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00:00Asalaamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu, Alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
00:20wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa kafa wa
00:29salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
00:36wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
00:43wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
00:50alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
00:57wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
01:04ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
01:11wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
01:18wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
01:25alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
01:32wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
01:39ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
01:46wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
01:53wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
02:00alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
02:07wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
02:14ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
02:21wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
02:28wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
02:35alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
02:42wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
02:49ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
02:56wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
03:03wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
03:10alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
03:17wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
03:24ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
03:31wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
03:38wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
03:45alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
03:52wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
03:59ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
04:04wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
04:09wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
04:14alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah
04:19wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun
04:24ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulilah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
04:29wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
04:34wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
04:39alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
04:44wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
04:49ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
04:54wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
04:59wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
05:04alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
05:09wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
05:14ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
05:19wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
05:24wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
05:29alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
05:34wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
05:39ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
05:44wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
05:49wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
05:54alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
05:59wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
06:04ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
06:09wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
06:14wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
06:19alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
06:24wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
06:29ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
06:34wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
06:39wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
06:44alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
06:49wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
06:54ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
06:59wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
07:04wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
07:09alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
07:14wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
07:19ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
07:24wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
07:29wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
07:34alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
07:39wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
07:44ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
07:49wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
07:54wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
07:59alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
08:04wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
08:09ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
08:14wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
08:19wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
08:24alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
08:29wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
08:34ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
08:38wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
08:43wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
08:48alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
08:53wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
08:58ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
09:03wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
09:08wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
09:13alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
09:18wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
09:23ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
09:28wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
09:33wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
09:38alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
09:43wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
09:48ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
09:53wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
09:58wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
10:03alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
10:08wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
10:13ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
10:18wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi
10:23wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
10:28alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah
10:33wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun
10:38ala ibadihi wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi
10:43So please, it is my request that those who are fortunate enough to have the opportunity
10:48of fasting, it is a matter of great fortune, to go there and salute Allah's Prophet,
10:56to go there and recite the Durood, etc. etc. So go there and keep your voices low,
11:05don't talk to each other, please don't take selfies there, please don't do photography there,
11:14go there and salute with respect, do a lot of Durood there, stay there with a lot of respect,
11:24and as long as Allah gives you the opportunity to stay there, to recite Durood and Salam,
11:30stay there, present it on your behalf, whatever you are asked to do for Salam,
11:35present Salam on their behalf, etc. etc. and then leave there with a lot of respect.
11:42Please keep these etiquettes in mind. The last part of the verse is extremely dangerous.
11:51Allah is saying that if you don't keep these etiquettes in mind with Allah's Prophet,
11:58that your deeds will be wasted and you won't even realize it.
12:05We are doing a lot of good deeds, Tahajjud, Ishraq, Abaabeen, and we have spent in the way of Allah,
12:14and we do a lot of good deeds for the sake of Allah, for the sake of the hereafter,
12:18what if we reach the Day of Judgment and find out that our deeds are wasted?
12:23Why didn't we respect Allah's Prophet?
12:29The scholars of Tafsir have also written that this is a very dangerous warning,
12:35and the good deeds that are done in our religion,
12:39there is only one reason for them to be wasted, that someone's faith is destroyed,
12:44someone's faith is lost.
12:47So, in that context, the scholars have also written that it should not be the case
12:53that because of not respecting Allah's Prophet, someone's faith is lost.
12:59And this is a very dangerous thing, because on the Day of Judgment,
13:04only faith will be useful. Faith and good deeds,
13:07this is what is repeatedly reminded of in the Qur'an,
13:12that on the Day of Judgment, only faith and good deeds will be useful.
13:17Faith and good deeds will be useful, nothing else will be useful.
13:20Neither wealth, nor children, nor status, nor fame, nothing else will be useful.
13:26Only faith and good deeds will be useful.
13:29And it should not be the case that someone's faith is destroyed,
13:32his good deeds are wasted. Why?
13:34Because he did not respect Allah's Prophet.
13:39Further it is said,
13:49Now, that was the mention of those people who do not respect Allah.
13:54Now, regarding those who respect Allah, Allah is saying that
13:57those who keep their voices down in front of Allah's Prophet,
14:02these are the same people whose hearts Allah has tested and chosen for righteousness.
14:09They will attain righteousness.
14:11They will attain forgiveness.
14:13And they will also receive a great reward.
14:17These are the people who respect Allah.
14:19So, there are two types of people,
14:21those who are disrespectful and those who are polite.
14:24Disrespectful people are at risk of their good deeds being wasted,
14:27they are at risk of losing their faith.
14:29And polite people are at risk of attaining righteousness.
14:34They are at risk of forgiveness.
14:36They are at risk of receiving a great reward.
14:40There is a saying,
14:46And it fits perfectly.
14:47It is a matter of fate.
14:50Some people came,
14:52they were bad people,
14:54rural people,
14:56they were not at all polite.
14:58They came to Madinah Munawwarah
15:00and started calling out to the Prophet from the mountains.
15:03Allah said,
15:11O Prophet, those who call you from the mountains,
15:15most of them have no sense.
15:17And if they had patience,
15:19until you came out to them,
15:21they would have been better off.
15:31And Allah is Most Forgiving and Merciful.
15:33Allah is Most Forgiving and Merciful.
15:35Whatever happened, happened.
15:37Don't do it again.
15:39Let the Prophet of Allah come to you.
15:41Don't call out to him.
15:43Don't call out to him in a loud voice from outside.
15:46Adab is being taught.
15:48So may Allah grant me and all of us,
15:51the love of the Prophet of Allah,
15:54his greatness, his politeness.
15:56May Allah grant him to come to us.
15:58And especially, as I said,
16:00that if I get the opportunity to visit Madinah Munawwarah,
16:04then may Allah grant that in that blessed city,
16:07I get a chance to spend time with great politeness, respect and love.
16:11This is the matter of blessedness.
16:13InshaAllah, we will continue this topic.
16:16We will take a short break.
16:18After that, we will be back with your questions and answers.
16:21You can email your questions.
16:25Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
16:27Welcome back.
16:28After the break, we will be back with your questions.
16:30Some questions have been emailed.
16:33We will answer them, InshaAllah.
16:36Someone has asked a question from London.
16:39It is a long question.
16:41I will present it briefly.
16:44The question is,
16:46a lady has asked,
16:48that my husband works as a hotel manager in a company.
16:54And during the days of Covid,
16:57his company had some staffing issues,
17:03so he needed a security team.
17:06So, my husband's friend,
17:09who has his own security company,
17:12he gave a quotation to my husband's company,
17:16that they can provide these services.
17:19And that quotation was cheaper than other security companies.
17:26And his offer was accepted,
17:29his quotation was accepted,
17:31and he got that contract.
17:33And he has written,
17:35that after that, my husband's friend
17:37offered my husband some commission
17:39on the contract,
17:40as my husband's friend was very glad to get the contract.
17:43That his husband's friend,
17:46who had a security company,
17:48he gave some commission to my husband,
17:53because he was happy that he got the contract.
17:56Now, what he gave to my husband,
17:59is it permissible or not?
18:01Look, if it was such a scenario,
18:06that for example,
18:09my company was in search of security agents,
18:15and I had a friend's company,
18:19a security company,
18:20and I would deal with him.
18:22And I would tell him,
18:23that if I will get you the contract,
18:27but in that case,
18:30if you will give me X percentage commission,
18:33and then I somehow,
18:35I have so much authority,
18:36he has also written,
18:37that my husband had no say
18:39in approving or disapproving that contract.
18:43He had no say,
18:44he just forwarded it.
18:46If I had a say,
18:48and I would get it approved,
18:50somehow,
18:52in any way,
18:53but I would tell my friend,
18:55that you will give me commission,
18:56if I could get it approved.
18:58In that case,
18:59it would be absolutely unlawful.
19:01Right?
19:02Because,
19:03this is not fair play.
19:05This is killing the rights of others.
19:07Because of my presence in the company,
19:10I used my influence,
19:12I used my authority,
19:14and somehow,
19:15I got my friend's company approved,
19:18just because I would get commission from him.
19:21This would be unlawful.
19:22It would be unlawful.
19:24But in this scenario,
19:26as far as I have understood,
19:28the question asked is,
19:31that her husband had no say at all.
19:34He just forwarded the quotation
19:37of his friend's contracting company,
19:39the security company,
19:41and it was of the management of the DCN company,
19:45and on a fair basis,
19:50he presented all the quotations,
19:53and he liked this quotation,
19:55he liked this quote,
19:57and he took the decision himself,
19:59without his husband's consent,
20:01he signed that contract,
20:03his friend's company,
20:05and happily,
20:06a gift,
20:07a commission,
20:10or money,
20:11was given to her husband.
20:13So,
20:14there is nothing wrong in this.
20:17If this is the scenario,
20:19as you have presented,
20:20and I have understood this,
20:22then there is nothing wrong in this,
20:24because your husband had no say at all,
20:28except that he forwarded a quotation,
20:32to the company,
20:33and the company took the decision itself,
20:35and there was nothing,
20:37your husband had no say at all.
20:40So,
20:41if your friend was happy,
20:42similarly,
20:43there was nothing between your husband and your friend,
20:48that if you get the contract,
20:50you will give me the money,
20:52there was nothing like this.
20:54So,
20:55this money,
20:56which he gave willingly,
20:58with happiness,
20:59there is nothing wrong in this.
21:02So,
21:03this should be used for your husband.
21:06Allah knows best.
21:09Another question has come online.
21:12He has asked,
21:14I would like to know,
21:15how can I control my anger,
21:17as I tend to speak the facts,
21:18but in a harsh way?
21:19How can I control my anger,
21:21as I tend to speak the facts,
21:22but in a harsh way?
21:23How can I control my anger,
21:24as I tend to speak the facts,
21:25but in a harsh way?
21:26This is a question from a woman.
21:27But,
21:28my tone is not right,
21:29it becomes harsh.
21:30And,
21:31the second question he has asked is,
21:32if there is a rift between relationships,
21:34is it better to keep a distance,
21:36or to ignore the bad exchange of words,
21:39to ignore the bad exchange of words,
21:42and forgive,
21:43but not forget?
21:44The second question is,
21:45if there is a rift in relationships,
21:48should I stay away from them,
21:50should I stay away from them,
21:51so that the bad exchange of words,
21:53so that the bad exchange of words,
21:55should not happen,
21:57and should I forgive them,
21:59and should I forgive them,
22:01but should I not forget?
22:03So, there are two different questions.
22:05One is controlling anger,
22:07this is basically a workshop,
22:09on how to control anger.
22:11Anger is such a thing,
22:13that destroys a person,
22:15destroys a person's personality.
22:19It destroys relationships.
22:22A husband divorces his wife in anger,
22:24and then regrets later.
22:26There are so many such cases.
22:28I divorced her in anger.
22:30Divorce is only in anger.
22:32Love does not divorce with love.
22:34And, once the words of divorce come out,
22:36then the divorce happens.
22:38Divorce is such a thing,
22:40that happens in a joke,
22:42and also happens in seriousness,
22:44in the light of Hadith.
22:45So, people later ask,
22:47I divorced my wife in anger.
22:49So, controlling anger is a very important thing.
22:51A person's personality,
22:53gets distorted.
22:55So, JazakAllah Khair,
22:57that you are aware.
22:59This is a very good thing,
23:01that you are aware.
23:03Most people are not even aware.
23:05So, this is a positive point.
23:07But, the second thing to do,
23:09is to control it.
23:11There are some Hadiths,
23:13that have been treated.
23:15That,
23:17drink water.
23:19Perform ablution.
23:21With anger, cool the fire,
23:23with water, cool the fire,
23:25which is raging because of anger.
23:27Extinguish it with water.
23:29If you are standing, then sit down.
23:31If you are sitting, then lie down.
23:33Lower yourself.
23:35Come closer to the ground.
23:37There is a Hadith, that,
23:39read,
23:41anger is from Satan.
23:43Satan is made of fire.
23:45And, he instigates the fire inside.
23:47He provokes the Satan inside.
23:49Anger is the same thing.
23:51A person's eyes turn red.
23:53A person's veins
23:55swell.
23:57All of this is a sign of fire.
23:59It is a sign of heat inside.
24:01So, read,
24:03seek protection from Satan.
24:05And, as I said,
24:07sit down.
24:09Lie down.
24:11Drink water.
24:13Perform ablution.
24:15Treat yourself
24:17with anger.
24:19But, as long as there is anger,
24:21don't stay close to anyone.
24:23Leave that room.
24:25After a while, 5 minutes,
24:2710 minutes,
24:29as soon as anger comes,
24:31you sit down.
24:33Don't say anything at that time.
24:35God willing, after that,
24:37you will keep facts.
24:39As you said,
24:41it becomes harsh.
24:43God willing,
24:45that harshness
24:47will end.
24:49God willing,
24:51practice it slowly.
24:53God willing,
24:55it will be much better.
24:57Pray to Allah.
24:59O Allah, I get angry.
25:01Make it easy for me to control my anger.
25:03Prayer has a great effect.
25:05Secondly, as you said,
25:07if there is a rift in relationships,
25:09first of all, we should analyze
25:11what kind of rift it is.
25:13Why is there a rift in relationships?
25:15There are many things,
25:17but they are small things.
25:19They are not a big deal.
25:21No one called me.
25:23No one invited me to a wedding.
25:25No one asked me how I was doing.
25:27These are not big things.
25:29These are not big things.
25:31Let it be.
25:33Sometimes, there are expectations.
25:35But,
25:37not all expectations are fulfilled.
25:39So, let it be.
25:41First of all, analyze.
25:43If it is a small thing, it is okay.
25:45If it is a big deal,
25:47if someone has really harmed you,
25:49even then, if you can try to forgive,
25:51forgive them.
25:53But, some people are like this.
25:55They are always like this.
25:57You forgive them.
25:59Whenever you go to them,
26:01they will say something else.
26:03They will talk rudely to you.
26:05They will hurt you.
26:07Some people are like this.
26:09It is good to stay away from such people
26:11so that there is no rift.
26:13But, you cannot have a wrong relationship
26:15with such people.
26:17If there are such people
26:19who harm you,
26:21it is okay to stay away from them
26:23to save yourself from harm.
26:25But, you cannot have a wrong relationship
26:27with them.
26:29It is haram in the religion.
26:31I will never help him.
26:33He will get sick.
26:35I will never visit him.
26:37I will never talk to him.
26:39It is haram.
26:41You can stay away from such people.
26:43But, you should know that
26:45if he needs you in the future,
26:47I will be there.
26:49If he apologizes
26:51and says that
26:53he will not misbehave anymore,
26:55I will forgive him.
26:57I will let him go.
26:59You cannot have a wrong relationship
27:01with such people.
27:03But, if you have to stay away
27:05from such people
27:07to save yourself
27:09from harm,
27:11as long as you do not have
27:13a wrong relationship with them,
27:15it is okay.
27:17May Allah make our hearts soft
27:19and love each other.
27:21May Allah make our lives like heaven.
27:23May Allah not make our lives like hell.
27:25May Allah not spread love and hatred.
27:27May Allah enable me to do so.
27:29May Allah enable us all to do so.
27:31InshaAllah, I will be back next week.
27:33Till then, remember me in your prayers.
27:35Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu
27:37Wa Akhiru Da'awana Anil Hamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen