Know the Reasons of Expectations and its Reactions
How do expectations lead to the creation and increase in differences among parents and children? How did Pujya Niruma used to attempt to reduce and remove these thereby making the relationship smoother?
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00:00Once expectations are there from your parents, whether you fulfill it knowingly or unknowingly,
00:11if you fulfill it's fine, if you don't then it turns out into a reaction, great reaction.
00:19Parents become mad with you on their own reactions and attachments.
00:27Attachment and liking and disliking.
00:32Parents never have hatred for their children.
00:35So whenever I talk with your parents, I take your side.
00:43And whenever I talk with you, I always take their side.
00:52So that you can have a balance.
00:55I'll show you plus side of your parents.
01:01Minus side, you know very well.
01:07Plus side, you don't know.
01:09Even though you know, but you don't realize that.
01:12That's why I have to make you realize.
01:14There are so many plus points.
01:17So that's the important thing.
01:20They are really heartily attached with their kids.
01:23Especially in this country, they don't have great balance.
01:31They don't have anything in relative attachment with any family member except the kids.
01:39Whole life, everything is for their kids.
01:43So there's more attachment, more expectations.
01:46And expectations, they don't get fulfilled and more frustration.
01:52That is the natural phenomenon which is always confined in your parents.
01:59Same thing with you.
02:01You are also attached with your parents.
02:05You think, you also expect certain things from your parents.
02:11You always like, tell you whatever you want, your parents will allow you to do it.
02:17But see different things, different understanding, different culture,
02:22different types of environment where you are raised, they are raised.
02:35This makes a lot of different psychology.
02:40So certain things which you do, you like, they don't like.
02:47Same with you also.
02:49Certain things your parents do, you don't like.
02:55So there's always some differences between kids and parents.
03:01Still, the love between the two is never reduced, never gone.
03:07That's the best part of it.
03:09Because parents always, they love their kids.