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00:00:00 Good morning everybody, it is...

00:00:03 Oh! Two weeks to Christmas!

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00:00:13 If you'd like to help out the show, I really, really would appreciate it

00:00:17 That would be very kind and...

00:00:19 I dare say somewhat earned

00:00:22 A little earned. So we're gonna do a Bitcoin update

00:00:24 I did see an interesting question

00:00:26 An interesting question

00:00:30 Hypothetical! A man has discovered a cure for cancer

00:00:34 It is 100% effective, with no side effects

00:00:38 He refuses to divulge any information regarding it

00:00:41 or sell it for any price

00:00:43 The cure is on a thumb drive on his person

00:00:47 Is it reasonable to gain possession of that drive

00:00:49 by any means necessary in order to save

00:00:52 millions of people a year from dying the painful death of cancer?

00:00:56 Would you...

00:01:00 take his cure for cancer

00:01:03 in order to help and save the world?

00:01:06 And, uh...

00:01:08 It's an interesting, obviously annoying theoretical

00:01:12 Good morning Nina, good morning

00:01:15 Bin Lenderhead-er-forten

00:01:18 So, yeah, that is an interesting question

00:01:21 What would you do if posed with such a question?

00:01:23 A question, what would you say if posed with such a question?

00:01:26 Would you violate his property rights

00:01:37 in order to save people from cancer?

00:01:42 Yeah, it is people tied to a...

00:01:47 train track and all of that, right?

00:01:50 Cancer cure man is lying about the cure

00:01:53 Greetings from the UK

00:01:56 Right

00:01:59 No, he's, oh well, you know

00:02:01 What they do is they tweak the thing

00:02:02 You know for sure that it's an actual cure

00:02:05 and all of this, right?

00:02:07 Yeah, how did you learn about the existence of the cure?

00:02:09 Was it the NSA?

00:02:11 Yes, probably

00:02:12 Probably

00:02:14 Probably

00:02:19 So...

00:02:20 Good morning Bob

00:02:22 So he talks about this cure

00:02:27 Yeah, of course, it's like how do you know about the cure?

00:02:29 How do you know that it's valid?

00:02:31 How do you know that it's real?

00:02:32 How do you know that there are 100% no side effects?

00:02:35 So, all of this is assuming a kind of knowledge

00:02:39 that they don't have, right?

00:02:42 All of this is assuming a kind of knowledge

00:02:46 that they don't have

00:02:47 But there's something baked into these theoreticals

00:02:52 that really is quite enraging

00:02:55 Well, okay, so of course, why would somebody discover

00:03:01 First of all, no individual man is going to discover a cure for cancer

00:03:04 Cancer is like a hundred different diseases

00:03:06 It's all really complicated

00:03:09 and it changes on the fly

00:03:11 So, no one guy is just going to come up with

00:03:13 a cure for cancer, 100% effective

00:03:15 and no side effects

00:03:17 You wouldn't know any of that

00:03:18 Of course, you wouldn't know any of that

00:03:19 until it was proven, right?

00:03:21 You wouldn't know any of that until it was proven

00:03:23 And how would you prove it?

00:03:24 Well, you'd have to have a gold standard

00:03:26 like randomized, blind, double blind controlled studies

00:03:29 and so on, right?

00:03:30 So, you wouldn't know

00:03:32 There would just be a rumor, right?

00:03:33 Oh, there's a rumor, man

00:03:35 Now, most likely, this situation is something like

00:03:38 he keeps his bitcoin on a thumb drive

00:03:41 and someone says, "No, no, no, it's a cure for cancer

00:03:44 and it's 100% effective but no side effects

00:03:46 so you've got to..."

00:03:47 You'd just be lied to about that

00:03:49 So, you wouldn't have this kind of knowledge

00:03:51 Of course, as you're very rightly pointing out

00:03:53 I'm stealing from the brilliance of the audience

00:03:55 as I often do

00:03:56 So, you wouldn't have that information

00:03:58 If it was just on a thumb drive

00:04:00 you wouldn't know whether it was true or false

00:04:02 but you would know that somebody was saying

00:04:04 like, whoever told this to you

00:04:06 would be wanting you to steal the thumb drive

00:04:08 for some nefarious purpose

00:04:09 So, you'd end up being an agent for immorality, right?

00:04:11 You'd end up being a tool for evil

00:04:13 So, that's sort of the reality of the situation

00:04:17 But, what's interesting about these theoreticals

00:04:23 and of course, what this is designed to do

00:04:26 is to break down any absolutism

00:04:28 with regards to property rights in your mind

00:04:31 Right?

00:04:33 So, this is designed to have you say

00:04:37 property rights must bow to the general good

00:04:41 Right?

00:04:43 You would hold up a principle of property

00:04:45 at the expense of your own child dying of leukemia

00:04:47 like this kind of stuff, right?

00:04:49 So, it's designed to get you to break principle

00:04:53 by escalating things

00:04:55 Now, it also, what's very interesting

00:04:57 to me, this is sociopathic manipulation

00:04:59 I'm not saying the poster is a sociopath

00:05:01 I'm saying this is sociopathic manipulation

00:05:03 because it has no comprehension of human motivations

00:05:14 in any way, shape, or form

00:05:17 Right?

00:05:21 There's no sense of human motivation

00:05:25 and this is why I say it's sociopathic

00:05:27 because sociopaths don't really understand

00:05:29 how human beings work in a positive sense

00:05:31 So, a sociopath will know what you value

00:05:33 and then take it from you in order to blackmail you

00:05:35 A sociopath will know that you don't want to go

00:05:38 to jail for having sex with underage girls

00:05:40 so he'll dangle underage girls

00:05:42 So, a sociopath will know what motivates you

00:05:45 from the dark side, the dark triad stuff

00:05:47 but he won't know what motivates you

00:05:49 from a positive side, right?

00:05:54 So, a sociopath wouldn't understand

00:05:58 would have no clue, why would someone

00:06:04 why would someone work that hard

00:06:07 to develop a cure for cancer, right?

00:06:10 This is what sociopaths genuinely couldn't understand

00:06:13 Why on earth would someone

00:06:17 Oh, it's ticking away here

00:06:19 Oh, sorry, I had my gum on my coffee heater

00:06:21 Why would someone develop a cure for cancer?

00:06:24 I mean, developing a cure for cancer

00:06:26 would be one of the most staggeringly difficult

00:06:29 and rewarding things that a human being could do

00:06:31 This guy would have poured his entire life, energy

00:06:33 and effort into it

00:06:35 Why on earth would someone

00:06:37 pour heart, mind, body and soul

00:06:39 into developing a cure for cancer?

00:06:43 Well, a sociopath can't understand it

00:06:46 because a sociopath would enjoy withholding

00:06:48 that cure for cancer in regard to

00:06:50 like, to torture people, right?

00:06:51 So, he just couldn't understand

00:06:52 So, the only reason that someone

00:06:56 would work to develop a cure for cancer

00:07:02 is to cure cancer, right?

00:07:06 Guys, if you could hold off on

00:07:08 other ways to cure cancer

00:07:10 just really focus on the conversation

00:07:12 if you don't mind

00:07:13 So, what I do, just by the by

00:07:15 it's just a favor for me, right?

00:07:16 'Cause I wanna get people's questions

00:07:18 but if people are having side discussions

00:07:21 it's hard for me to find the questions

00:07:22 that are relevant to what I'm saying

00:07:24 It's just a favor thing I'm asking for

00:07:25 if you could, if somebody says something

00:07:27 you're like, "Oh, you can cure cancer by X, Y and Z?"

00:07:30 Just copy and paste it, put it in a notepad

00:07:32 and then look it up afterwards

00:07:33 or whatever it is

00:07:34 It's just a favor that I ask

00:07:36 that if I'm talking about something

00:07:38 and you say something like somebody posted here

00:07:40 just, you know, it's just a nice thing to do

00:07:43 Right, so somebody said

00:07:46 "Also, cancer is curable by water fasting"

00:07:50 Right, so that's your thing

00:07:52 and you're trying to hijack my show

00:07:54 Like, that's your thing

00:07:55 and you can post it and wait 'til the end

00:07:58 wait 'til the end

00:07:59 but if you post it, then what happens is

00:08:00 people get distracted from what I'm saying

00:08:03 I mean, I'm not saying you gotta be passive

00:08:05 of course, right?

00:08:06 But this is the old

00:08:07 "Don't take a loud call in the middle of somebody's speech"

00:08:10 Right?

00:08:11 Don't, uh

00:08:14 Don't use your flashlight during a movie theater performance

00:08:16 It's just a little personal politeness thing

00:08:19 Try your best not to go off onto side tangents

00:08:22 when I'm trying to make a case

00:08:24 because that's hijacking my audience

00:08:25 for your own particular agenda

00:08:27 My preference is

00:08:28 It's just my preference

00:08:29 I'm not, you know, gonna ban you for doing it

00:08:31 I'm just saying that as far as politeness goes

00:08:33 that's really, um

00:08:35 It's rude

00:08:36 It's kind of rude

00:08:37 Right?

00:08:38 Because it's gonna distract me

00:08:39 from what I'm saying

00:08:40 for you to push your own agenda, right?

00:08:42 So this show is for here

00:08:43 to talk about philosophy

00:08:44 and I guide the show

00:08:46 with your feedback

00:08:47 I really, really enjoy the feedback

00:08:49 But if you are gonna hijack my show

00:08:51 to push your own personal stuff

00:08:52 like "What if fasting cures cancer?"

00:08:54 or whatever stuff

00:08:55 then that's gonna be distracting

00:08:58 because I'm trying to follow

00:08:59 what the audience is saying

00:09:00 It's distracting for other people

00:09:02 and it's a little rude

00:09:04 That's all I'm saying

00:09:05 Now, if you wait till I'm done

00:09:06 we can bring it up

00:09:07 and you can talk about it

00:09:08 but, yeah, just hold off

00:09:09 if you could

00:09:10 That's sort of my particular preference

00:09:11 Alright

00:09:12 So, let's get back to this question

00:09:15 which again, I do find really interesting

00:09:18 A man will

00:09:20 and it's funny how they say man, right?

00:09:21 A man will work his whole life

00:09:23 to discover a cure for cancer

00:09:25 in order to provide that cure for cancer

00:09:27 to the world

00:09:28 Now, whether he sells it

00:09:29 whether he gives it away

00:09:30 but it's incomprehensible

00:09:32 that a human being

00:09:33 would work his whole life

00:09:35 to discover a cure for cancer

00:09:37 and not release it

00:09:38 in some manner to the public

00:09:41 Right?

00:09:42 The whole reason you would come up

00:09:43 with a cure for cancer

00:09:44 is to provide that cure for cancer

00:09:46 So, why would you work to cure cancer?

00:09:48 Well, you'd work to cure cancer

00:09:49 because your wife died of cancer

00:09:51 Your son died of cancer

00:09:53 You have cancer

00:09:55 Your favorite uncle died of cancer

00:09:57 Your best friend

00:09:58 Like, you'd have some motivation

00:09:59 You'd get angry at cancer

00:10:00 like I'm angry at anti-rationality

00:10:03 and so I've worked very hard

00:10:05 to

00:10:08 give the tools that people have to oppose

00:10:11 anti-rationality

00:10:12 like I'm angry at either dictated

00:10:14 or subjectivist

00:10:15 or consequentialist ethics

00:10:16 so I wrote UPB

00:10:18 So, the idea that I would

00:10:19 really find

00:10:21 anti-rational, anti-objective ethics

00:10:23 incredibly dangerous for humanity

00:10:26 I would work for decades

00:10:28 to come up with a better proof

00:10:30 of ethics

00:10:32 I would slave myself night and day

00:10:34 to be as clear as possible

00:10:35 in providing that proof of ethics

00:10:37 and then never publish it

00:10:39 It shows

00:10:40 that somebody doesn't understand

00:10:41 human nature at all

00:10:43 The man discovered the cure for cancer

00:10:45 in order to divulge it

00:10:48 Right, so

00:10:49 this is a non-existent scenario

00:10:51 that is, it's sociopathic

00:10:52 because it has no understanding

00:10:54 of human nature whatsoever

00:10:56 Right?

00:10:58 So

00:11:01 that's number one

00:11:03 The hypothetical, again

00:11:05 people will try to fence you

00:11:06 into this hypothetical

00:11:07 as if there's no cause and effect

00:11:09 Right?

00:11:10 As if there's no

00:11:11 cause and effect

00:11:13 So the man

00:11:14 wants to do good for humanity

00:11:15 by discovering a cure for cancer

00:11:17 which means he has

00:11:18 a benevolent or positive

00:11:19 relationship to humanity

00:11:21 So if somebody has

00:11:22 a positive or benevolent

00:11:23 relationship to humanity

00:11:27 then

00:11:28 he's not going to withhold

00:11:29 the cure for cancer

00:11:30 Like, it's just, it's not going to happen

00:11:31 You won't get the cure for cancer

00:11:33 unless somebody wants to

00:11:34 release or provide to humanity

00:11:36 the cure of cancer

00:11:37 the cure to cancer

00:11:38 And of course people will say

00:11:39 "Well, what if?"

00:11:40 Right?

00:11:41 And it's like, no, but

00:11:42 that's not how human beings work

00:11:45 You might as well say

00:11:46 "What if a human being

00:11:48 is actually a lizard?"

00:11:50 Well, if a human being is cold-blooded

00:11:51 has no fur

00:11:53 gives birth to eggs

00:11:54 it's not a human being

00:11:55 It's something else

00:11:56 Right?

00:11:57 So, it's a category error

00:11:58 That's number one

00:11:59 Number two

00:12:01 You don't need a hypothetical

00:12:02 So hypotheticals, what they do

00:12:04 is of course they want you

00:12:05 to break principle

00:12:06 by putting you in a completely

00:12:07 barred, artificial,

00:12:08 anti-human environment

00:12:11 But the second thing that they do

00:12:12 is they drag you away

00:12:13 from the current world

00:12:14 They drag you away

00:12:15 from the current world

00:12:16 Right?

00:12:17 So

00:12:20 If you come into the ER

00:12:23 and you've got

00:12:24 some horrible gash or cut

00:12:26 down your arm

00:12:27 that needs like, I don't know

00:12:28 40 stitches or something

00:12:31 and they start testing you

00:12:33 they ignore your wound

00:12:35 and they start testing you

00:12:36 for the most obscure ailments

00:12:38 You could have

00:12:39 you know, a fourth-dimensional lupus

00:12:41 or whatever

00:12:42 like, bizarre house-worthy agents

00:12:45 or illnesses

00:12:47 Then, implicitly they're saying

00:12:49 your arm doesn't matter

00:12:50 What matters is

00:12:52 something else

00:12:54 completely theoretical

00:12:55 that you have

00:12:56 almost no chance of having

00:12:58 And they can't

00:12:59 You understand

00:13:00 If you go in and you're bleeding out

00:13:01 because you cut your arm so badly

00:13:02 you're literally bleeding out

00:13:04 you're going to die

00:13:05 and they start testing you

00:13:06 for imaginary ABC exotic illness

00:13:12 They're killing you

00:13:14 You're going to die

00:13:15 because you're going to bleed out

00:13:16 because they're not dealing with

00:13:18 your actual injury

00:13:21 I mean, House MD

00:13:22 which was a fun show

00:13:25 It would be kind of a bad comedy

00:13:27 for some guy to be coming in

00:13:28 bleeding out

00:13:29 and House saying

00:13:30 "Well, we've got to run a test

00:13:31 for fourth-dimensional lupus"

00:13:32 and stuff like that

00:13:33 What about the arm?

00:13:34 What arm?

00:13:35 So, when they get you to go

00:13:36 to these theoreticals

00:13:37 that don't exist

00:13:38 they're saying

00:13:39 don't apply your ethics

00:13:40 to the world as it is

00:13:41 So, my theoretical

00:13:42 which is not very theoretical

00:13:44 would be to reply

00:13:45 something like this

00:13:46 Imagine there's a generation

00:13:48 that has voted to use

00:13:49 the power of the state

00:13:50 to take away

00:13:51 the income of the next generation

00:13:53 because the first generation

00:13:55 has voted for themselves

00:13:56 benefits that they didn't

00:13:57 want to pay for

00:13:58 So now they're

00:13:59 preying on the next generation

00:14:02 Is that moral?

00:14:04 That's actually

00:14:05 a real-world situation

00:14:06 Obviously, boomers and so on

00:14:07 they voted for a bunch of benefits

00:14:09 that they didn't

00:14:10 want to pay the taxes for

00:14:11 and so now

00:14:12 they're stripping the income

00:14:13 from the next generation

00:14:14 in order to pay for their own

00:14:15 benefits and health care

00:14:16 and retirements and so on

00:14:17 That's actually a real situation

00:14:19 Is it moral

00:14:21 to vote

00:14:23 to take away the property

00:14:24 of the next generation

00:14:25 who absolutely are never

00:14:27 going to get the benefits

00:14:28 that you want them

00:14:29 to pay for yourself?

00:14:30 Is that moral?

00:14:31 Is it moral to do that?

00:14:32 Now that's actually

00:14:33 a real-world thing

00:14:35 But nobody talks about that

00:14:38 at least in these kinds

00:14:39 of hypotheticals

00:14:40 So I just wanted to

00:14:41 sort of point out that

00:14:42 that is really, really horrible

00:14:45 Alright, here's some thoughts

00:14:47 on Bitcoin

00:14:49 Itty-bitty Bitcoin

00:14:51 Homes are more scarce

00:14:53 than dollars

00:14:54 so they will always

00:14:55 increase in price

00:14:56 in terms of dollars

00:14:57 Homes are less scarce

00:14:58 than Bitcoin

00:14:59 so they will always

00:15:00 decrease in price

00:15:01 in terms of Bitcoin

00:15:02 Once you see this

00:15:03 you can't unsee it

00:15:04 Your view of the world

00:15:05 will completely change

00:15:07 Now, homes are more

00:15:08 scarce than dollars

00:15:09 That's not why home prices

00:15:10 are going up

00:15:11 There's other reasons

00:15:12 But I mean, it certainly

00:15:13 has something to do with it

00:15:14 But it is really, really

00:15:15 important to understand that

00:15:17 which I think is very, very cool

00:15:21 Alright, interesting fact

00:15:22 Number one, over 85%

00:15:24 of all professional money managers

00:15:25 in the world

00:15:26 fail to outperform

00:15:27 the S&P 500 index

00:15:28 every single year

00:15:30 The S&P destroys

00:15:32 the so-called financial experts

00:15:34 Interesting fact

00:15:35 Number two, a 99%

00:15:38 cash portfolio

00:15:39 with a tiny 1%

00:15:41 dash of Bitcoin

00:15:43 destroyed the S&P index

00:15:44 over the last 14 years

00:15:47 in terms of income

00:15:49 Over any four-year period

00:15:50 you choose

00:15:51 this combination

00:15:53 Right, 99% cash

00:15:56 1% Bitcoin

00:15:58 obliterated the performance

00:15:59 of the world's number one

00:16:00 performance metric

00:16:01 So, you know, I'm no

00:16:03 financial guru

00:16:04 or trained in it

00:16:06 It's just my particular opinion

00:16:07 Don't take any financial advice

00:16:08 from anything I'm saying

00:16:09 But my understanding is

00:16:10 that it's really hard

00:16:11 to beat the S&P 500

00:16:12 in terms of returns

00:16:14 However, if you just had

00:16:15 a bunch of cash

00:16:16 in your mattress

00:16:17 and 1% Bitcoin

00:16:19 you are doing better

00:16:21 significantly better

00:16:22 than the S&P 500

00:16:23 over the last 14 years

00:16:25 Isn't that interesting?

00:16:27 Bitcoin, this guy says

00:16:31 is true rocket fuel

00:16:32 No wonder BlackRock

00:16:33 internally and secretly

00:16:34 recommends an 85%

00:16:35 allocation to Bitcoin

00:16:36 with a 15% split

00:16:37 between stocks and bonds

00:16:39 They really know

00:16:41 it should be 100%

00:16:42 but this would make them

00:16:43 entirely irrelevant, wouldn't it?

00:16:45 Yeah, the blowback

00:16:48 is yet to come

00:16:49 The full blowback

00:16:50 is yet to come

00:16:51 Once a bunch of money managers

00:16:52 realize that they've

00:16:53 become obsolete

00:16:55 because of Bitcoin

00:16:59 Well, there's a lot of

00:17:01 frou-frou Excel jockeys

00:17:02 who are going to actually

00:17:03 have to get some real jobs

00:17:04 and that's going to be

00:17:05 quite shocking

00:17:07 Alright, here we go

00:17:10 This is from Rajat Soni

00:17:12 Bitcoin has returned

00:17:13 100% or more per year

00:17:14 over the last 15 years

00:17:20 But you have to keep in mind

00:17:21 during those 15 years

00:17:22 the newly issued supply

00:17:24 was at its highest

00:17:26 The inflation rate went

00:17:28 from 100% to less than 2%

00:17:30 in that period

00:17:32 because of the halvings, right?

00:17:33 In April 2024

00:17:35 newly issued supply

00:17:37 of Bitcoin will decrease

00:17:38 by 50%

00:17:39 Bitcoin will be the asset

00:17:40 with the lowest inflation rate

00:17:42 Bitcoin's inflation rate

00:17:43 will be lower than gold, right?

00:17:44 Because a couple of percentage

00:17:45 points of gold are added

00:17:46 to the world gold supply

00:17:47 every year depending on

00:17:48 the price of gold and so on, right?

00:17:50 In the first few years

00:17:51 Bitcoin had no utility

00:17:52 Bitcoin did nothing

00:17:54 There was no network

00:17:55 to transact with

00:17:56 In the last 15 years

00:17:58 with 100% annual returns

00:17:59 99% of the world

00:18:00 had no idea what was going on

00:18:02 Most people still think

00:18:03 Bitcoin is a scam

00:18:05 Today, Bitcoin is being used

00:18:06 as a store of value

00:18:07 by more people than ever

00:18:08 Eventually, these people

00:18:09 will be willing to part

00:18:10 with their Bitcoin

00:18:11 because their purchasing power

00:18:12 would have increased significantly

00:18:14 To add to this

00:18:15 the financial industry

00:18:16 is currently working on

00:18:17 opening the doors

00:18:18 for institutional investors

00:18:19 to start buying Bitcoin

00:18:20 99% of the world

00:18:21 is still asleep

00:18:23 Soon they will wake up

00:18:25 Some early adopters

00:18:26 anyone who bought

00:18:27 up until today

00:18:28 as an early adopter

00:18:29 in my opinion, he says

00:18:30 will not sell

00:18:31 until what one Bitcoin

00:18:32 is worth a million dollars

00:18:34 or more

00:18:35 Others will never sell

00:18:37 Where does the price

00:18:39 of any asset go

00:18:40 when supply is low

00:18:41 and demand goes to

00:18:42 record highs?

00:18:43 This is the discovery

00:18:44 of digital scarcity

00:18:45 There is a fixed supply

00:18:46 of 21 million Bitcoins

00:18:48 This number will never change

00:18:50 All this

00:18:52 makes me think

00:18:53 that the price appreciation

00:18:54 will likely accelerate

00:18:55 over the next few years

00:18:56 instead of slowing down

00:18:57 Also, Bitcoin Magazine

00:19:02 this is from yesterday

00:19:03 said, pointed out

00:19:05 Bitcoin supply

00:19:08 on exchanges

00:19:09 are falling to new lows

00:19:11 and this is pretty wild

00:19:13 In January 2020

00:19:15 there were 3.3 million Bitcoins

00:19:16 on exchanges

00:19:17 Now it's down

00:19:19 to about 2.3 million

00:19:21 So it's a third down

00:19:23 That is pretty wild

00:19:25 when you think about it

00:19:27 That is pretty wild

00:19:29 So, where is it going to go?

00:19:31 Nobody knows

00:19:33 But I certainly have my

00:19:35 my theories

00:19:37 Alright

00:19:44 Let's get to your questions

00:19:46 and comments

00:19:48 Yes, let's see here

00:19:50 The way I answer this question

00:19:56 is by saying it's too hypothetical

00:19:57 for me to care about

00:19:59 Well, but you're in the realm

00:20:00 of sophistry, right?

00:20:01 And saying I'm above it

00:20:03 what that says is that

00:20:04 ok, well, the sophists

00:20:05 will just come back and say

00:20:06 well, ok, if you don't want to answer

00:20:08 that's fine, but you know

00:20:09 science starts with hypotheticals

00:20:11 economics starts with hypotheticals

00:20:13 business starts with hypotheticals

00:20:15 a business plan, like everything around you

00:20:17 started out as a hypothetical

00:20:19 so saying you're above hypotheticals

00:20:21 is admitting that you can't answer the question

00:20:23 Right, so, that's just the reality

00:20:25 Right

00:20:27 How would people know

00:20:29 that there is a cure for cancer

00:20:30 stored in a thumb drive?

00:20:31 Would the discoverer divulge

00:20:33 that information intentionally

00:20:34 just to enrage the public?

00:20:35 Without any substantial proof

00:20:36 nobody would believe him anyway

00:20:37 The more you think about this hypothetical

00:20:39 the less sense it makes

00:20:40 Right

00:20:41 So how would you know

00:20:42 that there's a perfect cure for cancer

00:20:44 with no side effects

00:20:46 unless it had gone through rigorous testing

00:20:48 in which case everybody else would know

00:20:49 what it was anyway

00:20:51 So, yeah, I mean

00:20:53 you wouldn't have

00:20:55 the knowledge that it was safe and effective

00:20:57 ooo, ooo, ooo, safe and effective

00:20:59 you wouldn't have the knowledge

00:21:01 that it was safe and effective

00:21:02 unless lots of people knew about

00:21:03 what the cure was

00:21:04 because they would have had to have tested it, so

00:21:06 I realize that the idea of

00:21:09 if it saves one life, it's justified

00:21:11 is just people saying

00:21:12 we can't make a principle from this

00:21:14 but want to pretend it is

00:21:16 Right

00:21:17 Right

00:21:19 Your analogy seems only valid

00:21:25 say 1% Bitcoin with rest cash

00:21:27 if you had purchased Bitcoin

00:21:28 very early in offering

00:21:30 Did you not listen to the analogy?

00:21:33 The analogy was that

00:21:34 if you'd had 1% in Bitcoin

00:21:37 Alright

00:21:38 If you don't listen, I got help

00:21:40 Alright

00:21:41 Bitcoin is worthless

00:21:45 It's backed by nothing

00:21:46 as opposed to fiat currency

00:21:47 which is backed by the printing press

00:21:49 and coercion

00:21:51 Also ignores dollar cost averaging

00:21:54 in most investment strategies

00:21:55 where funds are added, say, bi-weekly

00:21:57 I don't know what that means

00:21:58 Yes, law degree question I asked at the start

00:22:01 I would love to hear your opinion

00:22:03 on whether a law degree is worth it

00:22:05 Keeping in mind sunk cost fallacy

00:22:08 for those almost finished with their law degree

00:22:10 So, I obviously can't

00:22:14 in a million years tell you what to do

00:22:16 Obviously, right?

00:22:17 You know that

00:22:18 I'm just reminding everyone of that

00:22:19 However, I will say this

00:22:21 If I were in your shoes

00:22:24 I would absolutely, completely

00:22:25 and totally finish

00:22:26 the law degree

00:22:28 Currency is also backed by GDP

00:22:31 I don't even know what that means

00:22:35 as far as the reality

00:22:36 of how things work goes

00:22:37 Oh, you mean like future assets?

00:22:39 Like, currency is backed by what?

00:22:42 Future assets?

00:22:43 I don't know

00:22:45 It's not tied into anything

00:22:46 legally

00:22:48 Okay, so I would absolutely finish

00:22:49 the law degree

00:22:50 I would absolutely finish the law degree

00:22:52 because one of the things

00:22:53 and I was hired by a lot of people

00:22:55 and one of the things

00:22:56 that a university degree tells me

00:22:58 if you finish a university degree

00:23:00 and to me it doesn't even really matter

00:23:01 at least back in the day

00:23:02 it didn't really matter

00:23:03 what the degree was in

00:23:04 was that you can take a four-year plan

00:23:06 you can execute

00:23:07 and you can complete

00:23:08 You can complete

00:23:12 Are you telling me what GDP means?

00:23:14 Gross Domestic Product?

00:23:15 Great

00:23:18 Excellent

00:23:19 No, but it's

00:23:20 it's backed by nothing

00:23:21 but force, right?

00:23:22 I mean, one of the clues as to

00:23:26 why fiat currency is backed by force

00:23:28 is fiat literally means

00:23:29 by forceful degree

00:23:31 decree, by forceful decree

00:23:33 Anyway, I just thought

00:23:34 that's kind of funny

00:23:35 So, you should finish

00:23:36 In my view, you should finish

00:23:37 your law degree

00:23:38 or what I would do is

00:23:39 I would finish your

00:23:40 I would finish my law degree

00:23:42 Would I ever actually

00:23:44 want to get involved

00:23:45 in the law

00:23:47 in I don't know which country you're in

00:23:49 doesn't really matter

00:23:50 Would I actually want to get involved

00:23:51 in the law as it stands?

00:23:53 Not hugely

00:23:55 Not hugely

00:23:57 But if you say

00:23:59 I have a law degree

00:24:01 See, there's something really cool

00:24:02 about having a law degree

00:24:03 and not practicing law

00:24:05 Right?

00:24:06 There's something really cool about it

00:24:07 and what's cool about it

00:24:08 is you say

00:24:10 Well, I did all of this

00:24:12 and I'm going to do something else

00:24:14 There's a certain amount

00:24:15 of ballsy-ness in that

00:24:16 Like if you have a lottery ticket

00:24:18 that's worth $100,000

00:24:20 and you're like

00:24:21 Yeah, I'll cash that in

00:24:22 at some point

00:24:23 I mean, how wealthy

00:24:24 do you seem to people, right?

00:24:25 Oh, I'll get round to that

00:24:26 100k at some point, right?

00:24:27 So, if you have a law degree

00:24:29 and let's say

00:24:30 instead of becoming a lawyer

00:24:31 you become some

00:24:32 Bitcoin entrepreneur

00:24:33 or whatever it is

00:24:34 That gives you a certain amount

00:24:36 of cash-ay, right?

00:24:37 So, if you're going to go

00:24:38 and start a business

00:24:39 with a law degree

00:24:40 but you're not practicing law

00:24:41 the investors are like

00:24:44 Whoa!

00:24:45 This guy could be a lawyer

00:24:46 so his base would be

00:24:47 200k a year

00:24:49 or whatever it is

00:24:50 He wants to do something

00:24:53 that's going to be

00:24:54 more profitable than law

00:24:55 He wants to do something

00:24:56 that's better than law

00:24:57 that's, right?

00:24:58 So, that's going to be

00:24:59 way interesting

00:25:00 to people who want

00:25:01 to invest in you

00:25:02 or people who want

00:25:03 to hire you

00:25:04 or whatever you want to do

00:25:05 So, there's a certain cash-ay

00:25:07 You know, if you have

00:25:09 a Ferrari and you say

00:25:10 Oh, that's my second car

00:25:12 then people are like

00:25:13 Whoa!

00:25:14 What's your first car?

00:25:15 or something like that, right?

00:25:16 So, I think getting

00:25:19 the law degree

00:25:20 is probably worth it

00:25:21 I personally would not

00:25:22 want to work in law

00:25:24 I think it's

00:25:25 labyrinthine

00:25:27 soulless

00:25:28 the amount of work

00:25:30 you have to do

00:25:31 is labyrinthine

00:25:32 bogging, boggling

00:25:33 and the amount of

00:25:34 moral compromises

00:25:35 to be involved in

00:25:36 being a lawyer

00:25:37 would be a little higher

00:25:39 than I would feel

00:25:40 comfortable with

00:25:41 Again, this is just

00:25:42 my personal thing

00:25:43 It's not anything

00:25:44 you should do, but

00:25:45 Somebody's Dave says

00:25:48 A good degree proves

00:25:49 you can do a certain

00:25:50 level of work

00:25:51 Engineering, law

00:25:52 computer science

00:25:53 has an established

00:25:54 level of logic

00:25:55 and hard projects

00:25:56 It will help you forever

00:25:57 I had a buddy with

00:25:58 a law degree write films

00:25:59 I've seen so many engineers

00:26:00 at the top of other

00:26:01 unrelated industries

00:26:02 finish the degree

00:26:03 Yeah, I mean the guy

00:26:04 who ran, was it

00:26:05 Jack Welsh?

00:26:06 Had a PhD in

00:26:07 chemical engineering

00:26:08 or something like that

00:26:09 so

00:26:10 Do you have any

00:26:12 career recommendations

00:26:13 where I can move up quickly?

00:26:14 I work as an electrician

00:26:16 and do very well

00:26:17 but I'm thirsting for

00:26:18 something with more brain work

00:26:19 Um

00:26:22 Alright

00:26:27 I know

00:26:28 I know where you can

00:26:29 be at the top

00:26:30 immediately

00:26:31 I know where you can

00:26:32 be at the top tomorrow

00:26:33 Do you know where

00:26:44 you can be the CEO tomorrow?

00:26:45 Or today, I guess

00:26:47 Right?

00:26:48 Do you know where you can be?

00:26:49 It might be tomorrow

00:26:50 if you have to incorporate

00:26:51 So

00:26:52 how can you be

00:26:53 how can you move up quickly?

00:26:55 How can you get to

00:26:56 the very top of an

00:26:57 organization right away?

00:26:58 Assuming you're not

00:27:01 inheriting it from your father

00:27:02 How do you get to be

00:27:04 the CEO right away?

00:27:05 I'm a legend in my living room

00:27:09 Right, so you just

00:27:10 start your own business

00:27:11 Oh look, you're at the top

00:27:12 right away

00:27:13 Be your own boss

00:27:15 I'm a little bit of a jerk

00:27:17 as a boss

00:27:18 bit of a workaholic

00:27:19 but yeah, be your own boss

00:27:20 How do you move up?

00:27:22 Right?

00:27:23 You uh

00:27:27 You start at the top

00:27:30 Oh yeah, you start

00:27:34 your own business

00:27:35 Now, whether that's in

00:27:36 the trades or something else

00:27:37 but yeah, you start

00:27:39 your own business

00:27:40 I would imagine

00:27:43 I would imagine

00:27:44 So I give you guys

00:27:45 top 1%

00:27:46 Easy

00:27:47 Easy peasy

00:27:48 I don't even have to

00:27:49 think about it

00:27:50 Probably top 1/10 of 1%

00:27:51 This is an elite show

00:27:52 Right?

00:27:53 This is an elite show

00:27:54 Because we move fast

00:27:55 We have deep concepts

00:27:56 There's Florida analogies

00:27:57 And if you don't have

00:27:58 intelligence, creativity

00:28:00 imagination and a strong

00:28:01 sense of an inner voice

00:28:02 you can't even remotely

00:28:03 follow what we're doing

00:28:04 Like, a lot of people

00:28:05 who get annoyed at

00:28:06 what I'm doing

00:28:07 can't follow what I'm doing

00:28:08 Right?

00:28:09 It's just baffling

00:28:10 and incomprehensible

00:28:11 See, there's

00:28:12 there's difficult stuff

00:28:13 that is put forward

00:28:14 to entertain the masses

00:28:15 Wow, he's really good

00:28:16 at gymnastics

00:28:17 And you're like

00:28:18 well, I'm not a gymnast

00:28:19 but it's pretty cool

00:28:20 to be able to do stuff

00:28:21 like that

00:28:22 That's wild

00:28:23 I want to watch a guy

00:28:24 What's this?

00:28:25 Some Japanese baseball player

00:28:26 just got a

00:28:27 He just inked the biggest

00:28:28 highest paying gig

00:28:29 in athletics history

00:28:30 700 million dollars

00:28:31 700 million dollars

00:28:32 to watch a short guy

00:28:33 hit a fast ball

00:28:34 Oh, oh my gosh

00:28:35 Those of us with half a brain

00:28:36 to our heads

00:28:37 look at that kind of stuff

00:28:38 and it's just a huge relief

00:28:39 It's just a huge relief

00:28:40 It's a beautiful

00:28:41 wonderful liberation

00:28:42 of the mind

00:28:43 of a person

00:28:44 who is

00:28:45 who is

00:28:46 who is

00:28:47 who is

00:28:48 who is

00:28:49 liberation of the shackles of obligation to the world that this guy gets paid 700 million

00:28:55 dollars to be short and hit a fast ball. Beautiful. "Well it's really skilled!" Yes. It is. He's

00:29:04 got really fast firing muscles and he's got great reflexes and he's got a body that facilitates

00:29:10 that. You mean you're paying to a large degree for genetics, right? Like the guys from Kenya

00:29:14 are just incredible runners, right? You're just paying to a large degree for genetics.

00:29:17 That's fine. So genetics makes a lot of money. But it's not that he makes the money. What's

00:29:23 liberating is not that he takes the 700 million dollars. What's liberating is that enough

00:29:27 people want to watch a short guy hit a fast ball that it's worth paying him 700 million

00:29:33 dollars. It's like, "Oh, beautiful. Beautiful." I mean it's just wonderful. I'm not saying

00:29:38 this in any kind of snarky way. It's genuinely fantastic. If this is the world that is, that

00:29:46 I will ask daily for donations and you'll give a short guy hitting a fast ball 700 million

00:29:50 dollars. Why to be short? I don't know. He's Japanese. Short relative to, I don't know,

00:29:57 Swedes or something like that. Maybe he's tall. I don't know. But I think in Japanese

00:30:02 probably quite short. So, yeah, I'll just start at the top. I was thinking of my own

00:30:09 business around horticulture and private dispute resolution. I was just, I did a call in show

00:30:15 yesterday. Let me ask you guys. I'm not sure how being short helps in baseball. It doesn't.

00:30:23 All right. Let me get to this. I was, sorry, it's a surprising nature I got your comment.

00:30:40 Let me just save this to make sure that I get it. I've got it. I will get to it. If

00:30:47 you can copy and paste into the text, it's a little bit easier, but not hugely important.

00:30:53 So yeah, I did a call with a woman yesterday. She's in her mid-twenties. She's been dating

00:30:59 a guy for five years. She wants to get married. He won't get married because he doesn't trust

00:31:08 women. They're going to take half his stuff. And she wants kids. She wanted kids a couple

00:31:12 of years ago. And he said, well, once I have X amount of dollars in assets, then we can

00:31:21 have kids. Like once I've saved X amount of dollars, we can have kids. Now, just out of

00:31:26 curiosity, what do you think that X dollars was for this guy? What was X dollars for him

00:31:38 to feel comfortable having kids? What do you think? You can assume it's an unusual number

00:31:49 because I'm bringing it up. I'm just going to check one thing because it was a foreign

00:31:55 currency. Not as bad as I thought. All right. Yeah. So he said when he has $1.5 million

00:32:17 Canadian, then he can have kids. Once he's got $1.5 million, he can have kids. Now, but

00:32:31 unfortunately in the timeframe that she first brought up, I want kids. And he said, well,

00:32:34 I'll feel comfortable doing it as long as we're not married. If I have $1.5 million.

00:32:39 Since then, how much money has he earned over the last year? How much money has he earned

00:32:47 over the last year, given that the goal is $1.5 million in order to fulfill his girlfriend's

00:32:55 desire to have kids. So by the time he gets on his pension, yeah, yeah. I got some dust

00:33:04 to sperm for you. How much money has he made over the last year to get to his $1.5 million

00:33:12 Canadian? Oh, you guys are so optimistic. He has made $0 over the last year. Well, no,

00:33:23 he did have a part-time job at his dad's company, but he's made in terms of his like major career,

00:33:28 he's made $0. Yeah. No, no, he's kind of in the hole because he's starting a business

00:33:40 and he doesn't have a product yet. Oh my God. Crazy. Anyway, I've, uh, you know, it's very,

00:33:56 very tough for women. It's tough for women. When you've got five years into a guy, he

00:34:08 earned or he saved, you know, it's really tough to not be annoyed at people who are

00:34:15 like, I'm sorry, I wasn't listening. This sounds important. Could you recap? Is that

00:34:20 zero adjusted for inflation? Negative now, but why does she want to have kids with him?

00:34:26 Well, she wants to have kids, right? So it's tough. It's, you know, it's really, really,

00:34:33 really tough. Um, now I don't know whether they should stay together or not. I don't

00:34:37 know. It seems to me that if he doesn't want to marry her when she's, when he's got no

00:34:41 money because he's afraid she'll take his money. I don't know why he'd want to marry

00:34:44 her or have kids with her, but he's got one and a half million dollars, but man, no, no,

00:34:48 no, no. It's for guys. Please, please, please understand this. Cause it's real easy when

00:34:52 you're looking at the strength of men and the weakness of women, it's real easy to say

00:34:56 women are foolish. If you look at the strengths of women and the weakness of men, it's really

00:34:59 easy to say men are foolish, right? So, uh, if you can bench press more than your girlfriend,

00:35:05 which I hope you can, then it's easy to say, well, women are just physically weaker. But

00:35:10 if someone up, up on the street, let's say you're married, you've got a bunch of kids,

00:35:13 someone on the street stops you and says, um, what's the name of your kid's, uh, um,

00:35:18 pediatrician, uh, when's his next dental appointment? Uh, and so on, right? You won't know your

00:35:23 wife will know your wife will have. So then you're just your weakness against your wife's

00:35:27 strength and you look like an idiot. Right? So the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the

00:35:34 sunk costs, I mean, I'm not even call it a fallacy. And ladies, if I, if I've got this

00:35:38 wrong, if I've got this wrong, you tell me, you tell me, I'm not going to try and tell

00:35:41 women what being a woman is like, but even though the moves are coming along well, but

00:35:47 if you're a woman and you have sunk five years into a guy, yeah, what are your kids? Oh yeah.

00:35:56 Who are your, who are your daughter's best friends? Who are your son's best friends?

00:36:01 Right? I like the middle ground that exists on the show with the modern dating sphere.

00:36:11 If you've got five years into a guy pulling out of that is, oh man, it's like watching

00:36:18 a mastodon trying to get out of a crazy glue tar pit. It's just, it's, it's agony. It's

00:36:24 beyond agony. It's, I wouldn't say virtually impossible, but it's close to virtually impossible

00:36:33 for a woman to pull out of a relationship she's sunk five youthful, beautiful fertility

00:36:41 drenched years into. I think men have it harder, except on this. It's kind of scary making

00:36:52 sure you pick the right father. Yes, yes, yes. It's really, it's really tough. Now this

00:36:58 of course is why there was no sex before marriage and you got married in order to cohabitate

00:37:03 and all this kind of stuff. Right? Quick question. Quick question. So he says, I need a million

00:37:11 and a half dollars to have a kid. Um, where, where are they living? Where, where are they

00:37:21 living? Where are they living? Uh, mid twenties. She's mid twenties. Where are they living?

00:37:37 Need a million and a half dollars of assets to have a kid. Where are they living? Hey,

00:37:44 I could see if I've got any heat sensitivity. Uh, yeah, no, they're living in a room in

00:37:55 his parents' house, but don't worry. They're just about to get that million and a half

00:38:03 dollars. All right. So let's get to, yeah, honestly have some sympathy. It's, it's, it's

00:38:08 really, really brutal for women to get out of a relationship. That's not bad. Right?

00:38:15 He's not like some terrible guy. He's not like a mean drunk or something like that.

00:38:20 Sounds like he's pressuring her to make a lot of money. No, no, he's not. No, he's not.

00:38:31 Living in the room in your parents' house, making $0 over the last year in your primary

00:38:35 occupation. But don't worry. We're just about to have kids when I get that million and a

00:38:38 half dollars. Maybe play the lottery and then we'll get kids sooner. Right? Yeah. So a lot

00:38:43 of times when people don't want to do things, they just create impossible standards. Right?

00:38:52 When people don't want to do things, they'll just, they'll just create impossible standards.

00:38:59 It's really seriously, what is she doing now? See, this is the annoying thing. This is the,

00:39:03 I'm telling you, it's annoying when men come in and say, well, you just got to make a decision.

00:39:07 It's like, well, what do we as men do? We always make decisions. A lot of women have

00:39:13 to cross their fingers and hope. Sorry. It's just the way that it is. A lot of women have

00:39:20 to cross their fingers and hope. Mid twenties is not too late to get out. Yeah, I get that.

00:39:26 Oh my God. Well, I'm trying to get, I'm trying to help you guys understand female nature

00:39:31 a little bit. I'm trying to help you guys understand female nature a little bit so that

00:39:36 you can get along better with women and have a happy, loving wife. But apparently you all

00:39:42 just want to, what is she doing? She called Steph. Oh, what is she doing? She called Steph.

00:39:50 Yes. Yeah. She's, she's trying to get clarity. She's trying to figure things out. Her mother

00:39:54 is twice divorced, so her mother is helpful, is useless. She's barely in touch with her

00:39:58 biological father. So yeah. The red pillars who say women always have it way easier. Make

00:40:04 me cringe. Oh God. No. Okay. Are you ready for a black pill that will open up your heart

00:40:12 to women? Are you ready for a black pill that will open up your heart to women? Hit me with

00:40:22 a Y. Oh, this is gonna, this is gonna liberate your heart, but it's gonna hurt like hell

00:40:28 going down. Yeah, you're right. Sorry. Insomnia cat. I was about to be annoyed and then I'm

00:40:36 like, oh no, no, I understand what she's saying. She's totally right. Thank you. Thank you.

00:40:41 Sometimes it's always good to pause before you commit to being completely in the wrong,

00:40:44 as I almost did. All right. All right. So men, I want you to understand a young woman

00:41:04 because every middle-aged woman is founded on, rests on the foundation of being a young

00:41:09 woman. All right. If you want to understand young women, and we're talking fairly attractive

00:41:15 young women, reasonably attractive young women. So if you want to understand young women,

00:41:21 let me ask you this. Let me ask you this. If there was a $5 million lottery, it's 5

00:41:27 million enough. I don't know what people are, expectations are these days. Like millennials

00:41:31 say they need half a million a year just to be comfortable. Is 5 million enough to be

00:41:35 tempting? Do you want 10 million? What's the lottery number that would be tempting for

00:41:39 you? What is the lottery number that would be tempting for you? Give me a number. I want

00:41:47 to make sure it's not too low, not too high. Goldilocks sit right in the middle zone. Just

00:41:52 right. M class planet. What do we got here? What do we got here? Let's get in the Goldilocks

00:41:57 zone. It's just a number. It shouldn't take too much typing. Millions. 20 million. All

00:42:05 right. What else? What else have we got? 20 million. 1 million. Okay. We got a spread.

00:42:11 10, 1.5. That's funny, Bova. Then you'll have kids, right? How much does the ticket cost?

00:42:23 Certainly above 110 million euros. Well, yes, because that's about four bucks after taxes.

00:42:28 All right. So we'll just go 10 million. 10 million. That seems to be in the middle of

00:42:31 what people want. All right. So guys, you've got a winning lottery ticket for $10 million

00:42:38 tax-free, but you can't ever hide your wealth. You can't ever hide your wealth. You've got

00:42:46 to spend it, right? Everywhere you go, you've got to go in a Lamborghini. You've got to

00:42:52 have a wealthy house. Every piece of clothing you have has got to be super expensive. You

00:42:56 have to have a $50,000 watch on your hand. Your glasses have to... Everywhere you go,

00:43:03 you have to... That's the only way you get the $10 million or the $20 million or whatever

00:43:07 tickles your ulule. You get the money, but you must display it no matter what. You can't

00:43:16 hide it. You can't Muhammad Ali live poor and be rich as he sort of fantasized about

00:43:21 at one point, right? Basically, I have to be Richard Hart. I don't know who that is.

00:43:26 I don't remember. But okay. So that's the deal. She sees what? Yeah, you see it. You

00:43:33 see it. She is alert. She is alert. So you get $10 million. You get $20 million, whatever

00:43:40 it is for you, but you have to show your wealth every time you go out of the house. Well,

00:43:49 what do you think would happen to you if every time you went out of the house, you had to

00:43:56 show how wealthy you were? Would you take the money? Of course, I mean, you would take

00:44:08 the money, I would assume, right? Why not use your wealth to attract a woman? Why is

00:44:12 that a bad thing? It's not unreasonable for a quality woman to be attracted to wealth.

00:44:15 Just filter out the gold diggers and unsuitable women. Now, you take, okay, I'm just going

00:44:22 to override your free will here for one of the few times in the game because it's essential

00:44:26 for the theoretical to help you understand women, right? So you take the money, you get

00:44:31 the Lamborghini, you get the, what is it, Conor McGregor? Did they have like a million

00:44:34 dollar watch or something? Like you get some, now let's just say this doesn't drain all

00:44:38 of your money, right? Whatever it is, right? Yeah, Brewster's Millions. Yeah, that's right.

00:44:42 So you go out into the world, everybody knows exactly how wealthy you are. What would that

00:44:51 be like for you? Oh, and also all of your neighbors, your friends, your family, out

00:45:00 to the last dregs of genetics of anyone who could be tied to you knows that you have $20

00:45:04 million. Your neighbors, your friends, your family, everybody in the world, everybody

00:45:08 knows you have your multi-decker millionaire, whatever it is for you, right? Oh, she's giving

00:45:19 out the spoiler. She's giving out the spoiler. Now, what do you think that life would be

00:45:29 like? What do you think that life would be like? Everybody, friends, relatives, neighbors,

00:45:36 extended relations, everyone on the street, everywhere you go, everybody knows you're

00:45:40 super wealthy. So what have we got here? What have we got? Oh my God, my neighbors would

00:45:50 kick my ass. I'd learn martial arts and keep a bodyguard team around. Yeah, doesn't Mark

00:45:55 Sakaboko jog in with like 19 bodyguards? My head would be on a swivel. Well, I hope these

00:45:59 days your head's on a swivel anyway. Women, okay. Annoying but intoxicating. I think it

00:46:07 would start off intoxicating, but it would end up annoying. Awful, couldn't trust anyone,

00:46:12 wouldn't trust anyone, terrifying. Sorry, I would rather eat those millions at all points.

00:46:22 Difficult choices, suspicious, anxious, sounds exhausting, that is rough. I would try to

00:46:25 filter out the leeches, but wealth is not bad if wisely managed, especially if you put

00:46:29 barriers up to prevent leeches and disfunctional people reaching out to you. Oh, if I did,

00:46:33 my good friend, try and work with the theoretical. The theoretical is not, oh my God, why do

00:46:39 I need to explain this? The theoretical is not that you get money. The theoretical is

00:46:46 you have to show it everywhere you go. You would be anxious and probably aggressive to

00:46:54 everyone to filter out the thieves. Manuel would assume just about everybody's lying

00:46:59 to get some of my resources. Boom, boom, boom, ding, ding, ding, you win. Well, maybe I'll

00:47:06 give you $10 million in 10 years when it's a buck. So, just kidding, not a contract.

00:47:12 So yeah, you would assume just about everybody's lying to get some of your resources. I have

00:47:18 a great investment for you. Would feel extremely isolating. Right, right. You'd never trust

00:47:28 anyone. I'd go to the gun range more often and apply for a concealed carry license from

00:47:32 the police. Yeah, okay, great. So, your best case scenario is somebody tries to rob you,

00:47:39 you shoot them, and then you go on trial for attempted murder, and maybe after a year or

00:47:42 two you... come on, right? There would be a temptation to use people who are after it.

00:47:50 Some men do that peacock willingly, is it a me plus thing? Yeah, yeah, no, I get that,

00:47:53 I get that. I'm asking you guys though, we're not most men. It may poison your perception

00:47:58 of other people, make you paranoid in the long term. I'm Sonya Kett, please release

00:48:03 the wisdom that I am trying to chip away at that you already possess deep in your female

00:48:09 heart. What am I... you all know what I'm trying to get across here, right? No joke,

00:48:18 I was offered money for my eggs when I was younger, while I was at work. I made money

00:48:23 from eggs. Well, not really actually. Let's see here. I only say that thing about staying

00:48:31 away from women because I have been manipulated in the past. No. You're giving me causality.

00:48:38 I only say that thing about staying away from women because I have been manipulated in the

00:48:41 past. No, you have free will, you can say whatever you want. Don't blame your past,

00:48:44 don't blame your past for what you do in the present. Don't be lazy. Don't be boring. Right.

00:48:56 Right. Right. So, what am I helping you to understand? If you want to, what am I helping

00:49:04 you to understand? I married into an Asian family and my sister-in-law would say she

00:49:11 doesn't know if guys actually like her or if they just have a fetish for Asian girls.

00:49:19 You have to present your money to the world. I would assume everybody's lying to get some

00:49:24 of my resources. If you are a young, attractive woman, you are surrounded by lying, pilfering,

00:49:32 manipulative con men who want you for your flesh. I'm trying to help you guys understand

00:49:45 women. Yeah, this is how it is to be a young, pretty girl. And I'm not even talking like

00:49:51 a 10. Like everyone 7 plus. And really, it depends if you're a 5, then you just hang

00:49:58 around other 5s and you're still a 10 to the other 5s because that's as high as they can

00:50:02 get. Right. How would you trust anyone if everyone knows exactly how wealthy you are

00:50:14 and can't ever look at you unconditioned by the money you've had? Okay, let me ask you

00:50:19 this. Who is the richest? Like how much money? Don't give me any details. How much money

00:50:25 does the richest person you regularly have contact with have? How much money does the

00:50:29 richest person you regularly have contact with have? Yeah, having a father is so important

00:50:35 to raise a young woman because she gets used to male attention. That is about her personality.

00:50:45 What is the wealthiest person you have regular contact with? And con men are afraid of strong

00:50:54 fathers, right? Which is why having a strong father around is the best thing for a woman

00:50:58 because a con man will realize that the strong father, the father knows the male personality.

00:51:03 Women are like, "Oh, he just really likes me." And it's like, "No, he's probably just

00:51:06 some hairy-legged guy. Grabby, grabby, grabby." Right? What is the converse situation like

00:51:11 for women? I don't know what that means. We're trying to get men to understand women here.

00:51:18 You got, so somebody says a few hundred thousand, about a million probably net worth, half a

00:51:22 million, father-in-law is a millionaire, right? 2.2 to $5 million. Yeah. I will never know.

00:51:29 We don't discuss it. Well, of course you know. You have some idea. Some idea, right? I mean,

00:51:38 they're not living under a bridge, are they? Probably 5 to 10 million in assets, 2 to 10

00:51:43 million, half a million, few millions. I can't even tell you how scared teenage boys are

00:51:55 of me. I'm not trying to be intimidating. I'm actually trying to be friendly, but I

00:51:59 can't even tell you how scared teenage boys are of me. All right. So a few millions, a

00:52:04 hundred thousand, probably six to seven, low seven digits, right? When you are around the

00:52:16 richest person you know, does knowledge of their wealth, or how much does knowledge of

00:52:25 their wealth affect you? As they should be. No, no. I want to be in the middle, right?

00:52:32 I want to be in the middle. I don't want them to be so scared that they don't ask my daughter

00:52:36 out. You got to get that Aristotelian me. Cautious, not terrified. That's kind of what

00:52:46 we're looking for. I haven't forgotten about your question, your comment, by the way, about

00:52:51 a very little, right? Rich billionaires with stupid money. I don't know about that. I can

00:53:05 guess, but he's a rich Arab whose family has four passports at least. Yeah, well, probably

00:53:08 quite a bit of money there, right? Probably quite a bit of money there. I respect their

00:53:17 successes, right? I don't talk to rich friends about money so they don't think I'm after

00:53:23 theirs. Right. So it's conditioning, right? You don't talk to them about money so you

00:53:26 don't think, right? All right, so let me ask you this. Let me ask you this. If you are

00:53:34 an entrepreneur who needs $50,000 or $100,000 to start your business, right? I started,

00:53:43 I co-founded the software company with $80,000, right? So if you are, you've an entrepreneur,

00:53:51 you know you've got a great business plan, but you need $50,000 or $100,000 to get it

00:53:56 started, what is it like to be around a wealthy person you know could fund it like that? So

00:54:08 you need his money. He's definitely got the money to give you and you're hanging out and

00:54:14 you know your life's dream could be one question away. Would you mind or could we talk? You

00:54:19 know, I don't mean to be awkward, but you know, you're poised to get your life's dream

00:54:26 to get your business going. You're around someone who could fund it like that and wouldn't

00:54:32 even notice it. What is it? The Canadian guy, Kevin O'Leary, he's very rich and he says

00:54:36 with regards to family and money, he says, "If you want $50,000 from me, I will write

00:54:40 you the check. I will write you the check, but it's not a loan, it's a gift, but you

00:54:44 can never ask me again. Don't talk to me about it. I'll write you the check, but you can

00:54:50 never ask me again." So it would be in the back of my mind all the time, tempting, good

00:54:58 opportunity, horrible, desperation, anxiety. I have a great business idea. Unless I was

00:55:04 very certain, I wouldn't ask. You can't ask for it. It would change the friendship. I

00:55:09 don't want them to. It's not my money. I'll find a different way. Why wouldn't, okay,

00:55:18 tell me why wouldn't you ask? Why wouldn't you ask? Why wouldn't you ask? I mean, maybe

00:55:30 it's right. Ask once and drop it. Yeah, there's a scene in, I always forget the name of it,

00:55:38 that bear movie, The Edge or whatever it is with Alec Baldwin and Anthony Hopkins. Anthony

00:55:46 Hopkins is a super rich guy. He goes up to Alaska to do some hunting and fishing or whatever.

00:55:51 He's out back looking at the lake. Some guy talks to him. They have a little bit of a

00:55:54 pleasant conversation and then the guy says, "Yeah, but I really want to expand my hunting

00:55:58 lodge and make it a full this, that and the other." It would only take a certain amount

00:56:01 of money and Anthony Hopkins is like, "Oh, I thought you just wanted to talk to me. Turns

00:56:03 out you're just like everybody else and you want money." Friendship is based on the fact

00:56:10 that I don't beg. Why is asking for money for a business idea begging? I don't understand

00:56:16 that. Why is that begging? I don't, I mean, you want to have some pride, but not that

00:56:23 level of pride where asking for any kind of help is begging. You could never stop thinking

00:56:28 about it, especially if being an entrepreneur is really important to you. Yeah, this is

00:56:31 your life dream. This is your life dream. Because I haven't thought of a way to use

00:56:38 that money that is better than what they are doing with it. No, but the argument is that

00:56:42 you have, right? It's the way I ask out women. I ask well enough where I'm destroying the

00:56:48 relationship. I don't know what that means. I would ask for an investment, but not a handout.

00:56:52 I never said it was a handout. Bezos got money from a McKenzie family to start Amazon. If

00:56:58 it's a win-win investment opportunity, it's worth discussing. Well, not really. Like,

00:57:06 sorry to be annoying entrepreneurial investment history guy, but if you're looking for $50,000

00:57:11 to $100,000, it's probably not worth a super rich friend of yours getting involved. See,

00:57:17 I mean, I remember an investor telling me this many years ago. If you're going to ask,

00:57:20 ask big. If you're going to ask small, the investor is not going to care because it takes

00:57:26 as much due diligence to research the viability of a $100,000 investment as it does a $10

00:57:33 million investment, right? You can't make money off $100,000 investments as an investor

00:57:41 because the amount of due diligence it takes and research and talking to the, like, it's

00:57:45 the same. So you might as well go big, right? Which is why we didn't go, when I was first

00:57:49 co-founding the software company back in the early 90s, we didn't go to an investment bank.

00:57:54 We didn't go to investors because nobody cares about 80 grand. You kind of have to get it

00:57:57 from a friend. Like we got it from people we knew and they made a fortune off it, which

00:58:02 was great. But if they say no, it will be very awkward. It's better to find your own

00:58:08 way unless it's life or death. Okay. I get that. It's better to find your own way, but

00:58:13 we're talking about the guy can afford it. You don't have any, I mean, maybe you can

00:58:17 find some other way, but how do you get $100,000 if you're broke, you can't get $100,000 if

00:58:21 you're broke. In this case, I'm sorry, there was nothing intrinsically wrong with asking,

00:58:26 but it would fundamentally change the nature of the relationship. Maybe. I mean, I stayed

00:58:33 friends with somebody who invested in my early business. I would talk about it and gauge

00:58:37 their interest. If they seemed more and more interested, I would tell more and more and

00:58:42 also go over everything in a realistic way, going over benefits and risks as far as I

00:58:45 understand. Right. But the guy with a lot of money isn't going to care that much about

00:58:49 your 50K. He's not like, oh, let's say I double my money. Well, he can double his money just

00:58:54 leaving his money in the bank for a week or something like that. So whatever. Right. So

00:58:58 in terms of 50K, how can he get another 50K? So, but you understand you would not be able

00:59:07 to stop thinking about the money and the fact that he could write a check and he wouldn't

00:59:10 even notice it, but it would completely change your life for the better. And your dream would

00:59:13 come true. And right. This is like, if I needed 50 grand to start free domain radio back in

00:59:19 the day, I would have been all over that. I would have been calling my friends who had

00:59:23 any money and right. And of course I'd have no case to make it. I mean, oh, here's the

00:59:28 business plan. I don't know. Yell about philosophy and hope people donate. It's not really much

00:59:32 of a business plan for sure. It's not awkward if you're certain in that case, you're doing

00:59:37 them a favor by bringing their money in. Maybe, maybe. I don't want to be just another person

00:59:42 in the line of people who want money from him. Such as his daughters that he had to

00:59:48 cut off. I don't know what that means. Oh, this is a story I probably missed the part

00:59:52 of right. All right. So if you're a young, reasonably attractive woman, you are surrounded

01:00:06 by people who will do almost anything to get access to you. Right. It's really a race to

01:00:15 the bottom. Now there will be a couple of honorable guys in the mix for sure. But okay,

01:00:21 we've got some young, attractive women or women who've had the experience of being young

01:00:25 attractive. What percentage of the men who show interest in you are honorable men who

01:00:31 care about you? Right. What percent? And this is for the women. What percentage of men,

01:00:40 whether if you were young in the past, if you're young now, what percentage of men who

01:00:44 show interest in you are honorable men who want to get to know you as a person? And how

01:00:49 many are just like, she's pretty. And of course there can be a bit of the circles could kind

01:00:56 of overlap a little bit. Right. If it's a friend, he'd probably be happy to invest in

01:01:00 your career. Well, here's the thing too. Don't negotiate for other people. Close to zero.

01:01:06 It's close to zero, right? It's close to zero. And men, not understanding women is just a

01:01:15 form of lying to yourself. Right? Not understanding women is kind of lying to yourself because

01:01:23 as a man, and we got to be honest, we got to be honest, right? We don't have to, but

01:01:27 we should. Got to be honest. As a man, how many of the women you were attracted to, were

01:01:33 you attracted for their qualities of character versus their looks? So what have we got here?

01:01:41 This is probably why most rich people don't hang out with poor people. It's tough, right?

01:01:46 Yeah. So if he's a friend, he'd probably be happy to invest in your career. Yeah. I mean,

01:01:49 he might be happy. Hey man, you know, this has been your dream. I'm happy to help. Right?

01:01:54 Close to zero. Yeah. It's close to zero. You're so spot on with this. My sister was always

01:02:00 way prettier than me. And I got to see an outside view of how men treated her versus

01:02:04 me. Very few, 5%. None, a hundred percent because I'm male. I'm so clever. Recently

01:02:09 moved all of a sudden, every guy I knew came out of the woodwork to offer to help me move

01:02:14 into my new home. Oh yes. My mating display is I'm going to lift heavy things in front

01:02:22 of you. I think Steph has said men are rarely true friends of women because they're always

01:02:28 partly open to sex. That's a fact. Only one up to this point. Right. Do you think men

01:02:37 with sisters understand women easier? I don't know. Every single one was looks except for

01:02:42 two. Right. Right. 99 out of a hundred guys who float around a pretty woman, lying to

01:02:56 her and manipulating her. Now it's not just for sex. It's for status, right? It's for

01:03:04 status. Thank you. Some thanks and encouragement for the piece of parenting book. Appreciate

01:03:08 that. Even though it's close to zero, if you're as smart as you are beautiful, successful

01:03:19 men will give you the time of day. Yeah. Yeah. So a man who has, I mean, I was once dating,

01:03:25 I once dated a woman in my twenties. She was so pretty that there were jokes that everybody

01:03:30 mistook me for her bodyguard. It was kind of funny. It was kind of funny. I hope men

01:03:36 understand better after you talk for us. One decision is a lifetime and for the rest of

01:03:39 our lives. Right. So everyone's lying to you and manipulating you. And of course, as a

01:03:44 woman, excuse me, you have your own hormones, your own desires. You find men hot and attractive.

01:03:48 And so you want to have sex and they're pretty and guys are handsome guys, whatever. Right.

01:03:52 So like, just understand that for women, caution is survival. Caution and skepticism is survival.

01:04:03 Right. How many people chat to a billionaire just to pass the time of day or how many people

01:04:11 are just kind of conditioned by the fact that he's got money and could write them a check

01:04:14 for a million dollars and not even notice it? Women are surrounded by liars, cheats,

01:04:25 manipulators, con men, exploiters, and it's moths to a flame. It's moths to a flame. When

01:04:37 if you're a young, attractive woman and a man comes up to talk to you, your default

01:04:42 assumption is he's a lying manipulator. He's telling you he finds you interesting. He's

01:04:50 telling you he finds you intelligent. He's telling you he finds you funny, but he just

01:04:55 wants to get in your pants. Now, very few men understand this like deeply. I mean, we

01:05:02 do understand it because that's what we're attracted to for the most part when we're

01:05:05 young in particular, but very few men understand this. Now women are so guarded. Women are

01:05:09 so hostile. Women are so tense. It's like, "Hello." Imagine walking through a really

01:05:15 bad neighborhood with a clear plastic bag full of $10,000. Are you a little jumpy when

01:05:21 someone chases after you saying, "Hey, man, I just want to talk." "Hey, slow down, man.

01:05:32 I just want to talk to you. Please stay at a distance." You're walking through a bad

01:05:39 neighborhood, $10,000 in a clear plastic bag. Or you're driving through a really bad neighborhood

01:05:51 in a Lamborghini where there's a lot of stop lights, a lot of stop signs. Do you want to

01:05:54 gun it? Are you tense? Now, of course, the way that society dealt with this in the past

01:05:59 was to have men and women marry off young. So that the woman has, she's off the market,

01:06:05 she's got a protector, she's got a ring, she's got a dot on the head, whatever it is.

01:06:10 "Why are you running?" You just got to understand this. I saw those videos of people walking

01:06:21 in the hood with a backpack full of cash. "Oh, yeah, right." If a quality man truly

01:06:27 loves you, he will court you first. I get that. But you're still not understanding women.

01:06:38 If a truly quality man truly loves you, he will court you first. Okay, everybody knows

01:06:42 that. So what do con men do? They pretend to court you. They pretend to be reasonable.

01:06:48 They pretend to be, right? Well, just you have a magic wand that separates the honest

01:06:54 guys from the liars. I mean, listen, I criticize women, of course, for choosing badly, but

01:07:00 please understand. It's tough to choose well when most people around you are conning you.

01:07:07 Does that make sense? It's really, really hard to choose well. It's like if everybody

01:07:17 knows you have $20 million and everybody, friends, family, strangers, they're swarming

01:07:22 you with business proposals. How easy is it to choose a good business proposal from all

01:07:29 the people swarming you because you have money waving their business proposals? Beautiful

01:07:36 women are stalked all the time. Oh, yes, that's the other thing too. What if you get a psycho?

01:07:41 What if some guy, and listen, Jodie Foster went through this. Sandra Bullock had some

01:07:46 guy jumping out of her closet that completely messed her up, which I can completely understand.

01:07:51 So you're posting your pictures on Instagram and then somebody just becomes obsessed with

01:07:58 you. They say being a beautiful woman is like being a rock star. No, it's not. No, it's

01:08:04 not. Because rock stars don't roam the streets unprotected. And rock stars know what they're

01:08:14 getting into. Women are born into it. Sometimes I try to emphasize with women by thinking

01:08:22 that from their perspective, all men are basically what bears are to men. You can think of it

01:08:27 like whatever corrupt country you think of. It's like, yeah, there are a couple of honorable

01:08:30 policemen, but a lot of them are just really dangerous and will plant evidence and get

01:08:33 you thrown in jail and kidnap you and extort you and so on. It's like, oh, no, I need to

01:08:39 get to a policeman. Oh, God. That would be exhausting. I'd be tempted towards hostility.

01:08:58 So a woman, of course, needs to show how attractive she is in order to get the attention of a

01:09:03 quality man, but she gets the attention of a lot of low quality men. So this phase of

01:09:08 maximum display of attractiveness, whatever you want to call it, right? Showing an ankle

01:09:12 in the Victorian age. This time of maximum attraction to men is supposed to last from

01:09:19 three to six months. Like you come of age, you debut, you come out as your Debbie Chambald

01:09:24 or something like that. So three to six months, you're supposed to be married. If you are

01:09:29 a beautiful woman in London, you can never be alone. Yeah, that's true. What about women

01:09:35 who hard reject, almost disrespect men who shoot their shot? Do they have no fear? I'll

01:09:44 get to that one in a second. A woman says, I dated a handsome, well-educated guy for

01:09:51 six weeks, broke up with him because he lied about having a job. Five weeks later, he came

01:09:55 back to stalk me, tried to break into my home, etc. The police tried to talk him out of it,

01:09:58 but he just couldn't understand why he shouldn't try to force me to date him again. I had to

01:10:02 move, right? Again, really, really alarming and scary stuff. Michelle says, my parents

01:10:11 never prepared me for the real world. And at my first job ever at 18, men were approaching

01:10:17 me. It was absolutely terrifying. A couple even waited outside for hours or followed

01:10:21 me to my car. Yeah, it's terrifying. It's terrifying. So yeah, I mean, massive, massive

01:10:34 sympathies, right? Massive sympathies. And this is because in the modern world, like

01:10:41 in modern society, men aren't allowed to protect women. This is why women are so nervous and

01:10:45 jumpy and blue haired and anxious and believe in every man's a predator. It's because men

01:10:50 are no longer allowed to protect women in the modern world. And massive sympathies with

01:10:57 the, you know, you had to move. Yeah, yeah, for sure. It's terrifying. There's a lot of

01:11:02 men who don't take no for an answer. And unfortunately, there's a lot of literature that women like

01:11:07 that encourage men to not take no for an answer. Right? In the old show, Sex and the City,

01:11:15 right? In the old show, an ex-boyfriend comes to the main character. She tells him not to

01:11:21 get in the elevator. He gets in the elevator. She tells him to keep his distance. He doesn't

01:11:25 keep his distance. He corners her, pins her against the far wall, kisses her violently.

01:11:35 She says, "F you." He kisses her again. She twists to try and get away. He kisses her

01:11:40 again. She melts into his arms and says, "F me." And then they have sex. Really, really

01:11:47 bad. Really, really terrible. Thank you for your work on the Peaceful Parenting book.

01:11:54 Thank you. I appreciate that. She says, "So true. I carry pepper spray everywhere. I consider

01:12:02 all men grizzly bears." Right. To be a woman is to be on perpetual alert. Oh, man. When

01:12:14 I worked retail in my teens, the characters that came in the store left me shocked. I

01:12:18 couldn't imagine being a pretty girl. Oh, this is the woman who got stalked. Yeah, cops

01:12:26 couldn't do much but order him to restrain from being within a three-block radius of

01:12:29 my house, but he didn't care. It has to be scary for women to be on dating apps. I just

01:12:37 don't understand. That is why I think all women should stay armed. Yeah, I didn't say

01:12:44 gun waving. I'm fine for gun rights, but I don't understand that gun waving is the solution

01:12:49 to everything. It's like, so you shoot a guy. Excellent. I mean, he may deserve it, but

01:12:56 you've taken a life and now you have legal process to go through for years where you

01:13:01 have to wonder if you're going to jail for a decade or more. Last week, I had a first

01:13:07 date with a woman who broke off a four-year relationship. She wanted kids. He stayed vague

01:13:12 on the subject for a long time. Yeah, maybe at some point, sure. After four years, she

01:13:15 actively actually confronted him in a more assertive manner and responded that he didn't

01:13:18 actually want kids. Now, they've been broken up for two years. Her friends now are advising

01:13:22 her to date somewhat casually. Her mother says that if worse comes to worse, she can

01:13:26 always be a single mother. I didn't go to a second date. Yeah. Yeah, men are not allowed

01:13:35 to protect women anymore, so women are very scared. And it's very tough, right? It's very

01:13:41 tough. I think women who are on dating apps lessen their guard after a few successful

01:13:45 dates. I don't know what that means. Yeah, I mean, a sane person doesn't want to be in

01:13:57 a situation where they have to shoot someone, kill someone. You want to avoid that as much

01:14:02 as possible. Or self-defense. I accept the right of self-defense. Absolutely. But you

01:14:07 don't want to have to exercise it in general. So, in general, what would happen in the past

01:14:25 is men would give women protection and money in return for housemaking and children, right?

01:14:32 Homemaking and children, right? Running the household and having children, raising the

01:14:35 children, right? And now, because women get money from the state, either directly through

01:14:45 welfare or indirectly through alimony payments and so on, right? Or retirement pensions that

01:14:51 they get way more out of than they paid into, or healthcare or whatever it is, right? So

01:14:54 women get money from the state, but the state doesn't protect them. So women are getting

01:14:59 the effects of what used to be a protective relationship without the actual protection,

01:15:03 which is why women are so jumpy these days. Does this make sense? Oh, men are not allowed

01:15:08 to protect women? I'll give you an example from my own personal life, and I've mentioned

01:15:12 this before. Women need to be very careful on dating apps. A girl I know got assaulted

01:15:21 at the end of the date. Guy seemed completely sane, and she invited him over. Well, you

01:15:25 can invite a guy over. My gosh. Also a cliche, says this lovely young lady, also a cliche,

01:15:35 but I've been pulled over for extremely minor things a lot. Last I counted, it was 21 times.

01:15:39 Yeah, cops will sometimes pull over girls because they're pretty. And I'm not sure that

01:15:50 self-defense is much of a thing anymore these days, legally. So with regards to my mother,

01:16:07 I think I could have saved her, but I wasn't allowed to in a way. I mean, I would have

01:16:12 had a good chance at saving her. So when my mother stopped working, I would have been

01:16:19 happy to pay her bills, but she would have had to go to therapy and take some responsibility,

01:16:26 right? Oh, it used to be called driving while blonde? That's funny. So because my mother

01:16:35 got money from the government, I had no authority to guide her towards some kind of self-ownership

01:16:44 and better mental health practices. Does this make sense? If I had been paying her bills

01:16:52 and she had been reliant upon me for her income, I would have been able to instill better habits.

01:16:57 I would have said, you know, you got to quit smoking because I don't want to pay for your

01:17:00 cigarettes. You got to live on something other than instant coffee. And you've got to study

01:17:08 some stress management and maybe take some therapy. So I would have been able to guide

01:17:11 her towards some better, healthier practices in her life. And the relationship might have

01:17:16 been saved. She might have been saved. Something like that, right? I mean, it's hard to imagine

01:17:20 that she would genuinely prefer to live homeless than improve her health habits, right? And

01:17:29 I would say, listen, you've got to go to the dentist. Like just things that she needed

01:17:33 to do, right? But I had no capacity to exercise any guidance with regards to my mother. So

01:17:49 I was not allowed to protect my mother. Does this make sense? I hope this makes sense.

01:17:54 I was not allowed to protect my mother. I was barred from protecting my mother. So she

01:18:08 did not have the benefit of my protection. Tell me if this sort of makes sense. Yeah,

01:18:17 men are not allowed to protect women anymore. And women are in danger a lot. A lot. And

01:18:27 in particular, fathers, by being banished from the household by a variety of statist

01:18:31 and fiat currency machinations, fathers are not around to protect their daughters anymore.

01:18:40 Really, Jared? Really? You're getting involved in a self-defense argument on the side? Right.

01:18:50 So, yeah, makes sense. Okay. So, let me… it sucks how casual this one-night-stand culture

01:18:58 has become. Yeah. All right, so let me get to the comment. So if you remember, I think

01:19:08 it was on Friday, it was either Wednesday or Friday, this fine gentleman was upset.

01:19:16 I thought he was upset when I was talking about causality as a ratio. When people say,

01:19:21 "Well, I do this because of that in my past." And I'm like, "No, you don't. Don't make

01:19:24 excuses. Don't take away your free will. Don't blame your past for why you choose things

01:19:28 in the present. That's lazy and dull and NPC." Right? I didn't quite put it that harsh, but…

01:19:35 So he said, "Hi, Steph. I think I've recently… Sorry. I think I've found why I'm emotionally

01:19:41 resistant to the idea that causality is erasure." Right? So if you blame things on your past,

01:19:47 you limit your free choice in the present. Right? Like if I had said to myself, "Well,

01:19:50 you know, I grew up in a poor welfare house and single mom, crazy, went to… both my

01:19:57 parents went to asylums and whatever. Like if I can't make anything of my life, I'm

01:20:03 going to be messed up," then I wouldn't have the life I had. Right? I refuse to let

01:20:07 the unchosen past… Past, yeah, because I'm giving it a past. Right? I refuse to let the

01:20:12 unchosen past dictate future possibilities. That is to let the past win, the crazy people

01:20:18 win, the trauma win. I refuse to do it. I refuse, refuse, refuse. And I would go to

01:20:23 my grave refusing to let the past determine the future, unless it's my age causing my

01:20:30 mortality. Okay, fine. But I'll even try and push that off as long as possible. So,

01:20:33 "Hi, Steph. I think I found why I'm emotionally resistant to the idea that causality is erasure.

01:20:40 The idea seems to invalidate my rejection of my mother as a result of her past actions

01:20:44 that have caused myself and my sibling harm. Since emotionally I am using the past to reject

01:20:49 my mother, it is difficult to let go of the past, even if it causes my erasure." It's

01:20:55 a little hard to follow, but I'm sure I'll get there. "Love as a response to virtue

01:20:59 can be used as a real-time assessment of my mother, but it seems to lack the same emotional

01:21:03 weight as my lifetime of experience with her. If I am asked why I reject my mother, the

01:21:08 dominoes of this past will be the justification because they feel more true than a present-day

01:21:12 evaluation based on her current virtue or lack thereof. My solution to the seeming contradiction

01:21:18 is to recognize that my brother, with a shared past as me, has chosen to accept my mother.

01:21:23 In this sense, it is not the past that speaks for itself, but me who is choosing to interpret

01:21:28 the past. I am therefore choosing to reject my mother as a result of my chosen values,

01:21:33 just as my brother is choosing to accept my mother based on his chosen values. Emotionally,

01:21:38 the past is used as evidence for my values rather than the cause of my values. Is this

01:21:43 a correct way to deal with causality is erasure emotionally." Look at that! Beautiful! Pull

01:21:50 out of the wreckage for a three-point landing. Well done, well done, well done.

01:21:54 Okay, just hit me with a "why". My friend, if you are still around, I'm not sure if I'm

01:22:05 talking to you or to people as a whole, that's a lot of unnecessary words. Boy, aren't you

01:22:12 judgy. He's trying to put his whole life into two paragraphs in a very complicated way,

01:22:17 so I don't know. Just because I'm having trouble understanding it doesn't mean it's incomprehensible.

01:22:22 It just means I'm having trouble understanding it. Trying to understand somebody else and

01:22:26 their language and how they're using things when there's not a commonly accepted definition.

01:22:32 I just want to make sure I understand what you're saying. I'm trying to rephrase it to

01:22:48 make sure that we're on the same page. It doesn't have to be perfect, but I really want

01:22:51 to make sure I'm addressing what your actual issues and questions are. I want to make sure

01:22:55 of that. It's really, really important to me. I don't want to just riff on your thing

01:22:59 against what's valuable to you.

01:23:01 Okay, so causality is erasure. The idea seems to invalidate my rejection of my mother as

01:23:06 a result of her past actions that have caused myself and my siblings harm. So you're saying

01:23:13 that your concern was that if causality is erasure, then it erases your desire to not

01:23:22 see your mother because it's the dominoes of her past actions that had you not see your

01:23:26 mother, and therefore if causality is erasure, your desire not to see your mother is erased.

01:23:32 Yourself is erased because it's the dominoes of her past behavior just knocked over this

01:23:37 I don't want to see her thing. Does that make sense? Does that make sense? Let me know.

01:23:44 Just hit me with a "why" if that's in the ballpark.

01:23:58 You are correct. Okay, good. I wanted to make sure I understand this. And listen, you did

01:24:01 in two paragraphs explain something quite complicated, and I appreciate that. That's

01:24:06 very well done. Well done, if you don't mind me saying so. All right. Since emotionally

01:24:11 I'm using the past to reject my mother, it's difficult to let go of the past even if it

01:24:14 causes my erasure. Right. So if I'm saying you blame the past for your current decisions,

01:24:22 it erases you and removes your free will. So if the causality to your free will is your

01:24:29 mother's behavior, then saying, "well, you can't blame your current decisions on past

01:24:34 behaviors" erases the validity of blaming your mother for her past bad behavior. And

01:24:42 that's a brilliant, brilliant problem, and I'm really, really glad you've brought it

01:24:47 up.

01:24:48 Love as a response to virtue can be used as a real-time assessment of my mother, but it

01:24:51 seems to lack the same emotional weight as my lifetime of experience with her. If I am

01:24:55 asked why I reject my mother, the dominoes of the past would be the justification because

01:25:00 they feel more true than a present-day evaluation based on her current virtue or lack thereof.

01:25:07 Right. So I'm going to make an analogy for those who don't have this direct experience.

01:25:13 And you know, please, rising nature, if my analogy is incorrect, please tell me and I

01:25:18 will work to refine it or abandon it if it doesn't fit. So it would be like some guy

01:25:24 killed his wife, he murdered his wife. He plotted it, he planned it out. It's first

01:25:27 degree, it's the worst kind, right? He murdered his wife and he's found guilty. And then the

01:25:34 judge says, "well, I can't send you to jail because that's saying that the dominoes of

01:25:38 your past behavior compel me to send you to jail. And therefore I'm not making a free

01:25:43 choice in the present. And I want to be able to make a free choice in the present. So I

01:25:47 have to do it without reference to the past. So I can't send you to jail because what you

01:25:52 did is in the past." Let me know if this analogy works, not just for you, but for other people.

01:26:01 You can't reference the past because that limits your choice in the present. Therefore

01:26:04 you can't judge anyone for what they did in the past because that limits your choice in

01:26:08 the present. Which is a really, really, and thank you so much for coming back. What a

01:26:12 fantastic objection. Let me know if this makes sense. It works for you, that's important,

01:26:19 but I want to make sure it works for other people as well. Yes, okay, okay, that makes

01:26:29 sense. Right. So causality is erasure. So let me ask the person, rising nature, let

01:26:48 me ask you, and I hate to ask you to be brief, but it is a live stream, so we could do a

01:26:53 call in at freedomain.com if you want to do that. Briefly, and I apologize for that, I

01:27:00 really do apologize for that. It's just the nature of the medium. Briefly, what was your

01:27:05 mother's excuse for behaving badly? Everybody has a risk. My mother's excuse was, well,

01:27:12 when I was young, it was like, "Well, you know, your father abandoned us and you're

01:27:15 difficult kids." And when she got older, it was, "Well, the doctors injected me with

01:27:19 stuff and made me sick," and all that kind of stuff, right? So she had excuses. So what

01:27:23 was her excuse as to behaving badly, or does she even admit that she behaved in any negative

01:27:28 way whatsoever? As far as I can see, this is straight up incorrect. Taking into account

01:27:37 the past doesn't limit your choice, it only improves the quality of decision making. And

01:27:44 we all understand that. But the question is, when I say you can't blame your current decisions

01:27:49 on the dominoes of the past, that's contradictory to your point, which is, so if we have two

01:27:53 reasonable points, we need to find some way that they're compatible, right? Ah, my sister

01:28:00 did a call in with you. She blamed my stepmother who cooked the infamous soup. Ah, okay, okay.

01:28:05 So, let me ask you this. If you're standing at the bottom of a hill, and a big rock is

01:28:26 bouncing down the hillside or the mountainside, and it looks like it might hit you, do you

01:28:31 run? Do you run? Do you run away? Of course you do, right? You run away. Now, the actions

01:28:49 of the rock are causal, right? It doesn't have free will, it doesn't have choice, it's

01:28:54 not evaluating you based upon ideal standards. The rock bouncing down the mountainside has

01:29:02 no free will, no choice, and therefore it's not going to try and steer away from you,

01:29:07 it's just going to land wherever it lands, and if that's on you, you're dead, right?

01:29:12 I am refreshing my chat. No, it's always late. It's always late. The chat is always late,

01:29:16 I'm not sure why. So, you have not been hit by that rock before, but you understand the

01:29:26 physics based upon your experience, right? Based upon your experience, you run because

01:29:32 the rock could hit you. So, your understanding of the physics of rocks, of you, of momentum,

01:29:45 of the delicacy of flesh, all of that, you've not directly experienced it before, but you

01:29:55 know the danger based upon your prior experience, right? Now, your prior experience with matter,

01:30:07 energy, injury, danger, momentum, and all of that, physics and biology, your prior experience

01:30:16 is dictating your desire to run away from the rock that's coming down the mountainside,

01:30:22 right? I think regardless of whatever we've talked about before, we can say that your

01:30:27 prior experience is causing you to run away.

01:30:31 Or you could say, now, of course, if you were trying to die, right? Let's say that you were

01:30:35 some really depressed guy, you've got a $5 million life insurance, and if you get hit

01:30:40 by a rock that looks like an accident, then the insurance will pay out, so you're trying

01:30:45 to die, right? So, it's not the rock that is making you run, it is your desire to live

01:30:51 that is making you run. Because if you don't want to live, if you want the rock to cream

01:30:54 you so that your family gets $5 million and you're put out of your misery, then you'll

01:30:57 stay there. So, even physical causality doesn't make you run.

01:31:03 Right? The rock is not making you run. I ran away because the rock was bouncing down.

01:31:14 No, that's not accurate. It's a shorthand we all understand because most people don't

01:31:19 want to get creamed by a giant boulder bouncing down a hill. You said, well, why did you run?

01:31:25 Well, the rock was coming down the hill. No, technically, that's not what made you run.

01:31:30 What made you run was not wanting to die. Yeah, the rock doesn't force you to run. You

01:31:38 don't run because the rock's coming down. You run because you don't want to die. You

01:31:41 don't want to get injured. You don't want to get hurt. Right? So, you're not running

01:31:51 from the past. You're running from the future, the future of being dead or maimed or severely

01:31:58 injured or injured at all. Right? Maybe it's just a glancing blow, but it hurts like hell

01:32:01 for a while. Why would you want that? You're not running from the past. You're using the

01:32:08 past to be safe in the future. You're not running from the past. You're running to a

01:32:17 safer future. Now, you need information from the past. Otherwise, you can't have a safer

01:32:24 future. If you have no idea what rocks are, I mean, who knows, right? Maybe you have some

01:32:30 mental incapacity or something. Then you just stand there, "Oh, pretty rock. Maybe it'll

01:32:34 be my friend." Right? So, you use the past in order to be safe, happy, and healthy in

01:32:46 the future. So, if you get headaches and, like, I woke up this morning, I slept a little

01:32:52 long. I woke up with a little bit of a headache, so I used a massage gun to loosen up the old

01:32:55 shoulders and neck. Much better. So, if you have a headache, let's say, and you use a

01:32:59 massage gun to loosen your shoulders and your headache goes away, does having a headache

01:33:06 make you do that? No. No. You might have a headache giving a very important presentation.

01:33:13 You're not going to do that, right? It's not, you don't say, your wife says, "Why are you

01:33:23 using a massage gun?" "Because I have a headache." No. "Because I want to get rid of a headache."

01:33:27 That's different, right? "You're wrong, friend." "Mr. Obsidian will be my best friend." Smudge.

01:33:39 So the past, your mother's behavior does not dictate your response. And your response,

01:33:46 your choice is always, always, always, always, always, always, always about the future. Right?

01:33:55 Your choice is never about the past. When people blame their decisions on the past,

01:34:00 they're fundamentally misunderstanding what decisions are. I mean, if I were to say to

01:34:12 you, "Oh man, I had an exam yesterday. I missed it completely, but I'm going to choose to

01:34:18 be on time for it. I completely, I spaced out, I wrote the wrong exam time down, I missed

01:34:24 the exam, but I'm going to use my free will to be on time for the exam I missed yesterday."

01:34:31 Right? What would you say to me if I made that statement? What would you say? "Can't

01:34:37 do it. There is no free will called changing the past." What is free will always and forever

01:34:44 about? What is free will always and forever about? It is about the future. So saying,

01:34:53 "I'm doing what I'm doing because of the past," is saying, "I'm choosing the future entirely

01:34:59 based upon the past," which is saying that it's the past which you can't change that

01:35:03 is conditioning your future, which you can change. "Was your exam in time travel?" No

01:35:09 such thing as time travel. Never will be. And we know that, right? We know that because

01:35:16 - you ever met someone who's got knowledge of the future? If you say, "I have no free

01:35:34 will because of the past," you're saying that the future is identical to the past, which

01:35:40 it's not. I mean, this is a huge category error. The future is what you choose. The

01:35:45 past is what you can't choose. You can't choose the past. You can choose the future. You cannot

01:35:51 choose the past. And again, I know this is mind-bogglingly obvious, and I'm sorry. "Two

01:35:56 and two make four," he says to the PhD in mathematics. You can't choose the past. You

01:36:01 can't choose the future. And so if you allow the past, which you can't choose, to determine

01:36:07 the future, which you can choose, you're voluntarily surrendering something and making a massive

01:36:11 category error. Did my past determine or dictate how I was to be in the future? No. Because

01:36:23 of free will. "I can choose to sin or choose not to. I cannot choose what my fate is after

01:36:30 I choose." Yeah. I might meet a time traveler in the future. That's funny. The future is

01:36:36 the same as the past is a destruction of free will. Now, are you ready for the real mind-blowing

01:36:45 stuff? Are you ready? We're just dabbling around the edges here. We haven't gone in

01:36:50 balls deep yet. Are you ready for the truly mind-blowing stuff? I don't know if you are

01:36:53 or you're not. I just wanted to check. Nope, you're not. You're not ready. Oh, wait, that

01:37:06 was a little... I should put timestamps on these things, shouldn't I? I think you can.

01:37:09 Yeah, timestamps. There we go. Oh, it's not even by a second. You're ready? Right. Have

01:37:19 you ever pranked a friend as a kid by running at him and then swerving at the last moment?

01:37:27 Right. Or did you ever do this game where you pretend to throw a ball at someone? Psych,

01:37:35 but you just drop it instead. Right? Everybody's done this game, right? Everybody's done this

01:37:40 game, right? Now, the boulder coming down the hill has no choice about where it lands,

01:37:51 but if a friend is pretending, "Think fast!" Why doesn't that always say, "Think fast,

01:37:56 man! Think fast!" and then people would pretend to throw a ball at you or something like that,

01:38:00 right? Now, if your friend has done this a bunch of times, you don't worry about the

01:38:05 ball hitting you, right? Because your friend is choosing... he's just pretending, right?

01:38:10 He's pretending. In other words, his free will is saying, "Well, I could throw the ball

01:38:13 at someone, but I'm not going to throw the ball at someone." Oh my gosh, like I knew

01:38:19 a guy, not for very long after I found out about this story, but I knew a guy. His daughter,

01:38:26 I don't know, was like eight or nine years old, and his daughter had to do some project.

01:38:37 She had to make some tower, and he had a nail gun, was teaching his daughter how to use

01:38:44 the nail gun, but he'd secreted a pocket of ketchup, and when his daughter used the nail

01:38:49 gun, he was leaning in close, and he pretended that he'd taken out his eye or some part of

01:38:54 his head and had ketchup, and she completely... horrible, just absolutely horrible.

01:39:00 Think fast is actually a sign that the object is actually being thrown. Yes, but think fast

01:39:06 is the signal, if that's the case, think fast is the signal that the ball is going to get

01:39:11 thrown, right? Think fast, and you turn to catch the ball, right? Yeah, it's horrible.

01:39:21 It's just horrible in my view.

01:39:29 You know the game of chicken in cars? The chicken in cars is two people drive at each

01:39:36 other, and the first person to veer away loses, right? So that's the game of chicken, right?

01:39:42 With cars. Can we get the philosophy of pranks? That's a great idea. Probably not this show,

01:39:47 but it's a great idea. Pranks are a form of status domination. But anyway, so that's the

01:40:00 game of chicken, because both people have the choice to turn, right? Now you don't play

01:40:05 a chicken with a boulder rolling down the highway, right? "Oh, let's see who swerves

01:40:09 first," right? Because the boulder has no choice. The boulder is just rolling down the

01:40:13 highway, so if the boulder's rolling down the highway, you don't play chicken with it,

01:40:16 because you can't win. Because the boulder's never going to change its behavior. Does this

01:40:20 make sense? I know this sounds all very obvious, but we're getting to the core right now.

01:40:36 So the reason why it is probably wise to cut certain people out of your life is that they

01:40:45 are no longer exercising free will, and they have become boulders on the highway. They

01:40:51 have become boulders crashing down the side of the mountain. Yeah, the boulder fears no

01:41:01 fear. Feels no fear, so it always wins. Well, no, it doesn't win. It doesn't win, it doesn't

01:41:06 lose. There is no winning or losing, there's just a boulder. Wins implies losing, which

01:41:12 implies options. A boulder has no options. So once people have achieved NPC status, they

01:41:18 are boulders! You're not rejecting people who are exercising choices. This is why I

01:41:29 asked about the excuses, right? "Boulder wins the chicken game every time." Right, so this

01:41:38 is why I was asking about your mother's excuses. Excuses are promises of repetition, as I said,

01:41:42 as I've always said. Excuses are promises of repetition. So, with regards to my own

01:41:49 life, because my mother refused to take any responsibility, always made excuses, always

01:41:54 blamed others, her behavior wasn't going to change. She was now a boulder. You don't negotiate

01:42:03 with a boulder, what do you do? Get out the way. Remove yourself from the situation, because

01:42:09 the boulder can't be reasoned with. The boulder can't change. The boulder can't figure anything

01:42:14 out. The boulder has no free will. So people who say, "I am the way I am because of things

01:42:21 in the past," are saying their past will always be the future, and they're boulders. Tell

01:42:35 me if this... Thanks, I got the response. I'll get to that in a sec. When people make

01:42:41 excuses and they themselves blame their past for what is going on at the moment, I mean,

01:42:48 we all know a lot of ethnic grievances are, "Well, we have to be this way because of things

01:42:51 in the past." It's like, no, you don't. But as long as you blame the past, you will continue

01:42:57 to be acting on these ethnic grievances or these whatever grievances, right? So when

01:43:03 people openly tell you they will never change, and they are openly telling you, but they

01:43:10 won't take responsibility. They blame the past. They blame you. They blame others. They

01:43:14 are effects of others. They are effects of the environment. When they say, "I'm a rock

01:43:22 bouncing down a hill," what do you do? You can't maintain your free will if you are surrounded

01:43:32 by people who've abandoned their own. You cannot maintain your own free will if you

01:43:43 are surrounded by boulders, determinists, NPCs, whatever you want to call them, the

01:43:49 people who have abandoned their own free will. To put it another way, you will never have

01:43:54 more free will than the person around you who has the least free will. You will never

01:44:02 have more free will than the person around you who has the least free will. If you want

01:44:06 free will, you have to be surrounded by people who take responsibility, who accept choice,

01:44:15 who don't blame others or the past. Yeah, the other car could be a car with a brick

01:44:21 on the gas pedal where the steering wheel is lashed to go straight down the highway.

01:44:37 If you have problems with your parents, I've always said the same things. You sit down,

01:44:40 talk with your parents, tell them your issues, ask them their perspective, tell them what

01:44:44 went wrong, and you're doing that to gauge if they can un-boulder themselves. I mean,

01:44:59 imagine how short the Indiana Jones movie would be if he takes that treasure, the giant

01:45:05 boulder comes rolling down, and he's like, "Hey, let's talk about this. Whoa, whoa."

01:45:11 The end. We don't get to the pedophile later on. I was only a child. Whoa, creepy. Tell

01:45:24 me if this helps. Rejecting people who reject free will is accepting and enhancing free

01:45:32 will. Because there's a war between the excuse makers and the self-owners. There's a war

01:45:42 between those who are dominoes and those who have free will. There's a war between the

01:45:46 NPCs and the acceptors of responsibility. They're trying to get you to excuse their

01:45:56 behavior. You're trying to get them to take responsibility for their behavior. Indiana

01:46:02 pancake. That's right. Well, he would be an idiot. It would be a comedy, right? A bad

01:46:08 comedy. I mean, you know this war. I'm not telling you anything you don't know. What

01:46:15 is the war? The war is between people who take responsibility and those who blame others.

01:46:20 Isn't that the fundamental war in the world? People who make excuses and people who make

01:46:26 choices. And once we accept that there are massive legions of people out there who have

01:46:39 no effective self-ownership, who don't make choices, who blame the past, blame others,

01:46:42 make excuses, whatever, right? And you can't... No, it's not higher and lower values. It's

01:46:52 a war between the past and the future. Progress is the abandonment of the past. I mean, it

01:47:03 really is the only true division, right? I mean, we all understand this, you know, with

01:47:09 rape, right? The rapist says, "Oh, she was asking for it!" It's monstrous, right? It's

01:47:14 her fault. It's her fault, right? All right. So, the original poster says, "Yes, you are

01:47:26 spot on, Steph. This is the problem with inductive reasoning I was struggling with. We use the

01:47:29 past as a point of reference for trying to predict future consequences. It's like getting

01:47:33 food poisoning while eating raw fish. It's difficult in the future to choose raw fish

01:47:36 without that past food poisoning experience acting as a reference point. You are free

01:47:41 to eat fish but emotionally recoil from doing so." Yeah. The reason you rejected your mother

01:47:55 is because of this. You rejected your mother not because of the past. The past informed

01:48:04 you, of course. You rejected your mother because you rejected the pain of the future being

01:48:17 just like the past because she wasn't changing. She wasn't accepting responsibility. She wasn't

01:48:22 accepting ownership. She wasn't apologizing. She wasn't making restitution. She wasn't

01:48:31 finding a way that it would never happen again. You didn't reject your mother because of the

01:48:36 past. You saved the future by keeping a traumatic repetitive past out of your life. She's a

01:48:48 rock, a boulder bouncing down a hill, and you ran because you wanted a future free of

01:48:59 the trauma inflicted by people who are boulders, who just crash around, smash things up, never

01:49:07 take responsibility, screw up your life, call you up with trauma, never accept any advice,

01:49:12 never solve any of their problems. I mean there's a little meme template which is a

01:49:21 woman saying, "Oh, I just had a really bad day." And the guy's thinking, what he types

01:49:26 is, "Oh, what happened?" And what he's thinking is, "Does this witch ever have a good day?"

01:49:35 That is exactly what I did. I didn't want the future to be like, "I can't change the

01:49:38 past. I can't change the past. I couldn't change being born to my mother. I could change

01:49:42 whether I spend my adult life with my mother."

01:49:54 You are accepting the knowledge of the past and saying, "I don't want the future to be

01:49:58 like the past." Your future relationship with someone is contingent upon them taking responsibility.

01:50:08 If they don't take responsibility, the future will be just like the past. You've obviously

01:50:13 met my mother. It's really sad. If someone won't take responsibility, they won't change.

01:50:23 If they won't change, the future will be just like the past. If you don't want a painful

01:50:30 past in your future and the person won't change, you have only one choice.

01:50:40 You are preserving free will because you can't have free will. Free will has something to

01:50:44 do with some control over your environment. Free will is all about control. If you can't

01:50:48 control something, you can't will it. Your state of mental health, your state of stability,

01:50:53 your state of anxiety avoidance, your state of depression avoidance, your state of predictability,

01:50:59 all of your emotional content of your life is not under your control if you have crazy

01:51:07 boulder people crashing through your life and your delicate glass menagerie shelf of

01:51:15 ornaments all day. You can't control your own moods if you're surrounded by the eternal

01:51:26 blame throwers of the NPC boulders. Can I be in control of my mood ever? Can I be in

01:51:36 control of my mood if my mom's calling me five times a day? Like my crazy, aggressive,

01:51:43 weird, whatever, right? Can I be in control of my own mood if crazy people are disrupting

01:51:55 me with their malevolence, chaos, blame, aggression, weirdness, being wrongness all the time and

01:52:04 never taking any advice? It's tough when you see someone you care about put themselves

01:52:10 in front of the boulder. Well, that's a mistake though. You can't care about somebody more

01:52:15 than they care about themselves. Maybe if you're a saint, but most likely no, no, absolutely

01:52:21 no. You will never have your own feelings when a boulder parent is around. You can't,

01:52:34 right? I have trouble with even one call a week with people like that. Yeah, I don't

01:52:41 do it. I don't do it. How can I possibly predict my own moods? Now, of course, if you're a

01:52:47 parent, you need to have mood stability for your children, and so it's really not even

01:52:51 a choice at that point, right? I mean, once you choose to have children, you have to protect

01:52:55 them. It's not really a choice. "Well, I had a baby. I don't really want to feed it." That's

01:52:58 not a moral thing, right? NPCs will turn you into an NPC. Do you know? Tell me if this

01:53:09 is interesting. Do you want to know this? Is this valuable? NPCs will NPC you.

01:53:15 Shifting the bird. Because it always comes down to the truth that they will choose protecting

01:53:36 themselves from the consequences of their action over your basic human rights. So do

01:53:40 you know how NPCs... because NPCs are saying, "Things outside of my control crash into me

01:53:46 and it's not my fault." So what they do is they then crash into you, which reproduces

01:53:50 their external dominoes causing their moods to now they are the external dominoes causing

01:53:57 your moods. They NPC you. They become the external causality that's out of their control,

01:54:12 which makes them act the way they do. They then become your external causality that's

01:54:15 outside your control. They make excuses based on dominoes, and then they become a domino

01:54:24 that crashes into other people, that tempts other people with an excuse that's based on

01:54:28 dominoes. "Well, I can't be in a good mood. My mother just called this morning." That's

01:54:33 not why you're in a bad mood. You're not in a bad mood because your mother called. Right?

01:54:44 If someone's in a bad mood after their mother calls, right? After this, therefore because

01:54:48 of this. Right? After this, therefore because of this. "Oh, I'm in a bad mood because my

01:54:57 mother called." Nope. No, you're not in a bad mood because your mother called. What's

01:55:05 the correct answer? What is the accurate answer as to why you're in a bad mood? Why are you

01:55:24 in a bad mood? And this is maximum responsibility. That to say I did something once which was

01:55:35 a domino. We all have. We all have. Betrayal of oneself is the greatest of them all. "I'm

01:55:43 in a bad mood because I chose it." Yeah. "I answered the call from my mother because you

01:55:52 chose to pick up the phone. You chose to answer the call. I stood in front of the boulder.

01:55:59 I'm in a bad mood because I appeased my mother's narcissism because they want you in a bad

01:56:02 mood. Bad mood due to not living up to what you know you can because you chose to lie

01:56:06 and answer a call you didn't really want to. So, your mother calls." I don't want to say

01:56:12 Bob. Bob, it's not you. Bob's mother calls. Bob is in a bad mood. Bob says, "I'm in a bad

01:56:18 mood because my mother called." What I would say to Bob is, "That's not why. You're in

01:56:22 a bad mood because you prefer the bad mood to the alternative. You want me on that wall.

01:56:31 You want the bad mood. So, I don't want to be in a bad mood, but you prefer it to the

01:56:36 alternative. Like, I don't want to go to the dentist, but I prefer it to the alternative

01:56:40 of tooth decay or whatever, right? You're in a bad mood because you prefer the bad mood

01:56:48 to the alternative. The alternative is having a frank conversation with your mother, setting

01:56:51 up some boundaries, figuring out your past, right? Learning from the past so that you

01:56:55 can have a different future, right? If the man stands in front of the boulder, gets hit

01:57:01 by the boulder, can he say, "He saw the boulder coming and he just stood there. He could have

01:57:07 gotten away. I don't want to get hit by the boulder." Yeah, okay. Maybe you don't want

01:57:10 to get hit by the boulder, but you prefer it to every alternative. And that's self-ownership.

01:57:24 You prefer it to the alternative, right? Like all the people who vote for the people who

01:57:29 let the prisoners out or the criminals out of prison and so on. It's like, "Well, I don't

01:57:33 want to get robbed." Well, you prefer it to the alternative, which is whatever, right?

01:57:37 Some different political choice, or I don't even know if there's a viable one anymore.

01:57:39 But you prefer it to the alternative. Now, if somebody says, "I don't want to do something,"

01:57:57 we can accept that. Yes, I don't want to answer the phone call from my mother. But compared

01:58:01 to what? Compared to what? I don't want this. Okay, compared to what? You prefer answering

01:58:16 the call from your crazy mother to setting boundaries with your crazy mother. I mean,

01:58:22 this is empiricism. Whatever you do, you prefer to do. I mean, you can make up anything that

01:58:28 you want, right? "I don't want to get back together with my crazy ex." But you got back

01:58:35 together with your crazy ex, so you do want to. "Well, I don't want to." Well, you do

01:58:39 want to compared to the alternative. A periodic reminder of the old post hoc ergo proctor

01:58:46 hoc fallacy is very useful. Read again, RTR fellas, right? Now, how do people react when

01:58:53 you give them full responsibility, right? When your girlfriend says, "My boss was really

01:59:01 terrible to me again today. I'm in a bad mood because my boss was upset to me." You see,

01:59:09 I'm telling you, once you see this, clearly, like your entire worldview will freak out.

01:59:15 Because people will always try to put an external causality to their feelings. And it's all

01:59:20 lies. All lies. "I'm unhappy because the father of my children abandoned us." Nope. Nope.

01:59:40 You prefer that guy to all the alternatives. Yeah, they get really, really, get really

01:59:46 angry, right? Really, really, really angry. Because the world is largely, these days in

01:59:56 particular, composed of a bunch of sociopaths mining people with empathy for resources by

02:00:01 blaming them for the failures of the sociopathy. "Oh, I'm not dating because I'm short. Women

02:00:13 don't like short guys." "Danny DeVito got married. It's older, right?" Everything you

02:00:24 ascribe external causality to diminishes you. You didn't separate from your mother because

02:00:32 of the past. You separated from your mother because of the future. Yeah, no child wants

02:00:38 to cut off mother or family. It's horrible. Horrible. But do you know why the mothers

02:00:46 don't compromise? And the fathers too. We're talking about moms here. Do you know why the

02:00:49 mothers don't compromise? It's really sad. Why don't the mothers say, "Oh, you know,

02:00:58 kid's really upset. Obviously, I've misjudged his situation. You know, boy, if I want to

02:01:01 have some kind of relationship, man, I at least got to pretend to listen. At least maybe

02:01:06 I go to therapy a couple of times or whatever it is." Do you know why the mothers so often

02:01:11 don't compromise? I mean, part of it's NPC, but they're evaluating, they're calculating.

02:01:26 Why don't the family members or the friends or whoever? Why? Feeling of ownership? No.

02:01:33 Vanity? More profitable not to? That's praxeological. All right. Because then they'd have to deal

02:01:44 with the status obliteration. No. The reason that mothers don't compromise. All right.

02:01:51 What happens when the mothers go and say, "My terrible children, my ungrateful children,

02:01:57 they don't even want to blah, blah, blah. They get involved in this, some online blah,

02:02:00 blah, blah. Like, it's just terrible. They're awful. They're selfish. They're mean." Right?

02:02:05 Why don't they compromise? Well, what happens when they go and cry victim to everyone around

02:02:09 them? What happens? What do they get back? What do they get back? What do people say?

02:02:22 What do people say? "Oh, you poor thing. Yeah, the Internet's really dangerous. Oh, my gosh.

02:02:29 I'm so sorry. You gave everything to those kids. You sacrificed everything to those kids.

02:02:34 I can't believe that they would be this mean and cruel. And I'm going to call them up and

02:02:38 I'm going to get mad at them for you. And I'm going to give them a piece of my mind."

02:02:41 Right? You see this all the time. All the time. Half the Internet is pornography and

02:02:47 the other half is people propping up everybody else's amoral, immoral delusions. Right? It's

02:02:56 not your fault. It's their, you know, the problem is that their father abandoned them.

02:03:00 And the problem is that they got online. And the problem, right? It's not your fault is

02:03:10 the devil's whisper. Right? Ah, yes. There is a channel, says this young lady on YouTube

02:03:20 right now where a mother did that to her daughter. Even the word estranged parents, they like

02:03:25 to put the word strange in there because it's a negative programming language. Right? At

02:03:30 first, she got sympathy. Now, people are clowning her and realizing what a horrid person she

02:03:33 is. Right. They are risking outside disapproval by compromising. I'm not sure that they care

02:03:44 about that. It's just that most people don't make decisions based on any principles. They

02:03:50 make decisions on what people around them will praise or punish them for. I mean, come

02:03:53 on. I'm sorry to state the blindingly obvious, but most people have no access to moral principles.

02:03:57 All they do is they try to figure out what they're going to be praised or punished for.

02:04:06 And if they're going to get sympathy, right? I mean, sometimes even driving away your kids

02:04:12 is a Munchausen by proxy thing. Right? They want attention. They want sympathy. And if

02:04:16 they're just horrible to their children and they get a lot of drama from their children

02:04:19 and their children won't even call them back and they go crying to their friends and they

02:04:22 get all this attention and all this sympathy. There's a lot of Munchausen by proxy, I think,

02:04:25 in this being horrible to your kids stuff. I blow up on my mom on the phone a lot. I

02:04:32 feel like I'm probably the bolder. Yeah, but you don't blow up on your mom because you're

02:04:36 on the phone a lot. Well, so as people have been detached from moral principles through

02:04:42 the fall of Christianity and subjective morality, as people have fallen away from objective

02:04:46 morality, what's happened is social punishment and social praise have now escalated to insane

02:04:52 levels because that's what works. In the absence of morals, you just do what people praise

02:04:56 you for and avoid what people condemn you for.

02:05:06 Now is everybody forgetting to tip and support? Come on, man, I'm working hard here. These

02:05:12 are new truth bombs. Answering people's questions, Ninja, Jackie Channing, the whole complicated

02:05:18 miasma of the modern world and a couple of tips wouldn't go amiss. I mean, somebody tipped

02:05:24 nice at the beginning, but it's been pretty much a desert since then. My mom told my sister

02:05:30 she used to enjoy fighting with her when my sister was a teenager. Yeah. Yeah. Well, a

02:05:36 lot of people who they can only connect through sex or combat, right? Sex or combat. It's

02:05:45 a pretend connection. 10% people. I told mine that I would only communicate by email. I

02:05:58 stopped the phone calls, nothing but frustration. She refuses to communicate by email. Fine

02:06:01 by me. Why would you, if the person is dysfunctional, why would you only communicate by email? I'm

02:06:08 a little confused. Where do you get all this crap from, dad? Right. Wow, that's eye opening.

02:06:25 The amount of support and sympathy my mom got from twisting the abuse she put us through

02:06:28 is mind warping. Yeah. Yeah. Most people would rather have positive feedback than any kind

02:06:32 of virtue. Most people would rather have positive feedback than any kind of intimacy. Most people

02:06:36 would choose positive feedback over love. It's just the way that it is. Sad. It's not

02:06:41 the nature of humanity. It's just the way that things are at the moment. I think this

02:06:49 is truly why hedonism is so toxic, because it's based on what other NPC people say you

02:06:55 should want, not in anything honest. I don't think that's true, Jared. I mean, hedonism,

02:06:59 cheesecake tastes good, sex feels good. For a lot of people, getting drunk is a relief

02:07:03 from their anxiety. So it's not just what other people say you should want. I think

02:07:07 there's a lot of really, a lot of biology in there and a lot of bomb in the brain avoidance

02:07:11 of negative stuff. Right. I had a girlfriend, says someone who was a boulder, but then swerved

02:07:17 whenever I stepped away. It made me think I could just go wherever and she'd follow,

02:07:21 but there was no trust. Swerved whenever I stepped away. I've given her plenty of chances

02:07:28 to work on the relationship of redemption. Her refusal cleared my conscience. Okay. So

02:07:33 she's not changing. Why would you have email contact with her? It could be a good reason.

02:07:36 I'm just curious. Right. I've broken up with my ex, but we still email regularly. It's

02:07:42 like that kind of keeping some of the past to intrude in the present and she's not going

02:07:47 to change. I don't know whether you should or shouldn't. I'm just curious as to why.

02:07:52 Damn, powerful point about the death of Christianity and the rise of subjective morals. Yeah. I

02:07:57 mean, there is no such thing as subjective morals. You want to detach people from universal

02:08:01 ethics so that you can bully them into submission because what resists bullying is objective

02:08:06 ethics. Right. It's interesting to hear the quote from single mothers of how good their

02:08:12 child's daycare is. Yeah. Yeah. The email contact was when I gave her a chance. Oh,

02:08:18 so you blocked the email or no? Oh, you don't communicate now. Okay. Sorry. I thought you

02:08:22 still had email contact with her. My apologies. Thank you for the clarification. Appreciate

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