Compromise and Adjustment with Parents
Many times while making life decisions, children feel that their parents do not understand them, they are orthodox and hence they get blinded by their own beliefs and thus unable to understand what are they trying to say. So how can we smoothen our relationship with our parents and reduce the chaos and distance in our relationship with them?
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00:00See never think this is never think that you are all alone to decide
00:07or think for your own future life.
00:10See your parents are also there.
00:12You take care of your friends, don't you?
00:16You take some suggestions from your parents what to do, what not to do,
00:20which is right or which is not wrong.
00:23So same way your parents are there to give some suggestions to you.
00:28So if you find there are good suggestions, be positive for that
00:32and just compromise, discuss with them.
00:36See the Iran parents are not your enemy.
00:42They are always thinking for you.
00:44Only thing you think in different way, your parents think in different way.
00:48But just make some compromise.
00:50Try to convince them whatever you want.
00:53Try to make them understand what is inside you.
00:57But just, oh, you are my parents, you don't understand.
01:03I am modern, I know everything, you are desi.
01:07No, but they never understand from your point of view.
01:10Yeah, I know.
01:11So there should be some compromise.
01:13Because they are your parents, they have done so many things for you
01:17whether they liked or not.
01:19Still they did.
01:20So sometimes you also have to compromise whether you like or not.
01:27Even if you don't like it, you have to compromise.
01:29Yeah, so many things you have to do.
01:31In your life, so many things you don't like, still you have to do.
01:35Everything you can't do which you like.
01:38You don't like to study, still you have to study.
01:43You don't like to work, still you have to work because you want money.
01:47So many things, even with your friends also.
01:51So many things of your friends you don't like, still you have to maintain the friendship.
01:55You have to go through whatever is coming.
01:57So why not with parents?
01:59So this is the life.
02:01Life is nothing but adjustments everywhere.
02:04Wherever you go, work, your boss is there, your superintendent is there.
02:09You don't like them.
02:11They are bossy, you don't like.
02:13Still you have to adjust them.
02:15Why?
02:16Because you have to earn money.
02:18Same thing here also.
02:20Because they are your parents, that doesn't mean that you don't have to listen to them.
02:25Listen to them.
02:27Try to understand their viewpoint.
02:29And try to make them understand your viewpoint.
02:33And for that, you should have a good communication.
02:37Be friendly with your parents.
02:40Try to make them open.
02:42Be open with them.
02:44What happens if you don't communicate?
02:47That's the biggest problem.
02:49Don't talk with your parents.
02:51What you like, what you don't like.
02:54That is the greatest disadvantage.
02:56And what happens then?
02:58Then you grab parents all the time.
03:02They are unhappy.
03:04Even they love, they do so many things for you.
03:07Still they are unhappy.
03:11We don't want to make anybody unhappy.
03:14So why don't your parents?
03:19When you become positive for your parents.
03:24Become positive, think positively.
03:27Then you will find some different understanding, different viewpoints.
03:32And then you will find some compromise will be there.
03:36Some compromise will be there.
03:38It's your duty to make some compromise.
03:41Make some good relationship with your parents.
03:46And parents should be happy.
03:49Different thinking always there.
03:53Even husband and wife you think.
03:55Okay, I have chosen my life partner.
03:59Which I like.
04:02I watch for one year with email and this and that.
04:07Very nice.
04:09Very good boy or girl.
04:12But still you are not successful.
04:15So many adjustments you have to take.
04:17Even you choose.
04:21Because different thinking always there will be difference in thinking.
04:29Never, no two persons can be same 100% in thinking.
04:35Different viewpoints always will be there.
04:37So where there is differences you have to take some adjustments.
04:42Because you have to, you want to maintain the relationship.
04:49You need the relationship.
04:51Of course suppose there is between husband and wife you may divorce.
04:54But what about parents? You cannot divorce from your parents.
04:58There is no law.
05:06So you have to adjust there.
05:09Be comfortable with your parents.
05:11Make them happy.
05:13If your parents are unhappy from your side.
05:16Naturally you find you will be also not happy.
05:18You will also be unhappy from inside.
05:22That's there, always there.
05:24So try to understand them.
05:27Sit down with them.
05:28When they are in good mood, you are also in good mood.
05:30Sit down with them.
05:31Talk, have a good communication.
05:34That's the only thing requires.
05:36The only lack of communication is it makes big chaos.
05:41Big distance, lot of misunderstandings.