I have had sex with many women. How to forget all that? || Acharya Prashant (2024)

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00:00Namaste.

00:06I've done things in the past which I'm not so proud of, mingling with some girls in sexual

00:12way and regretting it later.

00:15Such things can be taken back, and living with it knowing that the sexual energy has

00:20affected me in subtle ways, which I can very much feel.

00:25I don't know how to remove this sexual memory from my body.

00:29I tried searching online how to get rid of this memory, and my mind is occupied with

00:36it, and so is my body, I believe.

00:40I want to get rid of these essence that I have picked up.

00:44I'm aware of the changes in my body, and all I want to do is get rid of it.

00:50But what is sexual memory?

00:52What do you mean by that?

00:55Like fragrances, and the subtle changes that I feel that have changed ever since then.

01:04See, it requires you to be occupied in the same kind of patterns as before, right?

01:24If you live the same life as you were living hitherto, if you visit the same places, if

01:33you eat at the same places, then obviously all those things will return as nostalgia

01:42to you.

01:44You cannot be living the same kind of life and yet hope to not notice a missing part

02:00of that life.

02:03Sexual activity or relationships are not something that happen in vacuum.

02:14So you had a set of friends, you also had particular sartorial preferences, you also

02:23were spending time doing something like watching football, watching movies, visiting this place,

02:31doing this particular thing, and in the middle of all this and arising from all this and

02:41intermeshed with all this was the sexual aspect of life, right?

02:47Now that sexual aspect might have proven to bring sorrow to you, so you want to get rid

02:55of it.

02:56Something happens, you know, in these things there is a degree of fragility always present,

03:00so you now want to put it away, but you want to keep everything else intact.

03:07That's not going to happen.

03:08If everything else remains the same way it was, then this part of life too will cry to

03:16remain the same as it was.

03:22You cannot say, you know, I am still a lover of pizza, but I don't like cheese anymore.

03:35Every time they will serve you the pizza, you will be reminded of cheese.

03:40Fine, cheese might still be dispensable, but you cannot say, I am a lover of pizza, I continue

03:47to be a lover of pizza, but I don't want the bread anymore.

03:52Every time they will serve you pizza, sands, bread, you will clamor for bread.

04:04If you want to change something in life, really change something, you must change the

04:13centre itself, otherwise you are just inviting a sense of being torn.

04:27You visit the same club as you used to.

04:33The moment you reach there, they will say, well, sir, where is your partner?

04:40Stag entry not allowed.

04:41And the moment they will point at that, you will be reminded of something and you will

04:49start missing something, are you getting it?

04:57Then you will not be able to stand that loneliness for long.

05:05If you want to save your other patterns, you will be forced to bring in the missing part

05:15of the pattern as well.

05:19You cannot say, I want to drive the same car, but without one of the wheels.

05:26If you insist that you will drive the same car, you will have to bring back the wheel,

05:31maybe of a different brand, maybe from a different manufacturer, maybe with some other stripes

05:41and grooves and cuts, maybe alloy wheels this time, maybe something else, but the replacement

05:52would have to be found and that's no good.

05:56Essentially, you have restored the status quo.

06:03If the wheel has tormented you so much or if you have been able to see the futility

06:10of wheeling around, you will need to maybe change the vehicle itself.

06:19Are you please getting it?

06:22We tend to look at problems in fragments.

06:31We think relationship with one particular person is one particular problem, no.

06:38Any particular problem is always related to all the other problems that you have that

06:45applies to a person, that applies to humanity as a whole.

06:51But we do not want to disrupt the other problems because every problem to us is a pleasure

06:58giving pattern until it shows up for what it really is.

07:07So we remain enmeshed in problems and at one point in time, only one of the pattern appears

07:14as a problem.

07:15The other patterns appear as pleasures.

07:19So we don't want to disrupt them.

07:23Only the one particular pattern that has revealed itself as a problem, we want to do something

07:28about it.

07:29You cannot do anything about it.

07:33Not possible.

07:35All these problems are related to each other and lucky are those whose problems all together

07:44show up all at once.

07:47Unfortunately that does not happen with us.

07:51We are not lucky enough to be attacked by all problems together.

07:59In our life problems come one at a time.

08:04So we feel now at this moment there is only this particular problem and the other factors

08:10in life, the other things, other objects in life, they are all right.

08:14In fact, they are rather sources of pleasure.

08:16In fact, they are the bulwarks helping me to face this particular problem.

08:25So I have five friends, one of whom has turned into a problem lately.

08:32Who are the other four?

08:36These four, the other four are the one supporting me in facing the problem.

08:44These five together are not the problem.

08:47One of them is a problem and the other four are my support even as I face the problem.

08:56So you will cling even more to the other four.

08:59The fact is the five of them together are one thing.

09:05These five are not distinct at all.

09:10They are five manifestations of the same thing.

09:15What is that same thing?

09:16That same thing is called your choice because you are the one who chose all five of them.

09:24Each of them is an exhibition of your choice and therefore each of them is problematic

09:31because your choice is problematic.

09:33What is choice?

09:34Consciousness.

09:36When one's consciousness is not elevated enough or pure enough or sharp enough, then that

09:43lack of sharpness is displayed in hazy and harmful choices.

09:51The one who is making a harmful choice will make harmful choices in all matters, no?

09:57Or will he make a harmful choice only in one particular matter?

10:03I am asking.

10:04Please think of it.

10:06If I do not know how to choose, I will not be choosing a pair of shoes wisely.

10:10I will also not be choosing a handkerchief wisely.

10:14I will also not be choosing a job wisely.

10:18If I do not know how to drive, does it matter whether I drive to the left or to the right?

10:25If I drive to the left, I will be colliding.

10:27If I'll drive to the right, I'll again be banging into somebody.

10:34Because right or left, it's me at the center, at the wheel.

10:41But I think that probably I got hit only when I was driving to the left.

10:50Therefore it is the left direction that's inauspicious.

10:53Let me avoid left and drive only to the right.

10:59As if only one segment of life is a problem.

11:01No, the segment of life is not the problem.

11:04The center of life is the problem.

11:11That's why books like Gita help.

11:16They challenge the very center of life.

11:26In that case, how do I get rid of, like you gave an example of a pizza.

11:33What about the good things in it, like some vegetables?

11:38I can't just get rid of that, right?

11:41I might have to replace it.

11:43The good things there serve as convenient excuses for all the bad things.

11:54Good things are always needed so that we can sustain the bad things.

12:01Truth is always needed so that we can cover up the lies.

12:06Honesty is always needed so that we can be conveniently dishonest.

12:14Absolute dishonesty would absolutely fall.

12:19An absolute lie cannot stand.

12:24Therefore, some kind of seasoning of the truth is needed.

12:30Remember that goodness moderated is just a cover up for wickedness.

12:46If you really want good things, do not take them through a pizza.

12:53Good things are their own justification.

13:00Take them for what they are.

13:02You cannot take them as dressings or toppings upon a pizza.

13:08Good things must not be ordered to tail behind bad things.

13:16Good things should not be used as a cover up, as a foil.

13:23For bad things.

13:27If good things are really good, respect them for their own self.

13:38If there are olives there or something, why not just consume olives?

13:48Why do you need to have a pizza for the sake of olives?

13:57I have nothing against pizzas.

14:01Just because the example is stretching too far.

14:04I hope we are not taking this as some kind of judgment on pizza itself.

14:11I love pizzas.

14:13Do you think there is a way to rise beyond that in a most effective way?

14:20Although I do realize, as you said, that the problem,

14:25I could blame it on my situations and circumstances,

14:28but it arises really just in me.

14:31But how do I change myself?

14:34By seeing what you are doing.

14:37By seeing what you are doing.

14:42The action that brings sorrow must become the gateway to the actor.

14:52Ideally, every action should enable you to look at the actor.

14:57But if the action begets pleasure, you do not want to look at the actor.

15:03So when the action results in sorrow,

15:06it's an opportune time to look at the actor.

15:10Because the actor now is himself saying,

15:13come on, heal me, come on, help me, give me some remedy.

15:18So this is the right time to go to the actor and see,

15:21how are you, where have you been hurt, what happened really?

15:26See how you made those choices.

15:29And see that those choices are still continuously being made.

15:33That will help you avert further sorrow, rather further disasters.

15:41The center from which we made one bad choice

15:46is still active and is still choosing on our behalf.

15:52Which means more sorrow is just around the corner.

15:59That will also help you get rid of all the nostalgia and the memory and such things.

16:06Should I remember the road accident I had six months back?

16:11Or should I focus on averting the one waiting to happen six seconds later?

16:21I am rushing into a road roller.

16:24Should I focus on that?

16:27Or should I remain occupied thinking of the bad accident I had six months back?

16:38200 meters ahead of me is that road roller.

16:42And I am going to collide headlong.

16:46When you see that the real tragedy is not what happened in the future.

16:52The real tragedy is not what happened in the future.

16:55But what is going to happen just now.

16:59Not what happened in the past.

17:01But what is going to happen just now.

17:04Then there remains no incentive to keep clinging to the past.

17:11When you are thinking of all the sorrow of the past,

17:16you have a very solid assumption.

17:19The assumption is that sorrow lies in the past.

17:24And therefore, you are looking at the past and asking, you know, how do I get rid of it?

17:28How do I heal it?

17:30What if you come to learn that sorrow lies not so much in the past,

17:34but in the immediate present.

17:39That you are going to collide with that road roller right now.

17:42Would you still want to remember what happened 10 years back?

17:45All the nostalgia and all the memory and all those things will just vanish.

18:00Also, since we were on the topic of food,

18:05I have, this is a different question, is it fine for me to ask?

18:09Yeah, sure.

18:12So a lot around my society and my family,

18:17I see so many people are getting a lot of illnesses.

18:22Especially due to their diet.

18:24And obviously I follow all the things that you say.

18:28But I am an international student.

18:30So being in the United Kingdom, where I am right now,

18:35following such diets, even if I try to tell it to people,

18:38it doesn't really sit well with them.

18:40Often I do just focus on eating pure vegetarian.

18:45A lot of times, back in my family, a lot of people that are vegetarian

18:49get a lot of health reports where they have less B12

18:54or they got some kind of diseases or ailments

18:57because of not being properly nourished with the food that they consume.

19:04How do I manage it?

19:06Somewhere, I have heard that

19:10vegetarian diet is not sufficient for the minerals,

19:14the nutrition that I might require as a young man.

19:19You see, for that, there are research reports

19:23and qualified medical practitioners

19:26and there is a lot of scientific literature available on the net.

19:30You just need to go through all of that.

19:33When it comes to having the right

19:37minerals and vitamins and other things in the body,

19:44you know of smallpox and measles and such things, right?

19:47Yeah.

19:48If you get smallpox one, you are unlikely to get it again.

19:53Why?

19:54Because what has gone inside you as the virus

19:59provokes antibodies.

20:02So, you become immune.

20:05Now, that's one way of getting antibodies inside you.

20:11Get the virus itself, suffer and you will have antibodies.

20:17But is that what sane people do?

20:21Sane people just get factory made stuff

20:27and inject into their bodies.

20:29We call that vaccination.

20:32Right?

20:34Yeah.

20:35And you too have been vaccinated.

20:38Yes.

20:39Did your vaccine come or had to come

20:44compulsorily by violence, by killing a living being?

20:50No.

20:51Factory made, it's a chemical thing, it just comes in.

20:55What I mean to say is so much

20:58of the right things that we need on our body

21:03are anyway factory produced.

21:08Right?

21:09And they need not have been factory produced.

21:11For example, think of the COVID disease.

21:17If you do get COVID,

21:20you are protected against, at least to some degree,

21:24you are protected against getting infected again.

21:28But is that the course you want to take?

21:31Do you say, let me get COVID once and once I get it,

21:33then again, I'm unlikely to get it.

21:35No, you don't.

21:36You instead rely on factories.

21:39And what do those factories produce?

21:42Something that ascertains your health.

21:44Right?

21:46So, why can't you take factory made B12?

21:50If your vaccines are factory made

21:52and you have no problems taking those vaccines,

21:54why can't you take in factory made B12?

21:56What is this entire tamasha

22:01about vegetarian food lacking in B12?

22:07Go pop a pill.

22:10You take in so much

22:13that is anyway factory made.

22:15Right?

22:16Modern life depends on factory products.

22:19Do you then say that everything has to be normal and natural?

22:22Do you then say?

22:23Then why do you insist in the case of B12?

22:26Let B12 come from the factories.

22:28What's the problem?

22:30Just as the vaccines come from factories.

22:34Even that which you call as natural comes from the factories.

22:37For example, powdered milk.

22:42Do you think that comes from a buffalo?

22:47Everything that you take in is anyway coming from a factory.

22:50Let B12 also come from a factory.

22:52No problem.

22:54Or will I say?

22:55No, no, no.

22:56B12 must be from a natural source.

22:58So, let me slaughter a few animals.

23:01Then even COVID should be from a natural source.

23:03Why do you use that vaccine?

23:05Let the natural virus infect you.

23:09Why do you take in any piece of medication?

23:16Let life be natural.

23:19Why should you even live in a house?

23:21Live on a tree?

23:23Let life be natural?

23:27Why should you brush your teeth?

23:30No natural being brushes teeth.

23:37Why should you get a haircut?

23:40Why should you use headphones?

23:41None of these are natural.

23:44Why should you be educated?

23:46Why should you marry?

23:47None of these are natural.

23:51To be human is to wisely transcend nature.

23:58And if you cannot transcend nature, you are an animal.

24:01I am not talking of violating nature.

24:04I am not talking of harming nature.

24:07I am not talking of exploiting nature.

24:10I am talking of wisely transcending nature.

24:13A human being by definition is one who can transcend nature.

24:17So use your factories to manufacture B12

24:21and take in the right dose.

24:22That's all.

24:25Just as

24:27tetanus, smallpox, diphtheria.

24:32You don't hear of them anymore, right?

24:34Polio.

24:35Why?

24:37Because you took in something that was factory made.

24:40Even malaria.

24:41In the developed world.

24:42I don't think in the UK there are any cases of malaria since decades now.

24:47Or plague.

24:59If someone says, you know, but it is unnatural.

25:01You say, everything is unnatural.

25:03You know,

25:04If someone says, you know, but it is unnatural.

25:06You say, everything is unnatural.

25:09Even your moustache is unnatural.

25:12Which animal,

25:13which natural animal is seen to keep a proper beard or a moustache?

25:18No.

25:19Everything is unnatural.

25:21Language is unnatural.

25:22Think of it.

25:24Do you have language in the jungle?

25:25No.

25:26Even if they have,

25:27it is some kinds of primordial sounds.

25:31Computers are unnatural.

25:33Computers are unnatural.

25:35Clothes are unnatural.

25:40It's okay.

25:47Oh, well, you could also say that

25:49the technology we use is perhaps just part of nature itself.

25:54We just are able to manipulate them in the way that we want.

25:59Yes, you could say that.

26:00You could say that.

26:01But don't say manipulate

26:02and don't say we won't say.

26:04We are able to wisely use nature as a resource.

26:12To uplift ourselves.

26:14Not just to ingratiate ourselves.

26:19If we say we just want to use nature as per our desire,

26:23then that is what culminates in things like climate change

26:27and biodiversity depletion.

26:30Our relationship with nature, Prakriti,

26:35has to be very finely balanced

26:38and it must arise from our wisdom.

26:45Otherwise, what's the problem in just

26:47slaughtering everything that you can see?

26:53Yes, slaughter.

26:55And the justification is

26:57I want to.

26:58I want to.

27:02My want cannot be the justification.

27:07My wisdom is the driver.

27:15Yeah, that answers everything.

27:19Thank you.

27:20Welcome.

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