Married at First Sight (UK) Season9 Episode 10
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00:00:00previously the very first commitment ceremony of the experiment all eight
00:00:06couples chose to stay in the experiment cannot fault her in any way shape or
00:00:12form you guys couldn't have done a better job if you built someone from
00:00:15scratch I'm just really excited to see where the experiment takes us but not
00:00:20before they received some hard truth that's not funny
00:00:24I probably shouldn't have used the word princess in the real world but well
00:00:27this is the real I know you're basically a mother not a lover and
00:00:30Tamara pulled is he enough for you the ultimate blindside I don't know yet
00:00:36hit like a ton of bricks and then it's been difficult for me to make this
00:00:40decision Andrew's shocked the room I crossed it out and I changed I want to
00:00:45say
00:00:50I feel humiliated and I feel embarrassed I realized I would not have written stay
00:00:56tonight after two weeks of married life the experiment launches into its next
00:01:03major phase it's time for intimacy week and one groom is particularly excited as
00:01:23our couples explore their sensual side looking into his eyes it's really nice
00:01:29it's completely different to anything I've experienced but for Tamara and
00:01:34Brent I don't want to look after you I don't need to baby anyone what do I look
00:01:38like some sort of father figure old wounds prove hard to heal I think her
00:01:43mentality is disgusting I literally think I'm not good enough for her and
00:01:47Andrew he would like to have a chance to make this right
00:01:51can Holly forgive Andrew here I am telling you something I've never told
00:01:55anyone and I've been hiding behind this for too long in one of the most powerful
00:02:00apologies ever seen I'm sorry
00:02:22good morning
00:02:28you're bad hair it's the morning after the first commitment ceremony I actually
00:02:33feel so much better after talking to the experts like I was saying it all week
00:02:38as well oh my god yeah and we were the most open to be honest and while some
00:02:44couples bask in the afterglow I think we went fine compared to everyone else yeah
00:02:49there's one couple on everyone's lips Holly and Andrew it was hard to listen
00:02:56to yeah it was hard just uncomfortable something is clearly not right so do you
00:03:04want to fill us in yeah we've been pretty pretty bad spot lately we still
00:03:09haven't even kissed yet we had slept together we were kissing when that
00:03:14happened well though there was absolutely no tongue involved it was
00:03:18just more like kissing on the mouth like pecs and it was awkward to me when
00:03:22we were intimate he said to me he had more from a one-night stand how did you
00:03:26think she was going to respond to that I can't walk around on eggshells worrying
00:03:31about how people respond to how if I'm being honest I'm just brutally honest
00:03:35in your life you're just honest and you say things that are hurtful and you
00:03:39don't care that's perception Wow
00:03:43when Alice Andrew said you got to make what he's saying a bit nicer and Andrew
00:03:48got on the back foot like defensively like to me that's obviously something
00:03:51that he does in relationships as well like he just gets his back up and yeah
00:03:57which obviously isn't good we not shocked that they both support say I
00:04:03got a lot of pressure they've put a lot of pressure on themselves now I think
00:04:07there's a point where you look at that you're like I think I've got to give up
00:04:12I wouldn't want to be in that household this week I tell you what
00:04:24last night I was floored I couldn't believe it I was confused because I
00:04:30thought he would stay but actually he wrote leave crossed it out and
00:04:35apparently last-second wrote stay I was humiliated
00:04:45I wrote stay to see if maybe something could change nothing has changed we are
00:04:52not on the same team we cannot even move forward as friends
00:04:58there's nothing that could be said or done to change my mind and I am deeply
00:05:04sorry but I'm here to waste anyone's time done I'm done
00:05:18last night I thought Holly was gonna leave me and that's my biggest fear in
00:05:23life rejection that's why I wrote leave first cuz I didn't want to be rejected
00:05:30but I decided to stay because Holly deserves me to not quit on her the
00:05:38reason my past relationships haven't worked is because of me and yeah I'm
00:05:44coming to some pretty sobering realizations
00:05:49it's tough
00:06:01yeah I just kind of want to talk to halls about everything to be honest with
00:06:05you kind of at that point if she's willing to chat and see if we can do
00:06:09something with this for both of our sake you know
00:06:16at last night's commitment ceremony Sam and Al were given clear instructions
00:06:23from the experts and it's left Sam with more questions than answers morning
00:06:30morning how'd you sleep I slept good yeah I
00:06:34always sleep good yeah yeah I woke up this morning feeling really quite
00:06:39anxious about last night last night was way more hectic than I thought it was
00:06:44gonna be so I feel like I was just like emotionally drained Sam what becomes
00:06:49clear is that you're basically a mother not a lover
00:06:53stop taking the lead yeah step back give him the space to step into it last night
00:07:02was a good wake up for me it reminded me that I have things to work on to the big
00:07:09relationship I've been in he cheated on me the hardest bit was like someone
00:07:14who's meant to love you so much hurt you that much
00:07:20it's just men they're trash so I do have crap ability to trust but at the end of
00:07:30the day I really need to remind myself with Al he's not my ex like maybe I'm
00:07:36like sabotaging myself oh is that the off milk yeah it's actually off yeah
00:07:42it's four days old it's right this smells a bit funky usually I just drink
00:07:45until starts curdling whilst Sam and Al are exploring a way to move forward down
00:07:51the hall Cody is hoping for a similar result with his wife Selena their
00:07:57marriage was left in tatters after Cody's blundering response to
00:08:01Selena's questions during confessions week is the lack of interest attraction
00:08:07and affection due to my nationality and look I think it did honestly have
00:08:14something to did play at it initially it's not I'm not racist by any means but
00:08:19it's not something I'm familiar with like to be honest that yeah short
00:08:24answers it probably did I personally not by the things I've said I haven't been
00:08:32tactful I understand that I really struggle to say how I'm feeling at the
00:08:36best of the times so I'm glad the commitment ceremony went the way it did
00:08:41my biggest problem or what I sort of realized just thinking about all this
00:08:45today is I'm hopeless at communicating I've jumbled my words but as long as you
00:08:50know that I look at you and just think you are the most gorgeous girl I
00:08:54wouldn't be on this experiment with anyone else but you I genuinely am
00:08:59excited and looking forward to hanging out with you I want to be here holding
00:09:03your hand I want to go back to the dinner party where I'm excited to walk
00:09:06across the table and kiss you again you just don't realize how much I care for
00:09:10you and that's my fault I had that chance to communicate to Selena properly
00:09:14how I feel so I hope Selena can forgive me you know I really hope we can move
00:09:20forwards from this position
00:09:23you
00:09:30morning morning I'll be quiet over there I was meditating
00:09:37did you want to order anything I still am into Cody but it is gonna take time
00:09:49excuse me it's hard to move on with someone who's
00:09:54like hurt me that much
00:10:03what'd you think of last night
00:10:09going into it I sort of had all that time to sort of reflect on it throughout
00:10:13the day I feel like I've let you down a lot of the time
00:10:19my number one priority was to make sure you did realize how I actually felt with
00:10:22everything and how do I display that moving forwards I do genuinely care I
00:10:30need you to actually be aware of how I feel about you at the commitment
00:10:35ceremony he was saying everything that the experts and I and everyone else in
00:10:39the group wanted to hear but at the moment that seems to be the pattern
00:10:42Cody does talk a lot from now onwards it doesn't even matter what he says the
00:10:49damage has already been done with words and now I just need actions I don't want
00:11:02to talk to her right now last night at the commitment ceremony tomorrow spoke
00:11:06to me in a way that I'm just not willing to accept from anyone I think her
00:11:09mentality which she's shown from the start is disgusting she is very
00:11:13pretentious which we all saw at the wedding I did take this one guy he
00:11:17actually did work in a retail shop and I was embarrassed to sort of like
00:11:21introduce him to people that doesn't meet my lifestyle tomorrow's a
00:11:26judgmental person and she's admitted it if a guy wears fake designer clothes if
00:11:31they drive a really ugly car and I don't have a good job or money
00:11:35unfortunately I'm just so not interested I've been calm the whole way through
00:11:41last night was enough to send me over the edge what do you do for work right
00:11:45now a restaurant manager it's a restaurant manager you think doesn't cut
00:11:51it for tomorrow help I need to ask you a very important question is he enough for
00:11:58I don't know yet as that feel break to do that kick in the gut my issue is not
00:12:10that I literally think I'm not good enough for her I'm well aware of what
00:12:15I'm capable of the issue is that she thinks that I'm pretty angry about
00:12:21tomorrow the whole situation the commitment ceremony it's got to me quite
00:12:25a lot I'm not entirely sure how to deal with this I'm exhausted I don't think
00:12:30now would be even a great time to talk about it nor do I even want to
00:12:41did you want to talk about last night not really all right now
00:12:50not much to say well there is I honestly don't understand how I make
00:13:01you feel like you're not good enough I don't know what I've said or for you to
00:13:07feel like that you forgotten everything that's ever been said from from day
00:13:10daughter now no I don't know what you mean
00:13:17I told you I didn't want to talk today leave me alone until I'm ready to talk
00:13:21easy
00:13:31she's more worried about how she's been portrayed up until now I know she said
00:13:36these words to me everything you said I don't understand why you hadn't said
00:13:40prior it's like you put on a performance and then you go to the ceremony and you
00:13:45make me feel like a dickhead because you say like stuff in front of everybody
00:13:49that you have not said to me in private it's like you you completely blindsided
00:13:53me you're delirious did you think that you literally are like harboring this
00:13:59thing about a career and it feels to me like you're intimidated by me like
00:14:04you're you're quite the opposite see you do that you say that you bring up the
00:14:08money situations you're the one that gets uncomfortable about money about
00:14:13money you want to look after someone and because I don't need to be looked
00:14:22after I don't want to look after you I don't need to baby anyone what do I
00:14:25look like some sort of father figure no you don't get over yourself you're
00:14:29upset because you got you look a certain way and you can't stand it that's your
00:14:33problem not mine you're embarrassed the way that you
00:14:38portrayed yourself that put it out on me
00:14:56last night's commitment ceremony was tough for all of our couples especially
00:15:02for Anthony and Celine who are still living apart and their relationship has
00:15:07been on shaky ground since the honeymoon so all the goading behind
00:15:13closed doors that you're gonna have a boo-hoo I tried to be a good person I've
00:15:23tried to be a nice person I've tried to sort of get along but the effort hasn't
00:15:28been matched I'm just not gonna put up with it anymore and at last night's
00:15:34commitment ceremony Celine faced a few home truths did I hear right here that
00:15:40Celine was saying to you toughen up princess yeah yeah that's not funny
00:15:47probably shouldn't have used the word princess in the real world but well this
00:15:51is the real I know I know you're calling a partner a princess you are really
00:15:56looking down at them I I don't I don't see it like that with both Celine and
00:16:03Anthony deciding to hold on for one more week the experts gave the couple
00:16:08strict directions there are two things that you're gonna do first is you're
00:16:14gonna try and move back in together okay because there is no way that you're
00:16:19gonna give each other a chance to build this if you're living separate lives
00:16:24the second thing you're gonna do is you're going to be friendly to one
00:16:28another I was quite happy that the experts told us to move in together I
00:16:35am filled with a little bit more hope knowing that we are going to move
00:16:39forward and at least give it a go because when I met Celine I thought this
00:16:44could be it this could blossom into something so I am very much looking
00:16:49forward to living with my wife why did I stay I don't know I don't know
00:16:58last night was hard to process and this morning it really hit me then he's gonna
00:17:03move in today I regret saying stay that's the bottom line I'm not sure if
00:17:11living together is gonna make it worse I feel so strongly that I don't have that
00:17:17connection with Anthony
00:17:23so at the moment my luggage is just all over the place and I have no intention
00:17:29to move it
00:17:31you can stay like that
00:17:35as the dust settles on the first commitment ceremony Alessandra has
00:17:50something special in store for the couple
00:18:05the next phase of the experiment is about building trust with your partner
00:18:10and strengthening your understanding of romance erotic connection and sexual
00:18:15compatibility it's time for intimacy as a clinical sexologist I've spent the
00:18:25last 20 years helping individuals feel more comfortable and more connected with
00:18:30their own bodies I put together a series of activities for you to try over the
00:18:34next few days to help open your minds to the endless possibilities for you to
00:18:39find connection and hopefully romance with your partner I can't wait to help
00:18:44our couples address the sex and intimacy issues in each of their
00:18:47relationships I will be asking you to talk openly about intimacy sex and
00:18:54togetherness in a way you probably have never done before I've no doubt that
00:19:00these activities are going to push you out of your comfort zone but it's very
00:19:04important that you approach them with an open mind and open heart and I promise
00:19:09that if you do your relationship will reap all the benefits this is good I
00:19:14this is I think as part of the matchmaking process I had some very
00:19:20open conversations with our participants around their views on sex their sexual
00:19:28history and the part these things play in their relationships I'm gonna open
00:19:32book for you right now ask away so tell me your deepest darkest sexual secret I
00:19:37think I'm definitely the initiator I like talking dirty and things like that
00:19:41how often do you sell pleasure every single night sometimes every night I've
00:19:47never told anyone that before but yes what would you say your sexual turn-ons
00:19:52are for me intimacy starts from stimulation of the mind like there's no
00:20:00point in stimulating this if there's nothing going on up here texting public
00:20:05or just like if we're hanging out with me and just a whipper in the ear of
00:20:09something that maybe she wants to do later how important is sex for you in a
00:20:14relationship I want that spark I want someone that's like so into me that they
00:20:18just can't keep their hands off me you know armed with this information and
00:20:23knowing that each of our couples are at different stages of their relationships
00:20:27I have tailor-made the activities this week especially for them and for a
00:20:35couple like Sam and Al the best place to start is with the simplest of tasks Sam
00:20:42and Al intimacy has always been a problem in our relationship since the
00:20:48photoshoot now we have a little bridal kiss for me
00:20:54excuse me no no no no no I don't want to kiss for a photo no we're not doing a
00:20:59kiss I don't have a honeymoon
00:21:04we're not gonna kiss I don't wanna kiss so I don't know if Sam likes me I'm a
00:21:14little bit worried that I'm all friends at the moment often the most intimate
00:21:20experiences can come from the simplest acts like looking deep into someone's
00:21:25eyes so for this task I want you to gaze into your partner's eyes for three
00:21:36minutes without looking away I'm really excited about these tasks because this
00:21:42is the time now that Sam and I are gonna go closer don't look at me oh my god
00:21:50it's weird okay sorry sorry I'm sorry I know it's the
00:21:55pressure of it okay okay
00:22:01you're about to go to war the intimacy task was quite daunting because there's
00:22:08a lot of uncertainty with intimacy between Al and I so yeah I'm feeling a
00:22:12little bit anxious about it yeah don't do that that's scary
00:22:25I have struggled to build that deeper connection with Al because Al is quite a
00:22:30showy guy but looking into his eyes and seeing Al vulnerable it's really nice
00:22:38the more I see this side of him the stronger my feelings get for him
00:22:46I remember I said to you you have kind eyes remember yeah what does that mean I
00:22:52see it just means you're like a nice person
00:22:56yeah I really like that compliment
00:23:00you
00:23:02hearing that from Sam it made me feel so good
00:23:10like I just want him to like kiss me
00:23:21stop I can't I think that got a lot easier it did this is a very simple task
00:23:28and I still got a kiss I really got to thank Alessandra for coming up with
00:23:32that I was thinking of like the wedding day when I first saw you I started just
00:23:36picking out like just small things about your beauty hopefully more kisses will
00:23:41come up throughout this week coming up Alessandra turns up the heat it's like
00:23:48Christmas but with stuff that goes in you with tasks designed to spice things
00:23:54up in the bedroom we're just trying new things you know which work for some more
00:24:00than others to me at the moment if the sex has been a little bit like control I
00:24:04don't feel from you that you really want to be doing it with me
00:24:08we're back here we're back here he doesn't even act like he wants me
00:24:25this week I'll be visiting couples to explore the role of physical intimacy in
00:24:33their relationships and the first couple I want to see is Selena and Cody this is
00:24:39a couple who have so much promise but both desire and getting sexy have been
00:24:44roadblocks in their relationship so far feelings have been hurt and building any
00:24:49type of intimacy from this space will be a challenge
00:24:53before we can talk about physical intimacy I need to make sure that they're
00:25:10ready to move on from recent hurt help me understand this I know that the
00:25:15commitment ceremony was kind of intense and full-on what's going on here yeah so
00:25:22my priority throughout the commitment ceremony was to make Selena know how
00:25:26much I do care and like that was what I needed to convey so to me like this
00:25:31relationship wasn't gonna go further forwards until Selena actually knew how
00:25:35I felt about her so that's all I sort of wanted to encapsulate at the commitment
00:25:38ceremony do you think you reached that goal that you had for yourself I hope so
00:25:43did he reach that goal there's been a lot of rude and hurtful things that he
00:25:50has said to me that I still can't seem to move on from I am wondering at this
00:26:00point with everything that's been talked about and said about that between you
00:26:04guys and then brought up at the commitment ceremony what is it gonna
00:26:07take and and this is a real question that you need to ask yourself what is it
00:26:12gonna take for this to be able to be left behind if in fact you can leave it
00:26:17behind I am on very fragile ground because I just feel so vulnerable and I
00:26:25just worried that it's gonna happen again I'm gonna obviously need a lot
00:26:29more time and patience with that area the question is can you both get past it
00:26:35and can that actually be something that helps maybe open a communication line
00:26:41that's deeper stronger more real more considerate more understanding of the
00:26:46other's experience yeah but I know that it's really putting yourself out there
00:26:51because it means also being vulnerable to being hurt that way again you have to
00:26:56choose to be brave in that sense because in any relationship we are always
00:27:00exposing ourselves to the possibility of being hurt oh absolutely so if you keep
00:27:06your guard up then you can connect it still hurts but I have realized we're
00:27:12not gonna be able to move forward if I don't let go of the past I've got a lot
00:27:18to think about and decide whether I want to make this work
00:27:25with intimacy week underway it's time for some couples to find out exactly
00:27:31what their partner likes in the bedroom I love presents oh my god look at that
00:27:38look at the ribbon maybe you can wrap me in that bow and then unwrap me well
00:27:43Domenica and Jack's relationship is flourishing in some areas Jack's lack of
00:27:48intimacy is a big concern for Domenica is there sexual chemistry and attraction
00:27:54here I don't feel that he has like this urge that he wants like rip my clothes
00:27:59off to me and I really like that do you I won't have an urge to rip her clothes
00:28:03off not all the time not all the time I'm menstruating and I was horny and I
00:28:09wanted to have sex and I think that freaked Jack out look Jack and I are in
00:28:18a really strong place but the intimacy probably isn't as great as what I would
00:28:22like it to be so this week this is exactly what we need
00:28:26hola I've put together a box of goodies for you to enjoy as a couple it's time
00:28:32to get adventurous experimental and explore each other's wants and desires
00:28:36trust and honesty are vital in this task as is maintaining a judgment-free
00:28:41environment for your partner good luck and have fun Alessandra
00:28:46Dom and I get along like a house on fire but Dom does have a higher sex drive than me
00:28:50so I'm trying to navigate that situation as best I can do you want to do the
00:28:55others yeah Oh Wow oh my god there's a lot in here Wow okay that's pretty full
00:29:07on okay so that's that oh Jesus Christ whoa legit though feel that it's like
00:29:17Christmas but with stuff that goes in you
00:29:26Oh questions well not just any questions intimacy box questions I'm assuming we
00:29:39ask each other yes just go for it we'll just see what happens so this is the
00:29:53moment where these are this is like important and serious to me okay this is
00:30:04going to be fun you know it is fun but like yeah I want to like really know
00:30:09yeah yeah I'm ready okay all right good what does your ideal sex life look like
00:30:15what are your expectations hmm um I think comfortable sex is like as in
00:30:22both being very comfortable each other and that grows obviously over time what
00:30:26does that look like like how many times a week like what and times we are some
00:30:30weeks could be 10 some weeks could be none like it's just all dependent on
00:30:33obviously what's going on like for me it's just like more about the times that
00:30:36it does happen it's just fun enjoyable smiles like that's that's a big thing
00:30:41for me I don't know so there's no sex in a week no I'm just saying it doesn't
00:30:46matter like it just doesn't matter like how many times it is that I don't have
00:30:51rules okay yeah yeah I only have a fella okay can we put that down now
00:30:57that's a bit like just disturbing like when I'm trying to like talk to you oh
00:31:02my feather well I just think that you're you're twiddling with that and you're
00:31:07not really concentrating on what that's not true
00:31:09all right yeah sure
00:31:15in a relationship I just want to be listened to and that's someone giving me
00:31:18their full attention and to me when he's fidgeting he's not giving me his
00:31:23full attention and he knows how important intimacy week is gonna be for
00:31:28us like we need this to me at the moment the sex has been a little bit like a
00:31:34chore I don't feel from you that you really want to be doing it with me when
00:31:41I start feeling like there's like expectations I should be doing this I
00:31:44should be doing this and it's not like you're saying that it's how it sort of
00:31:47comes across please don't say that I'm saying you should be doing it okay yeah
00:31:51fair enough like I want you to do me and I want you to me like it's not that hard
00:31:57I'm not saying you should be me I'm saying what I want and that's blatantly
00:32:03what this week's about we're back here we're back here
00:32:08in my past relationship the lack of intimacy was where my marriage failed so
00:32:14I've gone into this taking it seriously he doesn't even act like he wants me so
00:32:19frustrating and like exhausting
00:32:33intimacy week has officially kicked off
00:32:38and while some couples embrace the tasks to their full potential propelling
00:32:49their physical connection forward I'm normally the dominant one we just try a
00:32:54few things you know spice in the dish up a bit Jesus Sam and Al are hoping they'll
00:33:03go from strength to strength after a successful eye gazing task are you going
00:33:08to the gym yeah I need to pump some iron I feel really scrawny really yeah you
00:33:16don't look skinny I was actually fishing for that compliment the eye gazing it
00:33:22definitely brought us closer now we finally had a kiss thank God he's
00:33:26probably just been a bit unsure sort of where he stands because I know I
00:33:30fluctuate from being comfortable to not comfortable because I came into the
00:33:34experiment being like you know men are trash they're the worst it's hard I do
00:33:38have walls but I am trying to let Al in
00:33:46hello this week I couldn't wait to catch up with Sam and Al this is Al's first
00:33:55proper relationship and his lack of knowledge and experience around women
00:33:59combined with Sam's instinct to take control or potential barriers in forming
00:34:04an equal and healthy relationship but if they find a way around this and get on
00:34:09the same page they will have potential I believe you've already begun with some
00:34:15of the things that I sent out for you to do exercise wise yeah we did the looking
00:34:20into each other's eyes for three minute ask how was that yeah I enjoyed it yeah
00:34:25yeah it was good just like a nice positive feeling came out of that I did
00:34:29feel like a lot closer like I think it was really nice it was calming and when
00:34:34I was looking at Al we had a moment but I love physical touch so I'd like to be
00:34:39touched more and like desired more so I'm hoping it'll get him more comfortable
00:34:43oh I love that I'm sitting here and I'm like oh like knee touch like is that
00:34:50natural like yeah yeah I understand why he'd be like confused but I do really
00:34:56like Al I do really feel feelings for Al I'm ready to work on our intimacy and I
00:35:01know that that's the next step so hopefully he is too perhaps you're
00:35:05standing back a little because you're not quite sure if she's gonna be
00:35:08receptive yeah yeah yeah I'm not sure like if I've got the right signals yeah
00:35:14yeah I feel good to hear that Sam likes physical touch and when she said that
00:35:18I'd love more physical touch for me I can't believe I didn't pick up on it
00:35:21it's a matter of simply of again being comfortable with touching to generate
00:35:27closeness which hasn't happened and I believe that she is giving you a very
00:35:32direct signal which is saying I need to be touched more they're gonna get any
00:35:36clearer than that so you have I think right now the green light sometimes I
00:35:41feel like I can't read her like I have trouble reading her but something I
00:35:45definitely need to start working on this week so hopefully more kisses will come
00:35:48thank you so much we needed this chat, we do. Bye!
00:36:03After a sobering morning Andrew has called Anthony to get his thoughts on
00:36:08last night's commitment ceremony. I reached out to Anthony because I have a lot of
00:36:15respect for him and I needed to get some insight that's rather unbiased.
00:36:23How are you feeling, man? It was tough for me, man. I learned a lot about myself last night
00:36:30and then like this morning I was reflecting on some of the things I said
00:36:34and how I've actually been with Holly this whole entire process I feel like
00:36:37she deserves better for me. Dude, man, to be honest with you I'm saying this as a
00:36:42friend yeah it was brutal. There was a line there with you where you said you
00:36:48know you want to be brutally honest with her but you can be honest without being
00:36:51brutal and I feel like a few times you sort of crossed that line from being
00:36:55brutal and honest. He said a lot of things that I would never dream of saying
00:37:00about anyone it don't matter what we've been through I just wouldn't go after
00:37:05them like that. He's got a massive hill to climb and I
00:37:09really hope that he steps up to it and climbs that hill because she deserves it.
00:37:13She's fighting. Yeah, I can see that. I wish I had that fight too with my partner.
00:37:19Yeah. You're a lucky dude, man. I think that I've been reluctant to see that she's
00:37:24actually has apologized to me in many different ways but not with words. And
00:37:28where are you going from here? I'm gonna have a conversation with her and tell
00:37:31her how I feel and why I think I felt that way and... I think what would be
00:37:35really good, dude, is to hear from her and just let her talk. Yeah, man.
00:37:41Yeah, I think a different approach. A more approach geared towards hearing her
00:37:46and listening more, you know, instead of talking. It was honestly nice to be
00:37:50able to talk to Anthony because I needed that accountability. I needed somebody to
00:37:55be a man and tell me what I needed to hear. But, you know, as John said,
00:38:00clean slate. Yeah, that's what I'm looking forward to. I like what he said that because I feel
00:38:05like that's the truth. Yeah. I'm looking forward to showing up next week and
00:38:09talking to the experts with a completely different one, like a 180 almost. Yeah.
00:38:13Because that will mean a lot to both of me and Holly. I think that I need to put
00:38:16a bit of an olive branch out there and see if she wants to see me. All right,
00:38:20brother. Thank you so much, man. I really appreciate it. You too, brother. And I wanted to at
00:38:25least let her know that she is important to me and that she does deserve a better
00:38:28man.
00:38:37Andrew just sent me a text message saying that he, first off, wants to say
00:38:43how disappointed he is with himself after last night and that several
00:38:49realizations have occurred since we last saw each other. He knows he's hurt me.
00:38:53He's not proud of how he's shown up thus far and has not been a good man to me.
00:39:03And he would like to have a chance to make this right.
00:39:24It's kind of what I was hoping for last night, that glimmer of hope.
00:39:34I did not expect him to reach out and I do want to acknowledge to him that he's
00:39:40reached out. But I'll sleep on it. Maybe I feel ready to speak to him tomorrow.
00:39:54Oh my God, just like this sound is just like, ahhh. It's like orgasmic to me right now. Stay still.
00:40:10Like, oh yeah. That was the excitement you had in the house.
00:40:16Following yesterday's visit from Alessandra, hairdresser Selena is determined to reset
00:40:22her relationship with Cody. Maybe I should have just worn like an apron, like just an apron.
00:40:28I want to now show Cody like what I'm actually like in the real world because
00:40:34in the real world I'm the life of the party. I'm fun, I'm bubbly, like I'm energetic.
00:40:38So I just wanted to start fresh and show him what I'm like.
00:40:42You're gonna go to like the next dinner party and all the boys will be so jealous.
00:40:46Oh no. Like, oh my God bro, you have such a sick-ass wife.
00:40:50Yeah, it was actually a bit of a turn on to see her sort of take control of the situation like that.
00:40:54It's good to see like that side of Selena. It's what she does and she's passionate about it.
00:40:59So watching her in her element, it was nice.
00:41:01We're back to being cheerful. We're back to having a laugh together. So I'm glad we did it.
00:41:05Selena does want to get back to that good place from what I can tell.
00:41:08So we can get past this one. And if anything, we're on better terms.
00:41:12Thank you. You're welcome.
00:41:15I do appreciate it.
00:41:18My love language is definitely acts of service.
00:41:22Hopefully it will, you know, bring us closer together, but get him out his shell a little bit more.
00:41:27Oh, so cute. Like couples that vacuum together stay together.
00:41:33Hey.
00:41:42One couple who have had no problems in the intimacy department are Olivia and Jackson,
00:41:48who have had a connection from the very start.
00:41:53Yeah, we were intimate. Things happen.
00:41:59I really didn't imagine this happening. I wasn't prepared to like somebody so much.
00:42:07We got another letter, love.
00:42:09Ooh, another one?
00:42:10Yeah, yeah.
00:42:11Olivia's an amazing person.
00:42:13I haven't had this type of connection with somebody, I don't think ever.
00:42:16So I'm really excited for this week.
00:42:18Nothing beats a good old fashioned hug.
00:42:21It's comforting, it's warm, and it can be incredibly intimate if you can completely succumb to it
00:42:26and really allow yourself to be held.
00:42:28Allow yourself to melt into your partner's hug for three minutes,
00:42:31and I guarantee in that moment you'll experience a truly genuine connection.
00:42:36Happy hugging.
00:42:37Oh, we get to cuddle.
00:42:39I haven't been in a relationship that's this physical.
00:42:44Really get in tight, baby.
00:42:47I love you.
00:42:48You ready?
00:42:50No kisses, just hugging.
00:42:52And go.
00:42:56Yeah.
00:43:01It's very rare that I'm this comfortable being naked as much as I am around Jackson.
00:43:07Like it's completely different to anything I've experienced.
00:43:12My relationship with men and the way that I've allowed myself to be treated
00:43:18very much revolves around my weight.
00:43:23I knew when I was a kid that I was a chubby kid.
00:43:27I think I was at nippers when I was 10.
00:43:33And somebody wanted the girl who was standing next to me,
00:43:37and they were pointing at her and they go,
00:43:39oh, I want the girl next to the fat one.
00:43:44It was just me and another girl, and I was like,
00:43:46I guess I'm the fat one, Jesus.
00:43:48Okay, well that's done.
00:43:53I've grown up a lot, but I think I'll always deep down be the little chubby girl.
00:44:01Now that I'm here in this really, really beautiful relationship,
00:44:06with all the little kisses and gestures,
00:44:10all that sort of physical affection that he gives me,
00:44:14I didn't realise how good it can feel.
00:44:18He makes me feel beautiful however I am.
00:44:22I don't think I could ever go back to not having that.
00:44:40After a tense discussion about the intimacy tasks,
00:44:44Domenica is frustrated that Jack isn't taking intimacy week seriously.
00:44:49Intimacy is just so important for how a relationship works,
00:44:54and I just feel like he just isn't caring that I take it seriously.
00:45:04I don't know if caffeine's going to help me today.
00:45:07I'm just feeling a little bit defeated today, that's all.
00:45:11Is that anything I've done?
00:45:15I still don't feel like you're attracted to me.
00:45:17Like, I just don't feel like I'm wanted or desired,
00:45:20and I'm really not feeling that at all.
00:45:25Do you actually find me attractive?
00:45:27Oh, no.
00:45:29Like, without a doubt, I think you are drop-dead gorgeous.
00:45:34And I told you, like, looks-wise,
00:45:37you are by far the most beautiful person I've ever met.
00:45:40You are by far the most beautiful person here,
00:45:42and you're well aware that I think that.
00:45:44OK, well, I don't feel like that.
00:45:47I don't feel sexy.
00:45:52I feel like we're clashing personalities a lot of the time.
00:45:56Do you want to know what I find sexy?
00:45:58Yeah.
00:45:59Humour and fun and cheekiness.
00:46:02Very attractive.
00:46:07It's not about, like, forcing situations.
00:46:09I'm looking at the whole thing as a bit of fun.
00:46:13I'm sorry, but we've got...
00:46:16handcuffs.
00:46:17That is funny, and it should be fun.
00:46:21Do I get to tie you up on a bed? Yeah.
00:46:23We've got to have a smile about this,
00:46:25because otherwise we're both going to bring each other down.
00:46:29You said you want a relationship like your mum and dad's,
00:46:31and I've seen what they're like.
00:46:32They're fricking laughing at each other,
00:46:33having a laugh and stuff like that.
00:46:34So you're like, yeah, I really want that.
00:46:36And so do I.
00:46:38This week should be goddamn fun.
00:46:41I need to let go of my insecurities and my fear of failure,
00:46:45because I really do believe that Jack and I can meet in the middle
00:46:49of having fun and being serious.
00:46:51To be honest with you, I'm going to push myself this week
00:46:53and trust Jack and the process and, yeah, have fun.
00:46:57I'm going to just put myself out there.
00:47:01Coming up...
00:47:02Here I am telling you something I've never told anyone.
00:47:04Andrew bares his soul.
00:47:06If you'll allow me to confess something to you.
00:47:09But will it save his marriage?
00:47:12And later...
00:47:13I kissed you goodnight and I went to bed and you didn't follow me.
00:47:16That's the moment you, like, grabbed me back and kissed me.
00:47:19I was watching a movie.
00:47:20You were watching a movie.
00:47:21The whole point of this week was man up, Al.
00:47:25Take control of our relationship.
00:47:28I feel like Al doesn't try.
00:47:36MUSIC
00:47:45Holly and Andrew haven't seen each other
00:47:47since Andrew blindsided Holly at the commitment ceremony
00:47:51by writing leave and crossing it out.
00:47:54But following an apology text from Andrew,
00:47:57Holly has decided they should meet.
00:48:01Last night, Andrew reached out with an apology
00:48:04and this morning I feel like I'm in the right headspace
00:48:07where I can have a conversation with him
00:48:09to tell him how genuinely upset I am
00:48:12and listen to see what he has to say.
00:48:15Whether it's too little, too late, I don't know.
00:48:17But I will give him an opportunity to tell me how he feels.
00:48:21KNOCK AT DOOR
00:48:32Hello.
00:48:33How are you?
00:48:34Good, how are you?
00:48:35Come on in.
00:48:37How have you been?
00:48:38Good.
00:48:40Take a seat.
00:48:45Do you want water or anything to drink?
00:48:48No, I'm good.
00:48:50Pretty hydrated.
00:48:51Yeah.
00:48:52Soda water.
00:48:53Yeah, you just had all your soda water.
00:48:57Well, I think that I've done enough talking
00:49:00and I'm here to listen to you.
00:49:04OK.
00:49:06At the commitment ceremony, you made me feel
00:49:10like I didn't exist to you.
00:49:13I don't think I've ever been quite disrespected like you
00:49:18treated me at the commitment ceremony.
00:49:22It was embarrassing.
00:49:25And so I was done yesterday.
00:49:28So, you know, if you're willing to put in effort,
00:49:30I'm listening to hear what you've got to say,
00:49:32but I'm a different person now and my God is up.
00:49:37First off, thank you for having the courage
00:49:39to say that to me and be honest.
00:49:41I do agree with you on all of it.
00:49:44I do appreciate you even being here with me right now.
00:49:47If you'll allow me to confess something to you,
00:49:51which is what I should have done during our first confession,
00:49:56I think this will shed some light on the situation that we're in.
00:49:59You've shown me support in some very intimate ways
00:50:02and you deserve this truth.
00:50:07What my biggest fear is, it's rejection.
00:50:13I put up a huge wall.
00:50:16It got even bigger the day we had our blow-up
00:50:18because I felt my biggest fears were confirmed.
00:50:21Rejection.
00:50:23From that night on, I felt alone and isolated,
00:50:26even though you were there.
00:50:27I checked out and all I did was look for reasons not to like you.
00:50:33I tried to push you away over and over again
00:50:35because of my own fears,
00:50:37and no matter what you said or did,
00:50:39that wall didn't budge. It only grew bigger.
00:50:43I have abandonment issues that I have been reluctant
00:50:45to deal with completely in entirety.
00:50:50I have been seeking validation through sexual partners.
00:50:53I've lied. I've cheated.
00:50:55And I've been hiding behind this for too long.
00:51:09I can't explain to you how hard it is to admit that,
00:51:12but here I am telling you something I've never told anyone.
00:51:16I want you to know that I trust you
00:51:18and that you are worth the fight.
00:51:20I apologize for not being a better man to you sooner.
00:51:23But the man you're looking at right now
00:51:25knows what he has to do
00:51:27to become that man right here and now.
00:51:30But you need to know
00:51:32that you deserve more than what I have given you,
00:51:34and none of this is your fault.
00:51:43Thank you for not rejecting me.
00:51:51I love you.
00:51:59I'm sorry.
00:52:01It's okay.
00:52:09Andrew saying that
00:52:11because he had a fear of rejection
00:52:15made me at least understand
00:52:17how he had so much resentment.
00:52:19I think you're gorgeous in every single way.
00:52:22And it's in my hopes
00:52:24that we can draw a line in the sand,
00:52:26forgive me for what I have done thus far,
00:52:29not forget
00:52:31I am committed to this with you.
00:52:35You know, I still carry the scars
00:52:37and I can't forget,
00:52:39but I want to move forward with you with the tasks,
00:52:42but I think I want to keep the living situation
00:52:44how it is
00:52:46in terms of us living separately
00:52:48and developing this
00:52:50from ground zero.
00:52:52That's fair. I agree.
00:52:54Yeah, I feel a massive relief.
00:52:56Take it one day at a time, one task at a time,
00:52:58and I'm okay with that.
00:53:02No worries.
00:53:04I can forgive,
00:53:06but there's no forgetting for me.
00:53:08That will take time,
00:53:10but I'm open to see where this goes,
00:53:12but right now I have no expectations.
00:53:19As Intimacy Week continues...
00:53:21How good was that box, though?
00:53:23Yeah.
00:53:25A box of goodies?
00:53:27You going to ask the girls if they used them?
00:53:29Of course.
00:53:31Our couples are working on their physical connection.
00:53:33Do you want my hands, like, here,
00:53:35or would you rather the over-the-top approach?
00:53:37I don't know.
00:53:39And while some are taking it slow...
00:53:41Yay, we hugged!
00:53:43We hugged!
00:53:45We hugged!
00:53:47Yay, we hugged!
00:53:49..other couples...
00:53:51So they call this game Yes, No, Maybe.
00:53:53All right. Let's go.
00:53:55..are getting straight to the point
00:53:57with open conversations about desire...
00:54:01Interesting.
00:54:03OK, one for one.
00:54:05Masturbation solo.
00:54:07Yes. Yes.
00:54:09..or lack thereof.
00:54:11Dry humping, clothed body-to-body rubbing.
00:54:13I wrote maybe just cos it's kind of like,
00:54:15yeah, I did that when I was, like, a teenager.
00:54:17But the second you said dry sex... Dry sex.
00:54:19..that's all I had in my mind.
00:54:21I just thought back to, like, being in the back seat
00:54:23of, like, my first ever boyfriend's, like, Kia Cerato car thing.
00:54:25Kia Cerato?
00:54:27And it's, like, getting literal carpet burn on my knees.
00:54:29Oh.
00:54:31Meanwhile, down the hall,
00:54:33Sam is feeling rejected
00:54:35after a late-night encounter
00:54:37with Al didn't go to plan.
00:54:41So, last night, I made a move with Al.
00:54:45I kissed him,
00:54:47but he didn't pick up on my cues.
00:54:49So I went to bed.
00:54:51I'm really waiting
00:54:53for Al to reciprocate
00:54:55what I give to him,
00:54:57and I don't get that.
00:54:59Oh.
00:55:01So I'm feeling really confused.
00:55:05We got a letter.
00:55:07I'm feeling good about Sam.
00:55:09I think she can see that I'm putting in the effort.
00:55:11Sam and Al.
00:55:13I just can't wait for more tasks to keep happening
00:55:15and them to get a bit more spicier.
00:55:17There's nothing more essential
00:55:19than a long, passionate
00:55:21kiss.
00:55:23You need to bring passion, intensity
00:55:25and even a little bit of
00:55:27heat.
00:55:29For this task, I want you and your partner
00:55:31to share a five-minute
00:55:33make-out session
00:55:35that makes your partner feel desired.
00:55:39I don't want to do that.
00:55:41We should give it a go.
00:55:43No, that's annoying.
00:55:45That annoys me.
00:55:47I know this task is really stepping out of your comfort zone.
00:55:49Yeah.
00:55:51It's stepping out of my comfort zone, too.
00:55:53Fact of the matter is, I don't feel like I'm desired by you
00:55:55and now I'm meant to give you a hot and heavy make-out sesh.
00:55:57I think we should trust the letter.
00:56:01Are you actually kidding me?
00:56:03He doesn't seem to want to
00:56:05have these nice moments in private
00:56:07and then gets told to do something you won't question.
00:56:09I don't get that.
00:56:11I thought by now you'd be up for this
00:56:13at this stage.
00:56:15You're saying this. It makes me wonder, like, do you actually like me?
00:56:17That shits me.
00:56:19I'm trying to take the lead here and try and
00:56:21get you out of your comfort zone.
00:56:23Because a letter told you to
00:56:25and I feel like you only do things when you're told to do them.
00:56:27I kissed you goodnight and I went to bed.
00:56:29I waited and you didn't follow me.
00:56:31You just go, alright, see ya.
00:56:33I was watching a movie.
00:56:35You were watching a movie.
00:56:37That's the moment
00:56:39you, like, stand up and you, like, follow me to bed
00:56:41or you, like, grab me back
00:56:43and kiss me. After you kiss me, what do I do?
00:56:45I grab you.
00:56:47This is it. What do you want to do? If you have no desire
00:56:49to grab me back or to follow me to bed
00:56:51or to kiss me, don't. That's cool, but that's what I'm
00:56:53that's how I'm getting the situation.
00:56:55I didn't realise that it was
00:56:57I was meant to follow you to bed.
00:56:59That's the thing, like, unless I f***ing write a letter
00:57:01I just say, kiss me at 9.05pm
00:57:03or, you know, like
00:57:05I shouldn't have to give you instructions.
00:57:07I did notice that, but I wasn't
00:57:09I thought you were just going to go to sleep and that was it.
00:57:11I didn't get the cue.
00:57:13No, I was meant to get up and follow you.
00:57:17Like Alessandra
00:57:19said, she wants to be touched.
00:57:21Like, then I
00:57:23kissed you, then
00:57:25like
00:57:27I want to be able to kiss Al 100%.
00:57:29Like, I feel like I've
00:57:31made moves to do that with Al all the time.
00:57:35I just get nothing back.
00:57:37Like, I really
00:57:39felt like the other night was, like, more natural
00:57:41because we'd been doing intimacy week
00:57:43and I, like, made the moment
00:57:45and then I get nothing.
00:57:49I feel like Al doesn't
00:57:51try until, like, someone
00:57:53tells him in black and white
00:57:55what to do. And, like, the
00:57:57whole point of this week was
00:57:59man up, Al. Take control
00:58:01of our relationship and he hasn't
00:58:03until this and he's like, yeah, let's
00:58:05give it a go. And it's like, this isn't a joke.
00:58:07Like, this isn't just a task.
00:58:13Like, he has to work for it. Like, I'm sorry.
00:58:15I'm sorry.
00:58:33To be honest, when I saw the task, I was glad
00:58:35the task came up. I was like, okay, here's my chance
00:58:37to take the lead. But, like, why do you
00:58:39have to wait for a piece of paper? I feel like you're
00:58:41stubborn and you just don't, you don't like
00:58:43me. Honestly, if you were like, I want to kiss you,
00:58:45I 100% would have said yes.
00:58:47But it's like, you have to wait for a letter.
00:58:49Like, you say you like me,
00:58:51you don't touch me. You not touching
00:58:53me makes me not feel desired.
00:58:55And it, like, obviously
00:58:57makes me feel like
00:59:01I'm nothing to you.
00:59:09I'm afraid to take a leap of faith and do things because I'm afraid
00:59:11to get rejected by you. Yeah, well, you need to
00:59:13step up.
00:59:15Maybe I'm just bad at reading girls, but
00:59:17I thought I was doing enough
00:59:19and, yeah, that conversation
00:59:21was a light bulb moment. I felt like, okay,
00:59:23I'll get it now.
00:59:25I totally understand everything that you've
00:59:27said, and there's, like, a load
00:59:29of stuff I need to work on, for sure.
00:59:31I'm gonna
00:59:33do whatever I can
00:59:35to make you feel loved.
00:59:37I
00:59:39really appreciate that.
00:59:41I need to just read you better, okay?
00:59:43That's one thing I really need to work on.
00:59:47I suck at being affectionate.
00:59:49I understand where she's coming from,
00:59:51but I'm committed.
00:59:53I want to take this next step, and I really want to
00:59:55progress the relationship.
00:59:57I think we should, like, totally hug it out
00:59:59if you want.
01:00:01I'm sorry.
01:00:03It's okay.
01:00:05She's wanted
01:00:07me to step up, take the lead,
01:00:09and really make moves,
01:00:11but I've just been too much of a
01:00:13little boy. Need more Mr.
01:00:15Sexy Guy.
01:00:17Oh, no, what is it? I went for a walk.
01:00:19I went for a walk and saw some funny flowers.
01:00:21Oh, my God.
01:00:23Where do you stash these?
01:00:25Wait, they have faces on them. They've got little funny
01:00:27faces on them, so I thought I'd do like it.
01:00:29Oh, my God, stop. You're cute. That's funny.
01:00:31I think after that conversation,
01:00:33I'm feeling really optimistic that he
01:00:35understands he needs to really show me
01:00:37affection. Can we, like,
01:00:39just do it for, like,
01:00:4130 seconds?
01:00:4530 seconds is long. We had to look at each other
01:00:47in the eyes for a really long time.
01:00:49That's long, I know. Yeah, okay,
01:00:51now it's time.
01:00:53It's a lot. Oh, my God, put that down.
01:01:01Ah.
01:01:15It's like waking up in the morning.
01:01:17I like the beautiful sound.
01:01:19Friends don't kiss
01:01:21like that. We are a couple now.
01:01:23Official.
01:01:25You're a good kisser.
01:01:27Tell me something I don't know.
01:01:29Aw, see?
01:01:31You're a good kisser too.
01:01:33This has gone from the
01:01:35worst day to the best day.
01:01:43Over two
01:01:45massive nights,
01:01:47the experiment turns on
01:01:49its head. A shot of
01:01:51love no one saw coming.
01:01:53Maybe this is what our relationship
01:01:55will be built on. And
01:01:57dinner party. Holly's not going to have a chance
01:01:59when she gets into this room tonight.
01:02:01Ambush. Not okay.
01:02:03Spit it out. Tell us.
01:02:05The group turns. She's under attack.
01:02:07On one of their own.
01:02:09Oh, no. Tomorrow, 7.30
01:02:11on Nine.