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00:10:30 Our suggestion is that you and your husband proved to be very good parents.
00:10:35 Seeing the upbringing of your first child, we can understand that the second child is also in safe hands.
00:10:41 In fact, the first child is already very excited about all the new things.
00:10:44 The second child may not have the same excitement as the first child.
00:10:51 I enjoyed more than the other child. I was more excited than the other child.
00:10:57 The first child is already excited.
00:11:01 We will come back to the point.
00:11:04 We will ask Zohra about her New Year resolution.
00:11:07 What is your vision for this model in 2024?
00:11:12 She is not looking like a mother of two children.
00:11:15 My child, you will be in the spotlight.
00:11:18 Someone please remove her spotlight.
00:11:20 I remembered something from her.
00:11:22 I was telling my husband that I want to name my child after my daughter.
00:11:28 He said that two children are 20 months old.
00:11:32 I asked him why he wanted to name his daughter so early.
00:11:35 This is the second time when you have a baby.
00:11:40 I am so excited about having a second child.
00:11:43 I am already having my third child.
00:11:45 May God bless my daughter.
00:11:47 I am so excited about having a second child.
00:11:49 This is not my resolution.
00:11:52 I remembered something from her.
00:11:56 I had this conversation with my husband.
00:11:58 My New Year resolution is about my bright future and my career.
00:12:04 I am really focused on my work.
00:12:07 My children's school is starting.
00:12:09 I am about to get them admitted.
00:12:13 My focus is on my children's school and my work.
00:12:19 I am so happy that I have three to four projects.
00:12:26 I am also excited to do a script that I will enjoy doing.
00:12:31 I am just praying and looking for a script.
00:12:35 I don't have anything else in my mind.
00:12:36 You are focused on your work.
00:12:40 Sometimes you think that you have done a lot of work last year.
00:12:44 You want to give some time to your family.
00:12:46 You are thinking that you have done a lot of work.
00:12:51 You want to focus on your work.
00:12:54 These are my four resolutions.
00:12:58 You didn't ask me.
00:13:01 You were going to ask me.
00:13:04 We have decided to do Hajj this year.
00:13:09 God willing.
00:13:12 Pray that our wish comes true.
00:13:14 We have decided to do Hajj this year.
00:13:19 We are thinking that we have energy.
00:13:24 We can do anything.
00:13:29 We don't know what will happen in the future.
00:13:33 This is a good intention.
00:13:35 My husband took the initiative.
00:13:38 He slowly started doing it.
00:13:42 Sometimes a person needs a push.
00:13:45 If you are financially and physically capable,
00:13:50 there is no excuse for not doing it.
00:13:52 We have to prepare.
00:13:54 We have heard that there is a lot of hard work.
00:14:01 We have to prepare for that.
00:14:04 We have to take vitamins and do exercises.
00:14:08 We have to prepare for that.
00:14:10 This is a good thing.
00:14:13 You will see that you will go this year.
00:14:16 You should pray for us.
00:14:17 This is a matter of fate.
00:14:20 Fate is like a call.
00:14:24 When you become vocal and tell people that you want to do something,
00:14:31 God will give you this opportunity.
00:14:33 You have to change your desire.
00:14:35 I want to add something.
00:14:37 Whenever I feel like this,
00:14:41 my father always tells me that there are two levels of faith.
00:14:45 One is annual faith.
00:14:47 There is no doubt in annual faith.
00:14:49 When you reach the level of annual faith,
00:14:52 you get what you want.
00:14:55 This is what happens to me.
00:14:56 You get a call.
00:14:58 We don't know if it is in our fate this year.
00:15:00 That is why we are doing this challenge.
00:15:02 Because there is a call.
00:15:03 God will give it.
00:15:05 So, today is the first day of the year.
00:15:08 We take you in a flashback.
00:15:11 Which is in your life.
00:15:12 Including me.
00:15:15 And that is becoming a mother for the first time.
00:15:17 When you become a mother for the first time,
00:15:19 even if your elders have taught you anything,
00:15:23 you have to go through all the stages that a mother goes through.
00:15:27 You are raw.
00:15:28 Yes.
00:15:29 Right?
00:15:29 Absolutely.
00:15:30 So, we will start the series of questions from you.
00:15:33 We have already thought of some questions.
00:15:35 I want us to listen to everything you say and learn from it.
00:15:39 First question.
00:15:41 When did you hear about becoming a mother for the first time?
00:15:45 Right?
00:15:45 When did you realize for the first time that,
00:15:48 Oh my God!
00:15:50 I would like to give a disclaimer here.
00:15:53 Because all the guests that have come here,
00:15:56 I think my daughter is the eldest.
00:16:00 So, it is my oldest experience.
00:16:02 So, my memory is a little less than the seniors.
00:16:05 But your youngest is still young.
00:16:07 So, it is a little fresh.
00:16:09 Okay.
00:16:09 My teacher says she is 13 years old.
00:16:11 So, it is very old.
00:16:13 So, I forget a little bit about the experience.
00:16:14 I don't remember a lot of things.
00:16:17 But I am sure when I listen to people's stories,
00:16:19 I will remember my own.
00:16:20 There are so many blunders that I will not forget my own.
00:16:23 I will not tell how old the eldest is.
00:16:25 I am the oldest.
00:16:27 But, absolutely raw.
00:16:30 I don't know anything.
00:16:32 So, the first time when I heard the news,
00:16:33 If I start from here,
00:16:34 The first time when I heard the news,
00:16:38 I found out,
00:16:39 the excitement was more than mine.
00:16:42 It was in my entire in-laws' house.
00:16:43 We all lived in a combined family system.
00:16:45 Okay.
00:16:45 And my husband,
00:16:47 he got a bouquet from his brothers-in-law.
00:16:50 Wow!
00:16:50 He got sweets from his mother-in-law.
00:16:52 My husband celebrated properly.
00:16:54 He was very fond of giving birth to children.
00:16:56 He wanted to be a father of 12 children.
00:16:59 I made him a father of three.
00:17:00 I said, if you want to be a father of eight,
00:17:03 I said, I will be a father of three.
00:17:05 You can have the rest.
00:17:06 I can't do more than that.
00:17:08 My husband was very fond of being a father at a young age.
00:17:12 I was scared at that time.
00:17:14 So, the news that I heard,
00:17:16 and the news that I heard,
00:17:18 it was not planned.
00:17:19 Yes, unplanned.
00:17:20 Yes, unplanned.
00:17:23 So, my husband promised us,
00:17:27 because after my marriage,
00:17:28 my sister-in-law was getting married.
00:17:29 My husband promised to take me on a honeymoon.
00:17:32 After my sister-in-law's marriage,
00:17:34 I was just waiting for me to go on a honeymoon.
00:17:37 And I hadn't gone on a honeymoon yet.
00:17:39 Oh!
00:17:41 So, when I heard that news,
00:17:42 I was like, oh God, I missed the honeymoon.
00:17:45 Because my mother had told me,
00:17:46 you were ten months old when we went on a honeymoon.
00:17:48 Hmm.
00:17:49 And what is a honeymoon?
00:17:51 So, I was just shocked at that time.
00:17:53 Oh, my honeymoon.
00:17:54 I didn't know that at that time.
00:17:57 Sadi, you tell us.
00:17:58 My story is a little different.
00:18:02 Because when I didn't know Adnan,
00:18:05 when I got married,
00:18:06 the first thing Adnan said to me was,
00:18:09 "Listen to everyone,
00:18:10 do what I am telling you."
00:18:12 So, I said, "What is that?
00:18:13 I don't want kids right now."
00:18:14 Hmm.
00:18:16 So, enjoy your life a little.
00:18:18 Because Adnan and I were from completely different families.
00:18:21 So, we had a little life.
00:18:22 Then my mother passed away.
00:18:23 So, we didn't get time to spend time with each other.
00:18:27 So, I didn't go to Germany for a year.
00:18:29 So, I was thinking that she doesn't want a baby.
00:18:34 So, when I went to Germany,
00:18:36 I spent some time there,
00:18:37 settled down with my father.
00:18:39 And this news,
00:18:41 because I haven't gone on my honeymoon yet.
00:18:45 I...
00:18:45 Our sorrows are the same.
00:18:47 No, no, I went during pregnancy.
00:18:48 I will tell you when the question comes.
00:18:51 So, when this news came,
00:18:54 my sister-in-law lives there.
00:18:57 So, she told me to check once.
00:18:59 I said, "No, no, it's not like that."
00:19:02 But when it happened,
00:19:03 I didn't come out of the washroom for an hour.
00:19:05 I was afraid that if I tell her,
00:19:07 what will be her reaction?
00:19:09 Oh my God!
00:19:09 I was so scared that I didn't understand.
00:19:12 And when I came, I got scared.
00:19:14 I came and said, "Adnan,
00:19:16 this has come."
00:19:18 The way he was happy,
00:19:20 the way he hugged me,
00:19:21 the way he...
00:19:22 He said, "Tell me the truth.
00:19:23 Tell me the truth."
00:19:24 "Are you lying?
00:19:25 Are you kidding me?"
00:19:26 I said, "Why would I be kidding you?
00:19:27 I'm crying."
00:19:28 I said, "Why are you so happy?"
00:19:30 He said, "This is a matter of happiness.
00:19:32 Are you crazy?"
00:19:33 I said, "You told me..."
00:19:35 At that time, people say a lot
00:19:36 about emotions.
00:19:37 But if you think about it,
00:19:39 this is really...
00:19:39 Tell me the truth.
00:19:41 And he was like a madman.
00:19:43 He called everyone.
00:19:43 I said, "Wait,
00:19:45 first confirm with the doctor."
00:19:46 I mean, he was very happy.
00:19:49 And I was sitting with my head held high
00:19:51 that why did I spend an hour
00:19:52 crying inside?
00:19:56 But it's true that
00:19:57 it's such an experience in life
00:19:59 that you can't forget.
00:20:01 Those people are very lucky
00:20:03 who get a welcome like this.
00:20:06 Like I got it, you got it.
00:20:08 Yes, Rabika.
00:20:08 What happened here?
00:20:10 When I got to know about the news,
00:20:13 we were both very young.
00:20:15 I was very young when I got to know
00:20:18 that we had conceived.
00:20:20 So, I wasn't ready at all.
00:20:22 I mean,
00:20:24 you know, you plan
00:20:26 that we have to do this now.
00:20:28 We hadn't planned it.
00:20:30 And suddenly, we got to know about the news.
00:20:32 So, I was very tensed
00:20:34 that I would get fat.
00:20:35 I wouldn't like my clothes.
00:20:37 I wouldn't look pretty.
00:20:38 And I remember Shafaq used to trouble me a lot.
00:20:41 I told him, "How will I wear jeans now?"
00:20:42 "I can't wear jeans."
00:20:44 It was a very stupid thing.
00:20:46 Now I realize.
00:20:47 But I kept crying for a long time
00:20:49 thinking about what had happened.
00:20:51 It happened too soon.
00:20:52 It happened too soon.
00:20:53 How will I look fat?
00:20:54 All these things.
00:20:55 I think that those girls
00:20:57 think that
00:20:59 our life is over now.
00:21:01 Look, when girls are naive,
00:21:03 they think this.
00:21:04 They think that
00:21:05 my life will not last.
00:21:07 And I used to think the same.
00:21:09 That I will have to raise kids all my life.
00:21:12 And my life is over.
00:21:15 So, my whole concept
00:21:16 was completely different from what you are telling.
00:21:18 I just cried.
00:21:19 And after a long time,
00:21:20 after a long time,
00:21:22 I slowly accepted that
00:21:24 it's okay.
00:21:25 Even after being born,
00:21:27 after one year,
00:21:28 I realized that it's okay.
00:21:29 Nothing happens.
00:21:30 You just feel that
00:21:31 things will be difficult.
00:21:32 All these things.
00:21:33 God makes everything easy.
00:21:35 And when you are ready,
00:21:36 that's when God makes a good plan for you.
00:21:38 Yes, Zohra.
00:21:40 And that too double.
00:21:43 I have to work.
00:21:45 I have to live in Pakistan.
00:21:47 All the sacrifices.
00:21:48 Okay, so I have already shared with you
00:21:51 that I was on a drama shoot.
00:21:53 And my director told me
00:21:55 that something was wrong.
00:21:56 Something was going off with me.
00:21:59 Because I was always focused
00:22:00 and so into the scenes and everything.
00:22:03 But I used to get late TV again and again.
00:22:05 Long story short,
00:22:06 because of them,
00:22:07 I tested my pregnancy.
00:22:09 So, 10 out of 10,
00:22:10 the strips were positive.
00:22:11 And we were shooting for Badzaad.
00:22:14 And it was a very late night.
00:22:16 That shoot was happening.
00:22:17 So, I went home at 3.30 at night.
00:22:21 So, I checked and it was 4.00 at night.
00:22:23 The next day, we were shooting again.
00:22:25 And I checked and I was so happy.
00:22:27 I was like,
00:22:28 "Oh my God, I didn't understand."
00:22:30 I was very happy.
00:22:31 I immediately told my husband.
00:22:33 And we both enjoyed it.
00:22:37 We were very happy.
00:22:38 We thanked each other.
00:22:41 "Oh my God, this is such a big news for us."
00:22:43 But when I went to the hospital for the ultrasound,
00:22:48 that was a very funny scene.
00:22:49 Because when the doctor checked me,
00:22:51 he asked me,
00:22:52 "Who told you that you are pregnant?"
00:22:54 I told him,
00:22:55 "I checked and the strips were positive."
00:22:58 He said,
00:22:59 "No, you are not pregnant."
00:23:01 I said, "Okay."
00:23:03 I had some thoughts in my mind.
00:23:04 I was like, "It's a good thing.
00:23:05 The project is going on.
00:23:06 It's fine.
00:23:07 God is with us."
00:23:08 Because I didn't have any plan.
00:23:10 So, right away,
00:23:11 he got pregnant.
00:23:14 And then he got another baby.
00:23:18 Oh, you are saying that you don't have a baby.
00:23:20 And now you have two.
00:23:21 And in just a few seconds,
00:23:23 he said that I have two.
00:23:25 I was looking at him and he was looking at me.
00:23:27 And I didn't know.
00:23:28 This is very funny.
00:23:29 Exactly.
00:23:30 Because you don't know where your mental state is coming from.
00:23:33 Did the doctor put a mask on you later?
00:23:34 Yes.
00:23:35 She was a nurse.
00:23:36 She did the ultrasound.
00:23:37 I was in South City.
00:23:38 She was a nurse.
00:23:39 That's why she said that.
00:23:40 But then she said,
00:23:41 "You don't have to tell me now.
00:23:42 Your main ultrasound will be done now.
00:23:44 After that, you can tell your family."
00:23:46 My mother and husband were outside.
00:23:48 So, I saw them and I started crying.
00:23:51 I didn't know what had happened to me.
00:23:53 I kept crying.
00:23:54 And now they got worried.
00:23:55 And they told me that if I have any problem,
00:23:58 if there is anything,
00:23:59 then share it with me.
00:24:00 I will counsel you.
00:24:01 Because I was crying so much
00:24:02 that they couldn't understand what had happened to me.
00:24:05 Because I was just fine.
00:24:06 And I went out and I was crying looking at my mother.
00:24:08 I was crying looking at my husband.
00:24:09 I went inside.
00:24:10 Even when I came out,
00:24:11 I was crying a little.
00:24:12 They got worried about what had happened.
00:24:14 And then my mother was asking me.
00:24:15 And I wasn't responding.
00:24:16 And I went to my husband's ear and said,
00:24:18 "I am twins."
00:24:20 And he laughed.
00:24:23 And the nurse came from behind with the ultrasound.
00:24:27 Before I go on break,
00:24:28 I want Sharmeen to tell me the answer to this question.
00:24:30 Okay, I was not as eventful as you three.
00:24:35 Because it was completely planned.
00:24:38 I was a housewife.
00:24:40 And it happens that after marriage,
00:24:42 I wanted to take my time.
00:24:44 So I took that time.
00:24:45 And I was ready to have a child.
00:24:47 And I was very fond of children.
00:24:48 I helped all my nieces,
00:24:49 because I am the youngest of my sisters,
00:24:51 I helped all my sisters with their children.
00:24:54 I used to feel that now I am ready for my own.
00:24:57 So, that's why there was a lot of excitement.
00:25:00 But as far as celebration is concerned,
00:25:03 I don't remember if I celebrated a lot in the family.
00:25:07 Because I was the fifth daughter in my family.
00:25:10 And I had so many children.
00:25:12 I was the fifth in my in-laws.
00:25:14 And I had so many children.
00:25:15 So, it was nothing new.
00:25:17 It was a regular thing.
00:25:19 You get married and have children.
00:25:21 So, I didn't experience any celebration as far as I remember.
00:25:24 But I myself, I was very happy.
00:25:26 I was over the moon.
00:25:27 Because it was something that I really wanted.
00:25:29 So, this is my simple story as far as I can remember.
00:25:33 When I found out for the third time,
00:25:35 I was happier than the first and second time.
00:25:39 No, no.
00:25:40 Yes, because it was the third time.
00:25:41 You wanted.
00:25:42 There was a nine-year gap.
00:25:44 Okay.
00:25:45 I called her from Germany to ask her something.
00:25:48 She said, "Sadia, you are going to be an aunt too."
00:25:52 A small break.
00:25:55 After the break, a lot of stories, a lot of answers.
00:25:58 The first day of the year, us and you.
00:26:00 Wow, what a poem.
00:26:01 Good morning, Pakistan.
00:26:03 [Music]
00:26:11 Welcome back.
00:26:12 Good morning, Pakistan.
00:26:13 Happy New Year to all of you.
00:26:15 And when you become parents,
00:26:18 I am reminding you of that time.
00:26:23 So that you go back and think about what mistakes you made.
00:26:28 Whenever a parent becomes a parent for the first time,
00:26:30 they learn from their mistakes.
00:26:33 And then the second, third, fourth, fifth,
00:26:35 and so on, they learn from those mistakes and apply them in their life.
00:26:41 So what is the next question, my viewers?
00:26:43 I will show it to you.
00:26:45 How was my child's first day?
00:26:48 The first day of the child.
00:26:50 There are a lot of questions in this question.
00:26:55 Was your delivery difficult?
00:26:57 Was the child born on the first day?
00:26:58 So what was the first child?
00:27:00 I will tell you my experience so that Sharmi remembers it by then.
00:27:04 The date of birth is 29th August.
00:27:07 When we reached the hospital, I said, "Daan, I think..."
00:27:11 Was it the same date?
00:27:12 Same date.
00:27:13 I said, "I think you should take me up on the wheelchair."
00:27:17 Did the doctor say you had an operation?
00:27:19 No, it was a normal day.
00:27:20 You know, in Germany...
00:27:21 You didn't have any pain or anything?
00:27:22 There was no ride.
00:27:24 Not at all.
00:27:25 I gave him the date, 29th August.
00:27:27 He had to come.
00:27:28 We had to go for check-up.
00:27:29 He had to come for the admetone.
00:27:30 So I went when he did the check-up.
00:27:32 After that, my situation was...
00:27:34 I had three machines on my stomach.
00:27:37 One was...
00:27:38 Because Meerab's heartbeat was going down.
00:27:41 And I...
00:27:43 I mean, I was not having any such thing.
00:27:46 All the injections I had been given...
00:27:49 And he was so shocked.
00:27:50 What is happening?
00:27:52 I mean, I don't understand.
00:27:53 Was there any difficulty?
00:27:55 It was very difficult.
00:27:56 When Meerab's heartbeat went down...
00:27:58 Because all the doctors who have experience...
00:28:02 They try to give normal delivery.
00:28:04 They don't go to the C-section.
00:28:07 Adnan...
00:28:08 I don't know what to take.
00:28:09 When we went home, suddenly...
00:28:11 First, I didn't know the language.
00:28:12 German.
00:28:13 Then, my wife said, "We have to take you for an operation."
00:28:17 "We don't have time. Where is your husband?"
00:28:19 He only spoke English.
00:28:20 I called Adnan.
00:28:22 I asked him to talk to him.
00:28:23 Adnan told me...
00:28:24 He said, "We have to take you for an operation."
00:28:26 I said, "Where are you?"
00:28:27 I was alone.
00:28:28 There was no one in my house.
00:28:30 No one was there.
00:28:32 My elder sister said, "Whatever happens is for the best."
00:28:35 "It is for your own good."
00:28:36 "You just pray."
00:28:37 I took a long list.
00:28:39 I will pray for everyone.
00:28:40 When this will happen, that will happen.
00:28:42 She said, "You just go."
00:28:44 Thank God, Adnan reached.
00:28:46 We went to the operation theatre.
00:28:48 Whatever had to happen, happened.
00:28:50 But, the first feeling...
00:28:53 Was it after the operation?
00:28:54 Yes, after the operation.
00:28:55 The C-section was done.
00:28:56 My doctor was very nice.
00:29:00 I could feel what was happening.
00:29:03 Adnan was more stressed than me.
00:29:06 I asked him, "Why are you crying?"
00:29:08 "You are my witness."
00:29:10 He said, "You are in pain."
00:29:11 I said, "I don't know."
00:29:12 "I am not in pain."
00:29:14 He had already done the post-op.
00:29:16 When the lady came out, she gave him a pat on the back.
00:29:21 To cry.
00:29:22 She cried.
00:29:24 There was a curtain in front of me.
00:29:26 Our doctor, who was an Iranian, brought her.
00:29:29 He said, "She is a girl."
00:29:31 "Baby girl."
00:29:32 "She is a beautiful baby."
00:29:33 "Beautiful."
00:29:34 "You know."
00:29:35 Adnan said, "Give me the call to prayer."
00:29:39 Adnan was so excited.
00:29:42 He was not crying because he was shivering.
00:29:44 He was not holding the baby.
00:29:46 He was afraid that the baby would fall.
00:29:49 The doctor called the call to prayer.
00:29:52 She was so cute.
00:29:53 She called the call to prayer.
00:29:54 Adnan was so excited.
00:29:58 Meera was 9 pounds.
00:30:01 She was so fast.
00:30:02 He said, "She is mine."
00:30:05 "She is mine. She hasn't changed."
00:30:07 "She is mine."
00:30:08 "How is she so healthy?"
00:30:10 "She is mine."
00:30:11 When he was washed and brought to me,
00:30:14 I was almost like,
00:30:17 "She is mine."
00:30:21 When I got the news,
00:30:24 my first prayer was,
00:30:25 "Give me a daughter, my Lord."
00:30:27 "I want a daughter."
00:30:29 "I don't want anything more than this."
00:30:31 I knew from Adnan's temper that she was going to be the only one.
00:30:34 Really?
00:30:36 God answered my prayer.
00:30:38 Thank God, I got a daughter.
00:30:41 Wow.
00:30:42 Rabika, it's your turn.
00:30:44 First day.
00:30:45 My delivery was not as smooth as yours.
00:30:49 We went to Peshawar for the delivery.
00:30:52 Obviously, we didn't have a family here.
00:30:54 It was our first baby.
00:30:55 We went to Peshawar.
00:30:57 The hospital in Peshawar was a little unequipped.
00:31:00 There were not many facilities.
00:31:04 I was due on 26th January.
00:31:08 Wajdan was born on 7th Feb.
00:31:11 It was more than 40 weeks.
00:31:13 It was more than 40 weeks.
00:31:15 It was my first baby.
00:31:16 They tried to make it normal.
00:31:18 My delivery was normal.
00:31:21 But I got PPH.
00:31:23 PPH is postpartum hemorrhage.
00:31:25 It means that your uterus gets damaged.
00:31:28 I had four packs of blood.
00:31:32 I almost lost my life.
00:31:34 It was a very bad thing.
00:31:37 It was the second life that I got.
00:31:39 It was not as bad as you are saying.
00:31:42 Doctors and the hospital panicked.
00:31:45 It was a life and death situation.
00:31:50 Wajdan came out.
00:31:54 I didn't know how long he would come back.
00:31:58 It was very difficult.
00:32:01 You can never forget the first day.
00:32:04 My mother and mother-in-law started crying.
00:32:10 It was one and a half hours.
00:32:13 Doctors didn't tell me anything.
00:32:15 It was an emergency situation.
00:32:17 They didn't tell me.
00:32:20 It was a 9-pound baby.
00:32:22 It was a normal baby.
00:32:23 It was a first baby.
00:32:24 It was more than 40 weeks.
00:32:25 It was very bad.
00:32:27 Zohra, tell us about your first day.
00:32:31 You are different from us.
00:32:34 I went to the hospital for a normal ultrasound.
00:32:39 I had a checkup.
00:32:41 The doctor said that he has pre-eclampsia.
00:32:44 What is pre-eclampsia?
00:32:46 It is when your blood pressure is high.
00:32:49 It happens in twins.
00:32:50 It is a high risk and pregnancy.
00:32:54 I was told that I was going to have a baby today.
00:33:00 My mother was with me.
00:33:02 She told me to pack my things.
00:33:04 I didn't pack anything.
00:33:06 I was admitted.
00:33:08 They were doing a normal ultrasound.
00:33:09 It didn't happen.
00:33:10 It was a C-section.
00:33:11 My experience of going to the hospital was very disturbing.
00:33:14 When I went to the operation theatre,
00:33:16 I was so nervous.
00:33:18 I didn't understand anything.
00:33:20 When I went, I was listening to music for 2 minutes.
00:33:23 The doctors were listening to music.
00:33:25 They were relaxing.
00:33:27 They were drinking coffee.
00:33:28 Everything was so relaxed.
00:33:30 There was a good vibe.
00:33:31 It was a sweet vibe.
00:33:32 I was thinking what is happening.
00:33:34 The doctor told me that we are starting the operation.
00:33:38 I asked him if he was sure.
00:33:41 I asked him if he was sure that I wouldn't feel any pain.
00:33:46 He said that he was feeling it.
00:33:49 I said that I was happy.
00:33:52 I didn't feel any pain.
00:33:54 We had a baby.
00:33:56 I heard him crying.
00:33:58 When he was giving me the baby,
00:34:00 my hands were so cold that I thought I wouldn't be able to hold my kids.
00:34:05 I didn't take any risk.
00:34:07 When I went to the room, they came to me.
00:34:09 I hugged them.
00:34:10 That was the most beautiful thing.
00:34:12 The memory of my delivery is my favorite memory.
00:34:17 It was such a fun atmosphere.
00:34:19 I felt like I came to drink coffee.
00:34:21 Actually, it was very nice.
00:34:24 We were also worried about what was happening to us.
00:34:28 Mine was not as traumatic as yours.
00:34:31 My cousin was at home.
00:34:34 I was sitting with my mother.
00:34:36 She checked my mother's blood pressure.
00:34:38 She had a problem with her blood pressure.
00:34:40 She told me that she will check my blood pressure.
00:34:43 When she checked my blood pressure,
00:34:45 it was normally high.
00:34:47 It was 170 or 110.
00:34:49 It is very dangerous.
00:34:51 She couldn't believe it.
00:34:53 She checked it once, twice, and thrice.
00:34:55 She said, "I can't believe it.
00:34:57 This is your blood pressure."
00:34:58 I called my doctor.
00:34:59 When I called her, she said, "Your due date is coming.
00:35:02 We will induce you."
00:35:04 "It is very dangerous for you, the baby, and both of you."
00:35:07 When the blood pressure is so high,
00:35:09 it is bad for the mother.
00:35:10 Her organs start failing.
00:35:12 The baby can't survive.
00:35:14 She said, "Come tomorrow morning.
00:35:15 I am going to induce you."
00:35:17 When I went, the doctor understood
00:35:19 that it will take time.
00:35:21 It is the first time.
00:35:23 The body has to process it.
00:35:25 I went in the afternoon.
00:35:28 She came around 3 or 4 in the evening.
00:35:31 She induced me.
00:35:32 She said, "The night will pass."
00:35:34 "The process will start."
00:35:36 She had to go to a concert.
00:35:39 She went to a concert.
00:35:40 She is a wonderful doctor.
00:35:41 She was on call with me throughout.
00:35:43 She went to a concert.
00:35:44 When she went to the concert,
00:35:46 she had reached.
00:35:48 The nurse said, "Are you ready?"
00:35:50 "We have to call the doctor."
00:35:52 I said, "It has been an hour and a half."
00:35:54 "How can I be ready?"
00:35:55 She said, "No, you are ready."
00:35:56 She called the doctor.
00:35:57 The doctor said, "Start the process."
00:35:59 "I am coming."
00:36:00 When she came, she was decked up.
00:36:02 I saw that she was so well-dressed.
00:36:04 She was wearing such a beautiful dress.
00:36:06 She was fully dressed up.
00:36:08 She was fully dressed up.
00:36:10 I was feeling so sorry for her.
00:36:12 She had worked so hard.
00:36:14 Now, this is what she is doing.
00:36:16 Doctors have tough jobs.
00:36:18 She was so good.
00:36:20 Within 15 to 20 minutes,
00:36:22 she was there in the labor room.
00:36:23 It is a good thing that she reached.
00:36:25 Otherwise, she would not have reached.
00:36:27 My scenario was very funny.
00:36:29 As I told you,
00:36:31 my husband was excited after hearing the news.
00:36:33 My in-laws were excited.
00:36:34 I said, "I am feeling a little pain."
00:36:39 They packed the entire box.
00:36:42 I went to the hospital three times.
00:36:46 Because no one was in a hurry.
00:36:48 Only my husband was in a hurry.
00:36:49 Why do I feel that my life is so uneventful?
00:36:52 Nothing like this happened to me.
00:36:53 She was the fifth daughter-in-law.
00:36:57 I say, she is young.
00:36:58 Like in a comedy drama,
00:37:02 we had prepared the things.
00:37:04 My mother-in-law told me,
00:37:05 "Dear, prepare these things."
00:37:07 We were doing what we were told.
00:37:10 That's a very smart thing.
00:37:12 You packed everything.
00:37:13 Yes.
00:37:14 There was a board at our house.
00:37:17 We all are from Umeet.
00:37:19 I was pregnant.
00:37:20 My sister-in-law.
00:37:21 At the same time, my sister-in-law.
00:37:23 Three people were pregnant in the same house.
00:37:26 My mother-in-law had told me,
00:37:28 "I will have three people."
00:37:30 "I will see whom I will see."
00:37:31 "You guys keep your suitcase ready."
00:37:33 We took our suitcase.
00:37:35 We went to the doctor three times.
00:37:38 Do you know, she has a name too.
00:37:40 The fake pains.
00:37:42 I think my husband had those pains.
00:37:45 Because she was in such a hurry.
00:37:47 Anyway, finally.
00:37:49 That day came.
00:37:51 That day came.
00:37:52 And, God bless,
00:37:53 the day that day came,
00:37:54 the hospital didn't look like a hospital.
00:37:56 It looked like we had come on a picnic.
00:37:58 The whole family was gathered.
00:37:59 I am the first daughter.
00:38:01 Yasir is the first son.
00:38:03 Absolutely.
00:38:04 You are thinking that
00:38:05 the first son is different.
00:38:06 There are favorites too.
00:38:08 Obviously, it happens.
00:38:09 So, now I have two sisters.
00:38:11 One brother.
00:38:12 He is also crazy.
00:38:13 He too.
00:38:14 I heard that there was a war.
00:38:15 Taniyal, Dadiyal.
00:38:16 That we will take.
00:38:17 We will give the call to prayer.
00:38:18 We will lick the knees.
00:38:19 We will do the name.
00:38:20 All these things were happening.
00:38:21 Films and dramas.
00:38:22 And when my child came into this world,
00:38:25 my gynecologist.
00:38:26 My, God bless, was a normal delivery.
00:38:28 And, thank God,
00:38:29 it was a very good delivery.
00:38:30 No complications.
00:38:32 Thank God.
00:38:33 Because I used to walk a lot.
00:38:34 In that time,
00:38:35 we all used to keep a horse.
00:38:37 Yes.
00:38:38 That's why I am saying.
00:38:40 So,
00:38:41 when my child was born,
00:38:43 my doctor said to me,
00:38:45 the sentence,
00:38:46 I remember it so many years ago.
00:38:48 Have you been watching Yasir for 9 months?
00:38:50 Because my son's face
00:38:52 is exactly like his father.
00:38:54 And Yasir is the youngest person in the world.
00:38:57 I mean,
00:38:58 it happens that a boy and a girl
00:38:59 do not make so much difference
00:39:00 by looking at the face.
00:39:01 But he had so many masculine features.
00:39:04 My doctor said,
00:39:05 you have been watching Yasir for 9 months.
00:39:07 I remember every single thing.
00:39:09 Every single thing.
00:39:10 And after that,
00:39:11 when he,
00:39:12 for a while,
00:39:14 he gave me a pain killer
00:39:16 that I went into a coma.
00:39:18 Like after delivery.
00:39:19 Then I slept.
00:39:20 Then after a while.
00:39:22 But when my child was born for the first time,
00:39:25 I didn't understand anything.
00:39:26 Like what happened?
00:39:27 What didn't happen?
00:39:28 What didn't happen?
00:39:29 You guys are so lucky
00:39:30 that you guys were with me.
00:39:31 I had a lot of baby blues.
00:39:32 I had a lot of depression.
00:39:33 I had a lot of baby blues.
00:39:35 I had the same.
00:39:36 I had a lot.
00:39:37 I had 45 days.
00:39:40 Those were not good.
00:39:41 Those were not good.
00:39:42 I have a lot of bad memories from that.
00:39:44 Okay,
00:39:45 I was also coming to the first day
00:39:47 that you were talking about.
00:39:49 Because my blood pressure was very high.
00:39:51 And I was very scared
00:39:52 that I don't know
00:39:53 how my body will cope
00:39:54 with such high blood pressure.
00:39:55 And what happened was that
00:39:56 after delivery,
00:39:57 the blood pressure started to increase.
00:39:59 It was not coming under control.
00:40:01 The doctors,
00:40:02 the way I used to see their faces,
00:40:03 when they used to come and check,
00:40:04 and their faces used to be
00:40:05 exchanging looks with each other.
00:40:07 It was such a traumatic experience for me
00:40:10 that I was not able to enjoy anything else.
00:40:13 And even today,
00:40:14 when I think about it,
00:40:16 my heart sinks.
00:40:17 Because I have been associated
00:40:19 with depression.
00:40:21 With that feeling.
00:40:22 And the same thing that
00:40:24 you are not able to connect immediately.
00:40:26 Especially if you are going through
00:40:27 such trauma.
00:40:28 Like people say,
00:40:29 when you see your baby,
00:40:30 you forget about everything.
00:40:32 I don't think this has happened to me.
00:40:34 It took me a really long time
00:40:36 to bond with my child.
00:40:38 For a connection I did not feel.
00:40:39 I also have this question.
00:40:41 When you took the baby in your lap,
00:40:43 how did you feel?
00:40:44 I found it very filmy and dramatic.
00:40:47 It feels like after a long time.
00:40:48 When you took him in your lap,
00:40:49 how did you feel?
00:40:50 Especially,
00:40:51 you both have caesarean.
00:40:52 Things are different with you.
00:40:54 Because you have the pain,
00:40:55 you have suffered later.
00:40:56 It's not like that.
00:40:57 Caesareans don't suffer pain.
00:40:58 They have to suffer pain later.
00:41:00 The normal deliveries,
00:41:01 they don't feel it at that time.
00:41:03 Yes.
00:41:04 After a while,
00:41:05 after a few days,
00:41:06 they feel a little bit.
00:41:08 Then they understand,
00:41:09 Oh, wow.
00:41:10 I had so many injections,
00:41:12 because they were given before
00:41:14 that the pain would start.
00:41:16 But it didn't.
00:41:17 So after this,
00:41:18 the pain that started,
00:41:20 and then they gave me
00:41:23 epidural injections.
00:41:28 Why epidural injections?
00:41:29 They were given for the operation.
00:41:31 No, no.
00:41:32 They give epidural injections for normal deliveries.
00:41:34 No, epidural injections for caesarean too.
00:41:36 No, epidural injections for normal deliveries.
00:41:37 No, epidural injections for caesarean too.
00:41:39 They give epidural injections for half of it.
00:41:41 To keep you awake.
00:41:42 Here,
00:41:43 Sadia,
00:41:44 this is what happens here.
00:41:45 But it's wrong.
00:41:46 Your back is left.
00:41:47 Yes.
00:41:48 Because you need a lot of experts
00:41:49 for epidural injections.
00:41:51 You are a doctor.
00:41:52 But in that form,
00:41:53 you are a doctor.
00:41:54 They give you a form there.
00:41:56 Everything was written in that form.
00:41:58 That epidural has side effects.
00:42:00 And you have to bear this.
00:42:03 Because you know,
00:42:04 they do everything there.
00:42:06 So you have to do everything carefully.
00:42:08 Because there is no other way.
00:42:10 But I feel that caesareans,
00:42:12 I had a lot of them.
00:42:14 They were very painful.
00:42:16 Because your body is cutting.
00:42:20 It's cutting 7 layers.
00:42:22 So, they say,
00:42:23 normal delivery is very lucky.
00:42:25 It's smooth.
00:42:26 A small break.
00:42:27 After the break,
00:42:28 the next question.
00:42:29 Similarly,
00:42:30 today is the first day of the year.
00:42:31 We are remembering the day of our life.
00:42:34 Which must have come in your life.
00:42:36 And it will be memorable for you too.
00:42:38 Good morning, Pakistan.
00:42:49 Welcome, welcome back.
00:42:51 Good morning, Pakistan.
00:42:53 Happy New Year to all of you.
00:42:55 We are sharing the best experiences of our life
00:42:58 with you at the beginning of the year.
00:43:02 And with the help of these experiences,
00:43:04 you will be able to learn something.
00:43:05 A new guest is coming to his house.
00:43:07 Or has come.
00:43:08 I am enjoying listening to all these things.
00:43:11 Because we can relate to all these things.
00:43:14 So, what is the next question?
00:43:16 When did the first child wake you up at night?
00:43:20 This is my question.
00:43:22 Yes, brother.
00:43:23 I remember this very well.
00:43:25 Did Meerab wake you up, Sadia?
00:43:27 Meerab didn't wake me up.
00:43:28 Meerab didn't wake me up that much.
00:43:30 But when she fell sick for the first time
00:43:32 and I didn't know how to handle her,
00:43:35 I woke up at that time.
00:43:37 One time it was my own fault.
00:43:40 I was making roti and I kept Meerab on the bouncer.
00:43:43 She was so excited that she fell on her head.
00:43:45 And she died.
00:43:46 Oh!
00:43:47 So, neither Adnan nor I were there.
00:43:49 And I was scared that what has happened.
00:43:51 And it was completely locked.
00:43:53 And this is about Germany.
00:43:54 Yes, it is about Germany.
00:43:55 And you know, a mother gets jailed.
00:43:57 Absolutely.
00:43:58 My husband was worried about this.
00:44:01 That you will be jailed if something happens to her.
00:44:04 Anyway, we took her there.
00:44:07 And it was for a few days.
00:44:10 It was not even for months.
00:44:11 I think it was for a few days.
00:44:13 Because my family used to come.
00:44:15 So, I had to do everything myself.
00:44:17 And you know, the nurses there
00:44:20 come home and check.
00:44:22 The nurses check and come at any time
00:44:25 to see how the child is kept.
00:44:27 So, she complimented my husband
00:44:29 that she is a nurse.
00:44:31 I mean, she is a nurse.
00:44:32 Because I used to wrap her so well.
00:44:34 So, I told her that we have raised a lot of children.
00:44:36 We have raised a lot of children of our sisters-in-law.
00:44:39 But my elder sister told me
00:44:45 that if you don't give her milk on time,
00:44:50 then she will trouble you.
00:44:59 You will develop her habit as soon as you give her milk.
00:45:02 If you give her milk in the dark,
00:45:04 she will lie in the dark all her life.
00:45:05 If you give her milk in the silence,
00:45:07 she will be silent all her life.
00:45:08 She will be normal as you will raise her.
00:45:11 So, we used to play with her.
00:45:12 I used to make her lie down on the bed
00:45:14 so that she gets used to everything.
00:45:15 So, I raised my child like this.
00:45:17 I was very lucky that
00:45:19 Meerab didn't trouble me like that.
00:45:21 But what happened,
00:45:23 we ran to the hospital.
00:45:25 When she had machines on her head,
00:45:29 and she was getting an X-ray,
00:45:31 I felt that no one could be more criminal than me.
00:45:34 And I didn't say anything then.
00:45:36 But when I came home, I flipped the pan.
00:45:38 I said that you have a habit of eating hot food.
00:45:40 You will be able to cook it yourself.
00:45:42 So, the priorities change.
00:45:45 I was cooking for you.
00:45:47 I don't have any habit.
00:45:49 I eat food at 7 o'clock.
00:45:50 I was sitting with Meerab all night.
00:45:55 She used to open her eyes and look at me.
00:45:59 She was sleeping and she was looking at me.
00:46:01 I was checking her.
00:46:03 The doctor said that she was normal.
00:46:05 But I didn't have a bad experience with Meerab.
00:46:10 Do you remember?
00:46:11 We made a lot of mistakes.
00:46:13 We made a lot of big mistakes.
00:46:15 When you have a lot of people around you,
00:46:17 you have a lot of people to give advice.
00:46:19 So, they told me that she gets cold easily.
00:46:23 She has to wear a lot of layers.
00:46:25 When I made her wear a lot of clothes,
00:46:27 she was allergic to flowers.
00:46:30 I didn't know that she was allergic to flowers.
00:46:32 And you know, in the beginning,
00:46:35 her clothes were made of wool.
00:46:37 Her mother sewed it with her hands.
00:46:39 She was fond of wearing it.
00:46:41 I used to make her wear it.
00:46:43 I used to make her wear a lot of layers.
00:46:45 So, her entire area, her entire bag,
00:46:47 was made of wool.
00:46:49 I didn't know.
00:46:50 I didn't even think that she could be allergic to wool.
00:46:53 I'm sorry, I'm adding something here.
00:46:55 There is one thing.
00:46:57 In STD, a child dies suddenly.
00:47:01 If she gets hot rashes.
00:47:03 And if you do it too much,
00:47:05 the baby gets hot rashes.
00:47:07 And it's very dangerous.
00:47:09 It's very dangerous.
00:47:10 That's why I found out later that
00:47:12 you have to add one extra layer.
00:47:14 Just one layer more than what you're wearing.
00:47:16 Don't make the baby feel hot more than that.
00:47:18 So, I used to put wool in her blanket.
00:47:21 Poor thing.
00:47:22 She was very bad with it.
00:47:24 First of all, this was a big mistake.
00:47:26 And as you're saying,
00:47:28 we were going to apply for a visa.
00:47:30 And in the car seat,
00:47:32 we wrapped the baby in a cloth.
00:47:39 And then we were in the car seat.
00:47:41 Shafaq picked up the car seat.
00:47:43 And we were crossing the road.
00:47:45 And she was in the car seat.
00:47:47 Didn't you tie a belt?
00:47:48 No, we didn't.
00:47:49 We didn't know about all this.
00:47:52 So, poor thing,
00:47:53 she couldn't even move her hand.
00:47:55 And her head was on the road.
00:47:59 And we were not focused on
00:48:03 applying for the visa.
00:48:05 We had an interview call.
00:48:06 And Shafaq was on the road.
00:48:08 Because she was a baby.
00:48:09 She was sad.
00:48:10 Her head was all dirty.
00:48:13 So, Shafaq started crying on the road.
00:48:15 Very loudly.
00:48:16 How did I drop my baby?
00:48:18 And I didn't know
00:48:19 if Wajdan was okay or not.
00:48:21 If Shafaq was okay or not.
00:48:22 Somehow, we crossed the road.
00:48:24 And she fell down on the pavement.
00:48:27 And then we left the interview call.
00:48:31 We went to the hospital first.
00:48:32 We checked if she was okay.
00:48:34 And then,
00:48:35 when she had the injuries,
00:48:37 I applied Dettol on her.
00:48:39 I made the third mistake.
00:48:41 So, she got a rash.
00:48:43 She got a bad burn.
00:48:44 So, again,
00:48:45 you can't apply Dettol directly.
00:48:46 You have to soak it in water.
00:48:48 You have to dilute it.
00:48:49 You can't apply Dettol to babies.
00:48:52 So, we did a lot of blunders.
00:48:55 Oh, God!
00:48:56 And did Wajdan wake you up at night?
00:48:58 He used to wake me up a lot.
00:48:59 He used to wake me up a lot at night.
00:49:01 Initially,
00:49:02 now this is also the matter of elders,
00:49:04 the one who is born at night,
00:49:05 he wakes up all night.
00:49:06 And the one who sleeps in the day,
00:49:07 he sleeps all day.
00:49:09 Actually, I didn't have this experience
00:49:12 because you know,
00:49:13 they teach you there.
00:49:14 In pregnancy,
00:49:16 you are taught the whole motherhood
00:49:18 and it is tested.
00:49:20 They give you videos,
00:49:23 watch videos,
00:49:24 and then doctors take tests from both parents
00:49:27 that what you have studied
00:49:29 or what videos we have given you,
00:49:30 have you seen them or not?
00:49:32 So, we learned some things from that too.
00:49:34 It is a very good thing.
00:49:35 Everyone should have it
00:49:36 because new parents like this
00:49:37 have no idea.
00:49:38 Nothing.
00:49:39 So, he used to wake up at night.
00:49:40 We have 10 kids,
00:49:41 so we will teach them 10 times.
00:49:43 No, let them study once.
00:49:44 Let them study once.
00:49:45 Pass the test.
00:49:46 Okay, you tell me,
00:49:48 you have two,
00:49:49 Mashallah.
00:49:50 So, what kind of nights did he wake you up?
00:49:53 My time,
00:49:55 Alhamdulillah,
00:49:56 was very peaceful.
00:49:58 I used to take medicines,
00:50:00 so I used to sleep mostly.
00:50:01 My husband used to watch mostly,
00:50:03 my mother used to watch.
00:50:05 So, your husband should be in this show.
00:50:07 Of course, the nurse taught him.
00:50:08 He was not changing the diaper,
00:50:10 so the nurse asked him to stand up
00:50:11 and asked him who will do it.
00:50:12 So, you have to learn.
00:50:13 So, he learned and then he taught me.
00:50:16 Because I didn't know
00:50:17 how to change the diaper.
00:50:18 First, you have to keep a new diaper
00:50:19 and then you put the new one.
00:50:20 All the details were taught in the hospital.
00:50:23 And what I didn't know,
00:50:24 my husband told me.
00:50:25 So, I didn't get any benefit.
00:50:27 Because I used to rest mostly.
00:50:29 But one night,
00:50:30 there was a very funny scene.
00:50:31 My son,
00:50:32 my elder son,
00:50:34 Arsan,
00:50:35 he had a gas.
00:50:36 He was a colic baby.
00:50:37 Both the babies were colic,
00:50:38 but he got this thing first.
00:50:41 So, he was crying all night.
00:50:44 The whole night passed.
00:50:45 Four hours passed.
00:50:46 His crying was not stopping.
00:50:47 So, my husband,
00:50:48 I was so unconscious
00:50:49 that I didn't even know.
00:50:51 My husband called a lot
00:50:54 in the hospital
00:50:55 and called the pediatrician.
00:50:57 So, the pediatrician was very relaxed.
00:50:59 He said, "You don't have to do anything.
00:51:01 You just tap it from behind."
00:51:03 And then he did this.
00:51:05 And then after an hour,
00:51:06 in those four hours,
00:51:07 he called three to four times.
00:51:08 So, he said, "You just do this.
00:51:10 No medicine, nothing."
00:51:12 These are the initial three to four days.
00:51:14 And then it happened that
00:51:15 he was doing it,
00:51:17 he was tapping from behind.
00:51:18 So, he released his gas.
00:51:20 And then as soon as he released the gas,
00:51:22 he fell asleep immediately.
00:51:23 And from that we realized
00:51:25 that we shouldn't panic.
00:51:27 And if he has gas,
00:51:29 then you tap it from behind for two to three hours.
00:51:34 Then his gas was released
00:51:36 and then he slept peacefully.
00:51:38 Wow!
00:51:39 My baby was very good in that way.
00:51:41 In the show,
00:51:42 the blood pressure of the baby was so high
00:51:43 that I couldn't sleep.
00:51:44 So, the baby didn't wake me up.
00:51:46 I was awake myself.
00:51:47 I was sitting like a mad person all night.
00:51:49 I didn't sleep for three to four days.
00:51:50 I couldn't sleep.
00:51:51 So, the baby didn't wake me up.
00:51:53 What happened was that
00:51:54 because I was nursing,
00:51:55 I didn't have to go to work.
00:51:58 Otherwise, I understand that
00:52:00 you know, the formula of feed is important.
00:52:02 I was nursing exclusively
00:52:04 and on the fifth or sixth day,
00:52:06 a guest came and brought potato samosas.
00:52:09 You ate it?
00:52:10 And I ate it sitting down
00:52:11 because I really wanted it.
00:52:13 After one and a half or two hours,
00:52:16 my baby started crying.
00:52:17 At 8 o'clock in the night,
00:52:19 crying, crying, crying,
00:52:21 at 12 o'clock,
00:52:22 my mother scolded me
00:52:24 that who eats potato samosas?
00:52:26 After delivering the baby,
00:52:27 potato samosas of all the things.
00:52:29 I said, yes, I made a big mistake.
00:52:31 But this was not a problem of three to four days.
00:52:33 Then I had this for three to four months.
00:52:36 And that time was over.
00:52:38 At 8 o'clock at night,
00:52:40 when I started crying,
00:52:42 she used to cry like this at 8 o'clock.
00:52:44 And then her crying stopped suddenly.
00:52:47 I used to say, check the time, it's 12 o'clock.
00:52:49 Eight to twelve,
00:52:50 four hours of her crying were stopped,
00:52:51 in which she used to cry non-stop.
00:52:52 This was a habit.
00:52:54 She had gases at that time.
00:52:56 There is no reason for colic baby.
00:53:00 You ask any doctor.
00:53:02 And according to me,
00:53:03 there is no treatment.
00:53:04 Colic drops come.
00:53:05 But I don't think
00:53:06 there is any difference from anything.
00:53:08 But exercises really help.
00:53:10 There are exercises that help colic baby.
00:53:13 They help, but it doesn't cure it.
00:53:15 You can't cure colic.
00:53:16 For the time being,
00:53:17 you will get a little relief to the child.
00:53:19 But then it will set back again.
00:53:21 It does not cure it.
00:53:23 The second thing is that
00:53:25 because I lived in the same room.
00:53:27 I had one room.
00:53:29 So our TV was there.
00:53:31 The food was also there.
00:53:33 So naturally the child's clock was set
00:53:35 so that it was completely quiet at night.
00:53:38 And she used to sleep all night.
00:53:40 And because the TV was on all day,
00:53:42 her clock was set in the same way
00:53:44 that she used to wake up in the day,
00:53:46 take her naps twice in two hours.
00:53:48 And she used to sleep all night.
00:53:50 So I was very lucky.
00:53:51 Because obviously we can't sit at home
00:53:53 with the TV off.
00:53:54 Or drinking food or talking.
00:53:55 Or someone is coming in the room.
00:53:56 Or a phone is coming.
00:53:57 You can't stop your life.
00:53:59 So that clock was set.
00:54:00 This is also very good for the baby.
00:54:01 Because the doctors guided us there
00:54:04 that when the day comes,
00:54:06 you keep the babies in such a way
00:54:08 that they realize that it's day time.
00:54:11 And now it's night time.
00:54:13 So that they know that it's night time
00:54:15 so we have to sleep.
00:54:16 And it's day time so we have to wake up.
00:54:18 So it wasn't my intention.
00:54:20 It just happened naturally.
00:54:21 Our problem was that
00:54:22 I was also very young when I became a mother.
00:54:25 And I didn't like living in the kitchen.
00:54:28 I didn't like doing house chores.
00:54:30 Because I used to work from the start.
00:54:31 And I had a male maid in my house.
00:54:33 So I didn't like going to the kitchen.
00:54:34 And I didn't know how to do all these things.
00:54:36 I got married suddenly.
00:54:37 I had a baby suddenly.
00:54:38 And suddenly I had to do all these things.
00:54:39 I didn't know how to handle all these things.
00:54:42 So now in our house,
00:54:44 the maid or the maid who was there
00:54:47 I didn't work.
00:54:49 I gave her bottles to wash.
00:54:51 I didn't even know how to get the baby nursed.
00:54:54 I didn't understand.
00:54:55 And I used to think that my baby would be hungry.
00:54:57 So in my consciousness,
00:54:59 I gave her bottle feed.
00:55:00 First the baby.
00:55:01 I gave the rest of the baby to the nurse.
00:55:04 I gave the baby mother feed.
00:55:06 So what happened was that my baby cried.
00:55:09 He cried all the time.
00:55:10 And I didn't understand why he cried so much.
00:55:13 He cried all the time.
00:55:15 He became famous in the family.
00:55:16 His baby was crying.
00:55:18 When I went to see him, he kept crying.
00:55:21 And you feel more guilt.
00:55:23 That the baby who is coming to see you in your family,
00:55:26 he is holding you in his arms and the baby is crying.
00:55:28 So you feel a strange feeling.
00:55:31 That you are feeling ashamed.
00:55:33 And the in-laws are watching.
00:55:36 He doesn't know how to handle.
00:55:38 He is feeling guilt.
00:55:40 He doesn't know how to handle.
00:55:42 He has to prove that he is a good mother.
00:55:44 And he is not able to do it.
00:55:46 All that feeling was in my mind.
00:55:50 So my baby kept crying like this for two months.
00:55:53 And then I found out that he had gas problem.
00:55:56 But why did he have gas problem?
00:55:58 Because his bottle was not washed properly.
00:56:01 And when it was not washed properly,
00:56:03 it was not steamed properly.
00:56:05 So when I found out about this,
00:56:08 I was confused.
00:56:09 What is happening?
00:56:10 Because I didn't do any job.
00:56:11 I just sat with him all the time.
00:56:13 I used to keep looking at him.
00:56:15 And then someone gave me an advice.
00:56:17 That no, don't make the baby wear diapers.
00:56:19 Tie his clothes.
00:56:21 He will get fresh.
00:56:23 I used to do this for 24 hours.
00:56:25 He just peed.
00:56:26 He just changed his clothes.
00:56:28 He just changed his bed sheet.
00:56:29 He just used to lie down.
00:56:31 I swear to God, I was so stubborn.
00:56:33 I laugh at myself.
00:56:35 I bought diapers for second baby.
00:56:37 And when I made him wear diapers,
00:56:39 my baby used to sleep.
00:56:40 I could also rest.
00:56:42 I don't know what useless advice I gave to my first baby.
00:56:46 I will tell everyone.
00:56:47 Please do research yourself.
00:56:50 You will get a lot of free advice.
00:56:52 Now you have a lot of research.
00:56:55 And ignorant people will give you advice.
00:56:58 At that time, seriously,
00:57:00 those who haven't opened the book,
00:57:02 they will also come.
00:57:03 Son,
00:57:04 you will get rashes.
00:57:05 Tie your clothes.
00:57:06 Seriously, I laugh so much.
00:57:08 I didn't tie my clothes.
00:57:10 Tell your child,
00:57:12 my childhood.
00:57:13 This is a difficult job.
00:57:15 You have seen how much tired the mother is.
00:57:17 Washing, taking off, changing bed sheets.
00:57:20 After changing bed sheets,
00:57:22 you put plastic and a string.
00:57:24 Washing that too.
00:57:25 If the maid is not coming,
00:57:26 you are washing yourself like crazy.
00:57:28 At that time, the maids run away.
00:57:29 No one helps.
00:57:30 Very tough.
00:57:31 And then the smell.
00:57:33 Yes.
00:57:34 That is very much.
00:57:35 If a guest is coming,
00:57:36 you are spraying.
00:57:37 What to do?
00:57:38 No, that smell is such that
00:57:40 it sits in your mattress.
00:57:42 And I have experienced this.
00:57:44 I have gone to someone's house.
00:57:45 Those who don't believe in this,
00:57:46 in Pampers,
00:57:47 it becomes very difficult to sit in that house.
00:57:49 Diapers can be afforded.
00:57:51 But still, only some of the elders,
00:57:54 who are of old age,
00:57:56 their eyes' rashes.
00:57:57 The rashes will be the same as the child's.
00:57:59 When he will feel wet.
00:58:01 Oh, what a bad day.
00:58:02 But diapers are breathable.
00:58:05 Diapers are always breathable.
00:58:06 No, if you change quickly,
00:58:07 there will be no rashes.
00:58:08 No, this is a different concept.
00:58:10 Absolutely.
00:58:11 It is a different concept.
00:58:12 The child does not sleep.
00:58:13 Immediately he sprays,
00:58:14 he feels wet.
00:58:15 So he gets up.
00:58:16 So our nights are very dark.
00:58:18 My light is not of now,
00:58:19 it is of then.
00:58:20 Morning Pakistan.
00:58:22 Welcome, welcome back.
00:58:32 Good morning Pakistan.
00:58:34 Today we are remembering those times.
00:58:36 From the time,
00:58:37 if you are a parent,
00:58:38 then everyone must have gone through.
00:58:39 Your first child,
00:58:41 when it came in your hands,
00:58:42 your experiences,
00:58:44 your institution,
00:58:45 it is the same.
00:58:46 No matter how much you learn,
00:58:48 but until you become a parent,
00:58:51 you do not understand anything.
00:58:53 Actually, what is the real color of life?
00:58:55 So let's move on to the next question.
00:58:57 The next question of this new year.
00:59:00 What is the first soft food to eat?
00:59:03 Okay, now this too.
00:59:04 It feels like,
00:59:05 when we become a mother for the first time,
00:59:07 we feel like this.
00:59:08 And there is no mother in the world,
00:59:09 only we are mothers.
00:59:10 You said my husband's sentence.
00:59:12 Right?
00:59:13 You are the only mother.
00:59:14 I think,
00:59:15 I really think so.
00:59:16 I think this is the dialogue of every husband.
00:59:18 Because in your house,
00:59:20 the elders,
00:59:21 they secretly feed the child.
00:59:23 And if we are educated,
00:59:25 if we have done research,
00:59:26 that no, no,
00:59:27 don't give this at this time,
00:59:28 don't give that at that time.
00:59:29 Your many mindsets,
00:59:34 everyone has different ones.
00:59:35 Your mother-in-law,
00:59:36 your sister-in-law,
00:59:37 your sister-in-law,
00:59:38 your own.
00:59:41 Everyone has to give a lot of advice.
00:59:43 Your mother,
00:59:44 your sister,
00:59:45 all the family members.
00:59:46 Absolutely.
00:59:47 And at that time,
00:59:48 you are like this,
00:59:49 yes, yes, yes.
00:59:52 In that yes,
00:59:53 you get a lot of scolding.
00:59:55 Seriously.
00:59:56 Okay,
00:59:57 I have had the opposite experience.
00:59:59 Both sides of the family,
01:00:01 my side and Dadiyal's side,
01:00:03 a lot,
01:00:05 because the children were already in the family,
01:00:07 so I had the liberty,
01:00:09 to raise them as I wanted.
01:00:11 Son, don't say you were neglected.
01:00:13 Fifth one is,
01:00:15 don't say you were neglected.
01:00:17 Don't keep it.
01:00:19 Because my sisters are like that,
01:00:21 actually I had helped my sisters a lot,
01:00:24 so I also had a lot of know-how.
01:00:26 What should be done and what not to do.
01:00:28 Basically they were doing it to help.
01:00:31 Do you know,
01:00:32 I will tell you.
01:00:33 Of course.
01:00:34 They don't have any enmity.
01:00:35 Why not?
01:00:36 At that time you feel they are enemies,
01:00:37 but when you are mature,
01:00:38 you feel they were helping.
01:00:39 Now they are giving two cents.
01:00:41 Yes, but sometimes,
01:00:43 you don't need help.
01:00:45 Because when so many people will give advice,
01:00:47 whom will you listen to?
01:00:49 Then you mind it,
01:00:50 you listened to your mother's advice,
01:00:51 but not mine.
01:00:52 Or if mother minds,
01:00:53 you listen to your mother-in-law's advice.
01:00:55 So,
01:00:56 with all these things,
01:00:57 the girl who becomes a mother for the first time,
01:01:00 she bears all these things.
01:01:02 Yes, she also bears.
01:01:04 She bears in a combined family.
01:01:06 People like us,
01:01:07 who give birth to a child far away from their family,
01:01:11 they also face different crises.
01:01:14 Yes, different crises.
01:01:15 There are different things.
01:01:17 You think I am going home from the hospital
01:01:19 with the biggest happiness of my life.
01:01:21 I have reached home,
01:01:22 I have opened the door of my house.
01:01:24 I cried so much sitting on the stairs,
01:01:26 because I remember my sister-in-law's arrival,
01:01:28 when we welcomed her,
01:01:30 we gave her a gift,
01:01:32 we cut the goats,
01:01:33 everything.
01:01:34 I saw Adnan's face,
01:01:35 I cried so much,
01:01:36 I said,
01:01:37 no one is going to give me a gift.
01:01:39 Then Adnan went inside,
01:01:41 quickly went and gave the gift,
01:01:43 and took off the chilies.
01:01:45 I said, why did you say this?
01:01:47 You didn't do anything yourself.
01:01:48 I was with you all the time.
01:01:50 Adnan doesn't know.
01:01:52 When you have sisters,
01:01:53 your sisters do this.
01:01:55 Or there are sisters-in-law who love you a lot.
01:01:58 So, those poor people are far away,
01:02:00 and we are also far away.
01:02:01 So, all these things,
01:02:02 parents become alone,
01:02:03 so they also have a lot of experience.
01:02:05 My question was,
01:02:06 what was your child's first soft food?
01:02:08 After milk,
01:02:09 the first time,
01:02:10 we call it weaving,
01:02:11 right?
01:02:12 What was your first food?
01:02:15 If I tell you,
01:02:17 you do wean-off,
01:02:19 not weaning.
01:02:20 My first child,
01:02:22 I didn't have much intelligence,
01:02:24 so I used to get the things from the box,
01:02:26 I mixed it and fed it to the rice vendor.
01:02:29 I didn't have any intelligence.
01:02:31 But I got the intelligence in the next one.
01:02:33 I fed my child avocado for the first time.
01:02:36 Because there were so many shows,
01:02:39 research,
01:02:40 so much information,
01:02:41 I fed my child avocado first.
01:02:44 Was it a good experience?
01:02:45 Oh, yes.
01:02:46 It used to fill his stomach.
01:02:48 He is very intelligent.
01:02:50 It is said to be very good for brain health.
01:02:52 It's a brain food.
01:02:53 I didn't know that you can feed babies.
01:02:56 Avocados are the best for babies.
01:02:58 I didn't know that at all.
01:03:00 I am very outdated.
01:03:02 It's a very old thing.
01:03:04 Your research is after that.
01:03:06 You did it in third grade.
01:03:07 I am telling you about 9 years ago.
01:03:08 My 9 year old child.
01:03:09 When Farid was born,
01:03:11 I didn't even know about avocados.
01:03:13 It's a very old thing.
01:03:15 So, it's that thing.
01:03:17 If I ask you,
01:03:19 because there are many intelligent mothers,
01:03:21 they mash things at home,
01:03:23 fruits and all.
01:03:25 I think Zohra must have done this.
01:03:27 I did it too.
01:03:29 I did it too.
01:03:31 I was very smart at that time.
01:03:33 When I had my first child,
01:03:35 I took the rice mix from the box.
01:03:37 I was educated there.
01:03:39 They gave us the tea.
01:03:41 You were intelligent too.
01:03:43 When I asked my sisters,
01:03:45 they used to say that they forgot.
01:03:47 I used to boil the potatoes.
01:03:49 I used to add butter to it.
01:03:51 I used to remember how my mother used to feed Lama Lubaina.
01:03:55 I used to mash bananas and feed her.
01:03:59 I used to feed her everything.
01:04:01 I used to feed her soft rice with butter.
01:04:07 I used to add a drop of the salad mix to it.
01:04:13 So that the taste develops.
01:04:18 I did all these things with Meerab.
01:04:21 She used to be very happy in Ridaan.
01:04:25 She likes everything.
01:04:27 I did all these things.
01:04:29 I think every mother should do this.
01:04:31 You should see your own experiences.
01:04:35 You should feed your child.
01:04:37 It is better than the food you buy from the market.
01:04:41 There are many mothers who want to have their child as a nurse.
01:04:45 But for some reason, they can't.
01:04:47 I was very much interested.
01:04:49 I was very much interested.
01:04:51 Sometimes it is due to medical reasons.
01:04:53 I can't say anything about it.
01:04:55 But sometimes mothers don't know.
01:04:57 So doctors explain it to them.
01:04:59 When I first experienced this,
01:05:01 I didn't know how to nurse a child.
01:05:03 So I prepared for the second child.
01:05:05 I prepared for the second child for 9 months.
01:05:09 I consulted the doctor.
01:05:11 There are formula milks for lactation.
01:05:15 The mother has to drink it.
01:05:17 So that the calcium deficiency is completely cured.
01:05:21 Doctors explain it to her.
01:05:23 Many women don't keep their cleanliness.
01:05:27 They don't even know this.
01:05:29 Seriously.
01:05:31 Doctors explain it to them.
01:05:33 So if a mother is going to have a child,
01:05:35 and she is interested in it,
01:05:37 then please do research.
01:05:39 It is more important than YouTube.
01:05:41 It is more important than Google.
01:05:43 It is very important.
01:05:45 You should nurse your child.
01:05:47 First of all,
01:05:49 you should reduce your weight.
01:05:51 When your child is nursing.
01:05:53 My mother used to say,
01:05:55 I have fed my children.
01:05:57 So I will lose my weight in 2-3 months.
01:05:59 And the child is healthy.
01:06:01 I had to risk my life to lose my weight.
01:06:03 I can't lose my weight by nursing.
01:06:05 Because I used to eat.
01:06:07 You used to eat.
01:06:09 I had cravings.
01:06:11 If you have cravings from nursing,
01:06:13 you can eat sweets.
01:06:15 All those sweets.
01:06:17 The cravings are not like,
01:06:19 you want sweets,
01:06:21 and you can eat sweets.
01:06:23 You don't even want to see sweets.
01:06:25 You want that particular sweet only.
01:06:27 But I reduced my weight,
01:06:29 third time.
01:06:31 Like the second time,
01:06:33 I wanted to eat sweets and chocolates.
01:06:35 And I became Tuntun Gopal.
01:06:37 But the third time,
01:06:39 I knew this.
01:06:41 What you learn after doing yoga.
01:06:43 Third time you were older,
01:06:45 you were more mature.
01:06:47 I was mature.
01:06:49 I was hungry.
01:06:51 I started yoga from the fourth day.
01:06:53 From the fourth day,
01:06:55 I started massages, exercises.
01:06:57 And I did nursing for 2.5 years.
01:06:59 And I reduced my weight very quickly.
01:07:01 I was very eager to nurse Mirab.
01:07:03 What did you feed Rabika first time?
01:07:05 First time,
01:07:07 I fed my mother-in-law,
01:07:09 she told me to start with egg yolk.
01:07:11 In the beginning,
01:07:13 start with egg yolk.
01:07:15 Boil it.
01:07:17 And start with half boiled egg.
01:07:19 So I fed Vajdan for the first time.
01:07:21 And later on,
01:07:23 because I used to nurse myself.
01:07:25 Vajdan used to eat?
01:07:27 Yes.
01:07:29 When I started,
01:07:31 he ate a little.
01:07:33 Because you don't have to give full egg yolk.
01:07:35 Just a little, like a spoon.
01:07:37 I gave my son.
01:07:39 Someone told me,
01:07:41 he doesn't eat.
01:07:43 What did I do wrong?
01:07:45 I held him between my legs.
01:07:47 And fed him.
01:07:49 Your kids hate eggs.
01:07:51 Eggs?
01:07:53 This is what happens.
01:07:55 He used to eat.
01:07:57 It's very good.
01:07:59 Take protein.
01:08:01 Boil it a little.
01:08:03 And make a hole.
01:08:05 Remove the egg white.
01:08:07 Start with egg yolk.
01:08:09 That was the first meal.
01:08:11 And Zohra, what did you do?
01:08:13 I made kheer for my sons.
01:08:15 And I fed them for the first time.
01:08:17 Wow.
01:08:19 I am hearing this for the first time.
01:08:21 After marriage,
01:08:23 you feed them for the first time.
01:08:25 I wished,
01:08:27 I could make kheer for them.
01:08:29 But these traditions
01:08:31 don't follow up.
01:08:33 I am a traditional.
01:08:35 I like it.
01:08:37 You said, you feed them for the first time.
01:08:39 Yes.
01:08:41 I made kheer for them.
01:08:43 I added silver foil.
01:08:45 A lot.
01:08:47 And dried fruits.
01:08:49 I powdered it.
01:08:51 I am happy.
01:08:53 You didn't let the first meal be heavy.
01:08:55 It was a little.
01:08:57 I made it thin.
01:08:59 They ate little.
01:09:01 That was really cute.
01:09:03 I kept it at home.
01:09:05 I didn't feed them Serlac.
01:09:07 I made sure,
01:09:09 they are at home.
01:09:11 I was following
01:09:13 the directions of my pediatrician.
01:09:15 She told me,
01:09:17 for 6 months,
01:09:19 there is no need to wean off.
01:09:21 You just keep feeding.
01:09:23 And after 6 months,
01:09:25 My mother also believed,
01:09:27 eggs should be a part of nutrition.
01:09:29 Yes.
01:09:31 My mother fed me,
01:09:33 like, egg fry,
01:09:35 and break the yolk,
01:09:37 and make it taste like
01:09:39 a little.
01:09:41 I stayed with my sister.
01:09:43 When I had a younger niece,
01:09:45 I saw her, she lived in London.
01:09:47 She used to make chicken broth,
01:09:49 and cook it,
01:09:51 and add rice,
01:09:53 and chicken,
01:09:55 and cook it and blend it.
01:09:57 I didn't believe in broiler chicken,
01:09:59 so I ordered desi chicken.
01:10:01 I don't know,
01:10:03 please don't get angry at me.
01:10:05 I don't know if this should be given to a kid,
01:10:07 as a first meal or not.
01:10:09 But in 6 months,
01:10:11 I made desi chicken broth,
01:10:13 and added carrots, potatoes,
01:10:15 cooked it, blended it,
01:10:17 added a little butter,
01:10:19 and fed it to them.
01:10:21 I felt,
01:10:23 it is healthy.
01:10:25 When you start feeding it,
01:10:27 it doesn't feed that much,
01:10:29 as it is full.
01:10:31 You have to make sure,
01:10:33 that you feed it with a lot of nutrition.
01:10:35 I was satisfied,
01:10:37 that it is healthy,
01:10:39 and full of nutrients,
01:10:41 and minerals,
01:10:43 and my kid is eating well.
01:10:45 I didn't feed eggs in the beginning,
01:10:47 as I was scared of allergies.
01:10:49 I made sure,
01:10:51 that no one gives nuts for a year,
01:10:53 so be careful with nut allergies.
01:10:55 What are the things,
01:10:57 that you are scared of?
01:10:59 Like eggs, nuts,
01:11:01 some kids have allergies from bananas,
01:11:03 as they have a lot of fibers.
01:11:05 As kids are not allowed to eat bananas,
01:11:07 they can only realize with experience,
01:11:09 whether the egg is suiting them or not.
01:11:11 Similarly, some kids can react to rice,
01:11:13 as it has fibers too.
01:11:15 But with time only,
01:11:17 you will realize,
01:11:19 that it is working on your kid,
01:11:21 and the best way is,
01:11:23 to eat one food at a time.
01:11:25 Like you have added nuts,
01:11:27 rice, and rice,
01:11:29 so you won't realize,
01:11:31 even if you have allergies,
01:11:33 you can't figure it out.
01:11:35 But if my kid reacts to that meal,
01:11:37 then I divide the food groups,
01:11:39 like rice,
01:11:41 dal, chicken,
01:11:43 or vegetables,
01:11:45 but as it is digested well,
01:11:47 I don't have to go through that process.
01:11:49 I will tell you my experience,
01:11:51 as I was raw, I didn't know anything.
01:11:53 So after my kid was born,
01:11:55 we got separated,
01:11:57 all the brothers,
01:11:59 and all got separated.
01:12:01 So now,
01:12:03 a new house,
01:12:05 alone, I didn't know anything.
01:12:07 So I had a Sarai woman,
01:12:09 who used to help me,
01:12:11 she used to do all the household chores,
01:12:13 it was a small apartment,
01:12:15 and she used to help my kid,
01:12:17 she used to make desi ghee,
01:12:19 she taught me,
01:12:21 I gave my kid the first meal,
01:12:23 that was suji.
01:12:25 Suji is made by roasting,
01:12:27 and then cooking it.
01:12:29 I had heard that,
01:12:31 by feeding suji, kids get excited.
01:12:33 And I,
01:12:35 so I gave my kid,
01:12:37 the first meal,
01:12:39 suji,
01:12:41 I had given him the one,
01:12:43 but when this woman came into my life,
01:12:45 I became her fan,
01:12:47 she used to make desi ghee,
01:12:49 she used to make food,
01:12:51 by cooking it in desi ghee,
01:12:53 the chicken feet,
01:12:55 when it was cold,
01:12:57 we used to make a broth,
01:12:59 and freeze it,
01:13:01 and whenever she made khichdi,
01:13:03 she used to add that portion,
01:13:05 it was said that it was very powerful,
01:13:07 yes,
01:13:09 chicken feet broth.
01:13:11 So,
01:13:13 there were so many things,
01:13:15 like boiled eggs,
01:13:17 so,
01:13:19 my eldest one,
01:13:21 he is a very macho man,
01:13:23 strong baby,
01:13:25 he bothered me for 2 months,
01:13:27 and then for the rest of his life,
01:13:29 he had the same acolic pains,
01:13:31 he didn't bother me for the rest of his life,
01:13:33 he used to eat.
01:13:35 My baby had a problem,
01:13:37 that her reflex was very strong,
01:13:39 if she lost her texture,
01:13:41 she would not eat properly,
01:13:43 so, I had to take care of this,
01:13:45 I couldn't feed her semolina,
01:13:47 because,
01:13:49 as soon as she used to feel the texture,
01:13:51 she would throw up,
01:13:53 and for a year,
01:13:55 obviously, I didn't want her to stay on blended foods,
01:13:57 for the rest of her life,
01:13:59 so, when she was 1 year old,
01:14:01 I started introducing her slowly,
01:14:03 the texture was very difficult,
01:14:05 I have a suggestion,
01:14:07 now you have grown up,
01:14:09 I would like to tell you,
01:14:11 not to blend food in a blender,
01:14:13 I had to do it,
01:14:15 no,
01:14:17 my friend,
01:14:19 she used to feed her baby,
01:14:21 she was very big,
01:14:23 she got used to it,
01:14:25 she used to feed her baby in a beaker,
01:14:27 so,
01:14:29 this is a very wrong thing,
01:14:31 don't blend food in a blender,
01:14:33 cook it so much,
01:14:35 that if you mash it with a spoon,
01:14:37 the baby would use their teeth,
01:14:39 their teeth are very hard,
01:14:41 because their teeth are coming out,
01:14:43 the baby should have a habit of chewing,
01:14:45 otherwise,
01:14:47 how long would she chew?
01:14:49 But, this is a medical condition,
01:14:51 which my daughter had,
01:14:53 when you have a very strong reflex action,
01:14:55 the texture,
01:14:57 no matter how soft it is,
01:14:59 no matter how much I mash it,
01:15:01 she couldn't tolerate it,
01:15:03 now, we can't keep the baby hungry,
01:15:05 so, I had no option,
01:15:07 so, this is what happens with children,
01:15:09 usually, women,
01:15:11 blend food for their convenience,
01:15:13 who will mash it,
01:15:15 who will cook it,
01:15:17 so, they blend it,
01:15:19 so, when she got her teeth,
01:15:21 I made a conscious effort,
01:15:23 now, it's enough,
01:15:25 now, she will cry,
01:15:27 because she couldn't throw up,
01:15:29 she could chew,
01:15:31 then I added texture,
01:15:33 she was chewing,
01:15:35 we are taking a short break,
01:15:37 after the break,
01:15:39 I think, I can show 10 more questions,
01:15:41 after the break,
01:15:43 Mashallah,
01:15:45 Welcome, welcome back,
01:15:57 good morning Pakistan,
01:15:59 happy first day of the year,
01:16:01 may Allah fulfill all your wishes,
01:16:03 this year, Inshallah,
01:16:05 and now, we are moving towards
01:16:07 the next question of our girls,
01:16:09 you should always be young,
01:16:11 and you are a girl,
01:16:13 you are a girl,
01:16:15 this year, you all should think the same,
01:16:17 no matter how old you are,
01:16:19 but you should look in the mirror,
01:16:21 and say, I am a girl,
01:16:23 now, she will feel the same,
01:16:25 next question,
01:16:27 first season of the baby,
01:16:29 first season of the baby,
01:16:31 our baby,
01:16:33 like you were saying,
01:16:35 when my first baby
01:16:37 was born,
01:16:39 I gave him a cap,
01:16:41 he had fever, cough, cold,
01:16:43 I gave him a cap,
01:16:45 and at that time,
01:16:47 I was feeding him,
01:16:49 and while feeding,
01:16:51 he said, one of the two should be open,
01:16:53 I didn't know that,
01:16:55 so, my baby had to keep a blanket,
01:16:57 he had fever,
01:16:59 he had to go to the hospital,
01:17:01 he had canola,
01:17:03 drip,
01:17:05 and there, mother's guilt,
01:17:07 why?
01:17:09 because everyone was looking at me,
01:17:11 that I am not able to feed him,
01:17:13 and people around you,
01:17:15 make you realize,
01:17:17 you are already so guilty,
01:17:19 and you are in a very bad condition,
01:17:21 because your baby is sick,
01:17:23 you didn't sleep at night,
01:17:25 you are crying,
01:17:27 but it is very unfair with mother,
01:17:29 that everyone around you,
01:17:31 is looking at you,
01:17:33 and some people even curse,
01:17:35 I have bared all this,
01:17:37 of course,
01:17:39 so, mother's guilt is different,
01:17:41 waking up at night is different,
01:17:43 and that terrible cold,
01:17:45 I can never forget,
01:17:47 it was so cold?
01:17:49 no, I mean, in the sense,
01:17:51 it was a traumatic cold,
01:17:53 it is like a bad memory,
01:17:55 going to the hospital,
01:17:57 and I had a head injury,
01:17:59 oh God, what am I saying,
01:18:01 but seriously, when parents are young,
01:18:03 they don't understand,
01:18:05 how to manage,
01:18:07 they are also worried,
01:18:09 husband is worried, wife is worried,
01:18:11 and they don't stay in a team,
01:18:13 they just want their child to get well,
01:18:15 it is a very difficult time,
01:18:17 for the first child,
01:18:19 first year,
01:18:21 and then September, October,
01:18:23 you know, from September,
01:18:25 the weather starts changing,
01:18:27 I remember,
01:18:29 she sneezed,
01:18:31 I said,
01:18:33 I think she is cold,
01:18:35 because the heater was on,
01:18:37 I feel hot, so I used to keep the windows open,
01:18:39 so Adnan used to say,
01:18:41 she will be fine,
01:18:43 so I put her on a blanket,
01:18:45 a cap, warm clothes,
01:18:47 I didn't even check,
01:18:49 if she has fever,
01:18:51 Meerab still has fever,
01:18:53 till now,
01:18:55 she has a high fever,
01:18:57 normally, she will have a fever at 103,
01:18:59 so we got to know,
01:19:01 that this is a problem with our child,
01:19:03 she will not get it slowly,
01:19:05 that first it will be 100,
01:19:07 then 102,
01:19:09 you have to check it directly,
01:19:11 now I can see it,
01:19:13 that Meerab is not well,
01:19:15 just check her fever,
01:19:17 she is 100,
01:19:19 I don't even ask her,
01:19:21 to get a bandage,
01:19:23 doctor told me,
01:19:25 she has a fever,
01:19:27 because she has fits,
01:19:29 first time,
01:19:31 I put a cap on her head,
01:19:33 she was very happy,
01:19:35 that I opened the window,
01:19:37 doctor said,
01:19:39 you did a good thing,
01:19:41 otherwise the child would have died,
01:19:43 Meerab was shivering,
01:19:45 I was shivering,
01:19:47 Adnan was not answering the phone,
01:19:49 I was not able to understand,
01:19:51 that will she survive or not,
01:19:53 what will happen,
01:19:55 I was not able to take off the cap,
01:19:57 I was trying to wrap her,
01:19:59 what is happening,
01:20:01 finally,
01:20:03 my brother-in-law picked up the phone,
01:20:05 Imran,
01:20:07 Meerab is having a cough,
01:20:09 I think,
01:20:11 it was August, September,
01:20:13 November,
01:20:15 4 months old,
01:20:17 we said,
01:20:19 we are coming to you,
01:20:21 she ran away,
01:20:23 she called Adnan,
01:20:25 I was not able to understand,
01:20:27 we ran to the hospital,
01:20:29 first, she took off Meerab's clothes,
01:20:31 she put her in the tub,
01:20:33 she was shivering,
01:20:35 she was relaxing,
01:20:37 she was relaxing,
01:20:39 doctor didn't say anything to me,
01:20:41 he checked her fever,
01:20:43 as soon as it was normal,
01:20:45 he did an X-ray of her head,
01:20:47 that God forbid,
01:20:49 the shock,
01:20:51 the CT scan,
01:20:53 because there was no effect on her brain,
01:20:55 when she was normal,
01:20:57 he kept her in the admit,
01:20:59 then he said,
01:21:01 you should not wear her clothes,
01:21:03 the more cold it is,
01:21:05 the more it is for her,
01:21:07 if you are not feeling cold,
01:21:09 the child is not feeling cold,
01:21:11 you should keep her in soft clothes,
01:21:13 my son Balaj doesn't feel cold,
01:21:15 I am shivering,
01:21:17 I don't know what kind of kids,
01:21:19 I don't feel cold,
01:21:21 I am very happy,
01:21:23 people say, it is hot,
01:21:25 I don't wear jackets,
01:21:27 I just need a little shawl,
01:21:29 I don't feel cold,
01:21:31 I live in Barabari,
01:21:33 same happened with Meerab,
01:21:35 then he told me,
01:21:37 the first fit,
01:21:39 will last for 7 years,
01:21:41 after that,
01:21:43 we were very conscious,
01:21:45 he gave her special medicine,
01:21:47 he said,
01:21:49 if you have any such kid,
01:21:51 I am not telling,
01:21:53 doctor told me,
01:21:55 to get her a right side cover,
01:21:57 keep your finger in her mouth,
01:21:59 so that she doesn't press her jaw,
01:22:01 and do nothing,
01:22:03 start doing bandages,
01:22:05 bandages are not for cold water,
01:22:07 it is for warm water,
01:22:09 we use ice water,
01:22:11 it is very shocking,
01:22:13 shock factor,
01:22:15 you can't give cold water,
01:22:17 he reacts very fast,
01:22:19 if you have to bathe the kid,
01:22:21 you think,
01:22:23 if she has high fever,
01:22:25 I will bathe her,
01:22:27 I will give her a bath,
01:22:29 she will feel better,
01:22:31 she will feel better,
01:22:33 I will give her a bath,
01:22:35 I will give her a bath,
01:22:37 I will take her to the bucket,
01:22:39 I will let her be normal,
01:22:41 I will make her sit there,
01:22:43 she will feel like she is shivering,
01:22:45 but that is her fever,
01:22:47 now I will make Meerab better,
01:22:49 I have run from here,
01:22:51 Alia ran from the morning show,
01:22:53 I remember her,
01:22:55 I used to get scared,
01:22:57 I used to run from South city,
01:22:59 and Alia used to run from here,
01:23:01 Alia taught me a lot,
01:23:03 Vajdan was born in February,
01:23:05 and Peshawar's cold is very severe,
01:23:07 and your condition,
01:23:09 yes,
01:23:11 and after 3 days,
01:23:13 he joined us,
01:23:15 it is recommended,
01:23:17 to give morning sunlight,
01:23:19 and it is to give it on full body,
01:23:21 somehow,
01:23:23 because it was very cold,
01:23:25 and it was impossible to take off his clothes,
01:23:27 and keep him in the sun,
01:23:29 I tried once or twice,
01:23:31 but I was feeling that it is very cold,
01:23:33 and it is not possible,
01:23:35 I remember my younger brother-in-law,
01:23:37 brought blue light for me,
01:23:39 that you bring blue light at home,
01:23:41 and do everything inside,
01:23:43 because you need blue rays,
01:23:45 to treat joint pain,
01:23:47 but it was very difficult,
01:23:49 first cold of baby,
01:23:51 it is very difficult,
01:23:53 he had wool allergy,
01:23:55 and joint pain,
01:23:57 his children are born in summers,
01:23:59 and they are very lucky,
01:24:01 and by the time winters come,
01:24:03 they grow up,
01:24:05 my children are born in summers,
01:24:07 April, March, July,
01:24:09 yes,
01:24:11 you get cold,
01:24:13 you shiver,
01:24:15 it is very difficult,
01:24:17 when were you born?
01:24:19 it was April 23rd,
01:24:21 almost summer,
01:24:23 we were born in US,
01:24:25 it was normal,
01:24:27 as such,
01:24:29 I don't think,
01:24:31 it is treated here,
01:24:33 it is not treated there,
01:24:35 it is normal,
01:24:37 we just warm ourselves,
01:24:39 and children,
01:24:41 where do you live?
01:24:43 I live in Ellicott city, Maryland,
01:24:45 what is the temperature there?
01:24:47 when we were born,
01:24:49 it was spring,
01:24:51 it was pleasant,
01:24:53 what is the temperature there?
01:24:55 I don't know the temperature,
01:24:57 but it was always in minus,
01:24:59 I don't remember,
01:25:01 as such,
01:25:03 I lost my memory,
01:25:05 I used to take medicines,
01:25:07 they were so heavy,
01:25:09 I couldn't remember many things,
01:25:11 which medicines?
01:25:13 I don't know,
01:25:15 it was after delivery,
01:25:17 and you lost your memory,
01:25:19 I won't say,
01:25:21 memory loss,
01:25:23 but mostly,
01:25:25 you are taking medicines,
01:25:27 resting,
01:25:29 you won't have an exact memory,
01:25:31 you forget many things,
01:25:33 like?
01:25:35 like, for example,
01:25:37 I remember winter,
01:25:39 it was pleasant for them,
01:25:41 it was pleasant,
01:25:43 as we were born in US,
01:25:45 but the reason for the first winter,
01:25:47 when December came,
01:25:49 it was the first winter,
01:25:51 I didn't understand,
01:25:53 I told you about September,
01:25:55 it was very smooth,
01:25:57 we kept them covered,
01:25:59 and they didn't fall sick,
01:26:01 they were taken care of,
01:26:03 everything was good,
01:26:05 I don't have any story about it,
01:26:07 there is indoor heating,
01:26:09 it is easily managed,
01:26:11 my child's first winter was of 10 months,
01:26:13 he was born in April,
01:26:15 when he came, he was 10 months old,
01:26:17 my child's first winter came in Pakistan,
01:26:19 it was a pleasant night,
01:26:21 I didn't have any problem,
01:26:23 no flu, cold, cold,
01:26:25 no problem,
01:26:27 there are many things,
01:26:29 if the child's first winter,
01:26:31 they can't take any medicine,
01:26:33 there are many good things,
01:26:35 for example, ginger,
01:26:37 peel it, wash it,
01:26:39 put some kachok in it,
01:26:41 if you put it in a spoon,
01:26:43 you will get some juice,
01:26:45 some honey,
01:26:47 and some black pepper,
01:26:49 mix it,
01:26:51 after 6 months,
01:26:53 no, no, no,
01:26:55 I gave it to a 3 month old child,
01:26:57 you can give it to a 3 month old child,
01:26:59 and you can heat that spoon,
01:27:01 on the stove,
01:27:03 my mother used to do it,
01:27:05 because you can't give medicine to a child,
01:27:07 when you do this,
01:27:09 and give it to your child,
01:27:11 the bad feeling inside,
01:27:13 through vomit,
01:27:15 or through the potty,
01:27:17 you can give it,
01:27:19 my neighbor told me,
01:27:21 and I did it,
01:27:23 and I got rid of it,
01:27:25 my mother told me,
01:27:27 that it's the first winter,
01:27:29 and you are the first mom,
01:27:31 so you have experience,
01:27:33 it's all an experience,
01:27:35 she told me,
01:27:37 when you give dry pot,
01:27:39 heat the spoon,
01:27:41 it helps,
01:27:43 so I did that,
01:27:45 and she helped me a lot,
01:27:47 yes, Sharmeen, do you remember anything?
01:27:49 my daughter was born on 30th of October,
01:27:51 means till November,
01:27:53 so whether it was winter or not,
01:27:55 it was winter month,
01:27:57 so my mother,
01:27:59 because everyone has their own experience,
01:28:01 my mother said,
01:28:03 you have to wrap it,
01:28:05 first it was vest,
01:28:07 then it was full,
01:28:09 and then it was wrapped,
01:28:11 so I used to see,
01:28:13 she used to sleep disturbed,
01:28:15 she used to wake up,
01:28:17 and she used to turn red,
01:28:19 and there was rash on her skin,
01:28:21 so I said, I think she is feeling hot,
01:28:23 so my mother said,
01:28:25 no, she can't be hot,
01:28:27 she is a small baby,
01:28:29 and her body is weak,
01:28:31 and the weather is changing,
01:28:33 so I took her to my pediatrician,
01:28:35 and I told him,
01:28:37 he looked at me,
01:28:39 and he opened the wrapping sheet,
01:28:41 then he opened the romper,
01:28:43 then he saw the woolen vest,
01:28:45 then he saw the inner vest,
01:28:47 and he said, you are in a lawn suit,
01:28:49 why are you wearing 5 layers,
01:28:51 when you are not feeling cold,
01:28:53 why will this baby feel cold,
01:28:55 so you should give him one vest,
01:28:57 one romper and one wrapping sheet,
01:28:59 because the baby needs that tight feeling,
01:29:01 so he feels secure,
01:29:03 so she is not going to sleep,
01:29:05 and the mothers don't know,
01:29:07 how much to cover,
01:29:09 how much to cover,
01:29:11 but then,
01:29:13 my mother had gone with me,
01:29:15 and she felt so bad,
01:29:17 she felt guilty,
01:29:19 so she said, the world has changed,
01:29:21 all the research has changed,
01:29:23 we are outdated,
01:29:25 now you have to do what your pediatrician says,
01:29:27 so then, completely everybody backed off,
01:29:29 with time, things keep changing,
01:29:31 so now, you should do what the doctor is telling you,
01:29:33 so that we don't feel guilty,
01:29:35 that we have done something wrong,
01:29:37 there are a lot of researches,
01:29:39 google and all these stories,
01:29:41 youtube videos,
01:29:43 there are a lot of things available,
01:29:45 so mothers,
01:29:47 their grandparents,
01:29:49 their advice is different,
01:29:51 and the advice of the elders is different,
01:29:53 but please, this sentence,
01:29:55 is a painful sentence,
01:29:57 that the elders say to the kids,
01:29:59 we have raised so many kids,
01:30:01 we have done this,
01:30:03 we have done that,
01:30:05 they are not able to do it,
01:30:07 don't compare,
01:30:09 they are your own people,
01:30:11 so this sentence is painful,
01:30:13 when the mother is learning,
01:30:15 she doesn't like to hear this,
01:30:17 that we have done this,
01:30:19 why are you not able to do it,
01:30:21 your own child is different from each other,
01:30:23 so why are you competing with him,
01:30:25 I was going to add,
01:30:27 not only the elders,
01:30:29 there are people who have experienced this,
01:30:31 when they compare their kids with your kids,
01:30:33 I remember,
01:30:35 when my daughter started walking,
01:30:37 after the age of 1,
01:30:39 so I had a daughter,
01:30:41 I won't name her,
01:30:43 she came,
01:30:45 she had 2 or 3 kids,
01:30:47 she was not able to walk,
01:30:49 I told her to go to the doctor,
01:30:51 he will do an X-ray of her legs,
01:30:53 and I was so traumatized,
01:30:55 that is there something wrong with her,
01:30:57 is there something,
01:30:59 and she took her first steps,
01:31:01 after 1 or 2 days of her first birthday,
01:31:03 and I realized,
01:31:05 it doesn't matter,
01:31:07 every child has their own milestone,
01:31:09 2 siblings reach the same age,
01:31:11 so please don't put pressure on moms,
01:31:13 that my child did this,
01:31:15 your child didn't do this,
01:31:17 there must be something wrong,
01:31:19 this is a crucial time of life,
01:31:21 when you got married,
01:31:23 had a new child,
01:31:25 your life would have been set,
01:31:27 your life would have been set in your profession,
01:31:29 new profession, new husband,
01:31:31 new house, new child,
01:31:33 oh!
01:31:35 whatever is going on in a woman,
01:31:37 only she can know,
01:31:39 so people around her,
01:31:41 love her,
01:31:43 and judge her,
01:31:45 and along with all these factors,
01:31:47 the hormonal imbalance in her body,
01:31:49 weight gain, weight loss,
01:31:51 and she would have
01:31:53 made her mind go around,
01:31:55 so please take care of that,
01:31:57 because the most major factor is this,
01:31:59 postpartum depression,
01:32:01 so today, I am giving you,
01:32:03 a new year resolution,
01:32:05 that in 2024, those bitter,
01:32:07 bitter words,
01:32:09 which you might have said earlier,
01:32:11 especially to those girls,
01:32:13 who have become new moms,
01:32:15 don't say this year,
01:32:17 good morning Pakistan, and Khuda Hafiz,

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