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Full Video: When friends backstab you || Acharya Prashant, at Chanakya University (2022)
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Video Information: 13.09.2022, Chanakya University, Bangalore

Context:
~ How do one deal with trust issues?
~ How to make good friends?
~ What to do when friends backstab?
~ How to not be betrayed by others?
~ What are the worth of your gossips?
~ What are your friends like?

Music Credits: Milind Date
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Learning
Transcript
00:00 So the thing is, we have already decided to go on a path of whatever we want to achieve
00:09 and I am sure of it that okay I like this, I am interested in it and suddenly due to
00:15 some of the other reasons I feel am I on the right path, I am unsure of what I have decided.
00:23 So how to be sure of what we are doing?
00:27 Test it.
00:28 There is no other way.
00:29 See, life is a different thing for each of us.
00:38 Life as I see it, as I experiment it, where I stand and the path I am taking will never
00:46 be the same as the path you are taking or somebody else is taking or somebody in the
00:50 past has taken.
00:52 How then do you know whether your path is the right one for you?
00:57 You will have to apply all your intelligence.
01:00 The intention must be to inquire, test, experiment, not just have blind belief.
01:09 Something appears right, why be too eager to just accept it as right?
01:20 If the thing is indeed right, it will prove itself to be right, right?
01:24 So wait for it to prove itself and how will the proof come?
01:30 How will the proof come?
01:31 Experiencing it.
01:33 In maths, when are you allowed to write hence proved?
01:37 Solving it.
01:38 And without solving it, if just below the question you write hence proved, what do you
01:44 get?
01:47 Zero.
01:52 So hence proved are two very nice words to read but only after doing the requisite hard
01:58 work.
01:59 We are not that honest always in life.
02:04 In mathematics, we cannot afford to be dishonest.
02:06 We will not clear the exam.
02:08 What is it that we do when faced with questions in life without even understanding the problem?
02:15 We write hence proved.
02:18 Now if you do that, life will reward you with a big zero.
02:27 Never be in a hurry to draw a conclusion.
02:31 Never be in a hurry to settle a matter.
02:35 Let things remain open.
02:37 Have the courage and the patience to live with uncertainty.
02:43 Somebody will ask you, so what have you thought about it?
02:45 Just say, I am still thinking.
02:49 When you are still thinking, then you have the scope to experiment.
02:54 And still thinking does not mean you are sleeping over the matter.
02:57 It means you are actively testing.
03:00 And you must take risks to test.
03:03 Testing will not happen on its own.
03:05 You will have to ask uncomfortable questions.
03:09 You will have to get into unprecedented situations.
03:13 That's what testing is about.
03:16 And testing always involves a degree of risk and requires therefore courage.
03:20 You have to display that courage.
03:24 As a young person, your biggest enemy is false belief, shallow conclusions, baseless confidence.
03:36 Avoid that.
03:40 Confidence does not lie in knowing everything in advance and being full and sure.
03:49 The mark of courage is the willingness to live with uncertainty.
03:55 I do not know what would happen tomorrow and I am okay with it.
04:02 Is everything settled for me?
04:03 Not at all.
04:04 Do I know in advance about my future?
04:06 Not at all.
04:09 Is everything sorted in life?
04:11 Well, no.
04:13 How do you still appear so cool?
04:15 I am cool.
04:17 I am cool.
04:19 I am cool.
04:23 It's all very uncertain and does not baffle me up.
04:29 Are you getting it?
04:32 Yes.
04:33 There is no great worth in artificially freezing on a future.
04:42 Everything is settled.
04:44 Next five years, this is the program for me.
04:48 That sounds comfortable, offers a shallow kind of security, but does not really help.
04:57 Far better it is to acknowledge the inherent uncertainty in life and keep knowing things
05:04 as they are.
05:06 And things just won't reveal their true nature on their own.
05:10 You will have to ask questions.
05:12 The thing about life is, it is responsive.
05:16 If you really ask good and honest questions, more often than not, you will get answers.
05:24 So you got up and asked a question.
05:26 So you got an answer.
05:27 How about the several others who never got up?
05:32 They won't get their answers.
05:35 And bravery lies in getting up even if the last answer hurt you as it did.
05:41 Right?
05:42 No, this is great.
05:45 You did not like the answer life gave you last time.
05:49 And you still get up and ask another question.
05:53 Wonderful.
05:55 You got hurt the last time, but that hurt is far better than remaining seated and hidden
06:02 and not even getting up to raise a query.
06:07 I ask all of you, what is better to get hurt or never enter the field to play?
06:17 It's better to get hurt, right?
06:20 So get up and learn to play.
06:22 Chances are 99% chances you will get hurt.
06:31 That hurt is an auspicious thing.
06:34 Bleed a little.
06:38 Get a few bones broken internally.
06:41 We don't want to get into a brawl and really get these bones broken.
06:49 But enter the arena, jump into the pool, walk into the ring, throw in your hat and say I
07:00 am, I am, I exist, I want to participate, I am available to participate.
07:06 Don't run away, don't hide your face, you are young.
07:14 I know very little about this lady, but this thing I find very commendable.
07:21 The last question she asked, she expected some sensitivity or even sympathy from me.
07:27 My answer was brutal.
07:30 She indeed did get hurt, right?
07:34 And she still gather herself up and gets up and ask the next one.
07:37 And there was no certainty.
07:41 Here I am the one who commands the mic.
07:45 I have the position of authority.
07:47 And I can say anything very insensitive, very abrasive to her.
07:54 She knows that and still she has chosen to get up and ask.
07:58 That's how life must be for a young person.
08:03 Run risks.
08:05 Invite trouble.
08:07 Not for all the flimsy reasons, for the right reasons.
08:12 Huh?
08:14 Getting it?
08:16 Getting it?
08:18 Yes, sir.
08:20 All right, I am glad.
08:22 Thank you, sir.
08:24 Thank you.

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