:25:36So they have family money, but no family filtering, and they're super empathetic at times,
00:25:46which is very attractive, but most times they're just kind of dominant and often bad-tempered.
00:25:51And the other thing that they have is they have an absolute lack of understanding, these
00:25:58men, of how attractive they are.
00:26:00So they're always described the same way, which is, you know, other women are always
00:26:06throwing themselves at my fiancé, but he doesn't even notice.
00:26:14Absolute brain rot.
00:26:15It's a super stimuli, right?
00:26:20So one of the reasons why young men are more physically attractive than older men is because
00:26:23they're broke, and something needs to compensate for it, right?
00:26:27So yeah, this super stimuli, I want a man to be both dominant and aggressive and deeply
00:26:33emotionally empathetic as well.
00:26:35It's like, sorry, honey, you're going to have to pick a lane.
00:26:37I want him to be young and hot and have no idea how attractive he is.
00:26:41He's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
00:26:45no, no, no, that's not a thing.
00:26:46That's not a thing.
00:26:48I want him to only have eyes for me, and I also want him to not notice when other women
00:26:55find him attractive.
00:26:58It's just absolutely terrible.
00:27:04And so if you have this super stimuli—he's hot, he only has eyes for me, he's one guy
00:27:12in 10,000, I'm an absolute mid, but he only has eyes for me even though other women throw
00:27:19themselves at him all the time. He's young, he's super wealthy, and even though he has
00:27:27an incredibly demanding job, he has all the time in the world for me.
00:27:33So these men, they're all like CEOs. Of course, the writers, these few writers don't have any
00:27:38idea what a CEO does. They probably never met one, never interviewed one, never talked to the wife
00:27:42of a CEO, but CEOs are workaholics. That's how they become CEOs. Guys who are wealthy are
00:27:46workaholics. In general, that's how they become wealthy. And so never in these novels does the
00:27:54woman ever complain that the man is not available because he's working 12 hours a day or 14 hours a
00:28:00day, or he's traveling for business. He's always just around and available and taking her out for
00:28:05dinner, and he's the CEO of something, which is just a mystery portal through which money comes
00:28:10through like government laws. But he never really has to work, and she never complains about being
00:28:15lonely and isolated because he's working all the time. It is psychotic. It is such a level of
00:28:22unreality. It is such a level of unreality. So there was a movie, one of the Wayne's World movies,
00:28:31Danicavi plays Garth, who's kind of like a long-haired, socially awkward stoner weed guy.
00:28:38And this super hot woman gets interested in Garth, and he's like, really, how could this be
00:28:44happening? And then it turns out that she wants him to murder her husband or something like that.
00:28:50And that's the plot line. But if it was reversed for women, there would be no wanting to murder
00:28:56your husband. It would just be this guy who just, like the Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey is
00:29:03incredibly accomplished. He plays piano. He runs massive companies. He flies helicopters. He's just
00:29:09like massively, like one in a hundred million kind of guys, like a Tom Cruise level of
00:29:15competence and expertise, except taller. And this guy who is incredibly accomplished,
00:29:22incredibly wealthy, just sees this woman who comes to interview him, and then what,
00:29:28she works in a hardware store, and he's like, you're the one for me.
00:29:33I'm going to cast aside everything else, all the other women I could have.
00:29:36Just you. Just you. I'm obsessed. Right? That's insane.
00:29:45It's insane. Described Edward Cullen. Yeah, yeah. So this guy who's lived for a thousand years
00:29:54is really interested in a confused woman who would be a toddler relative to his age, right?
00:30:05I mean, for a thousand year vampire to be interested in a 17 year old girl is as close
00:30:10to pedophilia as you can imagine. I'm just obsessed with you. I've just become obsessed
00:30:19with you. Also, the man becomes obsessed with her, but never dangerous.
00:30:23Right. Always under control. Oh, it's mad. Absolutely mad. And this is such
00:30:31toxin for women because it raises levels of expectations beyond, and I don't even think
00:30:39this stuff is in particular accidental. It is a drug and a super stimuli for women that is so
00:30:46absolutely tragic because it just kills the birth rate. Because then a normal, ordinary guy
00:30:52is always seen as wildly deficient. Wait, you're not a super hot vampire who can run through trees
00:31:02and take on 10 wolves? Well, that's boring. Yeah. Good luck with all of that.
00:31:12It's like putting people on massive quantities of cocaine and then
00:31:18asking them to appreciate a slow moving nature documentary or a 16 hour German film called
00:31:27Berlin Alexanderplatz. What happened? It won't happen, man. So yeah,
00:31:34tuning women to these super stimuli, these impossible things that all come together, right?
00:31:41This would be like some fantasy that there's some guy living in his mother's basement and this
00:31:47super hot Victoria's Secrets bikini model becomes obsessed with him, wants to have sex with him all
00:31:53the time, comes with a lot of money, enjoys playing his video games, and is incredibly
00:31:57sensitive to his psychosocial needs. It teaches people that you don't have to make any compromises
00:32:09in attraction. You don't have to make any compromises in attraction. All commitment
00:32:15requires compromises because nobody is ever exactly what you want. And they shouldn't be
00:32:21because exactly what you want might not be what you actually need. Are there more attractive women
00:32:27in the world than my wife? There are. Are there more attractive men in the wife than her husband?
00:32:34There are. So yeah, it's really terrible.
00:32:42Do these romance novels push women to unhealthy levels of hypergamy?
00:32:50That's pretty funny. So the woman says, my husband is actually a super cool, strong,
00:32:54smart, ancient vampire stuff. I suppose I'm living in a fantasy. Well played. Well played.
00:32:59Reference to previous shows. Well played. Hypergamy. So yeah, for sure. One of the ways
00:33:08to destroy a culture is to teach women that they should never have to settle or compromise on
00:33:15anything. I've never dated a woman who's into romance novels, but I sure know a woman who
00:33:27was really into vampire romance novels who divorced her husband. I mean, that stuff is,
00:33:33it's an environmental toxin. It is a drug. It is a terrible, terrible drug. And it's worse in many
00:33:38ways than something like cocaine, because at least everybody knows that's a drug that you shouldn't
00:33:41take. But this romance shit? Oof. Oof. No good. It's a non-accidental toxin. It's a non-accidental
00:34:05toxin. This stuff all gets published. And of course, this is all, I mean, this has been going
00:34:12on for a long time, but it used to have more literary merit. So you know that the male fantasy
00:34:19is the hooker with a heart of gold. You know, this is the pretty woman, Julie Roberts, Richard
00:34:22Gere thing where this woman is a super attractive prostitute, fantastically good at sex, but
00:34:27secretly she has a warm heart and just would love you and wants to be a great, like that's the
00:34:32Madonna whore thing, right? So super hot, super sexy, fantastic in bed in terms of technical
00:34:40skill. And also, don't you know she's going to be a great wife and mother, right? That's,
00:34:47and always also, always in these romance novels, the woman is in a situation of danger and the
00:34:52man comes blazing in and saves her with physical violence, right? Doesn't that happen in Fifty
00:34:58Shades of Grey? Yeah, some creep is attacking the woman after she's at a bar and then
00:35:06Christian Grey comes in and beats the crap out of him.
00:35:12I think part of why women dress so provocatively is so that guys can come and rescue them,
00:35:17and that's quite sexy, I think, for them, which I think is messed up, man.
00:35:21It is of benefit, of course, to the very attractive men that these standards are there. It's just that
00:35:26the men then will get a lot of sex, but they won't get a lot of commitment, right? It happened in
00:35:31Shrek, the poor dragon. Yeah, that's right, that's right. Yeah, he saves her, right, from the dragon.
00:35:44I hear older, unhappy ladies and obese men
00:35:47I hear older, unhappy ladies and obese men
00:35:50telling the young women at work not to settle. I cringe when I hear it, yeah.
00:35:56Donkey. Yeah, Chris Farley was originally the voice of Shrek, and I think
00:36:05Mike Myers, yeah, I think Mike Myers recorded all of Shrek's dialogue and then realized it would
00:36:10be better with a Scottish accent and then demanded that everything be re-recorded,
00:36:14which I think was quite expensive, but probably a good choice.
00:36:26Yeah, there's a debate on Twitter because Andrew Wilson, who's the bearded
00:36:33smart cackle guy on the whatever podcast, you know, they'll ask women how they rate themselves,
00:36:37it's sort of the female delusion thing, right? And
00:36:45Brian rates himself as a four, I think Andrew rates himself as a four or a five,
00:36:52five on a good day, and he rates his wife as a six, and the women are horrified, right? They're
00:36:58horrified that he rates his wife as a six, and she replied on Twitter and said, well, that's
00:37:03actually kind of generous, I wouldn't rate myself a six, like in just in terms of physical looks,
00:37:07right? It's just in terms of physical looks. So why would a woman be horrified that a husband
00:37:17would rate his wife a six in terms of looks? Why would they be horrified?
00:37:26Well, the reason that they would be horrified is they need to have a man obsessed with their
00:37:33looks and calling them a 10 because they don't have virtue to bring to the table.
00:37:39They don't have qualities of friendship, of support, of motherhood, of curiosity,
00:37:43of honesty, of directness, of moral courage, right? So as you get older, I mean, looks fade,
00:37:50right? Of course, right? Looks fade, but virtue increases, right? Which is why you're supposed to
00:37:58find someone who's virtuous, and that's how you compensate for the loss of looks.
00:38:03Is you gain more admiration for the person's virtue as the virtue grows over time.
00:38:21Wait, you guys don't have Victoria's Secret models obsessing over you? It's wild.
00:38:28And the women never have to achieve anything in particular to have these
00:38:32supermen obsess over them.
00:38:41Steph, do you think this is linked to why swinging and couple sharing has gotten more mainstream?
00:38:49I've assumed that's both romance novels and pornography,
00:38:52which have similar negative effects on each gender.
00:38:56My grandma told me to go to college and get a career and not bother with marriage. She lived
00:39:01in a multi-million dollar house as a widow, never had to work in her life. Yeah. I mean,
00:39:08there's very little more toxic in the world than the advice to young women from older,
00:39:13dysfunctional women. What is the obsession with Andrew Tate?
00:39:19Well, Andrew Tate, whatever you think of him, Andrew Tate has shown significant levels of
00:39:24resilience with regards to the lawfare or the legal challenges against him. And he bluntly
00:39:31speaks his mind, which for a lot of young men in the West who've grown up in claustrophobic,
00:39:39female feelings of a reality culture, the idea that you can just directly speak your mind
00:39:45is fascinating to young men who have been silenced by endless bouts of female
00:39:55finger-wagging, Karen topic castration since they were very little.
00:40:01Now, if you suppress masculinity to the point where men are ridiculously punished for speaking
00:40:09their minds, then what happens is you will get a blowback that is as extreme, so to speak,
00:40:20as the repression. So, if you suppress masculinity to the point where men are
00:40:27ridiculously punished for speaking their minds, then what happens is you will get a blowback that
00:40:27is as extreme, so to speak, as the repression. So, young men are not allowed to speak their minds.
00:40:35They're not allowed to speak their minds in school. They have a great deal of difficulty
00:40:38speaking their minds online and so on, because the cancel culture is anti-masculine. It is saying
00:40:45that you will be severely punished for being honest about your thoughts and feelings.
00:40:50And then, of course, after punishing men for expressing their thoughts and feelings
00:40:55for years, women then claim that men are just emotionally distant and unavailable.
00:41:00Of course, it's like this obsession that some women have that if some guy approaches them
00:41:07and asks them for a date, that they will mock him online to prove how attractive they are.
00:41:13So, there was a woman, to me, it's totally suspicious, but there was a woman who posted on
00:41:22Twitter recently about a hackathon. And in the hackathon,
00:41:31let me see if I can find it, in the hackathon, there was one woman. And the woman, she says,
00:41:37the woman got a note from a guy. And the note from the guy read something like, I can't find
00:41:47it here exactly, but it said something like, I can't find it here exactly, but it said something
00:41:53like, I can't find it here exactly, but the note from the guy read, oh, here it is.
00:42:05My friend was the only girl at a hackathon and somebody gave her this note. And then there's
00:42:09a little skull emoji. And the note was, hey, I think you're really cute. And I love those two
00:42:14braids in the back of your hair. Let me take you out sometime. I'd love a lesson from you
00:42:20on how to hack, LOL. Text me. And that is, it's got what, 57 million views? 57 million views. Now,
00:42:32I don't know, can I post this in here? Let's find out if I need to save it or can I just
00:42:37post it? I don't think I can. No, it won't. But I can, I'll post, I'll post the link.
00:42:50All right. So you can, oh no, no, I can't, no point posting my bookmarks. So you can have a look
00:42:56at this and you can tell me what you think of this. And I'll tell you the reason why
00:43:05is that I don't think that this is real at all. I don't think that this is real, even a tiny bit.
00:43:15Let me just post it here. Of course, I spend my entire life logging in, but let me post it here
00:43:24and I'll tell you why I don't think it's real and you can tell me what you think if you think it is,
00:43:28in fact, real. All right, so here we go. My downloads.
00:43:36For the love of all that's holy, I asked to save it. Did it save it? It did not. Okay, let me just
00:43:43try that again. It did not save it. I'll give it a name so I don't upload my wedding photos,
00:43:50which I'm sure you guys would enjoy as well. But I'll tell you why I don't think it's real.
00:44:02So this is the note.
00:44:04Now, let me ask you this. Does this look like a man's handwriting or a girl's handwriting?
00:44:14Does this look like a man's handwriting? M for man's, G for girl's. Does it sound like anything
00:44:23a man would say in any way, shape? I love those two braids in the back of your hair.
00:44:29Does that seem like, yeah, it looks like pretty women writing. Yeah, for sure. It's girly writing.
00:44:38It's girly writing. No, no hate on girly writing, but that's what it is.
00:44:43Here's another thing. Do you notice something about the nail color and the note color?
00:44:53The nail color and the note color. The nail color and the note color.
00:45:07The nail color and the note color are identical. Now, it is a subtle thing about accessorizing
00:45:15that sometimes women will choose, not proof, right? Not proof. But
00:45:25sometimes women will buy paper that matches their nails.
00:45:34That's probably not a complete accident. I mean, they're exactly the same color.
00:45:40Exactly the same color. Yeah, what dude has pink sticky notes? Right. I mean,
00:45:49I don't think men buy sticky notes at all, but if they do, they're probably not pink.
00:45:55So, it's girly writing. It knows the technical name for the braids and it's got false humility
00:46:05and it's got an LOL and it's a pink note that exactly matches the girl's name.
00:46:12Nail color, I call bullshit. I just don't think this is a real note at all.
00:46:21I just don't think this is real at all. Dude has pink sticky notes if he hastily grabbed the value
00:46:27pack. No, I get that. Yeah, you get the yellow and blue and right. I get all of that for sure.
00:46:32For sure. But even having sticky notes is girly. Men, we write in the margins. Men write in the
00:46:39margins. It's girls who have sticky notes. Sticky notes, right? Or of course, if you're a man,
00:46:47you don't even write in the margins. You just use your Kindle to take notes directly because then
00:46:52you can get them all later, right? Like when I'm doing book reviews or when I did book reviews,
00:46:57I used Kindle because you can get all of your notes organized later.
00:47:06Men have giant brains that can just hold notes. Yeah, yeah.
00:47:09Why would they lie about getting a fake note? Status display?
00:47:15So I can't say I know exactly for sure. There's probably a whole bunch of things,
00:47:22but you see a lot of this, right?
00:47:30So it is very interesting to see all of this, right?
00:47:39There is quite a lot. And you see this, of course, you know, a guy comes and talks to a
00:47:43girl at the gym and she films it and puts him on blast on social media. I don't know
00:47:52but I think what's happened to the female brain through feminism, I think what's happened to the
00:47:59female brain is loyalty in females have been turned towards other females and not towards males.
00:48:09So, women have changed their loyalties from men to other women. And this has, of course,
00:48:24massive consequences on just about every conceivable level. And one of the main reasons
00:48:30why the media wants women to have loyalties to other women rather than to men is it feels
00:48:38it fuels useless consumption, right? There's a note that's been around for quite a long time,
00:48:46which is a woman complaining and saying, you know, male privileges being able to wear the same
00:48:54outfit countless times, even though a woman can't wear a dress twice in a row,
00:49:01no matter how cute it is, right? And a man replying saying, there's not one man alive
00:49:06that cares if you wear the same cute dress twice in a row. That's all women. That's all women,
00:49:10all the women. It's all the women. I mean, if you look at a mall at all of the little frou-frou stuff
00:49:24that is like 80% of what the mall is, right? Like all the little jewelry stores and handbag stores
00:49:30and shoe stores and like this, it's not for men. It's not for men.
00:49:36The only store that's in the mall for men is Victoria's Secret so we can chew through the
00:49:39lingerie. So yeah, I mean, it's not for men because men don't care, right? We don't care.
00:49:50And we don't want money spent on that crap, right? Giving women, quote, their own money
00:49:57removes the traditional restraint upon female spending that is men's feedback, right?
00:50:12So getting women to align with other women increases bullying,
00:50:17increases conspicuous and useless consumption and puts no brake upon female vanity.
00:50:27Thank you, David. I appreciate that.
00:50:32And it's very bad for society when women only listen to women, just as it's bad for society
00:50:40if men only listen to men. Men and women have a lot to teach each other. We compliment each
00:50:46other very well. But if men have no authority and women have no authority, but men only listen
00:50:51to men and women only listen to women, we lose our reason. We lose our balance. We lose our yin
00:50:56and yang, right? So for a woman, she's signaling status to other women. She's not signaling status
00:51:08to men because if a man is put on blast for writing a note to a woman, if a man is put on
00:51:15blast and humiliated for having a polite, reasonable approach to a woman, that's not
00:51:24going to help the woman with men as a whole, right? Because if a man feels like he's going to
00:51:30be blasted and humiliated for approaching a woman, he's not going to approach a woman. So it's not
00:51:35because she wants to raise her status with men. It's because she wants to raise her status with
00:51:43women by saying, I'm just so hot that men just keep coming on to me and I just, I'm so tired of
00:51:50it. It's, I'm just so tired of all these men swarming me and blah, blah, blah. And it's like,
00:51:54okay, well, you know, if you're tired of men swarming you because you're so attractive,
00:51:58this is a pretty good solution for that, which is pick one.
00:52:04Pick one, pick a man, settle down and it'll, it'll stop. It really will. It'll, it'll just go,
00:52:09you settle down, have kids and you, you will be amazed. You will be amazed at how much time on
00:52:16your hands you'll have because men won't be hitting on you like a Roger Taylor on a drum set.
00:52:27It'll be a true Christmas miracle.
00:52:32Just pick one, pick a man, which is really the purpose of men being attracted to you
00:52:37is so you can pick a man, settle down, have kids. It's very sad.
00:52:47So for a woman, she can get a lot of status from other women by complaining about how men just
00:52:52keep, men just keep coming on to me. Men just keep wanting to date me. Men just are endlessly
00:52:57attracted to me. It's, it's, it's negative towards men, which is why it's so distractive,
00:53:02but you will get some envy from other women or it will raise your status with other women.
00:53:10Complaining about men alienates men. It's like, okay, well, you know,
00:53:14other women complaining about men alienates men, but raises your status with dysfunctional women.
00:53:22Now, to be fair,
00:53:27some women,
00:53:33some women will push back on this and some women have pushed back on this, right?
00:53:38And some women are like, stop doing this. Men are just doing their best. They're men,
00:53:42because women will complain that men don't approach them,
00:53:44and then they will support this kind of blasting men who approach them, right?
00:53:53All right.
00:53:56My mom spent $27,000 to redo a bathroom that nobody gets to use, but guests love it.
00:54:02$27,000 to redo a bathroom that nobody gets to use, but guests.
00:54:14Every now and then, my wife will say, we need to redo this kitchen.
00:54:18I'll be like, does it cook food?
00:54:24You know, it's just a thing. Well, on the same time though, maybe I have an unfinished basement
00:54:30and maybe I'm like, hey, it'd be nice to finish the basement. And then my daughter says, absolutely
00:54:34not. We have so many great memories down there. Not changing it. I understand. So, you just need
00:54:39people to talk you out of wasting money, right? This backsplash needs to go. It's like, we have
00:54:46a backsplash? You don't need another new microphone, but I like them. I could get a 1% better
00:54:56quality of audio. I mean, every now and then I'm like, I should build a studio.
00:55:05Because, you know, I just basically philosophize in front of a sheet.
00:55:14Do I need a studio? Would it improve the quality of the philosophy that I do? I don't think so.
00:55:20You know what women like? A dozen roses. You know what men like? 40 bucks.
00:55:33Somebody says, it seems to me like most men act more feminine, especially under age 40,
00:55:37over-pronouncing their S's like a girl when the talk is something I notice a lot.
00:55:43Well, because women have become female-oriented, men think that they've become more attractive
00:55:48to women by appearing more feminine, and it's really not the case. It's really not the case.
00:55:58All right.
00:56:02Well, and of course, there are people, and I've done a show on this many years ago,
00:56:05who trace the rise in national debts and unfunded liabilities to votes for women, right?
00:56:10There's a polarizer thing that marriage is just you talking your partner out of their crazy tree,
00:56:21and then them talking you out of your crazy tree, and spending is kind of like that. If you're
00:56:28alone, then it's easier to spend, but if you have to run your spending decisions past a sane and
00:56:34rational partner, then women can help restrain men's useless spending, and men can help restrain
00:56:41women's useless spending, so when you separate the sexes, men spend too much on computer stuff,
00:56:47and women spend too much on frou-frou, like adornment frou-frou.
00:56:52Living in a city causes bias towards the total of feminized men. Sorry,
00:57:01that feels like an incomplete thought. I refuse to believe women don't like being hit on.
00:57:06Well, but it is a flex to say, I get hit on all the time. It's exhausting, right?
00:57:13That is just a way of signaling how attractive you are. It's a status thing to do, right?
00:57:22Oh, right. Today, even those espousing family and simpler life still say,
00:57:30you have to get your bag first. What does that mean, handbag? I don't know what that means.
00:57:38Steph gave his spiciest takes in the basement.
00:57:42Will new studio improve donations? Um, I don't think it would.
00:57:47I mean, hit me with a why if you'd like me to spend money on a studio.
00:57:53Hit me with a why if you would like me to spend money on a studio.
00:57:59You are donors, for the most part, most of you, and you are listeners, so
00:58:02your opinion matters to me a lot.
00:58:11It was a red studio. It might, if it was red, yeah, this back in the day, right?
00:58:16Yeah. Well, I mean, you can watch the very politically incorrect show, Landman,
00:58:23to see the extremes of masculinity and femininity and how they collide.
00:58:32Yeah, philosophers wearing sheets. Yeah, it's not a toga. It's in the back, right?
00:58:36Yeah, that's a hard no on everyone, right? Don't see the point, not much. What would it change?
00:58:41Probably better things for you to spend your money on. No, it wouldn't help me at all.
00:58:45It wouldn't help me at all. In fact, it would be a negative thing for me.
00:58:49It'd be a negative thing for me.
00:58:53I mean, I don't know that I would be better at doing philosophy with a backdrop.
00:59:00Would you hang weapons on the wall, like Beanie Man? Oh, hat fishing tin pool? Yeah.
00:59:15All right. So yes, I think we've got a hard no on that, right? And of course, if I were to say to
00:59:25my wife, oh, well, I'm going to spend this money on a studio, she'd say, why? It's a fair question,
00:59:28right? Fair question. Totally fair question. Hang up some swords. Over the hills with the
00:59:38swords of a thousand men. That was a song I listened to as a teenager, and then it kind of
00:59:44popped back into my brain. I don't even remember why. Somewhere in summertime.
01:00:01All right.
01:00:08Let me see if there's any other questions, comments, issues, or challenges. Somebody wrote,
01:00:12uh, I'll be honest with you all. One of the worst things I did for my mental health was
01:00:16getting a better understanding of how politics works. I think that's a very fair point. This,
01:00:22I don't know if it's true or not, but somebody wrote, I'm a 25 year old male. My wife is 29
01:00:28year old female, aborted our baby over astrology. I've got an abortion because the child would have
01:00:32been a Sagittarius. I'm upset because we've been trying for a child. My wife and I have been
01:00:36married for about three years and we were blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Honestly, that's wild.
01:00:45That's absolutely wild that that could even happen.
01:00:55Ah, yes. The occasional burst of minor sanity from Bill Maher that then gets broadcasted like
01:01:03crazy from every conservative known to man. Oh, a scrap of sanity. I'm going to make it my
01:01:08zillion dollars. All right. Let me just check here if questions, comments, issues, challenges,
01:01:17or problems. Steph, do you think it might be accurate to say that women have a harder time
01:01:25with honesty than men do? I think men and women have a tendency to lie about different things
01:01:31as a whole. Men will lie about status and women will lie about status, but in a different kind of
01:01:36way. So a woman will lie about status by complaining about men hitting on her all the time.
01:01:47Men will lie about status in terms of income and prestige.
01:01:52Although that's changing now. Women have all of these fake titles from HR about how important they
01:01:56are. But in general, again, you don't know who you are until you exercise, until you work out.
01:02:08You don't know who you are, really, until you work out because you don't know if you're just
01:02:11reacting to weakness in a world full of threats, right? Do you have any thoughts about tomorrow,
01:02:17Steph? Tomorrow never comes. You mean the inauguration?
01:02:27Oh, not particularly. I don't think I have any particular thoughts about tomorrow.
01:02:33What do you guys think? I mean, I'm sure that there are deep movements afoot to
01:02:39castrate Trump's second term in the way that
01:02:46they castrated his first term or tried to, or effectively did in many ways.
01:02:51And I hope Trump's learned some of his lessons from the first time and I hope he overcomes his
01:02:55tendency to hire poorly. Well, it's also tough to hire in the public square. It's tough to hire in
01:03:02the public square because the tendency to use some standard other than a sort of pure, raw
01:03:09meritocracy. Because, you know, everyone looks at your hiring decisions and compares it to
01:03:14demographics and says, unjust if they don't exactly match demographics or have an excess
01:03:18of quote, underrepresented demographics. So hiring in the public square is really tough
01:03:24because you're just going to get nagged into oblivion if you have a pure meritocracy probably
01:03:29I mean, a pure meritocracy cannot match demographics exactly. It just can't for
01:03:34reasons we've talked about for years. So you get a meritocracy or you get demographic copy paste.
01:03:44Can you really see the rings of Saturn with a telescope? Yes. Yes, it's how you know that
01:03:50Saturn's had multiple marriages. It's Martin Luther's day tomorrow. You mean the original
01:03:57or the king? You should watch my presentation on Martin Luther King. It's really good.
01:04:07Rare planet alignments going on in 2025. Yeah, the planets are aligning up, right? Planets are
01:04:11going to align. All right, let's see if I had anything else of juicy note to mention. Otherwise,
01:04:25I should just keep doing the show because otherwise I have a lot of paperwork to do and
01:04:31paperwork is absolutely deadly to the soul. The amount of paperwork in the modern world
01:04:41is absolutely brutal. Paperwork has just become this massive humiliation ritual.
01:04:50It's just horrible.
01:04:55Oh, yeah, I was going to talk about the Baldoni thing. I think what happened was because, sorry,
01:05:00I'd never finished this thought. Because Justin Baldoni did a movie that was so gynocentric,
01:05:05I think that people thought that he was going to be an easy mark for me too and the fact that he's
01:05:09fighting back so hard is interesting to me. So if you do stuff massively gynocentric, then you can
01:05:15end up being targeted in female ways, right? Because you're kind of cucking, but it's time
01:05:24for a secretary of too much paperwork. Well, some paperwork you got to do yourself, right?
01:05:30Yeah, the show is 3560, The Truth About Martin Luther King.
01:05:34The Truth About Martin Luther King Jr.'s I Have a Dream Speech.
01:05:41Not the OG Martin, the Martin Luther King. Okay, yeah, I assume so. It's tomorrow, right?
01:05:45It'd be pretty tough to celebrate OG Martin Luther in America these days. Pretty tough.
01:05:53All right. Well, listen, I appreciate you guys dropping by today,
01:05:57freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show. I really, really would appreciate it.
01:06:00It's a real joy and a pleasure to do these shows with you. I really do appreciate all of that.
01:06:06What society from the past most closely resembled a truly free society? There's
01:06:10nothing closer than the present because of the free flow of information at the moment.
01:06:14Any literature suggestions? So I'm reading the guy who wrote Eugene Onegin. I'm reading his
01:06:20short stories at the moment. Alexander, I can't remember, but that's what I'm reading at the
01:06:26moment. I'm also going through Kash Patel's book, which is interesting. Any predictions for what
01:06:31will happen in effect of a Trump term? Well, I mean, there'll be massive amounts of social
01:06:35conflict because Trump is going to take away people's virtue signaling. He's going to take
01:06:41away their dopamine because Trump's going to actually try and do some real good rather than
01:06:44just have people feel good about things. So there's going to be a lot of mental health crises
01:06:56because Trump's going to do things that nobody wants to do that is going to make the country
01:07:00better. And so people are going to end up confronting the fact that they did not want
01:07:04the country to get better. They just wanted to feel better. And that's going to cause
01:07:08significant mental health crises for people as they realize that they've sacrificed other
01:07:13people's happiness and success for the sake of feeling good about themselves. In other words,
01:07:17Trump is going to expose people's narcissism. And when you expose narcissists, they get extremely
01:07:22volatile. So be very, very careful out there over the next couple of years in America and maybe
01:07:26other places as well. It's like the Javier Mele thing, like in Argentina. He has improved the
01:07:32economy. They've got a trade surplus. They're tackling the debt. And so that is very tough
01:07:37for people. That is very, very tough for people. When you start to get a hint that you haven't been
01:07:43interested in doing good, but only feeling good at the expense of other people's success and
01:07:49happiness, that is going to be very destabilizing for people. And they're going to go a little
01:07:58crazy. A lot of people are going to go pretty crazy when sanity comes to a society, or at least
01:08:05when an alternative approach to virtue signaling comes to a society, people will get very, very
01:08:12destabilized. And we all know this from, if we've talked to dysfunctional family members or friends,
01:08:17we've talked to them about what it means to be virtuous, truly virtuous, then it's brutal.
01:08:25It's brutal what happens in terms of destabilization. He's obviously coming in with
01:08:29renewed purpose and so on. If you have one more moment, Steph, could you answer someone else's
01:08:38question about how not to scare potential mates away if you have a bad past as a woman?
01:08:42Well, you have to admit your bad past and say to everyone what you've done to deal with it.
01:08:51I mean, we've all done wrong things in the past. So what you do is you say,
01:08:55I did bad things in the past and I realized that it was because I had bad people around me. I took
01:09:00bad advice. I made bad decisions. So I got rid of the bad people and I've learned how to make better
01:09:05decisions through this or this or this metric. It's sort of like if you're an entrepreneur and
01:09:11you haven't failed, if you've been an entrepreneur for a while and you haven't failed, that's not
01:09:16good. It means you haven't learned those lessons. If you go in to investors as an entrepreneur and
01:09:23they say, well, what happened with your last business? You say, well, it failed. They say,
01:09:25why did it fail? Well, because I forgot that cashflow was a king. I didn't secure bridge
01:09:30financing and I tended to hire people I liked who were friends of mine rather than the very
01:09:34best people for the job. Man, if I ever learned my lessons, I will never do any of that again.
01:09:39Not only will they not hold it against you, but they might actually view it as a plus
01:09:42that you've suffered for your bad decisions and therefore you've made a strong commitment to make
01:09:46better decisions. So having a bad past is not the end of the world at all. In fact, it can be a plus
01:09:52if you've learned your lessons and done the hard work to not have it happen again.
01:09:58All right. Have a glorious, glorious afternoon. Lots of love from up here.
01:10:02Take care, my friends. Oh, do you think it's important to ask a potential partner body count
01:10:06and IQ? Well, I mean, STDs are a thing. I don't know if you want to say body count,
01:10:14but I think you certainly do want to inquire about past relationships. IQ, I mean, I wouldn't
01:10:20necessarily, I mean, not many people know their IQ, but you would just look for markers of
01:10:23intelligence and all of that. So have a beautiful afternoon. Lots of love from up here, my friends.
01:10:27I'll talk to you soon.