How to balance studies with social time? || Acharya Prashant, at RVCE Bangalore (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Namaste ji. So, my question I think is something that a lot of students face. So, like you

00:10said, the purpose of human life is to strive for excellence. But right now, I am trying

00:16my best to strive for that excellence, like to become a very good engineer. But for this,

00:23of course, you need to dedicate a lot of personal time as well. But when you dedicate a lot

00:28of personal time towards this goal of excellence, you also lose out on a lot of social time,

00:34like time for you to hang out with friends and have fun. So, how would you ideally be

00:40able to balance it? Because until now, every time I have achieved my excellence in anything,

00:46it has always been by me shutting the door and just sitting all alone in my room or wherever

00:51and just working. So, that is not really sustainable if you want to have long-term friendships

00:58and all. So, how would you suggest to balance all of this?

01:02No, that is a concept that these two are mutually exclusive things, studies and friendships

01:11and that these two ought to be balanced and that friendships cannot be sustained if one

01:17is too immersed in his studies. All this is a concept that you have absorbed from somewhere.

01:25Why can't you have friends who have fun with books? So, you are there and the friend is

01:31there and both of them are, both of you are hanging out with books. How are these two

01:43things mutually exclusive? That it's either books or friends. Why can't it be friends

01:49with books or books with friends? Why can't you find friends in books? Why can't you

01:55have friends who are books in themselves? Even if you are not carrying books, that friend

02:02is a living, walking book. Why can't you have friends of that nature? The problem is an

02:08internal fragmentation. One part of you wants to learn mathematics. One part of you wants

02:19to go into the bare and honest facts that science has to offer and science is very honest.

02:29The other part of you wants to have friends who just entertain you with lot of falseness

02:34and nonsense and you do not realize that these two cannot go together. The mind that wants

02:44to go into the reality of things via the scientific method, how can that same mind

02:51opt to have fun with someone who is cracking bad jokes that mean nothing and even expects

02:59you to laugh? But we want to have these two and that we call as work-life balance. Can

03:06we have both of these? Why do you want to have both of these? Have the one thing that

03:11is really really precious, no? Do you want to have a flight and a train ticket and balance

03:18the two? One leg in the flight, one in the train. If you want to reach your destination,

03:27you need to have only one and if you have two then there is a problem. You will reach nowhere.

03:35You have the right flight for the right destination and have your friend in the flight. If you

03:43have a friend who has a different flight to catch to a different destination, then you

03:48either drop the friend or the flight. These two cannot go together. Nothing of balance

03:56would work here. Drop this word balance from your mind totally. Totally. Balance simply

04:06means fragmentation, division. This is to be done, this is to be done and I am balancing

04:11both of these. Which basically means that you can never be completely into either of

04:16these. Otherwise, why do you need to balance? Joy lies in absolute immersion, not in balancing.

04:27Joy lies in totality, not in incompleteness and all forms of balancing are incompleteness.

04:32Are they not? 50% this, 50% that or 90% this, 90% that. Be it 50 or 90, both are incomplete.

04:41Whereas joy lies in absolute 100%. If you cannot be dedicated 100% to the one thing in life,

04:52life, I repeat, is not worth living. Balance is not something good. You know, where does

04:59this concept of balance come from? You want me to tell you? This comes from the point of

05:08industrial revolution. Now, industrial revolution threw up a lot of jobs that were inherently

05:16soul-sapping. So, for example, in a factory, you are just standing by an assembly line

05:24and inspecting goods as they pass by. And what's your job 8 hours of the day? To keep

05:31looking at goods and if one of them is not proper, then you pull it out. Right? Now,

05:37this kind of job is something no sane man can live with. It will kill you. Maybe you

05:43can do it for 2 days, 4 days, a month. But if you are told to do it for 20 years, how

05:48will you live? So, the concept of work-life balance came in. They said, fine, you do this,

05:53we'll pay you enough and then you go and have fun in the house. So, there will be work-life

05:58balance and then you can console yourself. You can say, alright, I tortured myself for

06:038 hours in the job, but in return of that, I got some money and using that money, I bought

06:09a vacation. And in the vacation, I had fun. So, see, there was a balance. There was torture

06:14and then there was fun and they were balanced. Don't let this happen to you. Don't live a

06:20balanced life. Not at all. Live an outrageous life. You understand outrageous? Live a totally

06:29unbalanced life. Unbalanced means only one side is present, the other side is totally

06:34absent and that one side has to be so absolute that it contains all the sides. That one side

06:42is not partial then. That one side in itself is the absolute then. Just get into the one

06:49thing worth loving in life. Choose the right road for yourself and if while walking down

06:56that road, you meet great friends, no problem enlisting them. But you cannot have friends

07:05who have chosen a different road. Especially when you are choosing a life partner. Please

07:10be very cautious. If there is one thing you love in life and you have a life partner whose

07:18ways are totally different, you will find yourself torn, split. Remember, one leg in

07:25the flight, one leg in the train. That kind of life you will live for 50 years. Don't

07:30let that happen. Have one central theme in life and everything else should be around

07:36that theme. You cannot have two themes in life and balance them. Okay?

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