Married at First Sight (UK) Season 9 Episode 12
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00:00:00Previously
00:00:03It's intimacy week glimmers of hope staring into Holly's eyes walls lifted a little bit
00:00:09We're doused for Holly and Andrew my tank is empty. You're demonstrating a bit of narcissistic behavior
00:00:15I shan't let you insult me. We're done, and I think I'm going to show you the door
00:00:20Ciao
00:00:22Whilst for others we did it friends don't kiss like that
00:00:25We are a couple now intimacy week saw some major breakthroughs. We put our faith in the experts and here we are there's hope
00:00:34But left some couples. I want you to want me wanting more
00:00:39We're not doing a five-minute making I think that's just stupid. Yeah, I'm disappointed
00:00:44Feel a little bit rejected as the rollercoaster that is Tamara and Brent's marriage get over yourself
00:00:50You're upset because you got you look a certain way, and you can't stand it
00:00:55Continued the last thing I want you to feel is that I think that you're not good enough. Yeah
00:01:03Tonight
00:01:10Brent reaches breaking point I will never be spoken down to like that again as the second dinner party
00:01:17Wow, there's an entrance from Holly serves up a main course
00:01:21That is a cold shoulder of cold revenge
00:01:30Wow
00:01:31I don't think we've actually seen that happen
00:01:34Where Holly will finally speak her truth you made me feel lesser than dirt and a shocking argument
00:01:41That's wrong probably insecure. Oh
00:01:44No, no, no, no, no causes Ella and Mitch who cares to be honest like it to implode
00:01:51I've not seen him talk like this before
00:01:53What do you want from me? I'm trying my goddamn best
00:02:16It's now two weeks into the experiment
00:02:20Smoking and having formed new bonds during intimacy week what my shoes on now
00:02:27The couples are getting ready for the second dinner party. Oh
00:02:31Jack yeah, it's gonna be a night. I tell you what I think there's gonna be a lot to unpack
00:02:39Yeah, that's better
00:02:40If anybody causes any drama tonight, you can just like with them
00:02:45After a week of intimacy challenges, it's always interesting to see where the couples are at
00:02:51They're often at very different stages in their relationships
00:02:55So it can add a lot of pressure when coming into the dinner party with other couples in that setting
00:03:00They can be tempted to compare notes and progress with one another which can be incredibly confronting and intimidating
00:03:08Has a look at your ass is cranky ass
00:03:11You got a good ass, right?
00:03:14You like this fat ass, don't you?
00:03:17For Ella and Mitch
00:03:19Intimacy week exposed their differing needs for affection
00:03:23We don't really share a lot of kisses. Yeah, and I like kissing you want to try anything
00:03:28I don't know about doing it with everyone around
00:03:32Yeah, not happening intimacy week was it was good we just couldn't be intimate
00:03:38It's
00:03:41Disappointing, you know, we're not overly affectionate in public
00:03:46And he's kind of shy our intimacy week could be next week. Yeah. Yeah, that's fine
00:03:51They can just be every week for the rest of it
00:03:55I'm trying to like stay positive, but Mitch doesn't really get too deep or like
00:04:00Intense and he doesn't put in enough effort. So it makes me feel insecure
00:04:09Jack but for one couple
00:04:13Which shoe?
00:04:15There's never been any problem with intimacy
00:04:21Ever since their fairy tale wedding
00:04:24Olivia and Jackson have found each other
00:04:28You're totally right a perfect fit you sound like you've been doing that for years
00:04:33I'd be really curious to see how the other couples did with intimacy week. We're still going very strong
00:04:40You look very beautiful. Thank you, darling. You look very handsome
00:04:44Yeah, we're having a lot of sex, you know, it's not a competition. But if it was we're women
00:04:52Second dinner party
00:04:54I'm excited to see everybody
00:04:57but also, I hope they're just kind of
00:05:00Left alone in our little bubble of happiness and butterflies and rainbows beautiful beautiful
00:05:10Next door Celine and Anthony are also in high spirits after a successful week
00:05:17All right. Shall we do your hair? Are you finished with your shoes?
00:05:20What are you gonna do to my head?
00:05:24I'm not bold you agreed
00:05:27Intimacy week has marked a major turnaround for the couple
00:05:34Who attended the first dinner party separately
00:05:40I said look right now. I don't feel
00:05:45Anyway, he just said he's going
00:05:49Last time when I walked in alone Celine wanted to get in there first and tell the side of the story
00:05:54So there were some girls, I'm sort of going after me you like wish that you didn't leave
00:06:01Does everybody know that
00:06:03Just be gentle with me. Yeah, but intimacy week proved the couple could make a connection
00:06:17Are you doing
00:06:19Leading Anthony to move back into their apartment
00:06:23To start rebuilding their relationship
00:06:27I got hairspray and a brush, okay
00:06:31Things are going great with Celine. Oh, this is sticky
00:06:34Why yuck and since we've moved in together there hasn't been any issues
00:06:41I don't really have too many concerns going to the dinner party. You know, we're talking we're communicating but let me spray it so it can
00:06:48last
00:06:51Yeah, I feel better this time around because you know, we're gonna walk in together
00:06:57Different
00:07:01Are you excited? Yeah always dinner parties a good fun
00:07:07Intimacy week has also worked its magic on Selena and Cody
00:07:12This week's been pretty good. The intimacy week was fun. It was
00:07:16Yeah, it was a lot more upbeat is my hair intact are you gonna do that next as well? Yeah, I
00:07:22Really care about Selena. I feel like our relationship is progressing
00:07:26This task. I want you and your partner to share a five-minute makeout session. I feel like intimacy week has brought us closer
00:07:37Last night Cody and I went to bed who said goodnight and then we started like making out a little bit again
00:07:43Do you like that dress?
00:07:45Thank you, I'm feeling yeah, I'm definitely feeling positive
00:07:48The way he touches me is different the way he looks at me is different. Am I doing it, right?
00:07:55It's very nice feeling
00:07:59It's like red lipstick on you now
00:08:05It's been a hard way, oh it's been a tough way and some of that shit we had to do was awkward
00:08:11For Sam and Al
00:08:13Intimacy week stirred a mix of emotions. We had a little bit of a dip. Yeah, we worked through that
00:08:20There's nothing more sensual than a long passionate kiss
00:08:26That shits me. I don't feel desired by you. And now I meant to like give you a hot and heavy like makeout sesh. I
00:08:33Feel like Al doesn't try until like someone tells him in black and white
00:08:39What to do it's been hard trying to take the lead this week, but um look
00:08:48But I'm so happy we did it
00:08:51So it's been a tough week for us. I can't imagine how other people did it
00:08:56Sam and I are gonna walk in that door holding hands like yeah
00:09:01We're together and that's that's how we are. We're a united front
00:09:08But
00:09:16One couple couldn't be less united
00:09:22Holly and Andrew are getting ready in separate apartments after a disastrous week
00:09:28I'm going into the dinner party tonight
00:09:31Literally emotionally exhausted the last time I saw Holly we had another fight
00:09:39But Holly I've still not heard any apologies
00:09:45You're demonstrating a bit of narcissistic behavior if I'm being completely honest on that note
00:09:49I think we're done and I think I'm gonna show you the door
00:09:54Here's the door my darling. Yeah
00:09:58Ciao
00:10:01The
00:10:04Fight was the last in a series of setbacks for Holly who has had a lot riding on the success of the experiment
00:10:14At 36 years of age I want nothing more than to have a family of my own
00:10:21But I don't have the fertility of a 26 year old and my age is working against me
00:10:28Your
00:10:30Intentions were to find somebody to have a child with I wouldn't want to waste your time to be honest with you
00:10:36He definitely doesn't want children. He he doesn't even want to get to know me or be close to me
00:10:42He said some really confronting things. I feel like when we were intimate you weren't there
00:10:49So it wasn't enjoyable for me. I've had one night stands where out the partner was more into me than you were into me
00:10:58I
00:10:59Did not expect for him to be so cruel and vicious
00:11:03I can't walk around on eggshells worrying about how people respond to how really if I'm being honest
00:11:08You say things that are hurtful and you don't care. He's not a nice person and I've had to deal with too much
00:11:24I am still a little nervous
00:11:28But I'm gonna walk into that dinner party with my head held high
00:11:33And I'm gonna do everything I can to ensure that I am heard and he does not silence me anymore
00:11:40he cares more about his reputation than anything else and
00:11:46This is war
00:11:48I
00:11:55Don't mind walking in alone
00:11:58In fact, I will take all the blame for everything if I have to I don't mind doing that
00:12:03But I've told her how I felt several times and been honest with her and every time it's come with some type of backlash
00:12:11On
00:12:13The other hand, I'm grateful knowing that we've already had some conflict and we've been able to work our way through it
00:12:19So I am going to walk in there and give her a hug and let her know that I care about her
00:12:28But not everyone shares Andrews optimism about the chances of a reconciliation
00:12:34You know me. I'm not gonna shy away from
00:12:37Speaking up if I hear something that I don't agree. No, that's fair
00:12:40I really want to check in on Holly from what I got out of what she said in the commitment ceremony
00:12:46It was really hard for it's hard for her to move past the things that he said
00:12:52There's a line between being brutally honest and just being brutal you just don't talk like that to women especially in such a public forum
00:13:00So I've already spoken to Andrew this week
00:13:02I was a little bit offended and I was a little bit shocked with a few of the things he had said
00:13:06If Andrew is saying horrible things, I'll do what I did last time and that was calling out on it
00:13:14Good let's do it. Let's go. I'm ready beautiful. Shall we get started?
00:13:26With most couples now heading to the dinner party
00:13:33Hey
00:13:35One is still yet to leave
00:13:38You're the one who asked me to turn on music and then said it was too loud. What do you want?
00:13:43following a simple disagreement about the volume of a TV show
00:13:53Tamara and Brent are now in the throes of a rapidly escalating fight
00:14:03But you dare lie, do not lie
00:14:10Well today Brent's grumpy I said shut up I said shut up and close the door after you called me a b****
00:14:16It's like it doesn't take much and then he's moved just like
00:14:20Switches. Anyone who knows me needs a don't need the confrontation. I'm over it, but there's only so much my patience can take
00:14:26I am bitched
00:14:29You know, I saw a side-effects a lot I've never seen
00:14:34Cuz you crap the sheets you are that moody all the time
00:14:38I don't feel very good about my relationship with Brent now. We're gonna go into the dinner party together tonight. Thank you
00:14:52I will never be spoken down to like that again. All I asked was if the TV could please be turned down
00:14:58I don't know
00:15:00I'm not playing a victim. Stop talking over me when I'm talking
00:15:07That argument stemmed from you asking me
00:15:11And I'm not gonna have someone look at me and go about the TV
00:15:14Yeah, I did not say that you really didn't say that and you didn't say exactly like that
00:15:19I didn't say turn the TV down
00:15:21Yes, you did. Yes you did
00:15:28I've done much more relaxed tonight. How about you? Yeah, I'm not as nervous as the last time sure
00:15:34Things gonna be fun, you know beer sit down and socialize
00:15:38Enjoy everyone's company
00:15:45Pretty confident about us same
00:15:47I'm confident in us and we're walking in hand-in-hand like confident and I'm gonna be a team with you
00:15:58You
00:16:04Well, here we are at dinner party number two
00:16:07Yes experiment and it's been a big week
00:16:10And of course, you've spent time with the couples this week for interviewing it. I spent time with most couples
00:16:16I'm very much looking forward to see if the exercises helped. Yeah, that's right
00:16:20These are tasks that can really push relationships to the next level quickly. So tonight
00:16:25I'm hoping our couples will be finding it much easier to get along
00:16:30That's what I want to say
00:16:47Lucky us
00:16:55I'll get you a drink at least
00:17:05These two don't look good at all
00:17:12Not much that she's about
00:17:17Hater don't know being this is situation with you. Hey
00:17:21Like I was literally just doing my makeup and said, please could you turn the TV down?
00:17:25And your whole mood switched
00:17:28But it's just a build-up of
00:17:31Little things I don't understand because you know, I literally the volume was very loud. That's that's all it was to me
00:17:37It's that it's it's one of many
00:17:43What seems to be tricky here for these two guys is that Brent's talking about the bigger picture
00:17:48These are the general patterns that are coming up in our relationship that are not working
00:17:53Whereas Tamara's getting very caught up on the one instance and they're not meeting in the middle
00:17:58Look, you know, you know set it off is how quick you snapped and you can't
00:18:05After that that was a different side and that's what sparked a quite a big fight because you asked if I was purposely can't trying
00:18:11To cause drama like what do you honestly expect this? That's been asked if I asked you the same thing
00:18:16We're not gonna get anywhere
00:18:19All right
00:18:23I
00:18:27Think there was an overall sense with all of the couples when we spoke to them
00:18:32but they're more interested in blame and
00:18:36Protecting their position than they are
00:18:38Actually taking on responsibility and looking at change. Yeah, and I really hope that tonight we actually see some
00:18:46more accountability
00:18:48I'm happy to give you man. I'm happy to make you happy. And I know you are too. I'm not taking that away from you
00:18:59Handsome devils, so you two I mean, come on. Oh my god
00:19:06Oh
00:19:14Yeah, yes, please what do you want ginsengs white wine and like a big glass of it
00:19:22Fill it right up
00:19:23Olivia and Jackson
00:19:25Very happy together. Look at them
00:19:27I mean you have slow burns, but these guys have actually they've found each other and loved it right from the beginning
00:19:35Yes, it's so special to watch
00:19:37Have a sentiment. See wait
00:19:39It's fine. It was yeah, I was like the best. Thank you, my darling
00:19:44That's nice and cold. Cheers, hon. Oh, you guys are such a couple goals. I'm jealous
00:19:50Mm-hmm. Oh, they're very Jackson are gorgeous
00:19:54All right, okay, so up and down I
00:19:57Don't want to talk about it. Like I was like, yeah
00:20:00Yeah
00:20:02Obviously, it's upsetting to compare ourselves to others
00:20:05I feel like Brent and I still have a long way to go in terms of fixing our issues. Oh boy
00:20:20Walking together
00:20:24Very nice
00:20:33I
00:20:35Sing still in and Anthony together made my heart skip a beat
00:20:43It was just like I knew this could happen
00:20:54Can you imagine you know, we asked for a do-over
00:20:58Being
00:21:00Able to walk through together today. Yeah, it felt pretty good. It was so much better than last week
00:21:05Oh my god, don't ever want to do last week again
00:21:08Yeah, we want to know
00:21:11Well, we moved in together
00:21:15Isn't this just totally different for Selena and Anthony because right off the bat
00:21:20They're actually talking a positive light about one another whereas last week
00:21:24It was I'm gonna either do laundry and throw under the bus. I don't know if you notice anything about him
00:21:30Do you guys notice anything?
00:21:40Were you wearing briefs or was it just
00:21:48It's a secret to a good couple the couple that spray-paint together
00:21:55Oh
00:21:59Everybody
00:22:04Strong entrance very together Oh
00:22:09Mitch and Ella
00:22:12By contrast from last week, I'm loving the energy here tonight
00:22:19So I wanted to actually apologize to you yeah because
00:22:24Last week if I made you feel that everyone was attacking you. I'm not gonna apologize for standing up for my friend
00:22:31You know having her back
00:22:32No
00:22:33But I want to apologize if I made you feel isolated
00:22:35Walking in here because that's yeah
00:22:36I never want to make a person feel like that and especially in a group setting
00:22:40To be honest with you on you going in this I wanted to have a chat with Anthony about last week
00:22:45Making him feel shit walking into a room of people that already judged him. I
00:22:50I'd never allow bullying never allow anyone to talk shit about someone so deep in my core
00:22:57I don't think that's right. I do appreciate that apology. Okay, let's just put it this way. It's water under the bridge with me
00:23:03I'm just so happy that you guys have made that
00:23:07It was one of those things. I'd never know how to quit
00:23:13Yeah, like Holly and Andrew they haven't even tried to like come together, you know what I mean
00:23:20I
00:23:27Based on our last commitment ceremony
00:23:30I did I did want to draw a line in the sand and move forward and I had every intentions of doing that
00:23:35but it takes two people the way I see the situation is I can see he's got a lot of that ego energy and
00:23:42Misogynistic vibe to him. I'll get it clearly their relationship isn't healthy
00:23:47I mean he said to her that
00:23:50He got more out of her one-night stand
00:23:53That's shit thing to say to a woman. It's okay to be honest. Don't be brutal about it Andrew said some
00:24:00Pretty sexist things if somebody spoke to my daughter that way I'd be a little bit
00:24:06Yeah, that didn't sit well
00:24:11Do I think that Andrew's behavior and
00:24:15His language towards Holly's a little bit misogynistic, yeah, I do
00:24:20And I think that will be shown tonight because if no one else is gonna ask the tough questions I will
00:24:27Oh
00:24:40Here we go Andrew's arrived Andrew by himself by himself, okay seen that coming. Yeah. Yeah, I mean come in
00:24:50Nice to see you
00:24:52I
00:24:56Open for him not just
00:25:01This is a pivotal moment tonight
00:25:04Because his behavior on the couch of that commitment ceremony offended us
00:25:08Hmm, and now he's got a group that hopefully is gonna hold him accountable
00:25:17What do you think happened, where did it go
00:25:20Since the wedding day there was just literally no connection between us
00:25:24And I saw some things that I I didn't like right out the gate
00:25:27And I think that because of that I built this huge wall up, and I didn't allow her to come in at all
00:25:37I just I feel like I've failed myself
00:25:39And then I feel like I've failed Holly as well, and I think her and I have just two completely opposite people
00:25:49And I feel like she felt quite rejected tonight. Can I sorry I don't mean like I want you to have your say on this
00:25:55I'm really sorry that throughout the commitment ceremony that I didn't say anything
00:26:00No, no you apologize. She didn't apologize like don't just put it down to it being you we're all perfectly imperfect
00:26:07Yeah, yeah, and unfortunately I feel that we just we're just butted heads too much
00:26:12And you know I can take that on and I'm gonna I
00:26:15See you face. No. It's just I'm sorry, but there was just such a disrespect
00:26:19I have sitting on the couch and rolling her eyes at you and you're taking so much
00:26:23It was hard for us to watch like it was really
00:26:27Well, so this is quite remarkable because we're looking at a group here, which is surrounding him with love and support
00:26:36When what he talked about at the commitment ceremony around this sexual interaction
00:26:43Was frankly abrasive and inappropriate
00:26:50Here's the deal y'all here's the deal. I'll be a completely honest and upfront with every one of you
00:26:54I have not been proud of how I've showed up either in a hundred percent from the get-go
00:27:01But that's not an excuse I'm not making excuses for her, but I also have a heart
00:27:05Yeah, you know she's you can see that in you though like you were very respectful in what you said
00:27:11And that wasn't reciprocated
00:27:13Wow
00:27:14So these women in the same room as us
00:27:18Like I can't even tell you how much I appreciate that I
00:27:22Didn't know how people were gonna perceive everything, but it seems that I had a lot of support. I
00:27:28Still care about her. You know what I mean
00:27:31Hasn't been going forwards especially with intimacy week like it's been we tried. You know that's good
00:27:37And I went in there with a clear clear heart drew a line like they said I was completely open to the
00:27:45Possibility that we could do something that could give us some type of spark or connection in it and just unfortunately for both of us
00:27:51It didn't happen
00:27:57His approach tonight is to come in
00:27:59To put his hand up and say look I've made all the mistakes here. I tried and
00:28:04It's softened the group and bought them over to his side
00:28:09Listen like I respect every one of you
00:28:12And I'd like to support like I've cried more than I have in the last two days in a long time
00:28:23Wow I mean there was some really
00:28:26Big moments of controversy during that last commitment ceremony, but nobody as yet has called him out
00:28:33On his offensive behavior
00:28:48Holly's not gonna have a chance when she gets into this room tonight
00:28:52You
00:28:59We love you, bro
00:29:07At the moment Andrew has won over the group that's right. He's essentially signaling to the group I
00:29:14Appreciate your support. Thank you for standing behind me when Holly arrives
00:29:20It's been tough man like I came in here. I came in here to find the one you know to mean
00:29:24I've had two failed marriages, and I felt like I've done a lot of work on myself
00:29:28But like this experience has shown me that like I've got to go back to the drawing board and start
00:29:33I think she's got such a
00:29:37Full-on attitude to every single situation in a relationship that is just too much
00:29:42I've seen at least 99% of people to be able to handle oh
00:29:46My god, they're really demonizing Holly
00:29:49It's such a shame because we had this chat about Celine and Anthony last week
00:29:53That's right
00:29:54And I had a feeling that they were all in agreeance that it was not fair to Anthony
00:29:59And it just created just a very tense environment
00:30:03The only thing you can control basically is yourself my behavior. I can only control my perception in my behavior
00:30:08I can't control another human or the elements environment limits at that like
00:30:11Yeah
00:30:13My biggest fear was that I was going to get attacked a little bit
00:30:19But I've not ever had that much support in one room before in my life I
00:30:25Felt that energy that they wanted to really go after Holly that's a reflection of Holly not me
00:30:42The game plan tonight is just be myself like I do every other day I
00:30:50Hope that I've paid enough respect to the other members of the group that they will support me. I
00:30:58Felt she was very impatient in a lot of ways and it kind of rubbed me the wrong way a little bit
00:31:02And I'm like a first impressions type of guy it goes a long way for me
00:31:05And I try to always bring my best up front and not not as a facade
00:31:09But as I'm just a gentleman and I try to be that way
00:31:12Especially I have to get go out the gate because I think that's important
00:31:19Holly did let us know though that she would expect a lot from someone. I want a kid like straight away
00:31:25She thought like this was her end of the line
00:31:27I literally said I was like this chick has
00:31:29So I'm like so high of expectations of what she wants and if she doesn't get it
00:31:33I feel bad for her and it's and it's a lot of pressure to have on you
00:31:40I
00:31:42Am trying to stay strong, but
00:31:44Man, it's hard. He's not a nice person. He hasn't treated me nicely and it just has gone from bad to worse. So I'm a bit nervous
00:31:59Selena and Cody Oh wonderful. Let's hope this changes the mood in the room. Yes
00:32:10Oh
00:32:14The party's just gone up a notch
00:32:16Alan Sam, are we gonna have a shoo-ee tonight? Let's hope this changes the conversation
00:32:22What's been happening anyway day? Oh, no, I've been down down on the bottom of the barrel. Yeah
00:32:31Filling me in because apparently we missed quite a lot. Yeah
00:32:34Oh
00:32:35Yeah, well, this is gonna be an incredibly difficult entrance for Holly. What drama did we miss on the way through?
00:32:41You could hear Andrew's voice from outside. So they're not living together. They've tried
00:32:46He's had a pretty rough two days. Yeah, he's really got the group in his pocket
00:32:57I'm trying to be, you know strong woman and I've got my lipstick and my game face
00:33:04I want to go and have fun. I'm looking forward to seeing everyone
00:33:09Except Andrew
00:33:19Wow, there's an entrance from home
00:33:34See if she reads that room
00:33:51Did she turn away from Andrew or did she not see him avoided him right lately ignored him
00:34:05Good hello, Holly. How you going?
00:34:09How you doing Holly
00:34:13Okay, that is a cold shoulder, yeah, yeah, that's
00:34:26She gave me the cold shoulder and she acted extremely immature
00:34:29I
00:34:42Thought that was a low blow
00:34:53You're okay
00:34:59Okay, go go go
00:35:02Wait, what she didn't say hi. No, she missed him twice
00:35:08Hey, Holly, you wanna have a chat? Okay. All right. Sounds good
00:35:16Nope over three
00:35:22Andrew to his credit has tried to go over there. Yes and and speak to her
00:35:29I
00:35:33What happened
00:35:40The fact that she came in here tonight and ignored Andrew not once but twice not okay
00:35:48He hasn't been very nice to me
00:35:53He was accountable for that Oh No
00:35:56Oh
00:36:01That's a terrible way to start a conversation she's under attack so
00:36:11Ladies and gentlemen dinner you sir. I
00:36:15Have a reason I want to hear it. Yeah, I do want to do it
00:36:18Yeah, I mean, there's no doubt Holly has got a real fight on her hands tonight
00:36:23Where are we sitting? Where are we sitting?
00:36:26Jackson Olivia
00:36:28Dominica you're over there, babe. Oh, thanks darling. I'm at the end again. Let's hope the dinner party
00:36:34she has
00:36:36able to find a voice and
00:36:39That she can actually level the playing field
00:36:49Wow Holly's just moved her seat away from Andrew down to the other end of the table
00:36:55You know
00:37:01This is another big statement she's making and I don't think we've actually seen that happen. No, we know we haven't a
00:37:09Red mist has descended on the dinner party
00:37:24I
00:37:38Always just moved to a seat away from Andrew down the other end of the table
00:37:43Holly you know
00:37:49This is another big statement she's making yeah, and I don't think we've actually seen that happen. No we know we haven't
00:38:01Jesus Christ
00:38:13Holly Holly what what what's going on?
00:38:21Are you all right you okay, or you seem like look I'm having I'm had a tough time
00:38:29He made me feel lower than to
00:38:32Okay, but okay, we're sorry. I will just say
00:38:37Andrew came in like genuinely upset like he cried. He is having a hard time. He's he's sad. He's upset
00:38:46I'm not here to pick on Holly, but I don't like the way she acted I
00:38:52Mean the fact that Holly came in wouldn't say hello to Andrew turned her back on him made me feel uncomfortable
00:38:59Please give us other examples. Oh absolutely like what what's happened in this situation?
00:39:04Yeah, I'm not attacking you. I just I don't honestly don't understand. I have so many that he will not let me finish a sentence
00:39:11I'm not even I can't even make this up Holly
00:39:13I'm just I'm so sorry to interrupt you, but I just want to see you be the bigger person I
00:39:18Have been the bigger person live I
00:39:22Feel like moving places. That's not okay. It's not how a grown woman acts you sat there
00:39:28You clearly don't understand what I've gone through
00:39:31clearly
00:39:33He does not listen to me. He'd act like he's literally just throws mindless insults. He has been horrible to me
00:39:40We don't see that side of him. I like I get
00:39:47Do you notice that when she says something so powerful like that I'm expecting the sisterhood to go
00:39:53Oh, that must have been really hard for you, but it's really
00:39:56Unsympathetic and I didn't see anybody questioning Andrew when he got group hugs
00:40:05She feels she feels rejected
00:40:07She feels rejected and she has since the get-go and I made I don't blame her for feeling like that, but how she's responded to it
00:40:13It's not it's not very good man like what people are being confused by I think is his communication skill
00:40:21That is very sound and he stays poised
00:40:25Been accountable to the entire time the entire time
00:40:28It's their presence. His presence is calm and appears to be in control
00:40:33Hers looks flustered
00:40:35Sweetheart, let me tell you I promise you with every inch of my being I tried to make the relationship work
00:40:43Right now the women think it's my fault like I haven't given him a chance
00:40:48We want to hear your point, okay, I know that you get that he makes me feel lower than dirt
00:40:53He will not let me finish a sentence
00:40:56When I do not validate him and he has not earned my validation because I have tried in this relationship
00:41:03He throws insults. I am less intelligent than him. He he is more educated than me
00:41:11It's shocking to me I
00:41:13Paid these women so much respect every time I see them
00:41:17How could they not get a sense that I I tried and I really gave this my all I know
00:41:23I don't know the whole story. I know that when he says the words I apologize
00:41:27I'm telling you he does not mean it
00:41:29He's saying it for show in front of you all he will show you one narrative and then behind the scenes
00:41:35I'm telling you there's a different narrative, and I'm not sitting here
00:41:38That's the thing
00:41:41Yeah
00:41:53At the moment
00:41:55There's a lot of people out there that are
00:41:58Clearly on Andrew's side. It's up to you if you want to believe me or not
00:42:03As much as I think Holly is a lot Wow, you know she can walk in and not even say hello to him
00:42:08She's obviously seen something
00:42:10And you know the way he's made her feel that we haven't seen yet. You're good
00:42:14Good
00:42:17Yeah, I just yeah, she doesn't obviously she just really doesn't want to
00:42:22Sit next to you. Oh, and that's fine
00:42:25Regardless of how she treats me. I'm just gonna keep being respectful
00:42:31I think he's very good at putting on this like I almost like a shield, right
00:42:37And you do you know how she is feeling at this moment
00:42:41She won't let me ask her. That's why I was trying to hug her like when she came in
00:42:45Yeah, and like get her you know I wanted to talk to her
00:42:49He's a motivational speaker so of course he's gonna paint everything in a positive light
00:42:55I think we're all a bit blinded by his beautiful. You know I'm Tony Robbins bullshit
00:43:06I think there's a lot more
00:43:11Yeah, there's a lot more here is there yeah here in college just then it just felt like
00:43:19There's such like this divide between you and you're not understanding each other
00:43:26Look at that she's giving him some direct feedback, and he is not looking at
00:43:31I'm not perfect human and like I'm imperfect
00:43:34I took all that blame for myself because I feel like that's what a leader does tell me what you think
00:43:38But I think that you both
00:43:43Have these like huge egos almost that you both want to be in charge yes
00:43:54When I leave here, I've got a lot of work to do on myself
00:43:57So
00:43:59And I'm yeah, I'm willing to do that, and I'm just not gonna do with her
00:44:06Do I think that he's a bit of a bullshit artist yeah, I do
00:44:17I'm saying that
00:44:20You
00:44:25Coming up do you see beyond this we're two weeks in
00:44:29Knows who cares you honest. It's trouble in paradise for Ella and Mitch when you say like I don't want to be here
00:44:35And like I'd rather be doing this I can't help but think that it has something to do with me
00:44:40That's your problem. I mean securely and later. He doesn't even like Holly. That's not true
00:44:47Holly and Andrew face off so I'm trying to pretend like you something you're not
00:44:53I'm done, please I can't
00:45:04Oh, no, what's he done?
00:45:11I'm really like hands-on
00:45:16I
00:45:18Know the one ever tonight, and I felt like oh my goodness is Sam gonna yell at me
00:45:23like I
00:45:25Definitely feel like I was in trouble
00:45:29It's so good I can't be mad at him for that
00:45:31I just can't if I was mad at Al for every little
00:45:36Inconvenience every little slip-up. I'd be angry all the time
00:45:39And that's just not how I want to live my life, and it's not how I want to be as a wife down
00:45:44You haven't had a girlfriend like I don't want a girlfriend, so it's not like
00:45:50Like when I touch you don't touch on the shoulder
00:45:52This is what that's the thing let it come naturally and if it doesn't come actually then that's okay, but yeah
00:45:59Yeah, I just want you to know that I want to be touched look to be honest
00:46:04I actually feel really good about Alan. I because
00:46:08Although Alice silly
00:46:11I'm just cold. He is just so sweet, and he really he's so beautiful to me
00:46:18Thank you. I really can't ask
00:46:21much more from Al
00:46:37I mean this is refreshing isn't it?
00:46:39We've got a completely different dinner party this time around intimacy week
00:46:43It's brought the couples closer, and you can see that change
00:46:47Before tonight. I was like sitting there, and he's like you just remind me of my mom. I'm like I'm having a dirty martini
00:46:53She sits it was the same as the way that my mother
00:47:00Imagine if you were matched with someone else
00:47:02I know and that's what I think about all the time like imagine if I if you turned around at the wedding and you were
00:47:06Like oh my
00:47:09I wasn't
00:47:11The body language is very positive between Selena and Cody much more than it was just a few days ago
00:47:17She seems much more at ease
00:47:19What a good-looking couple
00:47:22Tonight everyone is in like very different and unique situations like Holly and Andrew
00:47:28Situated at the opposite end of the table we have extremes at one end to the other we have Jackson and leave
00:47:33It would kill it like respect like couple goals, and then are you like oh my god?
00:47:37I'm like pretty lucky myself because I have a pretty okay wife
00:47:42It's better than pretty okay, babe
00:47:45Did you realize that's not?
00:47:48I'm doing that for a lot longer
00:47:53I think communication is key though in these aspects
00:47:56This is yeah, I've never communicated this much in a relationship. It's like a scary territory
00:48:02Communicating something that you're feeling about like the thoughts that cross my mind. I'm like does he see beyond this
00:48:08We're two weeks in
00:48:13Well I care I do
00:48:17If you want your partner to open up be vulnerable
00:48:19You can't then dismiss them in such a harsh way like that when you say like I don't want to be here
00:48:24And like I'd rather be doing this night. I can't help but think that it has something to do with me
00:48:29That's your own problem for being secure, maybe you don't reassure me
00:48:33You know how much we enjoy hugging you. I'm touching you like I'm trying to be touchy-feely like make you feel good
00:48:40Like I'm trying my goddamn best
00:48:42I've not seen him talk like this before
00:48:44To me like when I hear my partner say that I look good and like all the things that makes me feel really wanted
00:48:50And I just anyone on the street can tell you that you look
00:48:53I've already had sex with you
00:48:56That's it done. You're on my board done. I think for me like right now
00:49:00I feel like the validation I need is like his verbal validation like physically. He's giving me what I need
00:49:11That's it
00:49:15I've taken
00:49:17Did you say point taken she retreated right away stupid stupid they even bring a nice shit up
00:49:26Yeah, I mean his reaction right now
00:49:29Apart from being dismissive and quite aggressive you kind of suggest. He's not learning. He's not here in this experiment to grow
00:49:37It's definitely something worth raising at the next commitment ceremony
00:49:48Oh
00:49:55What's going on with you too, how are you?
00:50:02Not good
00:50:05Today we were cut out
00:50:07Before we came in here, so that's why it's like uncomfortable. Okay. Should I not be here right now?
00:50:12Should I join a good session?
00:50:14I
00:50:17Just got cranky because I asked him to turn the music down like you did your mood
00:50:21Just like that's all it took for your life, okay?
00:50:24You turn it down to the point of I can't even hear the words. This is where it gets to me
00:50:29It's the same volume. This is the way
00:50:35Why you're speaking to Sam like in this like
00:50:38Argumentative way
00:50:43Do you know what offends me you know when you say you're rude, and I'm like I turn it down
00:50:48I'm I'm not a piece of shit. I'm just slamming things. I don't turn it up
00:50:53It feels like sometimes living with a tyrant, and I know she's used to winning
00:50:57She's used to putting it on every person. She's being me. I'm not that person. I'm not gonna do it
00:51:03I'm going to bed. I need you to turn this down
00:51:08I'm happy to say yes, I'm happy to compromise, but not every time
00:51:11There's only so much navigating you can do until someone's gonna start twitching a little bit
00:51:18Tomorrow tomorrow, what's your problem with brand like what is your problem with brand because he is being fake like he's mr.
00:51:24Nice guy in front of everybody else, and he's not like that
00:51:27Closed doors. What do I say? What do I say at home then? What do I say him?
00:51:31I'm glad that other people got to see that side of Brent and that aggression that he has that
00:51:37He tries to hide you are moody your moods are like up here down here. If you're barking at someone's ears for so long
00:51:44Please turn the music down
00:51:48Don't do that. It's don't get up
00:51:52I changed my gym times, so it's not too early for you right and now and now it's play victim
00:51:59Other people saw my frustration and the intensity in me, and I was like well I
00:52:04Wish you saw where it was coming from
00:52:06Because earlier she spoke to me like I was absolutely nothing and then cry in front of them put on the tees
00:52:13When three seconds ago, she was calling me up. I feel like she just played played victim
00:52:20I've just cut off too much
00:52:36Oh
00:52:43How are you cuz I you didn't get to talk
00:52:47You know what engine is sit there and listen, that's what he needs to do no because he will not let me finish a sentence
00:52:55But I feel like he's spoken everyone's listen to him. I feel like everyone needs to hear you
00:53:00So the Holly and Andrew situation is
00:53:03Really really tense
00:53:05We've heard Andrew side, and we haven't even listened to Holly so it's kind of like let's just listen to her
00:53:11Yeah, I don't I don't insist on listen to it, and then he's saying sorry and then are you saying like
00:53:17It's what I mean
00:53:28And Selena is listening
00:53:31This is good Holly's starting to get her side get her point across
00:53:43I can someone doesn't have to be me
00:54:01So
00:54:06Andrew and Holly had problems. They weren't even sitting next to each other at the dinner table
00:54:22I really like Holly and I can't imagine what she's feeling. She looks a bit lonely, but it's uncomfortable
00:54:31I felt really sad about that
00:54:35Holly can we come in first?
00:54:42Hello
00:54:43Doing good. I'm doing good. I'm really doing good
00:54:47So I took away Holly. I said, please Holly
00:54:50What can I do to help the situation?
00:54:54Al's taking Holly for a chat looking forward to this conversation
00:54:58Yeah
00:55:00You and Andrew. I just I love you both. I seriously do my sweetheart. I
00:55:06Thank you guys look a very different people
00:55:09Yeah, we are but I'm a firm believer of second chances my I have on my darling
00:55:15I've given him so many chances one thing that you have is you're yourself
00:55:20But the Andrew that he's showing everyone is not the Andrew that I have gotten
00:55:26I see this beautiful young man in you and I'm I'm envious of what Sam has because she's got a good gold heart
00:55:34How are you getting along? But Sam and I doing really well
00:55:38I
00:55:39Didn't help much. I don't know. I felt like I'm a sick guru when you're with Sam
00:55:45Do you give her attention I'll pull me aside. He's such a good guy
00:55:49I thought I'm gonna use this as an opportunity to connect with you
00:55:54I
00:55:55Something I need to work on is touching this touch. Oh, yes, okay
00:55:59Okay, here's my five cents on that now have to give me up to be intimate
00:56:04Yeah, it's not about the five minutes before sex. It's not let me give me a little heads up
00:56:09Yeah, when you're when she's in the kitchen making a sandwich when she's standing there, you know
00:56:15If she's standing here and there's all the space in the world behind you. Yeah. Oh, it's such a tight spot
00:56:23brush past her
00:56:29Make light of it be like, oh, there's not much room in the kitchen here. I mean like
00:56:36Yeah, just hold it. That's what she said. Yeah, it's not about being sleazy. It's about just oh whoopsies
00:56:43There's there's oh not a large gap here. Let me just walk brush past you whoopsies a lot of information for young
00:56:49Thank you
00:56:52Just just make more of God is you know, and then just I think he wants to go back to the dinner table
00:57:00Yes, he does need notes
00:57:02When you try go for the nether regions, that's not what we want at all. This is a master class
00:57:11Love it. This is like a relationship can do
00:57:14I
00:57:17Coming up Holly and Andrew finally face off you made me feel lesser than dirt
00:57:27Holly I do like you stop trying to pretend like you're something you're not
00:57:44I
00:57:48That's two people that can't really have a conversation going ever told
00:57:55I'd love to be a farm. That's a long time. I
00:58:01Think Holly's feeling incredibly isolated
00:58:04Things with Andrew pretty terrible and you know, and I really want to help her
00:58:08Because I mean slim both learned a valuable lesson after last week
00:58:14We
00:58:18Made the biggest turnaround out of everybody and if we can get over that he'll bend anyone can do it
00:58:29You guys got this whole party going on over here
00:58:32My darling, I wish you well, I would like to hear Holly's side of the story
00:58:38Thank you
00:58:40I'm tagging in brother and I can see when she walked in. She was feeling very defensive. I
00:58:46Know what it's like to be in that position. I know what it's like to be the last through that door last week
00:58:52I felt like I was here by myself
00:58:53And I don't want her to feel that way tonight
00:58:56How are you actually feeling though? Like forget the forget the fight forget all the words to get all the he said she said
00:59:03Just how are you feeling?
00:59:07Unsafe, okay, so you feel unsafe like emotionally or yes emotionally unsafe
00:59:21I'll come with you. You want to mediate?
00:59:24I'm not the mediator but like Anthony and I said we'll speak all together. So if you want to go now
00:59:29Let's go
00:59:36This is interesting right Andrew and Selina just walked into this room and
00:59:41It's gonna try and take part in this conversation. Yeah, I mean, they're probably not ready for us. Oh, it's okay
00:59:48Holly and Andrew I feel like they need a professional to really intervene in their relationship
00:59:53It's okay. I think we just need to like
00:59:55We're just bring us hang out and talk
00:59:57But Anthony and I decided to kind of see if we could help knock knock
01:00:05Hey, sorry, we're here
01:00:08I've made three attempts to talk to Holly tonight or to approach her and to have some type of interaction with her. I
01:00:17Hope this time she'll hear me out
01:00:20I'm no mediator you jump in whenever you like. I feel like it's like what do you need from each other?
01:00:25Like is it like I don't know. I have nothing he needs. So clearly I have nothing to offer him
01:00:32Then we're done I have nothing to offer him
01:00:36Jerk and he can say something
01:00:38Listen to everything he has to say I can we make like it's he doesn't even like me
01:00:43You made me feel lesser than dirt you
01:00:48Holly I do like you you're both here. Like does that not say anything like like you didn't have to come tonight
01:00:54You didn't have to get ready and be here
01:00:56This sounds like a two-way street here
01:00:58To tell you tell the honest truth like both of you need that validation
01:01:00Neither one of you want to back down even when I didn't get validation. I was still kind and I
01:01:06Continued to try I did not throw insults. He didn't earn validation. And so he was nasty
01:01:15I've given him all that I can all the support and it's not good enough
01:01:20I
01:01:23He's shown he's apologized to me I listen to the apology obviously and I'm trying to protect it
01:01:29I literally
01:01:30Insulting me is a different tactic keep insulting me an apology means I'm sorry, and I want to amend my behavior
01:01:37He's not capable of amending his behavior. No, no, I'm done. Please. I can't no one should make you feel unheard
01:01:44No one should make you feel like you don't exist in the room
01:01:48They said how poorly he treated me and that it's not okay
01:01:53That is not how a relationship should be Holly. I'm trying to pretend like you're something you're not I
01:02:00Think most of the energy in the room is focused around Holly right now at this point and when I'm being honest and truthful
01:02:07That's when that shit kind of stings a little bit
01:02:11This whole time he has not allowed me to finish a sentence, but it's still not gonna get a reaction out of me. I
01:02:17I
01:02:19Try I'm sorry a hundred thousand times and all you said you were sorry and then yesterday you're like you're a nurse
01:02:25This is yeah, I didn't that's not how I said that. Oh, I'm sorry. I'm sorry
01:02:33No, I was very you said I'm a leader I apologize you didn't apologize that is how you spoke to me
01:02:39I said I walked you out the door because I've had enough Holly
01:02:42I almost went home, Ollie, but I care about you to be here. You almost went home
01:02:47You almost went home. You should have gone home
01:02:59I
01:03:00Almost went homearley, but I care about you to be you almost went home. You almost went home. You should have gone home
01:03:07I just want
01:03:12Look, we're going to sit in front of the experts, you know, tomorrow.
01:03:18Is there something you want to ask now?
01:03:19I'm going home tonight.
01:03:22It's time to go home for me.
01:03:31In fact, I think it's about that time now.
01:03:34Hmm, wonderful.
01:03:35Um, yeah.
01:03:36Really?
01:03:37Yeah, I'll figure it out.
01:03:38Yeah.
01:03:39Perfect.
01:03:40Lovely.
01:03:41You know what?
01:03:42All I was hoping for was acknowledgment.
01:03:43But the entire time, she didn't take any responsibility for her part.
01:03:44That is a very consistent behavior that she's displayed throughout this entire experience.
01:03:45Try it.
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01:04:15Andrew leaving just makes me feel the same way that I've felt this whole marriage.
01:04:25But he's not been on board with me since day one
01:04:44I've had my limits. I've pushed me to my limits. I'm done
01:04:50There's nothing I can say nothing I can do she's in defense mode
01:04:55Her ego feels bruised she feels rejected zero accountability zero responsibility
01:05:04That's to another level of toxic environment I've never been in my entire life
01:05:08Can we just acknowledge that um Andrew just left? Yeah, what the hell?
01:05:13Now that he's gone. How does that make you feel?
01:05:16Look, you know what? I came here, you know to find my forever person and even though he broke my heart
01:05:23I
01:05:24kept trying I
01:05:26Feel like I did prejudged Holly. I do feel for her
01:05:30I know she came in here for love and I do feel sorry for the girl that Andrew left. I
01:05:36Thought if I cook him dinner, he'll appreciate me if I try harder. He'll just give me any
01:05:41Maybe my plan. Well, I there's I don't have a man. So, you know, it is what it is
01:05:53I
01:05:55Didn't party didn't go as expected
01:05:58Andrew in his own way trust me by him saying I came to the party and I I'm doing good
01:06:06Just classic Andrew make yourself look good and make your partner look shit. I
01:06:11Can't imagine listening to Holly for another second of my life
01:06:15Having said that if Holly were to message me tomorrow and say she saw her I'd say Holly. It's all good
01:06:20I really appreciate you
01:06:22It's interesting that we had a walkout from Andrew tonight. Yeah, will we see him at the commitment ceremony?
01:06:28Will he have a chance for closure and also for us and Holly and the group to get some sort of closure?
01:06:36He still may show up tomorrow because I mean he's not done with the insults with me I
01:06:43Have learned to expect to be unexpected with Andrew
01:06:53This is not a relationship, this is not a friendship
01:07:05This is war
01:07:07In the bus
01:07:09Sunday of the year. Yeah, I really like to go true
01:07:15I'm not gonna sit here and make out with you
01:07:17Cuz you haven't earned it is a battlefield she stood over me and called me
01:07:26He's not here he has decided not to be a part of the experiment any longer longer
01:07:36Because I thought if nothing else
01:07:39Revenge of a bride
01:07:41Scorned actually wrote something down puts a match to the whole experiment
01:07:50Must-see commitment ceremony Sunday at 7
01:07:55Then Monday the next wave of love been waiting here for like three hours. Happy wife. Happy life
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