Are Parents really Ruling over their Children?
Why do Children have to follow what their parents say? Do they rule over their children or love their children?
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00:00Why do I have to follow my parents rule? First thing, whether you are dependent of your parents or not?
00:13So
00:15This rule
00:18That to whom you are dependent you have to follow what they say
00:25If you are independent then it's a different story
00:30So
00:31You are dependent
00:34So you have to follow their rule. Actually you feel that these are the rules
00:40You think it is their rules, they find this is discipline
00:45Parents think this is discipline and you think this is rule. This is only way of different thinking
00:53Parents never think that we are rulers over our children
00:58They never think, they think this should be the discipline
01:03That is the difference. Suppose your parents say that
01:08You don't watch TV all the time
01:12Have some other activity
01:14Just read some books on your home phone or whatever
01:19You should watch TV for half an hour or one hour, whatever is there now
01:23You think this is rule
01:26Right
01:28Actually, this is not rule, this is discipline
01:32Everything is all the time, most of the time you watch TV. That's not fair
01:40So you will be one track mind all the time. You should have some other activities too
01:46Then your parents think that you should have
01:50Some other activities like play games, read books
01:56You have nice
02:00Talk with your parents or your friends, whatever your parents think
02:06Some other activities, because of that parents think you should have learned
02:11Bharatanatyam or Kathakali dancing
02:14Or boys Karate or something
02:20So just change your thinking that they are ruling
02:23They are trying their best to make the house, make the children
02:29Indisciplined. For that certain
02:32Certain things, certain discipline should be established in the house
02:38Even your mum, mum also should be disciplined, your father should be also disciplined
02:44Suppose your father doesn't go for work and all the time he watch the TV, what will happen? Say with your mum
02:50What will happen for your food and for money from your father's side?
02:56What do you think?
02:58They have to work, your mum has to go, your father has to work
03:04He never says, oh I am bored, I don't want to go for my work, I want to leave my job
03:12They have to follow certain things
03:15Because it's their responsibility, same way children are also having their certain responsibility
03:22The major responsibility is you should be good in your studies
03:27You should have certain
03:30other activities too
03:32Plus always respect your parents
03:36Not only parents but all elderly people, you have to respect them
03:41That's it
03:43Otherwise
03:45Do your parents always say that don't play at all?
03:53Sometimes but not always
03:55Do your parents say don't watch TV at all?
03:59then
04:01Do your parents say don't eat?
04:05All the time they must be begging you for eating, eat
04:10Of course they must be saying for junk food
04:14So
04:19Simple, there are two different viewpoints, your parents are on one side and you are on the other side
04:25You are looking from your viewpoints, parents are looking from their own viewpoints
04:31so
04:33Just you should study your parents' psychology
04:37Suppose your parents are telling, oh you better eat something or why don't you eat?
04:42You say why I'm not hungry mom
04:47So she will again and again tell you to eat something, you are hungry
04:52Why she's telling, why she's nagging, because she's feeling inside
04:56That my son or my daughter is hungry, he's not eating properly
05:02This is excess feeling for the kids, this is excess attachment, MOH, which is called MOH for
05:09kids
05:11That's why she's telling, she's telling out of her control of her MOH, her attachment to her kids
05:18That's why she's always telling, you think that she's nagging me
05:23Even though I'm not hungry, she's telling me, but she doesn't know that you have already ate some junk food before
05:31So these are the simple, small, small
05:36misunderstandings and
05:38of course, this doesn't make any big distance between kids and parents, but
05:44little, little distances, you don't like, parents don't like that, later on you are, your age is small, but later as you grow up, you'll find
05:53They are ruling over you, so take out this thing that my parents are ruling
05:59Take out this thinking from your head, they are not rulers
06:04They love you, a ruler never loves, there is no ruling and love, it's all together
06:23You