Aired (August 11, 2024): “... I’m 36, and hindi pa ako nagkakaanak, so iniisip ko… if I have kids, sana maging kasing cool ako na mom kagaya ng mama ko.” - Bea Alonzo
Ipinahayag ni Bea Alonzo na kapag siya ay naging isang ina, gusto niya na maging isang “cool mom” rin kagaya ng kanyang ina.
Ipinahayag ni Bea Alonzo na kapag siya ay naging isang ina, gusto niya na maging isang “cool mom” rin kagaya ng kanyang ina.
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00:00Let's start here.
00:30We're also good friends.
00:33Growing up, there wasn't much of a generation gap.
00:37And that's what I'm afraid of because I'm 36.
00:40And I haven't been born yet.
00:42So I was thinking, I hope my mom will be cool with me growing up.
00:46If I have kids, I hope my mom will be cool with me just like my mom.
00:50Okay, let's talk about the strict side.
00:53Did you get beaten up?
00:54Yes, we were beaten up before.
00:56By a hanger or a belt.
00:58Okay, bad?
01:01No, but every time she did that, she would cry.
01:04Yes.
01:06But she didn't say sorry.
01:08But she would do other things to apologize.
01:12Like when she would cook.
01:15You know, she would make up for it.
01:17At that age, she would make up for it?
01:19Yes.
01:20Would you do that to your children?
01:22Would you be a strict mother?
01:24I think so.
01:25Because it really helped me a lot growing up.
01:27Especially with our dynamic.
01:30Because I was the breadwinner.
01:33So I've seen people, I've seen actors and actresses that
01:39because they were already breadwinners, they would call the shots in their family.
01:42But you're very young, so you don't know any better.
01:45In our family, the dynamic never changed.
01:48She was still the mother.
01:50Even though I was providing.
01:52That's interesting.
01:53I feel like if she wasn't like that to me,
01:57maybe my personality would have changed.
02:00She was very adamant.
02:03She was very...
02:05Headstrong.
02:07Headstrong in saying that I am the mother.
02:24What is the most important thing that Madam M taught you
02:30when it comes to life?
02:33The first lesson that comes to mind.
02:35The first thing, my sister always tells us,
02:39you have to be able to stand up for yourself.
02:42What does that mean?
02:43It means that if you have made a decision,
02:47you have to be able to stand up for yourself.
02:49You have to be able to stand up for yourself
02:52and you have to make sure that you stand by the decision that you make.
02:56Where does that come from?
02:57Does Mama have experience?
02:59Does the family have experience?
03:03That's why she always says,
03:05your tail...
03:07Your tail.
03:08Your tail.
03:09Mama is the eldest.
03:11And my grandmother was an OFW.
03:14So basically, she was the mother of her siblings.
03:18And she also started working very young.
03:21So she really grew up as a very strong woman.
03:26And so, she's almost unapologetic.
03:33She's very strong.
03:34Honestly, when you look at our personalities,
03:37we're so opposites.
03:39I'm not saying I'm weak.
03:41Obviously, we have our own strengths, right?
03:44And we show it differently.
03:46How much do you know of the life of Mama,
03:49in the context of how she was disciplined,
03:54how she was raised by her grandparents?
03:59Mama was already a hustler when she was young.
04:02Because they were poor.
04:04So when she was young,
04:06her grandmother would sell rice to her.
04:15Or her grandmother,
04:17my great-grandmother,
04:18she had a pig.
04:19So she would get scraps to feed the pigs.
04:24And I remember her stories.
04:27She would say that she was embarrassed
04:29because her crush would pass by.
04:31Her crush's house.
04:33So she would take a detour
04:36so she wouldn't see that she was carrying a pig.
04:39So she really had a tough childhood.
04:44So that was also the reason
04:47why when I was making money,
04:52she made sure that we would be able to save
04:56and we would be able to support ourselves.
04:58Because she didn't want to go through what she went through.
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