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Video Information: Myth Demolition tour, 14.2.20, Rishikesh, Uttarakhand, India
Context:
~ Why people obsessed with bodily concern?
~ Why do people cheat in relationship?
~ What is cheating in a relationship at different plane?
~ How your partner cheats you?
~ Your Partner Cheats you in 3 different ways.
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Video Information: Myth Demolition tour, 14.2.20, Rishikesh, Uttarakhand, India
Context:
~ Why people obsessed with bodily concern?
~ Why do people cheat in relationship?
~ What is cheating in a relationship at different plane?
~ How your partner cheats you?
~ Your Partner Cheats you in 3 different ways.
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00I just want to ask I don't know how to how we put what is I don't know if it is
00:17a valid question or not so what is physical cheating and what is mentally
00:21cheating I mean in a relationship of course I'm telling this so if two
00:26person are in a relationship and if one is cheating on the other physically
00:33obviously and still wants to be with that one this is the one kind of cheating
00:40and the second one which we the two couples are living for a very long time
00:45and still the one or the other or the both in their mind or in the fantasy
00:52world they want to you know just be the other person like like if I and this
01:00person is committed I just fantasize being with that person so is it that not
01:07like this is not called cheating or only the physical cheating if somebody goes
01:11and do something is called cheating and what is I mean see your your definition
01:18of cheating describes the plane on which your relationship exists the
01:31relationship could be on one of these three planes broadly the relationship
01:39could be on a spiritual plane it could be on a mental plane it could be on a
01:42physical plane and cheating is possible on all three planes cheating is possible
01:50on on three planes what is a relationship on the physical plane you
02:00give me pleasure I give you pleasure and to ensure an uninterrupted and secured
02:09supply of physical pleasure you remain physically committed to me and I remain
02:14physically committed to you what do I want from you pleasure physical pleasure
02:19and we are committed to each other what does this commitment now mean you must
02:25be there when I need pleasure from you because our relationship is physical we
02:28exist in each other's lives to scratch each other's itch so it should not happen
02:38that a one particular night I have the itch and I don't find you by my bedside
02:45that should not happen so the commitment practically means you should be there
02:51when I need your body and now what is cheating on this level I needed you but
03:00you're somewhere else and that's cheating that's a violation of the
03:06physical contract what is cheating in simple terms a violation of a contract
03:15two parties agree to something and then one of them goes back on the agreement
03:24reneges that's called cheating so if the relationship exists purely on the
03:29physical domain then you will be greatly offended if you find your partner
03:37sleeping around with somebody else because that was everything that there
03:43was to that relationship the body the relationship was all about the body and
03:49the body is with somebody else I have been cheated FIR 100% of the
03:59relationship was about the body and the body is now somewhere else so the
04:06relationship has been 100% destroyed because 100% of it was about the body if
04:15you are very offended if you are absolutely offended if you find someone
04:24physically with someone else then that only means that your relationship itself
04:31is absolutely physical are you getting it if you are absolutely offended if you
04:39find your friend your partner whatsoever I mean with somebody else in the
04:45physical sense then that feeling of absolute offense implies that the
04:52relationship itself is absolutely physical then there is a mental
04:59relationship in the mental relationship there is an exchange of emotions I am
05:05emotionally related to you it's a romantic relationship right you do good
05:13things for me I do good things for you not necessarily in the physical way you
05:18bring me stuff I cook something for you you take me places I say nice things to
05:27you sometimes you click me in a cool pose sometimes I sing a song for you in
05:40that kind of a relationship now in this relationship what is it to cheat in this
05:51kind of a relationship what is the agreement all about you keep doing
05:58things that please me mentally maybe not so much physically but surely mentally
06:05so you keep doing things that please me mentally and I'll keep reciprocating by
06:10doing stuff that pleases you mentally we'll be each other's ego friends hmm I
06:21boost your ego you please my ego what is it to cheat in this kind of a
06:27relationship why did you offend me I asked you am I looking fat and you said
06:33yes on this cheating weren't we supposed to say nice things to each
06:39other why did you tell me that I have no awareness that I've read nothing that I
06:55don't know how to relate with anybody in the world you're not supposed to say
07:00these things neither am I of course it's an agreement so now that's cheating
07:09and where there is cheating there is anger and violence so in this kind of an
07:15emotional relationship the moment you say something bad to the other it's
07:21cheating and you'll be met with a lot of aggression you'll be delivered blows
07:31why such things why did you not look kindly at me I bought this new wonder
07:50dress and you ignored me cheating cheating hmm and obviously in on this
08:05plane if you find someone going around with someone else that too is offensive
08:11to the ego so that too is cheating right but this kind of mutual mental
08:20giving would not be a part of a purely physical relationship there you really
08:28don't want to say good things to the other relationship is purely physical
08:32and mind you such relationships do exist and they exist in greater abundance
08:38than we might conceive in those relationships people do not even say
08:44good things to each other they just undress there is no need to say anything
08:49just get in the bed that's all I don't want to hear my praise from you I'm not
08:56here to share emotions with you hmm neither am I here to write a poem in
09:04praise of your divine beauty we are here to fuck and that's it that's physical
09:11relationship in emotional relationship before you fuck you say nice things to
09:15each other right so you know otherwise it looks quite horrible and you need to
09:23have some face-saving mechanism how do we just get on with it so let's have
09:29that first mandatory half an hour of whatever you call it knowing fully well
09:37that this half an hour is just an alibi you are constantly looking at the clock
09:44let those 30 minutes be completed so that we can get on with business and
09:53then there is relationship on the spiritual plane here the primary
10:01relationship is not with each other here the primary relationship is with
10:06something else you are committed to something let's call it as something
10:15something something he too is committed to something and the two of you are
10:22together because this togetherness will take you both to that something this is
10:32a spiritual relationship in which two people are together not for the sake of
10:35each other but for the sake of that something now what is cheating now
10:45cheating is not about whether you deceived me or whether I deceived you
10:50now cheating is about whether either or both of us deceive that something now I
10:56won't stay with you for a second if I find you not loyal to that something you
11:02do not need to be loyal to me I neither demand nor deserve your loyalty but I
11:10surely want that you need to be loyal to that something and if I find you being
11:15disloyal to that something then you have had it then you have had it you don't
11:24want to please me no problem even I am not here to please you chances are I'll
11:30do stuff that's not going to please you because in going towards that something
11:36the ego has to take a beating you won't usually happily and agreeably move
11:45towards that something so if I am to help you assist you move towards that
11:49something I'll have to push you against your wishes you'll resist not always
11:57maybe but mostly so obviously this is not a relationship in which there is
12:04mutual exchange of pleasure we are not pleasing each other right what are we
12:10doing we are pushing each other we are assisting each other we are helping each
12:14other some people say that's the best way to say we are loving each other but
12:20then that's not the commonly accepted definition only some weird spiritualists
12:27feel that that is the right definition of love what is that right definition of
12:34love we both are pushing each other towards that something what is it
12:39something some people call it truth some call it liberation some call it
12:42realization some call it joy on our own we probably won't reach there
12:53independently right because even though I do have a desire to reach there yet I
13:01have my tendencies I have my inertia I have my laziness and I have my ready
13:09excuses so on my own I would have raised some story and said you know today again
13:16I cannot move in that direction because I have something else more important to
13:20take care of but when you are there you call me out you expose my lies and
13:29that's your place in my life that's your contribution in my life you call my
13:34bluff you do not let me remain my usual tardy self and that's exactly how I
13:42reciprocate I do not let you remain who you are and who you are usually is not
13:50someone you would want to remain even you agree that you do not want to remain
14:01who you are yet there is a tremendous inertia sloth my role is to keep nudging
14:11you pushing you huh sometimes gently prodding you and sometimes kicking you
14:18hard in the butt that's my role in your life right this is a spiritual
14:25relationship this is love on the spiritual plane and we have already
14:30discussed what is meant by cheating on this plane what is cheating now I
14:35entered your life so that we may both move towards that something instead you
14:41got attached to me now this is cheating now this is a very inverted definition
14:47of cheating on the physical and emotional planes it was cheating when
14:54you were looking at somebody else on the spiritual plane it is cheating when you
14:58are looking at me how dare you look at me am I not your lover you're not
15:03supposed to look at your lover you are supposed to look only at that something
15:10if you look at me you are cheating on me don't look at me no the more you look at
15:19me the more you are guilty of adultery because he is the real target he is the
15:27one we both have to go to so we both have to look only at him we won't don't
15:33have to look at each other we are fellow passengers co-passengers you're
15:43traveling alongside each other we are not traveling to each other we have a
15:48shared destination and we are together only so that we may more easily more
15:54practically reach that shared destination this is spiritual affinity
16:03getting it hmm so your definition of cheating tells of who you are if the
16:18relationship is primarily spiritual it won't really matter to you whether you
16:27are able to arrest that person's body or not you will say your body is not my
16:33concern the body anyway does not ever reach anywhere it is not the body that
16:40wants to reach that something so do whatever you want to do with your body I
16:46won't object not my concern my bigger concern is something else and I need to
16:55take care of that so why it is like people are obsessed with that only
17:05bodily concern or bodily cheating like if two person are loving in madly loving
17:10with each other like for years eight nine years and suddenly one finds out
17:16key he cheated on her or him all the love and everything vanished and they
17:22started looking that person that he started looking that person or she
17:27started looking that person as an enemy yeah like so just one thing I mean I am
17:33just confused about the key only that physical physicality or the body is that
17:37much important to that only shows that for the last eight years the
17:42relationship was only physical if for the reason of a physical transgression
17:50the relationship can collapse then the relationship itself was just physical
17:56what else is the conclusion not obvious you have had a relationship since eight
18:04years and then one fine day you find that your partner has been sleeping with
18:10somebody else you're so outraged that you break up what does that tell about
18:17the relationship that the physical part was absolutely central to that
18:23relationship it's just that you know one feels a little guilty a little
18:33ashamed of accepting that ninety nine point nine nine percent of our
18:39relationships are just sexual so we cover it up with fancy names
18:47hmm covering it up with fancy names we somehow managed to convince ourselves
18:53as well that the relationship is not just physical but all that self
19:01deception falls into pieces when you have instances like these you know
19:10instances of cheating and such things it was just physical that's how animals
19:23relate don't they yeah we are animals hmm we are animals and animals get can
19:32get extremely violent if they discover their mate being stolen away there was
19:47one board I once read it said how to be cautious of dogs it particularly warned
19:57against disturbing dogs on two or three occasions one when they're having their
20:03food second when they are fighting among themselves and they are angry and third
20:11when they're meeting don't disturb them at that point even the most emaciated
20:20kind of dog will leap at your throat like a lion if it is in the process of
20:29lovemaking that's how our relationships as are as well you know we are we are
20:37fundamentally animals but we are very cunning animals animals do not try to
20:45obfuscate their intentions dogs do it on roads and no dog first allures the
21:01bitch with gifts or promises or rounds or stuff over the fire hmm or holy
21:21chants all that doesn't happen the dog knows what it wants the bitch knows what
21:28it wants and they just get over it quite quickly done and dusted human
21:36beings spend five years seven years in courtship knowing fully well that the
21:45objective is just one hmm but neither the man nor the woman assuming it's a
21:54man-woman relationship would dare confess it to the other especially not
22:02in India and especially not if you are a woman you cannot tell the man you know
22:11all I want is your body here is a hint the man won't be offended even if he's
22:26an Indian it's far better to be honest
22:32very very rare our relationships on a higher plane we have moved out of the
22:43jungle but within we remain animals and it's been not a long time since we
22:57migrated out of the jungle right look at the entire evolutionary history we are
23:04pretty recent immigrants so the jungle is very much alive and kicking within us
23:10see
23:27you