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Video Information: 20.04.24, Vedanta Session, Greater Noida
Context:
What is ultimate advice for marriage?
How to choose the right partner for marriage?
How to be committed in a relationship?
How to have a deep and spiritual relationship?
Is marriage good or bad?
What about sex before marriage?
Is it compulsory to marry?
Why should one must have a compelling purpose?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Video Information: 20.04.24, Vedanta Session, Greater Noida
Context:
What is ultimate advice for marriage?
How to choose the right partner for marriage?
How to be committed in a relationship?
How to have a deep and spiritual relationship?
Is marriage good or bad?
What about sex before marriage?
Is it compulsory to marry?
Why should one must have a compelling purpose?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00Namaste Acharya ji, I am so grateful that I am in front of you today.
00:07You have absolutely changed the way I survive, changed the life of my sister, my friends.
00:13Very, very thankful for that.
00:16Today I heard you saying that there is indignity in being dependent.
00:21And for girls born in India, my roots are from Uttar Pradesh, Banaras.
00:25I am very much born in that sort of set wherein dependencies is how things work.
00:32Today I am doing a PhD in Scotland.
00:34I am trying to research in simulation and modelling.
00:37But it's not enough.
00:38It's not the real thing.
00:40I often get calls from my parents saying that do something real, which basically is an underline
00:45for getting married or you know, do that.
00:49So when you say that there is indignity in being dependent, but we are being prepared
00:54for that.
00:55So can you please explain what is this indignity in being dependent when we are perpetually
01:00being prepared for that, please sir.
01:02Thank you.
01:03It is to see first of all that choice reigns supreme, that we are not pots being prepared
01:13by some potter.
01:17Who can prepare us?
01:19Who can mould us?
01:20Who can forge us?
01:23Who has the authority?
01:26Life is our own sovereign choice.
01:32If someone is appearing to carry a certain authority over us, surely we are vesting him
01:39with that authority.
01:44Surely that is our own choice to empower that person with that kind of authority.
01:53And remember if you are giving such an authority to that person, that person is surely giving
02:01something to you in return.
02:04The ego is a trader.
02:10So nobody can prepare you for anything.
02:13That is against the law of freedom, especially when you are an adult, irrespective of where
02:25the childhood was, irrespective of how the conditions back then were.
02:33One lives in this particular moment and there is no obligation to carry the load of the
02:44past.
02:47Certain things belong to certain areas and certain epochs.
02:55That area has been flown away from, that epoch has been left behind.
03:11There is no need to, there is absolutely no need.
03:16There might be practice, there might be exchange, there might be some kind of a semi-considered
03:28barter, but there is no real need.
03:34When I say need, what I mean is something that you cannot dispense away with.
03:45If this thing is happening to you, there surely is choice involved in it and if it
03:51is your choice, it can be reversed.
03:55So, I believe it's more emotional, the emotional bonds that are created over the years when
04:04you were children.
04:05But sir, then why did you say that there is indignity in being dependent?
04:11Why is there?
04:15I want this very precise and very scientifically clear on this.
04:19You are free.
04:21That is your nature.
04:22That is who you are.
04:24Anything short of freedom is an affront to your very existence and therefore indignified.
04:37You cannot be unfree and if you decide to be unfree, that decision will come with sorrow.
04:52Your very existence militates against lack of freedom.
05:00You can choose to have lack of freedom.
05:02You can barter away your freedom, but that decision will be accompanied by sorrow.
05:11And that which you are calling as emotional bond or emotional training, please understand
05:16that, observe yourself.
05:22A lot of that is just residue of the body.
05:27A lot of that is just that happens because it has not been examined.
05:38A lot of that is just fantastic storytelling.
05:43We tell ourselves stories like Hindi movies do and then we believe in those stories.
05:53We never bother to experiment, verify, examine those stories.
06:02We believe in stories as if the stories have an absolute existence of their own.
06:11So a story for example says, parents love their kids.
06:16Come on.
06:23Love is a sacred word.
06:25Just because one physically gives birth, one does not become capable of loving.
06:37Not even one in a million parents love their kids.
06:44Love is not something that you can just so easily get by virtue of having a body.
06:56A lot of nonsense just passes in the name of very beautiful words, respect, love, sacredness,
07:11understanding.
07:16And just because somebody is saying something with great conviction does not mean that the
07:23fellow knows what he is talking of.
07:25That includes this speaker.
07:31We have characters in the movies uttering absolutely stupid dialogues with great conviction
07:41and you get impressed by the sheer baritone and the gravitas.
07:51Amitabh Bachchan spewing continuous nonsense in some family blockbuster.
07:59That's the dream figure every North Indian patriarch wants to be.
08:09Somebody whose authority is unquestionable.
08:13He just gets up from the inherited family chair, 5 centuries old and declares the heavenly
08:22truth and the wife and the kids and the daughter in laws especially, they roll at his feet
08:28because the oracle has spoken.
08:34Right?
08:35Don't you get impressed?
08:40So the saddest part is that these people including my father who is very educated, he is also
08:46an IIT alumnus but I don't know where did that degree go.
08:51They have gone around the world, they have seen everything but like when we were children
08:56the western world was beautiful.
08:59They wanted to make us strong and have enrolled us into sports and everything.
09:04But now if we try to explain him that this is not what it is, then it's like you have
09:09learned this from the western world and that you are becoming too individualistic.
09:14Without even knowing what the individual means.
09:19Without even knowing what is the meaning of the word individual.
09:24This is what is meant by living without examining.
09:32Think of words like life, love, beauty, east, west.
09:41We utter these words as if they are our playthings, as if we are the originator of these words.
09:51So their definition is absolutely clear to us.
09:54The thing is nobody knows what these words mean.
09:59But entire sentences, the whole foundation of life are these words.
10:20Thank you sir.
10:21I just want to say thank you.
10:23That's it.