Welcome to Plathville S6 Episode 5 - You're Like a Stranger to Me Now
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00:00What would you like?
00:02Um, I'll get a cup of coffee.
00:04Sure. For you.
00:06Thanks.
00:08He told me he doesn't mind drinking
00:10when he's just out being social.
00:12Apparently I'm not.
00:14Somebody who wants to be social.
00:18I really feel
00:20like the right thing for me to do
00:22is to
00:24just apologize
00:26for what I know I did wrong.
00:28You talking about like with Olivia?
00:30Yeah.
00:32I texted her
00:34to meet up and talk things
00:36through.
00:38The little girls told me
00:40that you didn't get
00:42your girlfriend anything for her birthday.
00:44So this year
00:46maybe step it up a little?
00:48Right now I'm living with my girlfriend.
00:50She's an incredible woman.
00:52She's the one that took my heart and
00:54pulled me down to South Florida.
00:56But living with someone
00:58is very close to marriage
01:00and it's a lot.
01:04I really just wanted to say that
01:06I'm sorry for how I handled
01:08everything and how I treated you last year.
01:12I hope you know I really did love your brother.
01:16I guess I learned that sometimes
01:18love is not enough.
01:22But it doesn't mean it never existed.
01:26Hi.
01:40Hi.
01:42How are you?
01:44The girls have been with Barry this past week
01:46and so Mike is bringing
01:48them to do taekwondo.
01:50Good to see you.
01:52So this is where you guys practice, huh?
01:54Hi.
01:56Mom, she sent dog mismatch shoes for me.
02:00I guess I didn't compare.
02:02Things like this happen all the time.
02:04I'll think I have something at one property but I really don't
02:06and I'm like, wait, I'm missing it.
02:08Stuff like that happens all the time but you just get used to it.
02:10So you came to watch?
02:12Yep.
02:14You're in for a treat.
02:16I'm getting used to seeing Ken around the little girls
02:18as an adult male in their life
02:20that they look up to.
02:22So that's very good.
02:24You guys look like little doctors now.
02:28Alright girls, good to see you.
02:30Ready for our awesome class today? Yep.
02:32So let's go ahead and get lined up.
02:34Let's just go ahead and start warming up with some jumping jacks, okay?
02:36I have
02:38a bunch of stuff going on in my life right now.
02:40I started teaching gymnastics.
02:42I turned 15 and I'm going to be
02:44getting my permit soon.
02:46Then the change of being in two separate households.
02:48But I feel like when I go to taekwondo,
02:50I forget about it and just focus,
02:52which really helps.
02:54So today we're going to really be focusing on
02:56our punch defense.
02:58Let's just say this person just kind of
03:00swings at your head, okay?
03:02That's all we're going to do.
03:04We're going to practice that real quick, alright?
03:06Awesome.
03:08This is smart to teach the kids how to beat each other up.
03:16This is pretty tough.
03:18Let me think of my hair.
03:20I'm really happy that
03:22my younger sisters get to do all these classes
03:24and activities outside of the house
03:26that I wasn't really allowed to do growing up.
03:28Cass, you ready?
03:30When I think of where I could be at in something
03:32if I had started it when I was that age,
03:34there's no telling where I would be at now.
03:36I think I could have been a professional athlete.
03:38Awesome.
03:40Way to go, Amber.
03:42So the next thing we're going to work on today
03:44is going to be a little bit of the sports sparring.
03:46So let's go ahead
03:48and put your pads on, okay?
03:52And go.
03:58I would love to have given
04:00all of my children everything,
04:02but when Micah was young,
04:04we had nine children from teenager
04:06down to infant, and I physically
04:08couldn't go cart them off all over
04:10the place for lessons.
04:12Micah didn't get
04:14taekwondo lessons, but the girls
04:16didn't get growing up on a farm,
04:18knowing how to garden, take care of
04:20animals. They all got a different childhood.
04:24And time.
04:26Outstanding work.
04:28Give your partner a high-five because that was great.
04:30Awesome job. Does anybody
04:32have any questions for me today?
04:34Can I beat up my brother?
04:40When my mom first started dating Ken,
04:42it was a little bit of concern, but it's wearing off.
04:44He does seem like a good guy.
04:46All right, so girls, great job.
04:48Hands in the middle real quick. But I think some of the older
04:50siblings are a little more skeptical of Ken.
04:52I feel like Ethan is, but I don't
04:54have anything against him.
04:56But I think it's just a little bit of
04:58it's hard to get over that he's
05:00dating my mom. Okay, you girls ready?
05:02Good job.
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05:32Mariah and Lydia are coming over today to see me
05:34for a little bit before they head back to Georgia.
05:36I've enjoyed having
05:38Mariah and Lydia here. I enjoy any time
05:40my siblings come up this way.
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05:44Hey!
05:46You guys are some slow walkers.
05:48Well, I've had to deal with her.
05:50I'm sorry, she's having a rough morning.
05:52How are you?
05:54I'm good, how are you? I'm good.
05:56This has been one of the best trips for me
05:58to see family.
06:00It's been a lot of memories
06:02and a lot of good times.
06:04Make your confession.
06:06What did you do now?
06:08I spilled your coffee
06:10on my new shirt!
06:12It's okay, I spill stuff on me all the time.
06:14I did have a conversation
06:16with Olivia yesterday and it went well
06:18and I'd like to tell Ethan a little bit
06:20about that, but I just want to be careful
06:22with Ethan's emotions and feelings
06:24because I know he's in a tricky spot.
06:26I need a T-shirt.
06:28Yeah, I mean, I could give you a T-shirt.
06:30One thing I've loved seeing over the last
06:32several years is even when
06:34each one of my family members
06:36go through different hard things,
06:38someone always shows up, expected or unexpected,
06:40to mourn with them, laugh with them, whatever's needed.
06:42And I just hope Miranda can maybe bring
06:44a little sunshine in his day.
06:46When my outfit is ruined, my day is ruined.
06:48I can go get you another coffee.
06:50I mean, I could go for coffee.
06:52All right, I'll be back.
06:56There went Arnold Schwarzenegger.
06:58I'll be back.
07:00Hold on, I have a joke.
07:02I'm going to go to school to become a magician.
07:04So you can disappear?
07:06Yes, I can.
07:08Yeah, that's a good idea.
07:10That's better than my idea.
07:12Oh, crap.
07:14What was your idea?
07:16You don't want to know.
07:18Okay. If I became a magician,
07:20I would disappear.
07:22Nobody would be able to find me.
07:24I mean, Ethan's one of the first people
07:26I go to when I need advice because
07:28he always gives such good advice
07:30and he really knows how to encourage me
07:32and cheer me up and help me move forward
07:34with things, and I wish so bad
07:36that I could do that for him.
07:38He's working through the healing process
07:40and I don't want Ethan to hold everything in.
07:42I do pray for Ethan.
07:44Life is hard.
07:46It's hard to do it alone.
07:52These were Olivia's
07:54Christmas gifts last year.
07:56Um...
08:00I did see Olivia yesterday.
08:02We had a conversation
08:04and it went good.
08:06Okay, that's good.
08:08Yeah.
08:10I don't know, going into it,
08:12I just was, like,
08:14wanting to really make sure
08:16that I'm not trying to, like,
08:18defend myself or anything.
08:20Like, it was just really, like,
08:22that doesn't do any good.
08:24We see things the way we see things
08:26and I messed up in these areas
08:28and I'm sorry for that.
08:30It is sad.
08:32Like, I hate that it took me this long to get to this place,
08:34but I'm happy I got here.
08:38I'm happy for Mariah
08:40that she talked with Olivia
08:42and they had a good conversation.
08:44I'm very happy that Mariah
08:46did what she felt like she needed to do
08:48to clear her chest.
08:50I have not seen Olivia on this trip yet,
08:52but I guess I'll see her soon.
08:56Me and Olivia are, I guess,
08:58going to go through everything here and figure out
09:00what she wants and is taking
09:02and what I'm taking
09:04and I'll be out of this damn place
09:06in a month.
09:08That's a cute apartment, but I don't like it here.
09:10Mm-hmm. Yeah.
09:12Just because,
09:14you know, we were here together,
09:16so I don't want to be here.
09:18I get that.
09:22I'm out of here.
09:24If it means anything, I think you're really strong.
09:28Thanks.
09:30Mm-hmm.
09:34Coffee.
09:36Oh, damn.
09:38I love my sisters and I appreciate them
09:40trying to cheer me up,
09:42but there's
09:44just nothing
09:46that can be said or done
09:48to really change anything.
09:50Well, Mariah and I should get to the airport.
09:54Later this week, Olivia's coming
09:56by to pack up a lot of her stuff
09:58and finalized divorce paperwork.
10:00All right, well, fly safe.
10:02Okay. I love you.
10:04Love you, too.
10:06Call me anytime.
10:08Okay. All right.
10:10Bye.
10:12Bye.
10:14Bye.
10:16I've struggled a lot
10:18anytime I've seen Olivia
10:20after we separated,
10:22and I dread talking to her.
10:32I love the cherry oak floors.
10:34Oh, yeah.
10:36Nothing's finalized with the divorce,
10:38but if I had my way,
10:40I would be moving here.
10:42I get a lot of people messaging me on social media
10:44to set them up with you.
10:46Um, what about anything like pictures?
10:48Do you want those?
10:50Yeah.
10:52Do you?
10:54She's always been like that.
10:56Like, when she cuts something out of her life,
10:58she's gone and she never looks back.
11:00And I know if she can do that with her own family,
11:02I don't stand a chance.
11:14It's been a while since I've been here.
11:16It's been, like, years, right?
11:18I think so.
11:20Looks the same, though.
11:22Mike and I are coming to one of our properties
11:24that we own.
11:26This was purchased as a rental property
11:28in a fixer-upper,
11:30and, you know, nothing's finalized with the divorce,
11:32but if I had my way,
11:34the main house would be sold,
11:36and I would be moving here.
11:38This would be a fresh start.
11:40I've got some things I want to do in here.
11:42I've got some things I want to do in here, potentially.
11:44Yeah, this could be a nice kitchen if you renovate it.
11:46Kim and I,
11:48we're in the land of marriage limbo.
11:50The final agreement is not signed yet.
11:52I love the cherry oak floors.
11:54Oh, yeah.
11:56I know it won't always be like this,
11:58but it seems like it'll always be like this,
12:00but I don't know.
12:02This is a nice old house.
12:04Yeah.
12:06It's got charm.
12:08Maybe I'll end up here,
12:10but I don't know.
12:12We're at an impasse.
12:14I think my dad's just excited
12:16to have closure
12:18in one chapter of his life
12:20and step into the next,
12:22and he does like this house,
12:24so I think it would be a good move.
12:26So what's going on?
12:28I have a really good thing going in Florida right now,
12:30working towards opening,
12:32starting my own fencing company
12:34and hopefully landscape company as well.
12:36And you've been doing that for a number of months,
12:38so you're in a committed relationship
12:40and everything's going good.
12:42Girlfriend's doing good.
12:44Progressed rather rapidly.
12:46Yeah.
12:48But it's good.
12:50So I met my girlfriend a year and a half ago.
12:52For the first few months of our relationship,
12:54it was long distance.
12:56We'd just talk on the phone all the time.
12:58I think that's how our relationship
13:00developed so rapidly
13:02is because we knew everything about each other
13:04just from talking all the time.
13:06Is that possible?
13:08Who knows? Maybe it is, maybe it isn't.
13:12But you know, the big thing,
13:14the big thing you're going to have to do
13:16is make that decision to commit folly.
13:18That's what's coming.
13:20One thing about my dad
13:22that I noticed is his
13:24unwavering of what he believes in.
13:26I feel like his views
13:28on marriage
13:30haven't even changed.
13:32The way my parents did a relationship
13:34into marriage was I guess
13:36the courting style.
13:38That's what they saw as the way to go.
13:40They kind of pushed us to do the same thing.
13:42I think the elephant in the room is
13:44my parents got divorced in the end.
13:48I don't think there is a one right way
13:50to do something.
13:52I still think about
13:54am I ready to settle down?
13:56It's just
13:58the question is what career do I want to choose?
14:00Do I want to
14:02have my own company and do landscaping
14:04and stuff like that or do I want to
14:06go down another road of like
14:08if I wanted to still get into acting.
14:10There's just a lot of options but I think right now
14:12I see myself gearing down and
14:14working towards
14:16my future, potentially our future.
14:18Well, there's still a little hesitation
14:20in your voice about
14:22well, could I be doing other things
14:24or should I take another path?
14:26Yeah, I guess there is a little bit
14:28of that still. I try not to
14:30but I can't really help it.
14:32What about you up here?
14:34Once your divorce is finalized and you're
14:36settled into a routine, do you see yourself dating?
14:38Ever?
14:40I don't really know.
14:42I'm not going to date given my setup
14:44the way the situation is as it is.
14:46But okay, say that changes
14:48I have no clue
14:50what that looks like. I will say this
14:52though, I get a lot of people messaging me
14:54on social media wanting me to set them up
14:56with you.
14:58I've never experienced
15:00a DM. I don't know when I will
15:02experience a DM because I don't have
15:04social media presence.
15:06It's a little daunting to think about.
15:08What do you do?
15:10If you were going to put a profile out there
15:12a dating profile or whatever
15:14you'd want some good pictures, you'd want
15:16a profile that will help weed
15:18people out.
15:20Or there's the option of you could just
15:22Google, how do I get
15:24Riz?
15:26What is that?
15:28It's when you basically
15:30know exactly what to say and how to act
15:32to make a woman fall for you.
15:34All these
15:36kids have these new words.
15:38You're so dope, man.
15:40I don't think they say that anymore.
15:42That's old?
15:44I think so.
15:46Dope has come and gone?
15:48But that's sick. Sick is still in, right?
15:50Kind of. If I were to create a social media
15:52profile, I want to just have something
15:54catchy like he's got the ABCs
15:56down, he's adventurous, brave
15:58and creative.
16:00Barry's got his ABCs
16:02down. I can't really imagine
16:04him dating because I've never
16:06thought of that.
16:08But he's a good looking dude for his age
16:10and very fit and
16:12everyone knows he's quirky.
16:14He's unique. I feel like you have a
16:16pretty good idea of what you want
16:18and how to get it.
16:20I'll help you when everything comes up.
16:22Someone who makes me laugh.
16:24I can make her laugh.
16:26She can make me laugh.
16:28Someone who is somewhat athletic.
16:30That would be great.
16:32Yeah, there you go.
16:34But nothing's happening in that realm.
16:36It's all quiet on that front.
16:38Don't downplay it. You do think about it sometimes.
16:40Once in a while.
16:42Completely natural.
16:44Yeah, it's natural, right?
16:52I'm back in the apartment I used to live in
16:54to get the rest of my things
16:56moved out.
16:58I still have the keys
17:00and Ethan told me to go ahead and get started without him.
17:02And I thought it would not be good for him to just sit there
17:04and watch me.
17:06I feel like being back here
17:08is brutal to feel it all.
17:10All the wounds that were healing are now
17:12kind of being healed.
17:14I feel like I'm back in the apartment
17:16I used to live in.
17:18I feel like I'm back in the apartment
17:20I feel like all the wounds that were healing
17:22are now kind of being torn back open
17:24and I don't really want to have more conversations.
17:26I want to be able to peacefully move on.
17:28So I'm just paying attention to what needs to get done.
17:30The other thing is
17:32I do need Ethan to sign divorce papers.
17:34Last time I tried it did not go well.
17:36And so I'm hoping that today
17:38we can actually get this done.
17:40I swear they're very dead.
17:44Back when I moved to L.A.
17:46a couple months after Ethan
17:48said we were done
17:50at that time we had a conversation
17:52that ended peacefully.
17:54He also said we were done.
17:56And I received those words he said at the time
17:58and I said, okay, I think you did the best you could.
18:00It wasn't right for me.
18:02We'll go our separate ways but I wish you the best.
18:04That was my closure.
18:06That was my moving on.
18:08I didn't know that he was thinking I would change my mind
18:10after the summer and move back.
18:12He just keeps thinking I'm always going to come back
18:14because I did before.
18:19Hey.
18:29This is the first time I've seen Olivia
18:31in about a month.
18:33Part of me wants to be with her
18:35because I still care about her
18:37and love her.
18:39Do you want to keep any of these cards?
18:41I'll go through that.
18:43Okay.
18:45But then it's also
18:47extremely painful.
18:49I know before I left for LA
18:51we had kind of talked
18:53about who was taking what but I just want to be sure
18:55before I pack my stuff up.
18:57What about anything like pictures?
18:59Do you want those?
19:01Yeah.
19:03Do you?
19:05I knew it.
19:07There's stuff that she threw away
19:09that I was like, why'd you throw that away?
19:13But she's always been like that.
19:15If she cuts something out of her life
19:17she's gone and she never looks back.
19:19And I know if she can do that with her own family
19:21I mean
19:23I don't stand a chance.
19:29Why is it that I feel like
19:31you can move on so easily?
19:33Is this just a front that you put on?
19:35I feel like you don't care.
19:37And it infuriates me.
19:39I don't understand.
19:46How's boat life going?
19:48Never a dull moment.
19:50Power went out this morning.
19:52My mom and I are very similar.
19:54We both get very determined
19:56to do something and sometimes
19:58it's not the best decision.
20:00I'm not saying mom's boat was a bad decision
20:02but I have an idea
20:04that's amazing and I do it
20:06and everyone else is standing around
20:08shaking their head.
20:16Mom?
20:18Yeah?
20:20I'm here.
20:22Hi.
20:24Help me not fall.
20:26I like your
20:28even step there.
20:30Mariah's been to the boat before
20:32but this is the first time
20:34that it's just been the two of us
20:36to really sit and enjoy the boat together.
20:38Come on in.
20:40Nice.
20:42Beautiful.
20:44Mariah just got back from Minnesota
20:46so I'm eager to hear how things went
20:48and does she have any news about Ethan?
20:50How's boat life going?
20:52Oh, it's good.
20:54It's, you know, never a dull moment.
20:56The power went out this morning.
20:58When I woke up this morning
21:00I had no power
21:02which is kind of normal.
21:04That happens a lot.
21:06I can only run so much
21:08if I want to run the toaster oven
21:10and I have to unplug the AC
21:12so I'm kind of used to that
21:14but there's kind of a burnt smell in the air
21:16so I got John
21:18who works here at the marina
21:20and he found a burnt plug.
21:22Look at that.
21:24So right now we have no power.
21:26But at least the boat didn't burn down.
21:28So can we make coffee?
21:30If you want me to make you coffee
21:32I can heat up some charcoal
21:34on the grill
21:36and heat up the water over the grill
21:38and I can make you coffee that way.
21:40It's okay.
21:42This is where my mom and I are very similar.
21:44We both get very determined
21:46to do something
21:48and we make it happen
21:50and sometimes it's not the best decision.
21:52I'm not saying mom's boat was a bad decision.
21:54She wanted it.
21:56She's happy and I think that's wonderful
21:58and I like the boat too. I think it's fun.
22:00But that's where I'm like
22:02oh my gosh, the same way.
22:04Like I have an idea.
22:06It's amazing. It's a great idea.
22:08I'm going to do it and I do it
22:10and everyone else is
22:12standing around shaking their head.
22:14So I take it you saw Ethan
22:16when you were in Minnesota.
22:18Yes, it was a really good time.
22:20So good to see everybody.
22:22How's Ethan doing with divorce
22:24and all of that?
22:26I feel like it's definitely up and down for him
22:28understandably.
22:30He's really struggling with it all.
22:32I'm sad for Ethan
22:34that he's having to go through getting a divorce.
22:36I know that's hard.
22:38I do think that
22:40staying in an unhappy marriage
22:42isn't the answer either.
22:44We haven't had any big deep conversations yet
22:46but I know he's going through a lot right now
22:48and I want him to talk to me
22:50when he's ready.
22:52But in the meantime I do still care
22:54what he's going through and that he's okay.
22:56Did I tell you I met up with Olivia?
22:58She was there to get some of her stuff.
23:00Okay.
23:02I was surprised to hear that she
23:04talked to Olivia.
23:06I don't really,
23:08I'm not really sure what to think about that.
23:10If she feels like
23:12she needed to, I don't know,
23:14smooth things over then
23:16I guess that's fine.
23:18But I think we've all
23:20seen and experienced
23:22a lot of things
23:24that have happened
23:26and I've seen and experienced
23:28enough hurt from dealing with
23:30Olivia that it does make me
23:32kind of scared to think about
23:34I don't know,
23:36like Mariah talking to, I don't know.
23:38I don't know, it just brings up a lot of
23:40um
23:46I don't know.
23:48I don't know, I just wanted to
23:50lay everything to rest and apologize
23:52for what I knew I did wrong
23:54Everything I went down last year
23:56I'm not proud of how I handled that.
23:58Honestly, like looking back
24:00like it was, I felt like
24:02I needed to like
24:04fight and speak up
24:06and that was just honestly the most
24:08draining
24:10thing.
24:12So what do you wish you had done instead?
24:14Honestly what you and Dad did.
24:16Which is what?
24:18Just let it go.
24:20The analogy that Dad and I
24:22always used, especially regarding
24:24Olivia was ping pong.
24:26You know, and every time she would throw something
24:28at us, it was her serving the ball to us.
24:30And we had the choice of either
24:32hitting the ball back and then engaging in
24:34ping pong, which you know
24:36it's just going to keep it going
24:38or we chose instead to just lay down
24:40the paddle and not
24:42play.
24:44One of the things that she did
24:46say that she really did love
24:48Ethan but love isn't enough
24:50and like yes
24:52I guess that's true
24:54but
24:56I do believe though that
24:58love is enough, you know, if you really do love
25:00someone you're going to be
25:02willing to
25:04compromise.
25:06I feel like love is enough
25:08if you let
25:10that love control how you live.
25:12In other words, listening to them
25:14putting their needs above yours
25:16you know, being selfless
25:18you know, helping them
25:20but just loving them enough like
25:22having that emotion but not
25:24letting that show through in your actions
25:26is not enough.
25:28I think love is an action
25:30an action of occasionally
25:32prioritizing the other person and their wants
25:34and their needs and
25:36you know, making room for
25:38whatever it is that they need to
25:40live their best life
25:42and so I feel like
25:44love is enough if both people
25:46are prioritizing each other and I feel
25:48like Barry and I didn't do that and so
25:50our marriage didn't work.
25:54How are you doing?
25:58Good.
26:00You know
26:02it's been rough, right?
26:06That's just
26:08something I've learned through everything is
26:10life is hard sometimes. Yeah.
26:12Sometimes it throws things at you that you
26:14do not see coming.
26:16Yeah.
26:18It's been really hard for me to see
26:20Mariah go through another
26:22painful relationship breakup.
26:24I know in the past she's tended to kind of
26:26shut down and lock herself in her room
26:28for weeks at a time which
26:30is horrifying.
26:32This time though, she just
26:34picked herself up and she's
26:36just like, okay, I'm taking over the world now.
26:38I mean, I'm proud of that girl.
26:40She rocks.
26:42I just want to say thank you
26:44for always being there for me.
26:46Like in my
26:48like that night that I drove up from Tampa.
26:50Yeah.
26:52And I got to your house late
26:54and I just
26:56you stayed up with me until four in the morning.
26:58I know.
27:00Yeah.
27:02It's just things like that that just really show how much you care.
27:04Yeah.
27:06I love you. I love you too.
27:08I went
27:10through the hardest heartbreak
27:12and I needed to be with my family
27:14to figure out how to heal.
27:16My focus right now
27:18is just not letting pain
27:20get the best of me, not letting anything
27:22bad that happens to me
27:24to define me in a bad way.
27:26I do believe everything happens for a reason
27:28and so you can turn those things
27:30into good somehow at some point.
27:32I was writing one night
27:34and I just had
27:36this picture of like how stuck
27:38I was in all the bad things
27:40that happened to me. And it's like
27:42no bad things happen all the time.
27:44You just have to pick yourself up and do better.
27:46Yeah. And this album that I'm writing is
27:48it's my healing.
27:50Speaking of that
27:52do you want to hear one of my songs from my album?
27:54I do. I do. Yeah I'd love to.
27:56I just have a very rough version.
27:58Well how about let's go get some coffee
28:00at Riverside?
28:02No way. See this is why I love you.
28:04The real reason is the coffee.
28:16I don't understand how you can move on so easily
28:18after seven years.
28:20Who said it was easy?
28:24Because it wasn't.
28:28I just don't understand it. I feel stuck.
28:30And for the life of me
28:32I can't seem to do anything about it.
28:34You don't have that problem.
28:36It feels frustrating
28:38for me because I don't
28:40feel like Ethan understands.
28:42It's been like a few years
28:44worth of
28:46watching the relationship die and like
28:48fighting to save it
28:50and not being able to and then just finally
28:52accepting it and moving on and like
28:54even in moving on it's still
28:56been nine months since
28:58you know we said we were done so
29:00I was just hoping he was going to work through
29:02things on his own and he hasn't.
29:06Olivia,
29:08did I ever tell you
29:10that that morning
29:12that I unloaded on you
29:14and told you everything that I couldn't
29:16stand anymore?
29:18I didn't think that
29:20that would be the end of us. I really
29:22thought that we would fight about it for like a week
29:24and then we would start working on it.
29:26Yeah, well
29:28you kind of did that a lot
29:30and you
29:32might have said that we were done
29:34because I wouldn't get back on your page
29:36and thought that that would blow
29:38over but I finally
29:40took your words at face value.
29:42I think that
29:44listen there's things you did wrong, things I did
29:46wrong like
29:48it was not a healthy relationship
29:50but I can say that
29:52like I tried. But it could have been.
29:58I think the way
30:00that things are playing out between Ethan and I are
30:02like a
30:04direct picture of what happened in our
30:06marriage.
30:08Of me saying this doesn't work
30:10this needs to happen, this needs to be
30:12fixed and him
30:14putting his head in the sand or
30:16under the hood of a car
30:18and then when things fall apart
30:20saying I just don't understand what happened.
30:22I still
30:24love him, I care about him, I wish the best for him as a
30:26human but
30:28it's not my job
30:30to help
30:32to fix all of this for him.
30:34He's got to do it on his own.
30:36I don't want to make things harder for you by
30:38going through all this stuff while you're here
30:40if you don't want to be here for this but I
30:42do need to get stuff done.
30:44Are you good tomorrow
30:46to square up on everything?
30:56I don't want to
30:58sign the paperwork but
31:02I also
31:04don't see the point in dragging it out any further.
31:08I guess
31:10it's just denial.
31:18This might be
31:20the last time I see Olivia.
31:22That's
31:24the hardest part.
31:44I have the whole music video planned out.
31:46The part I need your help with
31:48is choreographing the dance.
31:50I'm picturing Burlesque chair
31:52dance. Grab his tie
31:54and pull him. All the girls could put
31:56a foot on him.
31:58Do you want to be a part of the filming process?
32:00I'm so excited for this!
32:12I can't wait to hear your new album.
32:14I know.
32:16I just have one song right now.
32:18It's called Devil in a Suit and Tie.
32:20I have the whole music video planned out.
32:22The part I need your help with
32:24is choreographing the dance.
32:26I'm glad that Mariah
32:28is asking for my creative input.
32:30I don't know if I'll be able to
32:32help her any.
32:34She's clearly a quite competent dancer
32:36in her own right.
32:38I'm here to help Mariah
32:40and support Mariah any way I can
32:42and she knows that.
32:44I want it to be me
32:46and all my girlfriends go out to a bar.
32:48I'm telling them
32:50I fell for this, but I want to warn you
32:52so that you don't fall for it too.
32:54Growing up, Mom taught us music
32:56and I really wanted to do dance
32:58when I was little.
33:00We couldn't afford to put me in classes
33:02and she has a dance background
33:04so she would just teach me some stuff that she knew.
33:06I feel like she'll just be super good
33:08with coming up with creative things
33:10for this dance and music video.
33:12I'm picturing the
33:14Burlesque type chair dance
33:16on the stage at the nightclub.
33:18Let's put the chair here and let's pretend
33:20like the guy's sitting here.
33:22You could have the singer on stage start singing
33:24and then at some point in the song
33:26go over to the guy and grab
33:28his tie and pull him
33:30and you're kind of pulling him like this
33:32and then push him down into the chair.
33:34At some point
33:36all the girls could put a foot up
33:38on him and sing
33:40kind of.
33:42We have shiny cute heels.
33:44It'll be fun that
33:46Mariah thinks enough of me
33:48to ask me to be a part of it.
33:50Should we do it one time with music?
33:58The song is a warning.
34:00Sometimes the devil will show up, say all the right things,
34:02look the part, act the part.
34:06Really, really know how to
34:08reel you in
34:10and you fall for it.
34:12They pretend to be your exact type
34:14of person.
34:22And then all of a sudden
34:24one day
34:26it'll hit you.
34:30Oh well, let's write a song
34:32and make a funny music video.
34:34That's all you can do sometimes.
34:36I'm so excited for this!
34:38Do you want to be a part of the
34:40filming process? Sure!
34:42He says he'll bring your upsets
34:44but he just brings the thorns.
34:46He does so well
34:48hiding his thorns.
34:52Oh my gosh.
35:11I know this is a hard process
35:13because I'm on one end of it
35:15but I have a timeline to get things done.
35:17I need to pack.
35:19That's his.
35:21I think all that is his.
35:25It's hard to see Ethan
35:27in this much pain
35:29and struggling this much with everything
35:31but I spent years
35:33bogged down in stress
35:35and being on the other side of things
35:37I realized that I felt more alone
35:39when I was in a relationship
35:41than I do being by myself.
35:47It's a little tiny kid.
35:51A little tiny kid.
35:59The house we bought.
36:05I think that
36:07this is hard
36:09for both of us for different reasons.
36:13I know Ethan has
36:15a lot of regret
36:17and I'm sure that's hard to live with
36:19but
36:21on the flip side it's not really easy
36:23to be told that
36:27who you are, who you're becoming
36:29is not good enough for someone in a relationship anymore.
36:33I think it's for the best.
36:35It's not compatible in a lot of ways
36:37but it doesn't make
36:39hearing those things easy.
36:47Oh dear.
36:49I asked him to do a face mask with me.
36:55That's funny.
36:57Looking back at old photos
36:59I see two kids who did not know
37:01what they were doing.
37:05It's kind of funny
37:07because
37:09before Ethan and I
37:11split up
37:13I was really, really scared
37:15to be on my own
37:17but I think that
37:19I can look at them
37:21and laugh a little and cry a little
37:23and then put them back in the box
37:25because I'm not scared
37:27to be on my own anymore.
37:31It's the car.
37:35Ethan sold.
37:39It's the car he sold to buy my engagement ring
37:41and then
37:43I tracked it down and bought it back for him
37:45because it was his first car ever
37:47and it meant a lot to him.
37:55If I could go back in time
37:57and tell these two kids anything
37:59I don't know that I would.
38:01I think life is learned by
38:03experiences
38:07and if I were to tell myself not to experience this
38:09out of self-preservation because
38:11the end is painful or hard
38:13then I would have missed out on a lot.
38:33Well, I talked to Olivia today
38:35and I told her there were some things
38:37I wanted to tell her
38:39that I hadn't been able
38:41to say
38:43because my emotions were too high
38:47but
38:49Olivia said that she couldn't handle
38:51hearing me talk
38:53and that I wasn't
38:55going to be able to do it
38:57and that I wasn't going to be able
38:59to do it
39:01and she said that she couldn't handle
39:03hearing that from me so
39:05she asked if I would just write down
39:07what I was going to say
39:09and then she would read it when she was ready.
39:13I basically wrote in my note
39:15that I was sorry for
39:17all the ways that I fell short in our relationship
39:19that brought us to this point
39:27and
39:29I hope that
39:31she finds
39:33what I couldn't or didn't give her
39:41I wish her the best
39:43and I love her and if there's anything
39:45that she ever needs
39:47I'll help her as best I can.
39:55I mean, I guess it is my way
39:57of letting her go. It's my attempt
39:59to try to let her go.
40:01I definitely think that
40:03I have more happy memories with her
40:05than bad memories, but happy memories
40:07are just as painful as what you
40:09would consider a bad memory.
40:11I have waited for this
40:13day for almost
40:15four years.
40:23What has it been like to live with me?
40:25Really fun.
40:27Except for
40:29when you steal all the blankets.
40:31I love Olivia
40:33more than you will probably ever know.
40:35It's just
40:37the best feeling ever.
40:49Now I can say we didn't
40:51give it a shot.
40:55I definitely do feel like me and Olivia
40:57grew up together.
40:59We stepped out in the
41:01world together on our own.
41:07We gave it a good run, but
41:09not everything works.
41:26My man.
41:28My man. Give him a hand.
41:30Still to come this season on Welcome to Plathville.
41:32I'm gonna do it. Beautiful, and then
41:34bring it back down. I finally
41:36feel like I'm in the driver's seat of my own
41:38life.
41:40I have learned more in the last year
41:42of this failed marriage than I did
41:44in the seven years prior.
41:46I was thinking about writing a rap song
41:48the other day. Okay.
41:50Four big guys
41:52are walking from
41:54How's it go?
41:56Things are getting strange in Plathville
41:58these days.
42:02I finally booked a date for the
42:04concert, and it is much sooner
42:06than I expected. We're all here together,
42:08including Ken. I'm just
42:10wanting to see who punches who first.
42:12Sorry.
42:22So do you think I could get
42:24your number?
42:26I am in Sedona this weekend,
42:28and I brought a guest.
42:32Are you doing okay after
42:34the divorce? I don't know what the
42:36mending process of my relationship with my mom
42:38looks like. I have no idea
42:40where everybody is. We have a concert
42:42tonight. We haven't practiced together in
42:44six years. I'm not running south.
42:46I don't remember how to run south.
42:48How are we going to do this?
42:50Testing. Testing.
42:52This could be a huge
42:54disaster.
42:56The guy that
42:58broke Mariah's heart, he wants to
43:00come to the concert. So Mariah, is that guy
43:02coming today? He's here. Ready, set,
43:04go.
43:06I was seeing red.
43:08You need to come see me right now. Where are you?
43:10You got any bail money?
43:14It's literally
43:16a chaotic hot mess.
43:18Hey. Hey. Just like old times, huh?
43:22She disappears, and then I'm
43:24standing there with Ken. This is
43:26the moment.
43:28Ready, set,
43:30go.
43:38music
43:40music