Married at First Sight (UK) Season 9 Episode 13
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00:00:00previously you look gorgeous you look gorgeous 16 singles of your eyes
00:00:07began the ultimate pursuit of love I think I'm gonna have a graze under my
00:00:12chin from my jaw dropping so much but honest revelations is the lack of
00:00:17attraction because I'm Asian I think it did initially put their marriages to the
00:00:22test my childbearing years near the end I feel like I'm not the one you have not
00:00:29even tried to be in a relationship with me I'm going to leave now Holly then
00:00:36Alessandra's homework don't follow us goddamn hot put our newlyweds back on
00:00:42track so when it reached out to me to see if we can move in together while for
00:00:47others I think this task it's pointless cracks emerged feel a little bit
00:00:53rejected then heading into the second dinner party tomorrow and Brent once
00:01:02again locked horns I'm not playing a victim before Andrew held court I've
00:01:09cried more than I have in the last two days Holly's not gonna have a chance when
00:01:13she gets into this room tonight as Holly drew a line in the sand Wow
00:01:19Holly you made me feel lesser than dirt forcing an early exit for Andrew I'm
00:01:26done tonight I've got the best husband sorry ladies but it's decision time I've
00:01:32never felt this way about a guy the fact that we're sitting here stronger than
00:01:37ever proves what you guys have done and the challenges like they really do help
00:01:41us Mitch is called out by the experts I could be blunt sometimes no that's not
00:01:46blunt that it's demeaning understanding and you are a very difficult person has
00:01:51Brent reached the end of his tether won't beat around the bush plus Andrew
00:01:58is not here tonight a shock disappearing act leads to the most emotional moment
00:02:04my heart was really broken last night of the experiment so what if nothing else
00:02:09happens if one of the group but one couple sorry Holly I'm just gonna jump
00:02:14in there isn't having a bar of it I don't think Holly's behavior has been
00:02:19100% adults
00:02:37it's the morning of the second commitment ceremony and as intimacy week
00:02:43draws to a close Jack is spoiling wife Domenica
00:02:47I've got a surprise for you. Really? I do, I do, I do, because you're amazing
00:02:55all right oh what's this? This is hand-picked, at least it says that on the box
00:03:03yeah all right you got me flowers? I bought you flowers, wait for it
00:03:10you've had a tough couple of weeks being away from the fam and the dog
00:03:17there are no did you write me a note oh you did all right it says it may have
00:03:22been a tough week but let's keep getting to know each other and making this
00:03:25experience fun. That's so nice, thank you so much. Jack bringing me flowers this morning just
00:03:34honestly like made my day it really did and his little note as well just kind of
00:03:40made me remember why I'm here as hard as it is and as hard as it's gonna get
00:03:45you know we have to look on the bright side of things. I think that's wild good
00:03:53after a tension-filled dinner party with his wife Tamara Brent is struggling to
00:03:59come to terms with the state of his relationship. Tamara didn't sleep here
00:04:06last night so she's staying in another room. Yesterday just went sideways. I
00:04:11couldn't hear the words of the movie I was watching. She says can you turn it
00:04:15down like the music is too loud and I said okay turn it down I can't hear the
00:04:20words but I turned it down to her. Yes babe, yes babe, yes babe, yes babe. You're honestly just being so rude like you have to compromise so much about me.
00:04:27Do you reckon that's just the way you're interpreting? Yes and I'm trying to navigate a realness. There's only so much navigating you can do
00:04:33until someone's gonna start twitching a little bit.
00:04:39You know I woke up today feeling like it was all a bad dream. How it escalated, what
00:04:44it turned into. An intimacy week? Me and Tamara we're going so well. Definitely
00:04:50brought us closer together but I think you know Tamara's just used to taking
00:04:54control and everyone kind of going in line with her views of things. Saying yes
00:05:00to her you know doing what she asks. You know it feels like I'm supposed to sit
00:05:04with just a happy face and just say yes. It's difficult for me to live a normal
00:05:09everyday life with someone when the amount of times I compromise for her is
00:05:13underappreciated. I'm not entirely sure where to go from from here.
00:05:23Yeah I don't feel very good about my relationship with Brent now. Brent has a
00:05:28temper. I mean the fight was just ridiculous and it was a temper tantrum.
00:05:35I am not the kind of girl that sits back and gets spoken to like that and brushes
00:05:40it off and I feel like if Brent's so unhappy with who I am why would he want
00:05:45to be with me either?
00:05:49Whilst some couples get on with their day.
00:06:04Others are only just waking up.
00:06:18After we got back from the dinner party, Cody and I we both realised we were in a
00:06:23really good place and like comforted each other.
00:06:29Did you guys have sex?
00:06:37Was it good? Yes.
00:06:39I'm just incredibly sleep deprived eh?
00:06:46After consummating the marriage it sort of it feels like we're on track now.
00:06:53Last week we were down here in our relationship and this week we'd gone to
00:06:57the complete opposite end of the spectrum. So it's a good feeling.
00:07:03That was a fun dinner party.
00:07:05There was a lot going on wasn't there?
00:07:08I felt like that gave us a different perspective on like where we're at.
00:07:15Yeah.
00:07:17At least we don't fight about music and I don't tell you when to go to bed.
00:07:22I know, could have sent you a curfew. Might be sensible.
00:07:30As things are looking up for Selena and Cody the mood is decidedly darker in Sam
00:07:37and Al's apartment after a fight on the way home from the dinner party.
00:07:44Intimacy week started well for Sam and Al with the eye gazing task resulting in
00:07:49the couple's first kiss of the experiment.
00:07:54But Sam wanted Al to take charge of the intimacy in their relationship rather
00:07:59than being prompted by a set task.
00:08:04I want you partner to share a five minute make out session.
00:08:07And like I don't want to do that.
00:08:09I'm trying to take the lead here and try and get you out of your comfort zone.
00:08:12Because a letter told you to and I feel like you only do things when you're told to do them.
00:08:17It was a light bulb moment for Al.
00:08:20I totally understand everything that you've said.
00:08:23I'm going to do whatever I can to make you feel loved.
00:08:28And Sam suggested a shortened version of the task.
00:08:33So for like 30 seconds?
00:08:36Yeah.
00:08:40Finishing the week on what Al thought was an all time high for them.
00:08:45But last night Sam found out that some of the other couples declined to do the kissing task.
00:08:52This revelation made Sam feel that Al pressured her into doing the task.
00:08:59I feel shocked.
00:09:03I was like it doesn't make sense because I asked you after the kiss.
00:09:06Were you okay with that? Are you comfortable? And she said it was fine.
00:09:09But now she's back flipped on that.
00:09:12I thought the kiss was authentic.
00:09:15I thought Sam actually liked me.
00:09:18It's made me question everything.
00:09:21After the dinner party I did feel a little bit disrespected.
00:09:25Then after speaking with some of the girls in this experiment.
00:09:29It was just really interesting to see that other couples hadn't put so much pressure on one individual.
00:09:37It's absolutely upsetting that Al didn't support me through intimacy week.
00:09:42I just feel like all the pressure is on me. All the time.
00:09:47Following Andrew's shocked departure from the dinner party.
00:09:51Holly has woken up uncertain whether he'll come to tonight's commitment ceremony.
00:09:56I almost went home Holly but I care enough about you to be here.
00:10:00You almost went home. You almost went home. You should have gone home.
00:10:04We're going to sit in front of the experts tomorrow.
00:10:07It's time to go home for me. In fact I think it's about that time now.
00:10:13If he doesn't show up tonight I'd be glad.
00:10:16Because I'd actually be able to be given the opportunity to have my voice.
00:10:20And tell what really happened.
00:10:23There was a lot happening last night.
00:10:26And Holly and Andrew, there was just a lot going on.
00:10:29Do you think he'll be there tonight?
00:10:32Do I?
00:10:33I never want to hear the two names Holly and Andrew.
00:10:36I don't want to hear the two names.
00:10:40I never want to hear the two names Holly and Andrew in the same sentence again.
00:10:44Preach. Preach. I can't.
00:10:47I don't know what's going to happen tonight. Is he going to rock up?
00:10:50I hope he does come back tonight.
00:10:53I feel like he owes it to Holly.
00:10:56Yeah.
00:11:00I tried to work through my problems with Andrew.
00:11:05And for him not to admit to anything that he'd really done or said.
00:11:10And just blame me and make me look bad.
00:11:14God, I felt like I had no one really understanding what I went through.
00:11:18I have no one on my team right now.
00:11:21I feel alone and I feel lonely.
00:11:25Before the couples make their final decision on whether to stay or leave the experiment...
00:11:30I'll see you later.
00:11:33...they will separate to get an outside perspective on their relationship.
00:11:44Hey.
00:11:47Hello. Welcome.
00:11:50Look at me.
00:11:53You look amazing.
00:11:56Oh, this is cute.
00:11:58Sit down for your job interview, eh?
00:12:00Strap yourselves in, boys.
00:12:03We've been for a while, don't we?
00:12:06How is everyone doing? Talk to us, eh?
00:12:09The kissing task.
00:12:12We sort of made up for 30 seconds.
00:12:15And I was like, how was that? You all right? You comfortable?
00:12:18And she was like, yeah, it wasn't bad at all. I was happy. I was comfortable. I was good.
00:12:22I just felt so uncomfortable.
00:12:25I feel like I made a few moves in private that he didn't really pick up.
00:12:29I just said, I'm like, I want to do it in private when we're ready.
00:12:33And then, yeah, I ended up caving and just saying, yeah.
00:12:40Last night, she spoke to some of the girls...
00:12:44...and some of the girls said that they didn't do the kissing task.
00:12:49And then Sam came back to me and just blew her lid.
00:12:52Why did she blow her lid?
00:12:54Saying that she was forced.
00:12:56Yeah, I was shocked.
00:12:59I had a meltdown. I don't think we're at this point yet.
00:13:03Let's talk about it first. Let's figure each other out before we do something so intense.
00:13:08Yeah, OK.
00:13:10Yeah.
00:13:12It's a lot for me as well, but I really wanted to tackle this head on.
00:13:17I mean, we came into this experiment knowing we were going to be pushed out of our comfort zone...
00:13:21...to try and build a stronger relationship.
00:13:23Yeah, 100%.
00:13:24That's the whole point, to be able to face it.
00:13:26And of course, you've got to be right to say no, but I think you did nothing wrong.
00:13:30That part's not fair. Everyone's got the choice.
00:13:33Yeah, that's what upset me.
00:13:35That would be upsetting because you thought you had actually made progress.
00:13:39Yeah.
00:13:40It threw me off.
00:13:42For the first time, I'm really unsure if I'm going to have a future with this girl.
00:13:47Sam's beautiful, semi-positives, but could have been a bit more open to the tasks.
00:13:52They made me feel uncomfortable as well, but I'm putting in the effort here.
00:13:56And I don't think Sam's putting in the effort.
00:14:03Last night, I really hoped that I was going to walk into a room full of my peers.
00:14:09All of a sudden, whatever Andrew said changed everyone's perception of me.
00:14:16He has gone out of his way to make me look bad.
00:14:19And it kind of broke my heart that no one really believed me
00:14:23or understood the gravity of what I've been through.
00:14:26I'll just be honest with you, babe.
00:14:29It's not anything that Andrew's said about you that's changed my perception of you.
00:14:34It's what I've seen with my own two eyes you do.
00:14:37So last week on the couch, the eye rolling and the faces while he was speaking,
00:14:41it just spoke so much disrespect.
00:14:45We still haven't even kissed yet.
00:14:47There's been absolutely no kiss at all.
00:14:50Because we had slept together, we were kissing when that happened.
00:14:53Well, no, there was absolutely no tongue involved.
00:14:56It was just more like kissing on the mouth.
00:14:58It was awkward to me.
00:14:59But Liv, if I may, I am eloquent.
00:15:03I am a strong woman and I have a strong voice.
00:15:06He took away my voice.
00:15:08And all I had was those eye rolls.
00:15:10And I know it doesn't make sense to you.
00:15:12That's what I'm saying is that I don't know what's going on behind closed doors.
00:15:15None of us do.
00:15:16So it's like your version, his version, somewhere in the middle is probably the truth.
00:15:19I don't know.
00:15:20I invited him into the home and I said, let's do the hugging challenge.
00:15:25And because I didn't validate him, he went to the nasty, you're this, you're that.
00:15:30Holly, I've still not heard any apologies.
00:15:35You're demonstrating a bit of narcissistic behaviour if I'm being completely honest with you.
00:15:40On that note, I shan't let you insult me anymore.
00:15:43So I think we're done.
00:15:44And I think I'm going to show you the door.
00:15:46I didn't insult you.
00:15:47I was actually just...
00:15:48Since day one.
00:15:49Here's the door, my darling.
00:15:50Oh, yeah.
00:15:51All right.
00:15:52Good deal.
00:15:53I'm seeing you.
00:15:54Okay.
00:15:55And that was the last I saw of him before the dinner's party.
00:15:57So it was interesting that no one thought, what did he do to her to make her not want to say hi to him?
00:16:04I'm not going to allow this man to treat me poorly anymore.
00:16:08And I'm going to do everything I can to ensure that I am heard.
00:16:13This is not a relationship.
00:16:15This is not a friendship.
00:16:18This is war.
00:16:21It's the afternoon before the second commitment ceremony.
00:16:24I'm out of the batch pad.
00:16:26The batch pad, I'm gone.
00:16:28We haven't really had like an argument or anything like that.
00:16:31We're going in the right direction, I feel.
00:16:34And after a successful week for most couples, everyone in the experiment has separated from their partners.
00:16:41I'm stoked.
00:16:42We're genuinely good as a couple.
00:16:44To gain insight and an external perspective of their relationship.
00:16:48Our form of communication is getting stronger.
00:16:50And I'm just so happy that the experts paired me with him.
00:16:54Yeah.
00:16:55That's good.
00:16:56Yeah.
00:16:57And you and Mitch?
00:16:58Yeah.
00:16:59Yeah.
00:17:00Yeah.
00:17:01Yeah.
00:17:02Yeah.
00:17:03Yeah.
00:17:04Yeah.
00:17:05Yeah.
00:17:06Yeah.
00:17:07Yeah.
00:17:08Yeah.
00:17:09Yeah.
00:17:11Like, what's the...
00:17:12Um, I mean, he said that he likes me and that he's like really happy and it's all cruisy.
00:17:19And my only like concern was like what he was saying.
00:17:23Yeah, last night.
00:17:24Thank God you brought that up.
00:17:25The thoughts that cross my mind, I'm like, does he see beyond this?
00:17:29We're two weeks in.
00:17:30Who knows?
00:17:31Who cares, to be honest?
00:17:32Well, I care.
00:17:33I do.
00:17:34When you say like, I don't want to be here and like, I'd rather be doing this than that.
00:17:37I can't help but think that it has something to do with me.
00:17:40That's your problem.
00:17:41Being insecure.
00:17:42Maybe because you don't reassure me.
00:17:43I know.
00:17:44I'm hugging you.
00:17:45I'm touching you.
00:17:46Like, I'm trying my goddamn best.
00:17:48We don't really kiss a lot.
00:17:50I need that physical affection in a relationship.
00:17:52That's how I feel secure with my partner.
00:17:54And he like doesn't need that, doesn't want it, doesn't crave it.
00:17:57Nothing.
00:17:58Like, how is that going to work?
00:18:00You know, when I'm in a relationship, I am so affectionate.
00:18:03Those little things, that makes me feel validated.
00:18:07It would be nice if he would give me more physical affection.
00:18:11Yeah.
00:18:13How's the affection going with you and Cody?
00:18:15You know, because you had a...
00:18:16You know, last week was hard for you guys.
00:18:18Um, so...
00:18:24We went back home last night.
00:18:26Oh!
00:18:30I f***ing knew it!
00:18:32I knew it!
00:18:34I just had a feeling.
00:18:37It was good.
00:18:38It was good?
00:18:39Wait, so do you feel like it brought you closer?
00:18:41I feel like it did.
00:18:42Yeah.
00:18:43Like, I feel like this morning he was super affectionate.
00:18:45Yeah.
00:18:46Like, kept coming over.
00:18:47This is huge.
00:18:48Yeah.
00:18:49This is huge for you guys.
00:18:51Massive for us.
00:18:52I'm so happy for you.
00:18:56Like, we had a good chat at the dinner party last night.
00:18:58Yeah?
00:18:59And you did mention that sex would probably be a good starting point, right?
00:19:03Yeah.
00:19:04Oh, yeah?
00:19:05Oh, unreal.
00:19:07Do you think moving forward it's going to help?
00:19:08Yeah.
00:19:09We're definitely in a better spot.
00:19:11Considering last week I couldn't even touch a hand leading into the commitment ceremony.
00:19:15Yeah.
00:19:18But not even intimacy week could prevent Tamara and Brent from falling back into old habits.
00:19:24I'm just feeling very, like, emotionally drained.
00:19:27Like, I don't...
00:19:28Like, at the moment I don't want to look at him.
00:19:30Like, I just don't...
00:19:31Like, I don't want to be around him.
00:19:32Yeah.
00:19:33I just feel very disrespected.
00:19:35Do you feel like you can talk it out?
00:19:37Like, do you feel like there's any room for repair?
00:19:41I don't feel like I can.
00:19:42Like, um...
00:19:43Yeah.
00:19:44It's...
00:19:45It's really hard because it's like, yeah, we get along sometimes.
00:19:47But there's always been this in the back of my mind.
00:19:49Like, something's just, like, not quite right.
00:19:51Like, last night I just feel, like, completely disrespected of him, like, talking about me right next to me.
00:19:56Like, I wasn't there.
00:19:58That's why every day it's turn it down.
00:20:00It's don't do that.
00:20:01It's don't get up.
00:20:02I don't say anything.
00:20:03I've never said anything.
00:20:05I've never said any of those things to you.
00:20:06I changed my gym time so it's not too early for him.
00:20:08And now it's play victim.
00:20:10Like, it is petty stuff and that's what's frustrating.
00:20:12Because it's like, in everyday life, I don't fight about this dumb shit.
00:20:15Like, and it's not.
00:20:17It's obviously...
00:20:18It's, like, stems from something that's, like, that's bigger than that.
00:20:21You've got to go with your gut.
00:20:23That's all I say.
00:20:24Like, I need to...
00:20:25Like, you need to feel comfortable.
00:20:26Yeah.
00:20:27Go with your gut.
00:20:32It's just been a pretty shitty situation.
00:20:34And unfortunate because the week coming up to it,
00:20:36there's so many good things happening.
00:20:38And it just turned at the kick of a finger.
00:20:41I didn't call you a ****.
00:20:42I used you in context.
00:20:43Oh, wow.
00:20:44That's convenient.
00:20:45I will never be spoken down to like that again.
00:20:47All I asked was if the TV could please be turned down.
00:20:50I don't know how that's playing.
00:20:51Don't play victim.
00:20:52I'm not playing a victim.
00:20:53Please stop talking over me when I'm talking.
00:20:55Yeah, it's hard to kind of, I don't know, get your head wrapped around it.
00:21:01I don't expect no fights to ever happen.
00:21:04I just don't expect blowups like that.
00:21:07Huge fights like that over nothing aren't necessary.
00:21:12I've considered if I'm wasting my time.
00:21:16I've, yeah, I've taken a lot into consideration today.
00:21:21You think, you know, can it change?
00:21:23Will it change from both of us?
00:21:25I, you know, I've got this thing where I just, I don't want to give up.
00:21:30Tamara spoke to me in a way that I'm just not willing to accept from anyone.
00:21:35Ever.
00:21:45I've made my mind up.
00:21:48I know exactly how I feel.
00:21:50I guess at this point, I'm at the end of my rope.
00:22:00Greetings, gents.
00:22:01Hello, guys.
00:22:02Welcome.
00:22:04I have some requirements in my mind of who I want in my daughter's life, in my life.
00:22:13Evening, ladies.
00:22:14Hey, guys.
00:22:15Welcome.
00:22:17She doesn't fit that mold.
00:22:20So there's really nothing that I'm holding on here.
00:22:28I'm done.
00:22:30I'm done.
00:22:48I'm so sorry for Holly.
00:22:51It's all right.
00:22:54She's brave.
00:23:00When I noticed that Andrew wasn't in the room, I felt relieved.
00:23:05Clearly, he ran for the hills.
00:23:08Andrew's game is over.
00:23:11Welcome, everyone, to your second commitment ceremony.
00:23:17Now, it's been a huge week for all of you.
00:23:19There has been plenty going on, which culminated in a huge dinner party last night.
00:23:25And we will be unpacking that and really drilling down and getting into it throughout the night.
00:23:32But before we do that, as you can all see,
00:23:37Andrew is not here at the commitment ceremony tonight.
00:23:46He has decided not to be a part of the experiment any longer.
00:23:55I'm sorry, Holly.
00:23:57It's OK.
00:23:59It's OK.
00:24:00It's OK.
00:24:02That answers that question.
00:24:03Yep.
00:24:05Well done on showing up, though.
00:24:06Yeah.
00:24:07Yeah, good on you.
00:24:08You're the bigger person, Molly.
00:24:09Yeah.
00:24:10Good for you.
00:24:11It was one more day.
00:24:17Even if Andrew isn't coming here tonight, I will have my own back.
00:24:23I will have my own back.
00:24:25Nobody has the full picture, and I will voice what happened.
00:24:31So why don't we get you up here.
00:24:34Holly, tell us how you're feeling and really give us an idea of what's going on.
00:24:40You got this, babe.
00:24:41You got it.
00:24:42You got it, girl.
00:24:43That's it.
00:24:53Holly, did you know that Andrew wasn't coming tonight?
00:24:57I didn't actually know.
00:25:00But I'm glad he's not here because he never showed up for me, the entire relationship.
00:25:06So, Holly, how about you take us through what has happened so that we can understand your perspective?
00:25:13So after the commitment ceremony, he sent me a text saying that, you know, he was sorry for how he treated me.
00:25:22And he knew that he hadn't shown up and that he wanted to fight for me.
00:25:28But I wanted to give him that chance.
00:25:31Since he had given me this grandiose speech, I invited him over for the hug challenge.
00:25:37And we discussed it, and I said, look, frankly, I just, I don't have anything for you.
00:25:44But I was hoping to move forward amicably, with respect.
00:25:49He said, oh, well, you haven't taken any accountability.
00:25:52You need to apologize, and you're a narcissist.
00:25:55And I said, I'm done with the insults.
00:25:57And I showed him the door.
00:26:00So when he came to me at dinner party, he said, I'm sorry.
00:26:06At dinner party, wanting to talk, and it didn't make any sense.
00:26:11And I'm not going to give him a hello when he has not deserved it.
00:26:16And I was kind of broken hearted.
00:26:18Because I thought if nothing else, I had the support of the group.
00:26:24And so my heart was really broken last night.
00:26:28I know my words get lost, because this has been a really emotional journey,
00:26:33but I actually wrote something down.
00:26:38I had nothing to say to him anyway.
00:26:43But I did want to address you guys.
00:26:46But I did want to address you guys.
00:27:08I know my words get lost, because this has been a really emotional journey,
00:27:13but I actually wrote something down.
00:27:16But I did want to address you guys.
00:27:20Take a breath, take your time.
00:27:25Not long ago, we were all single people in a room.
00:27:31Going to extreme lengths to find love.
00:27:35I worked hard to show you all who I was.
00:27:39To show you respect and courtesy.
00:27:43I wanted to be your friend and support you all through this.
00:27:47But you all very quickly forgot what it was like walking in alone
00:27:51and single into a room full of couples, not feeling like enough.
00:27:57I had been alone this entire journey.
00:28:01And I came into the room hoping for support I felt I earned.
00:28:05And I walked in the villain.
00:28:08And I walked in the villain.
00:28:12I felt alone in the room.
00:28:18I got attacked and you couldn't see it.
00:28:21Instead you judged me.
00:28:28This man went to such lengths to make me look bad
00:28:31when I walked into the room last night.
00:28:34You all felt assured that I didn't try hard enough
00:28:38and that he needed another chance.
00:28:41He had more chances from me than he had deserved.
00:28:45Andrew took my voice.
00:28:50And he silenced me.
00:28:54This is my voice.
00:28:56And believe me, I am here right now to speak to the people
00:29:01who, in a relationship, have been silenced
00:29:06and who were not believed.
00:29:09Thank you so much.
00:29:11Honestly, that was really heartfelt.
00:29:13Thank you so much.
00:29:16My heart hurts.
00:29:18I need a tissue.
00:29:22Thank you for sharing that.
00:29:25How does it feel to get that off your chest?
00:29:28It feels like I have a voice.
00:29:31You know, and...
00:29:33Sorry, Holly, I'm just going to jump in there.
00:29:38There was a whole end of the table
00:29:40that were willing to listen to your side of the story.
00:29:43And we were trying to, so...
00:29:45You know what, though? This is my perspective.
00:29:48Andrew came in. Everyone listened to him.
00:29:51And it was maybe because he came in before.
00:29:53And he is a great speaker.
00:29:55In my view, she didn't get the benefit of the doubt from the group.
00:29:59Well, the only thing that we saw
00:30:01was Holly come in and didn't speak to Andrew.
00:30:04Did you not ask yourself why?
00:30:06Well, that's why we came up and I spoke to you, Holly.
00:30:09I want to hear both sides of the story.
00:30:11That's who I am and that's who I've always been.
00:30:13Because it sounds like you're saying completely something different
00:30:16to what you were saying to me last night as well.
00:30:18No, I think the point is, she couldn't explain.
00:30:21Because there was so much going on behind closed doors.
00:30:24We heard Andrew's side.
00:30:27I feel like we all understand.
00:30:29But I wish she had the same support I kind of did when I came in.
00:30:33I feel like it was a huge divide.
00:30:35Unfortunately, it was.
00:30:37And I don't think Andrew's a terrible person.
00:30:39But I really felt for her. I really did.
00:30:41And it's not... She didn't.
00:30:43She didn't get the benefit of the doubt. She didn't.
00:30:45I mean, the fact that he's not here tonight
00:30:47just tells us everything.
00:30:49Holly rocked up here tonight
00:30:51and laid herself bare on that couch.
00:30:53We need to respect that.
00:30:57Olivia, you don't seem convinced about this.
00:31:00What's going on for you right now?
00:31:03I watched Andrew last week sit on the couch
00:31:06and take accountability and not excuse himself to a degree.
00:31:10And I watched Holly roll her eyes and pull faces.
00:31:13And then again last night, I watched Holly
00:31:15ignoring when she came into the room
00:31:18and then very dramatically move her seat.
00:31:20So I don't think Holly's behaviour
00:31:24has been 100% adult.
00:31:29This whole relationship, he would never let me finish a sentence.
00:31:33Not a sentence.
00:31:35I wasn't allowed to be a mature person in this relationship
00:31:38because I was never given a chance to be a part,
00:31:41a real part of the relationship.
00:31:43You just didn't come off as the bigger person
00:31:46in multiple situations.
00:31:48I'll give me the benefit of the doubt
00:31:50because I would have given all of you
00:31:53the benefit of the doubt.
00:31:54It's not about the benefit of the doubt.
00:31:56We're just trying to listen to both sides of the story.
00:31:58That's all.
00:32:02Holly, when you look at the short relationship
00:32:05you had with Andrew,
00:32:07how do you see your role
00:32:10in the breakdown of the relationship?
00:32:13I didn't validate him.
00:32:18And so in addition to the lack of validation,
00:32:20how else did you contribute to the relationship breakdown?
00:32:23Maybe I was too overbearing, tried too hard.
00:32:26Like I would cook him breakfast and lunch and dinner
00:32:31because I did want attention and validation as well.
00:32:34I feel like I'm a professional single lady.
00:32:36I dated lots in my 20s and early 30s
00:32:38and the cardinal rule is to not be too intense
00:32:41when you first start to date.
00:32:45Trying not to scare someone off is a good lesson.
00:32:50We know it's been a very intense experience
00:32:53here in the experiment
00:32:54and unfortunately that happens sometimes
00:32:56and it doesn't always work out.
00:32:58What do you take away from the experience going forward?
00:33:02You know, I think it was a reminder
00:33:06to believe in myself
00:33:08and to know that I am enough.
00:33:11Yeah, enough.
00:33:14I have to say we have loved having you
00:33:16as part of this experience.
00:33:19We have no doubt that you're going to find a wonderful partner
00:33:22who is going to appreciate everything
00:33:24that you've talked about tonight.
00:33:27We just wish you all the best.
00:33:30Thank you. Thank you so much.
00:33:33I think also it's important to remember
00:33:35that Andrew certainly tried to put his best foot forward
00:33:38and I think for both of you,
00:33:40it's sad that it didn't work out
00:33:42but we really hope that better things are to come for you.
00:33:56Thank you. Thank you so much.
00:33:58Thank you so much.
00:34:09Just in case it wasn't clear.
00:34:13Yeah.
00:34:18Still to come...
00:34:19I'm getting emotional guys, I know.
00:34:22It's okay.
00:34:25I wish my dad could see this.
00:34:31Sure he can.
00:34:33Seeing Liv get emotional is making me get emotional.
00:34:36And Sam and Al...
00:34:38I just keep thinking that Sam...
00:34:41I don't know if she even likes me.
00:34:44Reach breaking point...
00:34:46I'm not going to sit here and make out with you.
00:34:49Because you haven't earned it.
00:35:04And the first couple tonight...
00:35:11Olivia and Jackson.
00:35:16Hello you two.
00:35:17Hey guys.
00:35:18How are we?
00:35:19We're great.
00:35:20How about you two?
00:35:24We're terrific.
00:35:25Yeah, pretty good.
00:35:26Intimacy week's been awesome for us.
00:35:31Sam...
00:35:33Yeah, it's been unreal.
00:35:36The box of toys has really,
00:35:37especially opened my mind up.
00:35:40Opened a few other things I hope mate.
00:35:46Never really played with those kind of toys before,
00:35:49but Liv's a good teacher.
00:35:57I'm curious.
00:35:58Last night, we saw a side of you Olivia
00:36:01that was very different.
00:36:04What I saw last night,
00:36:06when Holly came in and you took the lead
00:36:09in confronting and asking questions and whatnot,
00:36:13you were very forceful.
00:36:16It was very intense.
00:36:19Sorry, I'm so sorry.
00:36:20But Holly, I just would like to apologise.
00:36:22Because when you walked in,
00:36:24I did not use my words
00:36:27to the best of what I could have.
00:36:31I feel awful and I could have definitely
00:36:33done a much better job than what I did.
00:36:38So I'm sorry.
00:36:40Yeah, I guess, I don't know.
00:36:42I've got to be in my bonnet,
00:36:44worked myself up and I do do that.
00:36:47And I know that's an issue that I do have,
00:36:50but it doesn't happen often to me.
00:36:53I love your awareness around that.
00:36:55And I guess that's why we wanted to bring it up tonight
00:36:58to see how you talk about that
00:37:00and how, Jackson, you respond to it.
00:37:02Because, you know, this is a three-dimensional woman sitting here.
00:37:06It's all the same to me.
00:37:09It's all the sides.
00:37:10And this is part of it.
00:37:12Olivia, tell me,
00:37:14how do you feel about Jackson at this point?
00:37:18It's smitten.
00:37:19Like, he just...
00:37:21He surpasses any expectations I have
00:37:25of a partner every day.
00:37:29How long has it been
00:37:31since you've felt this way about a guy?
00:37:34I've never felt this way about a guy.
00:37:37No?
00:37:39No, because, like, he's a man.
00:37:42Like, I've never...
00:37:44I can't say I've ever dated somebody
00:37:46who's a man and self-sufficient
00:37:48and enough to look after me as well.
00:37:51So it's a very new...
00:37:53It's a very new feeling.
00:37:55Whatever I'm feeling, it's foreign to me.
00:37:59I'm getting emotional, guys.
00:38:01Oh, no.
00:38:02Oh, no.
00:38:03It's OK.
00:38:04You want a tissue?
00:38:05Yeah, OK.
00:38:09You're all right.
00:38:11It's just really nice.
00:38:13Yeah.
00:38:14It's all right.
00:38:16I'm just...
00:38:18I wish my dad could see this.
00:38:22I'm sure he can.
00:38:26Jackson, how do you feel about Olivia?
00:38:29There's no words to describe her.
00:38:31She's beautiful inside and out.
00:38:33And I've noticed that from the very start
00:38:36at our wedding day.
00:38:38I've never had this amount of communication
00:38:41with someone.
00:38:42I've never felt this way.
00:38:44I've never felt this way.
00:38:46I've never felt this way.
00:38:48I've never felt this way.
00:38:51Well, seeing Liv getting emotional
00:38:53is making me get emotional.
00:38:55Don't.
00:38:56If we both go.
00:38:57Oh.
00:38:58Hey, Liv.
00:38:59What do you think your dad would think of Jackson?
00:39:02I think my dad would be so excited, like...
00:39:06to have a canoe buddy.
00:39:08They just would have got along so well.
00:39:16He'd be really...
00:39:17He'd be really happy.
00:39:19He'd be...
00:39:20I'm really, really happy with this.
00:39:22Mm.
00:39:24You got a good one.
00:39:25Absolutely.
00:39:27I know it as well, so.
00:39:30Yeah.
00:39:35Well, guys, I think it's probably a no-brainer,
00:39:37but shall we ask you to show us
00:39:39your decision for tonight, please?
00:39:42A big shock, big surprise, but let's stay.
00:39:50And Jackson.
00:39:50Yeah, look, like I said, Liv's amazing.
00:39:53There's no words to describe,
00:39:54and I don't think there's any way in this world
00:39:57I'd say anything other than stay.
00:40:00We're the love heart of rock.
00:40:01Oh, I'm watching love hearts.
00:40:04Yeah.
00:40:05Well, guys, we're delighted to see how far you've come
00:40:09in such a short period of time.
00:40:10But keep in mind that the experiment
00:40:12throws challenges at you
00:40:13that you will not have experienced before.
00:40:16Just be ready.
00:40:17Don't get complacent.
00:40:18Don't coast.
00:40:19But you've got a lot of great foundation to deal with it.
00:40:22Don't take the foot off the gas.
00:40:25Great work.
00:40:26We'll see you next time.
00:40:27Well done, guys.
00:40:28Thank you so much.
00:40:29Bye.
00:40:30You have a good night.
00:40:33Yeah, I think this whole relationship,
00:40:35we've had the trust and we've had the communication,
00:40:38and it's just getting stronger and stronger.
00:40:40It was amazing to hear how Liv felt
00:40:42and, you know, bring her dad up and stuff.
00:40:44Yeah, it was really heartwarming.
00:40:53Let's bring our next couple up to the couch.
00:41:03Samantha and Al.
00:41:12Hello, guys.
00:41:14Hey.
00:41:16Well, how's your week been?
00:41:19I'll let you take it.
00:41:30It's been a big week, to be honest.
00:41:40Can I just make an observation?
00:41:44Last week, and even the dinner party,
00:41:47Al, you were really the life of the group.
00:41:51You were bubbly and energetic,
00:41:53and tonight, your confidence just seems
00:41:56like it's just disappeared.
00:41:59What's happened?
00:42:09Can I just make an observation?
00:42:11Last week, and even the dinner party,
00:42:13Al, you were really the life of the group.
00:42:17You were bubbly and energetic,
00:42:19and tonight, your confidence just seems
00:42:22like it's just disappeared.
00:42:27What's happened?
00:42:33Intermissive week's been ups and downs.
00:42:36The first task was the gazing task.
00:42:41I did feel like a connection.
00:42:42Just gazing into it, I started thinking about
00:42:44like our wedding day and just that whole experience,
00:42:47and just really nice thoughts.
00:42:51I do think, you know, that task works.
00:42:53And then we had the Melting Hug task.
00:42:57I do need to practice it more,
00:42:58because I still have a problem just being like,
00:43:01you know, I'm not sure if I can do it.
00:43:03I wanted to be touched more.
00:43:05He didn't know that.
00:43:06He was like, that doesn't come naturally to me.
00:43:07So the Melting Hug was good for that.
00:43:12I remember that there was another assignment.
00:43:20Yeah, that wasn't good for us.
00:43:26I think I'm going to have to do it again.
00:43:28I think I'm going to have to do it again.
00:43:30I think I'm going to have to do it again.
00:43:33Why not?
00:43:36You were wanting kisses.
00:43:40I, yeah, yeah, I absolutely was.
00:43:45Were you able to do the exercise?
00:43:46Yeah.
00:43:47Yeah, we did it for 30 seconds.
00:43:48Okay.
00:43:49But it was hard because we sort of had
00:43:53a little bit debate about it.
00:43:56At first, I was like, let's do it five minutes.
00:43:58Like, and then she wasn't keen on it at all.
00:44:02It's hard, like, I can't read her, like, I have trouble reading her on signals.
00:44:15I feel like we get a kissing challenge and it's like, yeah, let's do it, five minutes,
00:44:22cool.
00:44:23Like, it's a big show.
00:44:24Like, when we're, like, alone, I get nothing.
00:44:31It's just really hard then when, like, yeah, we're in front of people and he expects this
00:44:36show.
00:44:43We started just talking about things and I started saying, like, are you here for the
00:44:47right reasons?
00:44:48I'd like to do the task.
00:44:55I felt wildly uncomfortable, like, and I said that during the task.
00:45:00Like, I was like, I need things in private to feel comfortable.
00:45:08It was just, I did, I made a scene, I'm not gonna sit here and make out with you, because
00:45:13you haven't earned it.
00:45:19Okay, first things first, no one is ever supposed to do anything they don't really want to do.
00:45:26When I gave you the kissing, the make-out task, it's because precisely we had talked
00:45:31about the fact that you wanted to do some kissing.
00:45:34Yeah.
00:45:35And that's why it was suggested.
00:45:37Not every couple got every exercise.
00:45:39Yeah.
00:45:40So it depends on what can be kind of natural at the stage that you are.
00:45:45If you don't feel comfortable doing something, please don't ever do it.
00:45:48I know.
00:45:49Ever.
00:45:50But it's, like, hard when it's been 15 minutes of me creating a scene.
00:45:54You can create all the scenes you want to create.
00:45:57You're entitled to your scene if you're uncomfortable.
00:46:00So it's good that you can recognize that, that at the time, for whatever reason, you
00:46:05felt the pressure and then chose to go along with something you didn't want to do.
00:46:11He didn't force you.
00:46:12There's a choice there.
00:46:13No, I know that.
00:46:14And I didn't say that.
00:46:15Okay.
00:46:16No, no.
00:46:17I'm just, just to clarify.
00:46:18Anyway, I got over it because I felt like it was the right thing to do.
00:46:24He's feeling really hurt, and I don't want him to feel like I don't like him.
00:46:31I can see how it's difficult for you, Al, to understand the cues.
00:46:36I can understand how you get confused as to when you should approach and maybe not, does
00:46:40she want this now, she says something, but not in this context, not on the other.
00:46:44So I think there needs to be some more clarity there because I can understand your frustration
00:46:48also.
00:46:49We see you trying so hard, Al.
00:46:52I just keep thinking that Sam, I don't know if she even likes me.
00:47:00Oh.
00:47:04Have you asked her?
00:47:05I've asked her multiple times.
00:47:07And what have I said?
00:47:08She says yes, she likes me.
00:47:11You don't believe her?
00:47:12When things like that happen, no.
00:47:17Cool, so then I mustn't like you.
00:47:22The fact is, if you didn't care about each other, you wouldn't be reacting like this.
00:47:30Look how visibly upset she is, man.
00:47:32Like, she cares.
00:47:33She likes you.
00:47:34She likes you.
00:47:36But Sam, he's no mind reader.
00:47:47You kind of got to come from a platform of, we're both into each other, and now, let's
00:47:54talk.
00:47:57So let's get to the decision.
00:48:03Let's go to you first, Al.
00:48:07Um, obviously, we have a lot of problems we need to address.
00:48:16It's been open about talking and what I want, and I know you do like me, so I need to really
00:48:24remember that.
00:48:26Yeah, so, um, I decide to stay.
00:48:32Great.
00:48:33Good stuff.
00:48:37And now, over to you, Sam.
00:48:43It's a tough week.
00:48:45Again, I'm still shocked, like, how emotional I get, but I know it is because I do really
00:48:51like Al.
00:48:55So I also said stay, but I tried to do the S that you did last week, and I told you I
00:48:59always get it right.
00:49:01I did it wrong, so you may have to teach me that.
00:49:07Yes.
00:49:09You know, it is very important for the two of you now to start getting out of your heads
00:49:14and be brave and say, this is me, this is what I want.
00:49:18Enjoy yourselves.
00:49:19Good luck.
00:49:20We'll see you next time.
00:49:22Thanks, Sam.
00:49:31Next up.
00:49:32Guys, I want to ask you about the conversation that you had last night at the dinner party.
00:49:36It was, at times, pretty heated.
00:49:41Yeah, I can be blunt sometimes.
00:49:42No, that's not blunt.
00:49:45It's demeaning.
00:49:46Right.
00:49:51I just saw a side of her I had never seen.
00:49:56You've been worried this whole time that you've come across as the bad guy, and you said,
00:50:00I'm the good guy.
00:50:01Your word has been, you've said exactly that.
00:50:03No, it isn't.
00:50:04I'm worried about being misunderstood, and you keep telling me to push my personality
00:50:07down.
00:50:08I just don't want to be misunderstood.
00:50:19The next couple up.
00:50:23Celine and Anthony.
00:50:31Well, I don't even know what to say about you two.
00:50:34Last week, your relationship was in crisis mode.
00:50:38Now, it is totally different.
00:50:40I know.
00:50:41Well, I mean, we both did say stay, and I think the definite purpose behind that all
00:50:45for me was to, you know, really take on board what you guys said.
00:50:50It was all about communication, respecting one another, understanding each other, and
00:50:54obviously moving in, like you said.
00:50:57So when I was moving in, when we sat down, she goes, how are you feeling?
00:51:01I just dropped all the bullshit, and I just said, I'm feeling pretty anxious.
00:51:04And as soon as I sort of just said that, it just sort of melted away.
00:51:08And then from there, I just felt comfortable.
00:51:10And what's outstanding for the group to see is that if you make the choice, you can really
00:51:16bring about a very different relationship in a short period of time.
00:51:22What are we going to do?
00:51:24Great.
00:51:25Amazing.
00:51:29I also said stay.
00:51:37Dominika and Jack.
00:51:39How we doing?
00:51:40You look so happy.
00:51:42I am.
00:51:44We are.
00:51:45I'm wondering how your intimacy, your physical connection is going.
00:51:49When you do have sex, do you think that you're sexually compatible?
00:51:53I definitely think we are sexually compatible.
00:51:55I just want Jack to desire me a little bit more.
00:51:58Like, if you think my ass looks good, like, say that.
00:52:02I need that, like, affirmation.
00:52:05For me, in that regard, like, I'm definitely not giving everything that she needs yet.
00:52:08I'm still trying to get there, but I'm sure she's learning exactly what I want.
00:52:12At times, I'm just happy to be involved, but...
00:52:15Like...
00:52:18Let's get to the decision, you guys.
00:52:21For me, he is, like, perfect.
00:52:26And I said last night at the dinner table, I was like, I got the best husband.
00:52:29Sorry, ladies, but I wrote stay.
00:52:33Great.
00:52:34That's a winning combination.
00:52:37I will also, unfortunately, have to grace her presence with mine for another week.
00:52:42I will also have to grace her presence with mine for another week.
00:52:44Oh, you wrote a smiley, too. Look.
00:52:46We have smiley faces.
00:52:47Yay!
00:52:49Continue focusing on what connects you, because the difficulties are going to pop up.
00:52:53So, good luck this week. Have fun.
00:52:55Thank you so much.
00:52:56Thank you so much, guys.
00:52:57Thank you, guys.
00:52:58I really appreciate it.
00:53:06Selena and Cody.
00:53:09Looking very bouncy and perky together.
00:53:11It's like a different couple.
00:53:12I know.
00:53:15When you were here last time, Selena, you weren't sure that Cody was attracted to you.
00:53:21It was a terrible topic for you.
00:53:26Has that changed?
00:53:28Yeah.
00:53:31I didn't think I would ever be able to move past, like, that comment, those comments,
00:53:37and the actions behind those comments.
00:53:41When you came in, and all the challenges that you did give us,
00:53:46and just you reminding me, like, I need to give him a chance and let him in,
00:53:51I feel like that really did help me.
00:53:54So, I'm really glad you were able to let go, if that's what you wanted to do.
00:53:58But I am very happy that that's the resolution that you came to.
00:54:01Yeah.
00:54:02What else did you do during the week that perhaps helped?
00:54:05Birthday sex, or...
00:54:07Oh!
00:54:09Oh!
00:54:11I like what I heard over there.
00:54:13Didn't even warm up to it.
00:54:15Are there rumors that I'm not aware of?
00:54:17What's going on?
00:54:20Spill.
00:54:23I'm sweating.
00:54:25Go girl, go girl.
00:54:27Yeah, last night we came home,
00:54:31and then...
00:54:35we had sex.
00:54:37Yes!
00:54:41Yes!
00:54:44Made it official!
00:54:46I'm so happy!
00:54:53Let's see your decision.
00:54:55Let's start with Cody.
00:54:57I do obviously want to see where this goes,
00:54:59so I have written down, stay.
00:55:02He underlined it.
00:55:06What about you, Selena?
00:55:07I honestly didn't think there was any coming back from last week,
00:55:10like there was no hope for me, kind of thing.
00:55:13So, like, the fact that we're sitting here stronger than ever
00:55:16just proves, like, what you guys have done
00:55:19and the challenges, like, they really do help us.
00:55:23And so I've decided to also stay.
00:55:26Nice.
00:55:30So I think really for you guys now, for this next week,
00:55:33the challenge is about taking that a step further.
00:55:36Let's start showing a little bit more of that vulnerability,
00:55:39opening up a little bit more,
00:55:41and keep having sex.
00:55:45Great to see you doing so well. Take a seat.
00:55:58Let's get our next couple up.
00:56:04Mitch and Ella.
00:56:06Oh, Mitch.
00:56:13Hello, hello.
00:56:14Hello.
00:56:15Hey, guys.
00:56:16Hey, guys.
00:56:17Hello.
00:56:18How's the week been?
00:56:19Yeah, good.
00:56:20Yeah, it was interesting.
00:56:22How did the kissing task go?
00:56:25That's something that we're lacking.
00:56:26We just don't really kiss enough.
00:56:28Yeah, Ella loves kissing, and I haven't really been all for it.
00:56:31That's just, like...
00:56:32Why do you mean you're not all for kissing?
00:56:34I don't get that.
00:56:37I'm just weird like that.
00:56:39You said it's not something that you just do,
00:56:41so now I just do it, and then he'll reciprocate?
00:56:46Guys, I want to ask you about the conversation
00:56:48that you had last night at the dinner party.
00:56:52Where, Ella, you were discussing some of your needs,
00:56:55and Mitch had some opinions about that.
00:56:58And it was, at times, pretty heated.
00:57:03It was about sort of how she wants to feel validated.
00:57:06Validated.
00:57:08What I'm really interested in is how he spoke to you about that.
00:57:14What I saw, the delivery was brutal.
00:57:19Brutal?
00:57:20It was brutal.
00:57:22Right.
00:57:23She was saying, these are my needs,
00:57:25these are my insecurities,
00:57:28and you completely dismissed them.
00:57:35Yeah, I can be blunt sometimes.
00:57:36No, that's not blunt.
00:57:39That is condescending.
00:57:40It's demeaning.
00:57:56We hadn't seen that interaction between you guys before.
00:57:58That's why we're bringing it up.
00:57:59It just seemed out of character.
00:58:01That we've watched you two mature together as a couple,
00:58:04and then, next thing you know,
00:58:06you're doing it again.
00:58:08It's just the...
00:58:11It's just the...
00:58:12a camel-deer relationship,
00:58:14but it's a lot of fear,
00:58:15and it's just not the right way.
00:58:18She said that,
00:58:20It just seemed out of character.
00:58:22That we've watched you two mature together as a couple.
00:58:25There's a lightness, there's a fun,
00:58:27and then there was this jarring conversation
00:58:29that we had to shine a light on.
00:58:31Yeah, that's fair enough.
00:58:32The next time either one of you talk in that way,
00:58:36you'll be able to talk softer so that you can hear each other.
00:58:40Yeah.
00:58:41So you need to be aware of the way that you speak to one another
00:58:44and to obviously to recognize when you're having,
00:58:47even if it's a small spat.
00:58:48Yeah.
00:58:49Yeah, of course.
00:58:51But in saying that, what you were trying to say was,
00:58:56I like you.
00:58:57That conversation has to go on.
00:59:00But it's how you're delivering it and how you're receiving it
00:59:03that has to change.
00:59:04Yeah.
00:59:06How much do you like him, Ella?
00:59:08How much do I like Mitch?
00:59:11Every day, you know, we get closer and deeper
00:59:14and it's always like progressing
00:59:16and getting more open and closer and closer.
00:59:20It's really nice.
00:59:22Mitch, how much do you like Ella?
00:59:32Do you like her?
00:59:33Come on, do you like her?
00:59:37Come on, son.
00:59:39You're in a safe place.
00:59:41I do, yes, yes, just to say in front of a lot of people,
00:59:45but yeah, I really like the girl.
00:59:47Look, I'm loving every day, so.
00:59:51All right, well, let's go to the decision.
00:59:54You first, Ella.
00:59:56Definitely want to continue getting to know Mitch
00:59:59and seeing how it goes.
01:00:02I want to stay.
01:00:04Beautiful.
01:00:05Lovely.
01:00:06What about you, Mitch?
01:00:07I really like Ella.
01:00:08We're definitely growing on each other,
01:00:10so I have decided to stay.
01:00:12Whee!
01:00:14And give her a kiss.
01:00:16Yes, thank you.
01:00:20Oh, you guys.
01:00:32Yeah, girl.
01:00:34Yeah, boy.
01:00:38Our last couple up on the couch this evening is...
01:00:42Brent and Tamara.
01:00:48This is going to be good.
01:00:52Hey, guys, how are you doing?
01:00:56Well, guys, I mean, what we saw last night,
01:00:59things didn't really end well.
01:01:02What was going on?
01:01:04Fill us in.
01:01:05Brent and I had an argument prior to coming to the dinner party.
01:01:11I can see a tendency in Brent,
01:01:14and I had mentioned before about his moods
01:01:17and his ups and downs and this aggression that he has.
01:01:21His whole face will scrunch up.
01:01:23He gets angry over, like, absolutely ridiculous things.
01:01:26And he got so angry, screamed at me.
01:01:29Yeah, for me, it showed a huge lack of respect,
01:01:33and I, yeah, my trust for Brent is, yeah, very low.
01:01:42Is she accurate there, Brent?
01:01:45Um...
01:01:51The fight may have started from something stupid,
01:01:55but it was a build-up, a build-up of a lot of tension
01:02:00that came out the wrong way.
01:02:02So last night would have been everything coming out of my mouth
01:02:06as just pure frustration.
01:02:09I just saw a side of her I had never seen.
01:02:13We had grown better than we've ever been up until that point.
01:02:18It's hard to speak from a place when you get spoken down to.
01:02:24In what way did she speak down to you?
01:02:27I'm watching a movie.
01:02:28She goes, you know what, we should put music on.
01:02:31OK, I go put music on.
01:02:33She goes, can you turn it down? It's too loud.
01:02:36I'm like, well, it's the same volume as it was on the movie.
01:02:39Straightaway got very angry at my screwed-up face.
01:02:43And then it blew up.
01:02:47She stood over me and called me a ****.
01:02:54**** me.
01:02:56I didn't stand over you and call you a ****.
01:02:58Don't **** me, because it's exactly what you did.
01:03:00I'm not lying, I did not stand over you and call you that.
01:03:02And I'm the only aggressive one.
01:03:03And then just told me to get ****.
01:03:07That is complete fabrication of an argument.
01:03:09I swore in context, I didn't call you a ****.
01:03:12Now you're lying.
01:03:14So you're honestly not going to admit that you do have
01:03:17some kind of mood and aggression issues?
01:03:19Sure I do. Sure I do. Moods, yes.
01:03:22OK, you know how to push buttons.
01:03:24You are a very difficult person.
01:03:29Tell us how she is difficult to be with in a relationship.
01:03:36There are rules.
01:03:38There are regulations.
01:03:40Wants to go to bed at a certain time.
01:03:42Tells me when I should nap and how long I should nap for.
01:03:46It's like picking at me.
01:03:48It's hard for me to pretend I can be in a good mood
01:03:51when things like that come up.
01:03:53I do not have bedtimes for him.
01:03:55That is not what it's about.
01:03:56He complains a lot about being tired.
01:03:59So I give my advice like, well, you know,
01:04:01go to bed early then.
01:04:03You're not getting enough sleep.
01:04:05Trying to, like, say that in a caring way
01:04:07because I care about him.
01:04:09Sometimes what I say is taken OK.
01:04:12Sometimes it's not.
01:04:14I am walking on eggshells on which kind of mood
01:04:17he's going to be in.
01:04:20This whole week my moods have been great.
01:04:22Par yesterday.
01:04:24Brent, that's untrue.
01:04:25And it's unfair to say that.
01:04:27It has been the same since I've met you.
01:04:30It hasn't just been last week.
01:04:33OK.
01:04:39You've been worried this whole time
01:04:41that you've come across as the bad guy
01:04:42and you said I'm the good guy.
01:04:43No, it isn't, Brent. I'm worried to be.
01:04:44Your word has been, you've said exactly that.
01:04:46No, it isn't. I'm worried about being misunderstood
01:04:48and you keep telling me to push my personality down
01:04:50because I look like a bitch, blah, blah, blah.
01:04:52I don't. I just don't want to be misunderstood.
01:05:02I don't.
01:05:08All right, let's get to the decision.
01:05:11Brent, let's go with you first.
01:05:19Won't beat around the bush.
01:05:32All right, stay.
01:05:41It's a good decision.
01:05:42Really good.
01:05:43Yeah.
01:05:44I think you've made a good choice.
01:05:45Yeah.
01:05:46It's a good choice.
01:05:47Yeah.
01:05:48It's a good choice.
01:05:49Yeah.
01:05:50It's a good choice.
01:05:51Yeah.
01:05:52It's a good choice.
01:05:53Yeah.
01:05:54It's a good choice.
01:05:55Yeah.
01:05:56Alright, stay
01:06:04My god's telling me to keep trying we didn't make all this progress to spend you know a day fighting and then throw it away
01:06:11Over to you tomorrow. What do you got for us?
01:06:17I was very determined on what I was going to write
01:06:22Up until I had to write on this I was always had in my head that I was going to leave
01:06:34And I did right stay
01:06:37And I've written stay because we do have great times together
01:06:42We get along really well, and this is a learning journey for me. I
01:06:47I came here. I asked for your help. I want to learn from it and change my ways as well
01:06:56Brain look at tomorrow
01:07:00Tell her what you need this week for you to get closer to her
01:07:17I
01:07:20Think the most important thing is
01:07:23Which is nothing negative I
01:07:27Just want everything if we are gonna start as friends and move forward. It's just try and keep everything on a positive note
01:07:36Let me do me, you know my day-to-day thing the things I do that make me me
01:07:44And I think maybe without the tension I
01:07:51Could be a better person to
01:07:56Don't tell him what you think he needs to do different just say yes and go with it. Yeah
01:08:05What do you need from him I
01:08:08Just yeah like just just patience with me and and who I am like
01:08:14You know if you are frustrated with me you communicate that with me I
01:08:19Do need communication from you?
01:08:22if I'm frustrating like just or
01:08:25Like upsetting you or whatever like just tell me just I
01:08:30Don't know how to explain it. No you've done it really well
01:08:34So now he knows that if he's feeling overwhelmed or if he's frustrated or something
01:08:38He's to say that to you rather than you going in your cave, okay, okay
01:08:43But here's the thing if he does go into his cave for a little bit
01:08:46Give him that space you got to come back to it when you're ready
01:08:50Do you all understand that?
01:08:53Go get it
01:09:08Well that brings us to the end of our second commitment ceremony
01:09:12And we are absolutely delighted at how raw and honest
01:09:18You've been with all of us
01:09:22Before we go it's important for us to say goodbye to Holly
01:09:27And although Andrew wasn't here tonight
01:09:30We hope that both of you will have learned something through this experience
01:09:36Wishing you the very best for the future as you go away from here. Thank you. I'm so grateful
01:09:43so
01:09:44We will see you next time
01:09:54A new chapter is here. We're introducing these new couples to shake up the group. I'm so excited
01:10:02tomorrow new brides
01:10:05I feel like a foul at life
01:10:08Have a look at me. I look like I just jumped out of a Tom Ford show back ignite the experiment. Sorry about the breath
01:10:14I just had some chicken twisties like never before
01:10:19Good. I actually hate my makeup. Hold on very
01:10:26Very tight waiting for like three hours. Yeah
01:10:29To get your movie
01:10:34The drama is just heating up
01:10:39Literally bleeding in my worst nightmare. I've seen enough for one day
01:10:44Is coming
01:10:47Happy wife happy life tomorrow 730 on 9