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00:00Bismillah-ir-Rahman-ir-Rahim, Assalam-o-Alaikum, I welcome you to the program Qayyum Faqeer.
00:19We have with us, as always, Shri Sarfaraz Ahmed Shah Sahib, a renowned spiritual scholar.
00:25The format of our program is that we put your questions in front of him and answer them.
00:32We request you to keep sending us your questions.
00:35We also keep selecting topics.
00:38Your guidance is our routine.
00:41Suggest us your topic and we will, Inshallah, give you answers that will prove to be helpful in determining the best path for your life.
00:53So, Mr. Shah, with your permission, let's start.
00:56Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:58Mr. Shah, let's start with a report.
01:01Someone has sent us a report saying that there are more than 35 million women in the country who are waiting to get married.
01:11So, how does this indicate that the society has deteriorated, women have become more educated, or what has happened, and what is the solution?
01:23Bismillah-ir-Rahman-ir-Rahim.
01:26Unfortunately, this situation is present in the country.
01:32There can be multiple reasons for this.
01:38But the root cause, the major problem, is that the definition of a good relationship has changed with time in our society.
01:58There was a time when a good relationship was called a good relationship.
02:01Whether the boy is educated, capable of earning, and has a good family background.
02:06This is the most important thing.
02:08A person should have a good family background.
02:13This was the standard.
02:16Family background was at the top.
02:20Now, where a lot of things have changed with time,
02:25there has been a change in our society.
02:28When we look for a good relationship,
02:31to start with, when the girl is not educated,
02:39when she starts getting proposals,
02:41we start rejecting the proposals in the hope of a good relationship.
02:53There are many reasons for rejection.
02:56For example, their social status is not as good as ours.
03:02Or, they don't eat and drink as much as we think they should.
03:13The boy is not eligible for a big position.
03:18It is better to look for a good relationship and wait for it.
03:31Time goes by like this.
03:36There comes a time when the number of proposals decreases.
03:43Because of this situation, our social status is not good.
03:49The girls keep sitting because they don't have dowry.
03:53Another factor is that you said that girls are more educated than boys.
04:02It is natural that the boy should be more educated than the girl.
04:10In search of that, time goes by.
04:14And then we start compromising.
04:21You can compromise on this factor or that factor.
04:26So, once again, let's go back to where we left off.
04:33Priority number one is that the boy should be well-educated.
04:44Second is that he should be educated.
04:47Third is that he should be able to bear the burden of his father and family.
04:55If we look at the relations in this priority order,
05:02then maybe this number will not be as low as it is today.
05:11But for this, we will have to train our minds a little.
05:15So that we can limit ourselves to that.
05:19Mr. Shastri, in this report, there is a large number of women
05:28who are weak in terms of health.
05:32In our system, the child is given the best food.
05:39And women are not given that kind of food.
05:43Their nutrition is low.
05:45On the basis of which, they say that they want to become mothers in the future.
05:49And they remain weak.
05:51And their children are even weaker.
05:54What should be done to this system?
05:57What should be done to such parents who have a difference between a male child and a female child?
06:04Mr. Rao, maybe it will be unjust if all the blame is shifted to this one factor.
06:13Whatever time has passed, education has become common.
06:20And the effects of the Hindu society are decreasing.
06:26This difference is ending.
06:29Now, another thing has replaced this.
06:33That our girls want to remain strict and thin.
06:39The easiest way for that is to eat less.
06:43Although, there is no harm in that.
06:48When you are in your growing age,
06:55where you are growing,
06:58you cut yourself.
07:01The human body has a requirement according to its height and size.
07:09We cannot fix the man-to-man variation.
07:13When we feed our body less than its requirement,
07:21it eats up its own reserves.
07:25And when those reserves are depleted, then problems arise.
07:30And those problems are such that they cannot be solved.
07:34Generally, when girls get married, they suffer a lot.
07:43When it comes to the stage of becoming a mother, they suffer a lot.
07:50First of all, there are a lot of complications in their birth.
07:57Babies are born pre-tiny.
08:03The mother has to work very hard to give birth to a baby.
08:08And the baby is brought to normal size.
08:12We should remain smart.
08:15But there are many other ways to remain smart.
08:19We should feed our body and nourish it.
08:26But we have to burn our calories.
08:30The situation has changed in our society.
08:36Even after the end of our student life,
08:43in our society,
08:47a part-time servant used to come to do the household chores.
08:57He used to only help in some things.
09:00Otherwise, he used to do all the household chores himself.
09:05As our lifestyle changed,
09:09a part-time servant used to come to do the household chores.
09:14As a result, we had to get up and drink water.
09:19That also ended.
09:22We called for a servant to bring water.
09:26Our movement was completely cut off.
09:30It was completely cut off.
09:33Obviously, we gained weight because of that.
09:35The easiest way to get rid of weight gain is to start dieting.
09:42Instead of dieting, there is a new word, controlled diet.
09:47However, God has already arranged for our controlled diet.
09:53By making things halal and haram.
09:57There is a question that
10:00the delay in the marriage of women,
10:03isn't it because the media, especially our dramas,
10:09have made their dreams very big.
10:12And because of those big dreams,
10:15they have gone into a world where they are looking for ideals.
10:20And they don't get those ideals.
10:22So how do you see the role of the media?
10:25The intention of the media is not involved in this.
10:29The intention of the media is to give projections
10:33so that people are trained in this direction.
10:38I may not be able to say that there is any intention involved in this.
10:45The dramas have been made to destroy our entertainment.
10:50And the social message is conveyed during the entertainment.
10:58But sometimes it happens that
11:02our mind is not aware of all those aspects
11:06which will result in bad results.
11:09In the drama, we show a very posh life.
11:17We show a very luxurious life.
11:22Its purpose is to make the drama interesting.
11:28Nobody wants the message to go to the public.
11:33But somehow or the other,
11:35these dramas are such a strong media
11:40that it has a deep impact on the human mind.
11:45So there, it has definitely happened that
11:49we are looking for that life which is rare in real life.
11:54As a result, we have bad results.
11:59But we should not directly blame the drama.
12:05Whatever drama is made,
12:08its producer, its director,
12:11the intention is to provide entertainment to the public.
12:16Sometimes,
12:19the message is conveyed in a way that should not be conveyed.
12:24It is very strange that
12:27if a reality-based drama is made,
12:30it does not work.
12:32And if a dream is shown,
12:35people criticize that
12:38the dream is so small that people have lost their minds.
12:41Talk about social media.
12:44Social media is said to be very responsible.
12:46It is said that it has ruined the minds of young people.
12:52You must have learned to ride a bicycle when you were a child.
12:57Think about your childhood.
13:00Yes.
13:02You must have ridden a bicycle very fast when you were young.
13:06And wherever you could walk comfortably,
13:10you would also ride a bicycle.
13:11Yes.
13:13In fact, I say on a lighter note that
13:16when a child learns to ride a bicycle,
13:19even we were in the same situation.
13:22So, the heart wants to ride a bicycle in the bathroom.
13:26Similarly, when you learned to drive a car,
13:29you must have driven very fast.
13:31Everyone does.
13:33We have also been doing it.
13:35Whenever we come across something new,
13:38let the child play with it.
13:40He will get absorbed in it day and night.
13:43But over time, he will get used to it.
13:46So, social media has come into our lives.
13:51It is not what it was two years ago.
13:56I can give you another example from today.
14:01When our talk shows started,
14:04we used to argue with each other.
14:10Sometimes, we used to argue verbally as well.
14:16But the same participants,
14:20the same discussion,
14:22but now that argument is no longer there.
14:24It has settled down gradually.
14:26I hope that instead of saying bad things about social media,
14:30we should give it time to settle down.
14:34There is a difference now.
14:36I have seen the social media over the last two years.
14:40There has been a lot of change.
14:43And it is gradually coming.
14:45You said that the Punjab government
14:49is looking at the situation of education.
14:51In fact, the Prime Minister has announced
14:53that there will be an educational emergency.
14:56On the one hand, that is the situation.
14:57On the other hand, a report states
15:01that more than 2.5 crore children are out of schools.
15:05And a large number of them
15:09are not mentally able to understand things.
15:13They say that they do not know how to read basic ABCs.
15:16They do not know how to make basic sentences.
15:19So, what should be done about this?
15:21I mean, how should this be done?
15:23Our Prophet said that we should gain knowledge.
15:29Even if we have to go to China.
15:31And then how important it is for us to gain knowledge
15:34from the mother's womb to the womb.
15:38But we are moving very far.
15:41And our governments are also involved in this.
15:44You must have seen in many homes
15:46that we have kept a parrot.
15:49And especially that parrot
15:51which has a red band around its neck.
15:56It talks.
16:00And we are all happy to see it talking.
16:05But we never thought that the parrot
16:08which is talking,
16:10it is not applying its mind.
16:12It is talking in a reddish tone.
16:14I think I am right.
16:18Our educational system
16:23must have an emergency.
16:27I have no objection to that.
16:30But this emergency
16:34should have a motive.
16:38And that motive is
16:41that we develop an awareness within us
16:44that the education
16:47which will be given
16:50in schools, colleges and universities.
16:54What will be its fundamental purpose?
16:59Knowledge, education
17:03should be given
17:05to awaken the human mind.
17:10Knowledge should awaken our mind.
17:15When the mind awakens,
17:18we learn to apply the mind.
17:22Now the situation is that
17:24whatever we are teaching
17:26we are moving it like a parrot.
17:29We are not teaching it.
17:33The direction of that
17:36we have directed it towards one objective
17:40to get a degree.
17:43And the objective of getting a degree is
17:47to get a job.
17:50A better life is not our objective
17:54in today's education.
17:57So if you implement the emergency,
18:01may Allah make it so that
18:0450% of our children start going to school
18:08who do not go to school now.
18:10But what will happen?
18:13We
18:18for new discoveries,
18:21to create facilities in our lives,
18:24for luxuries,
18:27why are we looking towards Europe and America?
18:31Why don't we get those discoveries?
18:35Because our education is not directing there.
18:40And then
18:42all over the world
18:45my own colleagues,
18:47they have also become very old,
18:49retired,
18:51the jobs they used to do
18:53in Europe,
18:56their work culture is altogether different.
19:00Their approach is completely different from ours.
19:05That is why we are not able to settle here.
19:08So definitely implement the education emergency.
19:12Create schools.
19:14When you and I were students,
19:19in every neighborhood,
19:22there used to be a corporation run school
19:25which was absolutely free.
19:28You used to study in class 5 there.
19:32In those 5 years,
19:33in those 5 years,
19:35you did not have to pay a single penny for any work.
19:41We used to sit on the tarp and study there.
19:45Actually,
19:47those schools have disappeared.
19:50Now they do not exist anywhere.
19:52If there is one or two, I cannot say.
19:54But generally they are not visible.
19:57Reactivate them.
20:03At least 50% of these 2.5 crore children will start going to school.
20:09They will not have to spend a lot to reactivate them.
20:13By establishing new schools,
20:15at one-fourth expense,
20:17all the schools will be activated.
20:21Take advantage of that.
20:23Similarly, our basic health facilities,
20:27in every neighborhood,
20:29I am talking about my childhood,
20:33there used to be a maternity center.
20:37Reactivate it and convert it into a basic health facility.
20:45Headache,
20:47cold,
20:49back pain,
20:51all these things will be treated there.
20:55Health facilities will be available to people.
20:59The old things that we have dormant,
21:03should be activated again.
21:08At one-fourth expense,
21:10all these things will be created.
21:13They have given an example of Jamia Naimia,
21:16that they have modernized it.
21:18Computer education,
21:20modern education.
21:22If this is used, it will be beneficial.
21:25Jamia Naimia,
21:26Mr. Raghav has done his Ph.D.
21:29He has also become the chairman of the Islamic Medical Council.
21:33He has done his doctorate.
21:36His wife is also doing her doctorate.
21:39Her other daughter is also studying.
21:41This modern concept was introduced there,
21:45because Mr. Raghav himself was very passionate about education.
21:50This madrasa is doing a great job.
21:54A great job.
21:57If we look at it carefully,
22:00it seems unbelievable.
22:03That this madrasa is doing such a great job.
22:07But the point is,
22:09that there should be someone to give them guidelines.
22:13There should be someone to move them in the right direction.
22:17Their syllabus,
22:18along with Dars-e-Nazami,
22:21should be introduced as a modern education syllabus.
22:26The child who leaves from there,
22:29will be very educated in both ways.
22:33He has a worldly education,
22:36and he also has a religious education.
22:39The government should patronize them.
22:43I am saying patronize, not nationalize.
22:45They should be patronized.
22:48They should be looked after.
22:51They should be helped and guided,
22:54so that they can walk on a special path.
22:58So that their role,
23:01which is already a very big role in the society,
23:05becomes even more productive.
23:08The system of the family,
23:10the system of the family,
23:13has been shaken up,
23:16in this current era.
23:19And in that,
23:21is there a lot of economic pressure,
23:24or have the desires increased a lot?
23:27What has happened?
23:29Have we become weak,
23:31or have we completely destroyed the entire system?
23:34Look,
23:35the system,
23:39if we say that things have not changed,
23:42then it will become very unnatural.
23:46There is no stability in anything.
23:49Everything changes, moves.
23:52We also had a joint family system,
23:55a very well-knit joint family system.
23:58And it was spread to distant relatives.
24:02In one house,
24:03you will find your uncle living there,
24:06your aunts living there,
24:09your family living there,
24:11your children, your own children.
24:13A time has passed on us.
24:16But then,
24:18with time,
24:20there was a change,
24:22the immediate family started living together.
24:25The education that we are getting,
24:28the children are getting a lot of foreign world exposure.
24:31Alhamdulillah,
24:33among the children who are getting education,
24:36you will see a large number of them going to Europe and America to study.
24:43We will be associated with them.
24:46So, in our country,
24:48that change is coming gradually.
24:51Even if we live apart,
24:54we will still be helpful to each other.
24:57We will still be helpful to each other.
25:02So, there is no harm in it.
25:05But we will still be helpful to each other.
25:11Once, there was a girl
25:14who had a connection
25:21with another sect.
25:24She was watching me closely.
25:29She said to me,
25:31Mr. Shah, I don't understand one thing.
25:34You are a man.
25:37You came from Kenya.
25:40You were born and raised there.
25:42You were of Indian origin.
25:46You are an Indian Pakistani man.
25:52Why don't you think about these little things?
25:56If a man falls ill,
25:58send him a Get Well Soon card.
26:03Send someone a Mother's Day card.
26:10Send someone a Father's Day card.
26:12Why don't you think about these things?
26:15I said to her,
26:17your observation is very correct.
26:20We really don't do this.
26:24You have a lot of pride in this.
26:28It should be appreciated.
26:31But if you don't mind,
26:34can I ask you a counter question?
26:37I said, yes, go ahead.
26:40I said to her,
26:43your brother, your sister,
26:47they are working in a bank.
26:51They have been accused of embezzlement.
26:56The bank is giving the option to the police
27:01to either return the money you have left and right,
27:08or we will give the case to the police.
27:11You will send a card to your brother and sister,
27:17saying, I heard this and I am so sorry.
27:20And that's the end of it.
27:23You will leave your brother and sister.
27:26They have committed a crime.
27:29He must pay for that.
27:33I heard today that my brother
27:36was accused of embezzlement.
27:39I will sell my house to him.
27:43I will sell my house and
27:46I will give him the money from the bank
27:48so that he doesn't file a case against him.
27:50My brother is in the hospital
27:54because of this.
27:56I will spend all my savings on him.
27:59Tell me, is it better to send a card
28:03or this attitude?
28:06I said, this is better.
28:09He said, no, this is better.
28:13We have come from a place
28:16where we sympathize with our brothers and sisters.
28:20And we sacrifice everything for our brothers and sisters.
28:27But gradually,
28:31we are being influenced by the world
28:34that these changes are necessary.
28:41These changes are coming.
28:44We should pray to God
28:47even if we don't live in a joint family.
28:50But we should sympathize with each other.
28:56These changes are natural.
28:59We cannot stop them.
29:01Okay.
29:03We were talking about education.
29:06Do you think that
29:10in the olden days,
29:13there was a metric pass or FA pass?
29:16B.A. was often written outside the board.
29:20And they were very intelligent.
29:23Was there a difference
29:27in education
29:28in the olden days?
29:31Even MA pass was not as intelligent
29:35as it was in those days.
29:38What was the difference?
29:41We had very little education.
29:45When Pakistan came into existence,
29:50the figure of 1948 was 6%.
29:54Education was 6% among Muslims.
29:59B.A. was a matter of great pride.
30:05People used to write B.A. with great pride.
30:10By the grace of God,
30:13education started increasing.
30:19As I was saying earlier,
30:22the direction of education
30:27at that time was
30:30to awaken the human mind.
30:34It should not be loaded.
30:39It should be awakened.
30:43The rest of the work should be done by the awakened mind.
30:47That was the direction of education.
30:49But with time,
30:52the direction changed.
30:55Our aims and objectives
30:58related to education changed.
31:02We achieved a good degree.
31:06And after that,
31:08we got a good job.
31:12When we go abroad for studies,
31:15the biggest problem we face
31:20is that
31:23the educational system is different in both places.
31:29We have our own university.
31:33Students become under-stressed
31:36after entering the university.
31:39The reason is that
31:41their system is the same as the system in America.
31:47We study from the system here
31:51and get admission there.
31:53To cope up with that situation,
31:56we have to work very hard.
32:00As a result, we face a lot of stress.
32:05But this does not mean
32:08that we should change the system of the university.
32:12Instead, we should change the system
32:16of our colleges and universities.
32:20Because it is better.
32:22If you listen to the names of the students of the university,
32:26you treat them with a bit of respect.
32:30We feel that the boy has come from that university.
32:36I remember,
32:39when I was young,
32:42I used to read the names of the students of Aligarh University.
32:48I had a lot of pride.
32:51Very rightly so.
32:53If you look at the students of Aligarh University,
32:58they were very helpful people.
33:02It is not necessary that the students of the university
33:07should be forthcoming for everyone.
33:10They were very forthcoming for everyone.
33:13They had a lot of human emotions.
33:16They had a special kind of brain.
33:19They were well-trained.
33:22Time has passed.
33:24That is why they used to write Aligarh with so much pride.
33:27In the book, which was written by Khakha,
33:32there are a lot of things written about Aligarh.
33:37His father, Sajjad Haider Yaldram,
33:40was associated with Aligarh.
33:43If we talk about this in the next program,
33:48we will start from here.
33:50If you allow,
33:52you can also send us your suggestions and questions.
33:55We will put them in front of Shah Sahib.
33:57God willing, you will get answers
34:00that will become a source of guidance for you.
34:03With your permission, Allah Hafiz.